Adnan Rajeh – Sunday Tafseer- 66 Part 4 Surat Al-Tahrim- 9-12

Adnan Rajeh
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The speakers stress the importance of protecting oneself and loved ones from the "car corporations" and "weird behavior" by planning for future mistakes, protecting one's family, and creating a framework for justice. They also mention the importance of protecting one's rights and being powerful through his dysfunctional family and his wife's. The transcript concludes with a promise to continue the series and create a cluster of surahs.
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Insha'Allah we'll try and conclude the surah

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this week, khalas, it's four parts, it's actually

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too much for a two-page surah I'm

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starting to get sloppy while I'm taking too

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much time to finish this stuff but really,

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really due to Allah'u'alam, ya'ni,

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the the need for contemplation on certain parts

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of it, ya'ni Now we're taking time

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because honestly some of these verses require an

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hour of just making sure that insha'Allah

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you're contemplating and appreciating the beauty and the

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depth of what Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala

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is sharing with us and Ya'ni, what

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scholars have said historically is that an ayah

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of Qur'an requires a lifetime of contemplation,

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like a lifetime of reflection, really not an

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hour or two but we're trying to do

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this in a method or in a way,

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in a fashion that insha'Allah does not

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bore you same time allows you to kind

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of wrap your head around some of the

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basic and important concepts that are being explained

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so to quickly just put this together, Surah

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Al-Tahrim is the last surah in this

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cluster from Al-Mujadidah to Al-Tahrim which

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is also the 28th juz' of the Qur

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'an but they are a group of surahs

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and they're all madani and they talk about

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organizational aspects of the Muslim community, thank you

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They're very organizational, very technical They talk about

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the relationships that Muslims are going to have

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with one another within their community, with their

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leaders, with non-muslims as citizens ya'ni,

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the social contract with leadership with buy-in,

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ya'ni, it talks about the relationship of

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marriage, it talks about the relationship within the

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family, which is what Surah Al-Tahrim kind

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of concludes this cluster with This final surah

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talks about organizing the relationships within a family,

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within a household I guess maybe it's a

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better word for it, within a household, which

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is why we got a glimpse into the

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life of the Prophet ﷺ, a very personal

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one by the way, like we got to

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hear an aspect of his personal life I

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always wondered how comfortable he was ﷺ with

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these things being spread that way, I've always

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thought about that His personal life was on

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display for people, if you think about it,

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we know everything about him ﷺ We really

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do, like certain things we don't talk about,

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but if you want to go back to

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the books We know absolutely everything about his

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life, every detail, no one likes that, no

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one wants that to be on public display

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But this is the sacrifice he had to

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put up with ﷺ, that the Qur'an

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would come and expose something that is really

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no one's business to know about Like if

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you think about it, no one needs to

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know what's actually happening between him and his

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wife And what they're saying to each other,

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but because the lessons of what is occurring

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are important That's why we're getting a glimpse

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into his life, seeing what being taught, what

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is valuable and what isn't And how we're

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supposed to prioritize the elements of our relationships

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with our spouses and within our households And

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of course the main ayah in the surah

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that talks about قُوْ أَنفُسَكُمْ وَأَهْلِيكُمْ O those

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who believe, protect yourselves and your families from

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the hellfire Making that the absolute priority, or

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the most important priority for us as Muslims

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in our life Which is to protect ourselves

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and our families, our loved ones, from ever

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being punished If that is always your goal,

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and you always use that to guide your

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decision making process, then you'll be fine Every

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decision within your family, in terms of your

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relationship with your wife and your children You're

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using this as your guiding principle, you're always

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going to be safe, you'll always make the

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right choice If the goal is to protect

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yourself and your children and your wife from

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ever being punished يوم القيامة, ever being in

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the hellfire, it's almost impossible to make the

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wrong decision But because that's not always there,

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and we're human and we do lose track

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of things sometimes So you won't always think

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that way, but if you do, if this

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becomes a priority where 85, 90, 95%

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of the time That's what you're thinking about,

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then your life will be pretty good Because

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you're always making choices that are going to

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take you and your loved ones closer to

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Allah You're prioritizing success over personal vengeance or

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personal righteousness Instead of trying to be right,

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or trying to be powerful, or trying to

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establish your dominance or status You're just trying

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to make sure that everyone here makes it

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across the finish line How do you do

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that?

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Allah didn't leave the how unanswered, He gave

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us ayah number 8 Which we recited in

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full last week, so I'm not going to

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repeat the recitation of it But I'm going

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to go through the meaning inshallah, because I

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think it's extremely important Where Allah calls upon

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the believers, and the reason I know that

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it's a continuation or an explanation of how

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Is because He uses the same nida, He'll

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say يَا لَذِينَ آمَنُوا again to contemplate the

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first يَا أَيُّهَا لَذِينَ آمُوا That He used

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to explain to us what the priority was

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Well how do I do this?

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تُوبُوا إِلَى اللَّهِ تَوْبَةً نَصُوحًا That's how you're

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going to do it You're going to be

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in a state of ongoing تَوْبَة What is

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the word for تَوْبَة?

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Yeah, repentance.

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It's the end of the weekend, I'm مَطْبُوح,

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there's nothing I'm fully cooked So He uses

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a word to describe the تَوْبَة, which is

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the only time it's used in the Qur

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'an And it's a very famous usage, and

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you almost always use it when you make

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du'a that Allah accepts your تَوْبَة He

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uses the word نَصُوح The word نَصُوح is

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not I know the word نَصُوح is usually

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translated as advice It's really not advice, it's

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more influence than it is advice Really what

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it is, is influence So تَوْبَة النَّصُوح Please

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not an advising repentance It's an influential one

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It's a repentance that is so genuine and

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so real That it actually influences all these

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other mistakes that are surrounding it And that's

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why scholars would say one good repentance will

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basically rid you of 85% of your

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sin Most of your sins, you don't have

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to actually have a genuine repentance from every

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sin Just one genuine repentance from one sin

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will take out almost everything else Because as

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I explained last week, I think we spent

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the majority of the time talking about this

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Is that repentance requires two basic things It

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requires full regret and it requires a plan

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Regret means you have to actually believe and

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acknowledge genuinely in your heart, in your mind,

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in your نفس, in your spirit That what

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you did was absolutely wrong Unjustifiable That is

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a hard thing to achieve Because most of

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us when we do something wrong, we do

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rationalize it We have to have it, we

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rationalize it We offer ourselves an excuse of

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why it was okay or why I had

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to do it Or why I did it

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and I'm not that bad Because we're scared

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of saying nope, there was no reason Because

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we think that when we do that, that

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means we're just bad people And then our

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self-value goes down Which should never be

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the point You shouldn't feel that you're a

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bad If you're honest with yourself and you

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say I shouldn't have done this period There's

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no reason for me to have done this

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It doesn't mean you're a bad person You

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just made a bad choice If making a

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bad choice makes you immediately a bad person

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Then you have a distorted understanding of self

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-value and self-image And that has to

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be dealt with Because good people make bad

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choices And bad people make good choices And

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bad people make bad choices And good people

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make good choices We don't know if you're

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good or bad You don't know if you're

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good or bad That is Allah's judgment on

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the Day of Judgment If you're good or

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you're bad No one can make that judgment

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We're not here on earth to make judgments

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about ourselves Or about others in terms of

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being good or being bad That's something that

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Allah makes a judgment of the Day of

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Judgment Your self-value has nothing to do

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with either of those things Whether you're good

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or whether you're bad Your value is the

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same You're just a human being Being good

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does not make you more of a human

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being Being bad does not make you less

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of a human being Like you're a human

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being Which is where we came up with

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the idea of human rights Human rights are

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not attached to anything You don't have to

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have a PhD to get them You don't

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have to...

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Theoretically speaking I understand that the world does

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not necessarily function that way But theoretically speaking

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What we have agreed upon as a human

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race Is that you don't need to prove

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anything You are a human being and you

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have these rights There's nothing that you need

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to do Educated, uneducated, wealthy, poor It doesn't

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make a difference You have these rights Whether

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you're sinful, you've committed a crime You still

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have these human rights And this is taken

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from the concept that we have this divine

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value That Allah gave us He made you

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a human being Nothing I do will make

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you more of a human being or less

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than a human being Nothing can affect that

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So you have to...

