Ahmad Arshad – Back To Basics Adab
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Alhamdulillah wa kafa wa salamun ala ibadihi al
-lazeena istighfa amma ba'd.
A'udhu billahi minash shaitanir rajim.
Bismillahir Rahmanir Raheem.
wal-lazeena jahibu feena lana hdiyannahum suboolana subhanarabbika
rabbil izzati amma yusifoon wa salamun ala al
-mursaleen walhamdulillahi rabbil alameen Allahumma salli ala Sayyidina
Muhammadin wa ala aali Sayyidina Muhammadin wa barik
wa sallim Allah has bestowed countless blessings upon
man.
If man looks at it, it is a
blessing of faith which we should be thankful
for.
No doubt, it is a great blessing of
Allah.
There are chosen people whose hearts are open
to Allah.
Their hearts are open to Allah.
And this light enters their hearts.
After faith, another great blessing is the nearness
of Allah.
This is also called Walaiyat.
Walaiyat-e-Khasa.
A person becomes close to Allah.
He becomes a close friend.
You see, even in the Holy Quran, when
Allah tells us the story of Moses, that
he faced the Pharaoh, and when the Pharaoh
Maloon was invited by Allah to believe, then
all the miracles that were presented to him,
he considered them magic and in return, he
presented his magicians.
And he said, let's compete with them.
When they asked, what will we get in
return?
What did the Pharaoh answer?
I will make you all my relatives.
In the world, this is also called relationship.
Relationship building.
A person knows someone, and then he tells
others, I have a relationship with this person,
I am close to him, I know the
governor, I know the president.
So, this is a position, and because of
this closeness, a person's importance increases.
This is also called relationship.
You see, in the case of the Sufis,
this word is used a lot, that this
person is a relative.
What does a person mean by a relative?
Does he have a special status, or is
he a relative of Allah?
Now the question arises, how does a person
become a relative of Allah?
There are many ways, there is no doubt
about it.
There is not one way, but there are
a few milestones, that if a person keeps
in his life, then it becomes easy to
become a relative.
We will talk about it, we will talk
about it, today we will talk about it,
that if a person wants to become a
relative of Allah, then there should be a
special mannerism, a special attitude, which we call
Adab.
You must have heard, that religion is all
about Adab.
You must have heard this word, that religion
is all about Adab.
Now, what does Adab mean?
Adab means an attitude.
Meaning, of every person, of every moment, and
of every place.
There are three things, house, time, and people.
So, according to the house, according to the
time, house means according to any place, according
to the time, according to the time, and
the people, meaning who is sitting in front
of you, according to that, the best, the
most beautiful, the best way, to deal with
that, a person should deal according to that.
This is a simple way to remember it.
That any person, any place, or any time,
you should give him his due.
According to that, according to his rank, you
should deal with him.
For example, it is Friday, and you are
lazy, like the rest of the days, you
found out that you didn't do Adab on
Friday.
It is Ramadan Mubarak, and like the rest
of the days, time is being wasted, you
will say that you didn't do Adab on
Ramadan.
In the same way, you are in Mecca,
in front of the Haram, and there are
such things, which are of the market, you
found out that you didn't do Adab on
that place.
You have a book in your hand, which
is called Mus'haf, Quran-e-Karim, Furqan
-e-Hameed, and what are we dealing with
it, like there is a Harry Potter book
in your hand, so what did you find
out, that you didn't do Adab on it.
In the same way, there are parents in
front of you, and a person is dealing
with them, like a schoolmate, you found out
that you didn't do Adab.
So, every place, every time, every person, according
to everything, to change your behavior, according to
that, this is called Adab.
And this person learns.
It is not that, only what is taught,
is taught in this world.
He learns, that according to every situation, he
has to do this.
This is called Tarbiyyat.
In Tarbiyyat, first of all, Adab is taught.
If there is no Adab, then everything else,
becomes useless.
