Abu Usamah At-Thahabi – Hadith #24 – The Protective Wall of Da’wah

Abu Usamah At-Thahabi


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The Hadith holds a history and character brief, highlighting the importance of strong manhood and the need for a strong woman to handle relationships. The discussion touches on the use of a book by a scholar of Islam to explain the ratio between man and his wife, dressing oneself in appropriate ways, and the importance of avoiding distractions during prayer and not being too busy during sex. The discussion also touches on the concept of "has been" and how it relates to a situation where a woman is the only person who has a problem.

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			become to the next Hadith in the book, the Darwin the Duat, the hadith of Abu Huraira May Allah azza
wa jal be pleased with him. He was one of the illustrious and virtuous companions Ridwan lie on the
edge mind. He
		
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			set himself aside and above many of the other companions, although we don't say that he's from or
better than the 10 that have been promised Jana, but we love them tremendously because he played a
significant role in preserving force to sunnah. He was the companion that memorize majority of the
Hadith of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, despite the fact that he came into slam late. He
accepted Islam seven years after the Prophet may Hijra to El Medina. Salam Allah, why do you send
		
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			them so you miss 13 years of Mecca. And he missed the first seven years of and Medina. And yet after
embracing al Islam in the seventh year, with only three years left of the life of Rasulullah
sallallahu, it was sending them a boo hoorah memorize and narrated the majority of the Hadith.
		
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			He was a tremendous companion from those companions. He's a companion who is known by his cornea,
Abu Huraira more than he is known by his name, like Abu Bakar people don't know i Bobak is up to LA
for an example people don't know I will versus another ferry. Abu darda. Those are companions, who
became known for the Kuhnian more than their name as relates to Abu Huraira His name is Abdul
Rahman, Abdullah right man even will suffer Abdurrahman evil who suffer a doozy or dosi. Elia Manny.
		
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			Elia Manny was from in Yemen originally, as I mentioned, he was from those scholars that was a
tremendous companion. So anyone who loves the Sunnah, he loves annual Hadith. He loves the Salafi
year, then Abu Huraira may Allah be pleased with him is a different companion. He's different,
because of the role that he played in preserving the Sunnah of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi salam
and the sacrifices that he made in order to become who he became, as it relates to him being a
		
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			Muhaddith and a fucky. Someone who knew this religion, may Allah to Allah be pleased with him, one
of the great scholars of Islam, Al Imam, Ibn Hazm, from Spain, even hasm. He said that he found and
he read a book by a great scholar of Islam by the name of Bucky Bluma led to tremendous scholar. He
wrote a book called The Muslim said that like the Muslim devil Imam, achmad, so this man Bucky Bluma
Khaled. He has a Muslim but it's been lost. And the MammaPrint or hasm and other scholars said that
		
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			the Muslim imam Bucky blue mathlete was olsa Ashima It was bigger than the Muslim devil Imam Malik
Al Imam admin. Anyway, he mentioned that Abu Huraira had 5000 Hadith, and the Muslim Bucky
bookmarklet and
		
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			That is a lot for companion to narrate 5000 Hadith in a particular book, keeping in mind there are
so many other books of Hadith. Now the Muslim that we have now that is the biggest and the best one
is the one of an imam I admit the most not an image admit that most of you my acne brought over 3000
Hadith on and from Abu Huraira so they share it from that cannamd colo is that Abu Huraira is an
imam from the image of the companions of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam whatever the Allah
		
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			I known as my in today's hadith is a tremendous Hadith from the kalam and JaJuan and Kelan. The
Prophet said and it's some Allah while he was sending them like yeah for Rocco movement Mina, either
Katihar minha Holika Robbie Amin Ha, Arthur, oh, great, who who come a call sallallahu alayhi wa
sallam.
		
