Ali Albarghouthi – Jumuah 11-10-2024
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The importance of wearing clothing for Allah's satisfaction and desire for peace and blessings is emphasized, along with the need to avoid confusion and avoid clothing that cause women's confidence to dip. The speaker emphasizes the need to protect one's body and shave their nakedity, avoid shelling to increase self-esteem and pride, and avoid clothing that cause pride and arrogance. The importance of avoiding clothing that is too big or too small, avoiding imitation of the opposite sex, and not wearing makeup or jewelry for women and men is also emphasized. The speaker also discusses the use of shelling to increase self-esteem and pride, the importance of avoiding clothing that cause women's discomfort, and the use of shelling to increase self-esteem and pride.
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I seek refuge in Allah from the evil
of our souls and the evil of our
deeds.
Whomsoever Allah guides, none can misguide him.
Whomsoever He misguides, none can guide him.
And I bear witness that there is none
worthy of worship except Allah, and that Muhammad
is His servant and Messenger.
Peace be upon him and his family and
companions.
The best hadith is the Book of Allah,
and the best guidance is the guidance of
Muhammad, peace and blessings be upon him.
And the worst of things are its innovations,
and every innovation is an invention, and every
invention is a misguidance, and every misguidance is
in the Fire.
The way that we dress is not something
external, but it's also connected to what we
believe, to what we hold dear, to how
we wanna live, to our outlook in life.
And as believers, supposedly, everything that we have
to do, that we choose to do, must
be done with Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala
in mind.
He's never absent.
As it is the case that whenever we
wanna eat, we consider what Allah wants us
to eat and what not.
How He wants us to eat, how He
wants us to sleep, how He wants us
to marry, how He wants us to have
children.
Meaning every aspect in our life is connected
to Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala.
We let go of our desires, of our
choice for that of Allah azza wa jal.
We deem what He wants better than what
we want.
We seek His guidance because it's better than
human guidance.
So when we wanna dress, we have to
anchor all of that and all the choices
that surround it in the pleasure of Allah
subhanahu wa ta'ala.
There's something much deeper to how we choose
what we wear.
Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala said, He
said
subhanahu wa ta'ala, O children of Adam,
we have sent down, we have given you
garments, clothes to cover your nakedness and to
adorn you.
And the garment of taqwa is better than
that.
So here Allah azza wa jal is telling
us first, recognize this as a favor because
this is something that could escape us.
You simply have clothes in your closet, you
can simply buy this and that.
You stop realizing that this is a ni'mah.
When it protects you from heat and cold,
it's a ni'mah.
When it covers your nakedness, it's a ni'mah.
And He says it doesn't just simply by
necessity or covers what is necessary, but it
also adorns you, it also beautifies you.
That's another ni'mah.
And Allah wants us when we realize this,
to remember another ni'mah.
That is when you realize that this clothes
is a ni'mah, you have to thank Allah
for it.
And the Prophet alayhis salatu was salam, when
he would wear something, he would praise Allah
subhanahu wa ta'ala.
Allahumma anta kasawtanihi warazaqtanihi, Allahumma laka alhamdu anta
kasawtanihi warazaqtanihi min ghayri ha'ubni innumni wa
la quwa.
Ya Allah, hamd belongs to you, praise, gratitude
belongs to you because you gave me this
to wear and gave it to me without
any might or power on my part.
It's all from you.
And when he would wear something new, alayhis
salatu was salam, he would say, Allahumma laka
alhamdu anta kasawtanihi.
Ya Allah, praise be to you, you're the
one who gave me this to wear.
I ask you for its best and I
seek your protection from its evil.
So here we recognize this as a ni'mah
but then we don't stop there because Allah
said that the garment of taqwa is better.
Because what you wear on the outside could
wear out.
And if you don't have it, the maximum
that it does is to expose a body,
a physical body.
But what lasts is taqwa.
In the dunya and in the akhirah, and
it's a better garment.
A person could be dressed in the most
expensive clothing but lacks taqwa and he would
be ugly.
And a person could have taqwa in the
most modest of clothing and he could be
the most beautiful person.
