Ali Albarghouthi – Explanation of Surah al-Hujarat (3) Ayahs (10-12) –
AI: Summary ©
The speaker discusses the negative impact of various Prophet Alayhi Salatu statements, including the legal backdoor of their statement and the need for individuals to be open-minded and honest in relationships. They emphasize the importance of avoiding sexual harassment and avoiding embarrassment in relationships, citing the impact of the internet and the source of entertainment of women. Additionally, they emphasize the need for individuals to be open-minded and honest in their interactions.
AI: Summary ©
Laos salatu salam ala Rasulillah who Allah Allah He also have a he was salam, la Malema and fowl now and finally Mr. Olympia now is it Natalie Monopol al Amin llama in Isla de Chirico Ashok Rika Hosni Berta tick Amma bad
so last time we've come to a number 10 That's where we stopped. And that is where insert insert alhaja right where Allah zodion Subhana Allah to Allah says in mal Muna if WA. For us the whole Boehner Hawaii calm. It says the people of iman are but brothers they are only brothers so reconcile between your brothers. This is at the heels of mentioning that if a dispute physical dispute were to arise, then Allah azza wa jal commands us to reconcile between the warring parties that are Muslims and if they refuse or one of them transgresses, you are to fight your obligation is to find the one that rebels and to grant dresses until it comes back to the commands of Allah azza wa jal to the
book to the Sunnah, the Quran and Sunnah. And that they would respect each other and their rights. And we talked about this last time we're not going to repeat it but we'll focus on a attend in them and meaning that if we're so at the end of it, Allah azza wa jal says what the believers are but brothers. So here Allah azza wa jal says that this bond
that is more than the bond of family and blood
more than the bond of tribe, more than the bond of color more than the bond of language, now who established this bond?
Hola, xojo.
Through what? Iman, right, right. So on that side, brother, just quite done. So and the kids as well.
And Sharla just make sure that they are quiet because it's distracting you they keep moving.
Okay. So
this bond is a bond that comes from Allah azza wa jal.
And it tells you that it is unlike any other bond. And so just like the words of Allah azza wa jal, they're supposed to supersede all other words, the bond that is established by Allah azza wa jal is supposed to persist, supersede all other bonds.
Not necessarily to cancel all other bonds, it may cancel some of them, but to be higher and better. So it's the primary and everything else is secondary.
So if there is a conflict between blood relations and Iman which comes first,
Iman, that is the one that comes first, it doesn't cancel blood relations. In fact, blood relations, they could argue they could be used to enhance the bonds of iman. So your the rights that you have between you and your blood brother, if they have Eman are greater than between you and a stranger who is a Muslim. So the bonds are not canceled. But if there were to be a contradiction, what happens? The one that is best is and strongest is that of iman, same thing also, when it comes to color
when it comes to gender, so let's think about all this as tribes. And there is a tribe that is natural, meaning there are connections and blood relations between you. And there's a tribe that we build and erect that is not really necessarily natural. So in a national bond, as we see countries today, this is not necessarily natural. Is it natural? Not necessarily right? Because the borders that separate countries are not natural borders. In fact, you could have brothers, Blood Brothers, families that belong to different sides of a country. This brother is one citizenship, the other one is a different citizenship, right half of this family is on this side of a country, the other half
is another side of the country. So these things are not necessarily natural.
But they are they have their real consequences.
So that is not supposed to supersede or equal the bond of iman. So when you see another Muslim, right, whether he is the same color or not. Whether he's the same citizen citizenship or not, he's equally your brother as a Muslim of similar color.
similar ethnicity or similar citizenship? Right?
Would there be any difference? So a Muslim in the Silla same Muslims in the same country? This is a citizen he's a non citizen. Would you favor the citizen over the non citizen? No, because that would be Jehan Iya.
Ya know, the rules that we are using are not rules that had come from Allah azza wa jal. So Muslim, this is your gender, this is not your gender, would you favor one over the other just because of it, then you're not using the yardstick of iman.
Different colors,
different age, different ethnicity, all of these things do not matter in the sight of Allah azza wa jal. So if a person believes this, your primary bond is the bond of iman, at the same time, we said, you don't have to eradicate all the other bonds, your tribe still matters to an extent your family definitely matters, right? You may have greater access to your own gender, when you want to speak to them and advise them maybe greater access to people of your own culture and ethnicity. Because then you will, they will talk to you, and you understand them and their circumstances better than people who are not better than an outsider. So these bonds don't have to be canceled. But we say that
which is primary and which is most important, the bond of Eman. So Allah as they did when he says in normal Momina WA, they are only but brothers. If your iman is high, then you will feel this brotherhood.
And if you don't feel this brotherhood, then there's a problem with
iman. So if you're a nationalist, and then a Muslim or a believer, then the Eman has taken secondary status to your nationalism. And some people Subhanallah when they think about their Islam, especially like in some parts of the Muslim world, they think about it in terms of nationalism, I'm a Muslim, who's also this. So both of them are equally important. We're saying no, you got to really understand that nationalism or these borders that we have the these are manmade, this is not Allah azza wa jal telling you differentiate between you and the other person based on these borders. To understand that this is something artificial. And you if you judge people based on that, you have to
understand that this is complete Jaleesa there's a deficiency in my in your iman. And don't be as maybe we'll try to emphasize that don't be if you belong to a particular tribe, whatever that tribe is about a by Trump, I mean, any kind of configuration, natural or not, right? So if you belong to any other tribe, and somebody attacks, the tribe that you supposedly belong to, your reaction shouldn't be as ignorant as to attack them back just because you feel that you've been attacked. So if somebody insults your gender, you're not going to reply by insulting the other gender and generalizing and saying, Well, are you said all women are this will all men are this and all women
are that? Right? That's not the right position to take because now you are aligning yourself, not with Islam as a brotherhood, because among men, there will be people that if you are stand in solidarity with them, they will take you to hellfire. Sohei and they are among women. I'm saying that to the sisters, woman who if you stand in solidarity with they will put you in hellfire. So you can't stand in solidarity with people who are not believers. And do it reactionary. In reaction to well, you insulted my country. Well, how about yours? You insulted my race and ethnicity? How about yours? So you gotta be smarter than this, understand that this is the work of the Shavon and the
work of the ignorant. So a natural consequence of believing and having Amen and believing that we are all brothers is that you would hate to see any infighting, any discord, any hate, hate hate between the believers. And if you see it, you want to quash it, you want to stop it. You want to bring people together. So that's why Allah says that you are brothers suffixed with what is between your brothers. If that is the compass that you have, if that's the direction that you have, if there is any fighting between Muslims, you would want to stop it.
