Abu Taymiyyah – Part2 InLaws or OutLaws From the words of Ibn Taymiyyah MUM VS HUSBAND
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hamdulillahi rabbil Alameen wa Salatu was Salam ala Ashrafi
Gambia it well mursaleen Nabina Muhammad wa ala alihi wa sahbihi
wa seldom at the Sleeman Kathira and I'm about brothers and sisters
May Allah subhana wa Tada bless you all. Today we want to discuss
a very important matter something that we really need to know and
take into consideration it is crucial to our understanding and
vital it is the issue of that which takes place between family
members and also the husband and wife.
Many of the time you find that there is problems there is
breakups between the husband and wife due to the inlaws getting
involved.
And inshallah to Allah we ask Allah subhana wa Tala with his
names and attributes
to bring benefit out of this video, hoping that it stops and
prevents any future problems that might be coming towards couples
who are just trying to live their lives.
You find that this kind of fitna has entered into not just one
culture, but many different cultures.
Whether it is in the east or the west or north or the south. This
is a disease that has spread into many families.
Brothers and sisters May Allah subhanho wa Taala bless you all.
We really want to discuss this. So everybody knows their place and
nobody exceeds their boundaries and inshallah to Allah to prevent
any problems taking place in the future.
One thing we need to understand one
is that Allah subhanho wa Taala has perfected our religion. The
Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam has come with a clear
message. You have the necessity of the Sahaba who have come who have
explained this.
They've lived the life
and there's not a thing in our religion except Allah subhanho wa
Taala spoke about or the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam has
mentioned to us
and what we want to do today inshallah to Allah
is explained what we're talking about using the species of women
the team around him or her love to Allah even attain Rahim Allah to
Allah. He wasn't given his title shaken Islam for no reason. He is
not like any DOM, they can hurry any shade
that one of us might know.
Rather, he was someone as a mama Debbie Rahim Allah Allah
mentioned, well, who Baron Whelan, FEMA ID Fatima Devi Sahaba to a
temporary, he had in depth understanding when it came to
knowing the school of foot, the positions of the Sahaba and the
Tabea in
there were scholars of his time and scholars that came after him
that praise him immensely.
For that which he was known for, when it came to knowledge in
different fields, whether it was a sort of whether he was Hadith,
whether it was Fick, whether it was the Arabic language.
Just look at his memorial fatawa
and his other books WaveNet tema Rahim, Allah hota hai Allah has
put forth his knowledge his first hour
and it will become clear to who even the team around him Allah to
Allah was
and the reason why we're using the speech of even the team around him
Allah Tala specifically is simply because
you find that many of the Muslim ummah they take his speech
seriously. When is he going to Tamia? His understanding is
serious. That's what we have chosen him to use as a reference,
not because that way not because we are blind followers of my team
or hemella Tyler rather we believe that even a team that I have
allowed to hire you'll see but
he sometimes correct and sometimes he makes mistakes. But what the
scholars mentioned about him when it came to his understanding in
regards to the Sahaba has pushed us today to get this issue and use
the speeches of entertainer Rahim Allah Tala
brothers and sisters.
Time and time again. We're here statements like Am I your slave?
Who are you to tell me to do this?
Are you my dad?
Who do you think you're talking to?
Do you think the icon get married again?
Things like this that we have maybe adopted from the non Muslims
that have affected our communities it has entered into
Wallahi brothers and sisters. Our religion is a masala is a
benefit for who and for anyone that wants a good life.
Allah subhanho wa Taala has made matters clear to us in order for
us to get the life that we're craving for the happy life. Allah
subhanho wa Taala tells us in the Quran
from Medina kala Sharia, I think mineral Emery Pattabhi Jois. Then
we have made a Sharia for you
so that you may follow it so follow it.
When I tend to be a Hawaiian lady in Allah, Allah moon and do not
follow the desires of those who do not know.
