Ali Albarghouthi – Friday Khutba 23-08-2024
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The speakers stress the importance of learning how to speak and communicate, particularly in regards to privacy and social media. They stress the danger of losing the virtue of silence and the need for people to be aware of what they say and not be medicated with words. The speakers also discuss the use of hesitation when speaking certain words and the benefits of being quiet and listening. The speakers also touch on Alayhi Salatu's message and his use of words to memorize them, as well as Alayhi's use of hesitation when talking about " availabilities" and "outliers."
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That is seldom followed today.
It is important to understand
that it is a bada, and that's a skill, because in another Hadith,
the prophet Alayhi Salatu was Salam said Aru Hatay, abuni, Adam,
afili Sani,
most of the sins of the child of Adam are in his tongue.
Most of the sins
of the child of Adam come from his tongue.
And he said In another Hadith, wahali Abu
Asmaa hirihim ilahasa idu ALSA, him, what else throws people in
* fire on their faces, except what their tongues bring back the
harvest of their tongues.
So if this tongue, this small instrument in our body is so
dangerous.
How come we have not learned how to restrain it?
You see us on the one hand, learning, not only learning, but
paying money to learn how to talk.
This is how you can conduct or has an interview,
you learn what to say.
This is how you could be a better public speaker. This is how you
can convince people. This is how you can win friends. This is how
you can influence others to believe what you believe. So we
actually pay money to learn how to talk, how to be eloquent, how to
choose our words, but we don't learn how to be quiet. We don't
learn how to be silent. We don't appreciate silence and what it
brings to us.
And we have no control over it, and we don't understand how
catastrophic it could be, especially today, because it's the
easiest thing today to turn on your phone, face your camera, and
say whatever you want to say, whether you understand or not,
whether you know or not, whether it's beneficial or not, you record
it, you broadcast it,
hundreds, 1000s, millions of people potentially could hear
that, and you're responsible for it. And these things could cause
tremendous harm. They could incite riots. They could cause the
killing of other people. They could assassinate their
reputation. You could do a lot of damage with your tongue,
especially today, much more than at the time of the Prophet alayhi
wa Salatu was Salam. So if that tongue was dangerous, then it's
much more dangerous now.
And if you look at non Muslims in particular,
you will see that they have lost
the virtue of silence. The motivation is to talk and keep
talking. If you have something to say, just say it,
whether it's beneficial, whether you're ignorant or not, just keep
talking, and the more that they talk, the more that they cause
splits and friction in society, the more that they cause harm.
They've lost the idea of silence,
but it is right there in the Quran, and it's right there, the
son of the Prophet Alayhi Salatu was Salam Allah says, male, feed
them in cowlid Illa they Hiraki. When atied, it says whatever thing
he says he has iraqib atied, watchful, ready Angel recording
what he is saying. And if you understand that, that you are
being recorded,
and you'll have to answer for everything that you have said.
You'll monitor what you say.
Someone came to the Prophet alayhi salatu wasallam once, and he said,
Ya Rasulullah, he abni. He
says, our Messenger of Allah, advise me.
Call our tamli Sana. He
says, Do you have control over your tongue?
Kalawama amliku, Ilam alisani. He says, What would I have control
over? If I do, I cannot control my tongue.
Allah, He
says, Do not say with it, except what is good.
That's the advice. But the response from that companion to
the question of the Prophet alayhi wa Salatu wa Salam is very
telling.
It's not just give me advice. I'm going to go with the Prophet
alayhi wa salatu wasallam wanted to.
Are you ready for it? And look at the question, do you have control
over your tongue,
because you're supposed to,
because who controlled it other than you? Do
you have control? And the sahabi vehemently said, If I cannot
control that, what else can I control?
Then he said, Then don't say with it, except what is good.
And subhanAllah today, if you were to ask us, do you have control
over your tongue, what would we say? No, it controls me.
Our Iman is tied to our tongue.
He said, Alayhi Salatu was Salam mankina, billah. He will yamilah.
He says, If you believe in Allah and in the last day, say what is
good or Be quiet. Be silent.
So here you see a very explicit link between your iman and what
you say.
Your Iman needs to control it.