And you want to remove the hatred that they have towards each other, not inflame it not be a cause. Not clap when it happens, but you want to
stop it. So we said last time that one of the greatest sudden because of the Prophet Alayhi Salatu was Salam mentioned, he said, is LA who that tilde been fixing and mending relations. So a husband and wife they're fighting and you know about it. You Don't instigate hostilities or
or exaggerate these hostilities by giving bad advice, but rather you try to reconcile them, between parents and their children and vice versa. You try to bring them closer together between tribes who are fighting bring bring them closer together neighbors, so that there will be least amount of hatred and friction between Muslims and you find and if you ever you find the fitna rising between people who hate each other, based on Johari and the responding to Jaya Helia if you cannot fix it, then you withdraw and you don't become fodder. You don't become part of the fitna right. Firstly, who been awakened so fix what is between your brothers? What does Allah Allah Allah come to Harmon
and have Taqwa of Allah azza wa jal, so that you would may receive His mercy. So understand here that having this brotherhood and fixing it and avoiding what breaks it is part of the Taqwa of Allah xojo. So Allah says what have this taqwa and the taco of Allah? Its definition is for you until the RB Nico obey nada. Billahi with ayah that you would place between you and Allah as punishment, a barrier, a protection. That's what decoy is. So how do you put a barrier between you and the punishment of Allah? By avoiding what he hates and doing what he likes? That's Taqwa.
Right? That's what decoy is. So you selectively wat
and selectively choose your step Oh, this is halal. Can do haram you would avoid. So you're constantly aware of what Allah loves and what Allah hates. So you would know what to avoid and what to do. So a telco of Allah azza wa jal, that is what brings his mercy. And obviously, it's clear that if you spread love between the believers, you love for them what you love for yourself, then obviously they will be mercy. And that is based on Taqwa.
The next area which is area number 11. Allah azza wa jal begins it by saying yeah, Are you her Latina Ermanno So again, remember we said that Allah azza wa jal repeats here Yeah. Are you her Latina Armano at every set of distinct commands to alert the believers that Oh, you have Eman, pay attention to what is coming after? Because this is really important. I mentioned one I mentioned second I mentioned and now a third thing at a category that you should pay attention to. So a category of commands and pre Hobi prohibitions. Yeah, you have nothing in common. Oh, you have Eman lyase, Harco Moonman, Coleman, Assa, yakun, Ohio, Minh home, let not some people or you can
translate it as men. Let not some men make fun or ridicule other men, because they could be better than them. And let not while Aneesa on Manisa alert, not some woman go and ridicule other women because they could be better than them. So that's the first prohibition here. Also, you have Eman? You're not supposed to be doing the following what is it? Law? Yes, her Do not mark.
Okay, one another.
So, first of all, where does this mockery come from? When you mark? And how do you mark? And why do you Mark? How do you so why does it come? You mock others because you think and believe that you are better?
Right? As somehow you are superior. And for some people, they do actually feel that they are inferior, so to hide that they make fun of other people.
But typically, right? Why do you mock mock because they you think that they are lower than you. So the basis of it is pride and arrogance. Somehow you see something in you that you have that they don't and because of it, you could put them down because otherwise if it's a short attribute, you wouldn't point that out.
If it's something wrong that they have, but you also have you're not going to be talking about it right? Because you'd be pointing out your own mistakes, but you think that they are lower.
So you want to mock them and make fun of them. Allah azza wa jal Hirsi is when he says, Oh Moonman Comb.
Comb in the Arabic language is some of the amorphous city and have said how means men
primarily originally at home yet any region, okay? And they link it to the Tijuana.
The position of authority that Allah azza wa jal had given men to armor because they stand up, meaning the you know, they handle affairs. So when they say a poem, they say
Primarily it means men. In some places of the Quran they say it includes the woman, right? But speaking primarily to men and women are included as well. But here, right? Allah azza wa jal specified men first, and then woman second, right? Although it could have been what home only, and we could set could have said women are included as well. But here's so that Allah has zoton wanted to highlight that this happens among men with men.
So that women do not think that they are not included. No it happens frequently. Freak frequently
among women against women, because of jealousy, right? Because of competition because of the shaytaan.
And Allah azza wa jal here made it plural. Let's not people ridicule other people.
Right? Even though it could happen individually from one person against the group or one against another. They say, why did this happen? Well, Allahu Allah, they say because it typically takes flair you place collectively, like you need an audience. Right? For it to have an impact. Usually it happens among in group, so you need an audience. So he's making fun of them. He's laughing at them and others also are joining in by laughing as well. So he says, Don't do this.
Whether you're males with males or females with females. So why is it that Allah is saying you shouldn't be doing that? It says as a year, Kunal here, on minimum, that is, perhaps they could be better than they are.
And that is something that if a person really thinks about, it would be fatal to when it comes to sarcasm, and when it comes to ridiculing other people. Because the premise
upon which you make fun of another is that you think you are better.
Right, somehow. But if Allah tells you that it could be the other way around, there would be no room available for you to mock anybody.
And because good and bad, right? Righteousness and lack of it, which really matters, is hidden were
in the heart. And when you make fun of someone, you don't really make fun of their Taqwa because, you know, but what are you making fun of external features that they have, or an external behavior, he doesn't know how to talk. He stutters
he is too this in his body, too tall, too small, too big, too small, right? To dark to white, whatever, right? Or he doesn't have money or he doesn't have education, all these things are external. But Allah Azza did is telling you that none of these things individually or collectively, matter in the sight of Allah has Zota so how are you judging? You're simply by making fun of him. And he's saying that with Allah azza wa jal, internally, this person could be better than you. So how could you make fun of them?
And a person should be alarmed when he makes fun of people,
that the tables could be turned sooner or later.