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When you understand that Then being able to

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admit that the mistake that you made was

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unjustifiable Won't affect your self-value And allows

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you to start taking the first steps Towards

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actually having proper and genuine remorse And genuine

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regret Regret requires that Regret requires for me

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to believe in the heart of my heart

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That what I did was wrong And that

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Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala told me not

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to do it Because He had every reason

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and right to do so And when I

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crossed that line I was at fault in

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every aspect of it I was just wrong

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There's nothing else that can be said You

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understand what I'm saying here Because you'll run

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into people like this And you've probably been

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in a position similar to it Where someone

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made a mistake or you made a mistake

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And you're being held accountable So there's different

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types of people in these moments Either people

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who admit and acknowledge that Yep, I made

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a mistake and I shouldn't have done that

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And they leave it at that They accept

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the consequences They accept the punishment They show

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their remorse and their regret And there are

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others who will find a million ways to

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explain why they did this And how it

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wasn't really them And how it wasn't really

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their fault And there wasn't...

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Other people also Other things, other elements And

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you come up and we're very good at

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that Human beings are experts We're absolutely experts

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at doing this It's figuring out ways of

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why it wasn't fully my part To diminish

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the amount of accountability Responsibility for the actual

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problem Well, I was under a lot of

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stress in that week My friend had passed

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away And my cat was sick Whatever You

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start adding all this stuff Some of it

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true, some of it not You start adding

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all this to explain why it is What

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are you doing?

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You're just rationalizing to yourself why you made

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this mistake That's not regret That's not regret

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In order for your tawbah to Allah subhanahu

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wa ta'ala Your repentance from the sin

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in your life To work with Allah subhanahu

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wa ta'ala You have to just come

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clean Yeah, I just did it I did

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it, I had no good reason and I'm

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sorry And I should never do it again

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And that remorse has to exist on the

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inside Which requires a certain degree of contemplation

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and reflection Like you have to really sit

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with yourself And get rid of all of

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the excuses Because you are giving yourself these

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excuses And that's normal We do that as

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human beings It's just a part of being

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alive But you have to get rid of

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them In order for you not to regret

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The second piece is the planning You have

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to have a plan of how you're not

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going to perform this tawbah How do you

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come up with a plan?

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Well, you have to analyze the actual sin

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You have to analyze What caused this problem?

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What caused this mistake?

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Well, there's a couple of psychological reasons There's

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a few financial reasons There's maybe a few

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social reasons There's a time of the day

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that this happened There's a place where this

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happened All of these environmental aspects You are

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now looking at You're figuring out what's actually

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making this sin more likely to actually occur

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What is encouraging it?

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What is triggering it for you?

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And then the plan has to have within

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it You have to make some changes For

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you to perform a tawbah with no change

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at all What does that mean?

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So what did you do?

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I just said to Allah I wouldn't do

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it again Why would He believe you?

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How do I know if you're genuine about

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something?

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Forget about repenting to Allah If you're working

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as an employee in my company And you

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made a mistake So how do I know

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that this mistake is not going to happen

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again?

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If you just tell me it won't happen

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again Why should I believe you?

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Especially if you've done it more than once

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Why should I believe you?

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You have to give me some guarantees You

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have to give me something You have to

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show me That's why these days there's always

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remediation There's always some way that you go

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through a process So that you can actually

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prove that this is not going to happen

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again Otherwise, I have every reason to believe

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This is totally going to happen again So

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you're telling me you're sorry and stuff But

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why would I believe it?

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I'm not sure I would even believe This

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remorse that I'm seeing Is it genuine?

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How genuine is it?

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If you're not changing anything About your daily

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routines You're not implementing any new behaviors You're

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not removing any other behaviors Why would I

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believe that you're honest About the fact that

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you feel bad about doing this And that

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you're not going to do it again?

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So when you speak to Allah As the

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exalted example If you're going to tell Allah

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I'm not going to do this again I'm

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not going to make this mistake again Well,

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you have to implement something There has to

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be some form of change That has to

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happen in your life So when you perform

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a tawbah nasuh What you end up doing

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are two things You end up going back

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And figuring out what you truly believe about

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things Because you want to be able to

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have proper regret So you have to go

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And you start looking at your beliefs You

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find out Oh, there's a lot of messed

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up beliefs here I am rationalizing things way

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too often And way too much So you

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start getting rid of that And that will

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help you with your general beliefs All in

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all It's helpful And then when you start

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looking at the reasons For why you performed

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this What encouraged it What enabled it You

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start removing When I spend time with fulan

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I make this mistake I'm going to lessen

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that I always do this In the middle

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of the night Or middle of the day

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On a weekend I always do this When

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I just came back from work For example

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If a person loses their temper Or they

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yell When does this happen?

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It happens when I come back from work

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And I'm starving And I'm hungry And I'm

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presented with all the problems of the day

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I scream at everybody So maybe we do

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this differently You start making some changes And

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then you make those changes The changes that

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you make End up helping you get rid

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of bad habits in general Usually mistakes happen

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When you're picking up bad habits So when

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you remove a couple of them To help

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you get rid of the sin You're also

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removing bad habits That are causing other sins

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So slowly you just find All these other

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things Just not happening anymore So all these

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bad behaviors Just start to slowly go away

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Because it was a tawbah nasuh It was

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an influential tawbah That literally removed All of

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these other problems that you had Because you

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did it properly You took the time To

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fully establish Your understanding of this sin And

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regret it And it also made a plan

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So I just wanted to explain that So

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Allah gives this command Why?

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So that your Lord may perform the following

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He can remove for you your sins He

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can just completely delete them Erase them for

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you Takfeer for many scholars I guess some

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is a better usage A better term Some

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scholars it's better than maghfirah Because maghfirah means

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forgiveness It's still there It's on your book

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It's going to be recited But you're not

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accountable for it Takfeer is removal It's just

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going to be completely removed And replaced Replaced

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with something else That's what the word kafr

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is It refers to land That's why most

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villages in Syria and Egypt Start with kafr

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or something Because kafr means land Where land

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is being turned on top of other land

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Because that's what farmers do To keep the

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filah So takfeer is when something is taken

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out And something else is put in So

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he may remove your sins And replace them

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with good deeds Because that's what tawbah does

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Tawbah removes something bad in your life And

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puts something good instead So now instead of

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you getting sin You're going to get hasanat

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So that's what takfeer is So perform this

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tawbah So that your Lord may remove for

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you Or replace for you your sins And

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he may have you enter gardens Gardens that

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have rivers running under them And I explained

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this many times before This is symbolic to

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the fact that The gardens that you have

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in Jannah Are self-sustainable That the water

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runs under you You don't have to ask

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for water From some other source To irrigate

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your land You dig in your land It's

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your water You are not dependent on someone

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else And that is kamal al na'im

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That is when you have full joy And

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full pleasure in Jannah Where even psychologically You

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don't feel like you have to depend on

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someone else Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala has

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given you land Where you are self-sustainable

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Your water comes from within your land You

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don't have to go buy it from someone

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else Or depend on a river That someone

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may cut or put a dam at the

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beginning And you don't get it anymore You're

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self-sustainable That's why he uses this term

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subhanahu wa ta'ala That you're going to

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be given something That even psychologically Yes it's

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beautiful It's anhar It's jannat You have all

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these gardens They're beautiful And psychologically you don't

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have to worry about them Because the water

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runs under you It's right there The water

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is right there You don't need to depend

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on anyone else It's within your own land

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And that's just why he uses this term

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so often in the Qur'an يَوْمَ لَا

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يُخْزِ اللَّهُ النَّبِيَّ وَالَّذِينَ آمَنُوا مَعَهُ He will

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have them He will do two things for

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those who perform tawbah nasuh He will replace

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their sin with good deeds And he will

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have them enter these gardens that are self

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-sustaining On the day This will happen on

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the day يَوْمَ لَا يُخْزِ اللَّهُ النَّبِيَّ وَالَّذِينَ

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آمَنُوا مَعَهُ On the day where Allah subhanahu

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wa ta'ala will not disgrace his Prophet

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Nor those who believed with him And this

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is the beauty of using this term Is

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because just a few minutes ago We were

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hearing about the Prophet ﷺ and his family

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We were hearing a command where we have

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to protect our families So Allah subhanahu wa

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ta'ala is saying on that day He

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will not disgrace the Prophet and those who

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live with him Because the Prophet ﷺ, his

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family is this ummah That's how this has

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always been seen The Prophet ﷺ family is

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his ummah And his fear on the Day

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of Judgment Is that his family doesn't all

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make it to Jannatul Naeem This is what

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he always talked about Is that his followers

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or those who accept Don't make it and

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he's going to make sure that they did

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So Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala in the

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Qur'an will put these guarantees On that

