Akram Nadwi – Weekly Q&A 02-05-2024
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The speakers discuss the importance of not calling people who claim to be Islam's and not giving advice on health and behavior. They stress the need to be careful with social media and not allow anyone to make assumptions about each other. The speakers also advise against mixing emotions and not allowing anyone to influence one's behavior during marriage, and encourage listeners to be careful and avoid giving up on their personal preferences. They also highlight the importance of educating children on cultural and religious affairs and finding the purchasing power of one's current job to determine retirement goals.
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To everyone and welcome back to another ASI
Q and A session with Sheikh Akram Naddvi
on every Thursday at 6 pm BST.
Without further ado, let's begin. Sheikh, we have
2,
anonymous questions that have come in. The first
question
is, can I pray in a Shia Masjid
and should Muslims visit places like Karbala?
One of the important,
merits of this Ummah is
that the whole earth has been made a
massive place of the,
prayer for them. The Muslim can't play anywhere
in the world. You know, I will not
write the place is pure
and there's no ideas there and no pictures
that you can worship. You can play. And
Shia Mosque is a mosque.
You cannot play there. The only problem is,
you know, if, you follow them in the
Jamar,
that will be difficult because,
you know, you don't know really what they're
doing because
it's so that way is so different.
I will not advise you to follow them
in the JAMAHA,
but then you can say there there's no
harm in the prayer. It is a much
deeper and it is pure and and and
clear.
So, you know, most most most surely,
wherever the time comes,
they should pray. What's the second part of
the question?
The second part of the question was can
should Muslims visit places like Karbala?
So, you know, the the places that should
be worship as part of the iman and
that makes you, you know, connected to this
this religion.
There are 3. The mosque of the Haram,
Makat al Mukarama, the mosque of the prophet
and the mosque of, Masjid Aqsa.
Other places, they don't have any reward to
travel there and to,
you know, to pay there. So there should
be no intention that it has any
extra
reward. But some time, people happen to visit
a place
just out of curiosity to see what there
is. Let people go and see Tal Mahal
or they want to see a city or
mountain
or river. You know, people go to see
all these things, but they don't experiment
for that. So then there are no harm
in that.
JazakAllah here. The next question we have that's
anonymous is what is the place of takfir
in Islam
and when can it be used? Who can
use it?
Takbir. Takbir.
Takbir.
Yeah. You know, nobody's allowed to declare any
Muslim kafir.
So those who are Muslims, they are Muslims.
You have no right,
to dig in the heart of the people.
And the prophet
has said
that anybody who,
prayed, like our prayer,
like a.
And then he faced the,
you know, he prayed the
the and he is,
the animus that we slaughter,
then he is a Muslim. We cannot make
him suffer. So declaration of any Muslim by
the Kaaba is a very serious matter, and
we don't and we cannot call anybody that
correct. You can't solve this person, say something,
but he does not mean that. We are
who are we to judge this thing? So
simple matter is anybody who said I'm Muslim,
be the Muslim.
Unless he say that I'm not a Muslim
or unless he denies,
you know,
important part of the salami. Like, somebody said
the prophet Muhammad did not final
prophet, then he's a he's not a Muslim.
But, if somebody said no, I'm Muslim,
then he's a Muslim.
So, you know, and you don't need to
dig and find out deeper about that that
you're judging, the real judgment. So all of
my head made it very serious.
There's
nobody nobody should have to declare anybody.
Recently, I will send a book on our
paper.
Stuff work will archive
that has been, printed,
in and by root,
you know, with the support of a cinema
as well.
Actually that I have,
included part that, you know, it's not checked
up on that field.
We can be called people.
So you know I I warned that this
is a very serious matter.
And also, at the end of the book
I discussed
the the Hadith that,
this umal will divide into 73
sects and all of them are in the
era except the one which is, all of
them are in the fire except the one,
except one which is paradise. To everybody claim
that their sect is the one which is
paradise.
So it's been the meaning of the hadith,
you know, in in this book. People should
be very, very careful. Simple matter is, we
are here in this world
to call people to Islam.
We are not here to expel people from
Islam. That's very dangerous matter.
We'll move on to the questions in the
chat box now. The first question is by
Mohammed Aqib
Sheikh, how do we understand some statements of
Ibn Abbas where he says he can find
the lost rain of his camel
using the Quran.
Did he have much more knowledge than most
companions household?
You know, the second part that you had
more knowledge, that's true. You know? Not necessarily
he had more knowledge than everybody, but, you
know, he had a more, you know, the
the prophet and he's very strong, you know,
learner.