Right? So even if it's owed, what are the Allahu Anhu he said, Hello, Sir, to mean Kelvin, the Hershey to an O Hawala, Kalba. It says, If I marked a dog, I'd be afraid that we'll be turned into a dog
and made fun of something small as this a dog, that Allah will punish me for that by turning me into that thing that I ridiculed.
There's a Hadith from the Prophet Alayhi Salatu was Salam when he said led to the the Shemitah BF HC for your IP Hilah who is a leak. He says, Don't be publicly gleeful at the misfortune of your brother, lest Allah zodion saves him and afflicts you. He say, Oh, look at so and so. Right? Even if he's committing a sin, but look at so and so. And you do it with pride. Look at him, right? He's poor, look at him. He's uneducated. Look at him how poor he is.
And then, Prophet alayhi salatu salam says what that these things could turn.
And the very thing that you made fun of becomes your reality after some time.
Oh, he doesn't have a country. We we've heard that from people, right? Who mocked refugees.
And we didn't die until they became refugees. Right?
So
you don't you don't know. You don't know who's better and who's worse
and kind of Subhanallah
A mockery, right had become part of an on ridicule and making fun of people had become part of public discourse, right? had become part of casual conversation that is, in order for you to be funny, a comedian, what is a major tool?
You make fun of people.
Right? And imagine a comedian who doesn't do that.
And you see that in politics as well as why because politics right had become so poisonous, is that what as soon as they disagree with someone, just watch it, they start to work, ridicule them, make fun of them, personality, the way that they talk, where they come from, they're hillbillies. These are, it's becomes personal. And when it becomes personal, it's not easy to reconcile. Right?
So in an Islamic conversation, if you're having Islamic conversation, you even the see that sometimes when people are debating,
and they start that debate starts, you know, civil, right,
and then turns from civil into not being so civil.
And that they start to shout at each other. And they start to suspect each other and eventually what happens is this they start to mark each other.
So is this for the sake of Allah as origin it may have begun as for the sake of Allah, possibly. But when you start to point out his personal mistakes, and you think the worst of them and misinterpret what he's doing, then that's had this has been derailed had been hijacked by the shaytaan. So you need to retreat and everyone who's reading and following this and cheering it needs to retreat and say, This is not the way to discuss an issue.
You've crossed the line. So lyase Harco woodmill Columbian Assa Kuno Pharaoh Minho.
Allah as God knows what is best and who is best, right? So no ridicule.
And then Allah azza wa jal says Willa, tell me zoo and full circle.
He says, And do not insult yourselves.
And alums here is an insult to your face,
had been interpreted also as an insult behind your back. But here what is appropriate in this context, is an insult to some sort of someone's face. But here Allah azza wa jal
cannot, with wisdom he uses Don't insult yourselves to mean two things, Allahu Allah, that is the other is you,
your brother, your sister, is also you. So when you insult them, you're insulting yourself, you're weakening yourself, you're harming yourself. So saying, this is one interpretation, don't insult your own selves.
Because he is supposed to be exactly you. And you are him. The other interpretation is what? If you insult them? What are they going to do to you, and assault you back.
So don't cause it. And this is a
Hadith of the Prophet Alayhi Salatu was Salam. He says that of the biggest
sins, or the biggest major sins, that a person would curse and insult his parents. So someone said, Oh, Prophet of Allah, is it conceivable that a person would curse and insult his parents? He says, Yes, you do this to somebody's parents, and he does this to your parents.
Right? So if you have again, think about it, if you're fighting with someone,
you unjustly bring his parents into the disputes and you curse them.
So what is the natural thing for him to do in the heat of the moment for him to curse your own parents who brought this on themselves? You when you do it, although you did not directly attack your parents, but you did this because you caused it you become responsible for it. So here if you insult them and then they insult you back then you're responsible for that insult coming back to you.
And if you insult them, then they are you. And the Prophet alayhi salatu salam said you know one of you does not believe until you love for your brother which you love for yourself meaning that in love terms, your equal
right, you love for them what you love for yourself. So in love terms, I love equally to them or for them what I love for myself. So that means that you should be able to see with iman, that those those who are individuals who are walking they are not you but in other terms they are you if can you imagine this with me? Take your name, whatever your name is, and how you
Look. Now when you look at other people, you see very different shapes and very different names, but now impose on them all the same name as yours and the same shape of yours. You're seeing yourself everywhere. And you're seeing your name everywhere. How would you treat those people? Who are you? Like duplicates of you? How would you treat them? Knowing why your own weaknesses and your own excuses and your own
strengths and that you want people to take care of you? So how would you take care of them like you, they would you would want two people to take care of you. So this is how you're supposed to treat them. So he says, Don't insult that tell me sue each other. And look at the edit here, right? And how sensitive you're supposed to be. So you don't mark people. Okay. And again, remember when in mockery, it happens Subhanallah between Muslims
when they cannot generalize, and they become tribes. And again, tribes is again, I'm using it in a very general term, right? Any configuration. So oh, those type of people, okay, I will never associate with them.
And we were talking about Muslims. Right? The why is it is because I met 1234 there that were bad. Is that enough to generalize and categorize and dismiss an entire population.
And imagine if we actually were to live like this, those people of Country X I'll never mingle with them. And again, three, why I will never associate with them and country z, I will never be close to them and and and who's left? Right when we do this. And if they say that about your own country or about your own origin, you're not still even justified to say that about them.
Because that is ignorance and you're not supposed to reciprocate ignorance, but rather you'd go and say, We don't know yet the whole story. And among that population that you're putting down, there could be people who are in it for the Rasul Allah you do not know. And among the population that you're so proud of, there could be more people in Jahannam and you do not know. So your bond is the bond of iman not the bond of J Helia. So Latin Mizzou and Fusco while at Santa Barbara Zoo Bill L. Cobb and do not use bad nicknames.
It's reported that Nora the Prophet Alayhi Salatu was Salam he came to Medina.
Each person of the unsought had like three four nicknames. So the Prophet Alayhi Salatu was Salam he did not know. So he would use some of them and they would say, oh prophet of Allah. Don't use that nickname. He hates it. So Allah azza wa jal revealed this, do not use bad nicknames, meaning don't give each other that.
Right. So nicknames they could be good. There could be some good names, the smart guy, right? The hard working guy, right.
