Akram Nadwi – Weekly Q&A 14-11-2024
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The Q&A session discusses the importance of privacy and avoiding sexual behavior in marriage, while also addressing the negative impact of praying for the well-being of others. The speakers stress the importance of men and women in praying for their couples and the potential for them to become rich and control the world. They also touch on the importance of affording couples, providing accommodation, and praying for their couples. The segment ends with a mention of a book and the importance of men and women in praying for their couples.
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Bismillah walhamdulillah wassalatu wassalamu ala rasoolillah assalamu alaykum
wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh everyone and welcome back
to another ASI Q&A session with Sheikh
Akram Nadwi on every Thursday 6 p.m
GMT without further ado let's begin taking questions
from the question box if anyone has any
questions please do ask them in the question
box and we'll ask the sheikh your question
inshallah so sheikh the first question we have
is by Junaid who asks a Muslim leaves
Islam intentionally is it sufficient for him to
say the shahada to come back or is
repentance mandatory if he says the shahada and
believes in it but doesn't repent will he
be a Muslim okay yeah you know shahada
when people declare shahada that there's no one
to be worshipped other than Allah and the
Prophet Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam is the
messenger we are going to follow him in
the path of the ibadah so that itself
is repentance because you know you basically you
demolish all the kufr and signs of the
kufr and there are that Islam demolishes whatever
has been before it so whenever people in
terms of Islam by shahada or by the
kalima of la ilaha illallah they intend to
Islam and also all their past sins are
forgiven the next question is by Musa who
asks is it authentic that Shifa bint Abdullah
was in charge of the markets in Basra
there were people who claimed that the isnad
of this is say of this saying is
weak and that her sons also said this
report is fake Shifa bint Abdullah was you
know in charge of the market in Medina
not Basra in the city of the Prophet
sallallahu alayhi wa sallam she was from the
city and she was a noble lady related
to Umar ibn Khattab she from the same
family both are from same family she was
clever she was so clever that even the
Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam asked her to
teach his wife hafsa writing so Shifa bint
Abdullah was quite learned so there's no reason
really to refute this one and as we
know that historical reports they are not you
know as strong as the hadith if you
have used the same measure for the history
then not only history even the seerah of
the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam all the
events they will fall apart nothing will exist
really except what is Sahih Bukhari Sahih Muslim
so the way is that if there's nothing
really contradict it you know and so the
you know that is important if something contradicts
it is stronger yeah then we'll follow that
and I don't think her son ever said
something like that then where is this report
because I wrote a biography of Shifa in
detail but I never came across that her
son you know said that she was not
in charge of this of the market so
it was a market of Medina not the
Basra the next question is by Rayaz who
asks what is Islam's take on marrying a
Christian girl in a non-Muslim country you
know there are people who give fatwa that
you can marry but I don't really not
only me there are few other people we
don't approve that reason is Muslim men start
marrying a Christian and Jewish girls so what
will happen for Muslim women who they're going
to marry you know if there will be
some women left without marriage we can't you
can't give fatwa that they can marry Christian
or non-Muslim men so this is a
very important second thing is you know in
a Muslim country the laws used to be
that when the children are born they follow
the religion of their father not the mother
so if somebody marries a Christian lady more
likely she'll become Muslim anyway because she's under
Muslim influence but she remains that her children
will be Muslims and that was a good
way in Islam earlier Islam to make people
to come to Islam because when you marry
Christian woman then you come in contact with
her family her father her mother her brothers
and sisters all relative so they know Islam
and sooner or later they become Muslim so
that was very good thing to do but
now you know what is we fear that
a Muslim men marry Christian women she's going
to influence them and the children will be
influenced by the law she can claim the
children so that why actually we don't allow
Muslim men to marry Christian or Jewish women.
Jazakallah Khairan Sheikh.
The next question is by Fareeha who asks
I always worry about how I will die
even if I'm diagnosed with a small infection
I'm like I might die now it's affecting
my mental peace how should I have good
hope in Allah?
