Akram Nadwi – Weekly Q&A 06-06-2024
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The importance of maintaining good relations with people who commit evil behavior is emphasized, along with avoiding bad behavior and making effort to avoid causing harm. The speakers stress the importance of rewarding one's behavior for a child, following Islam, providing support to people facing difficult situations, and following Allah's command. The speakers emphasize the need for fuller understanding of Islam and avoiding political conflict. The importance of providing support to people affected by difficult situations is emphasized, as well as following Allah's command and not asking for gifts. The upcoming week's edition includes an upcoming edition of the season one book.AI: Transcript ©
To everyone, and welcome back to another ASI
q and a session with Sheikh Akram Nadwee
on every Thursday, 6 PM BST.
Without further ado, let's begin. Sheikh, we have
one private question that's come in.
There was recently an incident with a family
member
who there is a land dispute with in
Pakistan.
The uncle started behaving very badly towards,
the grandmother.
One uncle hit the grandmother
because of this land dispute.
And recently, I've heard a talk with the
Sheikh about Silat Ar Rahim and that even,
with such people, we need to keep ties
even if they're very bad, even if they
repel us.
Even if they do bad things to us,
we should still keep ties and be good
with them. What is the correct ruling on
keeping ties with people who are bad?
So, you know, one thing always,
everybody has to keep in mind
that,
we had to
hate evils,
you know, by things. Like, for example, you
know, cutting the relation
and,
shirk, kufra, fist, kufra,
everything that we even, Monica, you know, dislike
by,
we should hate it and,
you know, save our self, you know, from
this as much as possible.
But the people who are evildoers,
if somebody commits a sin, somebody commits a,
they deserve,
you know, the mercy, and they deserve
that we have good relation with them. I'm
hoping that one day, they will come back.
So as around as, you know, your relation
with them does not harm you,
does not make you to do any any
way.
Then having that relation,
hopefully,
one day, we'll help them or their family,
the descendants and children
to come back. You know, the prophets and
messengers,
even,
the, you know, the people who were,
and Muslim,
they already wanted to have good relation with
them hoping that one day they will come
by.
Now, you saw, Alisa Salam, you know, with
all these people,
such an amazing relation on the Quran had
mentioned in the day of judgement.
Allah will Allah will ask,
did you ask people to worship you and
your mom
other than me?
So he will say, no. I never did
this, and you have been a witness after
me. And then still he say, one life
you forgive
them. You are all powerful and all wise.
So still you hope that Allah can forgive
them.
So, understand properly what we don't want really
is that you like evil, to don't like
evil.
Also, we don't want your family and yourself
to be affected by these round wars. So
that is very important to protect yourself and
your family
and your children from those people.
Then the third thing you are responsible to
how to guide them and how to help
them,
they also can be saved from the evil.
And that needs some relations, some contracts, some
explanation
as much as you can do. So because
believers already are your daddy. There are people
who call people to the part of Allah
Subha'ala. They want to save people from the
hellfire,
and they want
the people to realize their mistake and the
repent.
That that's the very that's what Israel Islam
did with all of his brothers.
They actually wanted to kill him. I think
they did. They really killed him. And,
but still, he hoped for the forgiveness, and
when they came to him, he he, he
forgave them.
The next question, we'll move on to the
questions in the question box now. If you
have any questions for the sheikh, please put
post them in the question box and InshaAllah,
I'll get around to asking them.
So the next question is by Fariha who
starts with,
I always intend to do good deeds only
to please Allah, but sometimes I get this
thought out of my out of nowhere
that I might get a good name from
doing,
from doing this good deed or somebody might
be impressed by me. Initially, my intention is
pure and clean, but sometimes whilst doing it,
I get thoughts like this. How shall I
tackle that, and will my rewards be wasted
if I don't control my intentions?
Alhamdulillah, fully. Yeah. The way you're doing it
is very, very good. You know? That's very
first thing you initial intention should be pure
and good for the sake of Allah. But
the shaitan never loses the hope. So he
think that, you know, maybe, in the midway
or somewhere, he can
misguide you. So whenever thoughts like that come
to impress people,
you know, force yourself
away from those thoughts. It will come, but
you have forced away, and our love will
help me,
so that's
very important that you make
still if they come, these first come. You
didn't go well. You have to make effort.
Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala loves people when they
make effort. To make effort that you don't
want to have, you know, good a name
or something. You want to do for Allah
subhanahu wa ta'ala. So that will be inshallah.
