Hadith #26 – The Way to Educate & Cultivate

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whether it's connected to a dour, this is what we're talking about. The Dow and the Duat the Dow Avella slam the call to Al Islam and those who take it upon themselves to make that call and all of us are from them inshallah.

But even outside of $1 just your own mental health, our mental health,

protect protecting our interpersonal relationships with those who are closest to us

and is IDF.

That is from the July man and Kelim those things that the Prophet says on the MA Why do you send them not many words, but it has far reaching implications deserves being studied. Even after this dulls, go back and look into it more.

I will mother I Isha. She narrated the Hadith from last week.

And she's the narrator of the Hadith this week, two weeks in a row. We have a lady who was from the realm of companions.

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a chef put to Hadith in a row and they both start off with the same thing. And both are centered around Isha or she's the one narrating it she's the one who heard it.

Last week, he was looking at the Kaaba eye issues looking at the Kaaba SallAllahu and he was sending them more of the Allah I'm not and he said, Yeah, Isha Lola in Comac Hadith who Adam Bill J havia Isha if it wasn't for the fact that your people were new or they just came out of jail havia and they went and told this hadith is similar to that

he started the Hadith off when he said Salah when he was selling them Yeah. Isha

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yeah Isha and each and every one of us is in the place of I Isha as if the Nabi is talking to you.

Yeah Isha. Yeah Sharif? Yeah. Bilaam Yeah, tell me about Osama Yeah, for lamb I learn

ya Aisha. Verily Allah is a field. Allah is gentle, kind, easy. If you want to punish all of you for what you've done, he wouldn't have left a single one of you on the earth the IRS said Well, lo you asked for the low NAS believe me him. My Tareq, I think him in debt.

If Allah wanted to hold everybody on the earth for what they've done, he would not have left a single person on the earth. Not one of the people sitting here

yeah Isha. Verily, Allah is gentle, easy.

And he loves gentleness and he loves easiness.

And it gives to the one who was gentle. That which he does not give to the one who was rough and tough and mean and coarse and harsh.

And he doesn't give to anyone, even the one was not rough course. Maybe it was quiet, maybe the one who was a coward. Even those people, they're weak and they need Allah's help. He doesn't even give to them. The way he gives to the one who goes out of his way is in his way to be

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tremendous Hadith

Verily Allah is gentle,

and he loves gentleness and he gives to the one who was gentle. That which he does not give to the woman was rough and tough a monster

and that which he doesn't give to anyone other than Him.

This hadith is a data shows us the bankrupt nature of the house of many of the Muslims.

The unfortunate situation that is the reality of some of our homes

and that in some homes all you find in the home is cursing and swearing and hatred.

You find in the home disrespect you finding a home domestic violence you find in a home they don't give sometimes they don't want to deal with each other. That's not genuine and last night is everybody who's doing that in his home. He thinks the hackers with him. I'm not giving sometimes because they did this to me. Or I'm going to be rough with my mother rough and my son rough with my daughter rough with everybody I'm clashed with everybody because the Hawk is with me. Rough and

tough. That person doesn't get his way and he explodes he screams he's cursing

another Hadith similar to this he said

there's nothing that has gentleness gentleness is put inside of something except the gentleness beautifies it and gentleness was never taken out of something except it made it ugly.

So gentleness was put inside of the home is going to make their home beautiful. The man and his wife they love each other they kiss they hug when they come together. So I'm mixing mistake our mileage, no problem. Even when they get upset they forgive they taught the kids how you doing what's going on and kiss the hug.

But like I said we Asif shaded.

Many of the homes of the Muslims are dysfunctional.

Many of the homes of the Muslims are violent.

I mean, it's crazy.

This hadith of the NABI sallallahu alayhi wa I don't even send them in when he goes to show from the characteristics of Allah azza wa jal unlike the Yahoo then the NESARA, who can say whatever they want to say about their religion, this Halloween thing that just happened, had nothing to do with Christianity and in Cebu Merriam

but the Celtics, the Welsh, these people, Europeans, they came into a slam after being pagans. And when they came into a slam, they introduced into

they were pagans, they came into Christianity. And after coming to Christianity, they introduced into Christianity, they're paganism. And my mother who was an African American Christian is practicing Halloween and she doesn't know why. Has nothing to do with E several money, nothing.

So they say what they want. They believe what they want about a lot and he's a liberal. That's not the deen of Allah.

We only believe Allah, his characteristics the way he described himself. And the way the Prophet described the lie don't come as almost some say, Maybe Allah is a woman. Maybe Allah is a black man. Maybe Allah is a monkey hashanah Allah. Maybe Allah is a force may the force be with you that's not in the Quran and Sunnah ko from the land. What Allah has said about himself, lemon Yoku, local Kufa one add a Rahman Rahim.

All of those Ayad describing this hadith describes Allah, very Eliza of fear. He is gentle, and he loves gentleness. So the idea of shows Allah's gentle, easy kind, and he loves He loves in a way that befits His Majesty. He doesn't love the way I love you the way you love me the way I love my kids where you know he loves the way that the fists His Majesty, we don't know the reality of it. But this hadith shows that we stopped there.

Early Allah He loves and he is gentle. Subhanahu wata Anna.

Listen to me. One of the most important characteristics in Al Islam is the characteristic of being soft and easy and kind to the creation is mentioned over and over in the Quran and the Sunnah.