You know fearing the death and keeping in
mind is very important actually I myself have
you know sometime I used to be very
very fearful of the death now it is
not so strong but some sometime it comes
so when it comes it is very very
helpful because the death is a reality you
know people should never ignore and there are
hadiths of the Prophet ﷺ if people remember
the death 70 times a day they will
die like a shaheed so this is not
a big thing really that you know you
should not worry so much what the reason
is affecting your health is because you don't
look at everything properly think this mentioning of
the death remembering of the death will help
you to become more pious and also remember
that you know when you die what happens
somebody said to one of Arab Bedouin that
you know you are not well you soon
you're going to die so then he asked
where I'm going after death the people said
to Allah so he said every good that
I got in this world is from Allah
so why should I be scared of him
anything good that happens to us is coming
from Allah all the good comes from him
all this you know evils are removed by
him so if people think that you know
after a few days they're going to meet
their father and mother become so happy and
your lord is more loving to you more
caring than your father and mother actually he's
the one who made the father and mother
so you know don't lose hope always think
Allah is more loving you know his love
for you is more than the love of
your mother for you and also think that
when the death comes in my mind you
know I'll be scared then I will not
have courage to do many many sins so
it makes you more pious inshallah Ahsanullah ilayka
sheikh the next question we have asks when
we pray in jama' behind an imam when
do we change our positions is it after
the imam has finished saying allahu akbar for
each position or when he begins to say
it what about sami allah huliman hamida do
we stand from ruku at this point and
recite rabbana walakal hamd or do we go
from ruku back to standing position when the
imam just starts saying sami allah you know
a thing is when you follow the imam
you should not do anything before the imam
so that always keep in mind if you
do before the imam then there could be
some time your prayer becomes invalid you see
if you finish before the imam yeah but
if it continues that's fine that what is
the ruling is it should not start before
the imam but if you start after the
imam you know that's fine the imam said
allahu akbar to go to ruku and you
follow him don't go to ruku before him
and don't say allahu before him so that's
fine but some people wait until imam finishes
there's no need for that and when imam
says sami allahu so as soon as he
finished then you should say so that is
not the way which position it after imam
says then you say the next question asks
are women uh in mensis allowed to attend
and volunteer to help in an event or
a social gathering that is taking place in
the main hall of a masjid yeah according
to many ulema you know the women are
not allowed to enter into the mosque in
that condition but there is a you know
a need because some people allow so i
don't think there's a problem as long as
you know keep make sure that you know
the masjid remains pure and you know no
blood or anything actually you know drops on
in on the floor of the mosque so
i don't think there will be any harm
inshallah uh the organizer should make a you
know a they should really uh you know
uh make arrangement uh you know just should
think that women will come through they should
make something like that uh in the main
hall and also they should uh extend it
to other rooms of the masjid so people
who want to be in that part they
can be there so uh you know something
guys any gathering in the masjid where men
and women both are expected to be there
it always better to make also other rooms
available uh of the mosque so if anybody
follows any any opinion they don't feel any
problem to come to the mosque the next
question asks salam sheikh is waleema a must
for marriage is the marriage annulled if waleema
isn't done and how many people should be
fed to fulfill a waleema you know the
what is obligatory in them in the uh
marriage is you know the contract that you
know men and women both should have consent
that is the most important thing and then
the men must pay dowry the baharat uh
and there should be announcement everybody should know
they got married so nikah should be in
public like you know in the mosque or
somewhere where people can know according to some
waleema least people should know at least two
people who can witness in the court but
actually two people nothing sometimes people do secret
marriages uh just having two witnesses and keep
hiding so that's not a marriage marriage must
be known and never should be kept secret
as for the waleema so that's obligatory that's
sunnah on the men not obligatory uh if
there's no waleema still marriage is fine then
you know it is not a condition for
the marriage to have waleema if you don't
do any waleema just you know consent and
contract uh that's enough people should carefully also
do you know registration of the marriage because
that is part of the contract that should
