Ahmad Arshad – Discourse At Khanqah #16

Ahmad Arshad
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The concept of " tazel of the woda" is used to develop the heart to be open to certain things. Being cautious is essential for the right reasons, such as being a member of a religious or spiritual group. The importance of self-motivated caution and avoiding harmless behavior is emphasized. Success in achieving spiritual maturity is crucial for avoiding distraction and dispersion, and avoiding harm is also crucial. The third level of satisfaction is to attain a level of spiritual maturity, which is achieved through avoiding distraction and dispersion.
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Yesterday, we spoke a little bit about the

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concept of zuhal,

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the ability to

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renounce

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and their ability to abstain from certain things,

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to

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leave certain attachments, certain connections that are related

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to the

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dunya

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and everything and everyone in the dunya.

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And

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we understood it, that

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this is something that is a prerequisite

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on the path

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on the spiritual path, what we call

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the

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that one must attain

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this.

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Something related to

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is known as,

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which

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we can translate

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to,

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you know, being careful,

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being cautious,

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being conscientious, you know, piety, extreme piety.

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And this is also a kefir of the

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heart.

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The maqam of the woda.

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You can call it the maqam, but it's

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really

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the development,

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the nourishment of the heart to feel

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certain things,

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to be open to certain things. So

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and the difference between the two could be

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that

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zuhal is

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to leave things,

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that have no benefit to us in the

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day of judgment.

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And what I is to leave things that

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are harmful to us in the day of

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judgement.

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And Namath Shalit had mentioned that

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when it

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comes to water

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or,

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it is the the last maqam of the.

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So meaning Zohud develops into water.

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And

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for a seeker, for a true mureed of

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Allah,

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this is really like the first.

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They

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essentially start from this and then they move

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off and then move on.

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So this is the first of

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zuhad,

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for the seeker,

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this concept of zuhad.

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And we find that we are people who

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are careful

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and cautious when it comes

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to. For example,

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when we are preparing for something, let's say

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you have

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an interview in the morning or you have

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to catch a flight,

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you always keep this buffer

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time.

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You know, you have to get there by

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8 o'clock.

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The distance is 45 minutes.

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So, you know but you you make sure

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that you have an hour, an hour 50.

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What is that? This is being cautious about

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it.

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In Urdu, they call it.

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Being a Muqtat person.

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And so this is something that we actually

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practice quite well

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when it comes to.

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And so this kind of is something that

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is required when it comes to the matters

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of deeds.

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It is required. Now

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whether we are cautious because

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we are worried,

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because we can have them just like

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if you have an interview,

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we are worried about it.

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But that would really be

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it is still water, but it is, let's

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say, of a different quality.

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Right? Because that is still

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the motivations

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behind it are very

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selfish

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in

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nature. I'm going to do because

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somebody might find out that I'm doing something

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ugly ugly.

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Right?

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So in one sense, it's,

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but the motivations behind it is are are

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very selfish image.

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My self image

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might get affected by it. What people think

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of me might get affected by it, so

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I'm going to stay away from certain things.

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Actually, this is the sort of thing that

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people who have the outer,

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outer

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cloak of religiousness or spirituality, they're very good

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at this.

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But you can naturally see that this kind

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of

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if,

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you know, you don't progress from that. I

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mean, it's a good start.

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But if you don't progress from it, it

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can easily lead to.

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Because

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we will keep on being cautious

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based on self motivation, be be you know,

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based on just worries about

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this person might see me, this person might

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see me. What will they think of me?

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What will they how will they judge me

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if they find out? And so it's a

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very different kind of

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caution.

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I mean, we should have it, but we

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shouldn't

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persist on it.

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We shouldn't stay in this house. We should

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progress from that.

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That

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our caution and our

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care

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and our conscientiousness

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is based

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in the Tazeem of Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala.

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Okay? Masha'i actually say that it's not even

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the love, it's the daraleem because

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love without daraleem, you know, this

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majestic kind

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of presence of Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala, it

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does not

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create the level of warah that is required.

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Love

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induces and produces different kind of kyphya.

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Maybe not that, you know, that and that

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care that we are really looking for in

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this heart.

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We need that alzumit of Allah

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We need the ta'lim of Allah

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Now,

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of course, if you have love and of

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Allah,

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which is actually required, that creates the best

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kind, the most beautiful kind of water better

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person could hope for. Right? So it's not

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just love. We need to remember, like, you

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know, always say that

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love and hope, they are the, you know,

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2 faces of the same coin,

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2 sides of the same coin.

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So and, you know, so it's it's very

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interesting to kind of

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understand this and and

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that we have been speaking about. So Tazeen

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has to be coupled

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with that Mahabbat.

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Otherwise,

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people can become careless.

