Abu Taymiyyah – Part 5 My husband is Forcing Me To Do Haraam him Do I accept
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And inshallah to Allah brothers and sisters now
I'm going to be moving on to the
3rd part
of the video
which is
if now
the husband is telling his wife to do
something that is impermissible.
We just mentioned now some of the virtues,
some of the Hadith that talk about the
importance
of a wife being
obedient to husband.
If he now tells her now to do
something that is Haram, is that permissible?
Is she allowed to obey him?
Rather, she can't obey him in that which
is Haram.
And from the examples that we find,
is when the husband and we have to
stay really really balanced here. We mentioned the
positives and likewise the negatives of the woman
and likewise the husband.
Sometimes the husband
tries to cut the relationship between
his wife
and her parents.
This is something that is Haram.
The Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam told us
The one that cuts the relationship,
the kith and the kin, this is impermissible.
Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala also says,
Have you not been disobedient to Allah Subhanahu
Wa Ta'ala?
That you cause corruption upon the earth,
and you cut your relationship amongst yourselves.
Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala
says,
These people
are people that Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala has
cursed,
and he has made them blind and deaf.
These are the people that cut their relations
between their family members. And he is not
allowed to do this
between
the girl and her mother,
or her father.
As you have these aya, these many, many
hadith that talk about
looking after the relationship between a kid and
a kin,
the close relatives and etcetera.
Ibn Taymiyrahima Allahu Ta'ala says,
If the husband now
stops his wife
from doing that which Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala
has commanded.
Or He commands her now to do something
Allah has made Haram,
or prohibited.
It is not
permissible for her to be obedient to him
in this regard.
There is no obedience to the creation if
it means disobedience to the creator.
Rather even the owner of a slave, if
he now tells his slave,
In that which is
in disobedience to Allah
It is not permissible for the slave
to obey his master
in being disobedient to Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala.
So how is it not permissible
for the mother
sorry, for the
wife to obey her husband.
Or any of her parents
when it comes to being disobedient to Allah
Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala.
Rather all the good is
in being obedient to Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala
and his messenger.
And all the evil is
in being disobedient to Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala
in his messenger.
And many examples of this
that both the couple sometimes might fall into
or even the parents might fall into when
the parent is telling
their daughter or their sons
to be oppressive
to the other half,
or the parents are telling her
to not obey the husband,
and not to go with him if he
decides to move to another place. Or if
he wants to do something, they tell the
girl don't do this.
And sometimes when it comes to the husband
and brothers, we're not going to go around
the bush here, we're going to be really
straight up.
You find that some husbands,
they force
their wives
into having sexual * with them while they
are on their menses.
Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala says,
They ask you about the menses, say to
them it's harmful.
And leave of the women while they are
on their menses.
This is what Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala told
us to do.
Or entering upon the woman
in places where Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala has
prohibited.
The Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam cursed the individual
that goes
and has * with his wife in a
place that has been prohibited.
And we have to be really really straight
up here. Brothers and sisters, we get emails
regarding this.
People saying
my husband is trying to force me into
doing this, and I don't know what to
do, I don't know who to speak to.
What do I do?
The answer is it
is not permissible for you to obey your
husband in this
because it is something that will bring the
wrath of Allah
subhanahu, the prophet sallallahu alaihi wa sallam said,
the curse of Allah is always upon the
individual now that enters
his wife from the backside.
And like we said, probably say we need
to be really straight with this issue. It's
from the Akhnam of Allah Azzawajal.
As for the parents
now commanding
the girl
to do that which Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala
told her to do?
It is something
that is
and she has to listen to her parents
even if she's married.
As for
her parents now ordering her,
oh any of them.
In that which,
is in obedience to Allah
In
trying to preserve
the daily prayers, was it hadith and being
truthful in speech.
And also being
or fulfilling the trust.
And they now
prohibit her from wasting her money.
And anything like this.
Upon her
to obey them
in these matters.
Even if this kind of command now comes
from other than the parents.
So how about now if this kind of
command comes from my parents?
We need to understand, if someone now tells
you,
you need to now pray your prayers. You
need to be truthful in speech.
If anyone tells you that it's still upon
you to do it, how about your parents
now telling you to preserve the limits of
Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala?
So Insha'Allah,
brothers and sisters,
Wallahi, I'm not attacking anyone specifically.
Wallahi, we made this video
in order to stop any future breakups,
And there's many people suffering from this kind
of, these kind of issues.
And only Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala knows our
intentions.
No one specific
are we speaking about rather
all that we're trying to do is
protect the Ummah
from trying to follow the disbelievers in their
acts.
In that which Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala has
prohibited.
And for everyone to be happy
and everyone to know their limits because it's
a big issue, it's a big problem.
And Insha'Allah Ta'ala in part 2, we will
be speaking about,
and it's also something of a issue that
is
very widespread in many households.
You find that the son of a mother
comes and he says,
my own mother, my own mother,
she's treating my sister-in-law
like a slave.
She cries all the time,
she wears her out, she oppresses her. What
do I do?
She's living in my house, and this is
what my mother is doing. Wallahi one brother
came up to me and he said to
me,
you have certain mothers
who watch these Indian films with Shah Rukh
Khan and all these other characters in there
who watch these kind of films, and this
is where they get their mentality from. This
is where they get
how to deal with their daughter in laws.
So they deal in such an oppressive way.
We ask Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala to preserve
all of us.