be done but waleema is not necessary and
sometimes you don't have enough money to feed
everybody so in that case you can follow
another sunnah of the prophet once he got
married and the waleema was that everybody brought
their food from their home and they ate
together the prophet did not prepare any food
he did not have any money you know
so people do like that they got their
own food and came the celebration happened it's
not necessary that you make all the burden
on the boy if he does not have
enough money his money is mostly really after
the marriage for his wife and to look
after the family and expensive uh sometime it
could be the people cannot afford the waleema
so don't force them and don't uh you
know make them to feel ashamed that they
did not have waleema waleema is not part
of the marriage it is good to celebrate
to be happy but i mentioned one way
is that everybody else helps they bring their
own food and they eat together the next
question is by musa who asks an islamic
preacher in my country says that the hijab
is not obligatory and that the women's inheritance
is the same of that of a man
but these issues seem to be ijma do
we warn against these people and the thing
is i don't know what he means by
hijab if some people make mean by hijab
you know covering of the face niqab aburqa
yeah that's not obligatory that's up to the
people to do or not but women when
they come in public they should cover everything
other than the face and the palms and
the feet so the head should be covered
and and you know they should have a
jilbab you know something long cloak so cover
their clothes that is the obligation in islam
when women use any public space niqab and
covering the face is not obligatory sometime could
be recommended when people can think it's distracting
or some people are you know not people
are not very good in the society they
keep staring at the women in those cases
maybe we advise the women that you know
be careful there are some evil people around
like you know in our country like in
pakistan india sometime you know it will be
difficult for the women to travel if their
face is uncovered could be sometime but not
obligatory as i mentioned but covering the head
you know covering the arms covering the feet
all these things are you know important that
they must be done and if they need
to do in public they can uncover their
arms then after that again they should cover
it so when need come they can uncover
the people who are saying these things i
don't know what they mean by hijab but
their meaning is that it is not obligatory
on the women to cover their head uh
you know so this is not right really
so you don't need to you know warn
people you need to explain to these people
you know always whenever people make any criticism
of islam or they differ from you the
best way is be kind to them be
nice and explain to them a kind to
islamic way if they accept fine they don't
accept don't worry you know you preach you
teach people and you and other muslims they
look your writing and your argument and more
likely they'll follow you because people want to
save their religion similarly the women should inherit
same as men sometimes they get actually so
this these people don't know to tell them
uh you know inheritance law is has more
details that you can think sometimes women get
same as men sometimes they get more than
the men sometimes they get less than them
it depends what the responsibility is so we
don't want to be unfair to the family
because in some cases if men we may
get more than the men and men have
all the obligation so how it will happen
because women don't have any obligation so we
can teach them that you know quran has
all the details so you are not allowed
to differ from the quran and differing from
the quran intentionally could amount to be kufr
don't say kafir but say you know it
is very dangerous my saying is that you
know in our time when there's so much
fitna so much trouble and people really create
any misunderstanding about islam uh the best way
is not to use fatwa language isma or
this and that uh it's better always to
be more academic more scholarly and sincere otherwise
that helps people more and don't shout and
don't you know criticize people heavily be nice
include them one day inshallah you'll understand the
next question is by sarah who asks is
it allowed for muslim women to marry men
that do not pray you know i have
been teaching so many times for you know
the women that when you marry what you
need to look is somebody who can afford
the marriage means he can provide your accommodation
and expenses this first condition because it all
duty on him if he has no job
how can he look after you he must
provide you independent accommodation accommodation independent of his
family or your family nobody from i know
his family lives there nobody from your family
you are independent so that's the most important
thing that husband should do and second thing
is he should give you space maybe he
does not pray but he allows you to
pray allows you to be pious allows you
to attend the classes he gives you some
freedom to be pious that's enough whether he's
a pious or not it up to him
and maybe when he marries you and sees
