Alpha-Him Jobe – Family in Islam 6
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The speakers discuss the importance of love and bond building in marriage, emphasizing the need for compatibility and healing each other. They stress the need for love, compatibility, and reasonable doubting in marriage, including the need for love, compatibility, and healing each other. They also mention a situation where a sister apologizes for a hesitant situation and says, I want to marry you. The speakers emphasize the need for love, healing each other, and healing each other's emotions.
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That is his love.
Don't judge him because of his love. He
look like that.
But the heart is so beautiful.
Some people
are handsome, good.
But my
if you got the heart, he's there for
king
destroying. That's why the worst the worst
cheetahs of the world, they are so nice.
They're all dressed properly and they come to
you with smiling and very good gestures but
they just want to cheat you, they just
want to take your mind.
Yes.
So the beauty is not that. Some people
their beauty is their just their voice when
they talk,
you light them.
But some people they don't have their voice
when they talk and say, what's wrong with
this man?
Even if he's reading Quran, you're scared.
He's kind of really beautiful, he just read
it as much as he can.
You think that someone is killing someone is
happy.
But he's reading Quran as much as he
can.
But he's, you know, listen to somebody else.
They're reading beautiful for Oh, I love maybe
he's beating his wife. This voice is beautiful,
but the heart is washed.
The what you think that is beauty is
not.
It's not at all.
Some women, they have the beauty of how
to fix things. That is their beauty.
When they fix things, you feel good.
That is their beauty.
How to talk to you, that is their
beauty.
How soft they are towards you, that is
their beauty.
But no matter how pray, when she's all
like hat, it's like,
like a pepper.
So that one, where's the beauty?
So
now when we come to marriage, prophet, alaihis
salaam,
want us. He said,
He said, men can marry women for her
wealth or for her novelty
or for her family
or
for her religious quality.
Professor Salahi wa Salam said, blessed
and fortunate
is he who choose
his wife
for religious qualities.
If you choose your wife for religious qualities,
blessed and fortunate is you.
Marriage is a very serious commitment.
It's a commitment.
It's a commitment based on 1,
honorable intention.
You cannot manage periodically,
periodical marriage or temporal marriage.
Honorable intention.
You have the intention of marrying her forever.
Not marrying her for a time like what
they call murtagh, is not accepted.
Let me marry the system. Why? Oh, I
want to marry this system maybe for 3
months.
Then afterwards we divorce and we just we
just fall apart.
Cannot work like that.
That is haram in Al Islam.
That is renting what he has to build
up.
You are renting woman.
Let me rent her to give her some
kind of money to be with her. That
is what they call personal prostitute.
You have 2 kinds of prostitute. You have
public prostitute
and personal prostitute.
Personal prostitute
to civilized prostitute. Try to civilize. Like, oh,
let me marry her for 3 months then
I will then I divorce you.
What that is not decent.
No.
No more what is honorable intention.
2nd
is fair knowledge
of each other.
Don't matter based on a picture. It's not
enough.
Like somebody just send you the picture of
his daughter.
Where is he? Oh, in Khorasan or in
Tajikistan.
You see the picture, she's, you know, she's
so beautiful in the picture.
But maybe this picture was 19 maybe 83.
Oh, yes. Let me marry her. She's beautiful.
What is beautiful? The picture is beautiful. You
don't see her here?
Then you marry her because of that. You're
gonna go to JFK,
and you're gonna receive someone else.
You're gonna go and start looking for your
bride.
Where's the bride? Then you meet the bride,
said, where's the bride? You are asking the
bride, where's the bride?
The bride said, it's me. Oh, no. I
think you are the aunt or
Yeah. It's me.
No. No. No. No. Don't marry through that.
Don't marry through telephone.
She's in Philly. You are here in New
York.
Start calling.
Don't trust the voice.
Don't trust the voice and the expression. The
expression can be a beautiful expression.
Masha'Allah,
hamdu li lah, doesn't matter.
You have to see this.
In trouble,
Get a ticket and go
and sit with this sister.
You the sister, the same thing apply to
your sister.
Don't just mind the brother, you know, the
brother, you know, like it. Masha'Allah, they are
beautiful people
and the kufi.
Have a beautiful picture. They'll go to the
photograph and the photograph, you know, adjust them,
show them how to look and all this
kind of thing.
Projects, very light thing, then they give it
to you. Oh, nice. Masha Allah, I love
this brother. No. See the brother. Try to
see this man. Allow the man to come
to the house
and work and talk.
You will see someone else.
Yes. The preacher cannot talk, the priest cannot
work, the priest cannot even, give some commands.
Allow the person to demonstrate
his internal self. The same try to apply
to his sister. Fear knowledge of each other
is one of the fundamental
basics of marriage.
You have to see, you have to look
before you take the responsibility of coming down
the hill.
Getting for companion.
Number 3,
compatibility.
Compatible.
You have to have that compatibility because
if
you want to marry, you have to see
the one you you want to marry.
Make sure you have some kind of your
attitudes are a little bit closer.
Because sometimes you love tea and she love
coffee.
Different style.
You leave lamb and rice, oh, she don't
get hamburger.
Problems happen in the house. Every night you
have to go to the McDonald's to get
hamburger for home. You cannot do that in
your mind. You have to study a simple
thing. Hamburger? No. We're gonna have homemade things
here. Oh, no. I don't want to cook.
That that that's a problem too.
I could have managed and always go into
the hamburgers and, you know, catching the train.
We can't do that.
She is the manager of the house. You
need the hamburger, we're gonna bake it in
the house.
So
compatibility.
They have to love each other and they
have to heal each other. And they have
to they can live life to to to
together. That is compatibility.
Now number 4 is reasonable doubting. There's no
matter without doubting,
But must be reasonable.
How you gonna come to this and say,
oh, I give you buhai. I give you
Quran.
You know, I gonna read, you know, and
then he said, yes that happened in the
in the time of Prophet sallallahu alaihi wasallam.
But what about the higher dawis in the
time of Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam? Why even
talk about those dawis?
Why just you pick one dawi happened one
time
for one sister
who was looking disparately
for who gonna get my phone. What happened?
The sister was even frowning. The sister herself
was looking for someone to marry her. She
was she went to Prophet and said, You
Rasool Allah, I want to marry you.
Do you see any sister now even come
to the Majid and picking the person, I
want to marry you? I don't No.
She want to get married. That's why the
dawah is like that. She went to prophet
said, you Rasool Allah, I want to marry
you. Prophet and I don't want to marry
her.
But that was a terrible situation.
Prophet
just look
up and look down and just turn in
his face and keep quiet.
And this is a gesture of, well,
I don't have the love.
This indicates that man was based on love.
You have to love.
Said Masha'Allah, subhanAllah,
Masha'Allah.
One brother was behind the cloud. My brother
realized without saying anything. He was despite the
one to get mine, he raised his voice
his head and said, You Rasoolah, if you
don't want my hair, what
about me? I don't want my hair, You
Rasoolah.
Prophet
come here.
Like, relief.
Come here, man.
Then,
Rasool alaihi was salam was Rasool.
If he command the Muslim to do something,
they have to agree because
how many blessings
under the commands of Rasulullah.
Prophet sallallahu alaihi wa sallam asked the sister,
do you want to marry this brother?
Then the sister says, as you said, because
you are Rasulullah. He said, yes, I want
to marry this brother.
He said, okay. Then prophesied sometimes the brother
said, what you get? This is why Dawi
is very important.
He don't say, leave Fatiha said, okay, go
together. No. He said, what you get?
The brother said, well,
start crushing his bag and,
Well, I don't have nothing.