Forgive, overlook, be easy, be kind, be gentle, your mother, your child, this that don't divorce. All of these is an IDF. And yet it's one of those characteristics that the Muslims are not taking care of we are rough and tough and harsh, rough and tough and harsh.

How we deal with people? We don't think constantly. Let me be gentle, let me be easy. And I'm gonna tell you something as you get older, when you're young, no problem. But as you get older, and you start getting high blood pressure and all that stuff, being rough and tough will kill you.

It will kill you.

Because it's a state that's not healthy. So you have to start learning and developing, take it easy. Take it easy people about the fight over nothing.

A taxi guy, the taxi driver drops him off. And he can't open the door and say, oh, man, open the door. He's trying to open the door, man.

He didn't require all of that.

And he's like that with everything. Just excited. He goes to the store, he wants to buy something. It's something simple, and he blows up and explodes like these firecrackers, fireworks that go he's like that pub, Oh, boo, boo boo. All over the place over nothing.

Keep living your life like that you're gonna die and kill yourself. Have mercy upon yourself as the Prophet said, being gentle to this ummah. As companions are traveling, they go up the mountain, and when you go up an elevated thing, they said Allah Akbar, that's what you do. You go into life, you go up the stairs, Allah, the stairs in your home, Allahu Akbar. Because the more stairs you go up, the more elevated allies overhead his throne and you're saying Allah is Allah, like when you make

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say it again.

Now when we insist that

supine Arabic supine Arab be Bell Allah, you put your head on the floor, and you say Glory to Allah the most Hi, I'm down here. So as you go up,

you go closer in the sky and stuff to the auto show, you say Allahu Akbar. So the Companions when they will go up, they will say that and when they come down, they will say supine Allah, Allah is knocked down.

I go down, Allah is knocked down a lot is in the opposite direction. So those companions were right in and when everything was scream, Allah was screaming

Rasul Allah say, Yeah, are you a nice are baru and physical? May you people take it easy on yourselves. You're not calling one who was far away, absent and can hear. You're talking and you're calling on one who was close, and he can hear Subhana wa Tada. Take it easy on yourselves. But he is trying to help people take it easy. Don't kill yourself with that anger. Screaming and hollow you're gonna kill somebody else.

Row reach. And you didn't expect it to wind up like that, but you got out You punched him and he fell hit his head. He's dead. You got out, he pulled out a knife and stabbed you. And after you guys stat. And if you didn't expect that you didn't expect today you're gonna get stabbed in your heart, in your liver in your spleen. You got to start. And as that blood is going out, you say oh, man, I know this was gonna happen, but it's too late now.

So a risk is never put inside of your Qalam in your speech, in your dealings in your Dawa in your home in your heart, except that it beautified whatever is put in and anything that is taken out of it is going to make that thing ugly.

So, it is not befitting for our Ummah to neglect the importance of take it easy man and have Rama upon people and what's wrong with you. He's a little brothers your little sister. She's your freakin mother.

And then the way you behave towards your mother make sure brother want to crack your head open.

Just take it easy

as it relates to Allah's ease and gentleness, just look at his names that he described himself. He is a rock man. He is a Rahim. He is a Latif a Latif a lot. Like his brother is sitting with his son laying down he got his hands around him that's looked right there. That just son can be close to you and on you like that chillin. Okay, that's how it is when he's about five years old.

Five six years ago came in relax. Chop my head a kidney my head man pick my head up and put my head back on. Put your sword away man, little man.

Not like that be a man.

But when that boy after 10 years from now inshallah can him and his dad walked down the street holding hands hugging, can a show that same affection and it's natural.

Why is it that as he grows old as our children have grown, when they were young, they're beautiful, they're cute and all that, especially for the fathers. The mother is going to always love that kid in Sharla. But the father's is cute when he's little and all that but as they grow them, I hope these people your problem.

That's a lot. That's a lot. How many people here can kiss their fathers on the cheek?

On the forehead, on the nose. Hamming can hug his father say it to his father, I love you right now how many? Some of us we can do that? Not because we don't love and respect them. It's just not how we were raised. This is not you know the reality of our situation.

So Allah is a Rockman Rahim Allah to gentle al Halim. That's his name and Helene Abdul Halim, the one who is for over like really, really easy with someone. He has an awful you know, in Ramadan and niqab full wound to Hebrew Alpha find me. Oh Allah, you forgive you. Pardon pardon me, Allah. He is a laugh who loves to forgive. You made a mistake. You made a big mistake.

Xena, mistake of not praying mistake of whatever it is. And you may Toba. Allah is an awful forgive all of that stuff. Some of us can forgive people for stepping on his toes stepping on his shoes, can forgive him for pushing him at the Kaaba at the kabhi gets pushed, he gets pushed. And he can't be easy at Aqaba. What do you think you're going to prove? By screaming and shouting and arguing with the other pilgrim who may have been pushed into you or you may be ignorant he has that exuberance

but you're so it nobody pushed me around nobody take my heart. Yo Hodge take it easy man punched you in your face knock you out right here at the Kaaba put you in a coma? Hammer time.

Hey man, that guy pushed me right I was trying to avoid all lady What you talking about?

At the Kaaba, be gentle brother What's wrong with you?

