Ahmed Hamed – Wedding without Extravagance – How To Have An Islamic Weddings

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The speakers discuss the need to be aware of Islam's values and spend money in marriage, as it is a core part of Islam. They emphasize the importance of not spending too much on marriage, as it is not a part of Islam. The speakers also stress the importance of not living in a society where everyone wants to spend too much money on marriage.

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			Weddings
		
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			manages
		
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			without extravagance.
		
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			From the observance, he says about
		
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			the extravagant.
		
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			Increasingly
		
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			spending.
		
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			Spending without account.
		
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			Spending
		
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			more
		
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			than required.
		
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			The amount
		
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			of the expense are to have. They guided
		
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			us that the best of the
		
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			the best of the marriages are those in
		
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			which
		
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			Allah is displeased with those. Allah abilities that
		
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			he does not like those. Allah abilities that
		
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			he does not love those who spend extra
		
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			every Friday is a reminder
		
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			for each other to remind ourselves on a
		
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			core
		
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			value of Islam, and that is the of
		
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			Allah. Being aware,
		
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			being conscious,
		
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			being careful, being aware of Allah
		
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			is something that is the need of every
		
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			single
		
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			individual Muslim,
		
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			and it is the recipe of success. For
		
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			indeed, Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala, he says
		
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			who have the law.
		
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			They are successful.
		
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			The topic,
		
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			my brothers and sisters,
		
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			for this Jummah Khutbah
		
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			is weddings,
		
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			marriages
		
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			without
		
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			extravagance.
		
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			Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala, he says in the
		
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			Quran
		
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			about himself.
		
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			What she likes,
		
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			what he dislikes,
		
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			what he demands,
		
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			and what he prohibits,
		
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			what he allows,
		
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			and what he is
		
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			From our ability, sir, he says about
		
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			the extravaganza.
		
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			Increasingly
		
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			spending.
		
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			Spending without the count.
		
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			Spending
		
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			more
		
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			than required.
		
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			Spending more than necessary.
		
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			Does
		
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			not like
		
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			those who are extravagant.
		
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			One of the major
		
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			problems
		
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			of the current time
		
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			among the Muslim Ummah is fat weddings.
		
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			Weddings
		
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			actually are costing
		
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			lives for the people.
		
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			It is
		
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			an act and a required reminder
		
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			for all of us
		
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			to look into this matter
		
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			much more seriously
		
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			than ever before. The need, my brothers and
		
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			sisters, is to ensure that we evaluate
		
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			our own capacities
		
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			and
		
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			spend in the weddings
		
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			that which is only necessary,
		
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			that which is required. Remember,
		
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			according to the status
		
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			in the world among the Muslim Ummah in
		
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			the society,
		
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			most of the marriages, they get disrupted.
		
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			They are broken
		
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			in which
		
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			lavishly
		
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			the amount
		
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			that expands us.
		
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			How true
		
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			are the noble messenger,
		
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			expenses are
		
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			spent.
		
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			My brothers and sisters,
		
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			people
		
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			are crying.
		
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			Why?
		
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			Because they have to go into serious
		
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			credits.
		
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			They are indebted
		
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			just because of the demands
		
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			of
		
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			either the parties, just because of the
		
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			soul that is looking for more and more
		
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			in the weddings. Yes. We understand that's a
		
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			great day. Yes. We understand that's a very
		
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			beautiful
		
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			and a blessed day. But in order for
		
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			it to be truly blessed,
		
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			it must be done in the way of
		
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			Allah
		
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			in
		
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			line with the instructions and the guidance of
		
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			and make sure.
		
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			And remind
		
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			that indeed, Allah is displeased with those. Allah
		
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			does
		
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			this is not our tradition
		
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			to spend things out of your capacity,
		
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			to spend in the ways in a way
		
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			that is not required at all. The most
		
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			noble,
		
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			blessed,
		
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			and peaceful values are those which are done
		
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			according to the will of Allah Subhanahu Wa
		
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			Ta'ala.
		
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			Remember what Allah mentioned as an objective
		
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			of the guide. The objective
		
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			of marriage, the purpose
		
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			of gaining into a relationship.
		
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			Allah says
		
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			in the Quran,
		
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			the core purpose
		
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			of
		
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			So the core purpose of marriage is tranquility,
		
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			is peace, is happiness,
		
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			is well-being,
		
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			is goodness,
		
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			how that can be achieved by
		
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			displeasing
		
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			what Allah will result. Indeed, whatever
		
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			Allah commands in the Quran is a benefit
		
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			for us. It is beneficial for us. Whatever
		
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			he stops us for is absolutely
		
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			harmful.
		
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			Remember, there are 3 areas or 3 major
		
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			problems when it comes to value. 1, the
		
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			problem could be, you know, raised by the
		
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			men's
		
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			side,
		
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			the groom's side.
		
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			The other problem, it could be raised by
		
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			the bright side. The other problem
		
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			is raised by the society itself.
		
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			Lot of times, we see that a man
		
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			or his parents demands
		
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			doubting,
		
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			which is
		
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			something
		
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			which is not a part of Islam. This
		
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			is not our tradition.
		
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			Allah of Warrissa, he gave that man
		
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			a position, and Allah
		
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			made him a one caretaker,
		
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			to uphold the responsibility
		
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			and do things in his own limit.
		
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			On the other side, the blind side, they
		
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			do not want to they don't need to
		
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			get into such a position that it becomes
		
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			a custom
		
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			to spend lavishly
		
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			more than what is required and get into
		
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			issues and problems later on.
		
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			And when it comes to societal problem,
		
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			let us not live our lives by the
		
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			norms
		
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			set by the society.
		
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			Societies have been destroyed and perished
		
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			when they bent against the laws of Allah
		
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			Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala. So the hair is
		
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			the betterment it is
		
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			in
		
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			the lying of ourselves
		
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			to what Allah and His Messenger has said.
		
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			Remember my brothers and sisters,
		
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			the greatest day
		
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			for a couple is the marriage day. That
		
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			should be the day where they should please
		
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			Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala the most.
		
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			When they invest their love, their
		
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			care, their pleasure for Allah
		
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			nurture, they will love, they will be blessed
		
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			in that relationship than anybody else. So the
		
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			need is that we must
		
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			ensure that we do not be among those
		
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			who spend lavishly in the weddings, in the
		
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			marriages. Let's be humble.
		
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			Even though,
		
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			you know, people who have God's will, they
		
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			need to understand that they can spend that
		
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			somewhere
		
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			else and gain the the pleasure
		
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			of
		
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			the
		
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			point is, my brothers and sisters, the message
		
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			of the is
		
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			let's make our relatives
		
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			blissful.
		
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			Let's make it really, truly for the pleasure
		
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			of Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala so that we,
		
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			the the the couple, the families can actually
		
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			enjoy in that, which is good, which is
		
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			aafya, which is fair and barakah inshallah, not
		
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			the other way around.