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			He said it's not okay. It's not acceptable for a Muslim man for the husband to hate his wife is not
acceptable for anybody who's married to hate his wife. If the Muslim husband sees a character trait,
a character flaw in his wife that he does not like that I've even said Let him look and then find a
character trait that he does, like this hadith has been put in the book about a Dawa, and the dot.
And this hadith is a cornerstone from those important a hadith that deal with the issue of attorney
		
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			sang. Alicia, how do you live and continue to get along with your wife.
		
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			So those brothers who are not married, it takes politics Yassa takes a particular understanding. It
takes a special man to be able to deal with a wife in a good way.
		
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			This hadith is explaining that it should attend Nisa, how to live in harmony with women ratio. You
have those books, a fifth of a hadith they always bring this chapter they chat of as a husband, a
Muslim man and a Muslim wife. What do you do and now in order to have harmony between the two, based
upon the book of Allah and based upon the Sunnah of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam this
hadith is one of the cornerstones of what the Prophet said concerning the one who wants to be
		
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			successful in his marriage. Salah while he was settling, it is not acceptable. It's not befitting
for a Muslim man or husband, to hate his wife to hate her to have animosity towards her to you know,
have rank core towards hot doesn't want to deal with her talk to her treat her with respect. He
hates her regrets the day that he met her. He may have love for her, but they just don't get along.
So they say terrible things to each other and they deal with each other in a very bad way. We just
		
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			common I don't think it's anyone here except that we know people this is their situation. So then
maybe of Islam some Allah What are you sending was x by a man goddess Allah what is the Huck have a
wife over the husband, when he told her what he told him shows us the ratio. If you do these things,
Inshallah, these things that help you to safeguard the love, respect the honor of your wife, the
loyalty, you compromise these things, you may or may not have problems, but if we do what he said to
		
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			do, you will eliminate inshallah and reduce the fitna. If the man doesn't do what he's supposed to
do, woman doesn't do what she's supposed to do, it's gonna be trouble. He's gonna hate her, she's
gonna hate him. So in regards to this one more time that he mentioned it, it is not okay for a
Muslim man to hate his wife. If he sees in her character trait that he dislikes. Let him look for a
character trait that he likes before explaining further. Clearly, this hadith is not talking about
		
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			if he sees that his wife is an innovator. He sees that his wife has a problem and nakida he sees
that his wife is a magician. He's not gonna say, Okay, I don't like this, but let me look for
something else that I like. He's gonna say no magic lady. If you don't get yourself together, you
ought to hear.
		
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			Can't be doing magic.
		
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			So if he sees her doing magic, if he sees on some hocus pocus Islam, if he sees her doing things
behind his back, it's going to jeopardize his relationship with his children. They're a slam. She's
a fatahna. This Helene is not applicable. He sees from her. She doesn't respect them. She goes out
when she wants she comes back when she wants. She says what she wants. She has a lot of issues.
		
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			Are we telling him to be patient with him or her to be patient with him not saying that we're saying
in general and general Shala as we're going to mention when we come to it isn't that he Teina The
man said God also loves to hop that the man has over his wife. He says the half that she has over
you, Abdullah is you free her from what you feed yourself. So you shouldn't allow yourself to do
what some people do. He goes out, he hangs out. He goes to Teeple soltana. He goes to Akbar over in
		
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			Hagley row, he goes to these high end restaurants, but because he has beef and drama and static with
his wife, he leaves so her like tuna fish, or eggs. And he says they are fed you know, she has to
eat from what you eat. He said number two from what you wear, you have to dress her in what you
wear. So again, he wants to go out designer, this designer that high end clothes, this that latest
fashion, and he gives her those bunny coats and he says hey, I'm clothing you. The hadith said you
		
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			feed her from what you eat, and you dress her from what you wear. And he's saying you shouldn't hit
her in the face. And if you do hit her, he said it's the hidden that doesn't break bones is the
hidden that doesn't leave marks. He said well, I have to cut there. And this is something many men
fall short of May Allah help us from the hack of the woman is led to cut bear, which means you
shouldn't say to a stupid, Hey, dummy, you're so dumb. You don't have a brain. Did you get one of
		
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			those brain surgeries, Allah bother me and he took your brain out stupid. He said don't do that.
		