you he learns and then he becomes also
start praying if we make a condition that
muslim women only should marry those who pray
the people who pray in muslim society their
number is less than 10 percent it means
actually 90 percent women cannot marry anybody how
can you give fatwa like that so anybody
who says i'm muslim you can marry them
as long as they have these two conditions
the first one is to afford the marriage
and to provide accommodation expensive second one is
to give you space properly you can be
pious uh hopefully inshallah he also become pious
when he lives with you the next question
is by fariha who says i'm an ustada
in a woman's madrasa an aged woman in
my madrasa argues with me what good will
salah do to us when everything is in
the control of non-muslims and they are
dominating us you know thing really is that
you can't argue people you know unnecessarily for
every single thing you say that you know
what i have learned from the quran from
the sunnah and from the teachings of my
teachers uh that you know whatever good muslims
do they get reward for that and whatever
since they commit they get uh you know
a punishment for that and allah has burdened
people with those responsibilities where which they can
do easily so to get a government state
uh you know in force islamic law is
not in our hand i can't do we
can't do so let's do at least what
we can do the prayer the fasting the
zakah the hajj being nice to the people
helping the people kind to the people not
biting not lying not hurting anybody so these
are the essential things that our religion of
allah is you know in all the time
to tell her that you know we should
only talk about the matters which we easily
can do and then after allah will give
us a space to do things more uh
but first do what is important if you
teach muslims all those things they even don't
pray so nobody's going to take you seriously
to ask this woman first to make sure
that everybody prays all the men and women
they pray so that's important so the prayer
is you know important so tell her that
you know first we're going to teach people
how to pray that that's most important after
that we can you know do anything else
the next question asks why does allah ask
us to look at the ruins of destroyed
nations in the past when many of them
especially in the hijaz are barely existing why
does allah in the quran ask us to
travel in the lands and look at the
ad and thamud and the destroyed nations look
at the destroyed cities of the past when
they're all destroyed and you know they barely
exist we can't even see them no when
the command of allah came they were there
and arab people used to pass by them
you know the and they knew really nobody
said i don't know where thamuda were either
the signs were there they used to pass
by them so that was the command for
them it's not for all the time there
to be but wherever you live really you
can see there not everybody needs to go
and see what happened to ad and thamud
if you live in india you can go
and see what happened to the nations before
you in hindus and muslims so many dynasties
came and then disappeared so you can see
anywhere everywhere you have got those ruins and
signs which can tell you this matter so
it's not necessarily need to be in hijaz
though actually in arab world still things existed
so last time i was there you know
and there's a place they call you know
where the thamud used to be there all
the tribes are still there very impressive how
they used to live they even used to
have assembly in the in the mountains they
used to carve the rocks and make houses
inside and graves inside if you go and
visit them he'll be impressed with you can
see how much allah gave them and when
they disobeyed him how he destroyed them and
their names don't exist the next question asks
us salam does magic take away humans free
will which allah has given them to choose
good or bad no no magic doesn't do
anything like that if magic does like that
then all magicians will become rich and they
control the world and they become kings and
rulers and presidents they take away the will
of the people magic may quran says wherever
magician goes he never succeeds never never in
anything if somebody wants to pass the exam
by magic he can't pass the exam he
can do magic but he will not pass
the exam if somebody wants to become rich
by magic he never can be rich if
somebody wants to become healthy by magic he
can't get health health by magic if somebody
wants to get elected in the election by
magic he never can do magic if somebody
wants to get married by magic he cannot
get married magic does not help people to
anything it always unsuccessful magic is a trick
you know it works a little like you
know i i'm working with you and i
push you and you sleep that how magic
does you know little sleeping here there and
sometimes of influence your mind you think something
which is clever people they make an argument
and they convince you and that argument is
all false something like that they can do
but they can't change anything they can't get
any success to understand properly if magicians get
all these things that this world will not
exist they don't have any power like that
nothing the next question that we have uh