So all of those names and attributes of Allah azza wa jal, they show that ALLAH SubhanA Medina himself is gentle with us forgiving

so it's not acceptable we have to change this reality and change this narrative of being so intolerant of people this is one of the big reasons a big Michigan is with Dinesh

killing people the tech theories mainly to rough and tough then people go overboard and to do this do that is one of the Take it easy man they don't know the condition of the people.

So as it relates to this hadith of the newbies of longlining he went on it was sitting I'm listening whiny, I just want to mention to you too, if everybody memorizing everybody heard them before, too I got from them as many i that put a lot of emphasis on the gentleness that Allah wants from us and that he put in this religion. He said about the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam were Ursula aka Illa Allah and I mean we sent you as a rabbi to everybody. Everybody knows that if so why you so

rough and tough look at kinda look comfy Rasulullah he was what will Hi Santa you have in him a perfect example. And Allah has sent him as a Rama. He was a Rama to the kids Rama to animals Rama to his friend's wife, his grandchildren. He was a Rama to the enemy. He was a rackmount we know that. But some of us are like an ignited fire or TNT TNT. Or see for even see for we are ready to explode at any moment.

That's when I wear my Ursula K even within Milan. I mean, you're given Dawa and you've been sent to give Dawa. You are Rama to everybody.

The other ayat statement of Allah who Tada Phoebe ma Ra. Min Allah He Lin tell tele home. A la quinta Felsen released them for booming housing. We all know this if we all heard this if it was a Rama from Allah pine

Yeah Muhammad in them that you would gentle and you easy with them if you are rough and tough with them, they will run away.

Many of us would not have embraced this land. If Rasul Allah didn't bring the religion and a sunnah that was gentle and easy. Why in a world with a revert girl? She's clubbing she's potty and she doesn't even have to do that. She's a nice girl but start wearing a hijab. Why would she come into this religion put hijab on? If this religion was just punching in the face and slapping her and telling like you're nothing.

Say I don't have to be a Muslim. Not this was this religions are Rama Taha. So she accepts Islam and she expects to be dealt with in that way. Rama those two if no one here. Except that he heard those if then why are we rough and tough all the time?

We hear things about people we hate him.

He looked at us if we can't even smile. And this religion when you meet someone and you smile, it's a sadaqa dude is so bad healed so stingy. He can't even smile. Can't even smile can give that up. You gotta mean milk you like he's been eating lemons all day long. As if it's something manly about that. Be gentle brother. Be easy, be kind. So concerning these two ayat of the Quran, Prophet Muhammad was the Sayed of Benny Adam. No one here is close to him in terms of his position with

Allah and His reality.

I will since being short and all that we fall short of the mark. No one is close to him here.

And yet, he was more gentle to the people in the creation than anyone here anyone. So I don't think it's worth my while to try to be like him. He's better than me. And he was gentle. He's stronger than me. He was gentle. If someone here tried to wrestle the Prophet with slam in our audience, we have MMA people. I grew up fighting. I'm gonna scare people. I see the guy 280 pounds. He's bigger than me. When we're going to fight. I'm not scared of him. I think I can win. But if a guy is MMA

from what I saw, I'm not scared to tell you this. He bumped into me I look at him. I see those cauliflower ears. I'm gonna say go ahead, Brother. Big man. Go ahead, man. Because I know he grapples I don't grapple. I box you but that do grapples and he'll kick me from 10 feet away. Kick my head off. Hammer stop that. It's like a person who has a gun one knife. That's a big man. Go ahead, do your thing. Let me live I got babies. I wanna see. I don't have any problem with that.

We have mixed martial artists in this Masjid straight up. MMA people in this message right now.

If the best one here was to fight and wrestle with the Nabhi of Islam SallAllahu wasallam. He was split you in half from his strength and yet, he was the most gentle person and I can't be gentle with my wife.

Some things problem, some problem shaytaan shaytaan. So then it'd be sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was a gentleman. And he told us take it easy, strong with you? Yes, yes. Don't get it twisted. There is a time to be strong, rough and tough and manly.

With defending your deen your honor your family, then be a lion be an ignited fire. Make them people, you know regret the day their mother gave birth to them. You didn't

come to my house and do what I did. That's why

you're going to regret the day you came to this earth. But that's not we're talking about. We're talking about just taking it easy and dealing with people, especially those who are close to us.

So Ursula, he Salallahu it was sending them abroad a religion that shows rock my house, I am gonna go through all of that. But look, the issue of a dog rich at the dollar route from the word Daraja Daraja means like this to go up and miraj to go up and Israa when may arrive at the dog which means to do things in degrees. This is one of the mercies of this religion, the ROM of this religion and that things are with it today the Roche

Allah Azza Quran Allah Who levy Renata Sama, it will erode the OMA being a Houma fi sick the tea Iam and thermos stowa And a lot of arch. Allah is the One Who created the heavens and the earth and everything that's between them and six days and after that he

He rolls over the throne. He did that into dirt road. It's easy for a lot to say come and it just all happened. But he did it in six days. Not because he needed six days not because it made them tie in and we got to get rest is because it's teaching us a lesson. Take it easy to do roach. You will newly married man since the beginning of the marriage. She can't cook. She just got out of her house. Take it easy.

What's wrong with you? He's a brand spanking new Muslim. Take it easy.

