Abu Taymiyyah – Questioner Asks How I Can Overcome Pornography

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The speaker discusses the issue of pornography addiction and advises young people to identify the root cause and avoid falling into sin. They suggest taking a pen and paper and praying for forgiveness. The speaker also warns against living alone and advises against using phones or tablets for long periods of time.

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			So how can a young man today
		
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			get rid of addictions and * and so
		
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			on and so forth.
		
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			It's, of course, a very widespread
		
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			problem that a lot of the youth are
		
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			facing. Right?
		
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			Normally we advise with a number of things.
		
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			Number 1,
		
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			which is called the spiritual
		
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			disease and its cure there's even a book
		
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			I put it on my Twitter yesterday, Kashar
		
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			Jamaruddin Usman from Nairobi.
		
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			He once I mentioned this in the q
		
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			and a, and this is a book that
		
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			I love. I always like to go through
		
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			it. So then we posted it. It's in
		
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			English. It is one of the best books
		
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			on this topic that you will find.
		
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			Aslan Sheikh Mil Qayyim,
		
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			wrote this book as a response
		
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			to someone who asked a question about a
		
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			sin that they were going through.
		
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			Right? And he said in the question that
		
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			if I don't find a solution, it will
		
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			destroy my dunya and akhira.
		
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			Hatashah Abduzak, he used to teach this in
		
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			the haram.
		
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			Right? Allah, it changed my life, it changed
		
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			my perspective and how I look at people's
		
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			problems.
		
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			So in it
		
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			he
		
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			says,
		
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			Right? From the most beneficial of cures is
		
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			what?
		
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			In your sujood, qiyamulayil,
		
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			when you wake up in the last set
		
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			of the night, you make sense and say,
		
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			dua, you Allah help me get rid of
		
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			this sin.
		
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			Right?
		
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			Second thing is that we advise you to
		
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			read this book.
		
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			It talks about the consequences and the effects
		
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			of sin.
		
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			Right. It talks about the consequences and the
		
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			effects of sin.
		
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			Number 3,
		
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			you know, they say it's one thing identifying
		
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			the problem, it's another finding the solution.
		
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			First, we have to identify the problem, right?
		
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			And part of finding the solution is,
		
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			what is causing me now to fall into
		
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			the sin? We should get a pen and
		
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			paper. I normally tell the shayab, you get
		
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			a pen
		
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			and paper,
		
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			write down the sins that you have,
		
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			and then next to it write, what is
		
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			causing the sin?
		
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			What is the reason that I'm falling into
		
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			the sin?
		
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			Is it maybe because of a phone? Is
		
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			it maybe because I'm alone all the time?
		
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			Araft.
		
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			What is the reason?
		
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			A lot of the time is because
		
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			maybe it is Instagram,
		
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			maybe it is TikTok or lie some of
		
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			these,
		
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			apps are problematic.
		
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			It is the root cause for * addiction
		
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			later on.
		
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			It starts off now you are following a
		
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			lady.
		
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			Right? You are following some of these celebrities,
		
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			this,
		
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			and
		
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			then you want more halas. You got bored
		
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			of it, you want something more intense, then
		
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			he moves on to what?
		
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			That which is free free *.
		
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			And then when he's finished watching one of
		
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			the videos, then he starts paying for it,
		
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			and then he destroys
		
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			it. What is causing me not to fall
		
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			into this Haram? I have to identify it.
		
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			Does that make sense?
		
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			It might be that we are have to
		
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			get
		
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			for a period, we put away this
		
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			phone
		
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			and we use the,
		
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			what do you guys call the Nokia
		
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			they call it the trap phone in the
		
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			UK the one that the drug dealer have?
		
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			From the UK. Where in the UK?
		
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			London,
		
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			parking.
		
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			You already know the chat phone. They have
		
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			the chat phone there, the Nokia. You know
		
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			the one that we used to have? The
		
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			snake.
		
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			Yeah.
		
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			You need to have that for a period
		
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			of time.
		
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			If it's maybe because you are alone, shaitanu
		
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			akrabilla
		
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			wahamil
		
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			3, shaitan is closer to 1 than 2.
		
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			Right?
		
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			So, try to maybe move away from being
		
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			alone all the time. Be around people, go
		
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			to the masjid, try to busy yourself with
		
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			something.
		
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			I always advise the shabab against living alone.
		
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			Oh, lying, living alone is a problem.
		
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			Shaitan is very close to you when you
		
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			are alone.
		
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			So we have to identify.
		
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			It varies from person to person.
		
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			All we also advise after that is every
		
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			time you fall into that sin, go make
		
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			wudu
		
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			and then pray torakaat every time.
		
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			If you do that every time you fall
		
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			back into our sin, it's only a matter
		
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			of time
		
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			that you get rid of the sin.
		
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			If Allah sees that goodness and He will
		
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			give it to you.
		
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			Does that make sense?
		
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			Show Allah that you really want it, even
		
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			if you fall back into the sin,
		
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			no matter how many times, You
		
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			keep returning back to Allah.
		
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			Right? With the dua, with everything else that
		
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			I said, Insha'Allah, it's a period of time.
		
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			Psychologists, they say it takes maybe, what, 21
		
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			days.
		
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			Right?
		
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			21
		
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			days, maybe 25, 30 days that you
		
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			stay like this without the phone or without
		
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			that thing that is causing you to read
		
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			that book. It's on my Twitter.
		
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			I put the link.
		
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			And Insha'Allah,
		
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			you will overcome it,