Brothers and sisters, you don't want a happy life. There is not a
disease except the Allah subhanho wa Taala send on the cure with it.
The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam told us Manzo, Allah Who
Dan Illa Angela Mao Shiva never did Allah subhanho wa Taala send
on a disease except that he sat down with it the cure.
How many people today are having problems?
Some are going through depression, some are going through stress.
Some are struggling in their lives. They have
problems within their relationship.
People they go and they consult psychiatrist
relationship experts Wallahi brothers and sisters, when are you
gonna be okay with the hobby? Nobody can tell you like Allah
subhanho wa Taala
woman asked me in a lie Hadith woman Astok Amina Allahu ALA,
whose speech is more truthful than the speech of Allah subhanho wa
taala.
And who is more truthful than Allah azza wa jal. He tells us
clearly, you want a happy life? Then Allah subhana wa Taala says
brothers and sisters, please do stand up. Men I'm your lasagna Han
mean that Kevin Owens, whoever from the men or the women does
righteous actions, well who are men, and this person is a
believer, well, no fee and no higher than Paiva. One an ASEAN
norm either on Santa Monica and we I'm alone, this person, we will
give him a happy life. Why? Because he did the actions that
Allah subhanho wa Taala commanded him to do.
And he was a believer
to condition conditions that were mentioned in the IEA
to do good actions, and the good actions are what fulfilling the
Command of Allah subhanho wa Taala Allah subhanho wa Taala told you
to do this, you submit to it.
And you believing in Allah subhanaw taala
this is the way of the believer when the IET come down. He doesn't
ask how why what when
he submits for what Allah subhana wa Tada told him
as Allah subhana wa Tada says, in America and I thought well,
meaning either Doodle in Allah He was a solely heliacal Malbay now
and you're going to send me an hour Altana what would I call it
is only the way of the believers.
It is only the speech of the believers, when they are now
called
to judge between them
to Allah subhanho wa Taala and the messenger sallallahu alayhi wa
sallam,
Yanni his tuna and the Quran of Allah azza wa jal
that they say send me a na Wattana that we listen and obey.
What would I come home of your own these people are the successful
ones. provinces will lie I asked you to listen to this video with
an open heart
hoping that Allah subhanho wa Taala will solve the problems that
you have
lm yallambie And Allah Euro doesn't want to know that Allah
subhana wa Taala can see if ALLAH SubhanA wa Taala can see that
wishes in your heart.
Allah subhanho wa Taala will give it to you but you have to put it
in there that you want to fulfill the Command of Allah subhanho wa
Taala
Allah subhanho wa Taala says in ye Let me love you could all be
comfortable to come higher.
If Allah subhana wa Taala can see the higher the goodness in your
heart and ALLAH SubhanA wa Tala knows everything. He will give you
that good. If you really want to change, you really want to sort
things out.
And until yourselves the I will be like the believer that Allah
subhanho wa Taala has mentioned that when the iron two brought to
me, I say I listened and I obey
and be an ally to Allah by just fulfilling some of the Hadith that
we're going to be mentioning today inshallah to Allah. Allah will
solve your marriage problems,
the issues that you have
and you will have the happy life that you will crave for
brothers and sisters what I want to do I'm going to split this next
up, or this video into three parts, the first part, knowing the
importance
of
one being obedient to husband, and the emphasis that the Prophet
sallallahu alayhi wa sallam gave to when it came to this issue,
that hadith the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam time and time
again mentioned in order to make the people understand
the second point because the lighter Anna,
and I want to speak about is if we now have a clash
of opinions. Let's just say for example, the mother she's telling
the daughter to do something,
come home
and the husband is telling her to stay.
He wants something the mother in law or the father in law wants
something else
who takes precedence in the matter? Who do we need to obey
over the other?
The third thing being the light to Allah is if
the husband now tells his wife to commit
a sin or do something to Allah subhanho wa Taala is totally
against is that allowed for her to obey Him?
