Depression Causes, Treatment, & Prevention #01

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Scylla one hamdu lillah wa Salatu was Salam ala Rasulillah here Allah, Allah, he was so happy he was Salam. Salam Alaikum Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuh ask Allah but Allah mean or Hama Rahi mean to bless us with His mercy, to heal our hearts and bodies and to bring him closer to him. subhanho wa Taala

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as announced, this series in sha Allah will focus on depression. What is it?

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Why does it happen? And how can we treat it.

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And as much as we can insha Allah in this series, not gonna make it a technical theoretical discussion of depression, because in my mind, the immediate audience of this series are those who are struggling with depression at this moment,

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or they have loved ones who are struggling with depression. So a technical discussion is not going to be the things that they're going to be looking for that we are looking for a technical or abstract discussion, inshallah we'll be delayed to another course that will offer insha Allah later on for an in depth analysis of depression. But right now, we want to know what is depression and how we can fix it in sha Allah a bit Alameen. So this is the purpose of this series, and I hope in sha Allah that you would find it useful. The first question that we want to ask ourselves is, am I depressed?

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As someone who's going through something at this moment, or you know, somebody else who's going through it? And you wonder, are they depressed? Am I depressed? What is the definition of depression? And to be honest with you, right, it's not so easy to define depression. I know, because trying to box in human emotions and reaction and psychology is very complicated, and difficult. Humans are far more complicated psychologically than they are biologically. And there are problems with definitions anyway. But that is a technical discussion. So we're not going to go into that. But for our purposes today, if we want to define depression,

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we'll define it as prolonged state of sadness and loss of hope that affects a person's life negatively. A prolonged state of sadness, right? So we're not talking here about somebody who wakes up and they feel sad for a day, and then it goes away. They feel down for a couple of days, and then it goes away. We're talking about something that is prolonged. And psychiatrist or psychologist, some of them, they come up with a period of two weeks, 14 days consecutively, where you're having that feeling. Well, that's convention. But what I think is the most defining feature of depression, when someone is actually suffering languishing under the threat of depression is loss of hope, and

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how that affects the rest of their life.

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So if there is hope, there is no depression.

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And when you start losing hope, that whatever situation you're in, whatever feeling you have, you lose hope that that is gonna go away. That is a sign of depression plus, also, it affects the rest of your life. So what does it affect it affects the quality of your life, you don't enjoy food anymore. You can't sleep, or you oversleep,

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your relationship suffers, your work suffers, your study suffers.

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You basically don't have a zest or a desire for life anymore. When that happens, and your quality of life degrades because of that feeling. Then we can say and then we say it's consistent and for a long time, we can say that this is depression

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and

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an image inshallah that could may help us understand what it feels like is it's like falling into a pit, like a deep hole, and it's dark and it's black. And you look for an exit and sometimes you want to escape.

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But you don't find an exit you don't find an escape. You don't know how to exit that feeling. You feel trapped.

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And sometimes in some people they even

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lose hope that there's ever an exit, that there's ever an escape.

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That's what depression feels like you're in this pit, and it's dark, and you're alone. And you don't know how to escape you want to, but you don't know how to escape.

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And eventually, maybe you even give up on the idea that there's even a way out. So you just sit

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in despair.

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And that is why it's important to talk about depression, why talk about it? Is it important to talk about depression? Well, it seems that a lot more people are struggling with depression these days. And when we go and follow through the causes, we'll understand why that's the case. I mean, if we understand depression, as human emotions and reactions to things that are happening to us, we can see that many people throughout history must have experienced or understood what depression was, like, say, remember a story that I read, and this is about the Khalifa, and who may have Khalifa, you know, from the Omiya period.

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And, you know, just I'm telling you, the, you know, recounting the stories to understand that it happens, and it could happen, and this is a Khalifa,

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male, strong, so you understand what it takes to be a Khalifa and to remain a Caylus. You have to be a strong man. So anyway, his beloved, died in his palace.

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And he couldn't take that he couldn't, you know, tolerate or understand or process the fact that she is gone. So he would not bury her.

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And he didn't let anybody touch her. No one can, you know, wash her shroud her and take her and bury, he kept her in the palace. And he stayed in the palace, and he did not leave.

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And then elders from his family came to him and they talked to him and they said, listen, she's not here anymore. The body is here, but that is just a shell, the soul is somewhere else.