What lasts is taqwa.
So Allah says, don't chase after the material,
chase after what lasts.
Clothe yourself on the inside is much better
than what you spend on the outside.
Though it is permissible.
And Allah wants you to remember and make
connection between the two.
That's why Allah has assigned these so that
they would remember.
Then Allah azza wa jal said, Don't
let the devils tempt you like the tempting
of your father when he expelled them from
Jannah.
He removes their clothing from them so that
he would show them their nakedness.
Indeed, he and his progeny, his children, sees
you but you do not see them.
Indeed, we had made the devils companions to
those who disbelieve.
And Allah azza wa jal is telling you
about a plot concerning clothes.
That goes all the way back to whom?
Adam alayhi salam and Hawa.
What is his plot?
His plot was that, I want to remove
their clothes, which is the clothes of Jannah.
I want to remove their clothes so that
I could show them their nakedness.
So he says, don't let him repeat that
with you.
You already know what happened before.
So a plot of the shaitan, no matter
what name it takes, whether it's in the
name of being fashionable, or modern, or fitting
in, or up to date, or rich, when
you see them wanting to strip you of
your clothes so that you show more of
your body, more of your skin, tighter clothes,
then you understand that the shaitan is behind
it.
It doesn't matter if it has the name
of a famous designer.
It doesn't matter if a lot of people
are doing it.
It doesn't matter what justification it takes.
You understand that the shaitan is behind it.
So you have to protect yourself from the
plot of the shaitan because Allah said, He
sees you, but you don't see them.
So you don't understand how they're plotting, but
Allah revealed that plot.
And He said, if you disbelieve, the shaitan
will be with you all the time, inspiring
you to do the things that Allah hates,
and behave in ways that Allah hates.
So covering our nakedness, our body, is necessary.
It's part of iman.
And it's jahiliyyah to reveal the body.
If you trace the jahiliyyah, at the time
of Rasulullah a.s. they would reveal their
bodies.
In salah, in tawaf, around the Kaaba, and
elsewhere.
If you see the jahiliyyah today, they reveal
their body, and they tell you, this is
progress.
But the Prophet a.s. said, otherwise, unless
the aim is to progress into hellfire, then
a person can progress towards it.
He said, for instance, about women, He says,
two groups of the people of hellfire, I
haven't seen them.
They're not around.
He says, the group, one of them that
he did not see, he says, women that
are clothed and naked, causing crookedness, they shall
not enter jannah, nor will be able to
smell it, and its smell can be found
from such a far, far space.
Far, far distance.
What does it mean when we say clothed
and naked?
Scholars have said, they are clothed in a
way, but naked in another.
Meaning what they're wearing is transparent.
What they're wearing is tight.
You can see that you know what her
body looks like.
She's clothed but not clothed.
Crooked in a way that she is dressed,
causing crookedness because she's inviting people to dress
that way.
He says, these will be in hellfire unless
they repent.
That's not progress.
But this is not only about women.
It's also about men.
The Prophet ﷺ once passed by a sahabi
who had exposed his thigh.
So he says, غطي فخذك فإن الفخذ عورة
He says, cover your thigh.
Thigh?
Your thigh is a awrah.
Cover your thigh because your thigh is a
awrah.
A lot of men take this lightly.
When they dress, they don't consider or they
don't think that they also have an awrah.
Between their navel all the way to their
knees.
So if you wear something that exposes it,
or something that is tight that describes your
body, it is haram or at least it
is disliked.
So that is also an awrah that needs
to be covered.
And some men, you notice this.
When they go into ruku and sujood in
the salah, the top when they bend exposes
their backs.
And when they go into the sujood, the
posterior is exposed as well.
And exposing that awrah in the salah could
invalidate your salah.
So you wanna be careful about this.
It's not only simply about women, women, women.
But also about men and how men should
behave.
So covering that *, that nakedness is something
that is honorable and should be implemented.
Now another aspect of clothing that we should
pay attention to is not to wear anything
for self-validation.
To increase our self-worth for pride and
arrogance.
