Ahmad Arshad – 04 25 2024 Remembrance Solace Of Hearts

Ahmad Arshad
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The speakers discuss the concept of "med strict" and how it can lead to a "med strict" lifestyle. They stress the importance of individuals being attached to materialistic possessions and the "istic life" that is designed to keep people focused on profit and loss. The speakers emphasize the importance of deeds and seeking clarity and being a good Muslim to avoid wasting time. They also stress the importance of avoiding disrespectful behavior and not allowing people to use their nails to make themselves aware of their actions.
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We begin today's

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with the beautiful name of Allah

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And we send salutations

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on

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Allah and

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our

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And we ask Allah

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to put Baraka in this companionship, in this

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gathering,

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and make this a source of our

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our rectification

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and our redemption and the day of judgment.

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Remain focused on your heart and make sure

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your hearts are focused

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on Allah We will begin, like, every time

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with These

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are certain Suras and Aya's that are

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picked from the corpus of Quran and Hadith,

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and

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they found a lot of barakah in reciting

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them. So

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we'll focus on their meaning and recite them

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hoping for the same barakah in our lives.

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We're kind and merciful.

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We ask that you send the reward of

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this as a gift from us

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to all the Ambia Garam and Musaleen

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especially our beloved husband

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Allah, through his, we send the reward of

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this as a gift from us to all

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the

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to all the

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Yeah.

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Yeah. Yeah.

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One of the things that

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becomes a great hindrance

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for

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the journey that a seeker is taking.

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And in general, for any I mean, any

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Muslim who believes in Allah

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is a spiritual

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disease that is called

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as we know, it's translates to love

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of the duniya.

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Now what is this duniya? The ulama and

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have actually

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discussed about this, debated about this.

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And one of the definitions is duniya is

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anything that distracts you from the remembrance of

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Allah

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Meaning, of course, it can be materialistic

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in nature,

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but any distraction

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that

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takes you away from the remembrance of Allah

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can be categorized as duniya.

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And hubba duniya would would mean that you

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are attached

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to that

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distraction. It manifests itself in 2 ways,

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The one is

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called and the other is called

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you can think of

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actual physical possessions,

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accumulations,

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anything material that we are attached to, that

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we love, that we collect.

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And, you know, we are great collectors. We

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like to collect things. We like to hold

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on to things. We like to be attached

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to things.

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And in nature, human beings are territorial.

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I mean, look at what is happening in

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the duniya right now in the world.

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It is

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fighting over resources,

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fighting over territories,

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and

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so many lives are lost to it because

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this is very

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something that is deep within our psyche as

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a human person to be territorial.

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And so when a person does not keep

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their own impulses, their own instincts in check,

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not only do they harm themselves, of course,

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on the spiritual journey, but they end up

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harming others around them.

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Because it will be all about mine mine

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mine,

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and any time

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time comes to give, give, give, this person

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will be reluctant

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and they will fight over it and they

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will die over it as well.

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And so

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this is something that we really have to

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keep in check. Let's talk a little bit

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about

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The Quranic ayahs are very explicit about this.

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Right?

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That this competition over

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abundance, I should have more than you, you

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used to have more than him, he should

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have more. You know, this materialistic

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competition,

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people will keep on

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engaging in

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it till they

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reach their kabar.

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And Nabi has mentioned

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that the desires or whims of a person,

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nobody can fill them

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till their stomachs are filled

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with the dirt.

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Otherwise,

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there's no end to it.

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There's an end to a need of a

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person. I can only eat that many rotis.

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I can only

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take this much physical space.

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Right? Those are the needs. I need to

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have this much space. I need to have

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at least a couple of clothes that I

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can wear. I need this much water. I

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just need this much shorty. I need a

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roof over my head.

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Maybe I need

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a some device or some vehicle to take

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me from one place to another. Those are,

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you know, you can consider those

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a need of a person.

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Anything beyond

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the need, then it we start to tread

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over the territory of what is known as

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desires and whips.

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Because now our own

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sense of a beauty and our own sense

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of

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what success is in this life

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get attached to the needs.

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And that's that is highly subjective.

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Your sense of success might be different from

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my sense of success. But when it is

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revolving around these materialistic possessions, right, it starts

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to cause

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possessions,

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right,

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it starts to cause harm. It starts to

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rot away our soul,

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especially if it enters the heart.

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Meaning, there's one thing to collect things,

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then there's a second thing to be attached

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to them.

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Now the Sharia does not necessarily I mean,

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Sharia does want us to have a simple

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life,

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but it does not necessarily hold a person

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to account if Allah has blessed them. You

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know, we know the examples of Hazrat Uzman

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Ikhani, Hazrat Abzir Rahman ibn Auf. They were

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in every sense of their the word, you

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know, they were billionaires.

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Right? But billionaires

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who were

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defined by their generosity, by their sense of

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giving, meaning they were just like a post

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person.

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Allah is giving them, and they're just

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spending, spending, spending in the path of Allah.

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So they were like that

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career, you know, that that career that that

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just gives

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and postman that just delivers the post.

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So it had not penetrated their souls, their

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heart,

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like the

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around them.

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And this is something that really,

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differentiates,

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you know, the Sahabaqarah, Bismhanu Allahhej Ma'een,

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that

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Allah had given them such tazkiyah, such purification

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that they were not moved by this. They

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were not moved by

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whatever came to them. They would just hasten

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to give it away.

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And so we know the example of Hazrat

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Abu Bakr Siddiq who was a pretty wealthy

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person, but he would just give everything in

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the path of Allah and send spend it

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on Nabi salallahu alaihi wa sallam. When he

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passed away, he pretty much had nothing. When

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Rasoolallahu alaihi wasallam passed away, he had nothing.

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Right? Meaning very little things, you know, the

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the cup that he drank in and busy

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the bistre that he slept on. Same thing

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with his Ali

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who who was known for his Zohid that

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Umar Farooq was like that.

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Was

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simple living, you know, he's reading the Quran

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when he was martyred.

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So the question is when you have so

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much power,

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so much influence, you're literally the amir of

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the mumineen,

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how is it that you protect yourself from,

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you know, from

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this lust of power and money? Because there's

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a lot of wealth that's coming in.

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And Ephraim has been taken over, the the

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Persian empire as well as the Byzantine empire,

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the Roman empire. You know, both of these

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empires

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now are in the possession of the Muslims.

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So all of this wealth is coming in,

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but, you know, despite all of that, they

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had a very simple living very simple living.

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This is what we call.

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This is what we actually call training.

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This is what we call of

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the that

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the itself is not drawn to these

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things. And there's a hadith of Nabi Sallallahu

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Alaihi Salam when he was passing by

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a dead lamb

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or, you know, like,

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or sheep.