Okay, Adab, there are some feelings Let's talk
about it.
See, one is to do Adab out of
helplessness.
For example, you go to school.
There is a professor or a teacher in
the school.
So, Adab is like a helplessness.
Or there is a policeman in front of
you.
There is an authority.
So, it is a special change of behavior.
It is helpless.
But what is being discussed here, there are
some feelings involved.
So, these three things, which I will discuss,
have to be taken together.
Usually, Adab is done out of appreciation.
Appreciation is another feeling, which we call, appreciating
something.
Now, these three things, time, place and person,
have to be appreciated.
When they come into your hands, then, not
only is it a change of behavior, right?
It is a good behavior.
Rather, it is called seizing the opportunity.
This is called appreciating.
For example, if parents have their lives, Allah
has blessed them, then, seizing the opportunity.
How do you appreciate them?
When they pass away, then everyone cries.
Everyone cries later on.
Similarly, if Allah has given a spiritual teacher,
then, in their lives, a person should take
advantage of them.
Later on, everyone remembers them.
So, this is called appreciating.
So, the more appreciation, the more Adab.
And if there is no appreciation, then there
is no Adab.
And to appreciate, there is another feeling, which
is called love.
So, these three things, together, make a person
ready to be close to Allah.
Now, what can we say about love?
That is a long topic.
It is like teasing sorrow.
Love is the connection and connection of the
heart.
When a person's heart is drawn to something,
then, if I love Allah, then I will
appreciate Ramadan Mubarak.
And I will appreciate Ramadan Mubarak.
If I love Allah, then the Holy Qur
'an will be like a book for me.
It will be something greater than pages.
Then, I will appreciate it.
Then, I will appreciate it.
Similarly, if I love Allah, then, like a
parent, a human being, deals with them accordingly.
So, love, appreciation, Adab, these things always go
hand in hand.
Whenever there is a lack of love, for
example, a person does not love his Mushahid.
If there is no love, then the value
of the time spent with him is not
appreciated.
For example, when there is a gathering, there
is no sense of urgency that a person
sacrifices everything for it.
For example, you only have one chance.
For example, a person wants to enroll in
medical school.
The dean of the medical school says, come
to me at 7 pm.
If you come and meet me, I will
enroll you.
Now, a person will leave his food, drink,
and meet someone.
He will try to reach on time.
If there is a job interview, it will
be the same.
If there is an immigration interview, it will
be the same.
Similarly, when there is love, a person appreciates
the time that is spent with him.
He appreciates those times and then has the
courtesy to spend those times the way they
should be spent.
Giving its due.
Giving its due.
So, bring these things into your life.
Then a person becomes close to Allah.
You can find these hadiths in which it
is found that the attitude of the companions
was a different in the company of the
Prophet.
It was a different attitude.
Why?
Because there was love, appreciation, and courtesy.
When these three things came together, they became
the companions.
Now, if there is only company, but these
three things are not there, then the disbelievers
in Mecca will also be destroyed.
You see, Abu Lahab and Abu Jahl were
very close to the Prophet.
But that closeness was only physical.
They were from the same blood.
They were from the same family.
But they did not love the Prophet.
They did not appreciate the Prophet.
They did not have the courtesy of the
Prophet.
Therefore, I seek refuge with Allah from the
accursed.
I seek refuge with Allah from the accursed.
This is how they used to call the
Prophet.
Those who loved the Prophet, appreciated the Prophet,
and were courteous to him, became his companions.
Although they did not meet.
They did not meet.
But Allah granted them the status of companions.
So, this is what happens.
When you say that you are close to
someone, this is the real closeness.
This is the real spiritual closeness.
This is the real relationship.
This is the real unity.
This is what happens.
If we want to be close to Allah,
we need to change our attitude.
If we want to be close to Allah,
we need to change our attitude.
We need to respect Allah.
We need to love Allah.
We need to appreciate Allah.
We need to do these three things.