We reference helpful and something under at same
time think really. Even if people know that
you are doing good with what they can
do,
They cannot reward
you, and the the people are actually nothing.
You know? Sometime I myself think really that
if Allah
wants to make me fail in this world,
so even if people like me, they praise
me, they can't help me. If Allah does
not want to help me, and if Allah
wants to help me, nobody can harm me.
So simple matter, they do not think that
people are so weak really. They're, you know,
if they are impressed by you, you don't
mean anything. If they don't like you, don't
harm you, nothing.
To all the harm, all the benefit are
in the hand of Allah Subhanahu wa ta'ala.
And if Allah wants to turn people against
you, easily he can do. So even if
people become impressed by you, they love you,
they like you, and they praise you, well,
Allah wants to turn them against you. All
these people who are so much praised for
you, same people will start hating you.
So make a distinct glitch your mind
and force yourself away from the force. Still
there they come. Don't worry. It will one
day will go and Allah will reward you
because, he knows that you are making good
effort.
The next question is by Shahriar
who asks, what is the difference between Queda
and Makaurah? Both are translated as plot and
plan?
Yeah. You know, I think the
could be, you know,
like a plot and a plant, but
has more something hidden. The people, you know,
hide,
you know, in secret and that, you know,
more,
guide could be a plan,
even
not necessarily hidden, but the is a hidden
plan.
Is more used often more often used for
the, you know, biotics
and biplan.
Could be more general Like, you know, is
a policy,
case,
there was a good plan. So credit could
be, you know, credit could include good plan
and bad plan while the is mostly used
for the evil plan. And, also, it is
very often like as piracy
something hidden.
The next question is by Sanah who asks,
salaam, Sheikh, is there any motivation in our
religion
for raising a specials
special needs child? It takes a lot of
time away from Quran and Ibadah.
Yeah. It's okay. You know, any effort that
people spend
to raise their children,
look after them, whatever time they spend on
somebody actually busy.
They have they need a lot of help
at time. You got more rewards. To even
if they take away your time for an
alwada, enough alwada is not reading the Quran,
you'll get all the that's good. It is
a test from Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala. Don't
worry. A very simple thing that you do
for the sake of Allah is rewarded.
So do your father properly
as best as possible.
And meanwhile, look after these children.
And,
after that, whatever is you can do, you
know, do. But looking after children, that is
simply being the Algada. There must so much
reward in that. So don't worry and, one
day the reward will come. And I'm like,
testing you, you know, to have a child
and enjoy that, to play around and now
happy life,
there's a different matter. But you have a
child
who actually, you know, takes your time and
kind of some that is much
bigger thing. It is amazing reward for that.
People have no idea when a son comes
and patience come, how much the reward are
multiplied by many, many times to child with
a special need.
You know, reward need are so special inshallah.
Barakalu, big Sheikh. The next question is by
Abdul Rahman who asks,
if the wife has been living with her
parents for many, many years and then decides
to do a divorce,
should the wife then stay in the go
go to the husband's house for the divorce
to take place and stay there as per
the Quran?
Well, divorce can happen anyway. Divorce does not
need to happen in the house of, in
your husband.
But the waiting period, is imported. But if
she did not leave the husband, but the
Quran says
So then there's no problem 24th where she
will she can spend
her if she wants to be her father's
house. And if she wants to come back,
then welcome her. I'll, you know, let her
to spend the time there.
But the real problem really that why she
had been away for such a long time,
why it's with your permission
or
your will or her own will. If she
did it, her on on her own without
your will and advice,
then she does not deserve any
expenses from you. So nothing you are not
happy with that.
So it it have but if anyway, if
he wants to come back for a waiting
period, you should not stop that.
Barakkal alaik Sheikh. The next question is by
Ibn Muhammad who asks, how can those who
cannot afford to make Hajj attain complete submission
to Allah?
People must have hype in order to have
complete a assumption to Allah Submissions
from the heart, you know, that, does not
need all the suffering. There could be some
believers
who don't have enough money to pay zakat.
Still, there can be full full submission to
Allah Subhana Wa Ta'ala. So there can be
could be believers who are not
feeling well, and they cannot fast. Still, you
have full submission to Allah Subha'ala. The full
submission does not really mean that you can
do all those things.
Full submission is that you do whatever you
are able to do. That full submission.
So if you are able to do prayers
and you do it properly, it is for
submission. But if you're not able if you're
not forced to do,
then you don't do. It's a full submission.
For submit full submission means, sir, to obey
God when he commands. So when you have
money, his commands come to you. They'll go
for Hajj.
