Ahmed Suleman Khatani – Sunnah Of Nikah
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Alhamdulillah ka faucila, Abu
Asmaa, wala ibadi, lalina, safad, haqqan, Allahu Taala fil Quran in
Vajra.
Ullah him in and proceed. Come as well. Jali Hawa, Jaana Kumar, data
ini, Kanai, until you call me
Sala Allahu, alabihi wa sallam, khairukum, Kairo KU Ali, he was
salaam, respect. Wasallam,
respected Rama iqram, elders and beloved brothers in Islam.
The occasion of nikhya, it
is appropriate
that we consider the first nikkah that ever took place in humanity.
That was the Nikkah between Abu Bashar Adam
and hawali assalam,
the mother of humanity.
This nikkah took place in Jannat,
generally, various reports we find in the tafashir with regards to
this mikha,
the crux of it is that Adam isallam
had had at his disposal all the various
Simar, kusur,
anhaar, etc, in the palaces, the rivers, the fruits, the various
pleasures of Jannat he had at his disposal, but Allah has made it
part of human nature that a human being requires company, requires
someone he can seek solace in.
So he was feeling lonely,
and to address this need of humanity,
Allah created Hawa.
One interesting point, we find
that if we look
in the tafa seed, if we look in the books of Hadith, when it comes
to the creation of Insan, of the human being, and particularly the
male of the species, there is great detail about the creation of
Adam and esana,
whereas
if we look with regards to the creation of Hawa, of the woman,
there is very little detail.
And ulama explained that there is a great wisdom and hikmud behind
this,
they say woman is a source of concealment.
Allah subhana wa Taala has kept the dignity and the honor of a
woman in her chastity
and in her haya and in ashamed and ALLAH SubhanA wa Taala meets so
much of the Ayat of this, that even with regards to the taqlid of
a woman, the creation of the first woman of humanity, that also Allah
put a pardha obeyed
whilst Adama esalam was sleeping,
whether we are repeating our announcement that please, if you
are parked in such a way that You are obstructing anybody, most
those who are parked like that would have come for the Nikas and
Nikas are not taking place immediately. We've got 10 or 15
minutes Grace now, so please ensure that we move our vehicles.
We're not sure. Also, we should check so that we don't have any
confusion, people losing their tempers, etc,
whilst Adam alaihi salam was sleeping in his sleep from his
rib, Allah created Hawaii Salam.
So the point we are making is that Allah Tala put paradah over the
creation, also of a woman
for us to realize the importance
and the emphasis which our Mubarak Deen has placed, with regards to
parda, with regards to the haya and the chastity of a woman,
I am digressing, but one incident comes to mind
in the Hajj of rasulallahu alasallam, not long ago, Hajj took
place,
and the huja of return also,
and generally we find, to a very large extent,
when it comes to the Amal of Deen, or the practices of Deen, we tend
to go through the motions, but the Asmaa and the lessons that we
should be taking, the ruh and the hakikat of these Amal very few of
us actually bring in our lives. That is why we find many people
make hajj and they come back, but their lives haven't changed.
Likewise, the month of Ramadan comes and goes. Mubarak, occasions
come and go. But that change that is supposed to coming in becoming
in us, we find that it is not coming.
There is.
One incident which took place in the Hajj of rasulallahu alayhi wa
sallam,
which
is mentioned in most of the books of Hadith.
When Allah rasoola sallallahu alayhi wa sallam
was proceeding on the day of Arafat,
he was mounted on his camel,
and seated behind him
was his cousin Fazal bin Abbas Ravi Allahu anhuma. Fazal was the
son of Abbas bin Abdul Muttalib, the uncle of rasulallah
SallAllahu. So Fazl bin Abbas was from the ahi lebait, the direct
descendants of Rasulullah sallallahu, alayhi wa sallam,
mounted on his camel. Now try and appreciate the veracity of this
incident. It is the day of Arafat. It is hajatul Wada, the Farewell
Pilgrimage of rasulallah SallAllahu, that entire majma and
gathering on the plains of Arafat. The focus of the attention is
Rasulullah sallallahu sallam.