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And the precepts looked at it and, you

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know, just like nobody is attracted to this,

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you know, Allah

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has not looked at this dunya with love

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just like we don't look at the the

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dead lamb with love, not even once.

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So we should we should ponder over that.

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Now what what is it that we are

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really reflecting on is our

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attachments.

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So when we're talking about,

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what are the things that we are attached

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to?

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And,

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you know, this is this is something that

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will always keep us anchored

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because the nature of the nafs is

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that anything that is

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to it that it desires, or malhub to

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it that it is inclined towards,

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you know, it is always going to

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try to make sure that it is not

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funny, that it does not get destroyed. It

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will always be involved in it.

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So for example, if it's the dunya,

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now it will very much difficult to focus

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on the akhra because your matluob, your maruhub

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is the duniya,

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and you want permanence in it. So isn't

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that what we're trying? We want all of

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our luxuries and comforts to be permanent. That's

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what we plan for in our lives.

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Because that is what is matlub and malroob

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to the nafs.

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Now if akhira becomes matlub and malroob to

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the nafs, now you want that permanence, then

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you are

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completely focused on that. This is what

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is known as

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as opposed

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to is just having this sense and sensibilities

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and what they call the business sense. Oh,

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you know, I'm going to do this to

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get this profit,

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and I want these profits to be permanent,

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and I want this

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cash flow and income flow and all of

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that.

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This is

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that you have this

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intellect of your economics and your finances

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and how to make things better

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because that is what is

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and desirous,

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and your nafs is inclined towards,

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and you want permanence in that.

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Nobody wants to retire because it might they

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they talk to enter. It might affect my

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lifestyle.

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My lifestyle is like this, and certain things

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are going to affect my lifestyles.

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Is what basically

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is intellect of the akhirah.

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This is what the sahaba kram

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has. So they

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did not really worry about what was coming

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and going.

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To them,

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it was what of it is getting invested

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in akhirah?

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What of in anything that Allah has given

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me,

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how is that going to affect me and

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benefit me in the Akhirah?

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And so, you know, famous examples of how

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they would spend so much in the path

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of Allah buying a well, you know, getting

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like hundreds of camels full of provisions and

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doing sadaqah.

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Somebody gets distracted from the, you

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know, just looking at their trees that are

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full of full of fruit and it distracts

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them from from their own salah. They would

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just give that in sadaqa. I mean, there's

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so many examples like that.

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Many, many examples.

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When we think about it, it just doesn't

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make any sense, and there's a diff there's

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a reason it doesn't make any sense.

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Because our sense is focused on dunya v,

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worldly benefits,

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profit and loss. How can this person just

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give up? Can't can't he just do?

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Can't he just do?

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Do some? You know, keep your keep your

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stuff with

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you. So that is your worldly senses, like,

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taking over.

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Right?

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They were overwhelmed by their uhruvi senses, like

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focused on their. It's like, no. No. No.

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No. I I need to make sure

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that my is permanent

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and that I'm investing in that.

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So if a person feels that this

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is very excessive in them, what can you

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do? The Quran tells you

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to get the ability to start spending in

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the path of Allah.

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As a matter of fact, if you look

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at the Quran, like every few ayahs, you

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know, there's

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in fact, Risa Bilal Allah, spending in the

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path of Allah, spending in the it's always

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recommended.

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Zakat is

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one of the fundamentals of tadeen and sadaqat,

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you know, it gets rid of any nooksan

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and harm in bala that might come.

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So we must get into that habit. Now,

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it doesn't mean that you go and, like,

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spend everything that you have, although some people

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might do that.

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But at least, you know, with your own

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hands. And if you have children, you know,

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ask them, you know, train them as well.

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You know, take this and put this in

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the sadaqah box every day.

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Okay. So you're taking $1, put it in

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the sadaqah box at the end of the

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month, you know, go and, you know, give

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it to,

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you know, what whatever you think is benefiting

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or servicing the makhluk the most. Right? You

00:32:21 --> 00:32:22

can give it in, you know, to,

00:32:23 --> 00:32:25

the Gaza donations. You can give it to

00:32:25 --> 00:32:27

your local masjid. You can go give it

00:32:27 --> 00:32:28

to local madrasa.

00:32:28 --> 00:32:30

You know, there are shelters.

00:32:30 --> 00:32:32

You know, there are people in need.

00:32:32 --> 00:32:34

So you just do that, but give it

00:32:34 --> 00:32:35

with your own hand. There's a difference.

00:32:36 --> 00:32:38

When you give it with your own hand,

00:32:38 --> 00:32:40

there's more than just money That is the

00:32:40 --> 00:32:43

there's a there's a transaction that is happening

00:32:43 --> 00:32:45

on a very metaphysical level. It's not just

00:32:45 --> 00:32:48

giving off, you know, and the taking. No.

00:32:48 --> 00:32:49

You're you're giving yourself.

00:32:50 --> 00:32:53

There's there's that. You know, your ruh, your

00:32:53 --> 00:32:55

kaldish involved. And the one who's taking their

00:32:55 --> 00:32:57

duas, the smile on their face. And

00:32:59 --> 00:33:01

and this is something that I actually did

00:33:01 --> 00:33:03

my 2nd master's thesis on. There is, you

00:33:03 --> 00:33:06

know, there is psychology. There's neuroscience behind it.

00:33:07 --> 00:33:09

There's a dopamine effect like the trifecta, what

00:33:09 --> 00:33:10

they call hormones,

00:33:11 --> 00:33:13

all the feel good hormones.

00:33:14 --> 00:33:16

You can look it up. It's called the

00:33:16 --> 00:33:19

psychology of giving. And, you know, like, when

00:33:19 --> 00:33:20

I read this, I was

00:33:21 --> 00:33:23

you know, you're just like, you know, this

00:33:23 --> 00:33:25

is what we have been told, like, for

00:33:25 --> 00:33:27

1400 years, and

00:33:27 --> 00:33:29

and this is you know, Muslims are known

00:33:29 --> 00:33:31

by this. Muslims are known about you know,

00:33:31 --> 00:33:32

that they will

00:33:33 --> 00:33:35

you know, if you are being raised near

00:33:35 --> 00:33:36

a Muslim family, they'll adopt you.

00:33:37 --> 00:33:39

They'll adopt you. They'll make sure you're fed

00:33:39 --> 00:33:41

more than their old children. I mean, this

00:33:41 --> 00:33:43

is very part and parcel of being a

00:33:43 --> 00:33:43

Muslim.

00:33:44 --> 00:33:45

Generosity, that is actually

00:33:46 --> 00:33:47

being a

00:33:47 --> 00:33:49

the ability to give,

00:33:49 --> 00:33:51

that is really what what defines of you

00:33:51 --> 00:33:53

know, it's like a sign and symptom of

00:33:53 --> 00:33:55

how how beautiful your imam is.