After the death of the prophet,
he learned,
But, you know, there are people who know
similar more than him like,
Abu Bakr, Abu Bakr Siddiq, Abdul Masood,
But this statement that you said that, you
know, somebody confirm
if, somebody lose it, the reign of the
payment, he can find from Quran. I've never
had we had this first time in hearing.
And how where the connection? If Quran has
not come here to teach people all these
things. Quran is a book of guidance.
So Quran teaches people how to worship Allah,
how to be guided, how to enter paradise.
But Quran had not to come at least
to which house house I have to buy.
And if I lost my car, where where
will be this car? And who I should
marry? You know? So there are so many
women, you know, then who I select or
there are so many men who I select.
The Quran has not come for this whole
thing that you can find it from your
own mind.
So it is unnecessary problem, really, and I
don't think I in my past, I was
still like that. And if it's something reported
like that, it must be very good narration.
I never heard the first time I'm hearing
this.
The next question,
is,
by,
Rifat who asks,
if someone says I don't like the beard,
will he or she become a kafir?
Why people become kafir by this whole thing?
It's not really big thing. If somebody that,
that deny the prophet
or day of judgment,
paradise, or hellfire, then they are not Muslim.
But somebody denies that beard. How can the
prophets in the beard is sunnah? And there
are a woman who say it's not even
a sunnah. They said in a war, you
may have to leave that to some people
say it's just our culture, custom at that
time. It had nothing to do with that
religion. So, you know, like the prophet
has created so many things which are from
the culture.
You know, the cloth that he used to
wear or the, you know, the food that
he used to eat. You know, some of
them has he placed some of them, like
he pressed tareed.
But, if somebody does not like tareed, he
doesn't even kafir, he would have test out
the
So, you know, don't involve in this small
thing, you know, you know, whether people have
a beard or not have a beard to
their problem. You think it is sunnah. You
follow it. Somebody
think it is.
You know, Sheikh Abdullah Jodal,
in this country, he had written a book,
which actually, you know, not a book where
he proves it that beer is just
mobile, you know, up to you to keep
it or don't keep it. So he's a
authentic island. Maybe I don't agree with him.
I I think it is soon. But if
if somebody thinks it's not soon, I'm not
going to declare him.
I respect him, you know, my friend and
the need.
So understand properly, you know, all of my
can differ from each other, but you cannot
make your opinion as criteria.
If it is sooner, that's fine. But don't
make your
impose. Like, you know, for example, a hundred
people think that they're 4 a call sunnah
before Jummah. But there are many other mothers
that think no. Before Jummah, there's no sunnah.
You can't make them confident just because they
don't accept that,
that sunnah.
Similarly,
you know, many many dua in the prayer.
And Marcus said no. There's no discipline on
the prayer.
Just start the prayer without you'll not be
on me. So are we going to make
all these people profit because they don't regularly.
So be very, very careful, you know. Even
if they further, if people differ in the
further, you cannot never like, you know, Hanafi
people say, you know, there are only 4
You see, they differ about the father.
Shafi,
people think intention is the father and Hanafi
people think
intention not Your hood is still valid without
intention. They differ about the fog and they
still define the Muslim. We cannot declare anybody
because they differ. So understand, you know, many
of these 4 of minor Baran Jib. Even
if the differences got further, and somebody does
not agree with your opinion,
you cannot call him Kafka. Maybe he's more
likely. You don't know him. These things say
anybody can be right or wrong. So be
pious, be careful,
and avoid always,
calling anybody careful.
The next question is by Fatihab who asks
Salam You Sheikh what is the right way
to reflect as a child on the dua
in the verse?
Yeah. I know they are very important really,
you know, and it's part of the,
you know, that what makes people you know,
the first
that we know that all the favors are
from Allah.
So once we've got it, our real may
rather people,
when they think
they deserve something,
You know, something of theirs. You know, their
parents or their families.
You know, I'm a British. I'm different from
other people. You're one from Quraish or I'm
from Arab tribes. I'm.
So this becomes proud. So one has told
us that every favor of Allah
that benefits you. You it's given to you.
You don't deserve it. You don't make it.
Allah made it to you and your parents
or whatever they've got. So all the time
keeps reflecting that Allah could have made me
boring at the family.
Allah could have made my parents different, and
they're quite different quality. Maybe they have been
very evil people. We don't know. So all
the favors, father, which I proudly, my family
or myself,
None of them are made by us and
my family. It's all gift from Allah Subha'ala.
