Abu Taymiyyah – Q&A How Can Wives Kids Maximise The Last 10 days of Ramadhan
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The speaker discusses the importance of the behavior of the speaker's father in the context of their actions and intentions. They explain that the speaker's father is rewarded for taking actions that bring rewards to their family, while also being mindful of their family and taking care of their husband. The speaker also emphasizes the importance of the speaker's father in rectifying problems between their father and their wife, and suggests that small small actions can be rewarded by the speaker's father.
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You know, I'm gonna touch on the issue
of a niya
and it'll be,
maybe very convenient here.
And I understand from the question that she's
kinda like really busy with
the children, the tarbia,
nurturing
them. It might be that she's breastfeeding them.
It might be that she has to look
after them and take them to madrasah or
take them to school. Basically, just generally speaking,
looking after the nurturing of the child and
also maybe being busy with the husband.
Because at the end of the day, the
good wife, she gives concern to looking after
her husband as well. This in within itself
my brothers and sisters, if a person,
he makes the intention
of him wanting to get closer to
Allah with the things that we might
see to be like chores.
A person is rewarded for it.
A person is rewarded for it. And at
the same time,
the husband, you know, should be very understanding
in the month of Ramadan as well. Okay?
Like I mentioned, the messenger
shuddhim zarahoo.
He would tie his lungi. Okay. It's a
figurative speech, meaning he would busy his night
with what? Not spending time with the wife,
but actually
him doing Ibadat, and he would wake up
his family,
so she can worship Allah
as well. Okay?
And he would bring his night to life.
But at the same time, throughout the day,
If she makes the intention now,
okay,
of
one thing to get closer to Allah Subhanahu
Wa Ta'ala with that which she's doing, she
gets rewarded for it.
So it's as if she's killing, you know,
2 birds with 1 stone. The messenger
he told us about,
No actions accepted from a person except with
the correct intention.
And that which might, you know,
be of this meaning is, another hadith where
the messenger salallahu alaihi wa sallam said,
There's never a time when a person he
spends.
Okay? He spends,
except the Allah
rewards him if he seeks by it, the
face of Allah
Even the food parcel
that a person he places in his wife's
mouth.
If a person makes the intention now, not
because it's a chore, but because he wants
to nurture his family, he wants to strengthen
them because
so that they are later on able to
do Ibadat.
Like I drink water, I sleep so later
on, I can have the strength
and the capability to stand up at night.
That's a good intention.
Okay.
And,
Yani, again, if you go if you go
back to that lecture where I talked about
sincerity,
there would be some of the people of
the past like the Tabi'in,
where before he starts drinking, he would take
some time out
to think about, okay, let me now,
make an intention
present,
where through this drinking, it will allow me
to maybe last longer by reading Quran.
You know, and even some of the people
of the past, they they mentioned,
How many actions that we find that because
of the intention, it becomes so great.
Imagine now, we just drink water because it's
what? It's perfectly permissible.
We need it because we wanna quench our
thirst. But imagine a person, he does that
with all these intentions that I mentioned.
My brothers and sisters, the intention,
it could end up having positive effect, a
negative effect just because of this little movement
in a person's heart.
For example now,
borrowing money.
Sometimes you need to borrow money. Right? But
look now because of the intention, how it
could have a positive effect or a negative
effect on a person's life.
Said,
Whoever now borrows somebody's money, he does it
with the intention of paying it back.
He doesn't have any hidden agendas.
Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala will help that person
pay it back.
Whoever now borrow somebody's money but he has
the intention of doing that person over, Allah
subhanahu wa ta'ala will do him over. All
of this was what? The intention.
Look at now sometimes when a problem happens
between a husband and a wife, just depending
on a person's intention.
And I always sometimes when I get called
to some of these problems, this is one
of the aya that I repeat maybe 10
times to them.
Because it could be because of the intention,
Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala solves your ongoing problems
that been going on for years. Allah says
in the Quran,
If you begin to feel that there's problems
between the husband and the wife, bring out
a representative from this side and in that
side as well.
If they have the intention of rectifying the
affairs,
Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala will help them rectify
the affairs. Sometimes a sister, she's had enough.
Brother, I've been patient for 3 years.
I can't do this anymore.
I'm done.
Now just try maybe having this intention of
through this meeting that we're having that Allah
has commanded us to do
and you now wanting,
you know, things to become better and rectification,
through that Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala better your
situation.
Again, where does this take place? It takes
place in a person's
heart.
So my advice to the sister is
while she's doing these chores to actually maybe
rectify an intention and she's maybe accumulating so
much reward
from, you know, things that we just do
on a regular basis. Imagine now the husband.
He goes probably every week or especially in
the month of Ramadan, maybe every 2, 3
days. If every time he went to Azza
to buy the food, and when he feeds
his family, he had the intention of seeking
the face of Allah
how much reward he would be accumulating?
Okay. You know, you know, I've also realized,
you know, sometimes we
might give so much concern
to doing the great big actions
that have been, you know, mentioned to us
by Allah
It could be these little actions, my brothers
and sisters, enters into into Aljannah.
The messenger sallallahu alaihi wa sallamih told us,
Every good act that you do is a
form of sadaqa. Imagine that.
In another hadith, the Messenger of Salaam told
us,
Don't
Don't belittle any good deed, even if it
is meeting your brother with a smiling face.
Another hadith, again, this is for the sisters.
The messenger of Muhammad Ali wasalam said,
When you cook soup,
then when you with the soup, try to
have a lot of water inside it. Why?
So you can go give it to the
jiran.
You can go give it to the the
neighbors, the hadith and Sahih
Muslim. With the intention imagine how much reward
these small actions.
If a person now has the correct intention,
it could be the reason why he enters
into, you know, Aljannah,
you know.