Alpha-Him Jobe – Family in Islam 5

Not just you yourself.

He said you and your wife.

Okay. Dwell in Jannah

for time.

But my focus of creating you is

to establish peace and

and security on Earth.

That's why he said,

Go down

all of you together.

Not all of you 1 by 1, all

of you together.

Then if you want to go to Jannah,

if we are in family,

going to Jannah is to raise the entire

family to go with you to Jannah,

is uphill,

which is not easy to do

because you are climbing up.

So when you drop down, it was very

easy for you. As a bachelor, you have

just little money, yet you drop down,

down now looking for someone.

Listen, you're like, oh, I'm here. Who want

me now?

Someone came out.

You don't have nothing. You don't have even

family. You don't have nothing. You just have

the only thing you have is your jacket.

Sometime it cough.

Who warned me?

Someone said, well, let me check you.

They start checking you.

Then you start now having the oil, making

subhanallah

too many times.

Have the kufi, be good so much.

But still they are they have to check

you.

They have to check you because

you're gonna dwell here.

Yes.

Marriage is a social institution

as old as human race itself.

Marriage is the way adopted by human society

for regulating

the relations

between families. It's not just regulating relations

between one man and one woman, nor is

regulating

relationship

between the families.

That's why we have to open the doors

of marriage, not just keep money in one

family, like what they call Jewish

process of marriage.

They are separating what they call recycling.

They are recycling money. Just the Jews marry

Jews.

That's why if they have any disease

among themselves,

the disease is going to be very dangerous,

very serious to them because the disease is

spreading

so much.

Though as much as you open the doors,

as much you give

human family health

and strongness.

So

then,

marriage is that

is adopted

by human society for regulating

relations

between families.

Marriage is not

a purely

economic.

When you come down,

don't just look, don't just think that the

whole thing is

economic. Oh, let me just,

save money. How many years? Maybe 10 years

before I get married. Don't try that way,

brother.

That cannot work. Because maybe the 1st day

of my even the celebration will finish everything.

Everything you put in the bank, the ceremony

will finish it.

Why doing all this? It's good to manage,

you know, and then just have some cakes

and laddoo and

have some some biryanas there, lemon rice. Everybody

enjoy. But you have $20,000.

Then you go on big hall, you you

rent the hall, you rent the cottons, you

rent the sunroofill, you do this, take limousines

about 2 miles long.

You know, all these kind of things. You

pay all this money for just maybe 3

hours program.

It should wear it very expensive jackets. But

nobody, you know, look at the jacket because

you're gonna talk.

And I'm telling you, if you matter even

your wife is not looking the jacket. No.

No matter how beautiful it is. The the

the your wife is gonna look at you.

You're just thinking about you.

No matter how the dress is beautiful, you

are not looking the dress of your even

wife. You are looking to your wife.

You are not looking the dress.

But 1,000,

you know, rob 1,000 with betrayal,

you know, inviting more than 6 girls handle

it

like alligator.

Can I work? Islam says simplify,

hand the dress

and come to the marriage contract and marry

them and get out get out from here

and go and enjoy yourself.

Because the that is not a value, No

matter how much you put it. Then the

next day you start going to your father,

your mother, can I borrow $1,000?

Why? Because we have to start life.

Start life like that?

No. This is not a bachelor life.

This is real.

This is serious.

So marriage is not purely economic. No.

Marriage is not that.

Yes. It's not purely economic.

Because

economic factor

is the least focal

in marriage according to Islamic point of view.

Economic factor

is the least focal in marriage.

When you are focusing on the characteristic

of marriage,

economic is the least.

There's nothing absolute

to focus on how much going to be

the dowry.

$1,000

and a ring. Doesn't matter?

Yes.

It's count,

but it's not

the basics.

Yes.

But marriage is love

and piety.

Not the economic, it's love and piety.

Do not marriage

only for the sake of beauty.

Let me marry her why she's so beautiful.

Okay, brother.

Beauty is not permanent.

We are talking about family structure,

dwelling, staying forever.

Then beauty is not a permanent something you

can take as a permanent value.

Because if Fatima is 15 years old,

She's pretty.

15 years old.

Oh, I want to marry her wife. She's

so beautiful. Okay. She's young. Alright. You marry

her because of that? Now we're going to

give you about 50 years later.

50 years after marriage, what's gonna happen? You're

gonna see not a Fatima.

You're gonna see Fatima

who cannot talk.

She's old now.

You're gonna Fatima without teeth. Fatima cannot listen

to you. Fatima cannot even make a cup

of tea for you because she's old now.

Where's that beauty? It's gone.

It's gone.

So then the beauty

is not a fundamental base in marriage.

Do not marriage only.

That's why I use the word only. Only

for that.

Nothing wrong with marrying because of beauty, but

don't marry only for that.

Don't marry

only for the sake of beauty

or for the sake of wealth.

Wealth is not permanent.

Or for the sake of prestige.

Oh, the family. The father is this. The

mother is this. Let me marry her because

the father is the governor of so and

so. The father is the imam.

Doesn't matter?

He's like, let me marry her because the

father can't drive a car. Maybe she cannot

drive a car. That's it. She must learn

how to drive. If the family is the

father is the imam, the father is imam,

their father learn how to be an imam.

If she want to be a good person

that cannot

have any connection with the father in that

particular point,

then the goodness is not the father or

the mother. It's herself and yourself.

Because sometimes, oh, I want to admire the

son of the imam. Why? Because he went

to Pakistan and learn Quran and come back.

Sometimes he come to be the worst boy.

Come to be the worst

because he doesn't mean he didn't learn even

how to live life.

Doesn't matter. Don't ever think that Hafiz is

is a basic

value to man.

No.

Hafiz, they are beating their wives.

They are somehow, they are just beating their

and they're heps Quran but they are beating

their wives.

Why would they they have sit here but

that is not here. They can be their

wife, kick them out, and all that could.

It's not wealth. It's not beauty. It's not

prestige. But on the grounds of religious devotion.

Character,

that's the beauty.

Every every sister in this world

has her own beauty.

There is no ugliness in this world. Everything

is beauty.

Beauty is in everything.

It's up to you what you define as

beauty.

You cannot beautify the whole thing,

you just beautify part of the thing.

And beauty is like that.

Every human being

define his own thing as beauty.

So then everyone

has beauty.

So then, like some people,

they have what they call natural beauty features.

Some people, they don't have that. When you

see that you think that they are coming

to fight you.

And they are good in the heart. The

heart is good. But if you say, assalamualaikum,

you say, can I help you? Because you

think that it's coming to punch your face

or something wrong.

And nothing else is wrong. He's happy, but

he's like that. He just look like that.