And another Hadith the Prophet Alayhi Salatu was Salam said,
lay as tahimu. Estakimu, Iman, WA abdin, hataya, staki, ma kal buhu
walayah. It
says a person's Iman will not be straight until his heart is
straight,
and his heart will not be straight until his tongue is straight.
And this hadith is important for those who say, Well, my tongue is
pure. It doesn't matter what I do on the outside,
doesn't matter what I look at, doesn't matter what I miss,
doesn't matter but by the borders that I transgress, my heart is
clean. He said, The Prophet sallallahu silam disagrees,
because he is saying that if your tongue is crooked,
then your heart is what crooked.
Can't hide from this. If your tongue is crooked, if you lie,
that's a crooked tongue. If you back bite, that's a crooked
tongue.
If you mock people that's a crooked tongue, then your heart is
crooked. I don't need to open your heart to find out what's in it.
The Prophet sallallahu sallam said, so you have a crooked heart,
because if your heart was clean, your tongue would be clean. And if
you want to clean your tongue, you clean your heart, and if you want
to clean your heart, you clean your tongue, then your iman will
be intact.
So as a believer, silence is established by the Prophet
sallallahu, alayhi wa sallam as a pursuit, as a goal.
Someone was sitting in a gathering once, but he was quiet.
Someone leaned and he said, Why don't you talk?
And he said, Listen,
I found that if I want to say something, it brings benefits and
harms,
it's better and prudent and wiser not to engage in it.
And if it's an unknown outcome. It may bring benefits and harm, but I
can calculate. I don't know what it's going to bring. It's also
safer not to say anything.
And of course, he did not explain that if it brings more harm than
benefit, of course I need to avoid it, because this is understood.
So another person leaned in and he said, I see that he had dismissed
75% of what people talk about.
75% of what people talked about was dismissed by him, and that is
what the scholars have said. Falia kunchayah say what is beneficial
or be quiet. He said, only talk when you know what you're saying
brings benefit more than harm. If you do not know, keep quiet if it
brings more harm. Be quiet if you're going to say it in the
wrong way to bring more harm, be quiet and only speak when you know
what you're saying is beneficial.
That is Iman,
and that is wisdom.
That is wisdom.
He was said, Al hikmatu Ashra to Aza, this atom min have his son.
He says, wisdom is made of 10 parts. Nine of them is silence. If
you want to be wise, you be silent. Because when you're
silent, you listen to what people are saying, you digest, you
absorb, you weigh the benefits and the harms, the merits and demerits
of everything that goes through your ears.
Into your mind, and then you select the best of it. And before
you talk, you select the best of it, and then you speak by that you
will be wise.
Wakanu, Yaku Luna in min Ali San huara Akal, be well. Munafi,
listen, who Allah, tarfimi, they said that the believer his heart
is behind his tongue.
What do they mean by that? They mean that whatever he wants to say
something, it has to pass through the filter of his heart. He thinks
about it, and then he decides, I will say it or not, and then he
speaks. That's the believer,
whereas the hypocrite, his tongue is in his mouth, whatever he feels
like he says,
That's hypocrisy, that's foolishness,
that's not wisdom,
that's not resolve.
That infantile
and you look today at how many people run their mouth
and with it ruin their lives and they ruin their families.
He said Alayhi Salatu was Salam in a hadith
in a Radu lakhalia,
Khalifa, he
says a person will say a word or a sentence, does he pay no attention
to but by which he will descend into hellfire the distance of 70
years.
I want you to contemplate the fact that he will not pay attention to
it
Allah. He will say it and move on.
It's not a big deal,
but to Allah azza wa jal, it is and because he did not save his
tongue, he did not guard what he is saying, he will fall in *
fire 70 years.
So this one person is angry, and they renounce Iman, renounce
faith, speak against Allah azza wa jal, speak against Islam when they
renounce or attack something that Allah Azza has revealed, impugn
it, put it down
when they talk
and They attack other people,
especially when it's done collectively.
He said Alayhi Salatu was Salaam in a hadith in namin, Awa minasi,
Jorma, awhiria,
rajulan, fahaja, Kabila, 10 biases of
the greatest crimes
or lies
with Allah for someone to be insulted or put down by another.