At the double reach. The Prophet says of Allah while he was setting them in the Quran huge amount roofie buck me me are burying the young men not far from me. Hakuna Allah Temecula dyadic. To me, I cannot do that indefinitely. Each and every one of you is brought together in his mother's womb. For 40 days as a sperm, you're in there 40 days. And then 40 next days 80 You're a leech you are in Africa. You are this other this other creation a little bigger. And then for the next 40 days you

become a more sort of flesh. And then the angel is sent and told to breathe into the spirit of life and to write down fourth allows you to create it you just like that.

No, but there's Kadar Roach

because Allah needed that. No teaching you a lesson. If Allah Allah Kofi Annan Mateen Allah Zs al Jabbar al wasa if he did this, and he showed you these days. Take it easy.

I'm gonna take it easy. I'm gonna take it easy.

Take it easy. Allah is teaching us when the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam came with Islam. He didn't make Hummer haram cherub alcohol haram right away. Do came into slam he's smoking weed as what he does, but we take it easy, man. Take it easy with him.

Don't cut his head off. Don't blast him. Take it easy with him.

She's a new brand new spanking Muslim. She can't wear hijab. Yes, the first month. Take it easy, man. Take it easy. Allah didn't reveal the hijab right away on the companions.

And when the hijab was revealed, our mother I should say, Rahim, Allah who he said, I'm sorry, may Allah have mercy upon the inside women, when the hijab is were revealed, and sort of to know, they got up and they went home. And they took all of their homage their material, and it was black. And he put it on and they came out, and he looked like crows, black crows. But why did they do that? Because prior to the hijab, that is being revealed, they were getting knowledge about Allah, you'll

know piano Tawakkol know all of this stuff. So when they he died came, they're not used to that and Jay havia but when it came, they said, that's from Allah. Let's get busy. Take it easy, man. Take it easy. This dude is a brand spankin new married man. He is a gorilla, a gorilla. How Ranga Tang he's about to break something up. He's gonna break hey man rather lacks. Take it easy.

She's never been with anybody What's wrong with you?

The dog which is one of the deals of the ease of this religion. In Allaha Rafiq where you hate bereft, Allah's gentle, and he loves gentleman. And there are many examples just about the Darche from them,

is that

allow us to have subhanho wa Taala as well. When that baby comes out,

that baby goes through the

whole process. And as mentioned in the Quran, little k little baby infant becomes a towel let go. And then you start to go backwards. You become old after knowing a lot. You don't know anything later on. When you get to that stage. Those people around you have to look at the elder relatives and people walking around. I was looking at Sheikh Mohammed, Abu Mohammed, the Yemenis man, may Allah give him life. And he's praying he's bent almost halfway over. He was praying in front of me.

We see that man and he finishes. We should give that man love. Hi, Joe. What's going on? You okay? You need anything because I get

an iron. People like him. But some of us have relatives who will like that. No love no acknowledgement. Not only that, we're rough and tough. We steal from them. We go

To our grandmother's house or Oh auntie's house, because we know she's not paying attention and we take our money

allies Gentoo and he loves gentleness

listen to this do our the Rasul of Islam sallallahu alayhi wa alayhi wa sallam he made a dua listen to this dua he said Aloma min William in Marathi che for Chaka Ali him. Ali, the status Hadith Oh Allah, any one

who becomes responsible for anything concerning my ummah and he's rough and tough with them after being responsible. He's rough and tough. Make it rough and tough on him.

Oh Allah anyone who assumes responsibility about anything of this old man and he's rough and tough on them than I asked you to be rough and tough on him

this how do you prove number one very important principle command to do to Dan as you do would it be done unto you as from the mini deals pay attention as you do what's going to be done into Oh ALLAH if he's rough on them be rough on him is a deal. Yeah, are you a Latina am and Latin soo radical Luca levena Sula, FENSA van Salman full of Mo you believe Don't be like those who forgot about Allah. So Allah forgot about them. You forgot about Allah forget you.

Have Caroni of Korakuen wash Caroni when I took Feraud remember me I remember you give thanks and don't disbelieve. If you do good and come back to you.

You rough and tough you're going to find someone somewhere along the line that is smack your head off. So that's the first thing there are many deals Abdullah Abdullah bass writing with the property say Oh young man remember Allah Allah remember you remember Allah you'll find that him in front of you. Remember Alana good times Allah remember you in the bad times.

Remember Loving You young Allah remember you when you're older. Remember love you got money, Allah remember you when you don't have money. Remember Allah like Allah, remember as you do, would it be done unto you? You keep giving your parents a hard time. You keep giving your family a hard time. You keep being the one who's doing this or I'm the one who's doing this, whatever. We're doing

that script to be flipped on you. And then you'll have to suffer that. And this is one of the things that whiny listen.

person, his wife did him wrong. And she left him, brother, open up your mind. Eliza gel is going to protect you if she did you wrong. Be a Muslim and get strong. It's going to happen to her too. Don't be crazy. The system that dude did you wrong? He was lying to you. He wasn't straight up and you feel like this whole year that you put this time in and this loyalty and and this sacrifice, and it turns around. He really didn't want you. When it was time to get divorce. He's like, hey, whatever

you want. Okay, and you are blown away and you want

don't spaz out. Sisters pass out, leave Islam, argue with him, start cursing at him. Take him to court, get a knife run him over in the car.

He did it to you fee Allah, it happened back to him and Allah knows best. That's how we gotta look at it.

