Ahmed Suleman Khatani – Rghts Of Wife

Ahmed Suleman Khatani
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The transcript discusses the importance of Islam in personal and professional life, including the need for individuals to be mindful of their personal lives. Janabi, a father, is seen as a father and is given the opportunity to recount some of her behavior. Shariat is seen as a mother and is given the opportunity to talk to her. The segment also touches on the difficulties of the ummat and the importance of character in shaping society. The segment ends with a call to action and a recommendation to read the conduct of Sahaba and Na Vi.

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			Alhamdulillah. Alhamdulillah.
Madhu wana sainhofer,
		
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			the Allah A
		
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			you
		
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			live
		
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			isa wala, sabrahan, Huna, yaIm wa
yagli, Munna, laim ha Oh, Hib,
		
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			Buan aku na Kareem and Mubin,
wala, oh, Hib, bun Abu SallAllahu,
		
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			alayhi wa Sallam
		
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			respected Allah Akram,
		
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			elders and beloved brothers in
Islam,
		
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			Allah subhanahu wa has
		
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			blessed the Ummat of janavi
Rasulullah, sallAllahu, alayhi wa
		
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			sallam
		
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			with the way of life
		
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			of the most perfect
		
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			and the greatest Nabi in the sight
of Allah Tala.
		
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			The beauty of our Shariat is such
		
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			that it encompasses
		
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			every facet of our lives, whether
it is inside the masjid, outside
		
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			the masjid, whether it is the
bazaar, whether it is the home,
		
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			every facet of human existence we
have in front of us, that perfect
		
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			mold, that perfect model, that
perfect example, which, if you
		
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			will, follow,
		
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			then every act of our 24 hour
daily life, no matter how mundane
		
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			it may be, will carry reward and
recompense from Allah.
		
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			Allah says in the Quran, Allah Kum
fear rasulallah for you in the
		
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			rasulallah, Muhammad Sallallahu,
alayhi wa sallam is the most
		
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			perfect example,
		
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			unfortunately, many of us have
restricted and confined Shariat
		
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			And Deen to pertain to acts of
Ibadan, to Our conduct in the
		
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			masjid.
		
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			Outwardly,
		
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			we may have sunnat libas on. The
appearance
		
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			may be of Sunnat.
		
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			Outwardly, in many cases, the
person appears to be an Insan. But
		
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			once he enters his house, and once
he is away from the probing eyes
		
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			of society, then that same insan
becomes an animal,
		
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			and
		
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			his life and his conduct has
absolutely no identification
		
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			or no resemblance whatsoever for
the sublime conduct of Janabi
		
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			Rasulullah, sallAllahu, alaihi
wasallam,
		
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			we have to understand my respected
brothers,
		
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			the reward for ivat is in its
place,
		
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			but akhlaq and character in the
sight of Allah, subhanho wa Taala
		
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			carries a greater reward than even
our ibadahs.
		
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			Janabi Rasulullah, sallam, said
mamin Shay in Attal Fimi zaanil,
		
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			Abdul Minyo kyama, Min khulok
Hasan,
		
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			there is nothing, not salah, not
zakat, not Hajj, no act of ibadah,
		
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			Tila ut of Quran, ziklullah,
whatever it may be, is more
		
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			weightier in the scale of deeds on
the day of judgment than good
		
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			akhlaq and character.
		
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			The emphasis our Shariat has
placed on character and akhlaq is
		
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			tremendous. On one occasion, one
Bedouin comes to Rasulullah,
		
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			sallAllahu, sallam, and he asks
him, what is Deen? Allah
		
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			rasulallah says, deen is good.
Ala,
		
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			this person didn't expect that
answer. So he turns around, goes
		
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			away and comes from the right hand
side, on the way of Allah. What is
		
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			Deen again? The reply is given,
good of laa,
		
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			so he goes back, comes from the
left hand side. Ya rasulallah,
		
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			what is Deen again? The reply good
of luck. So.
		
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			Then he comes from behind on Abhi
of Allah, what is Deen?
		
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			Again? The Sullivan says, By
		
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			you don't want to understand or I
do not become angry. That is Deen.
		