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			If you get upset with your wife, you shouldn't say words like that. He said number five, you
shouldn't make Hutcher of your wife except in the bed. Now if you make hagit from your wife and you
leave the house, now there's going to be a bigger problem. You're not doing their Israa that Allah
azza wa jal has commanded in the Quran. And with the Prophet commanded so many things, so many
things, when I hear to give a talk about an extra, but this hadith is from that. Allah said in the
		
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			Quran, clearly, when I'm Hoonah, mythical Levy, la Hannibal maruf.
		
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			The women have rights,
		
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			similar to the rights that the men have over them.
		
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			So we have rights, and the women have rights. Well, Mr. Levy, la hinda been maruf they have rights
similar to the rights that we have over them, the right to be respected, the right to be held down,
protected, the right to love for what you love for yourself and so forth and so on. I do love non
bias concerning this ayat of the Quran, women have rights similar to the rights that men have over
them in a bad set for my rights. And a bias is the man for my rights is that I love to see my wife
		
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			looking nice. And I love to smell my woman, my wife smelling nice. He said as a result of that. I
dress nice for her, and I smell nice for her. So the man he drives he grinds and we'll applaud them
for that. We said Hamdulillahi bien, let the heat Timo asylee hat, we said Hamdulillah, but you got
a job you grafted. But you got to get on top of your hygiene.
		
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			Just because a man is a man. And he's gonna usually be on a lower level of taking care of his
hygiene than a woman. It says it's two different things. But that doesn't mean that the man should
smell doesn't mean that at all. Someone should be schooling them, amen. You got to raise your
hygiene game up. Because to expect your wife to deal with this smell. That body odor is one you
won't want to free yourself. They have rights similar to the rights that are over them. So Abdullah,
		
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			now bats, may Allah be pleased with them, was just letting us know as men. None of you truly
believes you love for your brother, what you love for yourself. So you want your wife to take care
of your kids, then you should take care of your kids. What I found.
		
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			When people invite you and ask you can you come and be an arbitrator? Can you come and talk to me
and my husband, me and my wife? When I found 99 98% of the time, both sides want all of the marbles.
The man wants all of the marbles and he doesn't want to give anything. And a lady wants all of the
marbles and she doesn't want to give up anything and it's never going to work like that. You have to
give up something in order to give something yes
		
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			Yes, he has the lion's share of the problems, but you have to be practical. You have to be
pragmatic. The reality is the reality he's, we made all the problems still, if you want to go
peacefully from this point, you're gonna have to give something in order to give some in order to
receive something. So this hadith is a cornerstone of the issue of kidney sack.
		
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			How to be nice and live with your wife. If you see from her, something that you dislike, then look
for something that you like. There is an IRA of the Quran in surah nisa similar to this is this
hadith, Allahu Tida. mentioned in the Quran for encouraged to Munna for en character Munna for
assaying Allah who feed Hyten que Fira.
		
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			I send to crochet engage Allahu fi writing cafetera. If you mean, dislike your wives, if any of you
men dislike your wives, you want to divorce your wife. It may be that you dislike something that
Allah has put a lot of good in it.
		
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			He doesn't like the fact that his wife doesn't like his children to go to his sister's house. He
doesn't like it because of the beef and the drama that he gets from his family. But his wife doesn't
want the kids to go because his sister has no Dean. Because the case there Islam is under threat,
because the system is really not taking care of situation. He doesn't like the fact that his wife
gets him up for fudging. He doesn't like it. The thing that he's not liking, it may be that Allah
		
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			has put good in it. Like these issues clearly what he's not liking her for. He shouldn't be
disliking her for those things. But he may dislike something about I really dislike something. But
Allah put in it a lot of good. So the Hadith, the iron, it's not okay for most of the man to hate
his wife. If you see something that he dislikes, let him look for something that he does, like I did
said to him, q1 morale truly herba the woman gets married for four reason you marry a woman, you
		
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			marry her because she's beautiful. You marry her because she has money. You marry her because she
comes from a good family a good lineage. You marry her because of the Dean forbid that the Dean
terrible dad, married a girl with the dean. Out of all of these four things, the one you want to
really pay attention to is the dean, if you do that, you'll be successful. Now, the lady may have
all four, or she may have three, or she may have two, she may have one. So he married a lady who's
		
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			religious, but she's overweight. She's not as Slim Jim like he wanted or like she used to be. She's
overweight massively, because she gave you five, six kids.
		