As it relates to this issue, when you feel that

Oh Allah, anyone who takes responsibility of anything of my ummah, and his rough be rough as you do be done unto you. Second point I want to bring about this hadith is that the hadith is general, O Allah, anyone who takes responsibility for anything concerning my ummah, for an example.

He is the father of the house. So he's responsible for that OMA those Muslims, and he's rough and tough. Allah make it rough on him.

Like I said before, some people as soon as they dad as soon as their pops, as soon as Daddy oak is keys hit that dog. People started scattering like the roaches when the lights come on. They don't want to be in His presence. They add it in because that brother, that man, something's wrong with him. He could have grown up somewhere in Africa and I'm not against African. I'm a proud African man. But he grew up he was abused. Something happened to him. He was not educated. He grew up hating

people, so he's rough with his skin

He's even Pakistani from wherever he's from, wherever he's from. He's an African American grew up real rough, and doesn't know how to deal with his kids. He doesn't know how

he does and that's the reality of many of us.

He's responsible for those Muslims. And he's roughing tough, is general. He is He is the imam in the masjid. He's responsible and in the hook, but he's always talking real rough and tough and nasty and condescending. Closing a go of ROM and hope. I'm the people Allah make you rough on him.

He's in the madressa. He's in a madrasa. He is the more alum in the madressa for the Chabad and he's rough and tough. He takes the little little homies just a little kid and he's purely in his in his smaller than the other kids who are five, six, he looks like he's three or four. No, he's small. The teacher takes a little stuff like this.

Or even worse than that. He gets tired of the baby crying is because he has to work it and he takes a little infant has like this. And that Shaken Baby Syndrome.

Are you serious man? Are you serious?

molesting a kit?

Are you serious?

He gets married to a lady who has children that allow his stepchildren and he's rough with them.

He just want their moms he doesn't want them. And he's, oh Allah. Anybody who puts himself now in the Hadith really is about the Khalifa. It's about the Khalifa. Allahumma min Walia. Min Emery Almighty che is about the Khalifa leader, ami leader, the Khalifa the Imam, he becomes responsible for the online he's rough and tough, be referred. It's about him. But his general. It's not just it said anyone who takes responsibility for anything.

And that's a lot. He is a dying he's giving Dawa. This book is called a Dawa with Dwight the Dow, what we're calling to, and those who are calling. Well, this hadith shows us take it easy man. You've been made responsible for aspects of the Dawa. And all you have to offer the OMA is someone souls innovate and so on. So as a cashier, so and so doesn't know the breadwinner this the deobandis or that? Now for this and you're this and that. That's all you have, man. You mean to tell me you

can't make us happy? Look, look, listen to what I'm telling you right now listen to what I'm telling you.

He's rough and tough in his tower. But the prophet said salah, anybody who puts gentleness in something that beautifies it. So he is a person who is an innovator,

innovator, but he has the gift of gab, and he smiles. And he's easy. So he's telling people comforting shidduch. He's teaching them from the Muslims. But he's gentle, and he's nice, and he's smiling. And as a result of that, it makes them more apt to believe him and to fall into that stuff. And this is one of the reasons the Prophet says Allahu alayhi wa under it he was salam

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Callie Manasa Eileen, Eileen le San, the thing that I'm most fearful for my ummah is a hypocrite who has the gift of gab. He's up there and he's talking about the mole it and has a nice and yummy and he's nice, articulate and easy and smiling. He even knows the importance of smile, just nice. And the people say, Man, wow, look at that. Gotta be the right thing.

And then he had a guy who is the saw hip hop, he has the truth, but he's rough and tough. Now there's some rough and tough people will like him who gravitate towards that and it appeals to them. But the ayat said it was a rotten from Allah Yeah, Mohammed that you you would gentle and easy with them if you are rough and tough able to run away.

So those people identify with that roughness something wrong with them. Because the fitrah the natural disposition is don't be rough and tough on me, man.

Don't be rough and tough on me. I'm older than you. Don't talk to me like that. don't deal with me like that. I may be wrong. I may made a mistake, but I'm telling you people don't talk to me like that.

I'm old, didn't you

If you can lodge your complaint and you could discuss with me, and you could tell me that was wrong, but don't talk to me like that don't deal with me like that. For men Xuyen Allahu Suwa are many.

There are who has Allah is the One who has evil deeds, they are made to appear good to him, he sees them as good. So the person was older than him. And his mind does something wrong to him. And he goes off towards the person. And he believes that that action is sentient. Because his DS is bad D was made to appear to him good, because you got it. Brother, you keep existing like that. I'm telling you, I'm telling you, you're going to make fitna for yourself and fitna for people.

So the Prophet was a phrase Allahu alayhi wa sallam, from the monastic who knew how to talk and knew how to deal with people. Don't be like that. Be a diary, who knows when to be rough and tough. You sit in there, and there are bunch of people sitting there. And they're trying to say all of the spokes of the wheel lead to the center, right? So the lesbian Muslim lady says you up. And then the liberal one says, yup, and then the feminist one who doesn't wear hijab says Yup. And then they just

keep coming down on line. And then it comes your turn.

And you're the trophy winning in line and everybody says something worked out, you know, it's worked out. Your turn comes up, you say, Kayla will lie he

put all of them said is not right. What's the truth is this, this, this this? Clearly and with respect.