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And honoring the dead, if you really love her, honoring the debt is to bury them. So allow her to be buried, and you will meet her again. And, and they continue to counsel him until he decided to let them bury her. And he regained his

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function and normality. But such a story tells you that these things happen. And they could happen to strong men and to strong woman.

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So it happens and it's a reality. But there's more of it today, as we said, and

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because we're struggling with it. And as we are struggling with it, we don't know what to do with it.

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Where do we go with our problems? Where do we go to seek counseling, who can help us with that. And there's also a stigma associated with it in some places, and in some countries. So if you tell someone, or if you go to a therapist, in some places, or if some people know about it, it means that there's something wrong with you.

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Something fundamentally is wrong with you. So you hide it, and you continue to struggle alone and in silence, and that only exasperate and worsens the situation.

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So we need to remove that stigma. And by talking about it in sha Allah, we remove the stigma, but we also tell each other, how we can overcome this, this ordeal, or this state of mind that overtakes us and could actually paralyze us.

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And another thing in sha Allah is to keep in mind, and this is really important, even when you find a therapist, and there's not a lot of them anyway. But even if you find a therapist, a lot of their work is not grounded on belief in Allah as origin and on belief in the unseen.

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So you may go to a therapist,

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and they may be able to help partially.

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But still, because Allah is not part of whatever they're doing, and it's not part of their therapy, it still will be lacking, fundamentally lacking something important. And it's actually could misguide eventually. So if you're like, actually, and this is a quick advice, if you're going to find a therapist for your condition, make sure that you find someone who's at least compatible with your Islamic beliefs and best that they be Muslim who are practicing Muslims. So they have an understanding of how to treat this condition but at the same time, understand Allah xojo And what he loves and what he hates, and they can present that to you. That's

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really important to keep in mind. But there's a lot, not a lot of those available. So we need to learn also for ourselves how to deal with this thing.

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So,

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as I said, we need to talk about it in order to remove the stigma and to deal with it. And also, we need to understand an important thing.

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Do believers suffer from depression?

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The Mormon, the Muslim? Do we suffer from depression or not? Is it a lack of faith? When I'm depressed?

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So let's approach this question in the following way. Let's ask the following question.

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Do Healthy People get sick? Physically? Do Healthy People get sick? And the answer is yes, obviously. Okay, when do we get sick before healthy when do we get sick is we get sick when whenever, whatever the illness is, when it overwhelms us, our defenses, our immune system, when it overwhelms us, we become sick.

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That's a definite definition, right? In a very simplistic way, the definition of physical illness, it overwhelms us, we can't fight it off. And so we become sick, right? viral infection, bacterial infection, whatever it is.

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Depression is similar to that.

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That is, all of us have this reservoir of email, like this pool of email, a bank of email.

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But also our email goes up. And it goes down, goes up, and it goes down. And as we live, we are encountering daily, the whispers of the ShaVonne. stressors of life. Right? Worry, sadness, the daily grind, just basic that daily the basic daily grind, and it affects us and it weighs us down. Now,

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if our Eman is high, we can deal with all of that. And we'll be okay. Inshallah. It's a struggle, but we can deal and we can try it.

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But our email is not always high.

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Isn't that the case, sometimes many times we are weak, or many times our Eman is lacking.

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And so what happens is that if these things happen if all of these things combined, plus a trauma hits us at a low point when our Eman is weak, it will affect us.

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And it will seep into Oregon to our hearts and it will enter our minds.

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And we will be depressed or depression may start the onset of depression. Now if we catch ourselves at that moment, and increase our email, who really watchful maybe we'll be able to overcome that. But sometime the trauma is too strong. The conditions are too negative. And also what happens is even as believers Subhanallah all of us on many of us, so I don't generalize, let's at least say many of us. We have things that we have left unresolved things from our past things in our present negative feelings about ourselves, about our abilities, about our mistakes in the past that we really haven't dealt with. But we push them to the side and we continue to live. When something bad

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happens. These things tend to resurface all the doubts, all that misgivings all that Regrets of the Past they tend to resurface. So if you have those things resurfacing, plus the trauma plus negative daily influences, you could actually become depressed.