Rasulullah A.S. said, مَن لَبِسَ ثَوْبَ شُهْرَةٍ
أَلْبَسَهُ اللَّهُ ثَوْبَ مَذَلَّةٍ يَوْمَ الْقِيَامَةِ Whoever wears
something, a clothing, a garment, for distinction, for
attention, and that is typically associated with pride.
That is they wanna grab people's attention because
of the thing that they are wearing.
He said, A.S. Allah will clothe him
in a garment of humiliation on the day
of judgment.
Because that's kibr.
So when you are shopping, when you're going
to the store and you say, I'll buy
this thing.
And because I'm buying this thing, everybody will
notice me.
Everybody will praise me.
Everybody will like me.
Their heads will turn when I enter and
when I leave.
I'll be respected.
And when you are trying to derive this
self-worth from a piece of clothing, and
because of it also, I'm gonna be better
than him.
And I'm gonna be better than her.
Because I have this bag, these shoes, that
hat, this and that.
When it causes arrogance, it becomes what?
A problem, a serious problem, a major sin.
You can wear nice things.
It's not haram.
You can wear nice things.
You can wear beautiful things.
In fact, a person asked the Prophet A
.S. after he had heard the Prophet saying,
if you have the least bit of pride
in your heart, you will not enter Jannah.
Mithqal dharrah.
The smallest pride in your heart, you will
not enter Jannah.
He said, O Prophet of Allah, I'd love
that my clothes would be beautiful.
And my sandals and shoes would be beautiful.
Is this prideful?
He says, no.
Allah is beautiful and He loves beauty.
Pride is something else.
At the same time, it is typical when
you overspend on clothes.
That you cannot shake off the feeling that
because I wore it, I'm better.
And I'm better than him and I'm better
than her.
And if that is the intent when you
buy, if you feel that you're gonna be
better because of it, it's better not to
buy that.
It's better not to wear it.
Because it could breed arrogance.
And you're chasing brands and fashion just simply
to feel better about yourself, just simply to
assign some value to your life.
To prove to people that you are someone
and something.
The Prophet ﷺ said in another hadith, on
the one hand, achieve moderation.
كُلُوا وَاشْرَبُوا وَالبَسُوا وَتَصَدَّقُوا مَا لَمْ يُخَضِطْهُ إِسْرَافٌ
وَلَا مَخِيلَةٌ He says, eat and drink and
donate and dress as you want.
As long as you are free of two
things, extravagance, wastefulness and pride.
You're not wasteful.
You're not prideful.
Then you could wear what you want.
At the same time, he said ﷺ a
couple of other hadith I wanna share with
you.
On the one hand, he said, بَيْنَمَا رَجُلٌ
يَمْشِي فِي حُلَّةٍ لَهُ مُعْجَبٌ بِنَفْسِهِ مُرَجِّلٌ جُمَّتَهُ
فَإِذْ بَلَعَتْهُ الْأَرْضُ فَهُوَ يَتَجَلْجَلُ فِيهَا إِلَى يَوْمِ
الْقِيَامَةِ أو كَمَا قَالَ عَلَيْهِ ﷺ إِذْ خَسَفَتْ
بِهِ الْأَرْضُ فَهُوَ يَتَجَلْجَلُ بِهَا إِلَى يَوْمِ الْقِيَامَةِ
He says, while there was a man walking
in clothes of his admiring himself after he
had combed his hair filled with self admiration.
He says, the earth swallowed him.
And he will continue to be swallowed by
this earth until the day of judgment.
That's the cause of pride.
And to emphasize modesty.
He said ﷺ مَنْ تَرَكَ الْلِبَاسَ تَوَاضُعًا وَهُوَ
يَقْدِرُ عَلَيْهِ دَعَاهُ اللَّهُ يَوْمَ الْقِيَامَةِ عَلَى رُؤُوسِ
الْخَلَائِقِ حَتَّى يُخَيِّرَهُ مِنْ أَيِّ حُلَلِ الْإِيمَانِ شَاءً
He says, if a person gives up expensive
clothing though he can afford it out of
humility.
Allah will invite him on the day of
judgment in front of everybody so that he
would have him choose which of the garments
of paradise he would like to wear.