00:33:55 --> 00:33:56

Right?

00:33:56 --> 00:33:57

And so in fact,

00:33:58 --> 00:33:59

like, getting into that habit.

00:34:00 --> 00:34:02

Right? Now obviously, things that we are more

00:34:02 --> 00:34:04

attached to, let's see what happens if we

00:34:04 --> 00:34:05

depart ourselves.

00:34:05 --> 00:34:06

Usually, it's like,

00:34:07 --> 00:34:08

I don't have use for this, so let

00:34:08 --> 00:34:10

me just give it away. No. I mean,

00:34:10 --> 00:34:11

that's giving away the bad stuff.

00:34:12 --> 00:34:15

Try giving away sometimes the good stuff.

00:34:16 --> 00:34:17

That is really

00:34:18 --> 00:34:19

helping the nafs disconnect.

00:34:20 --> 00:34:22

Right? Because it's going to cry. It's like,

00:34:22 --> 00:34:24

no. No. Not that. You really like this.

00:34:24 --> 00:34:26

That's why I'm giving it away.

00:34:27 --> 00:34:29

That's why I'm giving it away. Right? So

00:34:29 --> 00:34:32

that's how we disconnect will happen. 2nd,

00:34:32 --> 00:34:34

in your own households,

00:34:34 --> 00:34:35

reduce

00:34:36 --> 00:34:37

how much we talk about especially

00:34:38 --> 00:34:39

to the children.

00:34:40 --> 00:34:42

If it is always about, you know, you

00:34:42 --> 00:34:43

have to become a doctor, you have to

00:34:43 --> 00:34:44

become this, you have to become this, you

00:34:44 --> 00:34:46

have to you know, this is what success

00:34:46 --> 00:34:46

is. This

00:34:47 --> 00:34:49

you know, then that also becomes part of

00:34:49 --> 00:34:50

our psyche.

00:34:51 --> 00:34:52

Okay? First of all, we should really do

00:34:52 --> 00:34:54

you have to become a good Muslim.

00:34:54 --> 00:34:56

Yes. Everybody has halal risk and all of

00:34:56 --> 00:34:57

that.

00:34:57 --> 00:34:59

You have to become a good Muslim. You

00:34:59 --> 00:35:01

have to become a good speaker to Allah.

00:35:01 --> 00:35:02

You have to become a true.

00:35:05 --> 00:35:07

Salah, you cannot you cannot be lax in

00:35:07 --> 00:35:09

your salah in your reading of the Quran.

00:35:10 --> 00:35:12

You have to fast even, you know, nafili

00:35:12 --> 00:35:14

fasting if you have to do. So, really,

00:35:14 --> 00:35:17

the core of our discussion at home

00:35:17 --> 00:35:19

should be focused on on our akhirah.

00:35:21 --> 00:35:23

If it is solely I'm not saying don't

00:35:23 --> 00:35:24

talk about the dunya. If somebody says, you

00:35:24 --> 00:35:26

know, dad, I have homework to do. He's

00:35:26 --> 00:35:27

like, no. No. No. Don't talk about this.

00:35:27 --> 00:35:29

No. Not like that.

00:35:29 --> 00:35:31

Yes. You can you can definitely talk, but

00:35:31 --> 00:35:34

it should not Your your whole conversation

00:35:34 --> 00:35:36

and discussions in life

00:35:36 --> 00:35:38

should not just be centered around. This sometimes

00:35:38 --> 00:35:41

bothers me. Right? Because I hear that that

00:35:41 --> 00:35:43

people will only talk, oh, this is going

00:35:43 --> 00:35:44

in my college and this professor.

00:35:45 --> 00:35:47

And I think about this because that's all

00:35:49 --> 00:35:50

what has consumed them.

00:35:51 --> 00:35:54

You know, this professor, this homework, this class,

00:35:54 --> 00:35:56

you know, I have to take MCATs. I

00:35:56 --> 00:35:57

have to get into college. I have to

00:35:57 --> 00:35:58

get into this.

00:36:00 --> 00:36:01

And, you know, you you like to think

00:36:01 --> 00:36:03

that it is just temporary and you hope

00:36:03 --> 00:36:04

it's just temporary.

00:36:06 --> 00:36:08

Because if it's not temporary, it will consume

00:36:08 --> 00:36:10

a person because that's all they will keep

00:36:10 --> 00:36:11

on thinking. It is not their fault. I

00:36:11 --> 00:36:14

mean, the whole society is kinda built like

00:36:14 --> 00:36:15

that. You have to be just thinking about

00:36:15 --> 00:36:17

your career all the time and development.

00:36:18 --> 00:36:20

And what the end is that what it

00:36:20 --> 00:36:21

really means to be a human and what

00:36:21 --> 00:36:23

it really means to be submitted to is

00:36:24 --> 00:36:26

greatly, greatly affected because it's really now passive.

00:36:28 --> 00:36:30

I mean, it's there somewhere. We don't even

00:36:30 --> 00:36:31

know where it is because we don't even

00:36:31 --> 00:36:33

have the time to think about it.

00:36:33 --> 00:36:34

Right?

00:36:34 --> 00:36:35

So this is

00:36:36 --> 00:36:37

the aspect of things.

00:36:39 --> 00:36:40

And

00:36:41 --> 00:36:42

one of the things that I'm a shy

00:36:42 --> 00:36:44

of all, so let's ask each other,

00:36:44 --> 00:36:45

you know, because

00:36:46 --> 00:36:48

being, you know, this, you know, there this

00:36:48 --> 00:36:50

everybody will tell you we live in a

00:36:50 --> 00:36:51

society that is hyperindividualistic

00:36:52 --> 00:36:52

in nature.

00:36:53 --> 00:36:55

Right? And they will say it as as

00:36:55 --> 00:36:56

this is some kind of, like, a

00:36:57 --> 00:36:58

a good thing.

00:36:59 --> 00:37:01

Right? On paper, it might be, oh, yeah.

00:37:01 --> 00:37:03

Individual, individual, individual.

00:37:04 --> 00:37:06

We're not built like that. Human beings

00:37:06 --> 00:37:09

are not built like that. You know? Socrates

00:37:09 --> 00:37:11

or Aristotle. Right? It's like we are social

00:37:11 --> 00:37:11

animals.

00:37:12 --> 00:37:14

So what that means is we really need

00:37:14 --> 00:37:16

to connect. So if you want to get

00:37:16 --> 00:37:17

rid of that or

00:37:18 --> 00:37:19

aspect of things,

00:37:20 --> 00:37:21

trying to give our brothers

00:37:22 --> 00:37:25

gift. The hadu, the habu, Nabi Sallam said.

