Hadith #26 – The Way to Educate & Cultivate
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But even outside of $1 just your own mental health, our mental health,
protection protecting our interpersonal relationships with those who are closest to us.
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That is from the Giovanna and Kelim. Those things that the Prophet says on the law, why do you send them now many words, but it has far reaching implications deserves being studied. Even after this Doris go back and look into it more.
Our mother I Isha. She narrated the Hadith from last week.
And she's the narrator of the Hadith this week, two weeks in a row. We have a lady who was from the realm of companions.
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the chef put to Hadith in a row and they both start off with the same thing. And both are centered around Isha or she's the one narrating it she's the one who heard it.
Last week, he was looking at the Kaaba eye issues looking at the Kaaba, Salama what he was sending them more of the olana and he said yeah, Isha Lola and Colemak Hadith who Adam Bill J havia Isha if it wasn't for the fact that your people were new or they just came out of Javea and he went and told this hadith is similar to that
he started the Hadith off and he said Allah when he was setting them yeah Isha
in Allah are a few spoon where you hit boo. A riff
while your tea or a riff Mala your Tiara run Milan Euro tea I don't see why
yeah Isha and each and every one of us is in the place of I ish as if the Nabi is talking to you.
Yeah Isha. Yeah, Sharif? Yeah. Bilaam Yeah. Tell me about Osama Yeah, for Lima. I learned
Yeah, Isha. Verily, Allah is a few. Allah is gentle, kind, easy. If you want to punish all of you for what you've done. He wouldn't have left a single one of you on the earth. I said, Well, lo you asked for the love NAS be me him. My Taraka they come in DAPA. If Allah wanted to hold everybody on the earth for what they've done, he would not have left a single person on the earth. Not one of the people sit in here.
Yeah, Aisha. Verily, Allah is gentle, easy.
And he loves gentleness and he loves easiness.
And he gives to the one who was gentle. That which he does not give to the one who was rough and tough and mean and coarse and harsh.
And he doesn't give to anyone, even the ones not rough course. Maybe the ones quiet. Maybe the one who's a coward. Even those people they are weak and they need a lot of help. He doesn't even give to them. The way he gives to the one who goes out of his way is in his way to be
into an easy
verily, Allah is gentle,
and he loves gentleness and he gives to the one who was gentle. That which he does not give to the woman who was rough and tough a monster.
And that was he doesn't give to anyone other than Him.
This hadith is a Hadith that shows us the bankrupt nature of the house of many of the Muslims.
The unfortunate situation that is the reality of some of our homes.
And that in some homes, all you find in the home is cursing and swearing and hatred.
You find in the home disrespect you find in a home domestic violence you find in the home, they don't give salons they don't want to deal with each other. That's not gentle. And last night is everybody who's doing that in his home. He thinks the hackers with him. I'm not giving synonyms because they did this to me. Or I'm going to be rough with my mother rough and my son rough with my daughter rough with everybody. I'm clashed with everybody because the haka is with me rough and tough. That person doesn't get his way and he explodes he screams he's cursing.
Another Hadith similar to this he said
there's nothing that has gentleness gentleness is put inside of something except the gentleness purifies it. And gentleness was never taken out of something except immediate, ugly.
So gentleness was put inside of the home is going to make their home beautiful. The man and his wife they love each other they kiss they hug when they come together. someone makes a mistake, mileage, no problem. Even when they get upset they forgive they taught the kids how you doing what's going on kiss a hug.
But like I said, the SF shady that
many of the homes of the Muslims are dysfunctional.
Many of the homes of the Muslims are violent.
I mean, it's crazy.
This hadith of the NABI sallallahu alayhi wa ala it will send them in when it goes to show from the characteristics of Allah azza wa jal, unlike the Yahoo Denver NESARA, who can say whatever they want to say about their religion, this Halloween thing that just happened, had nothing to do with Christianity and a Seminole Merriam,
but the Celtics, the Welsh, these people, Europeans, that came into a slam after being pagans. And when they came into a slam, they introduced into
they were pagans, they came into Christianity. And after coming to Christianity, they introduced into Christianity, their paganism. And my mother who was an African American Christian, his practice in Halloween and she doesn't know why. Has nothing to do with a seven Marian nothing.
So they say what they want. They believe what they want about a lot and is liberal. That's not the deen of Allah.
We only believe a lot his characteristics the way he described himself. And the way the Prophet described a lot. Don't come as a Muslim say, Maybe Allah is a woman. Maybe Allah is a black man. Maybe Allah is a monkey hashanah Allah. Maybe Allah is a force may the force be with you that's not in the Quran. And sunnah ko from the land. What Allah said about himself lemmya Can loco for one.
All of those Ayat describing this hadith describes Allah, very Eliza of fear. He is gentle, and he loves gentleness. So the ideal shows Allah's gentle, easy kind, and he loves. He loves in a way that befits His Majesty. He doesn't love the way I love you the way you love me the way I love my kids where you know he loves the way that befits His Majesty. We don't know the reality of it. But this hadith shows that we stopped there.
Early Allah He loves and he is gentle. Subhanahu wata Anna.
Listen to me. One of the most important characteristics in Al Islam is the characteristic of being soft and easy and kind to the creation. It's mentioned over and over in the Quran and the Sunnah.