There are many examples of this.
In the Hadith, the Prophet said, My Lord
has taught me good manners.
He taught me what to do This means
that if the Prophet taught this, it will
continue in our religion.
We are also taught this.
We are also taught this.
This is why we need to learn this
from our religion.
I have seen that some attitudes change.
For example, some children are raised in the
West.
They are taught freedom.
You are free.
Your individuality matters.
You have a space.
You have a space.
This love, this respect, this attitude is not
common.
This means that we need to learn these
things from our religion, not from our society.
This is why it is included in Tarbiyyat.
One Tarbiyyat in schools and colleges will not
teach you these things.
I remember when we went to universities, our
professors used to tell us to call our
elders by their first name.
My name is David.
We were shocked.
We had never called our elders by their
first name.
There were elders too.
Do you know what they call you in
India?
They call you uncle, uncle, aunt, aunt.
If you are English, they call you uncle,
aunt.
Otherwise, they call you uncle, aunt, mother.
They call you with respect.
They never call you by your first name.
They never call you by your first name.
In India, many parents call their children by
their first name.
This is why it is not necessary to
call your elders by their first name.
Now, you will say that it is a
part of our society.
It is okay.
But if that part of society is contradicting
our religion, that is, if it is contradicting
our love, respect, and values, then that part
of society will be left.
It is okay to do this in other
things.
But when it comes to religious matters, this
will not happen.
I remember that one of our professors said
that there is no sanctity in our society.
For example, he said that there is no
sanctity in our society.
Now, if there is no sanctity in a
secular humanist society, that sanctity will be there.
But we are not like that.
We will not take that sanctity.
We will say that there is sanctity in
our society.
Some things are like that.
Some places, some people, some things, we respect
them.
We value them.
If you see a picture of the Kaaba
on the ground, or a picture of the
Prophet's Mosque, will it not hurt your heart?
Of course, it will.
If you say that there is no such
thing as sanctity in our society, then you
will realize that you were not able to
learn what you were supposed to learn from
religion.
This happens in some of our societies.
I remember, I have told you this incident
once.
There was a time when I went to
the Prophet's Mosque.
I had a companion with me.
He was praying.
It was time for Tahajjud.
He was a servant of Allah.
He kept the Qur'an on the ground.
Generally, people from South Asia do not like
these things.
I picked up the Qur'an and kept
it with me.
He greeted me with love.
I gave it back to him.
I said, if you want to read it,
you can read it.
He put it back on the ground.
Now, it so happened that the Prophet's Mosque
was in the first or second row.
It was such an opportunity that Allah gave
it to me.
At that time, people used to say, don't
make a big deal.
Now, how can a person explain it again
and again?
SubhanAllah, it was time for Tahajjud.
At the same time, Sheikh Huzaifi was with
him.
It was raining heavily.
White rain.
He stood right in front of me.
Absolutely.
He stood right in front of me.
He picked up the Qur'an and scolded
the man in Arabic.
My heart was happy at that time.
Not because of the scolding, but because of
his appreciation.
Usually, Arabs don't do this.
Allah showed him, Alhamdulillah, that this is a
part of our upbringing.
He scolded him.
He said, what are you saying to the
mosque?
Then I looked at him.
Alhamdulillah, the Tahajjud prayer that he prayed, maybe
in ten minutes, he only prayed two rakats.
Such a long Qiyam, such a long Ruku,
such a long Sajdah, that it was fun
to watch.
Then I said, Alhamdulillah, there must be something
that Allah accepted that for 30-40 years,
he has been leading the mosque.
Allah has also made him speak the truth
many times.
This happens.
This happens because of good manners.
We have seen this in our lives as
well.
Some students or students may be weak in
their actions, but they have love, respect, and
good manners.
So Allah gives them a charge.
Because Allah gives.
What can a person give?
Allah gives acceptance by seeing this.
It is written about Hazrat Mujaddid that once
he was writing, so he needed something, so
he went to the restroom.