00:37:25 --> 00:37:27

Give each other hadiyah. Again, it doesn't need

00:37:27 --> 00:37:29

to be that you buy like a Mustang.

00:37:29 --> 00:37:30

You know? You know? It doesn't need to

00:37:30 --> 00:37:31

be like that.

00:37:32 --> 00:37:35

Right? If you're going somewhere, if there's, you

00:37:35 --> 00:37:37

know, a candy or a chocolate, you know,

00:37:37 --> 00:37:38

that they might enjoy, a donut,

00:37:39 --> 00:37:40

a coffee,

00:37:40 --> 00:37:42

you know, that they might like, or

00:37:43 --> 00:37:45

anything anything will go. But get into the

00:37:45 --> 00:37:47

habit. Don't think, you know, I know this

00:37:47 --> 00:37:49

person too well. You know, he's just, nah.

00:37:49 --> 00:37:50

I don't wanna give it to him. You

00:37:50 --> 00:37:51

know? Why should I no. Just give it

00:37:51 --> 00:37:53

to you know? This is and, you know,

00:37:53 --> 00:37:54

this is how

00:37:54 --> 00:37:55

used to act.

00:37:56 --> 00:37:58

Anytime something would be given to him, he

00:37:58 --> 00:38:00

would give it to others around them. And,

00:38:00 --> 00:38:02

you know, this is this really it it,

00:38:02 --> 00:38:03

again, it

00:38:04 --> 00:38:06

affects you in a sense of that you

00:38:06 --> 00:38:07

become a giver, saqih.

00:38:08 --> 00:38:09

And so you're giving dunya,

00:38:10 --> 00:38:12

and so the attachment to the dunya won't

00:38:12 --> 00:38:14

be there then, which is what what we're

00:38:14 --> 00:38:16

trying to avoid. Now please don't take this

00:38:16 --> 00:38:18

the wrong way in the sense of, you

00:38:18 --> 00:38:19

know, we have to, like,

00:38:20 --> 00:38:22

put in our resignation letters and, you know,

00:38:22 --> 00:38:23

we have no. No. None of that. It's

00:38:23 --> 00:38:26

just don't allow that to affect us emotionally,

00:38:27 --> 00:38:28

spiritually, and psychologically.

00:38:28 --> 00:38:30

Okay? And this is what happens. Something happened

00:38:30 --> 00:38:32

in the job and, oh my god, you

00:38:32 --> 00:38:35

know, we're so stressed. What is going to

00:38:35 --> 00:38:37

happen? How am I going to live?

00:38:38 --> 00:38:40

That is not how a woman should be

00:38:40 --> 00:38:40

acting.

00:38:41 --> 00:38:42

Okay?

00:38:42 --> 00:38:44

Yeah. It comes and goes.

00:38:47 --> 00:38:48

That these are days

00:38:49 --> 00:38:51

changes changes. You know? Sometimes,

00:38:51 --> 00:38:52

you know, there's

00:38:52 --> 00:38:53

that,

00:38:53 --> 00:38:55

you know, there's you know, you have a

00:38:55 --> 00:38:57

lot and sometimes you won't. That is just

00:38:57 --> 00:38:59

what dunya is. You can't you can't change

00:38:59 --> 00:39:00

dunya.

00:39:00 --> 00:39:02

You can't say to the examiner, Allah change

00:39:02 --> 00:39:03

my test.

00:39:04 --> 00:39:05

Right? I mean, you can make dua make

00:39:05 --> 00:39:06

it easy for me.

00:39:07 --> 00:39:09

Right? But, you know, it's in your

00:39:09 --> 00:39:11

and sometimes a lot of it becomes

00:39:12 --> 00:39:13

a burden because

00:39:13 --> 00:39:15

you'll be asked about all of that. Sometimes

00:39:15 --> 00:39:17

being little becomes a burden because, you know,

00:39:17 --> 00:39:19

then our worst character comes out because,

00:39:20 --> 00:39:22

you know, it's it's we can't handle it.

00:39:23 --> 00:39:24

All of that means that our nafs is

00:39:24 --> 00:39:26

very much affected by dunya,

00:39:26 --> 00:39:29

and the true seeker cannot be like that.

00:39:30 --> 00:39:31

It's their object

00:39:31 --> 00:39:34

that they seek is somebody else altogether,

00:39:34 --> 00:39:35

which is,

00:39:36 --> 00:39:37

which is.

00:39:39 --> 00:39:40

Right? And this is what we see in

00:39:40 --> 00:39:41

the life of.

00:39:41 --> 00:39:42

Not something

00:39:42 --> 00:39:44

abstract. No. This is how they lived.

00:39:45 --> 00:39:47

They actualized this life.

00:39:47 --> 00:39:50

Their life was not materialistic in nature. You

00:39:50 --> 00:39:52

know, we all know that Masjid Nabhi, now

00:39:52 --> 00:39:55

you go, it's it's a masterpiece of art.

00:39:55 --> 00:39:55

But

00:39:56 --> 00:39:58

when Nabi saw some, it was just

00:39:58 --> 00:40:00

made from mud with some, you know

00:40:04 --> 00:40:07

Yeah. They pumped, you know, the the the

00:40:07 --> 00:40:09

leaves on top. That's it. There was no

00:40:09 --> 00:40:09

carpet.

00:40:10 --> 00:40:12

There was no carpet. They they used to

00:40:12 --> 00:40:13

do

00:40:13 --> 00:40:14

on the zameen, on dirt.

00:40:16 --> 00:40:18

For for tens of years, they they did

00:40:18 --> 00:40:21

that. Nabi Sasan did not have a pulpit

00:40:21 --> 00:40:22

for the longest.

00:40:23 --> 00:40:25

Right? He used to just stand on a

00:40:25 --> 00:40:27

deep palm tree. That's where the is.

00:40:29 --> 00:40:31

Sajid, I mean, you're like I mean, he's

00:40:31 --> 00:40:33

like the, you know, SubhanAllah, Imam Al Ambia

00:40:33 --> 00:40:34

and he's like Habibullah.

00:40:36 --> 00:40:36

But why this?

00:40:37 --> 00:40:39

Because they they showed and not that they

00:40:39 --> 00:40:41

were trying to prove a point but that's

00:40:41 --> 00:40:42

how they left.

00:40:42 --> 00:40:44

Because it was it came. Allah had done

00:40:44 --> 00:40:46

such a tazkiyah of them.

00:40:47 --> 00:40:49

The dunya just didn't fuck them.

00:40:50 --> 00:40:51

They did not want it.