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day Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala will not

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disappoint Will not disgrace the Prophet There is

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no khizi He will not stand there upset

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because his followers went somewhere else Or that

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his family was ripped away from him And

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this is a bishara, this is a good

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news from Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala To

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the Muslim ummah That if you do truly

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behave As if you're a part of his

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family ﷺ And you adopt his mentality ﷺ

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Then on that day Allah will not disgrace

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him and those who believe with him Nooruhum

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yasa'a bayna aydihim wa bi aimanihim Their

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light, the light of their faces Will precede

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them Yasa'a bayna aydihim Sa'i is

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when something is running in a direction So

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yasa'a bayna aydihim means that the light

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of their faces is way ahead of them

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So it's keeping the path lit for them

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as they walk So they see where they're

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going They see where their destination is Because

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of the light of their own faces For

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the noor that they have Yasa'a bayna

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aydihim wa bi aimanihim On both sides So

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they're walking basically You don't care if there's

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light behind you Or not because you're not

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looking behind you So you care if there's

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light around you or light in front of

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you So on that day their noor The

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noor of the Prophet ﷺ and those who

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believe with them Will fill what's in front

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of them and what's on their sides Yaqoonoon

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They're calling Rabbana atmim lana noorana Waghfir lana

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Oh our Lord Complete for us our light

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May our light be full Because the light

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that you have yawm al qiyamah Is symbolic

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to the degree of closeness you have to

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Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala The closer you

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are to Allah The more light you have

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And it's something that is sentimental That is

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basically It's a figurative concept Abstract concept That

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is going to be materialized yawm al qiyamah

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Something that has to do with your heart

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status There's no way It's going to be

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turned into a materialistic physical presence yawm al

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deen So the amount of closeness you have

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to Allah The amount The truthness of your

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tawbah The trueness of your sphere of the

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hellfire And the work you put towards protecting

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yourself and your family Will materialize in the

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light that you are carrying with you on

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that day So when you're walking there You

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would recognize that So they sing Sheikh Mustafa

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Turkmayr used to say That ahlul jannah They

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enter jannah with nasheed In one of the

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lessons So he said how They enter saying

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Rabbana atmim lana noorana Waghfir lana So he

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would say That they'll enter yawm al qiyamah

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Making nasheed And he would quote That they're

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walking in jannah And they're making this dua

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Oh our Lord Fulfill for us our enlightenment

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And forgive our sins Waghfir lana Innaka ala

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kulli shay'in qadirinti Indeed you are omnipotent

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and capable of all See this beautiful You

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know why we have this beautiful description?

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Because in ayah number 6 We had a

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really heavy one That's why And this balance

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in the Quran you'll find everywhere In ayah

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number 6 The command was just a couple

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of words Qoo anfusakum wa ahlikum naara Four

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words That was the command The verse is

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three lines Two of those lines were just

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explaining What jahannam looked like Waqooduhan nasu wal

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hijaratun It's fuelled by human flesh and rock

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Alayha malaikatun ghilabun shidadun Upon it are angels

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That are strict and rude and difficult And

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are non-responsive La yaasoon allaha ma amaruhum

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They will never disobey Allah Whatever he tells

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them to do They will do it no

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matter how unimaginable it may be Wa yaf

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'aluna ma yu'marun And they only perform with

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that which they are commanded by the Almighty

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to do All this description of Naar was

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there To provoke a little bit of genuineness

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in your protection Like you want to protect

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yourself from the hellfire?

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Well here's a good description of what you

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should protect yourself from And in this ayah

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Tughbu ilallah Repent to Allah An influential repentance

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That will grant you A completely different outlook

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on life altogether Will change Will make things

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better for you You will replace bad habits

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with good habits Which will lead to replacing

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sin with ajr Yawm al qiyamah And you

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will enter a jannah And then he describes

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this jannah He gives you this beautiful snapshot

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And you see a day where Allah subhanahu

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wa ta'ala is not disappointing or disgracing

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the Prophet Alayhi salatu was salam And all

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those who were a part of his ummah

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are standing with him And they are in

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a position where there is no disgrace There's

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no khizi It's only increase of status As

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they stand there with their light of their

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faces and their bodies Filling the whole place

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with light In front of them and on

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their sides As they are walking towards jannah

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And they are calling upon their Lord Oh

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our Lord Rabbana Complete for us our light

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So that we are fully connected to you

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And forgive our sins You are capable of

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all It's a beautiful chant It's a beautiful

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moment It's a moment of victory It's a

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moment of grace And gratitude And bounty So

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that you can look forward to it This

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is what's going to be on the other

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side Protect yourself from this Start by protecting

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yourself and your family from this fire But

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then look forward to something more Tauba ilallah

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Tauba I know that we are very technical

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when I explain tauba Here are the four

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elements of it Tauba means turn things around

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Turn it around Be better Don't be okay

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Don't be content with the status quo of

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your life You can do better For sure

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Why accept where you are When you can

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be way better than where you are right

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now Why?

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Tauba Tauba, change Make some changes Make some

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changes And things will get so much better

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for you when you do So Allah says

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start by tauba It's very beautiful this continuation

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It's a recipe for family Start by protection

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Make sure you are not doing anything That's

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going to lead you down A route to

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the hellfire Make sure that you are protecting

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yourself and your family Alright?

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Okay, I'm doing that Now, turn things around

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Don't be okay with that Make it way

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better than that Tauba, tauba, nasuh Perform an

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influential repentance A repentance that will completely change

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things for you When you are in a

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position on the Day of Judgment You are

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standing with Muhammad At a moment where he

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is not disgraced You are standing there and

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you are filled with light As he is

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And you are all chanting together As you

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walk towards Jannah That your Lord can complete

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your light for you And forgive your sins

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And He is capable of all So this

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is what this verse is saying This verse

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is taking you from Okay, start here Start

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with what needs to happen Assess what are

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you and your family doing That may lead

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to punishment Protect yourself and protect them And

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stop all that Now, turn it all around

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Perform a tauba that is going to change

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things for you forever That will make you

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a better person That will make sure that

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you arrive at the gates of heaven With

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Muhammad as you make this chant And this

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is what we should be thinking of This

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is really what the household is there for

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This is why you build a family You

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are just building your unit That you are

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going to go to Jannah with That's really

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the point here You are building the unit

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It's your family It's your spouse If you

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are fortunate and Allah grants you children Then

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your children as well If you don't do

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any of this You don't build a household

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Who are you going to go with?

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I don't have any place in my car

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I don't know if I am able to

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No one has time Everyone is busy Gurah

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has to take his wife and his children

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and his parents They are not going to

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look for you They don't have time to

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look for you May Allah grant us to

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enter Jannah But you have to have that

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So when you build a family When you

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build your unit That's what you are building

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You are building the people who you are

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going to enter Because Jannah no one enters

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alone It's always in groups Very few people

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come to Jannah alone Very few Like I

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am talking maybe 2 or 3 people And

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they are prophets They are prophets who no

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one in their whole Qawm listens to them

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And their argument is going to be absolutely

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brutal It's going to be a very difficult

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argument they have to make They have to

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explain to Allah how no one listens to

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them Not one person Not one soul So

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you are here to tell me that not

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one person that you spoke to listened to

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you?

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Not one?

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You couldn't convince one person?

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So this prophet has to explain a lot

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The prophet tells us this It goes down

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from the Rahat is maybe a couple of

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people Up to 6 or 7 people With

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2 people And the prophet will come with

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one person And the prophet will come walking

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alone This happens But those people have to

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have It's a lot If you ever read

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Surah Nuh You see Nuh We will come

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to within the series of these lessons Nuh

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has to make a pretty good argument He

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goes through all these Read Surah Nuh today

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when you go home It's this ongoing argument

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he is making of why and what he

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did Because he comes Yawm al Qiyamah after

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years and years and years of Dawah With

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a handful of people The highest number was

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73 A Muslim every 13 years That's the

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highest number they have in the books of

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Sira 73 people over a millennium It's nothing

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So he has to explain why people didn't

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listen Why his own son didn't listen He

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didn't do anything wrong But you understand where

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I am going with this The concept here

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is that you have to have that argument

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So your family has to make sure You

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have to make sure they get there So

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you start by first of all protecting yourself

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From being in a position of punishment And

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then Turn things around And you get yourself

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closer to Allah Subhanahu wa ta'ala And

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that's the meaning of Ayah number 8 We

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will recite InshaAllah Ayah number 9 And we

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will continue InshaAllah the explanation So we will

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start with Ayah number 9 of Surah Al

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-Tahrim So

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the final calling within this Surah is this

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one I will explain and then we will

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go through the final three verses That are

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very special As most of you know So

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Allah Subhanahu wa ta'ala makes the final

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command Is to the Prophet peace be upon

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him himself The first one was And then

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after that And we explained why And then

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he came back to call upon the believers

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To give them the next step that they

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need to do To protect their families And

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the final one Is to the Prophet peace

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be upon him himself And this Ayah He

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says Jahid meaning strive against Or strive towards

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But here because he is talking about The

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disbelievers and the hypocrites Those who don't believe

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in you Those who are working against you

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You have to strive against them Be strict

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with them Why be strict with them?