There he saw that on his hand, on
his hand, there was a box of ink.
So he started washing it on the water.
He said, this is the ink with which
I write the work of religion.
So he suppressed his demands and went outside
first.
There he cleaned and then went inside and
fulfilled his demands.
Allah liked that.
And then Allah gave him acceptance.
So behind this, there was an attitude.
Do you understand?
It is not necessary for him to do
something special here and not there.
This is hypocrisy.
The whole attitude changes towards life.
The whole attitude towards life.
Because every time, there is a time, a
place, a person for whom and if Allah
makes us like this, those who become like
Allah, they are always waiting for Allah to
look at them.
They are always in a state of etiquette.
Because what time is it when Allah does
not look at us?
We say in the Holy Qur'an that
Allah is with you wherever you are.
If Allah is with me all the time,
then there will not be a state of
etiquette all the time.
Because in reality, with people, with things, with
time, etiquette is done for the sake of
Allah.
Why is there love for the Prophet?
Because he is Allah's last Prophet, Allah's beloved.
The Holy Qur'an, Furqan-e-Ahmad, is
Allah's word.
Ramadan-ul-Mubarak is Allah's month.
This is why it is done.
So this attitude should change.
You see, it is written in the books,
that Zubaida Khatun, she was a very pious
woman.
She did a very pious deed.
If you have been to Hajj, then you
might have seen the Zubaida canal.
There are still traces of it.
If you go to Mina, you will see
the canal on the mountain that she had
built.
So she was, Mashallah, a very righteous woman.
And it is said about her that every
time, in her palace, there were hundreds of
women who recited the Holy Qur'an in
loud voices.
Wherever you went, you would hear the voice
of the Holy Qur'an.
When she passed away, in a dream, she
asked someone, it must have been good for
you.
You have done such great deeds, you have
built such and such canal.
He replied, nothing of that sort has happened.
However, once, I was very hungry, I started
eating food, I took a bite in my
mouth, and I heard the call to prayer,
Allahu Akbar, Allahu Akbar.
So instead of putting the bite in my
mouth, I put it down, and fixed my
headscarf.
Allah's name is coming.
So that became the reason, to show good
manners, and to respect Allah's name.
Allah has made it easy for me.
You must have heard the famous incident of
Bashar Hafi.
Bashar Hafi was a law enforcement officer.
He was a police officer.
He was a drunkard.
Once, he was going for a drink, he
saw a piece of paper on the ground,
which had the word Allah written on it.
He thought, what has happened to people?
They don't respect Allah's name.
So, he kissed the paper and put it
on the ground.
So, this was an act.
It was an act.
No one had seen it.
But because it had good manners, respect, and
love, Allah accepted it.
Bashar Hafi became a great man.
You can also hear about Junaid Baghdadi.
You can also hear about Junaid Baghdadi.
He was a wrestler.
He was the king's wrestler.
Just like we have the UFC.
Unbeaten record.
What do you think?
Just like that.
He had an unbeaten record.
Once, the king had announced that whoever beats
him, he will get whatever he asks for.
Now, there, there was a family of Sadat.
They were very poor.
Obviously, you know they don't even have Zakat.
But they were very self-reliant.
They didn't ask for anything.
So, they decided to challenge him.
Now, they were very thin.
And Junaid Al Baghdadi was very strong.
MashaAllah.
So, when it started, the Sadat people told
him, I am hungry.
I am from Sadat.
If you lose, you will not get anything.
But, the famine in my house will end.
Now, they had a choice.
What was the choice?
It's okay.
It's okay.
I didn't make them starve.
Why should I give up?
I have an unbeaten record.
29 and 0.
So, how can I give up?
But, Alhamdulillah, they valued one thing.
They said, the etiquette of the time is
to respect the proximity of the Prophet.
They valued it.
And what did they force upon it?
The love of the Prophet in their hearts.