But they said that a lot of nicknames I'll pop are bad.
Or if someone is given that and he hates it, it becomes haram for a person to use it to call him. Because it's often derogatory, it puts him down.
Or it points out a feature in him that he dislikes, or a past of his that he doesn't want to remember. So you're not allowed to harm your brother by giving him a name that he did not give himself now stands as an objection, or as an exception, a nickname that had become widespread that the person does not reject, for instance, if he's blind, and he was known as the blind, and he does not does not hurt him. And that circulates. That's, that's okay. That's permissible. Because here, the main difference is whether it's harms him, he hates it or not. So in in Islam, you'll find that there were people who are known as a martial arts, this and that.
Right.
But that's fine, as long as it does not hurt them. And now when you will want to identify your person, right? Try to use your best not to use a feature of his
that may be standing out that he would hate or this person who is blind right there, if he were to hear that and that he would hate it. Don't identify him as such, because that would hurt him. Right, but you something else, and that's again, respecting the honor and the feelings of every Muslim that you see what at the numbers will be alcohol. Then Allah says be sad, smooth for so called Battle Iman.
What a terrible name of first rebellion against Allah azza wa jal to have after Iman. And this could mean two things and both of them are compatible. One is that if you do these things and you don't repent from them, then you would deserve the name of a facet, or disobey or of Allah or rebel.
In a rebellious man against Allah azza wa jal. So after having the name of Eman, you will have the name of Fiske or of a facet. And then what a terrible substitute that is, from Eman into disobeying Allah. So you want your name to be a facet, rather than a believer if yes do these things if not, then quit them. So that's one thing. Or it could also mean that what a bad title that you would give a believer calling him a facet after he had embraced Iman. Because some people when they fight with each other they would call the other Yaya who Deanna Salani, Jewish male, you're, you're Jewish, or you're Christian, we are these titles, either reminding them of their past or similarly just
throwing a slur at them.
So Allah Allah is saying, these are people who have Iman, and you're throwing the name of fist at them. You're not allowed to do this.
Especially right. When you say to a person Yeah, who the Yeah, cafe.
Right? Allah azza wa jal, the prophet Alayhi Salatu was Salam says makalah Lee. Yeah. cafard for Baba BIA. huduma If you say to your brother, you are a cat fit or something similar to it? So if you tell him Yeah, who Deanna salon? Yeah, he do Seca. If you say any of these things that you pay effectively call him Yeah. Kaffir for khutbah huduma It goes back to one of them.
So you're trying to throw that at him. If he does not deserve it, it goes back to you. And you want to receive that title back? Right? To be worthy of being called this or at least it's sin. So you need to quit that. So Allah Allah Allah saying after Allah had honored you with iman, you don't call each other these things. Whether you call him yeah Kaffir Yeah, facet. Yeah, this Yeah, that or you will become a person who is guilty of all of these sins and you deserve the name of fiscal so quit them. And Allah has said threatens people at the end by saying or Mala Mia to. For Hola, ecomo Volley moon. So Allah Azza did is saying that, here the door of Toba is open. Even if you've done
that the door of Toba is still open for you rush to it. Because if you don't, then you really have transgressed. And you have been warned. And Allah will hold you responsible for all of these insults and all of these mistakes that you're spreading among Muslims.
So rush and repent, because if you repent, it'd be as if he didn't commit a sin. And that's the beautiful thing about Toby in Islam. You could do and that's, again, not an invitation. So don't misunderstand. You could do whatever, in the dunya. Right, with other people. But there's hardly something that you can do that could erase all of it as if it did not exist, like expunge all of it. Hardly anything. Either the record will show it or people's memory will have it or the internet, right? So if it's there, it's never gone. If it's done, it never disappears. But with Allah azza wa jal, it goes completely blank.
As if it wasn't there. That is you can become a new person. And that's the incredible thing about it, you could because all of us think we are riddled with so much baggage and sin and bad history. But you could reinvent yourself in a minute. Like if you say to yourself from tomorrow isn't the law as voted I'm not doing this or this or this. And I'll be this this this you're a completely new person as if the past did not exist. And that is something that is incredible about the Toba. So if Allah gives you this much and he says it all can go away and you still insist on all these sins then you are truly an aggressor that you have wronged yourselves do it yourself and wronged everybody
around you.
Okay
then the next area
yeah you Halina Amman right because this is another category of things to avoid the first category the one that we just finished right happens
face to face right? Someone is aware of what you're doing this category happens behind the person's back so yeah, you hola the man who listen carefully if you have email and these things also should be avoided which are done when no one is not aware of you not watching what you're doing, may not hear that you have done it.
So Allah azza wa jal says each 10 Evoca theobromine have been avoided much
of suspicion. Because indeed some suspicion is sinful.
And more we avoid much suspicion one.
Right? Now, first of all, let's understand the meaning of one, because one is used in the Quran differently, means different things according to the context. So what is it done? And what is meant by one here? So one when you think something is true or not based on evidence that you have, so it's in between certainty and fabrication, meaning believing something between believing something to be true, and believing something to be false. So these are the two ends, right? These are certainties. In between the certainty there is one
and spectrum and one is a spectrum goes from a weak one,
into a very strong one into a strong one, a very strong one until that one jumps into certainty. Right. So one is based on evidence, let's call it probability.
Probably this is right probably this is wrong, there is strong probability there is weak probability, right? So,
not all lung is bad. In fact, some of the one is required.
So when it comes to your vision of Allah as origin, you have to have the best one. The best thoughts the best expectation from him subhanho wa Taala and are in the Vanya. appdb Polly Aluna Bhima SHA, Allah azza wa jal says in the Hadith that is good see, I am will be at what my servant expects of me. So let him think of me what he wants. So you must have the best one of Allah as you think the best of him expect the best of him. And it's haram to think the worst of him Subhana Allah like what? Like, if I commit a sin, it will never be forgiven? Like Islam will be defeated, like Muhammad sallahu sin will not be champion like Allah as though do not will cannot come to the aid of his
believers if they call on him. All this is Babban and this is haram. So there is lung that is haram with me, right? I didn't lose you. Right. And there is lung that is what an obligation you must think the best of Allah azza wa jal.