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			One person came and asked,
		
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			What is Islam? Allah? Rasam said
it amutaam atibul Kalam to feed
		
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			people, to be generous, to be
kind, to speak sweetly. That is
		
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			Islam. In other words, good aklaq
in character.
		
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			Someone else came and asked, What
is Iman?
		
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			He said, asavara Samaha, to be
tolerant and to speak sweetly, to
		
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			overlook, to forgive. In other
words, good of now,
		
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			someone came and asked Ayu Islami
Abdul, what is the best Islam? He
		
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			said, mansali Muslim. He said, The
		
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			best Islam, the best Muslim is not
the person who spends the whole
		
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			day fasting and the whole night in
tahajjud. Who is the best Muslim,
		
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			that person from whose tongue and
hands other Muslims are safe, he
		
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			is not a threat to society.
		
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			Someone came and asked a Imani,
Abdul on Abhi of Allah, what is
		
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			the best Iman? What is the highest
Iman?
		
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			The reply of Jana bi rasulallah
kulak, good character that is the
		
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			highest Iman,
		
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			and the greatest test
		
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			for the level of Iman and akhlaq
and character of an individual
		
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			my respected brothers, is not the
public eye.
		
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			The greatest test is the domestic
life of this person. What is his
		
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			conduct with his wife and his
children?
		
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			That is why rasulallah, khairukumi
Ali,
		
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			he said, the most superior one
from all of you,
		
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			the best one of my ummat
		
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			is not that person who makes the
most ibadans, nor is that person
		
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			who appears to be the most pious
in public.
		
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			He said, the best person amongst
you is the one who deals with his
		
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			family in the kindest manner,
		
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			who is best to his wife and
children
		
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			and then to make you understand
what Islam requires of you as a
		
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			husband and what Islam requires of
you as a father. Janabi Rasulullah
		
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			Sam said Anna sayerukum Li Ali,
look at my example.
		
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			Look at the manner in which I
conducted myself with my wives.
		
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			Look at a manner in which I
conducted myself with my children
		
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			and grandchildren. Then you will
have what is the requirement in
		
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			the court of Allah, the
		
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			occasion of Juma is too limited in
occasion to analyze the domestic
		
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			life of Janabi Rasulullah,
sallAllahu, alaihi salam, but the
		
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			intention is just to recount a few
incidents by which we
		
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			Alhamdulillah Allah has given us
akal and intelligence we can gage
		
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			what Allah wants and where we
stand. What is actually Shariat
		
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			and what we consider to be
Shariat.
		
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			Aisha Rali Allahu says,
		
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			kunto ashrabu wa anaha, says,
		
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			I was in a
		
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			state of haze, impure,
		
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			and I was drinking from a glass.
		
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			I handed the glass over to
Rasulullah sallallam. Look at the
		
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			manner in which he expressed his
love for his wife. She says he put
		
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			his mouth on the same place where
my lips were and he drank from the
		
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			same glass. Then she says, I was
eating. There was a piece of there
		
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			was a bone with some flesh in my
hand. I took a bite out of it.
		
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			Then I handed it over to
Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa
		
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			sallam janai. Rasulullah
sallallahu Sallam took the same
		
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			piece of meat, and he put his
mouth on the exact same spot from
		
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			which I had eaten, and he ate from
there. Also,
		
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			how many of us have done that with
our wives?
		
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			She says, at times, when I was in
the state of haze, he would put
		
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			his head in my lap, and he would
recite Quran.
		
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			On one occasion, the Sunnah salary
Salam was returning from Safar.
		
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			He told the Sahaba to go ahead
		
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			until they were out of sight. Then
he asked Ayesha RadiAllahu taala,
		
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			then will you run a race with me,
who is asking
		
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			Rahmatullahi?
		
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			The greatest of Allah's creation,
more honorable, more superior,
		
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			more prestigious, more noble.
There is no one in existence
		
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			that NaVi of Allah, on
		
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			one occasion, he asked Jibril
		
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			there, oh Jibreel, Allah has sent
me as rahmatulla alameen, not only
		
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			mercy for the dunya, Allah has
sent me as a mercy. Alameen, which
		
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			encompasses everything. It
encompasses the seven heavens and
		
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			the seven Earths,
		
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			right up till the ash of Allah, it
encompasses you also, Jibril,
		
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			explain to me, how was I rahmat
and mercy to you.
		