So, when the competition started, they did this
and that.
And then, they fell down.
And the king was very angry.
He said, no, no, there was a mistake.
Do it again.
And then, he fell down again.
And then, he fell down again.
Now, the king was very angry.
The people of Sadaat were given the money
and sent away.
But, the people behind, they said, don't you
feel ashamed?
They insulted you.
They tolerated it.
They did it for Allah.
Sometimes, you have to listen to people for
the sake of Allah.
You have to listen to people for the
sake of Allah.
This is also a human instinct.
You have to listen to people.
Why did you say this to me?
Who are you to say this to me?
You have to listen to people.
Allah Almighty, praise be to Allah, accepted their
love and respect.
In a dream, the Prophet was seen.
And Allah Almighty gave him the glad tidings
of freedom.
So, you find a lot of incidents like
this.
In the Holy Qur'an, there is a
whole Surah, which is called Surah Al-Hujurat.
In our tradition, Surah Al-Hujurat is recited
first.
Why?
Because there is etiquette in it.
Regarding the Prophet, keep the etiquette of the
Prophet.
Your voice should not exceed the voice of
the Prophet.
This is called the voice of the Prophet.
Now, the scholars have written that the Companions
of the Prophet at that time were alive.
Obviously, this verse of the Holy Qur'an
related to them in terms of voice.
But what we call Hadith or Sunnah, is
also a saying of the Prophet.
It also reached us.
So, our saying, our opinion, should not exceed
the opinion of the Prophet.
Now, what is written in the Holy Qur
'an?
If you do not keep it, your actions
will be wasted.
You will not even realize that your actions
are being wasted.
This is a different problem.
We should not even realize that our actions
are being wasted.
This is a different problem.
It means that due to the lack of
etiquette of Allah, a person is rejected.
He does not even realize it.
This is why it is a matter of
caution.
This is why it is a matter of
caution.
This is why even in the life of
a person who is usually rejected, some blessings,
some blessings, will go away.
For example, Nawaafil, Sunnah, these things will go
away slowly.
Then, for him, the doors of sin will
open.
At first, it may not be so.
Now, the doors will open.
Then, slowly, slowly, slowly, the worship of a
person and all these things will go away.
Then, a person will go into complete heedlessness.
Allah does not do this to anyone.
Allah does not do this to anyone.
If someone is rejected, we will not rise
in the eyes of Allah.
This is why if a person sees that
there is a problem, we should tell him
with love that there may be some changes
in your life.
If there are red flags, you should also
see them.
And if you see them in my life,
you should also tell me.
So, generally, it is seen that a person
who is slowly and steadily rejected, will go
into Nawaafil will go away.
Sunnah will go away.
The importance of religion will go away.
The incidents of sins will go away.
Then, slowly, slowly, everything will go away.
So, our elders used to take care of
this.
Some used to go ahead in this.
For example, Pir Ghulam Habib Sahib, he used
to say that he had never seen his
Sheikh without ablution.
He used to take care of his respect.
He used to respect everyone.
So, it is different.
People express this.
It is not a special way.
It is a behavior, basically.
I am not telling you that a person
should respect everyone in this way.
Everyone has their own way.
There is the expression of etiquette, love and
respect.
So, a person should see this.
And all the relations, people, things, should be
taken care of.
Before concluding, a person should keep his parents
in mind.
Parents are a blessing.
Their love, their respect is in the text.
It is in the text.
It is present in the Holy Quran and
it is present in the Hadith.
So, Inshallah, when you start changing your behavior,
you should start with your parents.
Inshallah, you should do it with your close
family members.
And then, gradually, you should grow it with
your teacher.
Whatever is present, you should do it.
By the grace of Allah, we hope that
Allah will make this path easy for us.
We pray to Allah that He does not
deprive us.
May Allah not let us go to waste.
May Allah accept us all.
Ameen.
Alhamdulillah Rabbil Alameen