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After a bunch of verses that were telling

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you That you have to protect yourself And

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protect your family And have that compassion towards

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them To make sure that you protect them

00:29:52 --> 00:29:54

Verses where it showed us how the Prophet

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peace be upon him Was very merciful Compassionate

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towards his wives Where he wasn't focused on

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just being right He just wanted to make

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sure that things worked out You have this

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Ayah That is telling the Prophet peace be

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upon him To strive against them Fight them

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if needed And be strict with them Why?

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It's because that is a form of protection

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A form of protection of your own Of

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yourself And your Ummah And your families Is

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sometimes a push back Against the negative influence

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That is being brought into your home Or

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brought into your society Sometimes for you to

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be merciful And compassionate towards those whom you

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love You have to push back viciously Against

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those who are trying to ruin what you

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have Being strict is sometimes A way for

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you to be compassionate This is a very

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This is a very fine line But it's

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very important to take Into consideration when you

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study the Quran Because the Quran is extremely

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The Quran is very accurate When it uses

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these words You find these Ayahs in the

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Quran Very sporadically in a few points Whenever

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the verses are filled With telling Are filled

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with Ayahs that are asking you To be

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very considerate And very compassionate And to always

00:31:03 --> 00:31:06

try to comprehend And understand where people are

00:31:06 --> 00:31:08

coming from There's an Ayah within that verse

00:31:08 --> 00:31:10

In that Surah that you'll find Where Allah

00:31:10 --> 00:31:11

will tell the Prophet peace be upon him

00:31:11 --> 00:31:14

You have to be strict Because sometimes You're

00:31:14 --> 00:31:16

going to have to be strict to protect

00:31:16 --> 00:31:20

The valuable things that you have To protect

00:31:20 --> 00:31:21

the beauty Of what Allah has given you

00:31:21 --> 00:31:23

Sometimes you have to be strict And you

00:31:23 --> 00:31:25

have to be firm Or else you lose

00:31:25 --> 00:31:29

it all If you don't want to lose

00:31:29 --> 00:31:30

And I find this to be a perfect

00:31:30 --> 00:31:33

space Because families What is more valuable than

00:31:33 --> 00:31:36

families There's nothing more valuable than family Nothing

00:31:36 --> 00:31:38

more valuable than your family And your children

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This is for anyone Once you get married

00:31:42 --> 00:31:44

and have kids This is what life is

00:31:44 --> 00:31:47

about If you didn't have purpose for life

00:31:47 --> 00:31:49

You have purpose once you have a family

00:31:49 --> 00:31:51

It becomes clear to you what the purpose

00:31:51 --> 00:31:53

is It's just how life is And we're

00:31:53 --> 00:31:55

programmed that way You don't need reason to

00:31:55 --> 00:31:57

do these things It just comes naturally To

00:31:57 --> 00:32:00

build a family and to reproduce That's part

00:32:00 --> 00:32:01

of just being a human being You don't

00:32:01 --> 00:32:03

really need religion to tell you to do

00:32:03 --> 00:32:07

it Because it's so valuable The Prophet is

00:32:07 --> 00:32:09

told here Specifically as a leader Because whenever

00:32:09 --> 00:32:12

the Prophet is called upon As I explained

00:32:12 --> 00:32:13

this to you at the beginning of this

00:32:13 --> 00:32:22

surah The beginning of this surah is When

00:32:22 --> 00:32:24

the Prophet is being called upon Specifically in

00:32:24 --> 00:32:26

a madani surah He's being called upon as

00:32:26 --> 00:32:29

the leader In his status as a judge

00:32:29 --> 00:32:31

or as a leader Or as someone who's

00:32:31 --> 00:32:34

responsible for something So that those who are

00:32:34 --> 00:32:37

responsible Later on Or are put in a

00:32:37 --> 00:32:40

position of responsibility later Listen to these things

00:32:40 --> 00:32:42

a little bit more closely Because it's by

00:32:42 --> 00:32:47

proxy also to you So O Prophet You

00:32:47 --> 00:32:49

need to strive against the kuffar and the

00:32:49 --> 00:32:51

munafiqeen Those who are working against you Those

00:32:51 --> 00:32:52

who are fighting you Those who are working

00:32:52 --> 00:32:54

against you externally Kuffar are those who are

00:32:54 --> 00:32:56

working against you externally Munafiqeen are those who

00:32:56 --> 00:32:58

are working against you internally Those who are

00:32:58 --> 00:33:01

trying to strive against them You have to

00:33:01 --> 00:33:02

be strict Why?