Every one of them had come, one to have the Barkat and the blessing
of making Hajj with rasulallah sallam, secondly, to observe the
Hajj of rasulallah,
because after
nubhwa,
this was the first Hajj that rasulallah, sallAllahu, Islam is
making. And this Hajj has to be taught to the to humanity till
qamat So everyone's attention is focused on him.
And in such a gathering, a young, beautiful woman comes towards
Rasulullah. Young girl, she was from the Qassam tribe.
She had a question,
the crux of a question, the lonavi of Allah, sallAllahu, sallam, my
father is elderly,
and he is unable to perform Hajj. Can I perform hajj on his behalf?
Now the Messiah of hajj are many, and you will find them in many of
the books of Hadith, but this particular incident, ulama
explained, is found in most of the books of Hadith, not because of
her question, but because of what occurred when this woman came and
put this Question to Rasulullah sallallahu,
Sallam Fazal, also a youngster
and a young woman in front
Fazal gaze goes towards this young woman
Allah's Rasool Allahu Ali wa sallam turns around, places his
mubaraki hand on the chin of Fazal bin Abbas and forcibly turns his
chin in a different direction.
Then he addresses whatever the question of that woman was, of
that young girl
after that, once this incident had transpired, Abbas bin Abdul
Muttalib, the uncle of rasulallah sallam, being uncle. Uncle is like
a father.
So he had certain could take certain leniencies that others
couldn't take.
And he poses not an objection, but the inquiry. Rasulallah salaried
Ono ka Ibni ammik
Ya Rasulullah in front of everybody. All were looking.
It's Arafat, the Haja Rasulullah. So everyone's eyes is trained on
NaVi salud Islam in front of everyone. You turn the face of
your cousin away.
In other words, the suggestion was there that you brought disgrace
upon him. In front of everyone, what was the need to do that?
Look at the reply which rasulallah gives him. And in that reply is
great, Sabha can listen for the ummatul qyama,
the curse of his reply. Allah rasulallah said
she was young, he was young.
It was a male and a female.
I feared that if I allowed his gaze to go towards her, then
shaitan would come between them. She
now ask ourselves, who is Fazal? Fazal is on the elevates
that young woman is a Sahabi,
and what is the martava and status of Sahaba, the lower sahabi, all
the ghos, all the kutub, all the Abdal,
if the whole world were filled with Rabia bhasris,
collectively, they would not indulge in status equal to the
dust on the shoe of that young girl who was the sahabi of
rasulallah.
And then in.
The back of Rasul Islam, touching the chest of Fazal, where was the
room for Shaitan to come?
How is it possible, in Arafat, his chest, touching the back of
rasulallah, in his company sitting, touching his Mubarak
body, that shaitan is going to come?
And yet, Navi issual Islam says that I feared that shaitan would
come between them. That is why I turned his face away
in that is Sabbath for the ummatul. Kyamats, that when the
door of intermingling of men and women will open in this ummats,
when
the etiquettes, the rules, the obligation of pardha, of
concealment, of separation between men and women, when the Ummat will
turn its back on this
then fitna and facade will spread in the ummats,
that great Sabbath, that great lesson, that great warning is
given through this incident, through to the entire ummatria,
and
yet we find my respective brothers nowadays. If we look at the Nikas
that take place,
if we go to the halls, see the intermingling that is taking place
in our own homes,
we find so many people, we hear the comment being passed. If I
don't introduce my wife to my friend, then I have insulted my
friend. And
then if you tell him that why Islam doesn't allow this type of
intermingling a
woman's dignity and honor is in her haya and her chastity. And
what is the response? He says, My heart is clean. My friend's heart
also is clean. We don't have any evil intentions.
Can your heart be cleaner than the heart of rasulallah?
Can your heart be cleaner than the heart of a Sahabi
we find in this ummat, the more we will move away from the sunnat of
Rasulullah, sallAllahu, alayhi wa sallam, the more Zulma, the more
darkness will come in this ummat.
Allah Ali Salam
addressed Abu Sufyan, and he told him, ya about Sufyan.