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			Maybe she's thin, maybe she's short. Maybe she's tall. Maybe her nose is crooked. Maybe she has very
strong glasses. Maybe she's not a good cook. Maybe, maybe, maybe maybe everybody's going to find
something from his wife. That which he doesn't like, you don't like that thing. Look for the thing
that will cause you to like her. Because listen, this hadith is from the Jiwon al Kalam it's a
lesson. It's a chi that's a principle in life. This hadith is telling you and telling me telling us
		
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			if you want to take care of your interpersonal relationships on all levels, especially marriage, one
of the most important levels. If you want to take care of those relationships, then you have to have
something that is known as the raffle. raffle is when you ignore stuff. You saw it, you heard it,
you smelt it, you know it, you have to ignore it. Because if you held everybody to every single
thing that you saw, you won't be able to get along with everybody.
		
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			You definitely won't be able to get along with your wife. You don't want a mother and a father who
always picking on everything you did. You don't want them why in the morning, Why limit and the
mother is in the fossil. Always you didn't do this. You didn't do that. And maybe you didn't do it.
Maybe you didn't do it. But you have to let some of that stuff go.
		
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			I'm teaching I'm teaching. I don't like that noise from this bottle. I don't like it. But I see
someone's doing it home. This person really doesn't come to the class. This person looks like he
needs to be in a class and around us. I have to let that go. Because if I go off on him, maybe he
won't come back again.
		
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			Some people ultrasensitive even in this prayer you
		
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			Pray next to someone and you hear the recitation of the Imam. And that person starts to do that
recitation on his own. You know, I will slap his lips you know I'm talking about I will slap his
lips, the man on my knees, and he's gone.
		
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			You want to say to him, yes, the imam is reading the Fatiha or you want to get out of the line. Some
people are so sensitive. They say, I'm not coming back to this Masjid again. When something happens.
		
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			Something happens they go to extremes. I'm never coming to your house again. Never coming back to
this Masjid again. No, no, no the Hadith said Al Mina levy your Hydra to nurse where your spirit
Allah Allah whom Hyrule melon movement, Levy, la Johanna to last? What are your spirit?
		
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			The believer who mixes with the Muslims, and he's patient with what he sees from them, sees from
them hears from them smells from them. He's patient with it, he's better than the one who doesn't
mix with them. And we have seen those people I think, when something doesn't go their way, they go
extreme. Their responses to extreme. So this hadith of the NABI SallAllahu. i They were it was
setting them, it's clearly showing us the impermissibility, then permissibility of being a person
		
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			who looks at your wife, and you criticize her for everything, there is no good and that husband or
the wife who does the same thing, or the mother or the father who does the same thing. You have to
let up off of people.
		
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			The other issue like honey is this important. This hadith is talking about the woman. The man
shouldn't hate his wife. But as we mentioned before, this hadith is also applicable to the wife. She
shouldn't hate her husband. And this hadith is also applicable. Not hating other people other than
the husband and the wife always has been it's the husband and the wife. No, sure mother's your
father's your neighbor. It's the people in the masjid. Don't hate them, you see something about him
		
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			that you don't like? He gives a hope that you don't like something you don't like? Well, his
recitation is nice. There are other aspects to his existence, that ended his height. Just don't be
one of those people who you have glue and you go overboard, and you expel people and you throw them
off of the sheet of being beneficial because you saw something in them that you don't like or you
dislike. So as it relates to the lady, the woman, we know that the woman has looked son and our
		
