Ahmad Arshad – Discourse At Khanqah #24

Ahmad Arshad
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The speakers discuss the importance of taking care of one's mental health and physical health during the pandemic, avoiding activities that can cause stress and discomfort. They stress the need to stay away from irrelevant activities and avoid graduation. The speakers emphasize the importance of giving care and attention to one's own health and behavior, being vigilant, and being productive to help others during the pandemic.
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When I look back at

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college years at NYU,

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I remember that there was a summer in

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which I had to take some courses,

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and I was staying on campus.

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And in summer, because normal students are usually

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not there,

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so you get students from all over.

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And so this one person

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came from Texas, some university in Texas,

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and he happened to be a a football

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American football player,

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somehow related to Dallas Cowboys.

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And so

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those couple of months was because

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this person had a very rigorous schedule.

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Even though he was there to take some

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classes,

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he was

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very cautious

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and very

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aware of

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what his daily schedule looked like.

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And so

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the workout,

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in the morning and at night and

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and especially what he intuit, like, in terms

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of food.

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We were all

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college students and we would eat whatever was

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given to us,

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but he was very careful about what he

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was consuming.

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And

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and, you know, so he told us all

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about, you know,

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his how his

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life was, his coach, etcetera, etcetera.

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And so it was a deep after several

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years when when I looked back at it

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that this person was so worried about the

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physical fitness

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and reaching the peak of his physical abilities

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that he was willing to sacrifice whatever he

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could.

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He showed utmost care to it.

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Daily exercises,

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whatever he was consuming and eating,

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and making sure that, you know, he was

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he had a physical coach that, you know,

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he was

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in touch with and who was kind of

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keeping an eye on all of that.

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You know, a spiritual journey is not that

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different.

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You know, it requires us to

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have a regimen, have a schedule

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of my that

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we are taking care of day in and

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day out.

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There are things certain things that you have

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to do but hazed from.

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And there are things that you have to

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make sure you're not consuming.

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And then, you know, just like that

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person, he had a physical coach.

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You know, we have spiritual coaches which we

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call our teachers and.

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And it doesn't matter that you're not in

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the Hanukkah.

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Just like that person was not in Dallas,

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in midst of, you know, where everything was.

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He was,

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you know, a 1000 miles away.

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He was in New York, and he had

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every every opportunity

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to

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not do his exercises,

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to eat whatever he wanted. Right?

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But he showed that care. And just like

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that, a sonic

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and

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a mureed, somebody who seeks Allah

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who wants to get close to Allah

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They really have

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to come to come to terms with this

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care

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that they have to give to to their

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own saluk.

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Right? It's not something that

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we could just take willy nilly. You have

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to spend some time. You have to be

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thoughtful about it. You have to be intentional

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about

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it. And, again, you have to make sure

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that your

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are being done. You have to make sure

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that things that you're supposed to stay away

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from, that you're taking care of that.

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So this kind of has to be given.

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This kind of has to be given. This

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has to kind of care has to be

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given to our own

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saluk. Otherwise,

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you know,

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I'm sure that that person, if he stopped

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doing that within a couple of months,

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he would have become just as normal as

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us.

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And similarly, if a person lets go of

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the and

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they're not keeping an eye on their own

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progress and things like that, then

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slowly and steadily, the decline starts to begin.

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Sometimes we don't even know that it's happening.

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Sometimes we think that we are progressing, and

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on the other hand,

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we are actually declining because the cure, you

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know, the the

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the of these things are just not there.

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So some of the things that we have

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you know, one of the thing is

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that keeping an eye on our

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making sure that are constantly

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happening,

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and they are in accordance to the the

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sunnah

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of

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the because that has a big

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and then acceptance of those.

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Similarly,

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those that are called

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making sure that we're not doing it.

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That,

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prevention is better than cure.

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And so that's true when it comes to

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the saluk as well. We have to stay

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away

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from sins outward and inward.

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You cannot

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do and

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you cannot do all of that and, you

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know, if a person suffers from diabetes

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and he's eating double their chocolate cakes twice

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a day,

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then there's no complaining that why is this

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diabetes coming back and why is

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it, you know,

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cure, you know, or why why is it

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getting cured of it? And so you have

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to stay away from it, and then the

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medicine will take effect, and then

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inshallah, slowly and steadily,

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the the the sickness, the ailment will go

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away.

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And second thing, when it comes to our

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aamal,

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especially for the salik, because we have to

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deal with our inner demons,

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You know, we have we cannot become people

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who

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look at our own and

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let them

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feed

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our Okay? So,

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you know, we have to be careful about

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that.

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Because as I said in some other that

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a lot of times, nuffs is looking for

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anything.

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Luffs is looking for anything that will give

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it that

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I am better than others, and, you know,

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I am you know, that I am ness

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will will want acknowledgment,

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recognition.

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And so our is actually part of that.

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And so some of our

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had this

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habit of just belittling what they were doing

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because they had they kept their eye on

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the of Allah.

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So for example, Hazrat

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they write, you

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know, Allah

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His azbat is beyond this. It's beyond this.

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It's beyond this. Right?

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So in that term, you know, when that

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al Muht of

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Allah is in front of us, we will

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never

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feel

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complacent and comfortable with what we're doing. Right?

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We always feel that unease that I have

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not done enough.