00:33:02 --> 00:33:04

Because if you don't then they will ruin

00:33:04 --> 00:33:07

what you have They will take away They

00:33:07 --> 00:33:09

will take away the foundation Of this ummah,

00:33:09 --> 00:33:11

take away your families Which is exactly what

00:33:11 --> 00:33:14

we have today I know that you all

00:33:14 --> 00:33:21

know That The State of the union For

00:33:21 --> 00:33:25

the Muslim nation Is not that great If

00:33:25 --> 00:33:28

you're someone who keeps up with On social

00:33:28 --> 00:33:30

media Or keeps up with what's going on

00:33:30 --> 00:33:32

in the Muslim world Outside of, I'm not

00:33:32 --> 00:33:36

even talking about The ongoing tragedy Of Palestine

00:33:36 --> 00:33:38

And Gaza, I'm not even talking about that

00:33:38 --> 00:33:41

That's obvious, but even outside of that The

00:33:41 --> 00:33:44

amount of, the lack of Adherence to Allah's

00:33:44 --> 00:33:47

teaching The amount of shabab that just don't

00:33:47 --> 00:33:49

They have no interest in anything To do

00:33:49 --> 00:33:52

with Allah's Word and the sunnah of the

00:33:52 --> 00:33:54

Prophet And the ummah of Muhammad and building

00:33:54 --> 00:33:56

for that And if you lived in the

00:33:56 --> 00:33:57

Middle East for any Period of time, you

00:33:57 --> 00:33:59

know that if you've been lucky To grow

00:33:59 --> 00:34:02

up here And your parents put you in

00:34:02 --> 00:34:03

masajid all Throughout your life and you're still

00:34:03 --> 00:34:05

stuck here And you have this really nice

00:34:05 --> 00:34:09

understanding of how the Muslim ummah works I

00:34:09 --> 00:34:11

envy you, I really do I would love

00:34:11 --> 00:34:16

to be that Naive and that Because it's

00:34:16 --> 00:34:17

such a nice Way to see the world

00:34:17 --> 00:34:19

when that's not the Reality of it, it's

00:34:19 --> 00:34:24

not even close We have serious Problems within

00:34:24 --> 00:34:26

our Ummah and the reason that we have

00:34:26 --> 00:34:29

them is because Those who were in power

00:34:29 --> 00:34:31

Those who were responsible, those who should Have

00:34:31 --> 00:34:33

read this verse and followed it They didn't

00:34:33 --> 00:34:36

strive and they weren't Strict and they took

00:34:36 --> 00:34:38

away our families From us and they took

00:34:38 --> 00:34:40

away The most valuable thing this ummah had

00:34:40 --> 00:34:43

It's not the oil Which I hope runs

00:34:43 --> 00:34:44

out at some point so they stop taking

00:34:44 --> 00:34:48

Interest in our * Region of the world

00:34:48 --> 00:34:49

all together It's not the oil, it's not

00:34:49 --> 00:34:51

the resources, it's not What it is is

00:34:51 --> 00:34:53

the sanctity of the Family, it was the

00:34:53 --> 00:34:55

fact that a son Would grow up like

00:34:55 --> 00:34:58

his father did Mu'azzam li kitabillah Mu

00:34:58 --> 00:35:01

'azzam li rasoolillah Who grew up like his

00:35:01 --> 00:35:04

father was someone who Magnified Allah, someone who

00:35:04 --> 00:35:06

loved Muhammad alayhi salam, someone who was Adhered

00:35:06 --> 00:35:09

by the Quran and respected that And daughters

00:35:09 --> 00:35:11

who grew up like their mothers This is

00:35:11 --> 00:35:14

what we had Islam is something that was

00:35:14 --> 00:35:17

passed down It only increased Like Islam practiced

00:35:17 --> 00:35:22

for Hundreds of years, only increased Meaning it

00:35:22 --> 00:35:24

was passed down Generation by the least practicing

00:35:24 --> 00:35:26

Muslim Would pray the five prayers and this

00:35:26 --> 00:35:28

person Who had no interest in learning anything

00:35:28 --> 00:35:30

They had the basics of it and it

00:35:30 --> 00:35:32

just Increased and spread to people who weren't

00:35:32 --> 00:35:33

Muslim And they accepted Islam and then they

00:35:33 --> 00:35:35

became a part of this Whole story and

00:35:35 --> 00:35:38

then the four or five Generations only remember

00:35:38 --> 00:35:42

being Muslim Now we're Core practicing Muslims In

00:35:42 --> 00:35:47

influential Islamic Countries have absolutely Nothing to do

00:35:47 --> 00:35:50

with this No interest at all Not even

00:35:50 --> 00:35:52

close I grew up in the Middle East

00:35:52 --> 00:35:53

all my life I know what I'm talking

00:35:53 --> 00:35:57

about I know what I'm saying It was

00:35:57 --> 00:35:59

just as scarce as it is here I

00:35:59 --> 00:36:02

grew up and lived in Damascus To find

00:36:02 --> 00:36:04

most practicing people Was just as scarce as

00:36:04 --> 00:36:06

it is here Like it's not that different

00:36:06 --> 00:36:10

You found Islam being practiced in Masajid I

00:36:10 --> 00:36:11

knew the Masajid, I knew the scholars I

00:36:11 --> 00:36:12

knew where they were, so I went to

00:36:12 --> 00:36:14

them And that's where I hung out and

00:36:14 --> 00:36:16

that's where I spent time with Everywhere else

00:36:16 --> 00:36:20

was just like Everywhere else here Maybe a

00:36:20 --> 00:36:22

little bit of a difference In terms of

00:36:22 --> 00:36:25

how bad it is In certain aspects Maybe

00:36:25 --> 00:36:28

here is worse In other aspects it was

00:36:28 --> 00:36:30

worse there It all depends on what you're

00:36:30 --> 00:36:32

looking at And what metric you're using to

00:36:32 --> 00:36:36

measure This is the reality of it So

00:36:36 --> 00:36:40

when the Prophet Here is told Honestly if

00:36:40 --> 00:36:41

you're reciting the Surah If you've been listening

00:36:41 --> 00:36:43

to the Tafsir at the beginning If you

00:36:43 --> 00:36:45

don't understand You can almost look at this

00:36:45 --> 00:36:46

ayah and say Why is this here?

00:36:47 --> 00:36:48

Why is this verse here?

00:36:48 --> 00:36:49

How does it fit?

00:36:49 --> 00:36:51

With everything before and everything after it It

00:36:51 --> 00:36:56

almost seems like for a moment It's out

00:36:56 --> 00:36:57

of keep No, it's exactly where it should

00:36:57 --> 00:37:00

be Because it's reminding the leader That you

00:37:00 --> 00:37:04

have to strive hard And be strict He

00:37:04 --> 00:37:08

was told وَلَوْ كُنْتَ فَضًّا غَلِيظَ الْقَلْبِ لَنْ

00:37:08 --> 00:37:09

فَضُّوا مِنْ حَوْلِكِ He was told if you

00:37:09 --> 00:37:11

were ever to be strict and difficult Then

00:37:11 --> 00:37:12

all the people around you who loved you

00:37:12 --> 00:37:15

will leave you So فَبِمَا رَحْمَةٍ مِّنَ اللَّهِ

00:37:15 --> 00:37:17

لَنْ تَلَهُمْ It's through the mercy of Allah

00:37:17 --> 00:37:19

that He gave you that compassion And that

00:37:19 --> 00:37:20

tenderness that they love you and stick with

00:37:20 --> 00:37:23

you If you become غليظ He'll become غليظ

00:37:23 --> 00:37:24

and leave you And then He's told here

00:37:24 --> 00:37:27

Here you have to be strict Be strict

00:37:27 --> 00:37:28

with those who are trying to ruin the

00:37:28 --> 00:37:30

sanctity of the most valuable thing you have

00:37:30 --> 00:37:33

Which is the family Try to infiltrate your

00:37:33 --> 00:37:36

families And ruin the understandings of the husbands

00:37:36 --> 00:37:39

Of their roles in their households Or the

00:37:39 --> 00:37:42

understandings that the wives have Of their roles

00:37:42 --> 00:37:44

in their households Or the children within the

00:37:44 --> 00:37:46

roles of their households And then once that

00:37:46 --> 00:37:49

happens خلاص Sit back and enjoy the fireworks

00:37:50 --> 00:37:52

Once you got there it doesn't matter anymore

00:37:53 --> 00:37:55

Once you infiltrated there and you poisoned that

00:37:55 --> 00:37:57

You can just sit back, buy some popcorn

00:37:57 --> 00:37:58

And watch things crumble, it's just a matter

00:37:58 --> 00:38:02

of time Because you hit it where You

00:38:02 --> 00:38:03

figured out where the problem is That's why

00:38:03 --> 00:38:05

in the midst of these verses That are

00:38:05 --> 00:38:09

very deep spiritually In talking about قو أنفسكم

00:38:09 --> 00:38:12

Protect yourselves and perform tawbah And turn this

00:38:12 --> 00:38:15

all around You need to strive hard Against

00:38:15 --> 00:38:18

those who are trying to ruin this وَمَأْوَاهُمْ

00:38:18 --> 00:38:21

جَهَنَّمُ وَبِئْسَ الْمَغْصِيرِ And those who try to

00:38:21 --> 00:38:24

ruin this for you مَأْوَاهُمْ Their final destination

00:38:24 --> 00:38:26

is Jahannam, is the hellfire وَبِئْسَ الْمَغْصِيرِ And

00:38:26 --> 00:38:29

there is no worse destination than that And

00:38:29 --> 00:38:33

they are deserving of it Very heavy right

00:38:33 --> 00:38:37

This ayah suddenly became very strict And it

00:38:37 --> 00:38:39

needed to be Because that's all we've got

00:38:40 --> 00:38:42

And we've always known that Think about it,

00:38:42 --> 00:38:43

what did the Prophet ﷺ leave?

00:38:45 --> 00:38:46

What did he leave?