00:40:51 --> 00:40:53

They wanted it to give,

00:40:54 --> 00:40:56

to be suki, and, you know, our mothers

00:40:56 --> 00:40:57

were were like that. You know, all of

00:40:57 --> 00:40:59

our mothers were like that. They were known

00:41:00 --> 00:41:03

that for days, you know, for no 3

00:41:03 --> 00:41:04

days in a row, they would have, like,

00:41:04 --> 00:41:05

you know, food in their

00:41:06 --> 00:41:07

in their house. No 3 days in a

00:41:07 --> 00:41:09

row. Maybe their 1st and second day, maybe

00:41:09 --> 00:41:10

they'll have it, and 3rd day won't have

00:41:10 --> 00:41:13

it, or 1st day, then second, they don't.

00:41:14 --> 00:41:16

Because anything they will be given, you know,

00:41:16 --> 00:41:17

some of them would be given a stipend

00:41:17 --> 00:41:18

for the year,

00:41:19 --> 00:41:21

the same day, all the stipend has been

00:41:21 --> 00:41:21

given away.

00:41:22 --> 00:41:24

This this is how our mothers lived.

00:41:26 --> 00:41:28

It's it's a it's a different living. We

00:41:28 --> 00:41:30

have to reflect on that. And quickly, let's

00:41:30 --> 00:41:32

get to the second point, which is

00:41:34 --> 00:41:37

That's even a more of a color because

00:41:37 --> 00:41:38

dunya, you can actually see and you can

00:41:38 --> 00:41:39

be like, no. No. I want to stay

00:41:39 --> 00:41:41

away from it. Basically means

00:41:42 --> 00:41:42

prestige,

00:41:44 --> 00:41:45

love of prestige,

00:41:47 --> 00:41:48

love of status,

00:41:49 --> 00:41:50

love of

00:41:50 --> 00:41:50

acknowledgment,

00:41:51 --> 00:41:52

love of recognition,

00:41:53 --> 00:41:54

love of being known.

00:41:55 --> 00:41:55

Right?

00:41:56 --> 00:41:57

And

00:41:57 --> 00:41:59

it should be very obvious why that can

00:41:59 --> 00:42:01

be a killer because that's what wants.

00:42:02 --> 00:42:03

Wants to be know.

00:42:04 --> 00:42:06

Recognize me. Know

00:42:06 --> 00:42:07

me,

00:42:07 --> 00:42:10

praise me me, right? Me, myself, and I.

00:42:11 --> 00:42:12

And so

00:42:13 --> 00:42:15

also becomes a killer when we are talking

00:42:15 --> 00:42:16

about this

00:42:17 --> 00:42:20

And again, people will want to run after

00:42:20 --> 00:42:21

this. They will do you know, and, you

00:42:21 --> 00:42:23

know, obviously, in a capitalistic society,

00:42:24 --> 00:42:26

that's the basis of, like, all of the

00:42:26 --> 00:42:27

markets and, you know, even,

00:42:28 --> 00:42:29

you know, we all know when, you know,

00:42:29 --> 00:42:30

your big,

00:42:32 --> 00:42:34

foundations give, you know, they want their names

00:42:34 --> 00:42:35

on things.

00:42:35 --> 00:42:37

I made this school. It has to be,

00:42:38 --> 00:42:40

you know, Fallah School School of, you

00:42:40 --> 00:42:43

know, Tandon School of Engineering because they gave

00:42:43 --> 00:42:43

a $100,000,000.

00:42:44 --> 00:42:45

I won my name

00:42:45 --> 00:42:47

on all of these buildings that are being

00:42:47 --> 00:42:49

constructed. Right? This hospital, you know, ward, it

00:42:49 --> 00:42:51

has to be named after me. The street

00:42:51 --> 00:42:54

has to be they are looking for permanence

00:42:54 --> 00:42:58

through this. Why? Because aduniya sijinul mumin wajannatul

00:42:58 --> 00:42:58

kafir.

00:42:59 --> 00:43:01

A person who rejects, for them, this is

00:43:01 --> 00:43:01

jannat.

00:43:02 --> 00:43:04

They want their mark. This is their legacy.

00:43:04 --> 00:43:05

They want, you know, I want to leave

00:43:05 --> 00:43:06

my legacy.

00:43:06 --> 00:43:08

For us, we want to send our legacy.

00:43:08 --> 00:43:09

Right? It's very different.

00:43:10 --> 00:43:11

They're like, you know, what are you leave

00:43:12 --> 00:43:14

What what do you mean? I'm what I'm

00:43:14 --> 00:43:16

looking for is what am I funding? That

00:43:16 --> 00:43:18

is going to be my legacy forever.

00:43:19 --> 00:43:20

Right?

00:43:20 --> 00:43:21

And so

00:43:23 --> 00:43:25

it's it's it's almost a disease. It has

00:43:25 --> 00:43:26

become that

00:43:26 --> 00:43:29

that, you know, that people want this kind

00:43:29 --> 00:43:31

of thing because, you know, sincerity can never

00:43:31 --> 00:43:34

be experienced. Ikhlas can never be experienced.

00:43:35 --> 00:43:37

Ikhlas is like emptying your heart.

00:43:37 --> 00:43:39

And how do you empty your heart when

00:43:39 --> 00:43:40

it's filled with yourself?

00:43:42 --> 00:43:44

With so many things, when it's

00:43:44 --> 00:43:45

and with

00:43:45 --> 00:43:47

yourself. Is you're filled

00:43:48 --> 00:43:49

with your own self,

00:43:50 --> 00:43:52

and you define your sense of self through

00:43:52 --> 00:43:53

these things.

00:43:54 --> 00:43:56

You know? One of the things that we

00:43:56 --> 00:43:58

always, you know and, you know, I'm not

00:43:58 --> 00:44:00

taking a dig at the doctors, but anytime

00:44:00 --> 00:44:02

they will introduce themselves, you know, what's your

00:44:02 --> 00:44:04

name? Oh, my my name is doctor Falan

00:44:04 --> 00:44:04

Infala.

00:44:05 --> 00:44:06

Well, I didn't really ask you, you know,

00:44:06 --> 00:44:07

what you did.

00:44:08 --> 00:44:10

Right? Why is why is it that you

00:44:10 --> 00:44:10

have to

00:44:12 --> 00:44:13

specify? Why can't you just my name is

00:44:13 --> 00:44:15

Ahmed Arshad. That's that's it.

00:44:16 --> 00:44:18

It's it's really, it's like, what is the

00:44:19 --> 00:44:20

how do we define ourselves? What do we

00:44:20 --> 00:44:22

look at it? You know? How do we

00:44:22 --> 00:44:23

look at ourselves?

