Alpha-Him Jobe – Family in Islam 11

Using the power.

That's why as a mother, if you start

beating your children, you are fake.

Because you cannot talk, you cannot discipline yourself,

you cannot express yourself. That's why you use

power.

So beating,

punishment is not part of the Islamic raising

children. The newest children in Islam,

you have to discipline them. Discipline is part

of education.

To discipline

is to educate,

to tell the child what is the right.

Don't attack the person.

Don't attack the child,

but attack the attitude of the of the

child. Don't ever tell your child,

you are stupid.

That is wrong.

Tell the child, your action is very stupid.

Tell the child, what you did is stupid.

That's not right. But don't tell the child,

you are bad. Tell the child, what you

did is bad.

Don't tell the child, you are a liar.

Tell the child what you said is a

lie.

So all the time you have to attack

the attitude but don't attack the person. But

maybe you will confuse the 2. They just

keep telling the child you are a liar.

At the end the child don't feel that

being a liar is, you know, is something.

He said, well, it's fine to be a

liar. I can lie to my mother, then

I can lie to everybody. Then he start

going to work when he graduate from university,

he's still keeping lying because he was lying

to the mother, lying to the father, to

the sisters, and everybody.

So because people calling him a liar. But

if they said what you are saying is

a lie, you will say that that attitude

is not good. So always attack the attitude.

It's the right for the child to be

disciplined. So this basically arise circumcision

is a right

for the male child.

Not for the female,

for the male child. Insha'Allah,

I was making some research here for brother

Ibrahim.

In the,

level

level 2,

they reached that that standard. They're gonna

discuss about circumcision and all those kind of

thing. Inshallah, when you reach level 2, you're

gonna discuss that. But this is just to

know that circumcision for the boys is one

of their rights. Don't leave these boys grow

28 years without circumcision.

They're gonna attack you

because marriage gonna come to be a big

problem.

You know, in Islam, we have problem about

circumcision and those who just come to Islam

without circumcision.

They want to get married. They're my sister,

beautiful sister, good wedding and everything.

But next minute, you just get a call

that, you know, they're coming from Poconos and

and no no more waiting.

Everything

messed up.

What's happened? Nobody want to talk about it.

Well, ma'am, I don't want this might no

more. What's happened? I don't want this might

no more.

What happened to the man? He's good, man,

but I don't want this because there's a

problem.

We have to be careful it's their right

to take this off.

It's cleanliness.

So

these are rights

for the children. What they call companionship is

their right. Don't isolate children. You have to

play with them. Playing with children is their

right.

Like play golf. Any player they want to

play, you have to play with them.

Like to act a little bit like them.

Talk their language sometimes. It's their right to

answer their questions. They have a lot of

question to ask. You have to answer those

questions.

As I'm always saying that when the child

ask their father, why the sky is blue?

Because they are traveling and say, wow daddy,

they're asking you all the time. They listen

to children, they ask you anything. Daddy, why

you are so tall and my mind is

so short?

Daddy, why uncle so and so is so

strong, but for you you are so skinny?

They don't feel even bad to ask you

that question. Sometimes you don't wanna hear that.

You say, shut up. So

tell me why you are eating too much.

They answer all these questions.

So you have to answer them. You said,

well, what happened is this, this, this, this.

If you're gonna answer the question, go to

the teacher and you ask their teacher.

Basically, that was the,

the lesson for today. Parenting and, how to,

you know, find your life each other. Any

question? Okay. From from here? Upstairs. Or upstairs

1st? Upstairs. Okay. Upstairs 1st.

But inshallah, when, the brother finished this this

research here,

I will park up and give it to

you, all of you, to read this. It's

very, very interesting.

Circumcision according to Islam in front of

you. Okay, sisters, are you ready?

Oh, they are good today. They don't wanna

ask a question.

Okay. It's just to create power from the

from the lips of Adam and put them

together by giving them the agreement of being

the wife and husband. As you remember in

Surah Al Baqarah,

he just,

told Adam,

pick Hawa as your wife and dwell in

Jammu. That ultimately is the contract.

Assalamu alaikum

Why?

I think this was an excellent,

subject today.

This is a question pertaining to a situation

in terms of rights of the children.

Yes.

Particular Muslim family.

The father

who,

had remarried

and has offspring from previous marriages,

he lives in another state.

One of his offspring lives in another state.

And this,

prevents or should I say, has caused a

lot of difficulty

in maintaining

a closeness

Yes. With one of the children.

Mhmm. And I'll reiterate. He has,

more than one child in in different places.

But in any event,

the situation

when

the family wants to relocate

Mhmm. To another state even further.

The the father's family? Yes. This father who

has remarried, and he wants to relocate

his present family

to another state.

And it's it's like

to just in common sense, it seems that

they should try to to draw themselves closer

to,

being near the other children as opposed

to cons to me, it's selfishness.

I just wanna know

in your opinion

Okay. Of Islamic

opinion Yes. Yes. Inshallah. Yes. That Mhmm. You

know, we have things that we desire Yes.

But sometimes we have to