Ahmed Suleman Khatani – Rghts Of Wife
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Alhamdulillah. Alhamdulillah. Madhu wana sainhofer,
the Allah A
you
live
isa wala, sabrahan, Huna, yaIm wa yagli, Munna, laim ha Oh, Hib,
Buan aku na Kareem and Mubin, wala, oh, Hib, bun Abu SallAllahu,
alayhi wa Sallam
respected Allah Akram,
elders and beloved brothers in Islam,
Allah subhanahu wa has
blessed the Ummat of janavi Rasulullah, sallAllahu, alayhi wa
sallam
with the way of life
of the most perfect
and the greatest Nabi in the sight of Allah Tala.
The beauty of our Shariat is such
that it encompasses
every facet of our lives, whether it is inside the masjid, outside
the masjid, whether it is the bazaar, whether it is the home,
every facet of human existence we have in front of us, that perfect
mold, that perfect model, that perfect example, which, if you
will, follow,
then every act of our 24 hour daily life, no matter how mundane
it may be, will carry reward and recompense from Allah.
Allah says in the Quran, Allah Kum fear rasulallah for you in the
rasulallah, Muhammad Sallallahu, alayhi wa sallam is the most
perfect example,
unfortunately, many of us have restricted and confined Shariat
And Deen to pertain to acts of Ibadan, to Our conduct in the
masjid.
Outwardly,
we may have sunnat libas on. The appearance
may be of Sunnat.
Outwardly, in many cases, the person appears to be an Insan. But
once he enters his house, and once he is away from the probing eyes
of society, then that same insan becomes an animal,
and
his life and his conduct has absolutely no identification
or no resemblance whatsoever for the sublime conduct of Janabi
Rasulullah, sallAllahu, alaihi wasallam,
we have to understand my respected brothers,
the reward for ivat is in its place,
but akhlaq and character in the sight of Allah, subhanho wa Taala
carries a greater reward than even our ibadahs.
Janabi Rasulullah, sallam, said mamin Shay in Attal Fimi zaanil,
Abdul Minyo kyama, Min khulok Hasan,
there is nothing, not salah, not zakat, not Hajj, no act of ibadah,
Tila ut of Quran, ziklullah, whatever it may be, is more
weightier in the scale of deeds on the day of judgment than good
akhlaq and character.
The emphasis our Shariat has placed on character and akhlaq is
tremendous. On one occasion, one Bedouin comes to Rasulullah,
sallAllahu, sallam, and he asks him, what is Deen? Allah
rasulallah says, deen is good. Ala,
this person didn't expect that answer. So he turns around, goes
away and comes from the right hand side, on the way of Allah. What is
Deen again? The reply is given, good of laa,
so he goes back, comes from the left hand side. Ya rasulallah,
what is Deen again? The reply good of luck. So.
Then he comes from behind on Abhi of Allah, what is Deen?
Again? The Sullivan says, By
you don't want to understand or I do not become angry. That is Deen.
One person came and asked,
What is Islam? Allah? Rasam said it amutaam atibul Kalam to feed
people, to be generous, to be kind, to speak sweetly. That is
Islam. In other words, good aklaq in character.
Someone else came and asked, What is Iman?
He said, asavara Samaha, to be tolerant and to speak sweetly, to
overlook, to forgive. In other words, good of now,
someone came and asked Ayu Islami Abdul, what is the best Islam? He
said, mansali Muslim. He said, The
best Islam, the best Muslim is not the person who spends the whole
day fasting and the whole night in tahajjud. Who is the best Muslim,
that person from whose tongue and hands other Muslims are safe, he
is not a threat to society.
Someone came and asked a Imani, Abdul on Abhi of Allah, what is
the best Iman? What is the highest Iman?
The reply of Jana bi rasulallah kulak, good character that is the
highest Iman,
and the greatest test
for the level of Iman and akhlaq and character of an individual
my respected brothers, is not the public eye.
The greatest test is the domestic life of this person. What is his
conduct with his wife and his children?
That is why rasulallah, khairukumi Ali,
he said, the most superior one from all of you,
the best one of my ummat
is not that person who makes the most ibadans, nor is that person
who appears to be the most pious in public.