00:38:46 --> 00:38:50

He didn't build big buildings There weren't skyscrapers

00:38:50 --> 00:38:52

Left in Medina, even his masjid was very

00:38:52 --> 00:38:54

simple When he passed away Very simple, almost,

00:38:54 --> 00:38:58

no walls No walls How fancy is a

00:38:58 --> 00:39:01

place if there are no walls It wasn't

00:39:01 --> 00:39:03

about the architecture What he left was a

00:39:03 --> 00:39:08

functioning Community that had functioning units He taught

00:39:08 --> 00:39:10

them how Through these verses, how to treat

00:39:10 --> 00:39:13

each other Within a household How to approach

00:39:13 --> 00:39:15

marriage and divorce And how to take care

00:39:15 --> 00:39:17

of your He organized these things for them

00:39:17 --> 00:39:20

So everyone figured out their rights And their

00:39:20 --> 00:39:23

responsibilities So they did them, there's nothing perfect

00:39:23 --> 00:39:25

But they did it to the point where

00:39:25 --> 00:39:29

this community flourished Where Islam spread like wildfire

00:39:29 --> 00:39:31

Where people accepted Islam Because it came to

00:39:31 --> 00:39:34

them with a solution It helped them fix

00:39:34 --> 00:39:37

their lives It gave them purpose It gave

00:39:37 --> 00:39:39

them a goal, a destination Something to work

00:39:39 --> 00:39:43

towards A framework Rules and laws that will

00:39:43 --> 00:39:48

protect everyone's rights Give people Responsibilities that suit

00:39:49 --> 00:39:53

Achieving the outcome This is what Islam offered

00:39:53 --> 00:39:56

It's a beautiful thing So protecting it was

00:39:56 --> 00:39:59

important Protecting this was important And it has

00:39:59 --> 00:40:01

not been protected Which is why we struggle

00:40:01 --> 00:40:04

today Alright, let's recite these last three verses

00:40:04 --> 00:40:06

I know you've read them many times before

00:40:07 --> 00:40:10

I enjoy, actually I love explaining them so

00:40:10 --> 00:40:12

Insha'Allah you'll find them helpful We'll read

00:40:12 --> 00:40:14

all three insha'Allah and then I'll explain

00:40:14 --> 00:40:16

all three Insha'Allah before we run out

00:40:16 --> 00:44:25

of time All

00:44:25 --> 00:44:29

four examples Very very interesting Verses here are

00:44:29 --> 00:44:33

very revealing You almost don't find You almost

00:44:33 --> 00:44:36

You don't find anything similar to this And

00:44:36 --> 00:44:38

when Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala uses this

00:44:38 --> 00:44:40

phrase That I'm going to strike examples for

00:44:40 --> 00:44:43

you Of disbelievers and believers And he gave

00:44:43 --> 00:44:45

within the context of the surah That talks

00:44:45 --> 00:44:51

about family For example, strictly women Within that

00:44:51 --> 00:44:52

is a very clear message That he's trying

00:44:52 --> 00:44:55

to explain to us That at the end

00:44:55 --> 00:44:57

In order for family to function It's going

00:44:57 --> 00:45:01

to be the sisters It's absolutely going to

00:45:01 --> 00:45:04

be them This is going to work And

00:45:04 --> 00:45:07

it's going to fail Depending on what we

00:45:07 --> 00:45:09

have Do we have the method of the

00:45:09 --> 00:45:11

deena kafaru Or method of the deena amaru

00:45:11 --> 00:45:14

It's going to be the example And it's

00:45:14 --> 00:45:16

going to be the sisters That dictate this

00:45:16 --> 00:45:18

piece It doesn't mean that men don't have

00:45:18 --> 00:45:21

obligations We've already established that in the first

00:45:21 --> 00:45:23

part of the surah And the rest of

00:45:23 --> 00:45:25

it But when he chose to give examples

00:45:25 --> 00:45:27

Subhanahu wa ta'ala you think Meaning he

00:45:27 --> 00:45:29

could have given us subhanahu wa ta'ala

00:45:29 --> 00:45:31

Examples where a man and a woman He

00:45:31 --> 00:45:35

didn't, it's four women It's four women There's

00:45:35 --> 00:45:37

not one man as an example here In

00:45:37 --> 00:45:39

these verses And the reason being is to

00:45:39 --> 00:45:42

emphasize Is to amplify the importance and the

00:45:42 --> 00:45:45

significance Of having the right person In the

00:45:45 --> 00:45:47

house to take on this job Because there

00:45:47 --> 00:45:50

is no family And there is no household

00:45:50 --> 00:45:52

If there is not a mother and a

00:45:52 --> 00:45:58

wife There isn't It's not possible It doesn't

00:45:58 --> 00:46:01

work I want to survey the sisters How

00:46:01 --> 00:46:03

much time do your husband spend with your

00:46:03 --> 00:46:03

children?

00:46:04 --> 00:46:05

I really want people to know Because I

00:46:05 --> 00:46:06

want to know if I'm different than everyone

00:46:06 --> 00:46:09

else How much time does your husband actually

00:46:09 --> 00:46:10

spend time with his children?

00:46:10 --> 00:46:12

I want you to imagine If it was

00:46:12 --> 00:46:13

up to your husband To take care of

00:46:13 --> 00:46:16

your children How many of them would actually

00:46:16 --> 00:46:19

If Adam was responsible for his children None

00:46:19 --> 00:46:21

of us would be here It would have

00:46:21 --> 00:46:23

ended right then with him If Hawa said

00:46:23 --> 00:46:25

I need to start my own business Take

00:46:25 --> 00:46:27

care of the kids There would be nothing

00:46:27 --> 00:46:28

It would be Adam and Hawa and the

00:46:28 --> 00:46:30

story would have ended there Obviously that's not

00:46:30 --> 00:46:32

the point But you understand what I'm trying

00:46:32 --> 00:46:36

to explain here In Islam there is no

00:46:36 --> 00:46:39

reason For women to be deprived from Contributing

00:46:39 --> 00:46:41

in life To whatever extent they want to

00:46:41 --> 00:46:44

contribute in life Islam is not a reason

00:46:44 --> 00:46:45

for a woman To be deprived from the

00:46:45 --> 00:46:47

ability to contribute to life That is not

00:46:47 --> 00:46:50

what it is What Islam does though And

00:46:50 --> 00:46:52

this is important It explains to men and

00:46:52 --> 00:46:55

women their priorities What the priority is for

00:46:55 --> 00:46:57

a man And what the priority is for

00:46:57 --> 00:47:00

a woman When it comes to families And

00:47:00 --> 00:47:02

if that priority is not clear Then we

00:47:02 --> 00:47:05

have a problem This doesn't mean that families

00:47:05 --> 00:47:09

will Function differently depending on everyone's situation Meaning

00:47:09 --> 00:47:12

you'll have a husband Who's a programmer and

00:47:12 --> 00:47:14

works From his desktop at home And a

00:47:14 --> 00:47:18

wife who's a General surgeon Who has to

00:47:18 --> 00:47:21

be in the hospital And the dynamic of

00:47:21 --> 00:47:23

this family will be different Meaning she'll be

00:47:23 --> 00:47:24

more out of the house than in the

00:47:24 --> 00:47:26

house And that's fine and things will still

00:47:26 --> 00:47:28

work The question is what is the priority

00:47:28 --> 00:47:31

That they carry in their minds In their

00:47:31 --> 00:47:33

hearts What is the man's priority?

00:47:34 --> 00:47:36

Is the man's priority to provide and protect

00:47:36 --> 00:47:38

his family And is the woman's priority to

00:47:38 --> 00:47:40

make sure She nurtures and takes care of

00:47:40 --> 00:47:42

her family If that priority is not there

00:47:42 --> 00:47:46

Then even if the woman Is a stay

00:47:46 --> 00:47:50

-at-home wife The family won't function If

00:47:50 --> 00:47:52

she has no job And has no interest

00:47:52 --> 00:47:53

in having a job And she's a stay

00:47:53 --> 00:47:54

-at-home mother and wife If that's not

00:47:54 --> 00:47:57

her priority this won't work And the same

00:47:57 --> 00:47:58

thing for the man If he's the richest

00:47:58 --> 00:48:00

person on the planet Meaning he has all

00:48:00 --> 00:48:01

the money in the world If he does

00:48:01 --> 00:48:03

not know his priorities Then the family won't

00:48:03 --> 00:48:07

work So it's not about situating things Or

00:48:07 --> 00:48:08

positioning them in a certain way It's about

00:48:08 --> 00:48:10

the priority Now the priority will be obvious

00:48:10 --> 00:48:12

Which is why for example Salat al-Jama

00:48:12 --> 00:48:14

'ah men have to come Women are encouraged

00:48:14 --> 00:48:15

to come Why?