00:44:23 --> 00:44:25

And now this identity has become part of

00:44:25 --> 00:44:27

this rather than just being

00:44:29 --> 00:44:31

that you are in dire need of Allah.

00:44:31 --> 00:44:32

That's all you are,

00:44:34 --> 00:44:36

So rather than defining ourselves through that,

00:44:37 --> 00:44:39

we take, no, I just wanted this too.

00:44:39 --> 00:44:42

I'm a king. I'm a president. I'm a

00:44:42 --> 00:44:42

fullah. Fullah.

00:44:44 --> 00:44:46

And people will use whatever they can use.

00:44:46 --> 00:44:48

That's the tragedy. They will use dunya. They'll

00:44:48 --> 00:44:50

always they will also use siddeen

00:44:52 --> 00:44:53

to be known. They want to be known.

00:44:53 --> 00:44:54

And this is now

00:44:55 --> 00:44:57

Allah Janta. You know, 25 years ago, we

00:44:57 --> 00:44:59

had no concept of this. But now this

00:44:59 --> 00:45:00

is such a

00:45:01 --> 00:45:02

it's such a thing now. You know? There's

00:45:02 --> 00:45:04

a thing in in our deen of, like,

00:45:04 --> 00:45:05

celebrity,

00:45:05 --> 00:45:06

like, imams.

00:45:07 --> 00:45:08

Right? First time I read this, I was

00:45:08 --> 00:45:09

like, what is this?

00:45:10 --> 00:45:11

What does this even mean?

00:45:12 --> 00:45:13

How can it this mean? Because it seems

00:45:13 --> 00:45:14

like very oxymoronic.

00:45:15 --> 00:45:15

Right?

00:45:16 --> 00:45:19

Because imam and sheikh and whatnot, they're supposed

00:45:19 --> 00:45:20

I mean, by definition, it's

00:45:21 --> 00:45:24

you are you have you have humility, humbleness,

00:45:24 --> 00:45:25

you don't want to be known, but you're

00:45:25 --> 00:45:26

still, like, you know, serving the

00:45:27 --> 00:45:29

so it's like an oxymoron when when you

00:45:29 --> 00:45:31

connect both both of them together. But it's

00:45:31 --> 00:45:32

a thing now.

00:45:34 --> 00:45:35

It's really

00:45:37 --> 00:45:38

seeking the same thing

00:45:38 --> 00:45:40

but using your dean for that.

00:45:41 --> 00:45:43

And I think I've shared this before that

00:45:43 --> 00:45:44

one time I was traveling.

00:45:44 --> 00:45:46

I won't mention where, but in a state.

00:45:46 --> 00:45:46

But

00:45:47 --> 00:45:49

and I went there and, you know,

00:45:50 --> 00:45:52

there were some fresh graduates from Darulum who

00:45:52 --> 00:45:54

came and, you know, people were very happy

00:45:54 --> 00:45:55

as they are because now you have local

00:45:55 --> 00:45:56

imams. And

00:45:56 --> 00:45:57

and

00:45:57 --> 00:45:59

so one of them was asked to kind

00:45:59 --> 00:46:01

of come and, you know, just,

00:46:03 --> 00:46:06

you know, address the the congregation and whatnot.

00:46:06 --> 00:46:08

And so the the way that he was

00:46:08 --> 00:46:10

expressed, you know, it was like, oh, you

00:46:10 --> 00:46:10

know,

00:46:11 --> 00:46:13

we we invite Molana, Filan, and Filan to

00:46:13 --> 00:46:15

please come and and please address the congregation.

00:46:16 --> 00:46:18

And this person came, and the first thing

00:46:18 --> 00:46:18

he says was

00:46:21 --> 00:46:24

It's not Molana. You I'm. You know? It's

00:46:24 --> 00:46:24

like,

00:46:25 --> 00:46:26

I mean,

00:46:27 --> 00:46:30

that shows that shows, again, like, what you're

00:46:30 --> 00:46:31

you're using, you're utilizing

00:46:32 --> 00:46:34

whatever title that you might have.

00:46:36 --> 00:46:36

And

00:46:37 --> 00:46:39

that's how you want to be known. That's

00:46:39 --> 00:46:40

how you're defining yourself.

00:46:40 --> 00:46:42

And you're using your dean

00:46:43 --> 00:46:44

for that,

00:46:44 --> 00:46:46

you know, to to make your nafs, you

00:46:46 --> 00:46:48

know, what, even more known.

00:46:50 --> 00:46:51

You know,

00:46:53 --> 00:46:55

I mean, this great, great Sahabi.

00:46:58 --> 00:46:59

Son-in-law of Rasulullah

00:47:00 --> 00:47:02

and, you know, Ahlibayt of Rasulullah

00:47:03 --> 00:47:04

One of the greatest lahideen.

00:47:06 --> 00:47:08

Such a great person, masha'Allah, you know, and,

00:47:08 --> 00:47:11

you know, the first child to accept Islam,

00:47:11 --> 00:47:13

not somebody who came later on. He was

00:47:13 --> 00:47:14

like 7, 8 years old.

00:47:15 --> 00:47:16

He accepts

00:47:16 --> 00:47:17

Islam.

00:47:18 --> 00:47:19

One time

00:47:19 --> 00:47:21

when he was the amir al meaning when

00:47:21 --> 00:47:22

he was the caliph,

00:47:23 --> 00:47:23

some

00:47:24 --> 00:47:26

stranger came into the salah into where where

00:47:26 --> 00:47:27

they used to eat, and

00:47:28 --> 00:47:30

the stranger saw that this, you know, this

00:47:30 --> 00:47:32

person across the the room is, like, staring

00:47:32 --> 00:47:32

at me.

00:47:35 --> 00:47:37

And so, you know, when he was done

00:47:37 --> 00:47:39

and he went to to go pay and,

00:47:41 --> 00:47:43

the person told him that, you know, that

00:47:43 --> 00:47:45

person who was sitting there, he has paid

00:47:45 --> 00:47:46

for you.

00:47:47 --> 00:47:48

And he asked who he was. He was

00:47:48 --> 00:47:48

like,

00:47:50 --> 00:47:51

al Mu'minin who has paid for you.

00:47:52 --> 00:47:53

Then he sought him out and, you know,

00:47:53 --> 00:47:55

he really is like, who are you? You

00:47:55 --> 00:47:55

know?

00:47:56 --> 00:47:57

And he says,

00:47:58 --> 00:48:00

that I am one of the I'm one

00:48:00 --> 00:48:02

of the men of the Mu'mini. I'm one

00:48:02 --> 00:48:04

of the Mu'mini. That's it.

