Alpha-Him Jobe – Family in Islam 11
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The speaker discusses the importance of discipline in schools and how it is part of education. They also mention a situation where a family wants to relocate to another state and the importance of understanding the rights of children in relation to their parents' marriages. The speaker emphasizes the need for parents to be close to their children in order to maintain closeness.
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Using the power.
That's why as a mother, if you start
beating your children, you are fake.
Because you cannot talk, you cannot discipline yourself,
you cannot express yourself. That's why you use
power.
So beating,
punishment is not part of the Islamic raising
children. The newest children in Islam,
you have to discipline them. Discipline is part
of education.
To discipline
is to educate,
to tell the child what is the right.
Don't attack the person.
Don't attack the child,
but attack the attitude of the of the
child. Don't ever tell your child,
you are stupid.
That is wrong.
Tell the child, your action is very stupid.
Tell the child, what you did is stupid.
That's not right. But don't tell the child,
you are bad. Tell the child, what you
did is bad.
Don't tell the child, you are a liar.
Tell the child what you said is a
lie.
So all the time you have to attack
the attitude but don't attack the person. But
maybe you will confuse the 2. They just
keep telling the child you are a liar.
At the end the child don't feel that
being a liar is, you know, is something.
He said, well, it's fine to be a
liar. I can lie to my mother, then
I can lie to everybody. Then he start
going to work when he graduate from university,
he's still keeping lying because he was lying
to the mother, lying to the father, to
the sisters, and everybody.
So because people calling him a liar. But
if they said what you are saying is
a lie, you will say that that attitude
is not good. So always attack the attitude.
It's the right for the child to be
disciplined. So this basically arise circumcision
is a right
for the male child.
Not for the female,
for the male child. Insha'Allah,
I was making some research here for brother
Ibrahim.
In the,
level
level 2,
they reached that that standard. They're gonna
discuss about circumcision and all those kind of
thing. Inshallah, when you reach level 2, you're
gonna discuss that. But this is just to
know that circumcision for the boys is one
of their rights. Don't leave these boys grow
28 years without circumcision.
They're gonna attack you
because marriage gonna come to be a big
problem.
You know, in Islam, we have problem about
circumcision and those who just come to Islam
without circumcision.
They want to get married. They're my sister,
beautiful sister, good wedding and everything.
But next minute, you just get a call
that, you know, they're coming from Poconos and
and no no more waiting.
Everything
messed up.
What's happened? Nobody want to talk about it.
Well, ma'am, I don't want this might no
more. What's happened? I don't want this might
no more.
What happened to the man? He's good, man,
but I don't want this because there's a
problem.
We have to be careful it's their right
to take this off.
It's cleanliness.
So
these are rights
for the children. What they call companionship is
their right. Don't isolate children. You have to
play with them. Playing with children is their
right.
Like play golf. Any player they want to
play, you have to play with them.
Like to act a little bit like them.
Talk their language sometimes. It's their right to
answer their questions. They have a lot of
question to ask. You have to answer those
questions.
As I'm always saying that when the child
ask their father, why the sky is blue?
Because they are traveling and say, wow daddy,
they're asking you all the time. They listen
to children, they ask you anything. Daddy, why
you are so tall and my mind is
so short?
Daddy, why uncle so and so is so
strong, but for you you are so skinny?
They don't feel even bad to ask you
that question. Sometimes you don't wanna hear that.
You say, shut up. So
tell me why you are eating too much.
They answer all these questions.
So you have to answer them. You said,
well, what happened is this, this, this, this.
If you're gonna answer the question, go to
the teacher and you ask their teacher.
Basically, that was the,
the lesson for today. Parenting and, how to,
you know, find your life each other. Any
question? Okay. From from here? Upstairs. Or upstairs
1st? Upstairs. Okay. Upstairs 1st.
But inshallah, when, the brother finished this this
research here,
I will park up and give it to
you, all of you, to read this. It's
very, very interesting.
Circumcision according to Islam in front of
you. Okay, sisters, are you ready?
Oh, they are good today. They don't wanna
ask a question.
Okay. It's just to create power from the
from the lips of Adam and put them
together by giving them the agreement of being
the wife and husband. As you remember in
Surah Al Baqarah,
he just,
told Adam,
pick Hawa as your wife and dwell in
Jammu. That ultimately is the contract.
Assalamu alaikum
Why?
I think this was an excellent,
subject today.
This is a question pertaining to a situation
in terms of rights of the children.
Yes.
Particular Muslim family.
The father
who,
had remarried
and has offspring from previous marriages,
he lives in another state.
One of his offspring lives in another state.
And this,
prevents or should I say, has caused a
lot of difficulty
in maintaining
a closeness
Yes. With one of the children.
Mhmm. And I'll reiterate. He has,
more than one child in in different places.
But in any event,
the situation
when
the family wants to relocate
Mhmm. To another state even further.
The the father's family? Yes. This father who
has remarried, and he wants to relocate
his present family
to another state.
And it's it's like
to just in common sense, it seems that
they should try to to draw themselves closer
to,
being near the other children as opposed
to cons to me, it's selfishness.
I just wanna know
in your opinion
Okay. Of Islamic
opinion Yes. Yes. Inshallah. Yes. That Mhmm. You
know, we have things that we desire Yes.
But sometimes we have to