If you don't listen to him, you don't
have submission.
But if you don't have money, then he
doesn't command you to why submission always needs
command.
That was submission news. Submission means that Allah
is commanding you and you surrender and you
obey him. So if you don't have money,
there's no command for Avantra. If you don't
have money, there's no command for Avanta to
place a car. If you don't have good
health, there's no command for Avanta to do
fasting.
So, you know, if you don't have money,
there's no command for a lot to help
music people or poor people.
If you don't have knowledge, there's no command
for a manna to teach. Thus, full submission
means that,
obey the command of Allah properly. So there
are many, many commands of Allah. They are
not relevant to many people.
So, you know, people should have good relation
with their wives. If somebody is not married,
how can I have good there's no no
point of to take no command for him?
So this all will understand really. Full submission
means
that what what find out the command of
and I got you and then obey him
properly. That's for submission.
Assalamu alaikum shirk. The next question is by
Abdul Mohid who asks, what is the authentic
practice on on Akita and giving azan for
a newborn?
Yeah. Akika,
you know, some people think it is sunnah.
Though, actually, honest opinion has been that
after Allah has,
made
it. He'd rather hide or the problem that
was in India on in the day, you
know,
sunnah.
Then after that, there's no need of any
activist.
People, that's one zero.
Too many people become older,
you know, adult,
and they do sacrifice on themselves or the
whole family. So I'm declaring to some form
of one sacrifice enough for the whole family
because the the applicant was in there. So
you don't need to do something separately in
the name of.
But if you do, that is open up
some people to that, fine.
In
the year that you know child is born.
Then in the right ear,
they say in the left, ear, they say,
karma, but there's no authentic evidence for that.
But it is good or worse. People have
been doing that. Nobody's problem.
I myself have been doing that. So don't
insist on that. If this is not done,
it's still fine. Nothing will happen.
Even the main thing is that, you know,
when child is raised,
teach him about Islam and make him to
Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala. Learn how to learn
learn how to obey the parents. So good
good things you need to teach. But many
of these things, they don't have strong evidence
in Islam.
There is a summary
now is no more sooner.
10, 11, 12. And they come to some,
miss, Olema, year 13th.
To this you there, anytime you can sacrifice
1 animal,
you know, and they can't to minimal amount.
1 animal will be in a far the
whole family. 1 sheep, 1 cow, 1 goat,
or something like that.
The next question,
is,
by Abdul Rahman who asks,
after the death of the prophet Muhammad Sallallahu
Alaihi Wasallam,
were there any offensive wars undertaken by Muslims?
Was it allowed to initiate wars for Muslims
at that time?
You know, the these terms are really offensive
and all those to the accuracy, but we
are more than term that we're more than
term. More than people have made terms.
And then you defend yourself.
Like, you know, people, they came out and
the professor and he defended himself.
Sometimes the war can be there are people
who are oppressed somewhere and you want to
go and help them.
So that also is the duty of the
believers. They don't want to attack you, unbelievers,
but they are causing trouble for other weak
people.
So then you want you have to, you
know, save them and help them to put
on their own little bit. And the other
way could be that there are
rulers
who don't allow their people to understand and
learn the message
and to follow it.
We are there. We are against, you know,
understanding or something like that. Then if you
have power to save those people, to help
them, then you you can, you know, tell
them you can, you know,
bring the Islam to those people. So this
is what happened. I think that when the
prophet passed away,
then after that, you know, in the beginning,
there was a,
in Arabs who left Islam,
a post in Islam, then they fought to
those people. And then after that, Abu Ghazibullah
Muhammad initiated a war
in Iraq and in Syria,
in the time of Qumran,
very many of those countries have been conquered
and Muslims have not even employed. Egypt, Palestine,
Farzia,
and then in the from from last time,
they even conquered, you know,
you know, invaded
Afghanistan or whatever. So this happened because we
want to help people to invest in Islam,
and it's a duty that Islam must be
introduced everywhere. Like for now, you know, western,
power,
your king of powers,
you know, they did so many war,
in order to produce democracy in the world.
So just say no. There is no democracy.
These people are,
suffering. We have to help them how to
bring democracy there. Islam is more important
than democracy, Tory. If people, don't know Allah's
message,
and they're going to hellfire.
So if there are people who can help
them to understand it, so they should do.
And that happens, I mean, where the deal
was. So these terms, you know, offensive or
defensive, they're very,
often more than terribly.