And you also you must think the best of the believers.
That is if there is a believer, you must think the best of them, as long as they externally do not exhibit any reason or evidence for you to think otherwise. You have to think the best of them. So there's a Hadith of the Prophet alayhi. Salatu was Salam when he wants ones around the Kaaba and he says Maratea Bucky, wealthier, but he hacky. He says how sweet you are and how sweet you smell is when I want my key or other hermetic key and how sacred you are and see and how great your sanctity is wildermuth huruma 10 min kinswoman unknown who is more sac court sacrosanct, then you is the believer
in the MaHA Rente, Mara, Yanni your sacred once, and the believer is sacred three times demo who a man who were Allah you will wanna be here in LA Hira? Off he revi Allah you will not be here on new so.
So you're sacrosanct? Because of one thing for the Kaaba. For the believer, he is sacrosanct. And she is sacrosanct because of three, his blood meaning his life and his money, and the only thing the best of him, meaning his honor, that secret. So you're not allowed to go and kill someone, right? You're not allowed to go and take their money and you're not going not allowed to go on a sale, their honor. If you want to think about them, you think the best or you don't think the worst, that's another narration, you're not allowed to. So that's an obligation. Right?
And it's haram on the other end to think of him otherwise. One is also used in the Sharia. Right? So when you hear a ruling in the Sharia, two witnesses come and they testify that so and so had stolen, right?
You didn't see it yourself if you're the judge, but you rule based on one but a strong one, that these two are honest. So one, based on evidence, strong evidence is used in the Sharia. And in fact, some of the Hadith if you just receive an individual Hadith, just by itself, I mean, no context and no corroborating evidence. Just the Hadith itself. The chain is all authentic. What you hear from the sayings of the Prophet alayhi salaatu wa salaam, see seems you know,
clear and sound on its own. This. The scholars have said you feed oven, it indicates probability that
This is true. Why? Because you say even, you know, even though all of them are
reliable and trustworthy, perhaps maybe one of them forgot, perhaps. So strong probability, but still probability. But now when you open it up a little bit, and you see other ahaadeeth and other corroborating evidence, then you will say about that hadith now, it indicates certainty, like the Hadith in Bukhari and Muslim and outside of it, why, because other types of evidence indicates that this is
a certainty that the Prophet alayhi salatu salam had said it, right. But you have probability and Hadith, so we're not dismissing all probability. Right?
But what are we talking about here? probability in terms of suspicion, no evidence for it.
Right.
So you're just sitting and you think so and so must be a thief. So and so must commit Zina, Ceylon still must take bribes, so and so must pretend to be pious, so and so when I saw him crying, you know, when he was reading the Quran, he was fake. And he was showing off just these things just come to your mind. There is no evidence for this. That's the Haram part. Right? So Allah as Dogen says, What? Avoid a lot of one because some of it is really sinful. So in order to avoid what is sinful, you'd have to avoid a lot of it. Right? Just like, for instance, when we do this, you know, intuitively, if a person right, there's a theft in a one location, and it repeats, they say, I'm not
going there. Let's see why only a couple of thefts took place. Yeah, he says, but in order to protect yourself myself from that happening, I have to avoid it most of the time. Right. So to avoid that smaller harm, I have to avoid it
many days and weeks. So it's exactly the same idea. If you want to avoid the harmful suspicion, you have to avoid a lot of it, so that you don't fall into the haram. So if you see a Muslim, and apparently there is nothing there to
compel you or push you to believe anything bad about them, it is haram for you to suspect them. And you treat them with a clean heart.
And even if you see something from them, that could be open for interpretation, you seek the best interpretation. And you don't rush to believe the worst about them. And that's what you owe them and that's what they owe you.
So I want to talk about the Allahu Anhu.
He said something similar lotto Nanda because he met in hora, Jasmine Africa, Illa, Hagar on wind, Tatula, homina. Lady Muhammad Allah, it says, don't believe that anything that your brother had said, to be anything but the best, as long as you can find a good interpretation for it.
Then if you see a person doing something, and it could be interpreted, okay, or the worst?
It could be fine. Or it could be not, as long as there's a way for you to save them, you save them.
And some of the seller have said, and if you don't find an excuse for him, do you say maybe there's an excuse? I don't know about? Right? This is why so that you would have the best and cleanest of heart towards your brothers and towards your sisters. And you don't rush to believe every whisper from the shaytaan. Because if you entertain it, okay, and these things will come uninvited.
And some people have more of it than others because if you entertain suspicion, you become more suspicious.
And if you entertain a naive, healthy heart, you'll stay like this.
So if you see him, right,
doing something,
and there's a way to save him, you save him.
But if a person is
publicly sinful, right, then he had destroyed
that protection from Allah xojo had removed that protection, meaning as long as your sins are hidden. Imagine that there is a dome around you, protecting you from anyone who's sailing and attacking your honor. When you go public with sin, you've removed that dome, so a person could suspect you. So if a person is a thief, and a repeat offender, if you see him lurking around, you could think that he's about to steal.
Why could I suspect him? Because he
is a criminal.
Unlike This did not repent, right? If you see a person who's responsible for haram, whatever that's Haram is, and he's known for it, you could suspect him.
And that is not forbidden. Right? It'd be actually gullible not to.
So if a person is a major offender, a major sinner and public would that you could suspect him, and that one would be allowed. But if not, you're not allowed to do this. Right? And if you this heart, or they call it, this thought comes to your mind, if you push it away, they're not You're not sinful, or so on. So you know, he's a liar. How do you know no evidence for it, then you need to dismiss it and say, Oh, the belimbing a che thunder regime.
But if you start to believe it, until it settles in your heart, and you believe that he's a liar, you sin because of that belief, because you thought the worst about him, and there is no evidence for it. So this is sort of been like, even if you don't say anything, this is so often, and that becomes the sins of the heart.
But it doesn't usually stay there. Because if you start to believe about someone, that he's awful, and he's opportunistic, and he's a hypocrite and and whatever it is, you start to what? Hate him. Right?
That's, that's the Haram part about it. Why do you hate him with no evidence, you start to hate him?
And if you start to hate him, what are you going to do? The next thing that follows? What after just sisu
don't spy on each other.