Forgive overlook be easy Be kind, be gentle. Your mother, your child, this that don't divorce go all of these is an ID thing yet. It's one of those characteristics that the Muslims are not taking care of we are rough and tough and harsh, rough and tough in harsh
how we deal with people. We don't think constantly. Let me be gentle, let me be easy. And I'm gonna tell you something as you get older, when you're young, no problem. But as you get older, you start getting high blood pressure and all that stuff. Being rough and tough will kill you.
It will kill you.
Because it's a state that's not healthy. So you have to start learning and developing Take it easy. Take it easy people about the fight over nothing.
But taxi guy, the taxi driver drops him off. And he can't open the door say oh man open the door. He's trying to open the door man.
He didn't require all of that.
And he's like that with everything just excited. He goes to the store, he wants to buy something something simple, and he blows up and explodes like these firecrackers, fireworks that go he's like that Whoa, whoa, whoa, Boo Boo. All over the place over nothing.
Keep living your life like that you're gonna die and kill yourself. Have mercy upon yourself. As the Prophet said, being gentle to this ummah. His companions are traveling and go up the mountain. And when you go up an elevated thing, they said, Allahu Akbar, that's what you do. You're going to lift up the stairs, Allahu Akbar. This stays in your home, Allahu Akbar. Because the more stairs you go up, the more elevated Allah is over his throne, and you're saying Allah is Allah, like when you make such del sub beers, subdistrict rub Sabir.
Say it again.
Now when we encourage them
to kind of become suppiler, rub Bill Allah you put your head on the floor, and you say Glory to Allah the most Hi, I'm down here. So as you go up,
you go closer in the sky and stuff to the auto show you say Allahu Akbar. So the Companions when they will go up, they will say that and when they come down, they will say supine Allah, Allah's night down.
I go down, Allah is not down lies in the opposite direction. So those companions are writing and when everything was scream, Allahu Akbar screaming
Rasul Allah Surya you and nice are baru, Adam physical, may you people take it easy on yourselves. You're not calling one who was far away absent and can't hear. You're talking and you're calling on one who was close, and he can hear Subhana wa taala. Take it easy on yourselves. But he is trying to help people take it easy. Don't kill yourself with that anger, screaming and how are you going to kill somebody else?
Row reach. And you didn't expect it to wind up like that, but you got out, you punched him and he fell hit his head. He's dead. You got out, he pulled out a knife and stabbed you. And after you guys stat. And if you didn't expect that you didn't expect today you will get stabbed in your heart, in your liver in your spleen. You got to stop. And as that blood is going out, you say oh man, I know this was gonna happen, but it's too late now.
So a risk is never put inside of your Qalam in your speech in your dealings in your dour in your home in your heart, except that it beautified whatever is put in and anything that is taken out of it is going to make that thing ugly.
So, it is not befitting for our OMA to neglect the importance of take it easy man and have rotten upon people and what's wrong with you. He's a little brothers your little sister. She's your frickin mother.
And then the way you behave towards your mother make sure brother want to crack your head open.
Just take it easy.
As it relates to Allah's ease and gentleness, just look at his names that he described himself. He is a man. He's a Rahim. He is a Latif a Latif a lot like this brother sitting with his son laying down he got his hands around him that's looked right there. That your son can be close to you and on you like that chillin. Okay, that's how it is when he's about five years old.
560s came in relax,
chop my head a give me my head man pick my head up and put my head back on. Put your sword away man, little man.
Now like that, be a man.
But when that boy after 10 years from now in sha Allah, can him in his dad walk down the street holding hands hugging? Can they show that same affection? And it's natural?
Why is it that as he grows old as our children have grown, when they were young, they're beautiful, they're cute and all that, especially for the fathers. The mother is going to always love that kid in sha Allah. But the father's is cute when he's little and all that but as they grow their manhood these people your problem.
That's a lot. That's look how many people here can kiss their fathers on the cheek,
on the forehead, on the nose, how many can hug his father say it to his father love you right now, how many? Some of us we can do that? Not because we don't love and respect them. It's just not how we were raised. It's just not you know the reality of our situation.
So Allah is Al Rahman Al Rahim, Al Latif ginto. Al Halim, this is named Al Halim, Abdul Halim, the one who is for over like, really, really easy with someone. He is an awful, you know, in Ramadan, and Nikka foon to HIPAA. Finally, Allah you forgive you Pardon, pardon me a lie is a laugh who loves to forgive. You made a mistake. You made a big mistake.
Xena, mistake of not praying mistake of whatever it is, and you may Toba, Allah is an awful forgive all of that stuff. Some of us can't forgive people for stepping on his toes stepping on his shoes, can't forgive them for pushing them at the Kaaba, at the cabbie gets pushed gets pushed. And he can't be easy at Aqaba. What do you think you're going to prove? By screaming and shouting and arguing with the other pilgrim who may have been pushed into you or he may be ignorant. He has that exuberance but just so nobody pushed me around nobody take my heart. Yo Hodge take it easy man. Punch you in your face knock you out right here at the Kaaba put you in a coma? Hammer time.
Hey man, a guy pushed me right. I was trying to avoid the old lady What you talking about?
At the Kaaba, be gentle brother What's wrong with you?
So all of those names and attributes of Eliza gel they show the loss of Hannah Madonna himself is gentle with us forgiving.