Clearly and with respect, we're not telling you just get along with the people say the truth when it has to be said.

This hadith of the Prophet of Islam sulla, who it he was, it was setting them as we were mentioning, it is talking about the leader of the Muslims, but it applies to everybody. Some of you are mudra you're the moodier. Give them a deer at your job. Maurice sins.

The hamburger joint. I'm gonna say burger joint because people get offended when you say ham burger. I don't even know hamburgers, man. I grew up calling them hamburgers. I don't eat hammock. You know, in Malaysia, in Malaysia, you can go and say let me have a hot dog. Because they think you want a dog that's been cooked. And I don't want no dog that is a hot dog. So in Malaysia, you can't even use that word.

They will look at you because it's their culture. I'm not putting them down. You eat dogs. You have to ask for a sausage.

Now man, give me a hot dog man. Like in America hot dog. That means that a no good, they crush up the bones, the eyes, the ears, everything. He may give you a hot dog. That's what that is. That's what I want with ketchup and all that stuff on it. So the point here is

that Khalifa can be rough and tough. But this is talking about the moody what's the moody?

Hmm.

What? The manager, you're the manager, you're the supervisor. And you're roughing tough with all of the workers under you. And from them on Muslims. You are rough and tough. Now again, I look at some of the mixed martial artists in the audience. And you know, sometimes we have to come back and make things clear. So people don't misunderstand. What if I'm training somebody in mixed martial arts? When I'm training him? Should I push him to get the most out of him? He's a weightlifter. And I keep

saying push push. Or should I be saying push,

push? No, she's actually a punishment, push. And then when he kept pushing no more, I hope I'm a little bit until he gets it up. And that last one, because that's the one that builds strength in his mind. And in his body. The one he had no strength to get it up. But he just kept fighting you will help him

these non Muslims out he and the Marines and America and not only learn IBM and some of these companies, these big fortune 500 companies, they'll take their workers and take them to an Olympic size pool, push them into the water and make them hold their breath and today think they're gonna die.

And they keep doing that until the person overcomes fear and he's able to manage himself. When it first happens, he swears he's gonna die. But they keep doing that and training him how to deal with pressure under pressure. Then when he's under pressure, he's just moving reflexes.

So in this context, I'm not talking about that. Make your son strong. Make yourself strong, son every time you start crying, Hey, man, we ain't got no root poles up in here. We ain't got that up in here, man. Don't cry, suppress yourself talk handle that. That's not me. But if you see that your son is kind of soft, take it easy, man. Don't break his spirit. Don't make him into a man. He's gonna grow out of that Inshallah, with your supervision and your support and stuff like that. He'll

come out of that, but his nature just can be he's an easy, nice kid like that. And then the other kid, he's a rough one. He's a roughneck. That one is the one you have to cool him out. It's all about balance that one. So the point of all of this, we're getting down with Allah subhanaw taala. And we are responsible for the Ummah, your family, take it easy

and giving Dawa to your family, our families, take it easy, be gentle. Let that sister be gentle to the husband and vice versa. For my African American

brothers and sisters who may be listening to you as well. You know, in America, this lady, Oprah Winfrey, Oprah, she's very famous. There's another African American woman, she's like, relationships expert, I name is Leanna Leanna. Making a point. I saw this thing today with this lady liana. She's trying to help the husband and the wife to you know, come together. And sometimes these people have more knowledge than us, even a co founder. They teach you how to be in a relationship. You know, Ted

TV, you go to ted TV, and you're just putting in how to control anger. And a guy get up and tell you how to become a better better public speaker. They'll tell you how to fall in love. They'll tell you with nice cannon that's beneficial inspiration, informative sometimes. So this lady Illa, Illa. Ileana, she told the girl, go ahead and tell them what you feel. So the lady sat down. She said, Well, I just want to let you know that your children who don't come from me but your children, they

don't respect me and they sleep all day. And that lady said hey, hold up, hold up.

Come over here. Tell her to sit here and the lady in Jana Ilana, she got she said listen, she started to say let's see your children. I want them to grow up to be good men like you. And I just want you to be and the way she did it showed you that's how you get the honey from the bee.

That's how you get the honey for your wife come as soon as you come into the door. You got a rough day and everything you trying to be soft in here. As soon as you come in to Hey, you never did any good for me in your life. I want to go home yet. Come on and then he blows up that either way you do it be easy with that man. There's the peanuts, there's the bee nests, the bees nests.

And they're protecting that queen. I've seen with my own eyes these people go without gloves. And they take the honey off bees on them and and again stone because they're calm. They're cool. They're collected not a single piece things that I don't like bees. I was young, and I went to a swimming pool and it was a B float and I thought he was dead. I went to pick him up that Joker stung my hand. That's the only time I was stung by a bee and I've been skinning him till this day. skill to be

become around studying to be at hygiene to be I got up and got up to 10 I'm not getting stung by a bee if I can help it and I'm gonna run you over to get out. No being gentle. I'm getting mad at that please. I'll never forget the beast on them. I never forget it.

But here this person goes and he takes the thing to be doesn't stink them. And then here the young person come. Prophet Muhammad Sallallahu sallam said that the honey is a cure for everything. This is the pure honey. Give me that bat. Give me that bat. And then he hits the beans

and the bees coming kill them.