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			religion we've been informed that the woman has deficiency in her intellect. And in her deen the
witness of two women, it goes to shahada of one man, that's the knock sign, not that she's a beer
jameelah doesn't mean that at all. As a matter of fact, more women get master's degree PhD degrees
bachelor's degrees than men doesn't mean that they're dumb. Inherently, they don't know doesn't mean
that and we also know that from their creation, there's a knocks the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa
		
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			sallam and nama Mara to Mandela when the herland Testa Pema laka, either Tamika with the they had 32
Kima Cosanta were katsu ha de la cuchara. A woman has been created, the woman has been created from
the rib and the rib is crooked, and it will never go straight for you never. If you tried to
straighten that rib, I will straighten her out. You're gonna break it and breaking it is divorcing
her breaking is divorcing her.
		
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			So if a man wants to be successful with his wife, he has to practice with the Prophet said
sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. He just didn't tell us words. He told us things to help us to
understand that lady to understand how clearer to understand her at that time of the month. Ellis
lamb came with a lie Dylan hikma and our Moratalla and most times, if the man is just a decent man,
and he's halfway practicing the Quran and the Sunnah, in most instances, he can call his wife out
		
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			and I'd say yes, there is a deficiency in women no doubt about that fitna. But from my experience,
and from what I've seen, the majority of the drama, the lion's share of the drama is coming from the
men in our community. It's coming from the men. We have issues with certain
		
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			Women, but for the most part, it's the man. But these ayat and Hadith, we don't want to weaponize
them. Use it as a weapon against people. A weapon against the woman. No. We know her nature. And
nature is, as the Prophet says, sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, she will make a man who has has him. A
man is a serious man. He's Hysan series man is not to be played with not to be joked around with.
He's not the one to play with. But his wife can make his brain can make his brain go go mushy, like,
		
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			like really make him.
		
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			You say when what happened to the seriousness, his wife dealing with the woman made him like that,
leaving his house coming to the masjid with one shoe on and one shoe off. And we say your man with
your shoe and he said, don't ask me about my shoe.
		
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			You guys are laughing. It's real.
		
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			He will punch the wall with his fist in his fist, kick the tire to his car with his foot. Because
he's so upset with his wife. He buys a nice, big big TV, he'll kick that TV over and pick it up and
be stamping and then stepping on it like that.
		
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			And he paid all the money. And then when it's all over, you'll say you see what you made me do.
		
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			So the Prophet taught us take it easy, as it relates to this hadith According this hadith is
applicable to us as applicable to him. The men and the women are twins to each other. But the men
should have more control over their emotions and they should be more in control of the situation.
That's not always the case. As it relates to this hadith here. There was no human being except that
he has deficiency. Every share has deficiency. The only perfect who was the only one was perfect,
		
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			the prophets and the messages and that's it. Everybody else he has deficiencies. The Prophet said
all of Adam's children, they make mistakes all of them. And the best of those who make mistakes are
the ones who make Toba will allow you to the one who knows B will meet him my Tara Carly Harmon DAB
button Well, I can use a hero who Mina Edgerton some forever Jai Angelou home liars that he ruinous.
I tell him when I get started, be mourn. If Allah were to hold mankind responsible for the mistakes
		
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			and the sins and the oppression that they've done on the earth, Allah will not leave a single person
on the face of the earth. But he leaves them there for a certain amount of time. When that time
comes, they won't be able to delay it one minute, one hour, they won't be able to bring it forward.
Those I add a hadith show. Everybody got mistakes. So her husband, he's a good earner. He's a good
earner. Her husband, he has good clock. Her husband is truthful and honest. But he has no backbone.
		
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			He has no backbone. He can't stand up for her hop against people, whether it's his family have
family outside.
		
