Alpha-Him Jobe – Family in Islam 1

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The speaker discusses the importance of family in Islam and explains the process of creation and formation of a family. They emphasize the importance of sharia's guidance and setting up a family, and stress the importance of maintaining freedom and community in one's life. The speaker also discusses the process of building a family and the importance of family connections in human society.

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			Islam
		
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			means family life in Islam.
		
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			And you can see the diagram
		
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			is a triangle
		
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			with husband,
		
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			wife,
		
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			and children.
		
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			This triangle
		
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			is a very important triangle in life, which
		
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			is
		
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			these
		
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			3 members
		
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			in one
		
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			home.
		
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			We can see that
		
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			The origin of family
		
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			goes back
		
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			to the beginning of creation of Adam, alaihis
		
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			salam.
		
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			So that will show you the importance
		
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			of family
		
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			in Islam
		
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			or
		
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			in human life, generally.
		
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			Because Allah
		
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			established it that way. The fa father and,
		
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			Adam as the father of human family
		
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			and his, wife, Hawa. So that was the
		
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			first family, Adam and and Hawa.
		
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			And Allahu Tabarakuatallah
		
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			says in Surah Tunisa, which is the beginning
		
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			of Surah Tunisa. Surah Tunisa is surah number
		
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			4,
		
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			ayah 1.
		
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			Allah says,
		
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			Here, Allah is addressing humankind, human family.
		
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			He said,
		
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			oh, mankind,
		
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			be mindful of your duty to your Lord,
		
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			who created you
		
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			from a single soul.
		
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			And from that soul,
		
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			he created its companion.
		
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			And from the 2,
		
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			he created countless men and women.
		
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			Then you have
		
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			to fear the one who set that process.
		
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			Then he said,
		
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			fear Allah through whom you demand your mutual
		
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			rights,
		
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			and be mindful
		
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			of the wound
		
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			that bore you. Indeed, Allah
		
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			is watching
		
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			over you every glance of life.
		
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			So Allah is explaining to us
		
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			the process of creation
		
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			and himself
		
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			being the only one who supervise
		
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			that
		
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			process.
		
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			So then we as,
		
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			Muslims,
		
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			we have to be careful of how to
		
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			maintain family life.
		
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			We have seen in Sharia
		
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			act as main
		
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			integrating factor in Islamic community
		
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			by planning
		
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			the economic,
		
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			the political,
		
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			the social,
		
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			the moral aspect
		
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			as it plans
		
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			the social life
		
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			as and the base and its basis and
		
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			values.
		
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			At the same time, Islam
		
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			and Sharia
		
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			establish
		
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			and plan
		
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			the family as the fundamental unit of social
		
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			life.
		
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			Because without the family, we cannot establish our
		
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			social life.
		
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			So then family is the fundamental unit of
		
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			our social life,
		
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			which founded
		
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			on principles
		
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			drawn by sharia.
		
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			Meaning, if you want to establish that
		
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			foundation,
		
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			which is the fundamental unit, we have to
		
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			go back to sharia
		
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			and to ask sharia how to establish
		
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			that family.
		
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			So the principles
		
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			determine, for example,
		
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			how the family is formed.
		
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			One of the principle, if you go to
		
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			sharia, sharia will tell you how to perform,
		
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			how to form the family. It's not just
		
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			by your own choice and your own way
		
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			to form the family. No.
		
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			And
		
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			the the Sharia will
		
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			define the relations between husband and wife.
		
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			It's not just the way you want to
		
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			set the relations, but sharia will set the
		
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			relations
		
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			between you and your wife.
		
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			And between parents and children,
		
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			sharia will establish the rights and the duties
		
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			between you and your children
		
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			and between you and your parents.
		
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			And between members of the nuclear family
		
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			of their relatives.
		
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			At the same time, Sharia will explain
		
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			between you as a
		
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			subfamily or
		
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			branch
		
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			of the main family and how to deal
		
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			with the other relatives in the family. All
		
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			that
		
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			organized
		
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			by Sharia.
		
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			In Islam,
		
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			family is the fundamental base of the social
		
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			order.
		
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			If we want to give order
		
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			to our
		
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			humanity,
		
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			we have to establish family. You cannot
		
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			have community without family.
		
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			And without family, there is no social order
		
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			whatsoever.
		
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			If you don't have family, no social order.
		
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			Yes.
		
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			And if the family is strong,
		
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			the foundation
		
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			of the society will be strong.
		
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			Then
		
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			the the the situation here or the matter
		
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			here is the family. Family is the fundamental
		
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			base. If we structure the family and
		
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			fundamental base. If we structure the family
		
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			and,
		
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			set the family in a proper way, you
		
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			can see
		
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			that reflect
		
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			to the individual
		
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			and the entire community.
		
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			If you want to build a model society,
		
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			we have to start with the building of
		
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			the family.
		
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			Because model society cannot establish without the building
		
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			of the family.
		
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			But the most
		
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			important
		
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			for us is to question how to build
		
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			a family.
		
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			There is no need to think about how
		
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			to build a country called America. The country
		
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			is so big. How to build this country?
		
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			What is the constitution?
		
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			What is the judicial system? Don't focus on
		
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			that. Focus on
		
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			how to build a family.
		
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			If you know how to build a family,
		
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			you will know how to build a community,
		
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			and you know how to build a government.
		
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			Because family
		
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			is the main root
		
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			of everything
		
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			in human society.
		
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			Yes.
		
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			There are many expectation
		
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			and rights and obligations
		
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			prescribed by Allah, enforced
		
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			by sharia,
		
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			and supposed to be observed by the group
		
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			members of the family.
		
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			There are many, many, many rights and duties
		
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			we have to establish.
		
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			Yes.
		
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			So those rights and obligations
		
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			is in Quran and Sunnah. Prescribed by Allah
		
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			subhanahu wa ta'ala. Then we cannot establish rights
		
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			and obligations
		
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			in the family
		
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			without going back to Al Quran and Sunnah.
		
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			Because we are talking about giving rights.
		
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			Give
		
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			others their rights.
		
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			Trying to avoid abusing the rights of others,
		
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			because that is the beginning of killing freedom.
		
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			Because freedom is sacred.
		
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			It's a property of man.
		
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			Freedom is a property of yours.
		
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			But you have to maintain freedom
		
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			not by not to abuse
		
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			the rights of others.
		
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			If you abuse the rights of others, your
		
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			freedom is gone.
		
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			So now we we are talking
		
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			about family connection.
		
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			And this family connection means
		
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			humanity building. How to build ourselves as human
		
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			family, as one family.
		
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			Yes.
		
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			Let's talk about the man you have here.
		
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			I just honored the man by calling him
		
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			the husband,
		
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			the wife, and the children.
		
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			But basically, it was the man, the woman,
		
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			and the child.
		
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			But
		
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			we don't want to set it that way
		
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			because we are talking about family.
		
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			And the first member of the family is
		
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			the husband. It's not just a man.
		
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			Yes. Must be a husband.