Islamic rule is that,
the war are either to defend yourself
or to help, you know, big people or
to help people to understand the message and
that's.
The next question is by Aisha. Who asked
Salam de Sheikh. If the is to emulate
Hajar running between the two mountains,
why do women not run during the?
We allow women to run on the road
for help if needed, so why not for
Sahih?
You know, the rulings of Islam has been
made easier for the women. It doesn't meant
to release that because women have gotten so
much difficult treatment,
and they too are sacrificed with their mothers
and their raised children.
Sometimes they're pregnant and all those things. So
that whole part of it, you know, running
is not a big thing that, you know.
I saw, you know, just in between those
thing.
Just to make it easier for the women.
This thing that, you know, it is just
for the step of higher,
that's not necessary. I explained this so many
times earlier. The real purpose of the is
the
when he took his son,
to slaughter him in the name of Allah
sacrificed.
So his house was a prophet of suffer.
So he commanded to suffer, and therefore, from
there, he took
Isma'il
to Marawa to to walk.
And in the Marawa, he wanted to sacrifice
him. So I'm lost in love with this
so much that he made, you know, among
the resource of the high. So it also,
you know, happened that in the same place,
what used by his mother, Hagar, to find
the water. But find the water is not
a big thing that, Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala.
There are so many women that's struggling in
the world to find the water for the
children of food. That does not become sunnah,
but whatever Raheem had done to take his
son to sacrifice
because he has seen dream for Allah Subhaata'ala.
And that sacrifice was something,
where all family share because, you know, Ishmael
has to accept it to his, you know,
oh my father, do what you have commanded.
The father is going to sacrifice with his
own hand and the mother has to accept
it. The Hajar is also the whole family
involved in this sacrifice. This sacrifice is called
in Islam. I have submission for the mama
as lama. That is your submission.
So that why
by running, they get something more. You know,
to just go and listen with a nice
concession,
Allah lost people when they accepted his rufsa,
his concession.
The next question also by Aisha is in
Surah Namal,
when the queen sends gifts to Soleiman
and he says, do you offer me wealth
what Allah has granted me as far greater
than what he has granted you? No, it
is you who rejoice in gifts.
Is it referring to the hikma and end
that Allah gave to Soleiman alayhis salam or
referring to his kingdom as he asked for
a small kingdom which nobody would want.
You know what happening?
Sir, did
not want to accept any bribery.
So he is thinking that this they they
are offering this thing
so then he can
change, you know, his
against him.
So that's not allowed for the father, prophets,
and messengers, and anybody, you know, whether there
is more can go between them anyway. So
is Iran is
my lord has given me much more than
that. You know, you can't impress me by
your gift and all those things.
You know, and, we want to help people
to worship their lord and to understand. If
you don't surrender,
then we have to go war because you
want to save your people
from, you know, your way of life and
make them to understand and learn a message.
All
those you know, pure intention
and he's being a firm on this. He
did not accept any worldly gift.
The the queen were guided
and she became Muslims.
I accepted Islam with the Suleiman.
You know, I did full submission to Allah,
the Lord of all the people that she
accepted Islam. So that was, you know, amazing
thing that many are very often people become
impressed by the difficulties by a week, and
then after that, their their behavior's changing. What
is the right to do? They don't do
the right thing because somehow they,
they are corrupted,
by the gifts and by the bribery.
So nobody could corrupt Salih Ma'ali Salaam.
Assalamu Alaikashik.
The next question is by Nabiha who asked,
Assalamu Alaikum.
Is it permissible to the graves of pious
people and Olia
and ask them to make dua for us
if they are deceased? No. You ask the
dua, tell you, ask the and ask the
dua for us if they are deceased. No.
You ask the dua, tell you, ask the
and listen to the
So, you know, the people who are in
the grave, they actually,
need our dua. So we have to make
dua for the will not forget them
That way, the argument is in the Quran.
Why you go anywhere
else? Well, I listen to you. When I
do everything, I'm nearer to you. I want
to listen to you. I want to help
you. It doesn't make any sense already if
Allah himself wants to do everything. So why
you want to ask somebody else to,
intercede for you to do if he's a
very tough let's not sometimes your father does
not listen to you. Do you ask your
uncle, your brother, sister, somebody
to, you know, help you in order to
make your father happy?
That is understandable. But your lord said to
me, I become happy more than the best.
So you you can come to me anytime.
You can ask me anything. I fulfill all
the news.