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So

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we say yes, I believe her can get depressed, and will understand insha Allah shortly depression, that it's an affliction. But I believe we can get depressed. And it is our responsibility in sha Allah when we see someone depressed, to assist not to condemn. Like if I tell somebody who's depressed and this is a habit that some people have, when they see somebody depressed, they say, oh, it's because of your sin that you're depressed. It's because of your lack of Eman that you're depressed is because you're not close to Allah that you are depressed. When we say these things, we're blaming the victim at a time when they are the weakest. And this is really very unhelpful

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because they already have negative feelings about

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themselves. So I go and beat them down and say it's because of you that you're feeling bad. They'll take that they will believe it, and they will be even more depressed because of it. So I'm not really helping when I'm saying these things, am I intending this as an advice or condemnation they need, if I'm if I'm depressed, I need your sympathy, not your condemnation. I need your assistance, not to be braided.

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So keep that in mind. Insha Allah when you're talking or approaching someone who is depressed, how you talk to them, is really important. And you have to be very sensitive. Also, right? When we see someone who's depressed, and we say, just read the Quran, and it will go away, just make thicker and it will go away.

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We have to understand on one point, or one on one hand,

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that yes, the Quran and thicker is a cure. And we'll be talking about this insha Allah in the next session next week, inshallah.

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But at the same time, right, and offhand advice, like this may not be very helpful, because you're talking to someone who, if they're actually depressed, it'd be very difficult for them to do anything.

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To open the Quran and read will be very difficult for them. They may not believe that anything will be helpful. Right? And even you don't know how they will process reading the Quran. So they need more assistance than an offhand remark like that. Just simply read and you will be okay. In one sense, it's true in another sense that you need a lot more than this, right? But yes, believers do get depressed. Why? Because as I said, depression is an affliction. It's a test, we get tested physically, right.

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We get tested physically, by losing loved ones, by losing money, by physical failures in life. That's a physical test. But we also get tested, emotionally and psychologically.

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And maybe a lot of us are not aware of that. That is when you become sad.

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That is a test that's hardship. That's an affliction that Allah Azzawajal rewards you for. If you are patient, when you become anxious about the future over your kids about your job, that also is a state of mind and emotion that you have that Allah will reward you for. And the Hadith of the Prophet sallallahu Sallam is clear about that, and we'll talk about that insha Allah later, we just will share with you something beautiful, that Sophia Muthoni said just again to affirm that this is an affliction.

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So he said, Sophia under 30 He's a scholar, a great Muslim scholar, and he had seen many of the tabby

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What did he say Rahim? Allah, He said by Naga now we have heard Allahu Allah

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and XL Amaya due to moving on Hassan RT if you say 30 He Oh multi Yama and have more than a dozen. He says we have heard Allah knows best that most of the good deeds that a believer find on the Day of Judgment in their book, his sorrow and anxiety or worry, sorrow and worry.

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That is He saying Rahim Allah that a lot of people when they will see Allah as though did on the day of judgment, and they will be handed their book and they open their book, many of their has an ad and he's saying for some most of their husband, that will be what, that they were sad and worried, sad and worried, sad and worried meaning that they got afflicted with all of this. They got tested with all of that. But each moment like that, each hour like that is good deeds with Allah xojo and takes away your sins, and that's dramatically will alter your understanding of depression or psychological anguish. It's not that you're being punished. It's not that you're necessarily not

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that you're being hated on Allah as if it had left you and abandoned. You know, this is a test. And the source of that test will understand that the source of that test many times is the is the shape fun. We'll talk about this in sha Allah next time.

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To fundamentally understand how to find it, you have to understand the causes, isn't it? So you want to understand that it's an affliction, you understand it also to be a way where Allah Azza did want you to come closer to him and taste the sweetness of Eman because when you are struggling with something you turn to Allah. Sometimes this is physical. And sometimes this is what psychological and emotional. So when you're worried and when you're sad, this is a way for you to come back.

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Allah azza wa jal, right.

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And

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one story remember one story that it's in the Hadith, again, again, to reinforce the fact that it's happened to people before, and they were pious,

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and how they dealt with it. There's a story and as I said, it's in a hadith and you'll find it. And this is love the book, this is love my book, this is love. And it's really I love that story, because it just shows you different aspects of the Sahaba of the prophets a lot. He was in them, that stories what, there was a man.