00:48:15 --> 00:48:17

Not because we don't want No, because her

00:48:17 --> 00:48:20

priority is her household Her priority is her

00:48:20 --> 00:48:22

children and her family If she's told that

00:48:22 --> 00:48:23

you have to come pray Salat al-Jama

00:48:23 --> 00:48:24

'ah Then how does she take care of

00:48:24 --> 00:48:26

her priority It makes no sense, it's not

00:48:26 --> 00:48:28

fair anymore She can't be asked to take

00:48:28 --> 00:48:30

care of something And then told she has

00:48:30 --> 00:48:32

to do something That's going to contradict her

00:48:32 --> 00:48:37

priority Makes no sense That piece I feel

00:48:37 --> 00:48:40

is fading away It's fading away and I

00:48:40 --> 00:48:41

don't know how to catch it And I

00:48:41 --> 00:48:42

don't even know how to talk about it

00:48:42 --> 00:48:44

anymore And I honestly don't want to talk

00:48:44 --> 00:48:45

about it anymore I'm not going to talk

00:48:45 --> 00:48:47

about this This is not for me to

00:48:47 --> 00:48:51

talk about We have educated Muslim women You

00:48:51 --> 00:48:53

need to talk about this This is your

00:48:53 --> 00:48:56

domain, it's not ours I shouldn't be doing

00:48:56 --> 00:48:57

this anymore I shouldn't be talking about what

00:48:57 --> 00:48:59

women should be doing It's not my job

00:48:59 --> 00:49:01

I'll talk to the men, I'll tell them

00:49:01 --> 00:49:03

what to do And it's much more comfortable

00:49:03 --> 00:49:06

by the way For me, because I have

00:49:06 --> 00:49:08

no problem yelling at you If you don't

00:49:08 --> 00:49:09

like it, Allah Ma'ak It doesn't matter,

00:49:09 --> 00:49:11

I don't care But I can do that

00:49:11 --> 00:49:13

to sisters No, it doesn't work that way

00:49:13 --> 00:49:16

The Prophet was very specific He was different

00:49:16 --> 00:49:18

when he spoke to the sisters And whenever

00:49:18 --> 00:49:19

he spoke to the sisters and it was

00:49:19 --> 00:49:21

harsh There was no men around Whenever he

00:49:21 --> 00:49:26

talked to them about punishment And having All

00:49:26 --> 00:49:27

the hadith that you have Of the Prophet

00:49:27 --> 00:49:30

Alaihissalam telling women That you must be better

00:49:30 --> 00:49:32

with your husbands He told them in confidence

00:49:32 --> 00:49:34

He did not tell them on the minbar

00:49:36 --> 00:49:38

Because the minbar He's speaking to the men

00:49:38 --> 00:49:39

He's going to go on the minbar and

00:49:39 --> 00:49:41

tell the men That women should obey them

00:49:42 --> 00:49:45

He's not talking to them This command is

00:49:45 --> 00:49:46

not for the men, it's for the women

00:49:46 --> 00:49:49

He would give this to them He had

00:49:49 --> 00:49:52

weekly meetings with the women He had weekly

00:49:52 --> 00:49:55

settings with only sisters And he gave them

00:49:55 --> 00:49:56

his advice And he spoke to them as

00:49:56 --> 00:49:58

a father, as a prophet As someone who

00:49:58 --> 00:50:00

wanted the best for them So they listened

00:50:00 --> 00:50:02

to what he had to say And they

00:50:02 --> 00:50:04

understood what he was trying to explain And

00:50:04 --> 00:50:06

they committed themselves to what they understood To

00:50:06 --> 00:50:08

be the priority And he spoke to the

00:50:08 --> 00:50:10

men differently So this has to be brought

00:50:10 --> 00:50:13

back Sisters in our community have to understand

00:50:13 --> 00:50:17

That this is slowly being faded out Take

00:50:17 --> 00:50:18

care of that piece So I can sit

00:50:18 --> 00:50:21

with the shabab and straighten them out So

00:50:21 --> 00:50:23

they can be actual men So they can

00:50:23 --> 00:50:26

be proper fathers And proper husbands So they

00:50:26 --> 00:50:28

can take care of their jobs So we

00:50:28 --> 00:50:31

can hold them accountable I can't fix problems

00:50:31 --> 00:50:34

I'm not a marriage counselor So please don't

00:50:34 --> 00:50:37

bring me your marital problems ever I don't

00:50:37 --> 00:50:38

care if I have enough of my own

00:50:39 --> 00:50:44

But I can't I can't actually influence If

00:50:44 --> 00:50:46

a friend Or someone I know Is falling

00:50:46 --> 00:50:48

into a problem in his home I can

00:50:48 --> 00:50:50

easily bring the shabab and slap him around

00:50:50 --> 00:50:52

But I have to know that the sister

00:50:52 --> 00:50:56

at home Is doing her Is prioritizing appropriately

00:50:57 --> 00:50:59

Prioritizes her life in the appropriate way Is

00:50:59 --> 00:51:01

fulfilling the basics So I can straighten out

00:51:01 --> 00:51:03

the guy But when someone is not performing

00:51:05 --> 00:51:07

Both have to do it I'm not saying

00:51:07 --> 00:51:08

one has to start And the other one

00:51:08 --> 00:51:10

follows No, they both have to do it

00:51:10 --> 00:51:13

But the reason Allah gives the four examples,

00:51:13 --> 00:51:18

sisters Is because If you do your job

00:51:18 --> 00:51:20

and I don't If my wife does her

00:51:20 --> 00:51:22

job and I don't The family may succeed,

00:51:22 --> 00:51:24

may prevail But if I do and she

00:51:24 --> 00:51:29

doesn't, it's impossible It's absolutely impossible It's off

00:51:29 --> 00:51:33

the table It's not going to happen And

00:51:33 --> 00:51:37

fathers know that I'm fully, I admit that

00:51:38 --> 00:51:41

When we say that Islam Divides the responsibility

00:51:41 --> 00:51:43

50-50 Men have to provide and protect

00:51:43 --> 00:51:44

Women have to take care of the household

00:51:44 --> 00:51:46

It's not 50-50, she's doing way more

00:51:46 --> 00:51:48

work In my opinion, it's way beyond It's

00:51:48 --> 00:51:52

way more My 3 year old, I think

00:51:52 --> 00:51:53

about that She carried him 9 months in

00:51:53 --> 00:51:56

her belly And he's 3 years old If

00:51:56 --> 00:51:57

it goes for more than an hour without

00:51:57 --> 00:52:02

her In his presence, he loses He starts

00:52:03 --> 00:52:08

And he You have to Change him I

00:52:08 --> 00:52:11

can't imagine that degree of need I couldn't

00:52:11 --> 00:52:13

live like that With someone needing me like

00:52:13 --> 00:52:15

that For 4 or 5 years of their

00:52:15 --> 00:52:20

lives It's impossible But somehow it works Somehow

00:52:20 --> 00:52:22

a mother can make it work I don't

00:52:22 --> 00:52:24

know, I don't understand how But it does

00:52:24 --> 00:52:27

This is why these examples being given here

00:52:27 --> 00:52:30

Even if the man is What are the

00:52:30 --> 00:52:30

examples?

00:52:30 --> 00:52:32

Forget about this introduction that I'm giving you

00:52:32 --> 00:52:34

Who are the examples of the lazeena kafaru?

00:52:34 --> 00:52:40

Imra'ata Nooh The wife of Nooh The

00:52:40 --> 00:52:44

mighty prophet of God Nooh One of the

00:52:44 --> 00:52:47

5 major prophets And Lot, one of the

00:52:47 --> 00:52:48

regular prophets We have 2 examples One of

00:52:48 --> 00:52:52

the major, one of the regular prophets Their

00:52:52 --> 00:52:56

families filled Because their wives Were not on

00:52:56 --> 00:52:59

the same page with them Nooh You think

00:52:59 --> 00:53:03

of this Nooh is the role model of

00:53:03 --> 00:53:06

Ibrahim Who is The role model of Muhammad

00:53:07 --> 00:53:10

Who is our role model Nooh is like

00:53:10 --> 00:53:12

one of the Nooh outranks his own father

00:53:12 --> 00:53:17

His great Adam In status This is who

00:53:17 --> 00:53:20

Nooh is And Nooh couldn't save his family

00:53:21 --> 00:53:23

Because his wife wasn't on the same page

00:53:25 --> 00:53:29

Same thing Lot His 2 daughters went with

00:53:29 --> 00:53:32

him, the rest didn't Because his wife wasn't

00:53:32 --> 00:53:34

on the same page Lot failed Wasn't able

00:53:34 --> 00:53:36

to save his people Because his wife wasn't

00:53:36 --> 00:53:38

on the same page with him His family

00:53:38 --> 00:53:40

was dysfunctional, he couldn't get the job done

00:53:41 --> 00:53:43

He couldn't protect himself Because his wife wasn't

00:53:43 --> 00:53:45

on the same page So it doesn't matter

00:53:45 --> 00:53:48

This ayah is not bad-mouthing women It's

00:53:48 --> 00:53:50

telling the man that you're absolutely useless If

00:53:50 --> 00:53:52

you don't make the right choice It doesn't

00:53:52 --> 00:53:54

matter, you could be Nooh and Lot It

00:53:54 --> 00:53:56

doesn't make a difference You're not Nooh, nor

00:53:56 --> 00:53:58

are you Lot Nor are you even remotely

00:53:58 --> 00:54:00

close to them And even if you were,

00:54:00 --> 00:54:02

and your wives were not on the same

00:54:02 --> 00:54:05

page You couldn't make it work Sleep with

00:54:05 --> 00:54:09

that tonight Go today and sleep Think of

00:54:09 --> 00:54:11

that If you were Nooh and you're not

00:54:11 --> 00:54:14

And you have no closeness to them There's

00:54:14 --> 00:54:16

no resemblance between me and one of them

00:54:16 --> 00:54:18

If I were them, I still couldn't make

00:54:18 --> 00:54:20

it work If my wife wasn't on the

00:54:20 --> 00:54:24

same page They were married to 2 of

00:54:24 --> 00:54:26

our pious He uses the terms, pious men

00:54:26 --> 00:54:28

This is not to bad-mouth them Even

00:54:28 --> 00:54:29

though they are at fault, obviously, for doing

00:54:29 --> 00:54:31

that But to say, look, pious men, good

00:54:31 --> 00:54:39

men But they betrayed them And that did

00:54:39 --> 00:54:41

not help them in any way Being wives

00:54:41 --> 00:54:44

of prophets And they entered Jahannam with those

00:54:44 --> 00:54:47

who entered And Nooh and Lot Their families

00:54:47 --> 00:54:50

were dysfunctional And Nooh's son did not accept

00:54:50 --> 00:54:53

Islam And Lot had children I always think

00:54:53 --> 00:54:57

about Nooh He watched his son drown He

00:54:57 --> 00:54:59

couldn't save his son Because there was a

00:54:59 --> 00:55:02

problem, his household Not everyone was on the

00:55:02 --> 00:55:03

same page there So it didn't work out

00:55:03 --> 00:55:06

for him Even though he was a good

00:55:06 --> 00:55:08

man He was of great status, he couldn't

00:55:08 --> 00:55:11

do it You want the opposite example?

00:55:13 --> 00:55:17

The wife of Pharaoh Wallahi The verses are

00:55:17 --> 00:55:22

absolutely mind-blowing Nooh Not the right wife

00:55:22 --> 00:55:25

His family didn't work His dawah didn't work

00:55:25 --> 00:55:28

Did Nooh's dawah work?

00:55:29 --> 00:55:32

Did he bring in the Appropriate amount of

00:55:32 --> 00:55:33

people?

00:55:33 --> 00:55:33

No.

00:55:33 --> 00:55:35

Did Lot save his people?

00:55:35 --> 00:55:35

No.

00:55:36 --> 00:55:39

Two prophets Didn't have the right wife Failed.

00:55:40 --> 00:55:46

The opposite Pharaoh The worst He is the

00:55:46 --> 00:55:49

epitome Of evil in the Qur'an His

00:55:49 --> 00:55:56

wife His wife Made sure he had a

00:55:56 --> 00:55:59

functional family His functional family was His wife

00:55:59 --> 00:56:03

and Musa Pharaoh didn't have children He couldn't

00:56:03 --> 00:56:06

have children And Asiyah wanted a child This

00:56:06 --> 00:56:08

lady in the Qur'an So they found

00:56:08 --> 00:56:10

Musa floating in the river So she said

00:56:12 --> 00:56:13

We'll make him our son That way we

00:56:13 --> 00:56:17

have a family A good wife married to

00:56:17 --> 00:56:20

the epitome Of evil was able to produce

00:56:20 --> 00:56:24

Kaleem Wallahi Musa Go think of that Go

00:56:24 --> 00:56:27

think of that The household of Pharaoh is

00:56:27 --> 00:56:31

a successful Household He's in Jahannam But the

00:56:31 --> 00:56:37

household was successful Because she Oh Allah Build

00:56:37 --> 00:56:41

for me within Jannah A house And save

00:56:41 --> 00:56:44

me from Pharaoh And all that he does

00:56:45 --> 00:56:47

And save me from all of these Oppressions

00:56:47 --> 00:56:54

around me She died Way before Musa achieved

00:56:54 --> 00:56:58

anything Before Musa confronted Pharaoh She passed away

00:56:58 --> 00:57:01

But her household produced one of the mighty

00:57:01 --> 00:57:04

Prophets of Allah The mighty Prophet of Allah

00:57:04 --> 00:57:07

Couldn't hold his household When his wife wasn't

00:57:07 --> 00:57:09

on the same page But a wife that

00:57:09 --> 00:57:11

was a pious lady Was married to Pharaoh

00:57:11 --> 00:57:16

Literally Pharaoh Not a symbolic one The actual

00:57:16 --> 00:57:17

Pharaoh she was married to When she produced

00:57:17 --> 00:57:23

Musa You understand the symbolism here The examples

00:57:23 --> 00:57:28

here are very Very clear I'm going to

00:57:28 --> 00:57:30

make this even Worse for you The second

00:57:30 --> 00:57:37

example Is Mariam If Elsia had Pharaoh as

00:57:37 --> 00:57:40

a husband Mariam didn't even have one Mariam

00:57:40 --> 00:57:43

didn't even need a husband Mariam to produce

00:57:43 --> 00:57:48

Isa Didn't need a husband I'm going to

00:57:48 --> 00:57:52

Produce Ruh Allah Isa Ibn Mariam I'm going

00:57:52 --> 00:57:54

to produce Ruh Allah Isa Ibn Mariam Who

00:57:54 --> 00:57:55

is going to be one of the most

00:57:55 --> 00:57:58

influential characters Of all time I don't even

00:57:58 --> 00:58:01

need a husband You see what this is

00:58:01 --> 00:58:04

in the Quran This is This is how

00:58:04 --> 00:58:11

the Quran Views what women's roles are Do

00:58:11 --> 00:58:14

what you want Do what you want But

00:58:14 --> 00:58:16

if you don't maintain the sanctity Of our

00:58:16 --> 00:58:19

families Then I don't know what is more

00:58:19 --> 00:58:21

valuable Nuh and Lot could not Save their

00:58:21 --> 00:58:25

families because of their wives Pharaoh had a

00:58:25 --> 00:58:28

Successful family He went to Jahannam but he

00:58:28 --> 00:58:31

had a successful family Mariam didn't even need

00:58:31 --> 00:58:34

a Husband to produce a successful family And

00:58:34 --> 00:58:35

she was the example of A mother and

00:58:35 --> 00:58:37

a son One of the most important people

00:58:37 --> 00:58:43

that ever lived Mariam Ibn Taimran She protected

00:58:43 --> 00:58:46

her Sanctity She protected her piety She protected

00:58:46 --> 00:58:49

her chastity So Allah Subh'anaHu Wa Ta

00:58:49 --> 00:58:56

-A'la granted her chastity His soul She

00:58:56 --> 00:58:58

believed in Allah's words And she believed in

00:58:58 --> 00:59:01

Allah's books and scripture She was one of

00:59:01 --> 00:59:05

the great Worshippers of the Lord And she

00:59:05 --> 00:59:07

produced One of the most important families of

00:59:07 --> 00:59:09

all time The family of Isa Ibn Mariam

00:59:10 --> 00:59:13

And his mother And that's what these four

00:59:13 --> 00:59:16

examples are And if this is not Revealing

00:59:16 --> 00:59:20

to you as a man When you're making

00:59:20 --> 00:59:22

these Choices and thinking about So now go

00:59:22 --> 00:59:24

back to ayah number six He said protect

00:59:24 --> 00:59:26

your family How do you protect your family?

00:59:27 --> 00:59:29

Now you know how you protect your family

00:59:30 --> 00:59:31

You have to make sure you have the

00:59:31 --> 00:59:34

right recipe Because it's not really you You

00:59:34 --> 00:59:35

could be Nuh and Lot and it still

00:59:35 --> 00:59:37

wouldn't work Or you could be Pharaoh or

00:59:37 --> 00:59:39

non-existent and it would work You have

00:59:39 --> 00:59:41

to make the right choice And sisters listen

00:59:41 --> 00:59:42

to this You have to understand how you

00:59:42 --> 00:59:45

are viewed The value of your influence See

00:59:45 --> 00:59:48

the word influence came in this surah Nasuh

00:59:48 --> 00:59:50

is only once in the Quran It's that

00:59:50 --> 00:59:54

influential word Because the influence that you have

00:59:54 --> 00:59:59

Is unparalleled And it's undeniable And if you

00:59:59 --> 01:00:00

don't understand Your priority to be that and

01:00:00 --> 01:00:03

your mission to be that Then we are

01:00:03 --> 01:00:06

truly In trouble as a nation I hope

01:00:06 --> 01:00:08

that was of benefit to you We conclude

01:00:08 --> 01:00:11

with that The second cluster of surahs Within

01:00:11 --> 01:00:14

this series I hope that you found benefit

01:00:14 --> 01:00:16

We continue next week We open a new

01:00:16 --> 01:00:17

cluster We start with Surah Al-Mulk And

01:00:17 --> 01:00:19

we talk about a new chapter in the

01:00:19 --> 01:00:23

Quran SubhanAllah wa bihamdik shalom Wa barak allah

01:00:23 --> 01:00:24

Assalamu alaykum

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