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			So I would tell every Muslim sister Listen,
		
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			there's a hadith and has been translated by our brother Mustafa post Chisago lo hara, and he gave a
commentary to an English, the hadith of Ozora. And Abel Zahra, you should go back and read that
hadith for the sister, the hadith of Omar Zara and Abu Zahra, in which those women came together and
said, each and every one of us you mentioned something about our husband in this assembly. And then
each woman started saying my husband is my husband that my husband is my husband that some of them
		
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			were very negative. My husband is like an iron up an earner a rabbit, a rabbit. That can mean he
wants to have relationships like rabbits have relationship or means he doesn't do anything. He can't
do anything different interpretations. The other lady said, My husband is like a lion. He comes up
in the house just biting people's limbs off.
		
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			By the time he goes back out. If you look back in my house, there's blood everywhere. The kids has a
bitten off, the foot is off the hurricane went in there, because that's how my husband is.
		
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			So what does the Muslim woman do? What does the Muslim man does? He doesn't look at other people and
have hassad and say, Oh, look at them. I wish they wouldn't have that. No, he doesn't do that. He
doesn't do that. But he looks and he says you know
		
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			This one is worse than mine. That one is worse than mine. Look, cow has his his wife is look up. And
then you think Allah,
		
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			your wife can cook, your wife takes care of those children. Your wife is making jihad as we
mentioned a million times during the school run
		
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			the school run, and for some reason, I don't know why now in Birmingham, they have roadworks
everywhere. So if you have to take your child to school in the morning, you have to pick your child
up in the afternoon is jihad, jihad, but your wife does it every day without complaining, cooking
cleaning. Is those kids making salah?
		
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			And then we have some fathers, we deadbeat dads, you want the scene you're not on the scene, not
giving money be given a little bit of the money, given a hard time get married behind the back this
drama this and that. No, no.
		
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			So although this hadith aquatennial is talking about how to have the extra without wives will bring
it down to why the chef brought it in this book. Why did the chef bring it in this book? Because you
have to have this thing with everybody else.
		
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			You have to have this thing with everybody else. Everybody who's here, if you spend time with him,
as we mentioned in the class about racism, all of Adam's children came out different colors, white
and black and everything between
		
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			a beef and for him and everything between husband and son, easy to get along with and impossible to
get along with and everything in between. So you're going to see people who is a problem. Everybody,
somebody showed me, his favorite child, his favorite child. If your favorite child is going to do
something to you to get you upset. You're sleeping in your favorite child comes and hit you in your
face with his head while he's sleeping. You didn't you just woke up, you push him off. You push him
		
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			off. And he rolled over and fall on the floor
		
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			that sort of person does he's not responsible is kid him in his face with his head and his tooth.
		
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			So everybody has that we're giving Dawa. Now we're giving dower This is the season of the Molad
we're giving Dawa now and giving Dawa. We're going to be rough and tough with everybody out there.
		
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			Okay, he practices the moment. He's on that molded. Your family is on that molded? I'm not saying
this is simple, easy thing I told you. I key the innovation. But the regular people. They're regular
people. They like you. They like me. They like your wife. They like my wife. That when we see from
her something we don't like, let me not chop her head off and destroy the relationship.
		
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			Let me not do that. Same thing with the person on the moment. I don't want to destroy them.
		
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			At least they seem sincere. At least they seem like they want to know. Allah mentioned I had in the
Quran when i Little Kitabi men and men who be contaning you a D Day from anarchy time, Jews and
Christians are those people. If you leave them with a trust and a manner you left them with a whole
treasure, a billion pounds a million pounds. You left them with a whole treasure and said hold this
to I get back. They'll take care of it until you get back.
		
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			Look for a character trait that they had.
		
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			So it's baffling. The person comes to a slam and his mother and father confab. And somehow someway,
Islam causes him to turn into an anti sociable monster a beast.
		
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			He looks at his mother and father and he looks at him says non stingy making kuffaar with the Jets
in their clothes. And he looks like that in his parents. They have no Jessa non stingy of making
pork eaten comma drinking lion and that's how he's looking at his parents. Brother. Something's
wrong with you. Something's wrong with you. The way we should be looking at our family members is
with the eye of Rafa and Rama and lot of feeling sorry for them, filling, filling, filling,
		
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			remorseful for them, having hope for them.
		