So this person is rich and he can
afford it.
But he says, I don't wanna stand out.
I don't wanna overspend in something that I
do not need.
I wanna be humble.
I wanna breathe that humility into my heart
and into my body and into my family.
I'll buy something that is lesser.
He says, if you do this for the
sake of Allah عز و جل on the
day of judgment, the honor is unimaginable.
Because Allah will say, I'll invite you in
front of everybody.
Everybody can see.
Because in the dunya, you didn't wanna be
seen.
In the dunya, that's very different than fashion
and culture today.
In the dunya, you did not wanna be
seen.
You didn't wanna be recognized.
You didn't wanna be praised and celebrated.
So Allah praises you and celebrates you on
the day of judgment by saying to everybody,
look at him and he now will have
his pick of whatever garment of the jannah
he wants.
And that is true dignity and that's true
nobility.
So chasing after for the sake of arrogance
is very dangerous.
And we wanna restrain that type of consumerism
to save our iman.
I say this and ask Allah for forgiveness
for me and for you, so ask Him
for forgiveness.
Praise be to Allah, Lord of the worlds.
Praise be to Him a lot, good and
blessed.
He is full of the heavens and the
earth and He is full of whatever He
wants.
I pray and greet His Messenger Muhammad and
his family and companions.
Another thing that we should be cautious with
when we decide to wear is not to
imitate the opposite *.
So he said, alayhis salatu was salam, in
one hadith, la'anallahu al mutashabihina min alrijali
bin nisa'i wal mutashabihati min alrijali bin
nisa'i bin alrijali.
May Allah curse, cast away from his mercy
those men who imitate women and those women
who imitate men.
And in a more specific hadith, he said,
alayhis salatu was salam, la'anallahu arrajula yalbisu
libsata almar'ah wal mar'atu talbisu libsata
arrajul.
He said, may Allah curse, cast away from
his mercy a man who dresses like a
woman and a woman who dresses like a
man.
And the lines in Islam, they have to
be absolutely clear.
As a man, you're not supposed to imitate
women and how they dress and how they
walk and how they talk and women likewise.
And the Prophet ﷺ invoking Allah's curse for
people who do this tell you that this
is a major sin, something that is extremely
serious.
Because when the roles start mixing and you
don't know anymore, who's a man and who's
a woman, society collapses because the family collapses.
So men are not supposed to wear makeup.
Even though you see it in some cultures
that spread this.
And you see it spreading from one country
to the other.
There's no male makeup.
Females wear makeup inside their house, not outside.
Outside it's a sin.
Men are not supposed to adorn themselves with
jewelry.
So he said, alayhis salatu was salam, that
harir and dahab haramun ala dhukuri ummati.
He says, silk and gold are haram for
the males of my ummah.
You're not supposed to adorn yourself with gold.
You're not supposed to wear silk.
Females they can, but not males.
Because you're supposed to be rugged as a
man.
You're supposed to be strong.
You're supposed to be the leader, the responsible
person, not a soft person that is reserved
for females.
So jewelry is for females, not for men.
Allah said in the Quran, awa mayyu nasha
'u fil hilya.
He says, the one who is brought up
around jewelry, trinkets, adornments, who is this?
Females.
In the tafsir they say that is an
indication that males are not supposed to be
like that.
So I would invite all men, and I
know we don't know this, all men to
abandon such beautification.
Bracelets, necklaces belong to females, not males.
You're not supposed to adorn yourself with that.
Even when you have a ring, the Prophet
ﷺ did not recommend it.
He had it, it's permissible.
And he held it or put it in
the smallest finger.
If you were to wear it, you cannot
wear a ring because it's forbidden in the
index and middle finger.
And some scholars, they also add to it
the thumb.
If you were to wear, it'd be in
the smallest finger.
So adornment, females.
And you want to see if women wear
a particular color, a particular type of style,
a particular design, that's for them and never
for you.
And the same thing for females.
If something is specific to males, you don't
dress like that.
And we can remember a time when it
would be unimaginable for a female, even a
Christian female, to leave the house wearing pants.