Sting them all over kill him. And he scratches his head after he's dead. He said what happened? Brother You were sure do you want me to shed it? Prophet Muhammad says sunlight it was set in June Tunis was never put inside of something like getting the honey from the big you know our wives have honey right? That I don't know about you. Don't you call your wife honey.

How many of you call your wives honey, man? I mean, you got nobody. Hey, honey. Hey, baby. Hey, boo. Hey, Little Mama. Hey, Mommy.

He doesn't know those words. Nor does he ever say hello

Have you? I want to thank you. He never says that. And she never says big papa. Big Daddy. Hey,

why are you laughing? Is that funny? I thought that was normal. Yeah, my wife say, hey, a big papa. Well, I love it when you call me big papa, what's wrong with that? Because they like, what's wrong with it?

So the shade of the Quranic whiny is just that it's better for us to laugh and to be cool, within reason. But everybody, he has to look at himself. So some people in the audience and they started the data source like this.

And it's still like that. So okay, man, you want that vocal, he said, I'm in hajj, I can't help that, but that's what we're talking against.

People give Dawa, to a sunnah and said if he and you rough and tough, that you can't wait to expel people from the Senate fear to Baraka.

We should want people to be on a safe here. What is self here? A set of years, that keytab in the Sunnah and understanding this religion the way those campaigns that's all take it easy, easy. Last thing that we want to mention whiny concerning today's Doris, is that

I want to challenge you in a nice way as your big brother, your older brother, I want to challenge you. I want to challenge you to try to constantly remember for the rest of the day, 24 hours, just a test like you know, challenge. Try to remember, be gentle. No matter what's going on everything that's going on. We're going to get up and we're going to leave and I want to roll out I want to bounce. There's someone here who came from Warsaw, they came from somewhere. I don't know where they

came from, and they came loose. Stop me to talk. I gotta get back to the house. Man, I gotta get back to my crib. I live in Leeds. I'm here now. I got to be with my family with my crew. I told you people before my wife had that. Corona. Bless her. People asked me because I said in a hobo how your wife doing now your family says she's okay. I'm de la. She's getting on my nerves. So she's, she's okay, now. She's normal now. Because you do in my head. And before she when she was sick, she

wouldn't do in my head and I was the one who was worried. But now she's okay. Because she's back to normal. She's back to normal. I gotta get back to the credit.

As I'm going out, the brother came from London what? I need to talk to you

all right brother was going on. And he has some complicated issue. Man, I didn't sign up for this when I came here.

Boo, boo, boo. A riff in Allah Rafiq, will you have brief?

I'm challenging you. I'm challenging you.

Just keep thinking about it. And you're gonna see it 20 This hadith fits every single human encounter that we have.

Every moment that you're alive and you're dealing with people, there are things that you could be gentle, and the things that you could just be your normal self that you're used to are boo Hi boo blood pressure

is going to kill you.

We ask Allah subhana wa Tada to save us from high blood pressure. We ask Allah wa Tada for giving us hearts that are hard and dead in course. And we ask Allah Tala to make us of those who are the Ruhama have mercy upon those who have the earth. And the one who is over the heavens will have mercy upon you. That companion, he had a slave and he was upset. And he was rebuking the slave and hitting the slave. He was wrong with you, you better get with it. And he calls this a slave complaint going

off Rasulullah Salallahu Salam came from behind him and said to that man and Amanda and see you don't have more power over that slave than what Allah has over you. You want to treat him like that the power you have power over him, over your wife over your kid power over them. But the power you have over them, doesn't equal doesn't compare to the power that Allah has over you. Eliza Joe can send a fly. Go up your nose and kill you right now. Allah doesn't need a fly. Allah will stop that

heart from pee in a get one more pump. That's it, you got a heart attack, you got a stroke. Allah will cause you to have an aneurysm where a vein in your brain suddenly pops. You're going to eat food and you get choked. The bone went down your throat and you're dead.

So you just remember that

foot a real rough and tough joke

From amongst us, when you go back home, you don't smile.

Now I'm wondering, and I want to say, I'm the roughest of you all. So this canal means to me.

And I go back home. I'm the roughest of you all. So don't think I'm trying to put you out. But those of you who are like me rough and tough, don't sit there and say you can't do it. You have to say no, I can do it. I can do it. But what's going to happen is it's going to require effort. The hadith says nama al Hellmuth Hello, the way you become gentle is to force yourself it's not in you. Some of us are naturally gentle naturally. This brother mashallah is naturally gentle my man right here

naturally gentle

stop there. This right here is naturally gentle right here my Shala naturally but some of us are roughnecks you know, like alligator skin alligator skin some of us like that rough mix.

So for the roughnecks you know who you are?

Say to yourself, Man, I'm gonna stop this nonsense, because it's not right. And I know what's not right. Allah has allowed the shaytaan to make my bad deeds and behavior appear if this is okay, I'm justifying the way I'm dealing with people. I'm justifying it it didn't even go the way I'm thinking it went but it appears that way to me. It appears that way to me.

So may Allah will try to give us all the tofu can shout Allahu Taala in our dollar we want to go back today and want to say to our wives and our children I love you I'm sorry and stuff like that. And those little babies that you have, pick them little babies up and kiss them little babies and after you kiss them and play with them you know and stuff like that. Then it's okay to around you know just make vicar and get stuff together. Alright when if you have any questions about today's

DeRosa question for Michelle law any questions?