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			Jibreel says,
		
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			constantly the fear existed in my
heart that perhaps eventually
		
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			Allah will throw me also into
Jahannam,
		
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			then through your workad and your
blessings, the verses were
		
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			revealed in the Quran, describing
the messenger who brought the
		
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			Quran to Rasulullah, sallAllahu,
Sallam in the whole rasuling,
		
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			Kareem viku watin and aarshi makin
muta, some Amin describing
		
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			Jibreel. He says, when these
verses were revealed, then through
		
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			your workers and your blessings, I
got contentment that I was not
		
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			going to Jahannam,
		
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			that and that personality whose
rahmat reached encompass Jibreel
		
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			also, whose rahmat reached right
after the chirapul muntaha Also,
		
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			why is his ummat today? Maharam of
his rahmat and mercy. Why is his
		
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			ummat today, maharam of his
birthdays and blessings, because
		
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			this ummat
		
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			has turned his back on his Mubarak
way of life, we have lost the
		
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			identity with the life of janabhi,
Rasulullah, sallAllahu, sallam,
		
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			that Navier Allah is waking in the
desert with his wife,
		
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			Aisha. Radiallana says I ran
faster and I beat him
		
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			several years later. On another
occasion, the beast of Islam asked
		
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			Aisha, Aisha, will you race with
me? She said, Yes.
		
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			They started racing in the desert.
Sahaba had gone so far ahead they
		
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			couldn't see what was going on.
Nabi salal Islam is racing with
		
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			Aisha. She says, On that occasion,
she had picked up a bit of weight.
		
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			So Nabi is Sala Islam beat her.
Then he smiled at her and said,
		
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			Hadi, we took a Sabata or Aisha,
last time you beat me, this time I
		
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			beat you
		
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			with his own mobile again, he
would take a morsel of food and
		
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			put into the mouth of his wife,
and then he told his ummat, this
		
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			is Sadaqah and charity. Allah will
give you that reward.
		
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			In Hadith, it comes from a form of
which the Vishal al Islam said,
		
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			Allah does not allow you to engage
in vain talks, in useless talks.
		
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			Allah does not allow you to engage
in vain amusements, but there is a
		
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			concession in my Sharia when you
will playfully talk to your wife
		
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			that Allah loves
		
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			and on that Allah will give you
reward
		
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			me, Muna RadiAllahu da
		
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			rasala Islam married her in
seventh year of Hijri. She was the
		
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			last wife he got married to
		
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			one night, he is sleeping with
her.
		
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			He has the need to relieve
himself.
		
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			So he wakes up and he goes outside
to relieve himself.
		
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			She gets up all of a sudden and
realizes that rasulallah, she
		
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			becomes a
		
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			victim of her nafs, and she thinks
that
		
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			NaVi salalism is gone to one of
his other wives. She becomes
		
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			angry, and anger is such a thing.
Once it overtakes a person, they
		
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			lose their senses. They don't
realize what they are doing. So
		
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			she goes and she locks the door.
		
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			Navi Sala Islam comes back and he
finds that the door is locked. So
		
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			he calls out to Omi Muna, why have
you locked the door?
		
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			She says, You left me to go to one
of you otherwise.
		
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			Navi Sala Islam says in Niha Kinu,
o me Muna, Laki bandhi, I went to
		
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			relieve myself. I didn't go to any
of the other wives. She refused to
		
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			listen.
		
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			Finally, he said to her, Lucky
Bandi, don't you realize that and
		
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			NaVi will never make Kiana
		
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			when she hears this and all of a
sudden realization dawns upon her.
		
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			She regrets what she did. She
realized the error to understand
		
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			the veracity of this incident. She
had locked the door on rahmatulla,
		
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			mean on the pride of Allah's
creation. She rushes forward and
		
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			opens the door. What would be the
reaction of the husband of.
		