And they address. He may have used the name of Abu Sufyan because Abu
Sufyan was in front of him,
but not only was he addressing Abu Sufyan,
every male, every female of humanity, till qyamat was being
addressed this address, Ya Abu as people of South Africa, oh people
of America or people of Europe or people of Asia,
or whoever you may be, whether you are a doctor or a lawyer or an
engineer or a pauper or a king or a ruler, whatever facet or aspect
of society you occupy, whatever position you may hold, no matter
How many degrees you may have to your name or how intelligent you
consider yourself, every
human being till kyama is addressed. Ya Abu Asmaa. Allah
rasam is addressing the entire humanity. Jimb, bikraid, dunya
waka, namatil akhirah, I have come with that Mubarak way of life.
Adopt my Mole. Make my day, your day. Make my night your night.
Color yourself in the color of Muhammad Rasulullah, sallAllahu,
alayhi wa sallam.
I have brought that way of life which not only will give you
success in akhirat, it will give you the dignity, honor, protection
of this dunya also to dunya wakaramatil, Akira,
unfortunately, my respected brothers, We have confined deen
and sunnat to the masjid, make namaz like the namaz of rasulallah
SallAllahu, make tilauth of Quran like his tilad. Make zikrullah
Like his zikrullah. Make Ibadat like his Ibadan.
But that is a very restricted and a confined sense and understanding
of what is deemed a me.
Just last month, personal experience, I had one dindra
person was in front of me. He
was conducting a business transaction.
Few other Muslims were there also.
And I said to him that, Bhai, in this particular thing. Why don't
you see what is the Shariat? There was a dispute. I said, see what is
the Shariat, and follow the Sharia they stayed in it. What was his
response? I'm sitting on the member of the Masjid. This was his
exact word. This is not even one month ago. He took place.
He said that by this is business, leave the Shariat one side.
It. Another person was standing next to him afterwards, he told
me. He says, I have heard, I have heard the molest saying that
something like this takes place in the Bayan Wallahi, the first time
my life I saw it happening in front of
me. What he said is, in the hearts of many of us,
we have compartmentalized our lives. One is the deen of the
Masjid. The other is the rest of Deen. That is why, in our Nikas,
in our interaction with our wives and our children, in our
interaction with our parents, in our financial dealings,
there that five time Namazi, that muttaqi, that quiet person of the
masjid,
becomes somebody else who is unrecognizable.
Say, then Ahmed bin Khattab, Radi Allahu taala. He was the
personality of such wisdom and intellect.
Then the BIS Assam said, If there to be a NaVi after me, it would
have been Omar. Look at what he says. He says, Yay. Johannas,
Lata, Guru, runna Kum tanatur, rajali, belai, salatihi, in NAMA,
Raju. Raju. Man Salim al muslimihi, woman, Abdul amanatha
isatumin,
he said, O People,
O People, do not be deceived
when you see a person wailing and crying in his tahajjud, Salah, not
ordinary salah. Tahajjud Sara not crying, not weeping, wailing,
wailing and crying. When you see him in tahajjud, Salah, doing
that. Do not be deceived that he is a pious person.
In nama rajulu rajuli said, A man amongst men a truly pious person,
mansali, man Muslim, is that person from whose tongue and hands
Muslims are safe.
When he opens his mouth, roses come out. Thorns don't come out.
When he raises his hand, it is a gesture of kindness. He is not a
source of oppression and hurt and harm to others. Leaves society, in
our homes, in our own homes, there are so many of us that have become
a threat to our own families.
How many wives are they whose hearts are not broken by the
utterances of their husbands?
How many children of ummat are they to whom that father has
become a source of inspiration and guidance, and one who is brought
who takes him closer to Allah and His Rasul, sallAllahu, sallam,
our deen, unfortunately, is left for some other compartment in our
homes, in our businesses, we have become someone else.
And yet, if we look in at the reality of Shariat, my respected
brothers, akhlaq and character, akhlaq and character is that
recipe,
is that formula,
which Rasulullah sallallahu Sallam gave his ummat by which most of us
are businessman. We use a crude expression every one of us when it
comes to business, we always looking for the shortcuts. What's
the shortcut? Least expense, least effort, maximum profits
in the minimum amount of time, we regard that businessman to be an
astute businessman who, in the minimum amount of time and effort,
can get the maximum profit. We always looking for the shortcuts.
Allah rasoo Sala Salem has given us a shortcut to the highest rank
in Jannat. If
you want to know the easy way to get the highest rank in Jannat,
then that shortcut my respect with brothers, which was given to us by
Nabi apa sallali, seldom is that we have to develop our clock and
our character?