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And he used to attend the Halacha of the prophets of Allah, he was sitting next to the prophet who would have a Helicon, he would teach, and the Prophet and that man would frequent it would, you know, continuously be present in the hallowed halls, the prophet,

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and this man had a young boy that he loved immensely. And that boy would come to the Halaqa would hug his father from behind. It says that in the Hadith, he would hug his father from behind fathers sitting, facing the prophet, He would hug him from behind. And then he that that man would carry that boy, sit him in his lap, kiss him and hold him, while the prophets lollipops. And let me speak in giving the Halaqa a scene you probably have seen in the messages or run relatives, but this happened in the hands of the Prophet around him. So the Latinos and

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after some time, the prophet had noticed that this man stopped coming

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to the Halacha. So he asked the rest of the Sahaba what happened to that man? Who had this son come to the Halacha? And they said, Oh, Prophet of Allah, you do? No, no. He said, No. He said, he lost his son.

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So he's just sitting home, he lost his son, he's just sitting home.

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He said, He didn't leave his house.

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And before that, right before that, the Prophet saw you cinnamon asked him, just I want you to just understand the attachment he had to that boy, the prophet had asked him, he said, Do you love him? Do you love that boy? He knows, of course, that He loves them. And he says, Do you love him? He said, Oh prophet of Allah. May Allah love you as much as I love that boy.

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And this is how intense his love for his boy was. May Allah love you, as much as they love this boy, this is like the dearest thing that he had in his life. So when he lost him, he just stayed home, even didn't come to the hell of the prophets of Allah, Allah send them there was that difficult for him?

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So the Prophet sallallahu Sallam goes to him.

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And he says, oh, so and so he consoled him and all of that.

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And he says,

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Choose which which which would you choose that he would still be alive with you this boy that you love so much, that he would still be alive with you right now. Or that when you die and you go to the hereafter, you'll find him standing at the door of Jannah, waiting for you to hold you by your hand, so that he will take you into Jannah so that both of you will be in it? Which one would you would want for yourself?

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He said, Oh prophets of Allah, that he would be waiting for me and takes me by a hand into Jenna, I prefer that. He says, Well, that is for you. You got it.

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Another Sahabi was listening. And he said, All prophets of Allah is that only for him or for all of us. He says all of you.

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He says all of you

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that and I'm not going to get into solutions of you know how to treat depression. But that

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is really significant.

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That is really powerful.

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So if you believe, right, if you believe that there's something good that's going to come out of any affliction that you face, you'll be able to triumph and overcome by the will of Allah as to even the loss of someone that is due to you as their man losing his son.

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But he had Eman.

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And of course, he needed that support, he needed that push because even with his email and even being as a hobby, it affected him. So it can Subhan Allah with as much email that we have Subhanallah you never know something like this could happen. And it could affect us in ways that we did not expect. So you ask Allah as for his protection, and for safety,

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but just know that every hardship,

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physical emotional, that you go through, is a test from Allah so that including when you feel down and depressed, it's a test, understand it as such, and we need insha Allah to treat it as such. Now, let me talk in sha Allah about the causes of depression. And why talking about causes is important because when you understand

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Cause we're planting the seeds for solutions, even though we're not talking about solutions today, that's for next week. But when you understand the cause you understand the seeds of solutions, right? So let's understand the causes. And I'll try in sha Allah to include as many as I can. I'm going to divide them into general causes that affect everybody ways. Everybody down, everybody without exception, general ones, and then more specific ones. So the general ones, modernization, and you're going to tell me Oh, my God, this is getting complicated. No, not really. What I mean by that is, the more modern or modernized a city or a state is, the more likely that it will be

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depressed. And there are studies correlating modernization with increased risk for depression. Now, why does this happen? So that we're, you know,

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talking about something concrete, why is this happening? Because when you modernize, what do you have, you have weaker social connections, we get separated, the more modern a country is, we get separated into smaller apartments away from our parents, grandparents, children, uncles, cousins, we don't connect with each other, we don't even know our neighbors. So when you don't have social connections, you don't talk to other people. You didn't have their support, you feel lonely, or because of it. And if you remember, and we all remember, being trapped during lockdown in our apartments, it got us more depressed, because we couldn't talk to people communicate with them. So

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the more that you modernize, the less that you connect with people. So it does increase your risk for depression, we need to talk to people and we need they need their support. Also, in a more modernized context, what happened is that more competition, more pressure, you need to earn more, you need to accomplish more commuting, securing schools for your children worrying about their future, etc, etc. So there's more pressure to earn and to accumulate. And as societies modernize.

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There's also comparisons, competition and comparisons, especially with social media. I mean, there are studies that shows that the more that you spend time on social media, the more that you feel depressed.