So it's not acceptable. We have to change this reality and change this narrative of being so intolerant of people. This is one of the big reasons a big Michiganders with die ish
killing people the tech fees mainly to roughing tough then people go overboard and to do this you that is one of the Take it easy man they don't know the condition of the people.
So as it relates to this hadith of the newbies of Allahu alayhi wa and it was sending them listen when I just want to mention to you too, if everybody memorizing everybody heard them before, too I get from them was many is that put a lot of emphasis on the gentleness that Allah wants from us and that he put in this religion. He said about the Prophet sallallahu it was sending them were Arosa, NACA Illa Rahmatullah and I mean, we sent you as a rattler to everybody everybody knows that I so why you so rough and tough luck kinda look comfy. Rasulullah he also has an A you have in him a perfect example. And Allah sent him as a Rama. He was a Rama to the kids Rama to animals Rama to his
friend's wife, his grandchildren. He was a Rama to the enemy. He was on Rama we know that but some of us are like an ignited fire or TNT TNT or see for even see for we are ready to explode at any moment.
That's when I wear my or a sonata even within Milan. I mean, you're giving Dawa and you've been sent to give Dawa. You are Rama to everybody.
The other ayat statement of Allahu Taala Phoebe ma Mehta min Allah Hui Lin tell Taylor who are looking to further than relieving them for boomin housing. We all know this if we all heard this if it was a Rama from Allah pine
You young Muhammad and them that you were gentle and you easy with them if you are rough and tough with them, they will run away.
Many of us would not have embraced this land. If Rasul Allah didn't bring a religion and a sunnah that was gentle and easy. Why in a world with a revert girl? She's clubbing she's partying. She doesn't even have to do that. She's a nice girl but start wearing hijab. Why would she come into this religion put hijab on if this religion was just punching in the face and slapping her and telling like you're nothing
say I don't have to be a Muslim. Not this was this religions are Rama Taha. So she accepts Islam and she expects to be dealt with in that way. Rama those two if no one here except that he heard those two if then why are we rough in tough all the time?
We hear things about people we hate him.
He looked at us if we can't even smile and this religion when you meet someone and you smile it's a sadhaka dude is so big heels so stingy, he can't even smile can't even smile can give that up. He got a mean milk you like he's been eating lemons all day long. As if it's something manly about that. Be gentle, brava be easy, be kind. So assertive, these two ayat of the Quran. Prophet Muhammad was the Sayed of Benny Adam. No one here is close to him in terms of his position with Allah and His reality.
Our sins being short, nor that we fall short of the mark. No one is close to him ear. And yet, he was more gentle to the people in the creation than anyone here anyone. So I don't think is worth my while to try to be like him. He's better than me. And he was gentle. He's stronger than me. He was gentle. If someone here tried to wrestle the Prophet of Islam, in our audience, we have MMA people. I grew up fighting. I'm going to scare people. I see the guy 280 pounds. He's bigger than me. When we're gonna fight. I'm not scared of him. I think I can win. But if a guy is MMA from what I saw, man scared to tell you this. He bumped into me I look at them. I see those cauliflower ears. I'm
gonna say go ahead, brother big man. Go ahead, man. Because I know he grapples I don't grapple. I box you but that do grapples and he'll kick me from 10 feet away. Kick my head off how to stop that. It's like a person who has a gun or a knife. That's a big man. Glad you didn't let me live. I got babies. I want to see. I don't have any problem with that.
We have mixed martial artists in this message straight up. MMA people in this Masjid right now.
If the best one here, what to fight and wrestle with the Nibi of Islam. So the light was settled up. He was split you in half from his strength and yet he was the most Chintu person and I can't be gentle with my wife.
Something's probably problems. Some of the problem shaytaan shaytaan. So then a B Sallalahu. It was setting them was a gentleman and he told us take it easy strong with you. Yes, yes. Don't get it twisted. There is a time to be strong, rough and tough and mainly
the defending your deen your honor your family, then be a lion be an ignited fire. Make them people you know regret the day their mother gave birth to them. You didn't
come to my house and do what did that to my what?
You're going to regret the day you came to this earth. But that's not we're talking about. We're talking about just taking it easy and dealing with people, especially those who are close to us.
So Rasulullah sallallahu, it was sending them brought a religion that shows Rama how I am going to go through all of that. But look the issue of a dog rich at the root from the word Daraja Daraja means like this to go up, and Mirage to go up and Israa when Mirage at the dog which means to do things in degrees. This is one of the mercies of this religion, the ram of this religion and that things are without a doubt Rouge
and Latson Quran Allah Who levy halacha sama YT will erode the well being you know who my fee sit the T im and filma stoah and an outage. Allah is the One Who created the heavens and the earth and everything that's between them and six days and after that he
rolls over the throne. He did that into dirt which is easy for Allah to say, Come and it just all happened. But he did it in six days. Not because he needed six days not because it made him tired and he got to get rest is because it's teaching us a lesson. Take it easier to do rich. You will newly married man. Just the beginning of the marriage. She can't cook. She just got out of her house. Take it easy.
What's wrong with you? He's a brand spanking new Muslim. Take it easy.