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			Day,
		
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			Allah Rasool salal Islam smiles at
her. He enters not one word of
		
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			anger, not one word of
displeasure, and he goes to bed
		
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			and he sleeps away
		
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			so that the Ummat till kyama can
understand what the conduct of a
		
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			husband is supposed to be with his
wife. Aisha radiAllahu. Ana says
		
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			that one occasion, there were some
habshis. They were playing with
		
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			daggers in the sand in the
courtyard of the masjid, masjid
		
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			and Nabawi the huja rasulallah,
sallAllahu Sallam would overlook
		
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			Masjid the courtyard. So she said
to Navier salari, I want to look
		
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			at their play. So Allah Rasul Sala
Salam made Parga for her, what
		
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			panda his own body was the pardha.
She looked over his shoulder, and
		
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			he had a charger over his head. So
between the gap she was looking,
		
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			and then she says, the thought
entered my heart that let me test
		
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			his tolerance for me. Let me test
how much forbearance he has for
		
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			me. So she says, I carried on
looking and looking and looking.
		
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			And she herself
		
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			says
		
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			I was young. Imagine how much of
interest a young person will will
		
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			will have in looking at amusement.
So I stood for a very long time.
		
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			Eventually asked me, Aisha. Masabi
ATI, oh, Aisha, have you seen
		
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			enough? She said. I said, No, la
why? Yan zura, manzila tindahu, I
		
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			wanted to see how much of love he
had for me, how much he was
		
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			prepared to tolerate. She says.
Palakara, a to who you have will
		
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			obey. I
		
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			She says I saw him shifting from
one foot to the other foot,
		
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			allowing me to continue looking at
what interested me. Not one word,
		
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			not one word of displeasure. She
says, eventually, I got tired.
		
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			Then only Rasulullah sallallahu
Islam turned away.
		
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			That was the example which
nabiyapa, salallahu, alayhi wa
		
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			sallam shows us of what a husband
is, what
		
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			was his conduct with his children.
		
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			Bucharest saying in the house,
rasulallah would be on all fours,
		
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			crawling on all fours with Hassan
and Hussain. RadiAllahu talamah on
		
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			his back. Zainab Ali alaana
daughter, omama rahi salaam would
		
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			read Nafis Salah with the little
child in his hand as he would go
		
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			for Sajida, he would put her to
one side. When he would wake up
		
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			again, he would lift the child in
his hand and perform nafez Salah
		
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			constantly. He would be seen
showing his affection and his love
		
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			for his grandchildren. One
occasion, he was making Nafi Salah
		
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			in Wasan and Hussain came
crawling. One of them crawled on
		
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			his back while he was in sajda,
and the other one crawled in
		
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			between him. Sahaba rushed forward
to move the children away. It was
		
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			Nafil Salah in Salah. He made
ishara. He indicated to them to
		
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			stay back. He stretched himself
out more, and he lengthened these
		
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			sajda until the children became
tired of their game and they went
		
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			away.
		
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			Nowadays, we don't even have time
to sit with our families. We don't
		
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			even have time to share with our
wives and our children
		
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			outside
		
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			the person mashaAllah has appeared
outside his sunnat libas outside
		
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			his smiles to the whole world,
shows his compassion and shows his
		
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			kindness. And inside his house, he
is a tyrant, and what he says as
		
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			justification for this conduct,
		
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			that I am the boss,
		
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			I will not let a woman overpower
me or rule over me.
		
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			This is not superiority. This is
badaki.
		
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			This is not having a Clark in
character.
		
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			On one occasion, Sasa came to
mahawiya Radi Allahu Alayah, was
		
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			that Khalifa was ruling over three
continents. Sasha came to him and
		
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			said, Keith and Sibu, kailan AP
Wakata, halaba alaikanis for
		
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			Insan.
		
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			He said, omir al muminim, how can
we depend upon you as our ruler?
		
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			How can we regard you as an
intelligent man
		
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			when half of humanity has
overpowered you, referring to
		
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			Mahavir softness towards his wife,
fakhita bin te yazi,
		
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			mahaviradi, Allahu, daalan hu
		
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			this.
		