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But even without that, the more that you compare yourself, in a materialistic modernized setting, the more that you compare yourself to other people, the more depressed that you feel. So if, if there's this pressure on you to achieve, and you look at your neighbor, you look at a relative and they have more than you, it makes you depressed.

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If you're if there's pressure on you to get promoted, to be advanced in your career, look at somebody else who achieved more, you'll be depressed, comparisons, and materialistic living makes us all all of us, no exception, all of us more likely to be depressed.

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Strangely, also right kind of modernity. Also what it did is that it gave us more free time. There's some of us are suffering, because we don't have free time. Some of us are suffering because we have a lot of it. And when you have a lot of free time,

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and you don't know what to do with it, you feel empty, you feel without a goal. You feel that there is no meaning in it. So especially with the young, especially with the young, if you find yourself depressed, look at your life and see, do you have goals in it? Is there any meaning in it? Or do you just simply have a lot of time that you waste a lot of free time that you waste, that's also another reason. So if there are lack of goals, or meaning in life, that increases the risk of feeling depressed.

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Luxury and lack of a challenge, if you live a life where you're not challenged, if you have everything that you have, then your question is what's left.

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So lack of a challenge, you always need something to challenge you always need a goal. So if Modern society has created a context where we're not challenged anymore, then also we're more likely to be depressed.

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You may be aware of this or not this again, this is general we're gonna go to the specific insha Allah the general conditions, bad diet.

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Actually, eating unhealthy food can increase your risk for depression.

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And there's a field of study that is called nutritional psychiatry, where you will eat healthy to feel better.

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Now you're saying when why are we talking about these

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Things You know, because all of these factors, right when they come together, even if this is a small thing, when they come together, they can increase the chances of your night being depressed. So you want to stack the odds for us, not against us.

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So I want to know in sha Allah all the causes all the conditions that can promote depression, so I would avoid them. So diet also could play a factor

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we Inshallah, so keep that in mind. And when we're going to be talking about solutions, we'll also talk about that as well. Certain sedentary lifestyle and lack of exercise. So modern society, we're all in indoors in cubicles, we don't move, we don't exercise. What does that have to do with feeling better? Or what does that have to do with feeling depressed? Have you exercised or engaged in physical activity and after that felt better?

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If so, this is because the body releases neurotransmitters, endorphins,

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dopamine and serotonin.

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And when that happens, you feel better.

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And when you don't, you don't get that secretion, not as much of it. So we're all sitting, you know, I mean, behind, you know, behind desks in front of computers with a move, we don't exercise. So that also increases our factor, or the chances of getting depressed. And also we're not exposed to the sun as much.

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And I know this may seem like a tiny factor. But for some people, it's not. You're aware of the seasonal affective disorder.

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Where there are some people actually when at fault comes on winter comes, they feel more depressed. Okay? You feel more depressed, because the sun is not out there.

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And again, it has to do with hormones in the body and lack of balance melatonin serotonin. So it affects your mood, when you're not exposed to the sun as much when you spend a lot of time indoors versus outdoors. So this is what the general factors, let's talk about some specific factors, or not before before, I'm sorry, before the specific factors, one important general factor in modern society that leads to increase in depression and this is really important, it is lack of religion in society.

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When you take religion out,

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right, what do you take God, Allah Azza did out of society, what happens to society is that it suffers. First there is lack of Baraka.

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You take ala xojo, out of anything,

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right? And replace it with materialism and entertainment, and that's it. So modern society, popular culture is God There is Allah azza wa jal there is he discussed do we remember him? When we are no, engage in popular culture when we talk about it? When we hear it when we receive it? No, on social media? No. So when you take from modern society, you think God, you take Allah azza wa jal out and replace it with commercialism. What happens? There's no Baraka anymore, and you take a buck out of society, what do you get, you get

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political problems, you get economic problems, social problems, but also psychological and emotional problems, more depression in that society, because Allah associate is not in it. And also when you remove a lot, God, from the center of a society, what happens

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there is no reference. And there is no meaning anymore.

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That is, I don't, um, don't remember any more I meaning in my life, you've taken meaning out of it. If I suffer, I don't see any meaning in that suffering. There's nothing to anchor me and society, in anything that is stable.

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So nothing reminds you of Allah as nothing reminds me that if I lose something, I'll gain it back. When I meet him, Subhana Allah to Allah, that I will be compensated. Nothing reminds me to be patient, nothing consoles me completely taken ala out, and you've left me to myself. And if you leave us to ourselves, we just simply collapse. That's why there's a greater prevalence of depression in these days compared to the past.