Today Rouge. The Prophet says Allah while he was setting them in the cool huge amount roofie but me me are burying the young men. NOFA familia Canonica Timothy that to me, I cannot cut and defer that. Each and every one of you is brought together in his mother's womb. For 40 days as a sperm you're in there 40 days. And then 40 next days 80 You're a leech you are in olika you are this other this other creation a little bigger. And then for the next 40 days you become a more sort of flesh. And then the angel is sent and told to breathe into you to spirit of life and to write down for three hours could have created you just like that.
No, but there's Tada Rouge
because Allah needed that. No teaching you a lesson. If Allah Allah Kofi Annan Mateen Aziz al Jabbar al wa sir. If he did this, and he showed you these days, take it easy.
I'm gonna take it easy. I'm gonna take it easy.
Take it easy. Allah is teaching us when the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam came with Islam. He didn't make Hummer haram Shirov alcohol haram right away. Do catering to slam he's smoking weed. That's what he does. But we take it easy, man. Take it easy with him.
Don't cut his head off. Don't blast him. Take it easy with him.
She's a new brand new spanking Muslim. She can't wear hijab. Yes, the first month. Take it easy, man. Take it easy. Allah didn't reveal the hijab right away on the companions.
And when the hijab was revealed, our mother I Isha said Rahim, Allah Who Nisa and SAR may Allah have mercy upon the unser women, when the hijab I yet will reveal and sort of to nor they got up and they went home, and they took all of their Tomash the material and it was black, and he put it on and they came out and he looked like crows, black crows. But why did they do that? Because prior to the hijab that is being revealed, they were getting knowledge about Allah Yokoyama. Tawakkol know all of this stuff. So when the hijab came, they're not used to that and J havia. But when it came, they said that that's from Allah. Let's get busy. Take it easy, man. Take it easy. This dude is a brand
spanking new married man. He is a gold Rila go rela her Ranga Tang, he's about to break something month he's gonna break hey man rather lacks. Take it easy.
She's never been with anybody What's wrong with you?
At the dog which is one of the alleles of the ease of this religion. In Allaha Rafiq, where you Hippogriff, Allah ginto. And he loves gentlemen, and there are many examples just about to diverge from them.
allows subhanho wa Taala as well. When that baby comes out.
The baby goes through the
whole process and is mentioned in the Quran. Look, a little baby infant becomes a towel let go. And then you start to go backwards. You become old afternoon a lot. You don't know anything later on. When you get to that stage. Those people around you have to look at the elder relatives and people walking around. I was gonna share her Mohammed Abu Muhammad, the Yemenis man in law, give him life. And he's praying he's bent almost halfway over. He was praying in front of me.
We see that man and he finishes we should give that man love. How's your health what's going on? You okay? You need anything because I get
an iron. People like him. But some of us have relatives who are like that. No love no acknowledgement. Not only that, we're rough and tough. We steal from them. We go
To our grandmother's house or Oh auntie's house, because we know she's not paying attention and we take our money
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listen to this do are the Rasul of Islam sallallahu alayhi wa It was Sunday he made a dua listen to this blog. He said Aloma man William and Amira, Matty Shea for Shaka Ali him. Ali, listen to this hadith. Oh Allah. Anyone
who becomes responsible for anything concerning my OMA and he's roughing tough with them after being responsible. He's rough and tough. Make it rough and tough on him.
Oh Allah, anyone who assumes responsibility about anything of this OMA and is rough and tough on them than I asked you to be rough and tough on him.
This hadith proves number one very important principle. command to do to Dan as you do, would it be done unto you? It's from the many deals pay attention as you do. It's going to be done into our law. If he's rough on them be rough on him is a deal. Yeah. Are you living in Latin su la Tokunaga? levena Sula, FENSA fan some Memphis have more you believe. Don't be like those who forgot about Allah. So Allah forgot about them. You forgot about Allah forgive Chu,
of corrodi of Korakuen was Caroni when I took Feraud remember me I remember you give thanks. And don't disbelieve. If you do good and come back to you.
You rough and tough you're going to find someone somewhere along the line going to smack your head off. So that's the first thing there are many deals Abdullah bass writing with the property say Oh young man remember Allah Allah remember you remember law you'll find a hymn in front of you. Remember law the good times allow remember you in the bad times. Remember law mean you young, I'll remember you and your old I remember love you got money. I remember you when you don't have money. Remember Allah like Allah, remember, as you do, would it be done unto you? You keep giving your parents a hard time. You keep giving your family a hard time. You keep being the one who's doing
this. So I'm the one who's doing this, whatever we're doing
that script to be flipped on you. And then you'll have to suffer that. And this is one of the things that 20 Listen. The person his wife did him wrong. And she left him brother, open up your mind. Eliza gel is going to protect you if she did you wrong. Be a Muslim and get strong. It's going to happen to her too. Don't be crazy. The sister the do did you wrong? He was lying to you. He wasn't straight up and you feel like this whole year that you put this time in and this loyalty and and the sacrifice and it turns around. He really didn't want you. When it was time to get divorced. He said whatever you want, okay, and you are blown away and you what?
Don't spies out. Sister spies out, leave Islam, argue with him, start cursing at him, take them to court, get a knife run him over in the car.
He did it to you feel Allah, it happened back to him and Allah knows best. That's how we got to look at it.