He said, the best person amongst you is the one who deals with his
family in the kindest manner,
who is best to his wife and children
and then to make you understand what Islam requires of you as a
husband and what Islam requires of you as a father. Janabi Rasulullah
Sam said Anna sayerukum Li Ali, look at my example.
Look at the manner in which I conducted myself with my wives.
Look at a manner in which I conducted myself with my children
and grandchildren. Then you will have what is the requirement in
the court of Allah, the
occasion of Juma is too limited in occasion to analyze the domestic
life of Janabi Rasulullah, sallAllahu, alaihi salam, but the
intention is just to recount a few incidents by which we
Alhamdulillah Allah has given us akal and intelligence we can gage
what Allah wants and where we stand. What is actually Shariat
and what we consider to be Shariat.
Aisha Rali Allahu says,
kunto ashrabu wa anaha, says,
I was in a
state of haze, impure,
and I was drinking from a glass.
I handed the glass over to Rasulullah sallallam. Look at the
manner in which he expressed his love for his wife. She says he put
his mouth on the same place where my lips were and he drank from the
same glass. Then she says, I was eating. There was a piece of there
was a bone with some flesh in my hand. I took a bite out of it.
Then I handed it over to Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa
sallam janai. Rasulullah sallallahu Sallam took the same
piece of meat, and he put his mouth on the exact same spot from
which I had eaten, and he ate from there. Also,
how many of us have done that with our wives?
She says, at times, when I was in the state of haze, he would put
his head in my lap, and he would recite Quran.
On one occasion, the Sunnah salary Salam was returning from Safar.
He told the Sahaba to go ahead
until they were out of sight. Then he asked Ayesha RadiAllahu taala,
then will you run a race with me, who is asking
Rahmatullahi?
The greatest of Allah's creation, more honorable, more superior,
more prestigious, more noble. There is no one in existence
that NaVi of Allah, on
one occasion, he asked Jibril
there, oh Jibreel, Allah has sent me as rahmatulla alameen, not only
mercy for the dunya, Allah has sent me as a mercy. Alameen, which
encompasses everything. It encompasses the seven heavens and
the seven Earths,
right up till the ash of Allah, it encompasses you also, Jibril,
explain to me, how was I rahmat and mercy to you.
Jibreel says,
constantly the fear existed in my heart that perhaps eventually
Allah will throw me also into Jahannam,
then through your workad and your blessings, the verses were
revealed in the Quran, describing the messenger who brought the
Quran to Rasulullah, sallAllahu, Sallam in the whole rasuling,
Kareem viku watin and aarshi makin muta, some Amin describing
Jibreel. He says, when these verses were revealed, then through
your workers and your blessings, I got contentment that I was not
going to Jahannam,
that and that personality whose rahmat reached encompass Jibreel
also, whose rahmat reached right after the chirapul muntaha Also,
why is his ummat today? Maharam of his rahmat and mercy. Why is his
ummat today, maharam of his birthdays and blessings, because
this ummat
has turned his back on his Mubarak way of life, we have lost the
identity with the life of janabhi, Rasulullah, sallAllahu, sallam,
that Navier Allah is waking in the desert with his wife,
Aisha. Radiallana says I ran faster and I beat him
several years later. On another occasion, the beast of Islam asked
Aisha, Aisha, will you race with me? She said, Yes.
They started racing in the desert. Sahaba had gone so far ahead they
couldn't see what was going on. Nabi salal Islam is racing with
Aisha. She says, On that occasion, she had picked up a bit of weight.
So Nabi is Sala Islam beat her. Then he smiled at her and said,
Hadi, we took a Sabata or Aisha, last time you beat me, this time I
beat you
with his own mobile again, he would take a morsel of food and
put into the mouth of his wife, and then he told his ummat, this
is Sadaqah and charity. Allah will give you that reward.
In Hadith, it comes from a form of which the Vishal al Islam said,
Allah does not allow you to engage in vain talks, in useless talks.
