Abu Taymiyyah – Q&A How Can Wives Kids Maximise The Last 10 days of Ramadhan

You know, I'm gonna touch on the issue

of a niya

and it'll be,

maybe very convenient here.

And I understand from the question that she's

kinda like really busy with

the children, the tarbia,

nurturing

them. It might be that she's breastfeeding them.

It might be that she has to look

after them and take them to madrasah or

take them to school. Basically, just generally speaking,

looking after the nurturing of the child and

also maybe being busy with the husband.

Because at the end of the day, the

good wife, she gives concern to looking after

her husband as well. This in within itself

my brothers and sisters, if a person,

he makes the intention

of him wanting to get closer to

Allah with the things that we might

see to be like chores.

A person is rewarded for it.

A person is rewarded for it. And at

the same time,

the husband, you know, should be very understanding

in the month of Ramadan as well. Okay?

Like I mentioned, the messenger

shuddhim zarahoo.

He would tie his lungi. Okay. It's a

figurative speech, meaning he would busy his night

with what? Not spending time with the wife,

but actually

him doing Ibadat, and he would wake up

his family,

so she can worship Allah

as well. Okay?

And he would bring his night to life.

But at the same time, throughout the day,

If she makes the intention now,

okay,

of

one thing to get closer to Allah Subhanahu

Wa Ta'ala with that which she's doing, she

gets rewarded for it.

So it's as if she's killing, you know,

2 birds with 1 stone. The messenger

he told us about,

No actions accepted from a person except with

the correct intention.

And that which might, you know,

be of this meaning is, another hadith where

the messenger salallahu alaihi wa sallam said,

There's never a time when a person he

spends.

Okay? He spends,

except the Allah

rewards him if he seeks by it, the

face of Allah

Even the food parcel

that a person he places in his wife's

mouth.

If a person makes the intention now, not

because it's a chore, but because he wants

to nurture his family, he wants to strengthen

them because

so that they are later on able to

do Ibadat.

Like I drink water, I sleep so later

on, I can have the strength

and the capability to stand up at night.

That's a good intention.

Okay.

And,

Yani, again, if you go if you go

back to that lecture where I talked about

sincerity,

there would be some of the people of

the past like the Tabi'in,

where before he starts drinking, he would take

some time out

to think about, okay, let me now,

make an intention

present,

where through this drinking, it will allow me

to maybe last longer by reading Quran.

You know, and even some of the people

of the past, they they mentioned,

How many actions that we find that because

of the intention, it becomes so great.

Imagine now, we just drink water because it's

what? It's perfectly permissible.

We need it because we wanna quench our

thirst. But imagine a person, he does that

with all these intentions that I mentioned.

My brothers and sisters, the intention,

it could end up having positive effect, a

negative effect just because of this little movement

in a person's heart.

For example now,

borrowing money.

Sometimes you need to borrow money. Right? But

look now because of the intention, how it

could have a positive effect or a negative

effect on a person's life.

Said,

Whoever now borrows somebody's money, he does it

with the intention of paying it back.

He doesn't have any hidden agendas.

Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala will help that person

pay it back.

Whoever now borrow somebody's money but he has

the intention of doing that person over, Allah

subhanahu wa ta'ala will do him over. All

of this was what? The intention.

Look at now sometimes when a problem happens

between a husband and a wife, just depending

on a person's intention.

And I always sometimes when I get called

to some of these problems, this is one

of the aya that I repeat maybe 10

times to them.

Because it could be because of the intention,

Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala solves your ongoing problems

that been going on for years. Allah says

in the Quran,

If you begin to feel that there's problems

between the husband and the wife, bring out

a representative from this side and in that

side as well.

If they have the intention of rectifying the

affairs,

Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala will help them rectify

the affairs. Sometimes a sister, she's had enough.

Brother, I've been patient for 3 years.

I can't do this anymore.

I'm done.

Now just try maybe having this intention of

through this meeting that we're having that Allah

has commanded us to do

and you now wanting,

you know, things to become better and rectification,

through that Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala better your

situation.

Again, where does this take place? It takes

place in a person's

heart.

So my advice to the sister is

while she's doing these chores to actually maybe

rectify an intention and she's maybe accumulating so

much reward

from, you know, things that we just do

on a regular basis. Imagine now the husband.

He goes probably every week or especially in

the month of Ramadan, maybe every 2, 3

days. If every time he went to Azza

to buy the food, and when he feeds

his family, he had the intention of seeking

the face of Allah

how much reward he would be accumulating?

Okay. You know, you know, I've also realized,

you know, sometimes we

might give so much concern

to doing the great big actions

that have been, you know, mentioned to us

by Allah

It could be these little actions, my brothers

and sisters, enters into into Aljannah.

The messenger sallallahu alaihi wa sallamih told us,

Every good act that you do is a

form of sadaqa. Imagine that.

In another hadith, the Messenger of Salaam told

us,

Don't

Don't belittle any good deed, even if it

is meeting your brother with a smiling face.

Another hadith, again, this is for the sisters.

The messenger of Muhammad Ali wasalam said,

When you cook soup,

then when you with the soup, try to

have a lot of water inside it. Why?

So you can go give it to the

jiran.

You can go give it to the the

neighbors, the hadith and Sahih

Muslim. With the intention imagine how much reward

these small actions.

If a person now has the correct intention,

it could be the reason why he enters

into, you know, Aljannah,

you know.