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			That's our job when it comes to Darwin. Allah is 20 when it comes to Darwin, Allah the dye in the
Dawa. Look at the people and say yes, that guy he got up and he prayed every single day instead of
coming to the masjid early for the to rock out of the Sunnah Fisher he
		
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			comes, were praying, he goes to the side he prays those to rock out. And he doesn't want to leave
it. He doesn't want to put his foot next to you in the Salah. These things. He doesn't want to do
it. But he's praying in the masjid every day, every day. And then there's the Salafi brother, who
you have camaraderie with. But he never prays for John time can pray for John time. He's talking
about the mold the mold in the morning, but he's falling into a cold, cold windy day.
		
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			disrespecting your mother and your father is worse than the mold. It is worse than the moment. So he
doesn't do the moment that hamdulillah better began, Kibera from the Caribbean, but being
disrespectful to your mat and to your mother and father worse, not getting up for fetcher worse than
the Molad.
		
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			Not good enough for Fisher is an action of Cofer.
		
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			So now, we're giving dower
		
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			the man makes a mistake. It's an honest mistake, or whatever kind of mistake, he says something as
simple and as easy and as generic and as innocent as but a share. Yusuf al Qaradawi said that. And
because he says share use of Dawie this person says you an innovator, and then cuts him off.
		
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			Come on, brother, come on, come on. What kind of religion is that? What kind of religion is that? He
just made a mistake. How many people caught them share, you know, suspend people for things like
that. That's just an example. He did a podcast over here. He went to that Masjid over there. He said
this thing or that thing?
		
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			You're going to reject them because he made that mistake.
		
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			belie early, you're going to reject them because he made that mistake.
		
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			Because he's a die.
		
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			And what about the one from the Muslims, just the regular cats, regular people? Well, he's the
friend of the person. That's all just as friend. So we expel him. She got married to the person. So
we cut her off.
		
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			We live in a time of drama and fitness and Jalen volt, this is a crazy time that we're living in. So
when giving Dawa and 20 We have to put people in the right places, our relatives, and the Muslims
who we know who don't have knowledge. But if you ask those Muslims, hey, let's give the Syrian
people some money. These people give you 1000 pounds, 2000 5000 pounds sadaqa for those issues, and
we won't give nothing anything, but we'll go to momos and eat and that's permissible. But how are we
		
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			going to look at them as being no good.
		
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			That's how you to give that sadaqa
		
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			and it's great that you're a student and that you're doing what you're doing. But take it easy with
the OMA. That's the reason why chef ID and Leb brought this hadith here. And before concluding, I
say about chef IBL Halaby Ratna, Talia Ali without any Hulu and going overboard. Anybody who got a
chance to meet that man, anybody who got a chance to meet that man, that's one of the things about
his character that will jump off of the table at you right off out of the book at you how he was an
		
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			a nice like Ennis, a nice. He was moto oneness. He was a person who was very sociable. You will
never get tired of being in his presence. share all that in you. Encyclopedia. Serious Hey, Bob, but
he knows how to joke with people and be with people. Not the joking that goes overboard. And his
Haven respect goes out of the window. But he knows how to be with people.
		
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			Elia 20, I've seen with my own eyes, here in Birmingham, and Leicester, people get degrees, master's
degrees and stuff like that. And you look at some of this behavior in terms of the Enter sociable
behavior. Is that a chef? I'm telling you if I was a new Muslim, and the shift is like that, real
rough and tough like that
		
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			harsh course bland, not I don't want to be around the ships if that's how you're going to treat
people can't treat people like that. That'd be in the service of the people that could love the
people, not way up there that people have to get with the program. So that's the meaning of today's
Hadith akoni as it relates to our wives first and foremost, it's a principle and as the wives and
the Nikka
		
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			Hyattsville Jia, there is a principle for every married person, whatever you don't like and your
wife, she has a plethora of other things that you can like. And another issue is Shavon. You know,
because shaytaan as the Prophet said, some Allah, what do you say to them? He puts His throne over
the water every day, he senses and sought out, they come back, what'd you do today, I caused this
man to kill him. I caused him to say this as long as it and this one said, I split a man between
		
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			himself and his wife. He said, Come sit with Me on My throne, because he loves that he loves that.
You're married to your wife, when you first hooked up. She was the greatest thing since sliced
bread.
		