Allah does not allow you to engage in vain amusements, but there is a
concession in my Sharia when you will playfully talk to your wife
that Allah loves
and on that Allah will give you reward
me, Muna RadiAllahu da
rasala Islam married her in seventh year of Hijri. She was the
last wife he got married to
one night, he is sleeping with her.
He has the need to relieve himself.
So he wakes up and he goes outside to relieve himself.
She gets up all of a sudden and realizes that rasulallah, she
becomes a
victim of her nafs, and she thinks that
NaVi salalism is gone to one of his other wives. She becomes
angry, and anger is such a thing. Once it overtakes a person, they
lose their senses. They don't realize what they are doing. So
she goes and she locks the door.
Navi Sala Islam comes back and he finds that the door is locked. So
he calls out to Omi Muna, why have you locked the door?
She says, You left me to go to one of you otherwise.
Navi Sala Islam says in Niha Kinu, o me Muna, Laki bandhi, I went to
relieve myself. I didn't go to any of the other wives. She refused to
listen.
Finally, he said to her, Lucky Bandi, don't you realize that and
NaVi will never make Kiana
when she hears this and all of a sudden realization dawns upon her.
She regrets what she did. She realized the error to understand
the veracity of this incident. She had locked the door on rahmatulla,
mean on the pride of Allah's creation. She rushes forward and
opens the door. What would be the reaction of the husband of.
Day,
Allah Rasool salal Islam smiles at her. He enters not one word of
anger, not one word of displeasure, and he goes to bed
and he sleeps away
so that the Ummat till kyama can understand what the conduct of a
husband is supposed to be with his wife. Aisha radiAllahu. Ana says
that one occasion, there were some habshis. They were playing with
daggers in the sand in the courtyard of the masjid, masjid
and Nabawi the huja rasulallah, sallAllahu Sallam would overlook
Masjid the courtyard. So she said to Navier salari, I want to look
at their play. So Allah Rasul Sala Salam made Parga for her, what
panda his own body was the pardha. She looked over his shoulder, and
he had a charger over his head. So between the gap she was looking,
and then she says, the thought entered my heart that let me test
his tolerance for me. Let me test how much forbearance he has for
me. So she says, I carried on looking and looking and looking.
And she herself
says
I was young. Imagine how much of interest a young person will will
will have in looking at amusement. So I stood for a very long time.
Eventually asked me, Aisha. Masabi ATI, oh, Aisha, have you seen
enough? She said. I said, No, la why? Yan zura, manzila tindahu, I
wanted to see how much of love he had for me, how much he was
prepared to tolerate. She says. Palakara, a to who you have will
obey. I
She says I saw him shifting from one foot to the other foot,
allowing me to continue looking at what interested me. Not one word,
not one word of displeasure. She says, eventually, I got tired.
Then only Rasulullah sallallahu Islam turned away.
That was the example which nabiyapa, salallahu, alayhi wa
sallam shows us of what a husband is, what
was his conduct with his children.
Bucharest saying in the house, rasulallah would be on all fours,
crawling on all fours with Hassan and Hussain. RadiAllahu talamah on
his back. Zainab Ali alaana daughter, omama rahi salaam would
read Nafis Salah with the little child in his hand as he would go
for Sajida, he would put her to one side. When he would wake up
again, he would lift the child in his hand and perform nafez Salah
constantly. He would be seen showing his affection and his love
for his grandchildren. One occasion, he was making Nafi Salah
in Wasan and Hussain came crawling. One of them crawled on
his back while he was in sajda, and the other one crawled in
between him. Sahaba rushed forward to move the children away. It was
Nafil Salah in Salah. He made ishara. He indicated to them to
stay back. He stretched himself out more, and he lengthened these
sajda until the children became tired of their game and they went
away.
Nowadays, we don't even have time to sit with our families. We don't
even have time to share with our wives and our children
outside
the person mashaAllah has appeared outside his sunnat libas outside
his smiles to the whole world, shows his compassion and shows his
kindness. And inside his house, he is a tyrant, and what he says as
justification for this conduct,
that I am the boss,
I will not let a woman overpower me or rule over me.
This is not superiority. This is badaki.