So in retaliation, he puts down and insults his whole tribe.
The poets used to do this in Arabia,
and we do it today.
You have a bad experience with someone from another race, from
another geography, from another nation, from another tribe, or you
grew up with this. So everybody there is colored by the same
brush. All of them are this, all of them are that just because one,
two or three people have crossed you the one way. Everybody's like
that, and you whisper it to those who will agree with you. But you
spread that disinformation. You spread that falsehood. The Prophet
sallallahu, alayhi wa sallam. What did he say about this? You're a
great liar.
And again, that is childish,
because you know that you're
lying,
and not everybody is like that, and even if you are to be true,
what is the benefit of speaking like that?
We simply just want to talk,
and we have not learned the essence of check what you want to
say before you say it.
How many people ended their marriages? How many men rushed to
divorce because they were angry and couldn't control their tongue?
And
once that happens, they come and they say, How do I fix this? You
could have fixed this easily by being quiet.
How many women provoke their husbands into divorcing them
because of the way that they talk to them? How can I fix this if you
just had learned to be quiet silent, if you have just control
over your tongue, then.
It,
you would not be in that predicament.
How many people speak about others
backbiting, which is of the easiest sins today,
and they don't restrain it, and noone corrects them. And you have
to understand that these people, all of them, will be your
opponents on the Day of Judgment.
You're increasing the number of cases against you when you meet
Allah Azza wa jaduk thing, it's going to just be easy. I just
committed this and that sin, and then I'll pass but then you have
50 100, 200-500-1000
people are saying, Yeah, Allah, he said these things about us, let
him pay us back.
And that is an ultimate stupidity
by someone who wants to be saved on the day of judgment to increase
his opponents before Allah Azza,
if you do not control your tongue,
then you control nothing.
So silence is a ibada,
if you know the truth, speak it, but otherwise be quiet and listen.
Ali, what a confess to?
Alhamdulillahi, Rabbil Alameen, Hamdan, kathiram, fihill, Asmaa
Yom ill or the omel Ahmad sheet them in Shay in bad o Salli wa
Sallim Allah a Mohammed in sallallahu alayhi wa Allah Ali. He
was a happy he wasallam ah, bad silence was how the Prophet
sallallahu alayhi wa sallam
was he was described as can tawila Santi khalila. Salatu was
Saddam as lengthy in his silence and seldom in his laughter. He
seldom laughs. He smiles a lot,
but he doesn't laugh.
And when it comes to silence, he's often silent.
What can you through of your Hadith in a car? Cana, you through
the
he used to remember Allah a lot, but engage in little idol talk, or
none of it. Laho is useless talk.
He would remember Allah a lot if you were to sit next to him,
sallAllahu, alayhi wa ali wasallam, you'd hear him
remembering Allah a lot, often, but not useless talk. He would
control his tongue,
and Aisha described him. Alayhi Salatu was Salam, kalakana, yet
Alan will be Kalam in bayin and faslin la Asha, Lasha and ya Fabu,
hunas la, hafidul, awiya, ODU, la adu. He said when he would speak
Alayhi Salatu was Salam. He was not verbose.
He would speak in clear, definite words. If you wanted to count
them, you can. If you wanted to memorize it, you can. You
wouldn't just keep talking.
But with that, he delivered the greatest message. Alayhi Salatu
was Salam and produced the best of students and teachers. Alayhi
Salatu was Salam because that is the essence of wisdom. The essence
of wisdom is be selective in what you're saying, not to impress
people with how funny you are, not to impress people with your
exaggerations, with faking it until you make it. It's to be
genuine, to be authentic and to be quiet and to listen and to process
and then produce the best of what you have received. That's what it
is today. When you
are with your friends, you can easily lie to make them laugh, and
you think there is nothing wrong with it. And the prophet Ali, as
Salatu was Salam, he said, Wailua Allah, the Yak the bulut, he can
NAS. It says, Woe to him, woe to him. Woe to him, the one who lies
to make people laugh.
You lie, and you cannot trick them into believing something, or you
prank them and you think you're being funny, you're being smart.