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People in the past they got sad, they got depressed, but not in a similar frequency of us today. Why? Because we've taken Allah as it is out of our societies. We don't talk about and we don't see

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III

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evidence of Allah's power and we don't talk about Allah azza wa jal, so we are left to ourselves, we rely on ourselves. And that is a disaster.

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So, let's talk in sha Allah

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about specific causes,

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specific causes, like what some of these

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causes will read, or you will think, think of them as examples.

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Because I wanted to include as many of them as possible so that if a person is going through something, they can find it, they can identify with something that I've said here, you can they can say, Yeah, this is this is what I'm feeling this is the cause right here, I can, I can I hear myself in what you're saying, This is what I'm hoping. So trauma, a specific trauma that has happened to you and me, like loss of a loved one,

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or a perceived failure.

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And you can process each, you lose someone and you can process you can't handle the fact that you lost them, or you failed in something and you can't or you think that you failed in something and you can't process the fact that you failed. And as we said, it just triggers other things that have been a latent, hidden, self doubt, self loathing, something that you haven't processed, and it all comes to the surface. So trauma becomes like a trigger. And there's like this explosion of negativity, and then you just, there's an onset of depression. So that is one possibility. Separation from loved ones, and you cannot connect with them be close to them. And the more that

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this happens, the more that persists, the more depressed that you feel.

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Fewer social connections, that if you don't have friends around, this is something that takes a while for it to develop. You don't have friends, you don't have family, you retreat into your own self. And you will rely on what they call low return activities. Like just simply sitting and watching TV, disconnecting from everybody else, sitting and going online, watching YouTube videos, or being on social media, it doesn't give you a lot in return. It's not just really not, it's not really like talking to a living, breathing human being interacting with them. So you retreat into that, and you diminish because of it. And then that eventually could lead to depression. So

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possibility, feeling trapped, because you're in a job and you hate that job. And it's so unfulfilling. And you feel that this is your life now. And it lacks meaning, or feeling trapped in a relationship, whatever that relationship may be. And again, you feel that there's no way out.

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And it's just, it just sucks out the meaning and joy out of your life. And again, remember that, what I believe to be the defining feature of depression is lack of hope. So just connect all these things to lack of hope, whatever a person is experiencing, it's triggering lack of hope that this is it, and I cannot escape it. So

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being trapped in a relationship, that's a possibility. I find being trapped because of financial debt. And there is no escape. That could cause depression as well.

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Or basically the daily grind.

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Waking up in the morning, going to work coming back eating dinner, sleeping, repeat, repeat. And you're slowly starting to feel that this is life and I'm just not finding joy in life anymore. That's a possibility. Right? So it's not always something dramatic. That happens. Sometimes it sneaks up on you and you don't feel it coming.

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Sometimes it's feeling overwhelmed, new responsibilities, promotion, that's that can be a cause of anxiety for some people.

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Promotions, baby is on the way and you don't feel ill prepared for all of that. So you could be depressed, especially when you think that you're not ready for it. And you doubt your own abilities. You could be depressed because of all of that. As we said loss of hope in the future.

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It's just always going to be a bitter it's always going to be dark and nothing I can do will change it and that is the dominant feeling and you can't shake it off.

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You can't escape it.

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general feeling of emptiness right

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Basically that nothing I do,

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matters, and nothing I do, or change my reality or the future or etc, etc, there is no purpose and there is no goal and you can't find anything to latch on,

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latch on to, to hold on to say that you would find meaning in life.

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If you find it unsatisfying, and and meaningful, that is

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terrible, and that is something that you know, actually is very depressing, right.

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And you find that, you know, I mean,

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again, not to generalize, but you find it sometimes with those who are younger. And sometimes those who are older law,

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negative thoughts about yourself, negative thoughts about yourself that you have not been able to process you, they haven't been able to push your way. And this could be

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coming or generating from low self esteem, from bad past experiences, from fear of failure, or simply whispers of the Shavon and whispers of the Shavon are important in generating these negative thoughts about yourself, and about your reality and about your future. And we will be in Sharla addressing that, the source and how to deal with them in sha Allah next week. But when you recognize that these negative thoughts are either generated by the whispers of the shaitaan, or amplified by the shaitaan, you begin to understand the way to treat them and to counter them. Right.