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nah, not at all brothers not always, is not always the brothers that I read. There's an authentic hadith where the Prophet SAW Allah while he was sending them he said

that is always a tool and Murata. It's not permissible for a woman to marry off another woman as the wedding. So some of us know of aunties Auntie's, they're the ones who stand up like they're the willy for their daughters when it comes time for the mica. The father is in the background. It's the auntie her mother was running stuff.

Rasul Allah says Allah What do you say to them Latin Allah. And Neutrogena, Mina region, and Moto G Mina regional Binny set for Moto G La Mina nisab region. May Allah curse those men who act like women, and those women who act like men are riddled with Kawhi, Mulan and missa men are the ones who have the authority over women, not muscles and all that you in charge, go get a job, pay the bills, help the family you're a man, you're the man. But there are some women brother, who are rough and

tough. And one of the problems we have in this democracy and this this political correctness on steroids today. Are you a he or she are they? How many days are you? What are you? Well, I was born a man but I want you to see me and call me a fly. I'm a fly. And if you don't recognize me as a fly, a Buddha of blue Bob Bob's, if you don't recognize me sitting he has a fly. I'm going to take you to jail. I want my rights. Are you serious? That's the time we're living in right now. This is a time

that we're living in right now.

So we have some Muslim women who are beating up the men. The domestic violence is coming from the woman. She's jackin him up.

And I don't want to stereotype this but some people have this more than others. Some cultures like I'm African. I'm proud to be African. But I've seen very aggressive African women.

Very aggressive.

I'm not stereotyping but I've seen very aggressive African women

but also saw women from Pakistan. Hmm aggressive. So yeah,

Absolutely right brother. There are people sitting in this audience who your question resonated with them because they know of a woman who's like that. And if one of our daughters, she is like that it's your job to defend your daughter. But you have to tell your daughter I'm gonna defend you from this man oppressing you but this is not a right that were you talking to him?

The way you deal with him. Brother came wanna marry my daughter you want to marry to brother's daughter want to marry a daughter? And he come and you can see his um, he's he's weak. You know, your daughter's personality is stronger after the meeting and everything. Now you can't marry my daughter man. Because you come into the battle with a butter knife.

You got a butter knife, you know the butter knife on the bread. You won't matter my daughter you got to bring a sword not to chop her head off because it's hammer time if you do that, but to be able to deal with her because her personality is stronger than yours.

Compatibility any more questions acquainting him or questions going habibi.

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said in many Hadith, Sal, Allahu Allah, you send them I fear for my nation, that they're going to be destroyed by what destroy the people before them. He said a lot of things. I fear for I don't fear for you that actually common factor. I'm not a faith that you're poor. Some of us don't have money. We live in month to month, week to week, we got no money. I don't have any money. We don't have any money. I'm not fearful that you're hungry, you don't have money to buy all this stuff. What I can

assure you they come. What the thing that I fear for you is the dunya.

And then it will cause you to race for it against one another. And you will do everything to do by hook and crook to get it the way that people did before you enable destroy by it and it will destroy you. Another thing he said, I fear that you're going to be destroyed by the heart attack by the reason as it destroy the communities before you. He said the rays I'm talking about is not the reason that cuts show ahead. It's not that reason to cut your hair. I feel for you the highlight

that will cut your dean was the highlight of that cut your dean being jealous.

One of the best students he is the brother. He was sitting over there. Now last class, he corrected me on the ayat and stuff like that multiple times. The person says Danny as Huck has it, because he corrected

What's wrong with you that destroy Benny Surat eel that destroy them people. So they a lot of things that he used to tell the people should destroy them.

Me Zahn the cheating people. Again, I saw on social media slicksters man, the lady went to buy the thing. And a guy who does it all day every day Muslim to Muslim. Soon as she turns her head, he puts something down and he puts the rock on and and the lady just walk away. none the wiser. Some people just ripping us off like that. You have to go into the store and tell him and I know all the tricks, you got to be looking at people, I don't trust you. And we have to be like that with each other.

Nobody is going to steal one penny from me, I work hard for mine. But if you just go and I told my wife this all the time, don't be going to Morrison in the marketplace is walking like this and your bag is open.

And you just walk in like this, you better go in here thinking people in me and the only need to rob me. So close your bag and put it in front of you don't push it. This is what we got to do before we end this 20 Last thing I want to advise you is you know, we have to protect ourselves and we have to be strong. Maybe you're not going to lift weights maybe not going to run maybe you're not going to do mixed martial arts. But I would advise you to go on the internet and to start watching those

jujitsu experts who analyze real fights that happen in the street, real fights, and they say you see how you did this wrong. He gave him his back. He shouldn't have done that. You see he's not paying attention. He has tunnel vision with the guy giving them drama. He doesn't even see that guy had five people with him who came behind him. So that when you find yourself in that situation, because you've been studying it, you start looking around because you ride the train.

So on the train you aware of that. You guys understand what I'm talking about. Instead of wasting your time watching tick tock and just one app and love it as those

I'm going to help you with anything. Go on that. That social media and look at how those jujitsu experts break down confrontations, the do's and and not do's. And I'm not saying because I want you to go to Dinesh I'm not saying that. I'm saying so that you can learn how to defend yourself that if you had to step up, you stepping up to the pump and you bring in noise, you're going to bring in noise.

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