Prophet said, Woe to you.
You cannot be a good Muslim. You cannot be a person of good
character if that tongue is not controlled.
And so we need to learn silence. And some of the early generation,
though this is acting is not a sunnah. The way that he controlled
his tongue is that.
He took a pebble and he put it in his mouth,
and he wouldn't take it out, except for eating and sleeping,
just to control the movement of the tongue. That now that's not a
sunnah, but the idea behind it of restraining the tongue is valid
because of NUMA Saud Radi Allahu, Anhu said, mashay unawa do Iraq,
nothing deserves lengthy imprisonment more than the tongue
nothing, so yeah, we need to control it. How do I control it?
He say, you control it by avoiding words of disbelief and things that
anger. Allah Azzawajal,
you avoid it by recognizing who you are, being humble, knowing
that you do not know, and not talking until you have all the
information available
today, especially when it comes to politics, but even when it comes
to Grand issues that involve the Ummah, everybody has an opinion.
Are all of us right? Are all of us well informed? Who is listening
and who is talking? If we simply have the ignorant among us, and I
include myself in that, if we're just quiet and we listen, there'll
be less noise around us, and then we can hear with greater clarity
the truth. What clouds the truth today is intentional or
unintentional obscuring of the truth by everybody talking,
whether they understand or not, whether they need to talk or not
listen,
so you avoid the Haram and you don't engage in it.
And he also said, Allah to assalam. When someone came to ask
him, he said, Ya rasulallah. He says,
oh, Messenger of Allah, advise me. But be brief.
He said, either come to El Salat if
Asmaa me mata atadi rumin A is.
This is
your prophet of Allah. Advise me and be brief. He says, When you
stand up to pray,
stand up as if you are bidding farewell to this world. This is
the last thing that you're going to be doing,
and if you're going to speak, don't say something that you have
to apologize for later,
and despair of what people have in their hands.
Don't long for it. Don't wish for it. What people have is theirs.
It's not yours. You don't want anything from them. You don't need
anything from them. You're going to die soon.
So don't look at what they have when you want to pray. This is
your last prayer. But in the middle, what did he say? If you're
going to say something and later you think that you're going to
have to apologize for it, don't say it. Don't lie. You
so if we simply follow the Sunnah of the Prophet alayhi salatu
wasallam,
if we avoid unnecessary talk, if we engage in greater remembrance
of Allah subhanahu wa, if we know that we cannot enter Jannah except
by controlling our tongue, if we know that our hearts will be at
peace, our minds will be at peace when we are quieter, then we will
do this. So this is a call for all of us,
control the tongue, control what it says. Let it produce the best
of what you have, not the worst, think before you talk
and say a thing that will please you when you meet Allah subhanahu
wa. And
if you want to really control your tongue, greet the Quran, and
if you really want to control your tongue praise Allah subhanahu wa,
then your tongue will be filled with what pleases Allah and
shaytan will have less control over it was ALLAH, Rabbul, Alameen
al hamara Amin, to make us of those who save their tongue from
sin and engage in what pleases you a rabbin, we ask you a rabbin to
to make our tongues a vehicle for us to enter Jannah, not a vehicle
for us to enter hellfire. Make us a Rabbul, Alameen, of those who
say the best and refrain from the worst. We ask you, Alameen, to
increase our Imaan and purify our hearts. We ask you to forgive us
all of our sins and grant us a sincere repentance from the sins
that have troubled us. We ask you, Alameen, to make us of those who
are guiding and guiding, of others, of those who are guided
and guiding of others. Ya rab al Alameen. Wameen To bring relief to
Muslims throughout this world, especially in ghaza, in Palestine
and the rest of the Muslim lands. Ya rab al Alameen, Ya Allah, repel
their enemies and their plots. Ya Allah come to their aid. Ya Allah
come to their aid.
Ya Allah, come to their aid. Ya Allah, bring quick relief to them.
Ya Rama Rahi mean and bring us back all to the fold of Islam, to
the fold of the Sun of the Prophet. Alayhi, salatu wasallam,
so that we become worthy of your victory our Hamar, Amin, Allahu,
ayname, wana ODU, Berlin wa Allah,