00:48:04 --> 00:48:06

He didn't say I'm Mirul Mu'mini, and he

00:48:06 --> 00:48:08

didn't say I'm son-in-law of this. He didn't

00:48:08 --> 00:48:08

say

00:48:09 --> 00:48:11

You know, Ali rajata was known as Bab

00:48:11 --> 00:48:14

ul Iyaim, the door of knowledge. He had

00:48:14 --> 00:48:14

so much Irhmashar.

00:48:17 --> 00:48:18

He didn't say I am the

00:48:18 --> 00:48:21

father of Hassan and Hussain, you know, the

00:48:21 --> 00:48:22

Shabaab, the,

00:48:23 --> 00:48:24

you know, the the king of the Shabaab

00:48:24 --> 00:48:25

of Jannah. You

00:48:27 --> 00:48:28

know, that's

00:48:28 --> 00:48:29

the

00:48:29 --> 00:48:30

lord.

00:48:30 --> 00:48:30

Just

00:48:31 --> 00:48:32

one of the men.

00:48:34 --> 00:48:35

See, we don't say that nowadays

00:48:36 --> 00:48:38

because, again, we want that

00:48:39 --> 00:48:41

recognition. You know? People who might be sheikh

00:48:41 --> 00:48:43

or something, or somebody comes in, like, calls

00:48:43 --> 00:48:45

them Abhay. Who are you calling Abhay?

00:48:47 --> 00:48:48

That happens.

00:48:49 --> 00:48:50

Ahmed.

00:48:51 --> 00:48:51

Ahmed.

00:48:59 --> 00:49:00

Why?

00:49:03 --> 00:49:05

Why are we why why why do we

00:49:05 --> 00:49:07

get upset over this? We get upset because

00:49:07 --> 00:49:09

that's that it affects our nerves

00:49:10 --> 00:49:12

because it is used to the job.

00:49:12 --> 00:49:14

It is used to the recognition. And if

00:49:14 --> 00:49:16

we don't recognize, people don't you know, we

00:49:16 --> 00:49:17

we get upset.

00:49:18 --> 00:49:20

Or give a ban. Oh, how many people

00:49:20 --> 00:49:22

are coming? You know? No. Maybe 10 or

00:49:22 --> 00:49:24

20 no. I I want 1,000.

00:49:27 --> 00:49:29

Because the rate goes up. You know? It's

00:49:29 --> 00:49:32

like how much? Sadieb, it's it's our

00:49:32 --> 00:49:35

never acted like that. Never acted like that.

00:49:35 --> 00:49:37

They despised, you know, this recognition.

00:49:40 --> 00:49:42

Despised it. You know, recently I was,

00:49:43 --> 00:49:45

in Chicago and, you know, one of my

00:49:45 --> 00:49:46

close friends, you know, sheikh

00:49:47 --> 00:49:47

sheikh

00:49:48 --> 00:49:49

Hussein was, you know,

00:49:50 --> 00:49:51

so I got to meet him. Beautiful

00:49:52 --> 00:49:54

person and and a beautiful, you know,

00:49:56 --> 00:49:57

you know,

00:49:57 --> 00:49:58

and, you know, this is one of the

00:49:58 --> 00:50:00

things. I've known him for,

00:50:00 --> 00:50:03

what, like, 28, 29 years now.

00:50:04 --> 00:50:06

And, you know, all this very down to

00:50:06 --> 00:50:07

it.

00:50:07 --> 00:50:10

Belongs to very well off families. One of

00:50:10 --> 00:50:10

the

00:50:11 --> 00:50:14

greatest doctors alive today in pathology, and,

00:50:14 --> 00:50:16

you know, there's a cult like following

00:50:17 --> 00:50:17

of him

00:50:18 --> 00:50:21

in pathology, you know, because people don't graduate

00:50:21 --> 00:50:21

without

00:50:21 --> 00:50:23

using his bathoma book.

00:50:24 --> 00:50:24

And

00:50:25 --> 00:50:25

so simple.

00:50:26 --> 00:50:28

Always simple. You know, he was the,

00:50:31 --> 00:50:32

you know, he was the what do you

00:50:32 --> 00:50:34

call that? The the speaker, you know, the

00:50:34 --> 00:50:36

the speaker for Darussalam.

00:50:37 --> 00:50:38

Right? What's the the end speaker? Right? What

00:50:38 --> 00:50:41

would you call that? Main speaker. Right?

00:50:42 --> 00:50:43

And, you know, he comes in. He just

00:50:43 --> 00:50:45

goes on the side, and he's just praying

00:50:45 --> 00:50:47

there on his own and, you know, with

00:50:47 --> 00:50:49

a small toffee and whatnot. And,

00:50:50 --> 00:50:53

did nobody nobody knows. You know, because he's

00:50:53 --> 00:50:55

not sitting there upfront on the stage, and

00:50:55 --> 00:50:56

he just

00:50:57 --> 00:51:00

this is tarbia. This is tarbia of his

00:51:00 --> 00:51:01

parents. This is tarbia of all of his

00:51:01 --> 00:51:02

teachers,

00:51:03 --> 00:51:05

This is what it means that you don't

00:51:05 --> 00:51:07

allow these things to really affect you, who

00:51:07 --> 00:51:09

you are as a human being,

00:51:09 --> 00:51:11

and who you are

00:51:11 --> 00:51:13

as a servant of Allah as an abt

00:51:13 --> 00:51:13

of Allah

00:51:15 --> 00:51:17

That is what is required. So don't make

00:51:17 --> 00:51:17

your dunya,

00:51:18 --> 00:51:19

don't use your deen

00:51:20 --> 00:51:22

to just, you know, feed your nafs. That's

00:51:22 --> 00:51:24

that's what we're talking about here.

00:51:24 --> 00:51:26

People will do it. You know, my voice.

00:51:26 --> 00:51:27

Oh, my look

00:51:28 --> 00:51:29

at. So beautiful.

00:51:30 --> 00:51:32

Some people, you know, will dress in a

00:51:32 --> 00:51:34

specific way, and then they'll use that.

00:51:35 --> 00:51:37

If you're doing it for sunnah and sunnah

00:51:37 --> 00:51:38

alone, yes.

00:51:39 --> 00:51:40

But if you start to feel that, you

00:51:40 --> 00:51:43

know, like, not once, twice, but every single

00:51:43 --> 00:51:44

time it's really affecting

00:51:45 --> 00:51:47

how you perceive yourself, then maybe you have

00:51:47 --> 00:51:48

to, like, look at it a little bit.

00:51:50 --> 00:51:52

Because if you wear a topi, then people

00:51:52 --> 00:51:53

won't call you Molana.

00:51:54 --> 00:51:54

It's

00:51:56 --> 00:51:57

you know, we we have to keep ourselves

00:51:57 --> 00:51:59

in check. That's basically what it is.

