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wakulla mala Ji now,

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my dear brothers and sisters in Islam.

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Honey mama Papa Ronnie Rahim Allahu taala. He reports an aeration on the authority of Allium near Vitaly rhodiola. One, the famous Companion of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, his son in law in the fourth halifa of Islam, that he was one sitting with a number of his companions, a number of his friends. And he was sitting and he was pondering over the creation of Allah subhanho wa Taala. And he was thinking in particular, about the greatest of that which Allah has created in the dunya. And so he said that there are 10 things that Allah has created. And these are the most magnificent, tremendous creations of Allah subhanho wa Taala. Number one is the mountains that Allah

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created these mountains, these formidable structures in the mountains, they are the greatest creation of Allah in the dunya. But then he said, if we were to think about this and ponder over this, we would find that a lot also created iron, and steel. And we use this iron and steel, to break down these mountains, to go into these mountains and to make them into crumble and dust. And then he thought about this, and he said, but when we look at this iron and steel, then if you wish to use fire, the fire would melt this iron and steel, so the fire must be stronger than the iron and the steel. And then he said, if you were to think about the fire, you would find that if you were to

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pour water over this fire, that the water would extinguish the fire, and the water must be stronger than the fire. And if you must think about this water, then no doubt, water comes down from clouds, the clouds that Allah has placed between the heavens and the earth. And so the clouds were from the water and the rain descends, they must be a stronger creation of Allah. And then if you were to think about these clouds, you would find that a gust of wind, some breeze would come, and it will take these clouds to wherever Allah wills, so therefore, the wind must be stronger, and it must be more formidable than the clouds. But then when you look at this wind, you'll find that a person can

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easily protect himself from a gust and a breeze. When the wind comes, a person places his hand, outside of his face, he puts his hands out, and he protects himself from the wind that comes. So therefore a person is a stronger creation than the wind. But if you were to think about a person, a person is also a weak creation, because only if he was to drink some type of intoxicant, he would become intoxicated, he would lose his mind, he would no longer understand what he's about to do. So therefore, intoxicants must be stronger than a person. And then if you were to look at these intoxicants, you would find that if a person was to sleep, then their sleep would take away the

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effects of intoxicants, it would allow them to regain their mental faculties. And so therefore, sleep is stronger than intoxicants. And then he said, he came to the last and final 10th point, that if you were to look at sleep, then the thing that prevents sleep the most is the depression that a person suffers, the worries and the grief and the sadness that a person has within themselves, it will cause a person to stay awake and not enjoy their sleep. So therefore, the strongest thing that Allah has created in this dunya although worries and grief and sadness is we have when we look at this narration of an evening, Vitaly probably a long one. And what it says in essence, is that the

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grief and the sadness is that we have the different worries that come upon us, things that come upon us every single day, whether it's to do with our families, or our children, or our businesses, or our wealth, or our parents, or the other things that go on around us in our lives. These worries and these griefs, even though they can't be measured. Even though you can't see them, you can't visualize them, even though you can't touch and feel them. There's something which is hidden within your body, within your heart, within your mind. They are the greatest things that cause a person distress. One of the main reasons that a person can enjoy life is because of these griefs and

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worries and the stresses that they face in their daily life. And Allah subhanho wa Taala says in the Quran lacava hollandale insane Effie COVID indeed of assurity we have created mankind in turmoil. This is the life of a person one day you have problems and griefs and the second day they will double and the third day they will triple and they will continue to build and build

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And when you solve one worry 10 others will come. And when you solve those 10 100 more will come upon you. And this is the way that we live our lives. Even if you were to look at the example of our Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, we would find that shih tzu would have these worries and griefs, he would worry about his companions about the persecution that they suffered about the oppression that they had to deal with. He would worry so long when he was sending them about non Muslims and what they were plotting and planning. He would worry about the creation and the fact that they weren't accepting the message of Allah subhanho wa Taala. Look at the examples of the

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companions or the alarm went home. All of them went through some type of worry or distress or grief. Look at the story of caregiving. Malik wrote the alarm when, when he didn't go and participate in the Battle of taboo, and then for 14 days, the Muslims boycotted him. Imagine being the only person in the Muslim country, or one of the only few people, the whole community boycotts you. mores, distress, grief, depression. Look at the story of Arusha, radi Allahu anhu, when she was slandered, and how she had to deal with the slander, how she had to wait for Allah subhanahu wa taala to reveal verses in the Quran to declare her innocence. how difficult that narration is inside her body, when