And when you get a gift, you have
to thank him. And when you thank it,
then Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala, you know, need
to hear the favor more and more. And
ask him, you know, to become good and
deliver
and ask him to guide you to be
righteous.
The next question is by, Fariha who asks,
as a mom of 2 girls, I sometimes
get very anxious as how to give them
a proper tarbia and how to protect them
from the fitna's of social media.
What should I do to keep them away
from social media?
You know, first thing really, the, you know,
your concern on being anxious about
raising your children. In fact, it's such a
great virtue.
And Allah will reward you for that. Many
people don't are not concerned.
So, you know, they don't care how the
children are raised.
So that that will that is the problem.
And that is
this is the.
But your good concern, that's actually important thing,
and many people should make it for to
be concerned. So once you are concerned, Allah
will help you,
certainly.
You know, the time really is
a very different time.
You know, there are some efforts that we
done by individuals,
but there are some efforts which should be
done by the society
as a whole.
If the society does not do something, what
they need to do,
individuals cannot do them. It's a very, very
difficult time.
You know, everywhere there are so many sickness
and problems
that the society has accepted. The people have
accepted. The country has accepted.
Among them are either social media and access
to everything.
And now it's growing more and more. So
you cannot really stop it. So the only
way is, like the Brahim al
Islam. He went in society where all the
evils are there. People worship idols, his parent,
the the naked idol, the children.
But he developed, you know, his thinking and
understanding so strongly
that he would be able to protect himself
from all the.
So instead of teaching your children, don't, you
know,
be away from social media.
You need to,
raise in them the real awareness, how to,
you know, believe and love, how to supply
us, how to be pure and clean,
and what and how to spend the time
more wisely,
you know, and every minute of the life
is so precious.
You know, and we don't have time to
just to waste it. Either things like that
and what makes my personal
the the the the friendly thinking. People who
don't worship Allah, you know, they become weaker,
weaker, and desire can, you know, influence them.
So you have to
make them stronger, you know, and especially by
thinking. So artfully important to make your children
to have good reason
before they do anything or they say anything.
They should think that, you know, what is
this exactly? What will the consequences
If I was, you know, I'm all the
time on the mobile phones. What are the
consequences?
How much time I'm wasting
And how much I'm investing my energy? Because
when you use these phones, you also waste
your energy. So that's what you need to
do, really. You need to make them stronger.
You cannot force them to give the mobile
phone because they will go to the schools
and they will meet their friends and everybody
using. Maybe after they become more greedy,
to have all these things.
So the best thing is, you know, please
in the prayer about Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala,
fevers of Allah, and make them stronger, you
know, in their thinking and the personality and
character inshallah.
Assalamu Alaikika, Sheikh. The next question is by
Shahriar
who asks,
if someone sets a mahar for his marriage
and takes 3 to 4 years to pay
it, how should he calculate the inflation?
Should he take the gold rate as the
standard? What is the proper way to pay
the Mahar if it takes a long time?
Yeah. I know that's a very good question.
You know, the thing that I read, the
man should be paid, you know, immediately. But
if the people had intention to pay later
on, the best thing is that whatever you
serve the mother, like 4,000 pound, £5,000.
So at the time of the marriage, people
should really find out what is the purchasing
power of £400,000,
5,000 pound.
So purchasing power is determined by meaning and
it is not only one thing. So after
10 years, the purchasing power of 4,000,
500,000 power will differ so much.
So then you have to increase the amount
of the time to that.
You know, we should not really,
you know, harm the women by delaying this
thing. So if it first thing you delay,
you take time that yourself is hard. Second
thing, you're going to,
decrease the value so that if you are
most cheating.
So if they allow the time, that's their
favor, but you should be more generous
to give them, you know,
at least the value of the money that
was the time of the marriage.
So I will say, you know, don't worry
about the goal. The best thing is really
to find out the purchasing power of that,
and you can find out really if you
ask
in a specialist, they will say to you
what what the person power of the pound
10 years by 15 years by. So they
will tell you. And they'll you they'll tell
you how much percent inflation has grown since
then. You know, really. So, you know, if
the 10% inflation has,
grown by that time, then, you know,
£1,000,
you need to pay
1100.
So, you know, you can find out the
inflation, not a big thing to find out
really. But in this time,
every year, every month, things are counted in
the 1st genie power.
So I would not say that, you know,
go follow the board at this standard
rather than we have to look for the
purchasing power of the money.
JazakAllah,
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With that, we'll continue to the rest of
the questions. So Sheikh, the next question is,
Salam, are we considered wasting time if we
involve in social events where we share cultural
or religious affairs with non Muslims, but we
don't really talk about Islam?