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			He was really into it. Now was only one year. And you're, you're complaining, you're gonna always
complain, always you're gonna complain. But remember, she gonna complain as well. And also shaytaan
shaytaan will always make you believe that the grass is greener on the other side of the fence. That
grass is greener on the other side of the fence. You'd be happy with what you have, and work that
situation out and appreciate what your wife brings to the table even today. We should go back home,
		
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			get them something nice.
		
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			Whatever you want to do, and say I appreciate took care my babies. I appreciate you put up with me.
You put up with me. I appreciate you help my mother down with respect. I appreciate this Jihad that
you're doing. I appreciate you gave birth to the baby. You carry that baby around. We have a million
things. So why is it your mother, your mother, your mother? Because there's nobody like her. There's
no one like, and that's why I really didn't mean to do that. That Friday, I was stressing out. I was
		
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			like stressing from the stress that I had. I just wanted to tell the brothers in the community. We
should appreciate our wives because they make a jihad. Okay, if you guys have any questions you
could put your questions forward. I want to thank brother
		
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			Nora Dean for making the sweep of the aisle Mashallah. We don't have any problem with anybody from
this mystery coming in saying you said that that was wrong. This is right this was right. And we're
going to rectify that thing right there in public. Well, I should una bitten my roof for any
character Munna fastening edge Allah Allah who feed Hayden cathedra
		
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			five Santa Cruz che Allah Allah houfy He heighten cathedra if you guys have any questions, you could
put your questions forward. Let me ask you a question.
		
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			And the man may have been or hasn't said the greatest Muslim that even greater than the Muslim the
minimum admin was which must lead
		
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			here's a piece of piece of annual Hadith information was the greatest Muslim according to an imam
Ebano hasm. And the fact that Al Imam Abu hasm Read this book is a big important issue in the
knowledge of a hadith
		
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			P abou MK lead, he was from the share mean, he was a tremendous scholar.
		
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			So he has how many a hadith of Abu Huraira and Musa de Bercy and the Muslim minimum I made
		
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			5000 And the key and 3000 and then
		
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			also I forgot to tell you in Abu Huraira he died in the year 6060 He died in the year 60 After the
Hijrah, of animal stuff in Wichita and matar
		
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			it for the RV
		
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			Barrow post
		
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			you're on a roll today brother
		
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			on a roll today forever my shallot and movement to movement were mirrors to one another eight for
the AQ?
		
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			With the bliss
		
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			Hello item did the scholars say that they are Shayateen of the men who go to the throne alone item
it could be possible right because these people are plugging into the jinn and things like that.
Getting famous people that carry
		
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			Is Back rich people money and things like that people go into contracts with them but does that
happen over the throne? Allahu Allah, Allahu Allah
		
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			any more questions have one
		
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			what's the beginning of the I look evatik Ajah Allah the Quran in a billion Shayateen ins will Jin
		
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			ah
		
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			there Lika Allah Ali Kalina Vivian ADO when she appears pin Elgin will ence Hakka okay you he ba
boom the Bob zakura filco
		
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			any more questions a whiny
		
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			alright inshallah we want to keep these numbers up business law he Tyler but once you guys do right
little bit few students arriving but on an island become welcome everybody have a wa sallahu wa
salam Mubarak and then the beginner while it was hobby of mine was sent on my they come to LA he
will better catch up
		
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			I'm sorry always good to see you, man.
		
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			I shall have buckled up after finishing. I love you more man.