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even her own father and her own mother don't know what to say in her defense, when they're sitting with the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and they don't know what to say, to defend the honor of their own daughter, waiting for the decree of Allah subhanho wa Taala. And then even after Allah azzawajal declares her innocence, the grief and the worry and the distress of Abu Bakr, radi Allahu and her father who has to deal with the Muslim community, those people who slandered his daughter, how should he now deal with him? How should he deal with them and respond to them? How should he interact with those people who slandered his own daughter rhodiola who is one of the

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de stresses and worries and griefs, but from the beauty of Allah subhanho wa Taala from the mercy of his religion is that Allah subhanho wa Taala doesn't please these worries and griefs for us, except that there is some way out except that there is something that you can do about this some way that you can relieve yourself from these problems and these worries and a Sybil Malik radi Allahu Akbar mentioned in a beautiful Hadith one dua a simple Dora, eight things that we use, we should seek refuge from eight things that we should constantly seek refuge in Allah from and a simple nomadic rhodiola generates in our Bukhari and Muslim. There is stepfather a bottle Helen Saudi rhodiola. One

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was asked by the prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam that he should find for him as a young boy to serve him after his needs. So he took nsabp Malik for the long run to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and he handed him over. And under sibongile Malik would say that when the Prophet salallahu alayhi wa sallam was in Medina, I would tend to his name, I would go and look after him and serve his needs Salalah while he will sell them, and I would often hear him making this one. Not because there was a specific reason or something specifically would come upon him. It was a door that he would make every day, and he would constantly repeat this, because of its power, because of

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its benefits because of the mercy contained within it. He would say that a lot of Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam would often make the de Allahumma in the EU becoming alemi will happen while rGc will castle while Germany will work on a bad day in vaca region, eight things that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam would seek refuge from he would say Oh Allah, I seek refuge in You from a lamb will happen from grief and from sadness. I seek refuge in You Oh Allah from laziness and from weakness. And I seek refuge in You or law, from a juvenile ball being stingy and being a coward and I seek refuge in You Oh Allah from breathe from being indebted, and from other people overpowering

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me. Eight things that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam would seek refuge in the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa send them in another narration collected by a Buddha would about which the scholars of Hadith have differed over its authenticity, but its meaning nevertheless is correct. And that is the Hadith that it was reported that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam once entered into his Masjid and he saw a boo mama sitting there. And so he said to him, ma Julissa Kafeel Masjid if you walked in lady Salah was cool caused you to sit in the masjid at a time when there is no prayer. Why are you sitting in the masjid? There is no prayer coming up what has caused you to sit

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in the masjid? And so he replied

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messenger of Allah who mukalla Bethany, what do you do? Naka? Bethany, because of worries and griefs that have overpowered me, and because debts I have that have overcome me, that's money that I owe to people. And so the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, shall I not teach you a number of words? Which if you were to say, then a law would protect you from one of these worries and griefs, and allow would pay off for you your debts that you have? And so he said, Yes, or messenger of Allah. So the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam taught him this exact same law, to seek refuge in Allah from these exact same eight things. The great scholar of Islam in no time Rahim Allahu taala.

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He looks at this hadith and this beautiful day. And he asks, Why is it that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam combined between these eight things? Why is it that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam would order us to seek refuge in these eight things? He says Rahim, Allah wa tada that the first thing that Allah says Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam order to seek refuge in was Ilham griefs and worries that you have. And these are things that you worry about in the future, things of that have not come to pass, things that haven't happened to you, but they may happen to you. And so you have this grief. And this worry, perhaps has to do with your children and their future, or the

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future of your marriage, or the future of your business, the future of your job, whatever it may be. These are the stresses and worries that you have in the future. And so as Muslims were ordered to seek refuge in Allah from such things, because these are the things that keep us awake at night, these are the things that stop a person from enjoying their life, that stop a person from being able to worship Allah, and to come closer to him, because of the worries and grief that they have. And then he mentioned her husband, sadness. And he said, This refers to those things that worry you from the past, things which have already taken place with your children, or your family, or your job, or

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your community or your friends or your relatives, whatever the issue may be. things that happened in the past that now keep you awake, that now stop you from being able to come closer to Allah because all of your time is spent worrying about these issues. And then the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam mentioned to other things that he also dreamed between. And that is that a person seeks refuge in Allah from laziness, and from weakness, weakness, meaning that you're not able to do good, that you can't go and do those acts of God that Allah has ordered you to do. Because you're weak, you don't have an issue, the ability to go and to worship Allah or to come closer to Allah subhanho,