How about befriending
non Muslims closely?
Yeah. You know, actually socializing with the non
Muslims is actually very important. Because when you
live in a country,
it is important that people, you know, know
you and you know them.
So
there should be a clearance where people meet
together and discuss
in a friendly environment. You know, like, sometimes
party, dinner food, eating, and drinking, sometimes some
social activity,
you know, community activity that people do. And
you don't need to discuss Islam.
Then nobody will sit here. The the best
thing is friendship, nice environment, they'll know you.
Once they know and understand about you, that
will make them nearer because at the moment,
media has made everybody far away from Muslims.
And, so much hatred in the heart of
the people about Muslims. They don't understand them.
So by socializing,
you
you remove the barrier, and the people start
knowing you and learning what you they know
how kind you are. You know, one of
the project I had in my mind for
a long time, and I want you to
work on that.
You know,
that that is a Muslim should be the,
you know, one who will move forward. And
that,
I had in mind that,
neighborhood
eating. You said you make a some Muslim
make food and then
all your neighbors that are Muslims and non
Muslims, they get together, they
eat, and then discuss about your children in
schools,
and, there is skill set to somebody who
knows about computers, things like that, How we
can help each other, how we can support
each other. Somebody's car mechanics. You don't think
that everybody will be interested. Don't talk about
the religion, anything at that moment.
Later on, if somebody comes and asks you,
you can explain. But, make us, you know,
social meeting be very, very important, really. So
some of you can actually accept my idea
of,
this neighborhood eating.
This would very good. Just make food
and once a month and net people come
together and used to, you know, in your
house or maybe in a community center or
people together
discuss about this, you know,
issues which are connected related to everybody
rather than the religion, it will be very,
very helpful. Then media cannot influence part of
the mind. The reason media is successful, because
we don't meet each other. The most important
thing that people know about the ship, when
we meet them and meet them in a
friendly environment.
Eating, drinking. But be careful.
Don't accept their influence.
You can say meaning you you meet for
the purpose of introduction,
but everybody knows each other, not more than
that.
The next question is,
by Mahin who asks,
can women be witnesses in a marriage, or
can they conduct the marriage or the nikka?
Yeah. We can conduct the marriage or no
or her and that. I'm not saying really
either. Witness is there for the court.
So I why really is that you don't
need to mention any witness or anything like
that. You know, women can be there. Men
can be there. What we need really is
when we go through the registration of the
marriage.
There, whatever,
you know, necessity
needs her, That vision. That is more powerful
than anything else. So marriage should be announced.
Everybody should know that you got married. That's
enough. And you also need document so you
can prove in the court. And advise that
all Muslim,
especially the women, don't accept any marriage
unless it is registered.
Because if you're not registered
and problem goes, the losers are women.
Then they cannot prove anything. They cannot go
to the court, and the men keep keep
exploiting them. They don't divorce them to their
hiding. Many, many cases like that happening. And
the women, they're thinking, oh, why should I
register? You know, he's right and even such
a nice person. Why should I do this
for that? Very nice now. We don't know
what will happen in the future.
And
then legal things,
they don't merely the few are not nice.
Legal things are solid ground to act upon.
Like for now, you know,
even you drive your car, you need a
motorway. You can't say, well, if I we
build a motorway, it means that we don't
trust in the car and we don't trust,
in our ability to drive the car. No.
Motor, they are solely grounded. So similarly, you
know,
that whenever you get married, make mind very,
very clear
that the marriage must be registered according to
the law of the country.
I mean, say, your marriage should be in
a way that you can take the person
if you need help us to the court.
And Islamic marriage simply misannouncement. You don't need
any witness ready. And a woman can say
to a man, I'm already you, and he
said, I accept it. In front of many,
many people, the marriage will be valid.
In, surah 24
verse 31 is kohal and rings.
Hence, can women wear light makeup, like concealer
nowadays?
I'm not saying that they, you know, what,
women can what can appear from the women.
There's so much difference of fear. Most people
are. Most people say that women's face,
the palms. They are not aura.
So women can come in the public
while, in honoring the face and the palms.
And there's so many proof for that.
Whether the women kind of, you know, wear
some of the perfumes
or something. If it is mine, it's more
quantity that does not really necessarily disturb people.
They're fine because sometime, you know, we may
need a perfume,
light one, which help them cover. If you
are dirty and if you have medicinal, it
helps. It
it it is for you. It boils you
a little. But if you have got little
perfume,
so you sit and you feel. But the
people who pass by you, they don't feel
anything.