This is not having a Clark in character.
On one occasion, Sasa came to mahawiya Radi Allahu Alayah, was
that Khalifa was ruling over three continents. Sasha came to him and
said, Keith and Sibu, kailan AP Wakata, halaba alaikanis for
Insan.
He said, omir al muminim, how can we depend upon you as our ruler?
How can we regard you as an intelligent man
when half of humanity has overpowered you, referring to
Mahavir softness towards his wife, fakhita bin te yazi,
mahaviradi, Allahu, daalan hu
this.
This is that unfortunate person. And the second one nods. He passes
the comments the third one, he also nods. He says, I became full
of fear. What did they mean? I was unfortunate. Finally, when the
last angel came, I asked him,
Who is the unfortunate person you people are referring to? He says,
we are referring to you. He says, explain to me, what is my
misfortune? They said we ourselves don't know, but up to one week
ago, his wife had passed away one week earlier, up to one week ago,
your Amal were raised with the Amal of the Mujahideen in the path
of Allah. But from last week, we were told that this person's Amal
must be raised with the Amal of those who sit at home and do not
strive in the path of Allah, so you are that unfortunate person we
are referring to. Moment he woke up, he instructed his murid and
his followers to find him a wife,
Janaka, Rasulullah, sallAllahu, alayhi wa sallam said, ayuma
rajulin, sabala sui Hulu ki zodiha Aap Allah
swtm.
A just
as
one Hadith,
if we make Amma lanit,
then all the disputes and all the discord and all the fires that are
burning in the homes of the Ummah today, this one Hadith is
sufficient to put all that out. Janavya Rasulullah Sam said that
husband whose wife does not have a clerk and character, and he makes
cover over this. He speaks sweetly to her. He overlooks, he does not
answer that he is Kareem and honorable. Janami rasulallah says
Allah will give him the same reward that ayuba is Salam got for
making Sabha for 18 years over his illness. And that woman who will
make stubborn over the bad Asian character of her husband, Allah,
will give her the reward that Asiya, the wife of your own, will
receive on the Day of Judgment,
poor and character has destroyed the homes of the Ummah today. The
whole emphasis when we are bringing our children up is the
concern about setting them up in careers. The daughters of jewelry
sets are made
the concern is about the domestic life, the comforts and the
luxuries of this world. Have I instilled a clerk and character in
my children? Have I taught my children to overlook, to forgive,
to speak sweetly? Have I brought in front of them the clerk and
character of janavi Rasulullah sallallahu Alam, what was his
conduct as a husband? What was the conduct of asmaajimu taharat as
wives? What is the conduct towards children that concern and that
worry is out of the mind, out of the heart.
Homes are not made through gold and silver. Homes are not made
through good salaries. Homes are not made through the latest
comforts of luxuries, lounge suites and curtains and good
furniture in the birth room, in the bedroom. Walla, a home is made
through good akla and character. Fire is burning in the homes of
the Ummat today because this ummat has shifted away from the clock
and character of janagar, Rasulullah, sallAllahu, alayhi wa
sallam. More reward, more reward than 1000 records of Nafil Salah
is to stay away from Gibbs. More reward than 1000 records of Nafil
Salah is at the time of anger, to swallow your anger, to stay away
from child carrying, to stay away from gossiping, to control your
anger and to speak sweetly. Allah in the court of Allah is more
virtuous than 1000 rakat of Nafil salah, who is saying this, jalabi,
rasulallah, good character become a source of coolness in your home
and I Muhammad Sallallahu, alayhi wa sallam, is your guarantee that
I will give you a home in Jannatul firdos.
A clock and character has to be developed. We have to learn what
was the life of Janabi Rasulullah sallallahu, alayhi wa sallam,
bring the halka of Talim, the kita of fazaila aamal, which our elders
are exhorting us daily, take the time out. Sit 1520 minutes with
our families. Read the conduct of Sahaba, read the conduct of NaVi
salaam, read about his wives, read about his children, his
grandchildren, let our homes abound with the murani as the
Quran and Hadith, rather than the Fash and the filth that is.
Taking place in our homes today.