is by musa who asks can we learn
salah from fiqh sunnah by written by shaykh
sayyid sabik or fiqh salah by shaykh yusuf
al-qaradawi yeah you can you know learn
salah from any book if it is written
by a good author uh first you may
learn the quran and hadith but you don't
have an ability to understand you don't make
effort because everything in the quran sunnah anyway
so yeah some of these books are helpful
so you can learn the salah from the
book of shaykh sabik from book of shaykh
qaradawi i also wrote in english al-fiqh
al-islami you know if you want to
learn from that you can learn i made
effort to find reference for every single thing
but anyway up to you you know any
good man will after ulama you can use
that inshallah the next question asks in the
case of a second marriage if the first
wife and the probable second wife's family all
agree but the society becomes a problem then
is it sinful or impermissible to complete the
marriage secretly from the society because in our
society second or third marriage is deemed bad
whereas illegal relationships are widespread i don't understand
why you are so much concerned about the
whole society you know when the society will
like the prayer or the fasting at the
mosque or the way you why you are
so much worried you know people have their
own business in the life it actually your
weakness so society becomes a burden on the
people who are weak if you are strong
enough the society will follow you why don't
you think if i get my reader get
second wife then more people will get second
wife and then so many women's problem will
be solved i don't understand why you are
so weak but most important thing is that
whenever you get married provide the second wife
uh you know in the same like first
one second independent accommodation expenses you know all
things properly and with full justice fairness if
you do that then you should not worry
about the society the next question asks exactly
how much time do we have for maghrib
prayer i have confusion in because some say
we have very very less time for this
and others say we have time until isha
the time for maghrib is until isha though
it is recommended to do maghrib as soon
as possible because you know to be near
to the sunset so as soon as the
sun sets people should pray but for any
need you're traveling or you're at home you're
not feeling well or maybe you're busy with
something and you have to finish in 10
minutes 15 minutes are you meeting you know
with the other people so yes sometime you
should delay a little bit there's no harm
in that because the prayer time is until
isha and the professor you know he did
the prayer one day in the earliest time
and the second day he did in the
latest time and then he said anytime between
this these two times it time for the
prayer so you know you can pray before
isha anyway if you want to but don't
isha maghrib prayer should be done as soon
as possible it is recommended sunnah not obligatory
but as soon as to do as soon
as possible but for some reason to delay
it there's no harm the next question asks
do you have any advice for someone who
is studying arabic and trying to transition from
reading with harakat to reading books without harakat
any books that are good for practice yeah
the people you know who study learning arabic
they should not use any book which has
harakat to read without harakat refer to the
books of the grammar and see what could
be iraq that how it helps it i
remember when i was even studying the first
year of arabic language we did not use
any book with harakat that was you know
forbidden madrasah you can't buy a book with
harakat you have to make sure what the
harakat will be there you have to write
down on your notebook and then in the
classroom the teacher will question you so that
how you do so don't people never should
use any book with harakat if they are
learning arabic language because when you do that
you have a bad habit then you depend
on the people who have done this harakat
actually many times these harakat are wrong itself
already so if you don't learn you never
get understand the mistakes whenever i see people's
harakat i always find their mistakes in it
so the best thing is rely on the
real rules of the grammar and the last
question that we'll take for today is from
muaz who asks is it prohibited if we
cousins or relatives of in-laws spend time
together like seen in our culture i think
he means in a mixed gathering of men
and women with adab mentioned in surah noor
yeah if people are they are no private
no privacy so if you are the cousins
and brothers and they are male and female
and there are many people not only one
out if you are not alone with your
female cousin then fine yeah if they're gathering
everybody's there and you know they're eating together
and talking something in the family gathering as
long as uh you know they avoid the
desires and bad intention yeah then it's fine
it's allowed everyone for your time that's all
for today unfortunately um and next time we'll
be back with the q a not next
week but the week after inshallah so if
your question wasn't answered please remember it and
we will endeavor to answer it then and
everyone and uh inshallah see you next time