So, you know, you can go to the
grave to remember your own death. Near duas
are the people who buried in the grave,
but not to ask them. They what they
can do? You have to ask them. That's
the most important thing. That's the most important
thing. He he's the doer. He knows everything.
I mean, he is the one who make
all our commitment,
all plans. He's the one who created you.
You he made you guided.
So I will never advise anybody
to ask anybody for the draw. Just ask
Allah directly.
The next question is,
Assalamu alaikum. My question is that who are
the Mahrams of a woman or a girl?
Can you name all of them, please?
Yeah. That's a good question really. The real
Mahram
by blood, you know, there are 2 types
of Mahram. Already 3 types of Mahram.
Mahram by blood,
Mahram by milk, and Mahram by marination.
You know, all her,
you know, ancestors
are Mahara. You know, her father
and the father of the mother and father
of the father
going like that. They're all.
Similarly,
her descendants,
her son
and her sons sons or her daughter's son,
all of them are
the second thing. Third thing is all the
descendants
of,
all the descendants
of your direct father. Not grandfather,
the direct father.
So all the descendants and descendants or descendants,
they're
for example, your
father's, your,
you know, your brother or brother or son
are going on the old Mahara.
Then your grandfather,
he's the first
descendant will be Mahara,
Meaning, the father girl,
you know, her aunt her uncle will be
Mahram. But uncle's son,
they are cousin. They are not Mahram.
So that's why you need to keep in
mind. All the people who are in your
roots, your father
and the father of your father and the
father of your mother, Mahram,
Your son or son of the daughter or
son of the son, Ter Mahram.
Similarly, all the descendants of your father and
mother,
they are your Mahram.
The first line of your
grandfather,
they are Mahram, but not the second line.
To your auntie will be Mahram, your uncle
will Mahram but not uncle's children. So this
is the by the by
the miracle, the same thing. If somebody gives
you miracle, then she becomes your mother
and,
most relative,
the
her sons will be like cousin for you,
a brother for you. You can't marry them.
To any woman who has given her milk
when you're child,
then you can't marry her son,
you know, you can't marry her husband. All
these people become haram. Similarly, if a woman
is married,
then her husband's father
because of Mahara. And her husband's old children,
even if they are not from you, they
all become Mahara for you.
So that you have to, understand. But not
husbands or brothers.
They're not.
You cannot travel with them. You cannot be
alone with them. Your husband's father will be
Mahara, and your husband's children
from other wife, they can be Mahara. But
your husband's brothers, they are not Mahara.
I think if I is there anything else
that, you know, I can explain,
but this thing you have to keep in
mind.
The next question is by Hassan. He's got
2 separate questions, but they all relate to
Qadr. So I'm gonna read both of them
and you can give one answer, sir.
So the first question is everything is already
decided by Allah, but we can also pray
to Allah and he can change the Qadr.
My question is whether is it
it is mentioned in Qadr already that we
will pray to Allah or not? And the
second question is how can we say that
good is by Allah and sins are by
us or shaitan as being a Muslim?
I believe nothing can happen without the will
of Allah.
I
think we, it is very clear for the
in the Quran
that all the good and bada from Allah.
So, you know, it was a clear to
know you go for a share of the
iman Islam.
Difficulties come from Allah, happiness come up. Every
good and bad thing, they all come from
Allah subha'twala.
So this one thing keeping my second thing
is that another way is
that
when a very good he initiates for you.
So whenever you have good, the
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Whenever you have come something bad, do it
from Allah, but it is caused by some
of your actions.
Sometimes you know, sometimes don't do that. But
the best thing you that whenever you do
a sin
or something like that, that relate it to
yourself that, no, Allah, I did this. Forgive
me. Oh, Allah, Shaitan, cause me to this
you know,
worldly cause that, people have caused me to
do this thing or Shaitan had caused me
to reward Allah Subha'ala.
And the thing is everything done by Allah
Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala, but we don't know really.
So what we have to do is we
have to obey Allah's command. Allah's command is
asking.
When you ask him, then he gives, you
know, and, certainly,
you know, whatever he has written, he's written.
So he might be retracting this also that
you want to make
We have to listen to him. We have
to worship him. We have to obey him.
We have to ask him how he does.
He knows the best. But we believe that
everything that going to happen to the human
being and to the universe,
everything is written by Allah, known by him,
you know, and nothing is out of his
control. Nothing is out of his knowledge. Everything
under the knowledge properly to just keep him
on. But we are responsible
for his commands. When he commands us, then
we must obey.
That's
all for today, unfortunately.
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