Abu Taymiyyah – Khutbah O Parent! Stop Making Marriage Difficult. Ustaadh
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fella come don't know back home when a youth a la hora Sula who
have other friends or foes and Alima I'm a bad finance doc and
Hadith the Kitab Allah wa higher on Houda who then Hamedan
sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was shown on Omar said to her coulomb
desert invader. Bakula be the agenda Allah Allah, Allah Allah
Allah Allah Allah Cynefin now then Allah what year coming and now
by the respective brothers and sisters. A couple of days ago I
was invited to Anika
and Wallahi brothers and sisters,
it really brought me a lot of joy to see who was getting married.
A young brother and a young sister. I believe they just
turned 20 or so.
And the reason why this brought me a lot of happiness and joy is
because we live in a sexualized society.
The way Everything has been designed is to black in your
heart, and to strip you of your faith.
We as young callers to Allah subhanho wa Taala
day in day out. We come in contact with youngsters
who are going through a lot of difficulties
and hardships
trying to keep it halal.
Brothers and sisters,
Allah Allah subhanho wa Taala he tells us in the Quran addressing
the parents.
What n keahole ion income was Saudi Hina mean Abadi como mi con
Allah azza wa jal addressing the parent, he says do in cash. There
is a difference.
When we see what Anki who, and also think, oh, ma favela
communities invest now was to Lhasa, the verse in Surah Nisa
that just about every man has memorized. What Allah subhanho wa
Taala says Go and marry
123 and four, right? So everybody has memorized that verse. Allah
subhanho wa Taala here is a dressing who he's the Dressing the
Man to go and marry
failsafe to my letter I didn't follow either when you feel that
you will not be able to do justice to your wives, then
only marry one. Right Thank you. And then you have what Anki What
am I mean come those who know the Arabic language there's a
difference between that which is on the western the scale, fr Isla
right and also Fila when being commanded to do something,
Allah subhanho wa Taala and as well as brothers and sisters, he
instructs the parent to marry their sons and daughters off
after reaching the age of puberty,
again, that really may make her think, how is this actually
possible in today's day and age? This is maybe something for the
old ages, right? Getting married at the age of puberty.
Let's just speak about the Hekmat behind it. Brothers and sisters
after individual reaches the age of puberty,
it is the peak of his desires his Shaohua
right. It is the peak of his immaturity.
The peak of his attractiveness. We are speaking about both the boy
and the girl.
Right. And when you really think about our priorities, and our
focus the way it has been shifted, the whole system brothers and
sisters be
Come with
anti marriage.
And that this is something that is done maybe what, after
going over the age of 25, once an individual has
graduated from university,
but what happens brothers and sisters from the time
he started secondary school all the way up until he graduates from
university.
And this is what we are dealing with on a day to day basis.
Maybe the parent is thinking about let my daughter get a degree. And
because of this mindset, I will reject any proposal that comes by
because he wants to share of her wage later on down the line. So
or maybe due to cultural practices. He the parent, or she
the mother
doesn't want this to happen at this moment in time.
And on the way to graduation, brothers and sisters,
many of our daughters, and please brothers, since I don't want
anybody to get upset. I'm not here to lower the tone. We deal with
the current issues on the ground. When we give a hot button. This is
what the hotbed is for.
Not so long ago, I was listening to an expert in this field, who
grew up in the village and he was saying that he asked more than one
grandparent
give me the statistics, just an average.
In your time he's speaking to the grandmother in your time when he
went to school, right? The percentage of women that had haram
relationships, speaking to an old woman, he said, I went to
different cities. And I had these conversations with these
grandmothers. Or maybe now the older than the age of 60 and 70.
How many of them? Do you think the answer was 75%. All of them agreed
that it was somewhere around 75% of the women in their classes.
They had haram relationships.
What do you think the situation is now brothers and sisters?
Well, I for a very long time. This is back in 2014. When I came back
from Yemen. I used to say this in lectures. Right? After mentioning
the Hadith the Prophet Salla it was sitting when he said, you know
shut Artesia and utilitarian way of Harald JAL, while Hara Zina
from the science of the hour, my brothers and my sisters, is that
railing becomes extremely SCOTUS,
it becomes less over the time, ignorance becomes prevalent and
widespread. And likewise, sexual immorality becomes widespread as
dinner.
I know will say at times, that we have to expect that our daughters
are maybe going to come home one day and say that I want to marry
Mark, John, and Bobby.
This is the reality on the ground brothers and sisters.
It's not what we may have become used to
back home. Well, I believe me or not, I know this is a ungodly mess
did right.
The biggest problems that I deal with, right are the most common
one should I say?
Our problems connected to our Bengali youngsters, male and
female, especially the female ones. While I there was a scenario
or a case that I was dealing with, that the father said to his
daughter, I'd rather you become a woman who sells herself.
It wasn't for the sake of higher being shy, I would have mentioned
the word
then you marrying this North African,
North African.
This is some of these situations that reach us brothers and
sisters.
They are at the peak of the shower. Right?
In maturity likewise. And that being the case brothers and
sisters, we throw them
into these universities, which is the breeding ground for filth,
evil and Cofer.
Everyone knows who a breeding ground is it is a playground for
atheists who are looking to strip Muslims and also those who have
religiosity with them, Christians and others from their religion.
What do you expect to happen on the university campus brothers and
sisters I'm telling you this as someone who was studying Civil
Engineering at a university
City in Loughborough, which is also very Bengali, populated. A
lot of the students they used to teach were from Bangladesh. And
we're having these discussions all the time all the time.