That's not a lighter perfume
and lighter, you know, makeup, which helps you
to be in good condition.
That's not a problem. But, you know, too
much other things in here with the body
like I said, with the body intention
to attract people, that is actually a dismount.
The next question is by Junaid who asks,
if there is an online course that people
usually pay for, but someone has uploaded it
online for free
illegally,
can I use that leaked version? The person
may have paid for it themselves and then
uploaded it online.
Yeah. Yeah. Cheating really is never good anyway.
The Quran said, and then never mess the
cheating successfully.
And if your intention to please and, do
test properly,
then even small now is better than all
these things to either. Never advise you to
do something like that.
JazakAllah, okay, and check. The next question is
by Waleed who asks,
can I lead a salah if I mix
madhubs
and I lead a strict Hanafi in salah?
You are done. But I've mentioned so many
times that all the opinions are just opinions,
really.
Well, not really whether you mix or do
as you like it. You know, everybody used
to mix, you know, before the or before
in months, companies did not have any butter.
So sometimes you can see same company as
something that's from Hanafi mother, something from a
Maliki mother.
Nobody no company that's ruled Hanafi or Maliki
Shafi.
Our honey forgets opinion for Hoofan people. Something
he take from Madeline people. Some he think
he had taken from Makan people.
Yeah. Imad Shafi has taken many things from
people, something from Madeline, and something from.
Everybody keeps mixing. So don't these are minor
issues. Don't worry about this so much. The
real thing is focus on prayer, concentrate,
pursue,
Allah will never question you. The question will
be, did you pray with pushing or not?
Assalamu alaikha Sheikh. The next question is by
Rifat who asks,
is it true if the servant does not
forgive the rights
of another servant,
Allah will not forgive him. What if someone
whom whom I have wronged doesn't want to
forgive me?
You know your duty really if you wrong
someone to ask him to forgive you or
you've taken somebody's money, you know, and you
have to pay back, you have to pay
back.
Something like that. That way you do really.
If the people don't forgive you, it is
their problem. Then in the dead, they need
to not neglect them to forgive because you
should be sincere and genuine. And everybody had
duty that you didn't somebody asked you to
forgive, you must forgive. You know? Maybe you
don't want to have the same relation again,
but the forgiveness is very important if somebody
is taking a risk
and ask you to forgive and, you know,
start a new life. So you shouldn't actually,
people should forgive even before somebody ask you.
You know, if somebody had the wrong to
you, why you want to keep hatred in
your heart? You're going to harm me. I
assume that he does it. It's not the
wrong. Forgive me and move on the life
and make your heart pure at the end.
Allah bless people when they are forgiving.
So in the Quran said that
the believers are those who control the anger
and the forget the people. So all of
my sin is a prophet. They have the
far beginning. So it's not good for the
believers to keep any haircut anyway. So if
you ask someone to follow you, they don't
follow you, then it is not your problem,
then it is their problem.
And the last question we'll take today,
is from,
Abdul Adi who asks, what is your advice,
dear Sheikh, for attending weddings of our close
family members
if there is concerns that they are not
conducted in an Islamic manner?
Yeah. I mean, because I in Islam Islam
has become very weak these these days.
So if we want to if it's strictly
Islamic,
then we are going to cut off the,
you know, pious people from the rest of
the society and we go to harder more
and more. Otherwise, you will be there waiting
party,
organized by your family members or somebody else,
friends, and they want you to come. So
even if there is something with your honor,
it is still you should attend it. And,
you know, and have good relation
and make your involvement with the things which
are not appropriate
as less as possible. And in the future,
when you have time, you can explain to
the people. But I never advise you to
be away from these weddings because then, basically,
those people will do as they like. But
once you're connected,
sometime you can advise them or sometime they
come to your house. They learn how you
do. So, you know, maybe not them. Their
children can learn from you. Their family can
learn from you. So good
things, they learn from each other.
So simple matter is that in our time,
you know, all these mixing,
you know, socially between Muslims and non Muslims
or non Muslims, good or bad.
It should happen. Mixing should happen,
but you should be careful,
you know, not to accept a wrong wrong
influence.
I'm hoping that one day the other people,
they will accept your good influence.
That's all for today, unfortunately.
I know there's quite a few questions that
haven't been answered. Please remember them and next
week Insha'Allah,
we'll do our best to address them. So
JazakAllah Khairan Sheikh for your time and JazakAllah
Khairan everyone
for tuning in. Inshallah, we'll see you next
week Thursday at 6
pm BST. As always, Assalamu Alaikum.