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Just like we

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I can give you an example. It's not

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it's a method, but it's not

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it doesn't obviously fit

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with Madhuk and Murk. But,

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for example, you know, usually for fathers, we

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have tawdeen.

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Right? So there's that care aspect there.

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Usually with mothers, we have muhabbat so people

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can become careless there.

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They can do batamizi. They can do bayadbi

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just because this

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is. Will forgive us. Oh, it's just.

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So you can see that there's a

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there's that laxness that comes with that

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really small that we should have and we

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do have with our mothers.

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Usually, a father figure is you know, comes

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with that little bit of distance.

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We love our fathers. Of course, we do.

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But the Taazim aspect is very valid there

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too. So, you know, usually,

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some boundaries that we cross with our mothers,

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right, just go and

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we may not cross those boundaries with our

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father because of that sort of Tazeem.

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So I hope it's clear. So Tazeem and

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Mahabbat with Mahabbat,

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somebody who's father in and somebody who's Malik

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al Mulk, who's Khalek and Malik.

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So it is required that we have that.

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And so when we say you know, naturally,

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it's very easy to understand. Like, what do

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we stay away from? What are we careful

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about? What are we cautious about? And, of

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course, the haram.

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Yeah? I mean, it's,

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you know, it's it's goes without saying, of

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course, the.

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We have to stay away from that. But

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then also things that

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are that are dubious. Right? So we have

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to stay away from that as well. You

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know? And you will see that they're very

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parallels between this. You know? Like, weird diagrams

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between what are in.

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K

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Fiat, similar, but

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it's like,

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you know, chocolate and dark chocolate. They're both

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chocolates, but different flavors.

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And the third thing is also to stay

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away from,

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you know, excesses as well.

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So, you know, be cautious about that as

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well. You know, staying away from that as

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well. That's required.

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And besides, I've written that, you know, do

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an assessment

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do an assessment of what is ugly because

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we are looking for ehsan, which is excellence,

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Jamal, which is beauty.

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So we have to stay away from the

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opposite of it, something that is not excellent,

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something that is ugly. Usually, they're amaal, they're

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circumstances,

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they're situations, they're halal, they're.

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And we know it because it affects our

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heart. We know ugly situations.

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We know ugly ugly, you know,

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without the.

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We know the ugly.

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Right? We know the ugly. We know the

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ugly.

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We know the ugly.

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So

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we know it. We have a lifetime of

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experience

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staring at it.

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So we have to let go of it.

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That is at least like the first level

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that we should have.

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And second is to really set some boundaries

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around ourselves that things that are harmless to

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us, we can stay within consumers because

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avoiding harm. Right? That's the what I'm

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so we know what's harmful to us.

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And, again, this is every person is different.

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You know? It's very idiosyncratic

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for you something else, for you something else,

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for you. Again, of course, the haram.

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But those things that really affect our dialogue

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with

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Allah, it's it's, you know, different things because

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people have different fruits.

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Some are very shooey for nuffs, but they

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might be very lazy.

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Some

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gets easily, you know, evoked, but, you know,

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then

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strengths and weaknesses in in every person.

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So we have to draw that boundary.

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I'm not going to put myself in the

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situation that will lead to harm. And the

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greatest harm is sin. Right?

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In in which,

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you know, we we destroy with our own

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hand

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It just destroys gets destroyed. It's like in

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a building,

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like a house of cards or, you know,

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like Lego or something. And then,

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you know, like, the domino just

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pull, like, one thing and that's it. It

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just falls down. Then you have to start

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again. You have to start again. So that

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does happen.

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So it's important

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that we do that but, you know, the

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3rd level would be again, let's say if

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a person

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has attained certain level of spiritual maturity,

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then it becomes really that, you know,

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avoiding any kind of dispersion and distraction,

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you know, the fall of that. And again,

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you know, this is for the next month,

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folks. The next Monday is we call, you

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know, that,

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and

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attaining this

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level

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of

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as well. All of this together, it's, you

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know, it's avoiding

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distraction.

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So you can see it parallels. Right? We

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can describe it from from this angle or

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we look at it from this angle. And

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all of these things are attaining those 4

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things again. You know? Attain to miat, you

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attain muduri,

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meaning you avoid the opposite of it, distraction

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and dispersion and whatnot.

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And that leads you to

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and whatnot,

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which is, you know, what what we hope

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for. The does that opens up our heart

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to the miss about those

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specific idea

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that we want to see with ourselves.

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Okay? So

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we make Miya

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and we make Dua because, again, this is

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an of Allah Subha'a. Everything is an

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makes us people of, makes us people

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of,

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make us people of, make us people of

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in

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reality, in.

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Okay? In haqqiqah.

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And may Allah

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through only his father in haqqiqah

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count us amongst those that he has forgiven.

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