As it relates to this issue, when you feel that
Oh ALLAH anyone who takes responsibility of anything of my OMA and is rough be referred as you do be done to you. Second point I want to bring about this hadith is that the hadith is general Allah anyone who takes responsibility for anything concerning my ummah. For example.
He is the father of the house. So he's responsible for that among those Muslims, and he's rough and tough. Allah make it rough on him.
I said before, some people as soon as they dad as soon as their pops, as soon as Daddy Oh, his keys hit that door. People started scattering like the roaches when the lights come on. They don't want to be in His presence. They add it in because that brother, that man some is wrong with him. He could have grown up somewhere in Africa and I'm not against African. I'm a proud African man. But he grew up he was abused. Something happened to him even I'm educated. He grew up hating people, so he's rough with it.
Kids, even Pakistani from wherever he's from, wherever he's from. He's an African American grew up real rough, and doesn't know how to deal with his kids. He doesn't know how
he does and that's the reality of many of us.
He's responsible for those Muslims. And he's rough and tough. His general. He is He is the imam in the masjid. He's responsible and in the hook but he's always talking real rough and tough and nasty and condescending. Closing a goal of ROM and hope I'm the people who Allah Miki rough on him.
He's in the madressa. He's in a madrasa. He is the more alum in the madressa for the Chabad and he is rough and tough. He takes a little little homies just a little kid. You know he's puny in his in his smaller than the other kids who are five, six, he looks like he's three or four. No, he's small. That teacher takes him like this.
Or even worse than that. He gets tired of the baby crying is because he has to work. And he takes the little infant us like this. And the Shaken Baby Syndrome.
Are you serious man? Are you serious?
molesting a kid.
Are you serious?
He gets married to a lady who has children that allow his stepchildren and he's rough with them.
He just want their moms he doesn't want them and he's Allah. Anybody who puts himself now in the Hadith really is about the Khalifa. It's about the Khalifa. Allahumma min Walia. Man Emery on Mati Shea is about the Khalifa leader, any leader, the Khalifa, the Imam, he becomes responsible for the own mine is rough and tough. Be rough it is about him. But it's general. It's not. It said anyone who takes responsibility for anything.
And that's a lot. He is a dying he's given down. This book is called a dour with Dwight. The dour, what we're calling to. And those who are calling. Well, this hadith shows us take it easy man. You've been made responsible for aspects of the Dawa. And all you have to offer the OMA is so and so's innovate and so on. So as a cashier, so and so doesn't know, the Braille is or this the deal Bundys are that we are now for this and you're this and that met. So you have made you mean to tell me you can't make us happy. Look, look, listen to what I'm telling you right now listen to what I'm telling you.
He's rough and tough in his dour. But the prophet said, Allah, anybody who puts Jin teunissen Something that beautifies it. So he is a person who is an innovator,
innovator, but he has the gift of gab, and he smiles. And he's easy. So he's telling people comforting shidduch he's teaching them from the Muslims, but he's gentle, and he's nice, and he's smiling. And as a result of that, it makes them more apt to believe him and to fall into that stuff. And this is one of the reasons the Prophet says sallallahu alayhi wa ala he was setting them
up for my half who I met at
Cooley monastic. Eileen, Eileen Ellison, the thing that I'm most fearful for my ummah, is a hypocrite, who has the gift of gab. He's up there, and he's talking about the Molad and has a NASA and yada yada me that and he's nice, articulate and easy and smiling. He even knows the importance of smile, just nice. And the people say, Man, wow, look at that color. Got to be the right thing.
And then hear the guy who is the saw hip hop, he has to truth, but he's rough and tough. Now there's some rough and tough people will like him who gravitate towards that and it appeals to them. But the ayat said it was a rotten from Allah. Yeah, Mohammed that you were gentle and easy with them. If you are rough and tough, they will run away.
So those people identify with that rough and it's something wrong with them. Because the fitrah the natural disposition is don't be rough and tough on me, man.
Don't be rough in to find me. I'm old dating you don't talk to me like that. don't deal with me like that. I may be wrong. I may made a mistake, but I'm telling you people don't talk to me like that.
I'm only giving you
You can lodge your complaint and you could discuss with me, and you could tell me that was wrong. But don't talk to me like that don't deal with me like that famend Xuyen Allahu Suwa are many.
There, ah hoo ha Santa is the one who has evil deeds, they're made to appear good to him, he sees them as good. So the person was older than him. And his mind did something wrong to him. And he goes off towards the person. And he believes that that action is sentient. Because it's DS is bad D was made to appear to him good, because you got a brother, you keep existing like that. I'm telling you, I'm telling you, you're going to make fitness for yourself and fitness for people.
So the Prophet was afraid of Allah who it was sending them from the monastic who knew how to talk and knew how to deal with people. Don't be like that. Be a diary, who knows when to be rough and tough. You're sitting there, and they're a bunch of people sitting there. And they're trying to say all of the spokes of the wheel we to the center, right? So the lesbian Muslim lady said you up. And then the liberal one says, Yep, and then the feminist one who doesn't wear hijab says Yup. And then they just coming down the line, and then it comes your turn.
And you're the trophy winner in the line and everybody says some whacked out he knows whacked out, your turn comes up you say Kela will lie he
he all him said is not right. What's the truth is this, this this this clearly and with respect.
Clearly and with respect, not telling you just get along with the people say the truth when it has to be said.