Don't spy on each other. And there is another era of it will lead to hustle.
And they say oh Allah Allah and the difference between them is that well at the Justice who don't spy you personally, spying going after them to find out their mistakes, to harass us who are asking other people about their information. What do you know about him? What did you see him doing, et cetera, et cetera. The first one means you follow Him and you inquire and you try to observe and you hide. And both of these things are haram.
And the Prophet Alayhi Salatu was Salam. He said in the Hadith, he says he I'm not sure I'm an airman abidi Sunni, he will have you in Colombo, he says, Oh, those who have believed with their tongues, but their hearts have not believed. Let that let that debut out in Muslimeen. Do not go searching for people's sins, the Muslims sins for in them and yet the bat may find them into the bow or our team that about Allah who our utter if you follow their mistakes, Allah will follow your mistakes. And if Allah woman that a Bala who our the whole fall for the hula fijo fever at And if Allah follows meaning seeks your mistakes, he will expose you, even if you're sitting
in the middle of your house, hiding in your house, that thing will come out.
So he's saying This punishment is for those who go out to expose people.
For whatever reason, you hate them, you dislike them, whatever, but their sins are hidden. The sins are hidden. And now what you want to do is what expose it,
disgrace them. And this comes out from the hatred that you have towards them. Something is missing something is not right, internally, that's why you're going and seeking their downfall. So the Prophet alayhi salatu salam says that if you seek to expose them, Allah will expose you. Of course, it's not going to be the same. If your ability to expose this to expose 1%, when Allah does it to you,
is gonna ring everywhere, everybody will know about it.
And we can say included in that today, right? Is going after people's phones and internet browsing and browser history and whatever. Right? Imagine if you find yourself right, in an opportunity to go and check someone's phone,
and an opportunity to check to see the websites that they visited
their browser history, whatever they saw, right? Should you do it?
Now if you do it, that spying,
even between husbands and wives,
because this is his own phone, and this is her own phone, and unless they've given you explicit birth permission to go and actually check, you're not allowed to.
Or he left the browser open. Let me see where what he where he where he went, what she was doing. Okay, the problem with this, first of all, is that indicates lacks lack of trust.
Right? Second of all,
what if they were to find out that you were doing these things behind their back? That this is how much you value them and how much you trust them. Right?
Write their opinion of you, and their opinion of their their own selves right will collapse. This is what people think of me. And the problem is that there's a Hadith of the Prophet Alayhi Salatu was Salam where he said in NACA in iterator riba fineness, he said the homie, he says, If you are seeking out your suspicion in people, you are going to ruin them. Because you're going to make Allahu Adam, the interpretation of that hadith could be that you're going to make what is hidden public.
And you're going to force them to confront it. And the higher that they had about well, I'm actually worse was was hitting this hoping maybe it could go away. But now that it's public, I have nothing to lose and nothing to hide. And also, ask yourself, if there were to be something bad that you could find, and you found it.
What are you going to do about it?
And there are people who are actually lived in agony because of that investigation. Maybe if they had left it, and the death, not check his phone, did not check her phone, this thing that so disturbed them could go away.
But now because they found out about it, first of all, they can't say anything, but they're in agony. This thing is happening, what do I do about it? And once you confront them, there's a collapse of trust.
And divorce could happen because of it.
Right? So unless you have permission, you're not to check and assume the best about the person, your parents, your children, unless you do what unless what happens, you start seeing compelling evidence that something is wrong. And you need to intervene to save somebody, your child or spouse, then that's the case, maybe, but you must have rely on them.
Right? You must have authority over them, your kids,
your wife.
And it's best right? To confront them and say everything is going to be public from now on. All right. So they don't sense mistrust. But everything from now on is going to be transparent. This way you're honest with them, and you expect them to be honest with you, nothing is going to be hidden. I'm going to be checking this and this and this and that. Right.
That's the best so well after just Cisco.
And then he also he said Subhana Allah to Allah Allah you have to bow to Kumba do not back bite each other.
Are you hippo? Ha tecoma Yagura Lahemaa he made them fuckery to move with one of you would some of you are with one of you love to eat the dead meat of his brother.
But you hate that.
So Allah azza wa jal here, when he's concluding these sets of prohibitions, he said, Do not back bite each other. And that is kind of a natural consequence of thinking the worst about someone and then spying on them is now you start to what do what talk ill about them behind their back, I found this and that I think he's in this and that. It's a natural consequence of what you believe on the inside, that the tongue must move to express it. You can hide it, if you hate someone, you'll say something about it. Or you will seek the opportunity if others are criticizing you chime in and add something else. Oh, yes, you're right.
So this is Libra as the prophet Alayhi Salatu was Salam defined it the Cuca haka be my Accra, you mentioned something about your brother or your sister that they hate behind their back. Thus its definition.
And think to yourself how widespread this is.
And how many of us and it's not an exaggeration, if we say 99.9999% of people are guilty of that, right? Maybe daily, when you talk about people like that behind their back with things that they hate, and there is no need for it. But we do this and we think that this is what minor, but see what Allah has to do the saying about it. It's equivalent to what he says would you love to
eat the dead meat of your brother?
So he's liken this to what that you have dead meat. So and not only that, someone who's dead
on its own, it's repulsive to eat their meat on its own. Now imagine he is someone dear to you, like a family member?
Would your heart allow you to cut their meat and eat it?
It wouldn't. That would be the most repugnant, distasteful thing you could think of.
And if a person is the only has to do this, he will do it when it's extremely necessary and take only as much as you need and just nothing beyond that. Because it's extreme.
repugnant. So Allah says, Do you love to eat this? And the contrast here? is amazing, because it's not Do you tolerate it? Do you love this? Why do you love that? Because they are equivalent. So Allah, are you hippo? Hadoken? would you love to be in that place and to eat to eat it? Then the answer is no. For carry to move means what? Then it is established among all of you that this is not something that you like, but actually that you hate. So then you should hate this. Because it's exactly the same because your brother that you're Backbiting is like a dead body in front of you. He's not there to defend himself, and you're cutting him into pieces and eating his meat. That's
exactly what is happening. And if you say, but how is it so attractive? But it's supposed to be so repulsive? He says, because there is enough here, that is misguided. Because if you were to see what you're doing to him and what you're doing to yourself, you would hate it, and he would never do it. Not the least of it is that you're taking your has an attorney given it to him.