00:52:00 --> 00:52:01

Because this

00:52:01 --> 00:52:02

and

00:52:02 --> 00:52:03

it's such a killer

00:52:04 --> 00:52:06

that we won't even know when it, you

00:52:06 --> 00:52:07

know, when it will

00:52:09 --> 00:52:11

will, you know, take us away. And so,

00:52:11 --> 00:52:12

you know, sometimes I'm I'm you know, this

00:52:12 --> 00:52:14

is why sometimes will I remember,

00:52:15 --> 00:52:17

you know, when they were giving us back,

00:52:17 --> 00:52:18

they would they will say, oh, you know,

00:52:19 --> 00:52:22

in the first, people who are above

00:52:22 --> 00:52:25

20, you know, they come first and then

00:52:25 --> 00:52:27

you know? And even then, you know, this

00:52:27 --> 00:52:27

kind of separation

00:52:29 --> 00:52:30

because now every you know, people who are

00:52:30 --> 00:52:33

above 20, like, I'm 20. Everybody's looking at

00:52:33 --> 00:52:33

me.

00:52:35 --> 00:52:37

And the ones who are not, they're like,

00:52:37 --> 00:52:39

oh, you know, I wish I was in

00:52:39 --> 00:52:40

their place. And

00:52:42 --> 00:52:43

take your eyes off of

00:52:44 --> 00:52:45

what actually matters with.

00:52:49 --> 00:52:50

And we're using it exactly for for that

00:52:50 --> 00:52:52

purpose. It's very diff it's very difficult to

00:52:52 --> 00:52:53

escape

00:52:53 --> 00:52:55

unless you keep your nafs in check. You

00:52:55 --> 00:52:57

know, when people praise you, it's like,

00:52:57 --> 00:52:59

oh, Hazrat this and Hazrat that, and, you

00:52:59 --> 00:53:01

know, it's very difficult

00:53:02 --> 00:53:03

to keep yourself in check.

00:53:06 --> 00:53:08

You know, when when I invited Sheikh Hussain

00:53:08 --> 00:53:08

to the

00:53:09 --> 00:53:11

our convocation, you know, I'm going to come

00:53:11 --> 00:53:12

here as your Khalif.

00:53:14 --> 00:53:16

This is what, you know, being kind of

00:53:16 --> 00:53:16

just

00:53:17 --> 00:53:20

for now, often enough really looks like.

00:53:21 --> 00:53:23

So I'm just giving these examples

00:53:24 --> 00:53:26

that anybody who has any maqam in the

00:53:26 --> 00:53:28

eyes of Allah, not a maqam in our

00:53:28 --> 00:53:30

own eyes, because everybody has a maqam in

00:53:30 --> 00:53:31

their own eyes,

00:53:31 --> 00:53:33

But everybody who is maqam in the eyes

00:53:33 --> 00:53:34

of Allah,

00:53:35 --> 00:53:38

there are certain kafi'at and ahuwal they have,

00:53:38 --> 00:53:40

and there's certain

00:53:41 --> 00:53:41

bad characteristics

00:53:42 --> 00:53:44

that they don't have. And so one of

00:53:44 --> 00:53:46

the things that they don't have is this

00:53:48 --> 00:53:50

because this is the root cause of all

00:53:50 --> 00:53:52

the evil that we see.

00:53:53 --> 00:53:54

So whether it is

00:53:55 --> 00:53:57

whether we use for this or whether we

00:53:57 --> 00:53:58

use for that.

00:53:59 --> 00:54:01

Now this recognition and praise and this and

00:54:01 --> 00:54:03

that. It is going to

00:54:03 --> 00:54:05

be the poison that will

00:54:06 --> 00:54:08

make sure that we die a spiritual death.

00:54:09 --> 00:54:11

Okay. So as seekers, we have to be

00:54:11 --> 00:54:13

extremely careful for it. We make dua.

00:54:14 --> 00:54:16

The Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala allows

00:54:16 --> 00:54:19

us to escape this love of the duniya.

00:54:19 --> 00:54:22

May Allah give us such a love of

00:54:22 --> 00:54:22

himself

00:54:24 --> 00:54:25

to

00:54:26 --> 00:54:28

that it just trumps every other love that

00:54:28 --> 00:54:30

is there. Right? It just trumps every other

00:54:30 --> 00:54:31

love.

00:54:31 --> 00:54:34

And our becomes a for Allah. Our love,

00:54:34 --> 00:54:36

hope becomes love for Allah.

00:54:36 --> 00:54:37

Our

00:54:37 --> 00:54:39

inclination becomes inclinations for Allah.

00:54:48 --> 00:54:50

We will do some zikr

00:54:51 --> 00:54:52

for people who are online.

00:54:53 --> 00:54:54

We will go

00:54:55 --> 00:54:57

quite for a little while. Don't think that

00:54:57 --> 00:54:59

it has ended because

00:54:59 --> 00:55:00

usually in our modalities,

00:55:01 --> 00:55:03

we do longer. So it's not going to

00:55:03 --> 00:55:04

be a couple of minutes. It's probably going

00:55:04 --> 00:55:06

to be 15, 20 minutes.

00:55:06 --> 00:55:08

Remain focused on your own

00:55:08 --> 00:55:09

can

00:55:11 --> 00:55:12

can have mercy on us.

00:55:13 --> 00:55:13

So please do.

00:55:14 --> 00:55:16

Close your eyes. Bow your heads in humility

00:55:16 --> 00:55:18

and humbleness. Let go of all the thoughts

00:55:18 --> 00:55:20

of the and everyone in this.

00:55:21 --> 00:55:23

Let go of these attachments. Let go of

00:55:23 --> 00:55:24

all of these

00:55:25 --> 00:55:28

all of these connections that we have and

00:55:28 --> 00:55:30

really focus on our connection with Allah. Focus

00:55:30 --> 00:55:32

on your 2 fingers below your left chest.

00:55:33 --> 00:55:36

Negate everything and everyone. Affirm Allah, Talha's presence

00:55:36 --> 00:55:37

and feel

00:55:38 --> 00:55:40

with your intuition that this noor, this light

00:55:40 --> 00:55:42

is descending upon us from our

00:55:43 --> 00:55:45

it is entering our call. Our call is

00:55:45 --> 00:55:47

immersing in it. It's getting rid of all

00:55:47 --> 00:55:49

the filth, of all the darkness.

00:55:50 --> 00:55:52

Right? And feel that your call is calling

00:55:52 --> 00:55:53

out to Allah.

00:55:54 --> 00:55:56

Feel that your call will be saying, Allah,

00:55:56 --> 00:55:59

Allah, Allah. And they'll be listening to Inja.

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