Oh, this hadith of the Prophet of Islam, so la Hwanhee. He will and it will send them as we were mentioning, it is talking about the leader of the Muslims but it applies to everybody. Some of you are mudra you're the moodier. Give them a direct your job. Maurice sends
the hamburger joint. I'm gonna say burger joint because people get offended when you say ham burger. I don't eat no hamburgers, man. I grew up calling them hamburgers. I don't eat ham. You know, in Malaysia, in Malaysia, you can't go and say let me have a hot dog. Because they think you want a dog that's been cooked. And I don't want no dog that is a hot dog. So in Malaysia, you can't even use that word.
They will look at you because it's their culture. I'm not putting them down. You eat dogs. You have to ask for a sausage.
No, man give me a hot dog man like in America hot dog. That means that a no good. They crush up the bones, the eyes, the ears, everything and they give you a hot dog. That's what that is. That's what I want. We catch up in all that stuff on it. So the point here is
the Khalifa can be rough in tough. But this is talking about the moody what's the moody?
What? The manager, you're the manager, you're the supervisor. And you're roughing tough with all of the workers under you. And from them are Muslims. You're rough and tough. Now again, I look at some of the mixed martial artists in the audience. And you know, sometimes we have to come back and make things clear. So people don't misunderstand. What if I'm training somebody in mixed martial arts? When I'm training him? Should I push him to get the most out of him? He's a weightlifter and I keep saying push push. Or should I be saying push?
Boosh? No, she's Asha, push mad push. And then when he can push you know more, I help him a little bit until he gets it up. And that last one, because that's the one that builds strength in his mind. And in his body. The one he had no strength to get it up. But he just kept fighting you will help him
these non Muslims out he and the Marines in America. And not only them, IBM in some of these companies, these big fortune 500 companies, they'll take their workers and take them to an Olympic sized pool, push them into the water and make them hold their breath and today think they're gonna die.
And they keep doing that until the person overcomes fear and he's able to manage himself. When it first happens, he swears he's gonna die. But they keep doing that and training him how to deal with pressure under pressure. Then when he's under pressure, he's just moving reflexes.
In this context, I'm not talking about that. Make your son strong. Make yourself strong, son every time you start crying, Hey, man, we ain't got no real Paul's up in here. We got that up in here, man. Don't cry, spread yourself tall candle that. That's not me. But if you see that your son is kind of soft, take it easy, man. Don't break a spirit. Don't make him into a man. He's gonna grow out of that Inshallah, with your supervision and your support and stuff like that. He'll come out of that, but his nature just can be he's an easy, nice kid like that. And then the other kid, he's a rough one. He's a roughneck. That one is the one you have to call him out. It's all about balancing
whining. So the point of all of this, we're giving down with Allah subhanho wa taala. And we are responsible for the OMA your family. Take it easy
and giving Dawa to your family, our families, take it easy, be gentle. Let that sister be gentle to the husband and vice versa. For my African American
brothers and sisters who may be listening to you as well. You know, in America, this lady, Oprah Winfrey, Oprah, she's very famous. There's another African American woman, she's like an relationships expert. And him is Leanna Leanna. Making a point. I saw this thing today with this lady liana. She's trying to help the husband and the wife to you know, come together. And sometimes these people have more knowledge than us even a kufan They teach you how to be in a relationship. You know, Ted TV, you go to ted TV, and you just put it in how to control anger. And a guy get up and tell you how to become a better better public speaker. They'll tell you how to fall in love.
They'll tell you with nice calm, there's been official, inspirational, informative sometimes. So this lady Illa, Illa. Ileana, she told the girl go in and tell him what you feel. So the lady sat down. She said, Well, I just want to let you know that your children who don't come from me but your children, they don't respect me and they sleep all day and that that lady say hey, hold up, hold up.
Come over here. Tell her to sit here. And the lady in Yana Ilana. She got she said listen, she started to say let's see your children. I want them to grow up to be good men like you. And I just want you to be me. And the way she did it showed you that's how you get the honey from the bee.
That's how you get the honey from your wife come as soon as you come into the door. You got a rough day and everything you trying to be soft in head as soon as you come in. Hey, you never did any good for me in your life. I want to go home yet. Come on and then he blows me away. You do it. Be easy with that man. There's the busyness there's the busyness, the bees Ness.
And they're protecting that queen. I've seen with my own eyes these people go without gloves. And they take the honey of bees on them and then again stone because they're calm. They're cool. They're collected not a single piece things them. I don't like bees. I was young and I went to a swimming pool and it was a B float and I thought he was dead. I went to pick him up that Joker stuck my hand that's the only time I was stung by a bee and I've been scamming him till this day. skill to be
build come around are starting to be at Hi Juliana b I got up and got out the tent. I'm not getting stung by a bee if I can help it and I'm gonna run you over to get out. No being gentle I'm getting out of that please. I'll never forget the beast a meme and never forget it.
But here this person goes and he takes the thing to be doesn't stink them. And then here a young person come. Prophet Muhammad Sallallahu sallam said that the honey is a cure for everything. This is the pure honey. Give me that back. Give me that bat. And then he hits the beans
and then the bees coming killer
sting them all over kill him. And he scratches his head after he's dead. He said what happened? Brother You will shut deed you will move to shed Did Prophet Muhammad says some old lady was sending them Jim Tunis was never put inside of something like getting the honey from the big you know our wives have honey right? That I don't know about you. Don't you call your wife honey.