This also though, that what you want to discuss with me later Isla
so inshallah to Allah, the first part,
I want to use the statements of even the team or him Allah to
Allah in what he mentions in regards to the husband or wife
being obedient to a husband. What the religion of Islam says about
even attainment I am allowed to how he was asked the question I
name right into the widget were highlighted and shocked me Why do
they have about a woman now that has got married
and she has now left the ownership of a parent's a new home oven,
which one is more preferable?
Biru highly weary they have more power. Why to soldier ha ha now
being obedient to her parents, or her now being dutiful to husband.
Which one is more preferable, more virtuous out of the two?
For a job Rahim Allah Allah feeding the team I am allowed to
fly back and he said, and hamdu Lillahi Rabbil Alameen all praise
is to the Lord of all worlds. Allah morale to either terzo
Wadjet Karnas Oh, Juha amla cobia if a woman now gets married, then
her husband has more of a right over her. mean a boy had an
apparents what ba i choose? Oh gee Ha ha ha.
And her now being obedient to her husband is more widely more
compulsory upon her.
As Allah subhanho wa Taala says, when he's talking about some of
the characteristics of the righteous for Salih, righteous
women, for Salah how to honor the title.
Allah azza wa jal mentioned the word carnita which means a woman
that is obedient to her husband,
wife in Hadith, and in the beast of Allahu alayhi wa sallam, he
came in a narration that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa
sallam said he a dunya Metatron the dunya is an enjoyment while
hieromartyr He had a lot of Salah
and the biggest enjoyment that one can find in this dunya is getting
married to a righteous woman.
Either another two LASR Radka when you look at her
she makes you happy.
What either a martyr ha patka.
And now when you ask when you commander to do something,
she's obedient towards you.
Why that lifter and her Hatfield, Kofi Neff, see how America and if
now you are absent from her, she saved God's herself, and she also
preserves
your wealth.
This world the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said about the
enjoyment that one can find in this dunya is getting married to a
woman, that what
is a righteous individual.
Three things they mentioned. When you look at her, she makes you
smile. She makes you happy. She puts happiness in your heart.
When you ask her to do something, she does it straight away.
The third thing that was mentioned, when you're away from
her,
she preserves and safeguards her chastity
and she also looks after your money.
This is three characteristics.
That if it gets combined inside the woman, one can get the
enjoyment of this dunya the market of Saudi and we ask Allah subhana
wa Taala to make all our sisters like those dimensioned Hadith and
also then the shave, may Allah subhanho wa Taala have mercy upon
him. He went on to say the narration that was on the
authority of
ordering authority Allahu Allah and the Prophet sallallahu alayhi
wa sallam said, either slightly Latina Marathi Hamza was Ahmed
Shah. If a woman now she prays for five daily prayers, and she also
first the month of Ramadan will have fun at first, and she'll also
save God's private parts.
While thought at the Bala and she's also been into a husband,
the harlot men a bourbon and Bible Jannetty shirt, she will enter
in any door from the doors of agenda she was for.
Over the city sisters pay attention here. Look at the
importance of his motto. We have the pillars of Islam, the issue
about the solid and the issue about the CM fasting.
The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam has mentioned one being
dutiful to her husband, alongside some of these are cannibal Islam,
some of these pillars of Islam, to show you what the importance of
this issue that it is not an easy matter.
A woman now disobeying her husband, telling him that she
doesn't want to do this. They can go do one that she doesn't care,
whatever he says.
And then even a teammate Rahim Allah to Allah. He mentioned
another Hadith on the authority of almost Salmeterol, the Allah and
the wife of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam
that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, a human a human in
Marathi mattered was oh, you ha ha ha Robin, the harlot and Jana, any
woman now that dies
and her husband is satisfied with her, she will enter into a Jana.
Look at the virtue
that
the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said about the woman
and specified it to the women specifically mentioned her
something that she has an A man doesn't have that as long as she
satisfies him.