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wa Taala. And also laziness, that even if you are able to, it's just that you don't want to, you don't have that motivation and enthusiasm in you to go and to come closer to Allah subhanho wa Taala. And these four things are linked, because when a person is overcome by distress, and worry and grief, then that will cause the person also to become weak and to become lazy. They can't be bothered, nothing motivates them anymore. Nothing will give them that enthusiasm to wake up in the morning. And to come closer to Allah, everywhere they look. They just see their worries and griefs, everything they think about it just depresses them, and so they lose any hope in life. And we know

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from the Quran that Allah subhanho wa Taala orders us never to despair in the mercy of Allah, never to allow ourselves to reach that extent where we don't hope for the mercy of Allah. Allah azza wa jal in the Koran he says, well, tomorrow Mattila do not despair from the mercy of Allah subhanho wa Taala. In Allah yoke feudal Luba Jimmy are fully Indeed Allah will forgive all of your sins in the who who will afford Rahim, he is a forgiving, Most Merciful. The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam then ordered us to seek refuge in being stingy. And also from being cowardly, being cowardly, in the sense that you're not able to go and to do those things that require courage and bravery, so that

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you come closer to Allah. And this doesn't just refer to fighting or to going and performing jihad, it could be anything. The fact that you're too cowardly to go and to do that or for the sake of Allah, to call this person to do good to order, the god forbid the evil, you see something that's wrong, but you don't have the courage to go and to stop it. This is the cowardliness the cowardice that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam ordered us to seek refuge in and that also you're miserly. Not only that, don't you have the physical ability and courage to go into too good, but you miserly and you stingy? You don't even spend your wealth, this money that Allah has blessed you with

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You won't even come closer to Allah with the money that Allah has given you. And the final two things that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam ordered us to seek refuge in

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his debt, that you become overpowered by debt, and that you become overpowered by what other people do towards you debt, the money that you take from others, and you're unable to repay back. And we know from the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, that one of the reasons that a person within their grave is withheld from the mercy and the reward of Allah subhana wa Taala is because of the debts that they have incurred, debts that they have incurred, and the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam wouldn't pray the janazah of a person, he wouldn't pray their janazah if they had a death, and he said Son alone, he will send them that even the martyr is withheld from the mercy of Allah in

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his grave until his debts are paid off. And so debts, the rights that others have upon you, the money that you took by choice, and then now you don't pay it back, or you're unable to pay back. These are also issues that cause you to worry and to cause you to have distress and grief. And then other people overpowering you, other people, oppressing you, transgressing against you, other people doing injustice against you, perhaps for no reason, perhaps just simply because they want to for no good reason. And so they oppress you. And so this keeps you awake at night as well. And so all of these issues that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam ordered us to seek refuge in Allah from

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all of them lead back and they increase your worries and your distress. The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, that a Muslim or a believer does not have any difficulty come upon him, nor does he become ill, nor does he become sad, nor does he have worries or griefs, and that he is patient upon all of this except Allah will explain it for him his sins in and so from the RTW, Muslim, from the man of a believer is that when these issues come upon us, these worries, these discourses, these griefs, all of these issues that come upon us, it is a test from Allah subhanho wa Taala. does a lot of xojo need your distress and your grief? does Allah subhanaw taala need you to

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be in debt? Does he need you to be miserly or stingy? But Allah azzawajal wants to test your Eman? What will you do at this situation? Will you come closer to Allah? Will you make dua to Allah? will you return, return and repent to Allah? Will you have patience upon this issue? Or will this drive you further and further away from Allah? Will you think that there is no hope? Will you despair in the mercy of Allah subhanho wa Taala and that's why the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam would say that no one comes upon difficulty, except that he makes the dawn of the moon that he made in the belly of the whale, and that Allah will replace for him his difficulty and will make it into what is

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the dawn of the moon, that Allah azzawajal mentions in the Quran that the art of universality is Salaam, when he was stuck in the belly of the whale, and he said, La Ilaha, Illa and subhanak in the continental Valley mean, there is no god worthy of worship except you, Oh Allah, Glory be to You. Indeed I am from those who have committed oppression. So a person returns to Allah, we attach our hearts to Allah Subhana Allah, we come closer to Allah, and we grovel to Allah subhana wa Taala. We use the names and attributes of Allah to come closer to Him, we show him our humility, and our humbleness and our weakness, and then we make dua to Allah, that there is no one in the heavens and

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earth. No one besides Allah subhana wa tada that has the power and the ability to remove our worries and griefs. We don't attach ourselves to people. We don't attach ourselves to our money. We don't attach ourselves to worldly means before we attach ourselves to Allah subhanho wa Taala. So we return to a large zoa gel and ask him to relieve our worries and griefs. And when a person does this, and they take the step two, Allah with your clean and with our coal and with a man, then Allah subhana wa Taala will respond and he will remove the griefs and the distresses and that's why boo mama said that when I made this to add that allows Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam taught me

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these eight things that I sought refuge in, then Allah azza wa jal removed for me my worries and distresses and he paid off all of my debts, as reported in San Buhari, that zubiri been a worm for the long run the famous companion, he said to his son on his deathbed, Abdullah Ignacio bail that I am dying and I have many debts upon me. So I want you to pay them off for me. And every time you're unable to, it becomes difficult for you. Then I want you to make dua to Allah and say, Oh Allah, the One who is the Protector.