So I used to say quite often,
right, what I mentioned earlier, and then, shortly after I started
mentioning, that perhaps we have to ready ourselves mentally, that
there will come a time
that our child Mohamed Abu Bakar, Omar is going to wake up to his
father and say that I'm gay.
Everybody looked at me and said, Listen, you're a bit over the top
now Stop exaggerating.
This is back in 2014 2015. I
think it was last year I got a phone call from my brother saying
the son of one of the imams in Leicester has come out gay
and the father now wants somebody to speak to his child.
So I said no problem. I got a phone call. Maybe I think a day
after that, saying oh, the dad doesn't want to go ahead with it
anymore out of fear that everyone will find out that it is the son
of the Imam
likewise, brothers and sisters, LGBTQ, it's extremely widespread
on the university campus. These are some of the challenges
brothers and sisters that we are facing. Right and that the youth
are exposed to why is it that one would choose right maybe his
daughter and becoming impregnated by some Catholic gay mug John and
Bob
then for him to marry his daughter off in the most Halal way
possible.
Providing that
this individual is a smiley is righteous and he has good
etiquettes and this is exactly what the message is Allah Allah
was some told us in Hadith, men at Telkom Tara Dona Dino, well, hello
gophers and we do inlet of Iota confit net and fill out a facade
an array, whoever comes to you, and he has religion and also
etiquettes.
Either you marry him off to your daughter, otherwise there will be
what facade, an alley, a great fitna on the face of this earth,
from the fitter and likewise brothers and sisters, that we see
many, many youngsters becoming addicted to adult content. You may
see your son coming home, it's perfectly fine from the outside,
right? He's inside of his house, under his blanket. He's become
addicted to what Phil's
an evil.
While I broke my heart not so long ago, I got a phone call. Or maybe
it was a message on one of the social media platforms that I have
a mother saying
I came across the search history of my son I know what he said on
that.
How to Overcome * addiction. The kid is eight years
of age eight years of age and this is exactly what is happening.
We when we were growing up they use the dare one another. Right?
Who's going to go and speak to that girl and pull her Jani I
think everybody knows what that means right? A flirt with her.
Let's see you can get her and if you try to shy away they will look
at you as somebody who's what
homosexual and make fun of you. That was then
and as time goes on, as the Mr. lobbyism told us, ladies the man
in Lilla the Shadowman that doesn't come a time except that a
time that comes off that is far far worse. Akula Madison Irwin was
stuck for a lucha de where the commodity items they mean festival
Pharaoh in Allah for Rahim.
Al hamdu Lillahi wa Kapha wa salatu salam ala Nabil Mustafa Al
Mustafa
are their respective brothers and sisters, elders, aunties who are
listening.
Going back to the verse that I mentioned earlier, where Allah
subhanho wa Taala
instructed the parent to marry off his daughters and his sons, I need
to help them out.
I've done I've Nagasaki Allah I know my commented on this hadith
and he said Arabba home Allah if it is which Allah subhanho wa
Taala strongly encourage the parents
to marry the kids off
What did he say after that? What Mr. Robbie hill a Harada will
need. Allah subhanho wa Taala instructed
though
Those who are free and the slaves as well to marry
and then finally, why the home Allahu Allah azza wa jal levy
Latina Allah Allah subhanho wa Taala promised to enrich them.
This is what Allah subhanho wa Taala is referring to when he says
in your corner for karate you will need him Allah Hamid probably.
If they are individuals who may be
suffering financially, they are full Cara they are poor, Allah
subhanho wa Taala will enriching them.
Messengers Allah Allah wa sallam he also tells us that as the to
help on Allah, Allah here alone,
three individuals, Allah azza wa jal has made it a right upon
himself to aid and assist three types of individuals. One of them
is a nurse to her lady you read with
the one who wants to keep himself chaste, he wants to protect his
private parts.
how difficult that is, is it brothers and sisters, to really
keep hold to your faith and to your desires? In a time and agent
like this wala is extremely difficult.
Youngsters, they find it extremely difficult. And sometimes I tell
them, Go tell your parents that you are what about to go out of
control? Tell them so they realize that at least maybe what
do something about it to be there for them.
I'm not saying that you have to fund their marriage only 110% from
A to Zed law.
Then HCA is so so simple. We're more worried about what the people
are going to say. Right? I have to make the wedding like this. If
not, society will look at me in a different manner
at the expense of your child, becoming so closed up becoming
addicted to all types of filth and evil spiritually with the spread
of social media.
I had youngsters messaging and saying that committing Zina and a
month of Ramadan, how in the month of Ramadan
and they didn't know each other before the month of Ramadan.
SubhanAllah. The two documenting Zina cave, how through social
media that's how they got to know one another.
Last time I checked brothers and sisters, all you need is the
Willie and two witnesses. It's as simple as that.
Right and the Mr. lobbyism told us the most blessitt type of Nikka is
the one with the least Mohawk.
We can keep it something moderate. But what we're thinking about is
that which
makes us accepted in society.
I'm delighted to
be allowed to I know you also commented on the verse and he said
it then limonene Timmy sort of Xena terminators, a witch. It
amazes me one wants to become enrichment. He wants more money
but then he doesn't get married. When Allah says in your corner for
Cara yogena him Allah. Allah subhanho wa Taala will be there
supporting and assisting?
Yes, you take the means, while at the same time.
Allah azza wa jal will be there for you. Think about it for a
moment people in Africa, third world countries, right? They get
married, they have kids, Elijah is looking after them. Back home in
Somalia, back home in Yemen. It just happens.
But when we're here in the UK, with housing support, housing
benefits, Child Tax Credit, and all of the different forms of
support that we have,
were terrified.
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