How many of you call your wives honey man? How many we got? Nobody? Right? Hey, honey. Hey, baby. Hey, boo. Hey, Little Mama. Hey, Mommy.
He doesn't know those words. Nor does he ever say hello
have you on Thank you. He never says that. And she never says big papa. Big Daddy. Hey,
why are you laughing? Is that funny? I thought that was normal. You're my wife say, Hey, big papa. Well, I love it when you call me big papa, what's wrong with that? Because they like, what's wrong with that?
So the shade of the Quranic whiny is just that it's better for us to laugh and to be cool, within reason. But everybody, he has to look at himself. So some people in the audience and they started the datasource like this
and is still like that. So okay, man, you want that voice that I'm in hajj, I can't help that. But that's what we're talking against.
People give Dawa too soon and said if he and you rough in tough that you can't wait to expel people from the set of fear to Baraka. We should want people to be on a set if he were solid here. A set of years, that Kitab in the Sunon understanding this religion the way those complaints that's all take it easy, easy. Last thing that we want to mention whiny concerning today's Doris, is that
I want to challenge you in a nice way as your big brother, your older brother, I want to challenge you. I want to challenge you to try to constantly remember for the rest of the day, 24 hours, just a test like you know a challenge. Try to remember, be gentle. No matter what's going on everything that's going on. We're going to get up and we're going to leave and I want to roll out I want to bounce. There's someone here who came from Wall saw they came from somewhere. I don't know where they came from. And they came and stopped me to talk. I got to get back to the house. Man. I gotta get back to my crib. I live in leaves. I'm here now. I got to be my family, my crew. I told you
people before my wife has that. Corona. Bless her. People asked me because I said in a HIPAA Hi, your wife doing now your family. I said she's okay. I'm de la. She's getting on my nerves. So she's she's usually okay, now. She's normal now. Because you do in my head. And before she when she was sick, she wouldn't do my head and I was the one who was worried. But now she's okay. Because she's back to normal. She's back to normal. I gotta get back to the crib.
As I'm going out, the brother came from Monday where I need to talk to you.
All right brother was going on. And he has some complicated issue. Man, I didn't sign up for this when I came here.
Boo Boo Boo reef in Allah Rafiq where you have breath.
I'm challenging you. I'm challenging you.
Just keep thinking about it. And you're going to see us when he this hadith fits every single human encounter that we have.
Every moment that you're alive and you're dealing with people, there are things that you could be gentle, and all the things that you could just be your normal self that you're used to Abu high blood pressure
is going to kill you.
We ask Allah subhana wa Tada to save us from high blood pressure. We ask Allah Tala for giving us hearts that are hard and dead. In course, we ask Allah Tala to make us of those who are the Ruhama have mercy upon those who on the earth. And the one who was over the heavens will have mercy upon you. That companion, he had a slave and he was upset. And he was rebuking the slave and hitting the slave. He was wrong with you, you better get with him. And he because it's a slave company going off Rasulullah sallallahu you're sending them King from behind him and said to that man and the man in the seat, you don't have more power over that slave than what Allah has over you. You want to treat
him like that the power you have power over him over your wife or your kid no power over them. But the power you have over them doesn't equal doesn't compare to the power that Allah has over you. Elijah Joe can send a fly go up your nose and kill you right now. I love doesn't need a fly. Allah will stop that heart from beating a get one more pump. That's it. You got a heart attack, you got a stroke. Allow will cause you to have an aneurysm where a vein in your brain suddenly pops. You're going to eat food and you get choked. The bone went down your throat and you're dead.
So you just remember that
for a real rough and tough joke
From amongst us, when you go back home, you don't smile.
Now I'm wondering, and I want to say, I'm the roughest of you all. So this column is to me.
And I go back home. I'm the roughest of you all. So don't think I'm trying to put you out. But those of you who are like me rough and tough, don't sit there and say you can't do it. You have to say no, I can't do it. I can't do it. But what's gonna happen is it's going to require effort. The hadith says a nama l Hello. Hello um, the way you become gentle is to force yourself is not in you. Some of us are naturally gentle naturally this brother mashallah is naturally gentle my man right he naturally gentle
his staff there this right here is naturally gentle right here my shot law naturally but some of us are roughnecks you know, like alligator skin alligator skin some of us like that rough next.
So for the roughnecks you know who you are
say to yourself, Man, I'm gonna stop this nonsense, because it's not right. And I know it's not right. Allah has allowed the shaytaan to make my bad deeds and behavior appear vicious okay. And justifying the way I'm dealing with people I'm justifying it it didn't even go the way I'm thinking it went but it appears that way to me it appears that way to me.
So may allow God to give us all the trophies in sha Allah Tala in our dollar, we want to go back today and want to say to our wives and our children, I love you, I'm sorry and stuff like that. And those little babies that you have picked them little babies up and kissed them little babies and after you kiss them and play with them, and stuff like that, then it's okay to around you know, just make vicar and get yourself together. Alright Honey, if you have any questions about today's Daros you put your question forward Mashallah. Any questions?
Halyn Dooku shape
for the ash?