This alisham, the Hadith, he said,
asaya bin Nahar.
Well, kaimil is a person his entire life pass every day and
every night. He makes tahajjud Salaam for his entire life.
And
I am interpreting it far further
according to what commentary olam I have written on these type of
ahadis, if he is given the life of nuwali Salam, and he fast every
day, and he makes tahajjud Salah for the entire night, every night
Walla Allah sat in Jannat, he will not get the rank and the mertava
of that person who has good akhlaq and character
that emphasis our deen has placed on akhlaq and character. How many
homes we have this expression a.
That my son has just qualified. He's got his degree now.
Here he earning enough money, so now he is ready to get married.
Or the girl, the jewelry tests are done
now is used. The primary is ready,
so the requirement for marriage is done. She's ready to get married.
Ask ourselves, do we consider it a need or a requirement
that, have I given her the jewelry of a character?
Have I given my son the degree of AK in character?
Have I taught him to control his anger?
Have I taught him to speak sweetly? Have I taught him to
consider the feelings of others when he utters anything?
Have I taught him what the conduct of Rasulullah with his wives,
that poor father,
like a little like a like a precious flower, protects his
daughter. He brings her up. And in his heart, he has this command and
desire. He may have been a poor man. My daughter is brought, was
brought up in poverty. He gets a proposal from what he thinks is
the Sharif family. He gets a proposal from a qualified person.
In his heart, he is happy now
my daughter will be financially well off, that daughter who he
brought up
till she became a flower that bloomed. He hands her over with so
much of trust and hope in his heart and so much of aspirations.
Outwardly, that proposal that came. Outwardly, it was some
doctor. Outwardly, it was some lawyer. Outwardly, it was a
cultured person. Outwardly, it was an intellect.
Outwardly, it was an Insan, but inside, he was a hayawan and an
animal, and he crushes this flower, makes her life a living
misery on this earth. So that woman reaches a stage where she
wishes that moth was better than life for her. How many incidents
we see like this And conversely, also,
that beautiful girl, good background, good family.
All the material wealth is there
that person thinks I'm getting a good girl in my home, and the day
she enters the house, that is the day the fires are lit in that
home.
Your mother is saying this, your sister is saying this, what is
happening about this? What is happening about that? We're not
going
to go into the details. There's no time. In fact, I'm taking it.
Taking too much of time. But
we have to ask ourselves, how much do we even consider it a
requirement? Have I given my son or my daughter the jewel or the
degree of a character
Navier salad Islam caught hold of the hand of Abu zarladi, Allahu,
Taala and Hu and said, Ya Abu
ya abazar, O Abu zar awala, Abu Luka, Allah, Amali, Hafi fin
Mauna, tu Huma Adi min Aju humah, Lam tal kalahabi, mitlihima,
he said, Abu zhar abuzav, should I not show you two actions?
Hafiq in Mauna, to whom are very little. Effort is required. Like
we said earlier, we looking for the shortcuts, easiest way to the
highest ranks, in general, the VISTA Assam says. Abu zharr, there
are two things. Effort required for it is very little. Adi Minaj
Rama, the reward of it is very great.
Lam Taluka, lahabhima, no one will meet Allah on the Day of Judgment
with anything greater than these two things.
Abu zharr,
say. Jara sulla, tell me what are those two things. Look at the
reply of rasulallah
to my little effort is required. He said, Abu zharr ASAM. The first
thing is silence. Learn see that 32 locks, and then there is a main
gate in front, which Allah has put over that tongue. He said, Learn
to close that gate, think before you open that mouth. When poets
compare the hearts of human beings,
they normally compare the heart with glass. Why? What is the
reason for that comparison? Because glass is something when
you break it, to piece it together again is impossible. You can never
make it again. You can never put it together again like what it
was.
That is why the heart of Insan is compared with glass. And there is
nothing that breaks the heart quicker than the utterances of the
tongue that wound that poison which the tongue will influence.
It. Nothing else will inflict poison like that. It will go right
till the cover of that person, and beyond that the hurt of the
utterances of the tongue. So
he said, abuza, Assam, silence. It is said about abuzara, the Allahu,
taala. Sometimes weeks would pass. Weeks would pass and he wouldn't
utter a single word.