Right? Because now you owe him on the day of judgment. What is this person gonna say? Yeah, Allah, so and so wrong me. He said this in the that about me? How are you going to repay him?
What do you have to give them?
Your Hesson
I prayed on that day ticket. I fasted here, they get a gift sadaqa. So he's taking your Hassanal.
So when you're doing this to someone that you supposedly hate, you're giving him the most precious thing that you have.
And that is because of the great harm that this causes. You put him down. And if it comes to him, right, it will ruin relations between you forever.
And he won't be able to forgive you.
And he will be forever hurt because of these birds or words that you said about him. He said this and that about me. Maybe I am this and that he'll be suspicious of other people as well. And everybody who attended.
So you're ruining a person's Iman
are ruining your own Iman as well. And consider right when you're digesting that meat. Is it healthy meat.
So when you're engaging in that speech, you're poisoning your mind and poison in your heart and poisoning your iman and endangering your prospects when you meet Allah xuejun. Well, I have to bow to Kambalda. Right.
Now
there's part of IBA right, that is recommended. Not recommended or recommended could be but permissible, let's say permissible. What if you go to an imam or a chef and you want to consult him for a fatwa? And you say, or a judge and you say so and so wronged me, he did this and this to me, you were allowed to do this? Or if you go to someone and say so and so you know, is doing committing that sin publicly? Can you come so we can fix this? That's permissible, there are instances, right? Where a person can actually engage in what we call permissible backbiting. But it is for what a greater good,
right? And it should be practiced within limits only as much as you need it. But beyond that, it's all haram.
Now Liba is a major sin. And some of the elements said it's a minor sin, but it's fact Allahu Allah, it's a major sin. Why is it a major sin?
Because the Prophet Alayhi Salatu was Salam there's a hadith that he said that on the night of Israa
and miraj Karla morale to be a worm in the home of I feel I mean, no has yet me showing me how good you are home was so do what a home it says I passed by people who are being punished in hellfire. And they had nails made of copper. And they were ripping through the faces and chests. So I said you Bri I asked to preload Jabril. Who are those people? He said, How would I Isla de Enya Cardona, he are all in us. These are the people who are attacking people's honor.
That's that's backbiting.
So imagine how would you rip into somebody else's meat? What is the punishment on the day of judgment that you would be ripping into your own meat and just imagine how painful that is? Now with just regular nails and these in themselves would be enough, but made with copper that will dig deep into the skin and the bone.
So this tells you that this is a major or minor sin.
That's a major sin. So we need really to repent to Allah azza wa jal from such a sin and not talk about people behind their back and know that
you are sacrificing your own good deeds that you've done today or yesterday or this week, gifting it to the person that is not present.
And maybe the last thing inshallah that I'll say about that and then we'll come back to it later, but
so that I wouldn't forget it. It's
so useful point that she has one other thing mean mentioned, which is that if someone wrongs you, because this is something that actually happens a lot, if someone wrongs you, or a couple of things to mention, yeah, if somebody wrongs you, and you come back to your family or to your friend, and you just need to vent because he has to tell somebody, and you say, You know what, so and so did to me, You know what so and so said about me, and he simply can't can't leave if you don't share this. It says, Is it permissible to do this or not? Is this legal or not? So you said if you are wronged either Lolita, apparently this is permissible, if you are have been wronged. That's why he said he
used the evidence from the book of Allah Azza wa Jalla your hip hola hola. Hora de su immunol. Kohli 11 volume is Allah azza wa jal does not love, evil public speech, unless you've been wronged.
Meaning to say something bad about another publicly, unless you are what? wronged. So if somebody actually wronged you did something bad to you, it is permissible to go to a family member or to a friend. And maybe you're seeking their advice, but maybe not. You just need to tell someone about it. He says it's permissible. But just keep in mind that you don't transgress and go beyond the limits of Allah azza wa jal. So now, from this wrong, you start to suspect him doing a, b, c, and d, and you start cursing him and making dua against him beyond proportion. So understand your anger should always be in check. But you can complain, and maybe we can take as evidence for that well, lo
alum is that at one time, someone came to the Prophet alayhi salatu salam and he said, My neighbor harms me and hurts me.
This would be backbiting, right? But he's talking to who the Prophet alayhi salatu salam for advice. My neighbor does this and that to me. So the Prophet alayhi salaatu wa salaam said what? Take your furniture and put it outside your house. So he did this. So people would pass by and they say, What are you Why did you do this? Why is your furniture outside the house? It says because of my neighbor. He does this and that to me, I went to the Prophet he told me to do this. They say me Allah do this and that to your neighbor, what a terrible neighbor is the second person the third, first and fourth person until the neighbor comes to him and said, Please take her furniture back,
I'll never harm me.
Right? So he goes public, right with it. And he told other people about that injustice. So it's possible, and it's permissible, but again, be moderate in it.
The other thing insha Allah that I will mention before we adjourn is that people always ask what about backbiting? non Muslims? Is it halal or haram? Because that comes up all the time? And the answer is what? Haram?
Haram because it hurts them. And you're not allowed not allowed to hurt them. Right? If a person does a public sin, you're allowed to talk about it, or this person drinks this person, Gamble's. They're the ones who have doing this, but to kind of mock and ridicule and mentioned their physical flaws and other types of laws and make fun of them like this behind their back. You're not allowed to do this as you're not allowed to go and punch him in the face or steal his money, right? You're not allowed to attack his honor like that alone. So let me stop here in sha Allah and I'll go back to backbiting next week and I just want to give you a little bit of time for questions shall.
We a show that
men
townhome can be used.
So column can be used and different can mean different things based on the context so it could mean men or it could mean people that's what you mean. possible possible that you do this, but the that linguists would say It either means this or either means that so if it means men, it means men all over. And women are included, right in it as secondary or it means people
I'm so sorry.
authority because this is not a noun, right? However Munna means that they are actively in authority over right. And that's why they referenced calm as it's not a big deal that should concern you. Yeah. But Pomona is kind of a says that they have that authority.