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Lovers obey my father pay off his debts. And so I'm delighted as obey would say that I wouldn't come across any difficulty in this issue, except that I would do as my father ordered and I would make dua to Allah in this way and allow would help me clear off all his debts barakallahu li walakum for me was sooner when a fanny Murphy mama

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the Prophet of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam also taught us another door. And he's two hours or two hours that we should be reciting every single day, in the morning and in the evening. And every time we have any issues and stresses and worries, these two hours not only should we memorize, but we should understand them and we should be teaching them to our families and our children. In this other day, along with our lady will sell them order us to see to say he taught us these words along in the abduch ignore our baddeck ametek NASA TV eddic milden fee, our drone fee aka dog as a local policeman who Allah Scimitar BNF set on Delta houfy Kitab ik or alumna who had the main holidayiq I

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was thought to be he feel as if you're in the middle you're in debt and touch idle for an AVI Maravi Appleby, one Rosado de la Hosni was a habit Hamid, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, Oh Allah, I am your servant, the son of your male servant, the son of your female, seventh, my forehead is within your grasp your decree is over, your decree overcomes me. And your rule is just concerning me, I asked you with every single name that you have, that you have given to yourself, or that you have revealed in your book, or that you have taught to one of your creation, or that you have kept with you in the knowledge of the unseen, that you make the Oran the spring of my heart, and you make

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it the light of my chest and you make it the banisher of my worries and my distresses and you make it the Congress of any grief that I have this beautiful, concise, Hadith, a number of words, is so powerful that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, no one will make this to our except that Allah will relieve for him any worry or distress that he has. When he person returns to Allah, and they have that a man and that certainty and that trust in Allah and the top from Allah subhanho wa Taala that no one is left in the dunya that can help me besides you, Oh Allah, there is no one. No one can help me there is only Allah, especially in those issues. When you know that there is no one

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that will stand by you. There is no one for you, not your family, not your parents, not your children, not your friends, not your relatives, no one can come to your aid except Allah subhana wa Taala. And then you make this to our, with that sincerity, and that you're clean and that tobacco, then Allah azza wa jal will respond to you. And he will relieve for you, your distresses and your worries. And look at what a beautiful day it is. That you start off showing your submission to Allah, your humility to Allah, your humbleness to Allah, Oh Allah, I am your servant, the son of your male servant, the son of your female servant, you show your submission to Allah subhanahu wa

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Tada. And then you speak about the decree of Allah, that it is a law that decrees everything that happens to us, good or bad from that which benefits us and that which harms us. No one can decree except Allah and what Allah decrees will come to pass, and the decree of Allah is just in every way. So you submit yourself to the decree of Allah. And then you call upon Allah, using his most beautiful names, the names that he has called himself with the names that are revealed in the Quran, the names that he taught to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and even those names that no one knows except Allah, those names that are in the knowledge of the unseen only Allah subhanho wa

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Taala knows them, you invoke upon Allah using all of these means, and then you ask Allah azza wa jal to allow his speech, which is from his attributes to be the reason that these distresses and these worries leave you that the Oran should be the light of your chest. It should be the spring of your heart. It should be the very reason that all of this all of these worries and distress is leave you

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It shows us My dear brothers and sisters in Islam, that we should attach ourselves to the book of Allah subhanho wa Taala and to the Sunnah of our Prophet salallahu alayhi wa sallam. All of these doors that we need are either mentioned in the Quran, or they're mentioned by our Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and the way that we use these drawers, the ways the ways in which we make this to our, the state that we're in, when we invoke upon the law, and the and the way that we are when we call upon Allah, all of this is also taken from the book of Allah and the Sunnah of our Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam. So as Allah subhanho wa Taala what is most beautiful names and his most

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lofty attributes that he relieves from us from any distress that we have? And then he worries in groups that are overcomers and that he helps us to pay off our debts, and then we seek refuge in Him from miserliness and stinginess and cowardice and from laziness and weakness, and then he protects us from others, and then just just an oppression of others. Through Mala Mala.

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