Nah, not at all brothers, not always. It's not always the brothers that I read. There's an authentic hadith where the Prophet SAW Allah while he was sending them, he said
that is always a two and merata. It's not permissible for a woman to marry off another woman as the wedding. So some of us know of Auntie's Auntie's? They're the ones who stand up like they have the willy for their daughters when it comes time for the kneecap. The father is in the black ground. It's the auntie her mother who's running stuff.
Rasul Allah says Allah, why do you send them Latin Allah? And motera Jeannine amenorrhea and misogyny Mina regional Binney sat on Moto G La Mina, nice Aboriginal. May Allah curse those men who act like women, and those women who act like men are rechargeable. Comunale and Nisa, men are the ones who have the authority over women, not muscles in order that you in charge, go get a job, pay the bills, help the family, you're a man, you're the man. But there are some women brother, who are rough and tough. And one of the problems we have in this democracy in this this political correctness on steroids today. Are you a he or she are they? How many these are you? What are you i?
Well, I was born a man, but I want you to see me and call me a fly. I'm a fly. And if you don't recognize me as a fly, a Buddha of boo ba ba boo Bob's, if you don't recognize me sitting here as a fly, I'm gonna take you to jail. I want my rights. Are you serious? That's the time we're living in right now. This is the time that we're living right now.
So we have some Muslim women who are beating up the men. The domestic violence is coming from the woman. She's jackin him up.
And I don't want to stereotype this, but some people have this more than others. Some coaches like I'm African. I'm proud to be African. But I've seen very aggressive African women.
I'm not stereotyping but I've seen very aggressive African women
but also saw women from Pakistan, Asian women aggressive. So yeah,
Absolutely right brava there are people sitting in this audience who your question resonated with them because they know of a woman who's like that. And if one of our daughters she is like that is your job to defend your daughter, but you have to tell your daughter I'm gonna defend you from this man oppressing you but this is not a right though you talking to him?
The way you dealing with him. Brother came want to marry my daughter you want to marry the brother's daughter and marry your daughter. And he come and you can see his um, he's weak. You know your daughter's personality is stronger after the meeting and everything. Now you can't marry my daughter man. Because you come into the battle with a butter knife.
You got a butter knife. You know the butter knife on the break? won't matter my daughter you got to bring a sword not to chop her head off because it's hammer time if you do that, but to be able to deal with her because her personality is stronger than yours.
Compatibility no more questions declining and more questions going habibi.
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profits prophets in many Hadith SallAllahu ala you send them my fear for my nation, that they're going to be destroyed by what destroy the people before them. He said a lot of things. I fear for I don't fear for you that actually come in fact, a matter of faith that your port, some of us don't have money. We live in month to month week, the week we got no money. I don't have any money. We don't have any money. I'm not fearful that you're hungry, you don't have money to buy all this stuff. What I can be assured they come. What the thing that I fear for you is the dunya.
And then it will cause you to race for it against one another. And you will do everything to do by hook and crook to get it the way that people did before you and they will destroy by it and it will destroy you. Another thing he said, I fear that you're going to be destroyed by the holocaust by the reason as it destroyed the communities before you. He said the rays I'm talking about is not the razor that cuts your head. It's not that reason to cut your head. I feel for you the height that will cut your dean was to highlight that cut your dean being jealous.
One of the best students he is the brother. He was sitting over there now last class he corrected me on the IRS and stuff like that multiple times. The person says Danny as Huck has it because he corrected
What's wrong with you that destroyed Benny's right eel that destroyed them people. So they a lot of things that he used to tell people, shirk, destroy them.
Me Zahn the cheating people I cannot saw on social media slicksters man, the lady went to buy the thing. And a guy who does it all day every day Muslim to a Muslim. Soon as she turns her head, he puts something down and he puts the rock on and and the lady just walk away. none the wiser. Some people just ripping us off like that. You have to go into the store and tell him and I know all the tricks, you got to be looking at people, I don't trust you. And we have to be like that with each other. Nobody's gonna steal one penny from me, I work hard for mine. But if you just go and I tell my wife this all the time, don't be going to Mara sin in the marketplaces walking like this, and
your bag is open.
And you just walk in like this. You better go in there thinking people in need, and they only need to rob me. So close your bag and put it in front of you don't put it this is what we got to do before we end this a honey. Last thing I want to advise you is you know, we have to protect ourselves and we have to be strong. Maybe you're not going to lift weights maybe not going to run maybe you're not going to do mixed martial arts. But I would advise you to go on the internet and to start watching those jujitsu experts who analyze real fights that happen in the street, real fights, and they say you see how you did is wrong. He gave him his back. You shouldn't have done that. You
see he's not paying attention. He has tunnel vision with the guy giving them drama. He doesn't even see that guy had five people with him who came behind him. So that when you find yourself in that situation, because you've been steady in it. You start looking around because you ride the train.
On the train you you're aware of that. You guys understand what I'm talking about. Instead of wasting your time watching tick tock and just one after another and as the
I'm going to help you with anything. Go on that. That social media and look at how those jujitsu experts break down confrontations, the do's and not do's. And I'm not saying because I want you to go to die ish. I'm not saying that I'm saying so that you can learn how to defend yourself that if you had to step up, you stepping up to the pump and you bring in a noise. You're going to bring the noise.
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