It would be unimaginable, you don't have to
go far in the past.
That they would never wear something like that.
Why?
Because that is a male attire.
And it's also revealing.
So also this is an indication.
I don't want to quarrel over who said
this and who said that.
This is an invitation to all the sisters
who fear Allah Azza wa Jal.
It says, let go of that thing.
It describes your body.
Even if you say it's loose and what
have you.
It describes your body.
Transition out of that into something that is
less descriptive of your body.
And finally, as it also pertains to men.
Because you sometimes notice this.
And again, the assumption is a lot of
men do not know this.
The way that you style your hair.
So the Prophet ﷺ نَهَى عَنِ الْقَزَعِ The
Prophet ﷺ forbade qaza.
They said to the sahabi, what is qaza?
He said that you would shave part of
the head and leave the rest.
You would shave part of the head and
you leave the rest.
And it took different forms throughout history.
They would shave this part and leave the
other.
The form that it takes most dominant today
is the sides and the back.
It gets shaved off and you leave the
top.
I know a lot of us may not
know this.
But that is forbidden.
And it opens up the other idea which
is what?
Imitating the disbelievers.
That is something could be in itself permissible.
But when you wear it because a fasiq,
a sinner, a disbeliever is wearing it, it
becomes haram.
Because that's your intention.
If it is known that a particular type
of people dress that way and you dress
like them, the Prophet ﷺ he said, مَن
تَشَبَّهَ بِقَوْمٍ فَهُوَ مِنْهُمْ If you imitate a
people, you're one of them.
So choose for yourself, who do you want
to be?
Who do you want to be resurrected with?
Because he said ﷺ, if you love a
people, you will be resurrected with them.
And when you imitate a people, you surely
will love them.
Or it's coming out of love.
So that's another thing to keep in mind.
A famous this and a famous that.
And because they're famous and because you like
them, you start talking like them, dressing like
them, combing your hair like them, adopting their
ideas, or maybe that's the second stage.
Realize that when you take a step towards
someone that Allah عز و جل dislikes because
of their deeds and lifestyle, you're upsetting Allah
عز و جل.
And it's not an innocent imitation.
So ask Allah رَبَّ الْعَالَمِينَ أَرْحَمَ الرَّاحِمِينَ to
make us people of taqwa, who do what
He loves subhanahu wa ta'ala and stay
away from what He hates.
We ask you, O' Rabb, that You would
teach us our religion and give us the
strength to follow it, O' Rabb al-'alameen.
O' Allah, make us among the learned on
the face of this earth.
Make us among the strong on the face
of this earth.
Make us among the forgiven on the face
of this earth.
Forgive us all of our sins, O' Arham
al-raahimeen, and the sins of our families
and the sins of the Ummah of Muhammad
عليه الصلاة والسلام.
We ask you, O' Allah, for the best
in this dunya and in the akhirah.
We seek Your protection from the worst in
this dunya and in the akhirah.
O' Allah, make us among the good in
this dunya and in the akhirah.
Protect us from the punishment of the Fire.
O' Allah, turn our hearts, make our hearts
firm on Your religion.
O' Allah, turn our hearts, make our hearts
firm on Your obedience.
O' Allah, help us to remember You, to
thank You and to worship You.
O' Allah, help the weak Muslims in every
place, O' Rabb al-'alameen.
O' Allah, send Your mercy on the people
of the Levant, O' Rabb al-'alameen, and on
the people of Sudan and on everyone who
suffers from the Muslims in every place.
O' Allah, feed them, give them water, and
make peace between them.
O' Allah, support them with Your support, O'
Rabb al-'alameen.
O' Allah, make us among those who helped
them and do not make us among those
who let them down.
O' Allah, grant them victory.
O' Allah, support them with Your support, O'
Rabb al-'alameen.
O' Allah, support them with Your support, O'
Rabb al-'alameen.
O' Allah, support them with Your support, O'
Rabb al-'alameen.
O' Allah, support them with Your support, O'
Rabb al-'alameen.
O' Allah, support them with Your support, O'
Rabb al-'alameen.
Ameen.