Then
if she dies, and he's happy with her, then she will enter into
agenda.
Sisters May Allah subhanho wa Taala preserve you all.
If only we change our mentality and our saying every single women
is like this. We changed the mentality that we have which is a
tic for tack.
A woman now trying to get our husband back, simply maybe because
he said something.
She said I'm not going to do this because
you said this to me and you did this to me and you done that to
me.
If only we change our mentality
and we said to ourselves that when I am now being dutiful to my
husband, I am being dutiful to Allah subhanaw taala because the
Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam has directly linked the two
and a woman now she cannot fulfill the rights of Allah subhanho wa
Taala we have the right of Allah subhanaw taala here. She cannot
fulfill this until she fulfills the rights of the husband.
The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said led to add dilemma or
to help Cara Bihar had to add the episode you have that the woman
she cannot fulfill
the rights of her
Lord until she fulfills the right of her husband.
So you want to please Allah subhanho wa Taala you want to last
a panel attire to be satisfied with you. You want Allah subhana
wa Taala to enter you into agenda.
Then you have the cause. You have the sub there right in front of
you which is to
be obedient to the husband
brother provenances to make a really balanced
I want the guy to understand us all. That we are not saying that
the woman she needs to be treated like a donkey or like a slave. Now
the line the colada.
Raw volocity subhanho wa Taala he has placed love amongst judo. He
has made you her husband, someone that looks after his wife why she
wrote her off and deal with them accordingly.
That doesn't mean you treat her and you say things to her totally
unappropriate just because she needs to obey you. Rob Allah
subhanho wa Taala he tells in the Quran Wudi Nasir Krisna and speak
to the people in a according manner. And Allah subhanho wa
Taala also says we're calling it a bad quality item and say to them,
oh Mohamed, let my servant say that which is better if this now
regarding the people imagine your wife, the wife that looks after
your kids.
The wife cooks for you
The wife
that washes your clothes,
even though the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam told us that they
are like the captives
at the same time, doing stuff for them, treating them nicely.
Just like how we want to be treated as part of our religion.
Law, you may know how to come Hector, you humbly say my
epilepsy. The prophets, Elijah has told us that one is not a true
believer until he laughs for himself when he lost his brother.
Would you like her treating you?
The way that you're treating her?
Then why would you treat her in such a way?
Like an animal when all Subhana wa Taala has placed her in your hands
ask you to look after her. She's there to
complete yourself.
So no matter needs to be known from both angles.
There even a team around him Allah Allah goes on to mention all the
Hadith ly especially by sharing and yes do deliberation and voila,
Salah Honeybear Sharon, and yesterday unabashedly Lamartine
Murata and test you that is OG ha. It is not permissible for human
being, to now prostrate to another human being.
If, if I was to now order someone to prostrate on an individual, I
would have ordered the
wife to prostrate her husband why?
Why did the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam say that
mean a lot me happy. Alia, due to the great right that he has over
the fact that he close, he puts a shelter over, he pays for the
rent, he doesn't have to pay for the rent.
Religiously, it is the guy that's meant to bring the money to the
house.
He's meant to close her.
Accordingly to that which goes back to the customer of the
people. We live right in Olathe freight without one being
neglectful, and one becoming extremely the issue.
The fact that he buys the food to the house
and all these other things that he does for her. That's why the
Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said this, it is not upon
the woman to bring these things to the house rather it is the job of
the man.
And that's one of the reasons why Allah subhanho wa Taala has told
us that the man is the maintainer of the woman, our religion or our
Mona Island Isa.
Why is that because of two reasons I mentioned in this ayah simply
because Allah subhanho wa Taala has preferred them over the women,
female football Allah, Allah, Allah God, why Bhima Anthropo mint
Amalia, and also because he spends over he brings the money to the
house. That's why Allah subhanho wa Taala has called him the
maintainer.