The prohibition is not of speech. The prohibition is of that speech
which is going to hurt someone, that speech which is going to make
Thor, that speech which the Shariat has prohibited us from.
And the second thing he told him, Hosanna khuluq, good, akhlaq in
character.
So coming back to what you were mentioning earlier, my respected
brothers
and on occasion of the Hajj of Rasulullah sallallahu, tell them
this ummat was made to understand the importance of there not being
iktilat and mixing between men and women.
We know what moju dahalat is. We know what the present situation
is.
Throughout the world, ummed is suffering. We have been given a
prescription which will not only address our problems of akhirat,
it will address our problems of dunya also. We have to embrace the
Mubarak way of life of rasulallah. Recently, one of our local olamin
is Majlis. He mentioned something which I also want to mention.
He said, One pious person recently saw a dream in which he saw
Rasulullah, sallAllahu, sallam,
and he asked Ravi shalaya rasulallah,
why is it that the Muslims are suffering the way they are
suffering today? Why is it that torment upon torment, persecution
upon persecution, is being meted out on the Ummat in the manner
that it is happening. When is it going to stop? When is it going to
get less? Allah rasam told this person that when the level of
bheya and shamelessness in my ummat will drop, then only this
will stop happening to my ummat.
Our actions have an effect my respected brothers,
the more we will move away from the life of rasulallah, the
repercussions of that we will definitely see.
So we have to make Tova. Unfortunately, we have become a
humid when some incident takes place, we motivate.
We go into Harkat. We become worried when he passes. We carry
on the way we were carrying on before, until something else
happens, and something else happens, but the sabak and the
lesson that we are supposed to be taking, we are not taking. I said
this many, many times. I am repeating it again. My respected
brothers, for last sake, understand that this girlfriend,
boyfriend culture that has become the norm, where sometimes even in
the name of Islam, boys and girls are sitting together and learning
Islam. This boyfriend, girlfriend culture is a poison that is
destroying this ummats To such an extent that even after nikk, the
door of Dinah is not closing.
Ummul mumming in Aisha radi Allah Now, when she was asked, when
earthquakes will happen, when Allah's open azawa will come upon
the Ummat, one of the things she mentioned, she said, when Zina
will take place in this ummat in a manner as if it is not haram, and
that will happen when respected brothers, when iftilaat and
intermingling will take place. So, just to complete that incident
which we mentioned in the beginning. Adam and Eli salaam
woke up from his sleep. Hawari assalam was next to him.
He stretches his hand out towards the
ladhara. Says, oh, Adam, she is not halal for you, Nikah has to be
made.
For Nikah, Mair has to be given
Jannah. Jannat was at his disposal, but Jannat didn't belong
to him. He didn't have anything. What mayor is he going to give?
Salah dala says to him, the revised differ in one divide comes
eight times, 112, times, 120, times. Recite durud and Salawat
upon Muhammad Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. And
this will constitute the mehal for the first nikkah that led to the
existence of the entire humanity on the surface of this earth. So
from that time, humanity is indebted to janabir, Rasulullah,
sallAllahu, alayhi wa sallam, weaving his ummats to a far
greater extent, we have to embrace his Mubarak way of life in every
aspect of our lives, unfortunately, like one of our
elders said recently, he says, nowadays, person goes to the
Melissa, tell me, is the Sunnat, and
what is the motivation behind his question? Motivation behind his
question is that if it is the Melissa says it is Sunnat, then it
leave it out.
He says Sahaba was such that they would avidly look to see what he
did with this Tamanna, and desire that if my Nabi did it, I will
give my life, but I won live it out. And Umma today has become
such. If it is Sunnah, it's okay to leave it out.
So for this reason, for us to learn what the character and the
character of Rasta was, for us to learn what is Deen, what is day,
what is night, what is cricket, what is cry, was this is why we
are exhorted to go out in the path of Allah, subhanho wa taala, to
establish the halaka of Talim in our homes, halqa of Talim in our
masjids, to attach and link ourselves with the Amar of masjid,
so that through that effort, our lives can come on to Deen May
Allah give each and every one of us to stop it.