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Because how can you do enough for Allah

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Right? How can a person do enough? Because

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Allah's,

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you know,

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as they call them, is just,

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you know, beyond any anything that we can

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possibly do. Right? So when we become comfortable,

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we are becoming comfortable with our own selves.

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Right?

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And, you know, that's not a good place

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to be in because

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progress usually stops if we just become,

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this is what I'm doing and I'm okay

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with it. How do you progress when you're

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okay with what you're doing?

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And so,

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you know, they have this saying,

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that you keep on doing and you are

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still afraid of rejection.

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Afraid of rejection because you don't know if

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they're accepted or not. So in terms of

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our own,

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we have to be very vigilant of this.

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We have to give care

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that, a, we're doing it according to the

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sunnah.

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B, you know, we are, you know,

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making sure that we are not,

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you know, we don't we don't keep an

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eye on, you know, what we are doing.

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You know?

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Oh, look at me. I am putting in

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this much effort. Look at me, the I'm

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doing. Look at me, the variety of all

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the stuff I'm do.

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You know, you do it and then you

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just, you know, do

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not deserve this and you move on.

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Don't keep an eye on on yourself from

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that perspective. Look at look at this. Look

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at the right look at all of this

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that I have done.

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Because it's it's a recipe for disaster.

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Because as I said, eventually, this will lead

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to, like, self love,

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self comfort.

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And

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we won't we don't want to become those

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people who who feel that way.

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And so some masha'ik, as I said, they

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used to belittle what they were doing.

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The famous saying that, you know, the, they

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used to pray all night long, and then

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they used

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to get up in the morning, and then

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they used to say,

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I mean, what what heart

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says that? That we haven't worshiped you as

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you deserve to be worshiped.

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This is somebody who is

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up in qiyam all night long,

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and then and, you know, this was free

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from riyal. This was really the call of

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their hearts.

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Allat, I have not been able to worship

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you as you deserve.

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Honestly, if we ask ourselves, if we had

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one night like that, that we were up

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in qiam and just we were doing you

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know, that morning, you know, we'll we'll have

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extra breakfast and then, you know, we'll,

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you know, we will send messages here and

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there. And

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and then, you know, when we go in

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front of others, you know, we'll be we'll

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pretend to be, oh, very tired. Oh, why

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are you so tired? I

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was, you know, just in a state of

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worship all night long.

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Our own, you know, when they when they

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would fast, they would put some oil

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on their lips.

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Like, oh, they definitely fast, so people wouldn't

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know that they would fast. Or when they

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would,

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you know, spend their night in in, like,

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Ibadah and zikr, they would wake up and

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then they would put, like, you know, oil

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on their faces so the the faces will

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look fresh.

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Yeah. That's it.

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Right? So that was so people wouldn't

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couldn't tell that, you know, they have been

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doing this online because that was such a

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personal thing for them.

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So that's, you know,

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and also keeping an eye on our to

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that our states, you know, there's some consistency

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in that. And,

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then again, just like our do

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not become a source of our being complacent.

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Because some people will say, oh, I keep

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on sitting, but

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then

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those are are from

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They're from Allah

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because if it's not leading us away from

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a life of sin,

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And then we do actually on our own

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as well.

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And in general, you know, you know, we

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we should do shakam on them anyways

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because,

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and luckily, who are we to have aharwal

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and kefiyat and

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who are we to, you know, even pretend

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that that we have something like this. And,

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love, we have, you know, we have just

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your father and. That's it. That's all we

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have.

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And we hope

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our hope is in you, y'all luckeri,

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and our redemption is from you, y'all luckeri,

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and nothing other than your fazar, your garam,

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your nusra is going to save us.

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And so if you feel,

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do not make this

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an for me because I'm not

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And 3rd is also

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being careful in giving lihaz to the that

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Allah has given us. You know, every day

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as we have established is a gift from

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Allah, and it should be taken as a

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gift from Allah. Do not keep on dwelling

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in your yesterday.

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Okay? If yesterday had and sins in it,

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today is.

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And yesterday, Allah gave you the opportunity to

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do some.

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Today is just sugar. That's it. But we

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don't dwell in it in terms of, oh,

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I worked so hard yesterday, so I'm going

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to not do for the next 5 days.

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Oh, no. It doesn't work that way. Today

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is today, and we have to make today

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count.

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And, you know, as our especially

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used to say

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that every bread taken in

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is as if it has been taken in

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disbelief.

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So keeping an eye on our,

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keeping care of them and making sure that

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we are being productive.

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That product you know, being productive could mean

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that you are, you know, getting ill. That's

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okay. The presence of Allah

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that's okay.

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But with this, you know, presence of Allah

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with,

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it can mean that you're doing some. You're

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sending salawat.

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It could be it could be any of

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this. It could be helping your parents.

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But with their presence, with the of pleasing

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Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala, it could mean that,

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you know, you're taking care of patients, that

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in the again, you're helping people, doing service

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to others. All of these things

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is being productive in our time. And so

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we have to make sure that our time

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is not getting wasted

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because our time wasted is our life wasted,

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and it does not come back.

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Now the doors of stove are open,

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but, you know,

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we don't know when our last breath is.

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Okay?

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If you have learned anything from COVID, you

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know, it could be today, it could be

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tomorrow.

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And so we have to be very vigilant

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and careful with the.

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Allah makes it easy for us. May may

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Allah

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allows us to become people who give

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and and and cares to our own and,

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our. And may Allah preserve our as well.

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