Your poem could be linked to it right. So well let's keep it at it's possible
spying between people
as
well, a very sensitive question you're asking. I mean, countries can spy on each other they do that spying is allowed in Islam if the Muslims are using it right against their enemies. So that's not prohibited spying.
Which government
a Muslim government?
No, not any government. You could work for a Muslim government that is righteous. If it's spying any other No?
Haram because the they don't spy for Allah azza wa jal they spy against him.
Right?
Yeah, look, keep it at that right.
Question is if you did back by someone, how do you seek forgiveness? Do you have to take any action? Like maybe this news now, you can just put up there, it may go back to that person. You have to do anything once you set it to rectify this now um, so how do you make up for the fact that you back button someone? So if the news hasn't reached him, right? You don't want to go need to go back and do is to Halal meaning please forgive me. I said something bad about you. It's advisable that you don't do this, even though some scholars said you go ahead and do that. But it's advisable that you don't do that simply because you're going to open a can of worms then. And he will ask what and what
He said he'll be curious about it. And he may never actually forgive you because of it. So not a lot of people are actually very forgiving all of us, right? So it's best that you do what you ask Allah for forgiveness, repent from such a thing, go back in the same setting among the same people retract, praise that person.
Make dua for him give sadaqa on his behalf, that is the best thing to do. If the news has reached him, then you need to go to him and apologize. Because now the damage has been done. So you need to go back there. Apologize, seek his forgiveness, see whatever retribution is asking for see if there's something that you could offer something. And again, do the other things that we did as well. If it hasn't yet, right hasn't yet, go and ask the people who are around and heard all of that. I repented from this, I think that it is haram please don't spread this and hope for the best insha Allah that it doesn't reach Malawi.
So what's the difference between?
It's a very good question. I don't know what the difference is because of the question your question, what is the difference between a Rajshree dune and motor do? I don't know. And I'll try to find out and shall buy Yeah.
Many people will say, I'm speaking about someone. It's true. What I'm saying.
That's good. Let's talk about this next week. Insha Allah because we will talk we'll come back to backbiting again, that's one
problem that
was going on. And we surely talked about
this pattern was wrong
to say that above the corner
now, so you're talking about, you could be discussing a problem that could happen back home, and you're referencing guilty parties who did this? And they did this and they did Das, and they're responsible for this family feuds and what have you, right? So is it permissible or it is not, if you want, the safest is to just stop and refrain from all of this. Because Allah as it is going to ask you about all these statements that you're saying, are the accurate or the inaccurate? Is this injustice or is it not? Do you know what you're talking about? Or is this what one we should suspect that it is but we lose no evidence? Because it's easy to slip from what you know into what you do
not know. Especially if you have anger towards someone start to believe everything that is being said about them. So, before you mentioned anything, be sure that it is true, first of all, second that there is benefit in that
I mentioned but if you're just simply casually talking about it and it's serving no purpose, but at that you refrain and not engage in it. Right? So that's why we said when backbiting becomes permissible it is serving a purpose like receiving advice or removing harm but if there is no such fruit from that conversation you don't engage in it
sometimes
that's
right
So explain that to me a little bit so there are online
subjects
you do your home
yeah
so a video camera right that is watching them that's that's bad. That's bad as well because now you've taught them that only to do what is right if someone is watching them. So that's bad. If you want to have a camera you let them know that there is a camera so they don't feel that they're being monitored. Right? Right that though somebody suspects them there's a camera here so No, it says it's like you're sitting and watching them they're aware that you're watching so just make them aware but not don't do it in a sneaky way. Okay, and make it be transparent to a lawyer. That's best lawyer. Don't behind you.
While they will lie to you Allah No.
I am Zack Allah here. So that I in Surah Nisa, where Allah azza wa jal promises the one who kills a Muslim intentionally that he has the curse of Allah and His anger, and he won't be in hellfire forever. So when you hear it, you think what? That's it, he became a disbeliever by that, but this idea, when surah Taha gerat tells us what Allah azza wa jal meant in that, which is that his severe punishment is very severe, that he had committed something that he would deserve all of that from Allah azza wa jal, but he that does not take him out of Islam, that he is still a Muslim, and that he is still a Mormon. So the practice of the Sahaba of the Prophet Alayhi Salatu was Salam right?
tells us this conclusively, that when they fought with each other, and they were deaths and killings, when that happened, they did not consider any of the warring parties to be disbelievers because of that. So that is just duck legal. At a bar I mean, Allah azza wa jal Danita legal.
La pub. Well, I can now Yeah, and ecoflo
I don't know if we have time it let me see. Okay. Yeah.
That's that's, that's an example of somebody inquires about a marriage prospect.
You have to be honest.
No, no, no, he's not suitable. Why? This, this, this this? So the Prophet alayhi salatu. Salam, he did that. Exactly. So two people proposed to a woman. And he said, A man, what are we here to look on lamb Allah Allahu
Bucha, fillet at all. So Allah articlea. So they said, two people propose two races and while we doesn't have money, and so on, so for instance, you know, he always has a stick with him. Either. he interprets that as he was traveling, or he always hits with the stick, but marry so and so. to liken this over to Sam and Mary, who, Sam. So you have to be really honest. And it's important to be really honest, don't be so pious at that moment and say, no, no, no, I can't say anything bad. You have to be honest, and say suitable, unsuitable. Tell them why he's unsuitable enough that they know that this is not a good choice.
Because I can lie. So stop here, shall Okay. One more thing.
When it comes to like, practically as well, these days, one of the areas where discrimination happens maybe as a father, I have a daughter and someone from another culture.
marry my daughter, I might say, knowing how I brought up my child. I don't believe that at all.
It's a good question. I'll give you a very brief answer, but I neither
Want to give it more attention in sha Allah next week, so remind me of it in sha Allah.
Cultural differences may matter, or may not matter, right? So cultural differences sometimes are important. And if you want to reject someone because of a different culture where you know that the clash of cultures is going to affect the marriage, and it's suitable actually not to marry from a different culture and I will explain it in sha Allah later. So sometimes, right, you know, away with culture, it really doesn't matter. But for some people, you know that if they're going to marry from this culture, they're going to end up divorcing because there's going to be a clash. If that's the case, they shouldn't get married. It's like a lion Subhanak over him. They should have died. I
learned this stuff.