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			This is that unfortunate person.
And the second one nods. He passes
		
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			the comments the third one, he
also nods. He says, I became full
		
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			of fear. What did they mean? I was
unfortunate. Finally, when the
		
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			last angel came, I asked him,
		
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			Who is the unfortunate person you
people are referring to? He says,
		
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			we are referring to you. He says,
explain to me, what is my
		
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			misfortune? They said we ourselves
don't know, but up to one week
		
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			ago, his wife had passed away one
week earlier, up to one week ago,
		
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			your Amal were raised with the
Amal of the Mujahideen in the path
		
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			of Allah. But from last week, we
were told that this person's Amal
		
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			must be raised with the Amal of
those who sit at home and do not
		
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			strive in the path of Allah, so
you are that unfortunate person we
		
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			are referring to. Moment he woke
up, he instructed his murid and
		
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			his followers to find him a wife,
		
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			Janaka, Rasulullah, sallAllahu,
alayhi wa sallam said, ayuma
		
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			rajulin, sabala sui Hulu ki zodiha
Aap Allah
		
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			swtm.
		
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			A just
		
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			as
		
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			one Hadith,
		
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			if we make Amma lanit,
		
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			then all the disputes and all the
discord and all the fires that are
		
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			burning in the homes of the Ummah
today, this one Hadith is
		
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			sufficient to put all that out.
Janavya Rasulullah Sam said that
		
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			husband whose wife does not have a
clerk and character, and he makes
		
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			cover over this. He speaks sweetly
to her. He overlooks, he does not
		
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			answer that he is Kareem and
honorable. Janami rasulallah says
		
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			Allah will give him the same
reward that ayuba is Salam got for
		
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			making Sabha for 18 years over his
illness. And that woman who will
		
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			make stubborn over the bad Asian
character of her husband, Allah,
		
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			will give her the reward that
Asiya, the wife of your own, will
		
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			receive on the Day of Judgment,
		
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			poor and character has destroyed
the homes of the Ummah today. The
		
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			whole emphasis when we are
bringing our children up is the
		
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			concern about setting them up in
careers. The daughters of jewelry
		
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			sets are made
		
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			the concern is about the domestic
life, the comforts and the
		
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			luxuries of this world. Have I
instilled a clerk and character in
		
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			my children? Have I taught my
children to overlook, to forgive,
		
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			to speak sweetly? Have I brought
in front of them the clerk and
		
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			character of janavi Rasulullah
sallallahu Alam, what was his
		
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			conduct as a husband? What was the
conduct of asmaajimu taharat as
		
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			wives? What is the conduct towards
children that concern and that
		
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			worry is out of the mind, out of
the heart.
		
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			Homes are not made through gold
and silver. Homes are not made
		
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			through good salaries. Homes are
not made through the latest
		
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			comforts of luxuries, lounge
suites and curtains and good
		
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			furniture in the birth room, in
the bedroom. Walla, a home is made
		
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			through good akla and character.
Fire is burning in the homes of
		
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			the Ummat today because this ummat
has shifted away from the clock
		
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			and character of janagar,
Rasulullah, sallAllahu, alayhi wa
		
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			sallam. More reward, more reward
than 1000 records of Nafil Salah
		
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			is to stay away from Gibbs. More
reward than 1000 records of Nafil
		
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			Salah is at the time of anger, to
swallow your anger, to stay away
		
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			from child carrying, to stay away
from gossiping, to control your
		
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			anger and to speak sweetly. Allah
in the court of Allah is more
		
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			virtuous than 1000 rakat of Nafil
salah, who is saying this, jalabi,
		
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			rasulallah, good character become
a source of coolness in your home
		
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			and I Muhammad Sallallahu, alayhi
wa sallam, is your guarantee that
		
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			I will give you a home in Jannatul
firdos.
		
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			A clock and character has to be
developed. We have to learn what
		
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			was the life of Janabi Rasulullah
sallallahu, alayhi wa sallam,
		
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			bring the halka of Talim, the kita
of fazaila aamal, which our elders
		
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			are exhorting us daily, take the
time out. Sit 1520 minutes with
		
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			our families. Read the conduct of
Sahaba, read the conduct of NaVi
		
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			salaam, read about his wives, read
about his children, his
		
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			grandchildren, let our homes
abound with the murani as the
		
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			Quran and Hadith, rather than the
Fash and the filth that is.
		
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			Taking place in our homes today.