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And finally, the last one that I have is genetic disposition. It's a possibility

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that if it runs in the family,

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that you may be more disposed to it. Now, it doesn't mean but what does it mean runs in the family means that you find out that maybe some members of your family are depressed, parents, grandparents, uncles, cousins, you find it that it's around you, more so in your family than other families. It could be

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okay, it's not certain, but it could be that it trends more in your family than in other families possibility. But that does not mean that you have to have it does not mean that you are more that your will be depressed, it may mean 100 line may, it may mean that you're more likely you're predisposed to it than more than other people but you may never be depressed.

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Because you can insha Allah monitor your mood, your condition, your Eman, your thoughts about yourself your thoughts about the future and your

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your relationship with Allah azza wa jal and avoid all of that it's possible.

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So this is what I have done. This is what I wanted to say for today, I only wanted to talk about

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defining what depression is, and the causes of depression. Now a couple of things. Inshallah, I want to say before we conclude, I do want to receive your questions, insha Allah, but I'm not going to answer your questions. Now.

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What I want to do with these questions, and I will tell you where to send your questions when I want to do with these questions is collect all of them

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and help inshallah those questions will help me fashion and design next week's lecture and the one that will fall.

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And I don't want to answer your questions right now. Because also, I may be answering them automatically next week.

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So let's just wait as these lessons developed, but I do want to receive them if you have them. I do want to receive them. where to send your questions in sha Allah send your questions. First of all, you can send it to an email, I suppose did it on the left chat on YouTube, healing and spirituality [email protected]

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Healing, and [email protected] you can email it there, the South that's one

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path of sending your question. The other one is YouTube after this

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video is published in sha Allah in the comment section, write your questions.

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And the comment section not in the live chat but in the comment section. Write your questions, or of course on Facebook. What I'll do in sha Allah is that I will collect all of these questions. The ones that will be answered automatically in sha Allah in the lecture I will not going to obviously I'm not going to spend time answering them at the conclusion, but I will dedicate Inshallah, if we have them. I will dedicate a time to answering all of your questions at the end.

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And of our sessions, so the plan in sha Allah is to have three sessions. So we did the first one, by the Grace of Allah azza wa jal Hamdulillah. Will Allah mean handed Kathy on EVA Mobarak and fee because I wanted to do this for a long time. And I hope that you found it helpful. And if you did, please share it, especially with someone that you think is going to benefit from it, someone who needs it. Next week in sha Allah will talk about treatment.

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Okay, based on the causes, we'll start talking about the treatment in sha Allah. And then afterwards we'll be talking about prevention and maintenance, how to prevent

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depression, and how to maintain a state where you insha Allah will not be depressed if you actually were depressed before. So again, inshallah I do want to receive your questions, email them. YouTube comments are all on Facebook, inshallah will collect all of them. It will help me design next week's lecture but also in sha Allah, whatever ones need to be answered at the conclusion, I'll answer them in sha Allah the last session we will have radical lofi come to Xochimilco Hey Emma, I wanted it actually to be 45 minutes and have did not allow me to so that it's only 45 minutes because I did not want this to be too heavy. But anyway,

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Zakouma La Jolla for joining me today just like going to law hayleigh for the questions if you have asked questions, and may Allah Azzawajal continue to protect you all, from all harm in this dunya and in the US. And may Allah as Odin if he decides to test us we ask him Subhana work that are beyond me, to give us the patience and wisdom to overcome that test and make that test a purification for us from every sin and elevation of rank. And if anyone is depressed at this moment or struggling with it, or knows someone who is struggling with it, let's all make dua for all of them and for ourselves era Valhalla mean, we ask that you cure everyone from any illness that

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they're struggling with at this moment, whether it is psychological, emotional or physical. So as you know, Bella Alameen you're a sheffey and that and the more I thought comes from you, your hammer, I mean, heal everyone, heal them, heal us all mentally, physically, emotionally, and relieve any hardship that we are going through and take depression and take anxiety and take pain out of our life. You're humble and me and if we're struggling with anything, make it elevation for us on the Day of Judgment, make it elevation us and take us to the highest levels of Jenna menial hammer I mean, Baraka lofi cul de sac on the law hailer we'll see you next week we're gonna be talking about

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solutions for depression being the law but I mean, at the same time in sha Allah of the same platform BarakAllahu fie come to circum lo hara Subhanak alumna we'll be handing a shadow I know in the in the star who will go up to boiling will have the name of Bill Alameen Salaam Alaikum Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuh