Adnan Rajeh – Etiquettes of Salah 10

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The speaker discusses the importance of privacy and being comfortable during isolation periods, particularly for men. They emphasize the need for men to be comfortable and allow others to enter without harming their comfort, and emphasize the importance of being aware of privacy and safety for everyone. The men in the room are not supposed to sit in front of them, but rather wait for someone to come. The speaker emphasizes the importance of being comfortable and safe in a praying room setting, and the need for men to be comfortable and allow others to enter without harming their comfort.

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			The Hadith of the Night, a collection of
		
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			Imam Bukhari, and the theme that I'm going
		
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			to, just maybe for another few Khawater, cover
		
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			just the etiquettes of Salah.
		
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			I still have a few more.
		
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			The goal is to put them into a
		
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			playlist and then get maybe some, turn it
		
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			into some form of competition for the younger
		
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			generation to memorize and then to learn so
		
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			that we have a good understanding of what
		
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			the etiquettes of Salah actually are.
		
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			Whether we're talking about etiquettes inside Salah, before
		
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			or after, because all of these things add
		
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			up in terms of the quality of the
		
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			prayer and the ajr that you get at
		
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			the end of it.
		
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			And this is a very important one.
		
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			This is what Umm Salama said.
		
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			Umm Salama tells us that the Prophet, when
		
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			he prayed, after he performed his Taslim, the
		
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			ladies would leave and he would stay in
		
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			his spot with the men afterwards.
		
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			And Imam Bukhari would say, and we don't
		
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			see that he did this except to allow
		
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			for the sisters to leave the masjid before
		
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			the brothers got up.
		
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			Now, my point here is not that I
		
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			need that to happen, because that's not what
		
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			actually I want.
		
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			This is not the point of this Khawater
		
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			at all.
		
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			The point of this Khawater is that the
		
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			Prophet, in his masjid, recognized that there was
		
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			a certain dynamic of how people came in
		
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			and how people left.
		
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			And understanding that dynamic, he had a system
		
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			to allow people to move in and out
		
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			of the masjid safely.
		
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			The point is that people are able to
		
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			move in and out of a masjid in
		
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			a safe manner.
		
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			So, in their situation, in their context, where
		
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			it was very dark after Isha, and there
		
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			were very few lights, and the way the
		
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			masjid was open, it was out from behind,
		
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			the Prophet, after his Taslim, would stay in
		
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			his spot for a little bit to allow
		
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			the sisters time to take the children and
		
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			then leave the masjid, so that the brothers
		
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			could follow, and they're not having Ikhtilaf outside,
		
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			and women aren't surrounded by men they don't
		
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			know, and it's very dark, so that wouldn't
		
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			happen.
		
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			Now, for us, it's not the same thing.
		
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			I don't need that to happen.
		
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			I don't need to sit here and talk
		
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			to the guys while the sisters leave, because
		
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			we have halaqat afterwards, sometimes the sisters have
		
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			halaqat, and the guys have to get out,
		
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			so it's not always the same thing.
		
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			But the point that he made with this,
		
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			is that he figured out for his masjid,
		
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			for his ummah, and for the people he
		
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			was teaching, a system that allowed for safety
		
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			and for easy access.
		
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			And that's what is important for us to
		
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			realize.
		
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			When we are coming into the masjid, and
		
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			leaving the masjid, and situating ourselves in the
		
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			masjid, that we are making sure that everyone
		
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			feels safe.
		
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			So men should not be hanging out in
		
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			the middle of the lobby, where sisters are
		
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			trying to get around them so they can
		
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			get out the door.
		
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			There's only one door.
		
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			The doors are right beside each other.
		
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			There's only one entrance.
		
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			So we shouldn't have people hanging out in
		
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			the lobby, making it difficult for people to
		
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			enter, and for people to leave.
		
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			And if you're leaving the masjid, and you
		
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			see sisters on their way out, you give
		
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			them a chance so they can get out
		
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			before you, and you can get out a
		
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			few minutes after they go in front of
		
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			you.
		
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			So it's an issue of just being conscious
		
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			of those around you, and what is in
		
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			their best interest, and their safety.
		
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			Men shouldn't be sitting, for example, with their
		
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			backs towards the sister.
		
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			I've had this problem a couple of times
		
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			throughout the year, where I have someone sitting
		
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			with their back to the wall, and they're
		
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			not facing.
		
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			My beautiful face is not enough for them.
		
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			You don't look behind.
		
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			You look up front.
		
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			You shouldn't be looking behind.
		
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			It's very uncomfortable for the sisters who are
		
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			sitting to have a man sitting and staring
		
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			at them while they're praying.
		
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			Your face should be up front.
		
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			These details are what you have to learn
		
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			from him.
		
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			He made sure that he told the men,
		
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			you sit around.
		
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			And this hadith is actually repeated in Bukhari
		
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			a couple of times, and Sayyiduna Anas says
		
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			the same thing.
		
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			That the men would not move until he's
		
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			left.
		
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			When he got up to leave, then they
		
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			got up to leave.
		
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			He was the cue.
		
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			Again, this is not what I'm saying that
		
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			needs to happen here at all, actually.
		
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			I'm not even suggesting that, but I'm just
		
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			saying that he had a system that ensured
		
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			safety, and ensured security, and ensured that people
		
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			felt comfortable.
		
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			It's comfort.
		
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			Being in the Masjid is about being comfortable.
		
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			That you're here, you feel that you're supported,
		
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			and that you're in a place that is
		
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			safe for you, and that you're able to
		
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			take care of yourself and those around you.
		
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			So we have to figure that out as
		
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			well.
		
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			For us, for example, in this setting, it's
		
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			the entrance and the exit, and it's the
		
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			lobby.
		
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			It's keeping the flow open, making sure you're
		
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			allowing the sisters in and out, without having
		
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			people standing in front of them, they have
		
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			to tap on someone's shoulder, or wait for
		
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			five minutes until someone notices that someone wants
		
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			to walk for them to move away.
		
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			So these little things.
		
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			Don't sit facing the sisters when they're praying.
		
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			Face up front.
		
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			These little things.
		
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			And the same thing for the sisters.
		
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			Looking for ways to make sure that you're
		
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			not crossing into the area of the men
		
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			all the time.
		
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			Little stuff like that to make sure that
		
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			everyone in the Masjid feel comfortable and feel
		
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			safe.
		
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			And the Prophet, peace and blessings be upon
		
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			him, in his Masjid, he had a system
		
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			that worked.
		
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			And the system was that after Salat, he
		
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			would stay in his Pradat, and so would
		
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			the men.
		
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			They would do their Tasbeeh, do their Adhkar,
		
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			do their Sunnah, so the sisters had time
		
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			to get out safely, get into their houses,
		
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			because it's dark, and then they would go
		
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			afterwards.
		
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			And to me, that just shows, because you're
		
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			talking about a time where luxuries and comforts
		
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			were scarce, and it was hard for him
		
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			to be thinking about this, peace and blessings
		
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			be upon him, for him to tell the
		
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			Sahaba that we have to take care of
		
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			this, to me, this is someone who's thinking
		
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			a thousand years ahead, literally a thousand years
		
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			ahead, in terms of focusing on the needs
		
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			of the people that are around him.
		
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			And we, a thousand, four hundred years later,
		
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			should be able to do the same, at
		
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			least to be able to recognize what's safe
		
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			and comfortable and secure for everyone here, and
		
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			make sure that we follow some steps to
		
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			make sure that that is ensured for everyone.
		
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			So this is the hadith I wanted to
		
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			share with you.
		
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			And again, when you read his hadith, many
		
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			situations, where we don't have the exact same
		
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			context, you have to learn to understand the
		
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			lesson from it.
		
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			The lesson from this is not that someone
		
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			has to leave before someone else.
		
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			The lesson from this is the care for
		
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			people's security and people's safety, and being conscious
		
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			of that when you're in the house of
		
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			Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala, and being aware
		
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			of it.
		
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			And I think that's a beautiful lesson for
		
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			all of us to learn and to reflect
		
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			upon.
		
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			Inshallah.
		
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			Inshallah, the Islamic Max.