Abu Taymiyyah – I’m 18 & I’m too young to get married [Funny] Khutba @ Ayyub’s Nikkah

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The speaker discusses the importance of understanding the reputation of couples in marriage and how it can affect their satisfaction with religion. They also mention the importance of having a degree and car for a woman. The speaker emphasizes the need to avoid wasting money and making it difficult for one another.

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			Very very quickly inshaAllah we just want to
		
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			stand over a few hadith of the prophet
		
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			sallallahu alaihi wasallam. Hopefully inshaAllah
		
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			our perspective and our mindset, the way we
		
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			look at some things in our religion, especially
		
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			things like marriage, we will have a better
		
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			understanding and we'll look at it in a
		
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			better way as well. Firstly, the prophet sallallahu
		
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			alaihi wa sallam said in a hadith,
		
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			a woman, she's married due to four reasons.
		
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			Or this is what the people actually do,
		
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			they get married to women due to four
		
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			reasons. And he mentioned,
		
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			The first thing that he mentioned was
		
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			her wealth. This what people do.
		
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			The people, when they get married, they normally
		
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			get married maybe due to her wealth.
		
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			And the second thing was the reputation, the
		
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			lineage of the family. And the third thing
		
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			was what? Her beauty. So very very quickly
		
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			insha Allahu Ta'ala, I just want to point
		
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			out a few things.
		
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			So people look at it in a better
		
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			way.
		
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			Sometimes you find when couples get married it
		
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			is based upon what's the money,
		
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			or maybe the car that he has, or
		
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			maybe the house that she or he has.
		
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			Allah, these marriages you find that
		
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			because it is started in a incorrect
		
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			manner,
		
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			it might break down very very quickly and
		
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			I'll tell you why. If the marriage now
		
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			is based upon money, what happens when the
		
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			money goes?
		
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			A lot of us we saw this recession
		
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			that took place, paid After recession goes, the
		
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			BMW that he had, or the money that
		
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			she had, or the house that he had,
		
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			he ended up going. What happens then? Are
		
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			we gonna split up? Because that money is
		
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			not there anymore.
		
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			Second thing,
		
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			the lineage. Some people think that because of
		
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			the reputation of the family, the guys always
		
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			like that. It could be completely different.
		
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			Thirdly is the
		
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			Jaman,
		
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			the beauty.
		
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			If it is solely built around the beauty,
		
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			what happens when that beauty goes,
		
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			woman's gonna get pregnant,
		
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			you know, she might not be as, you
		
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			used to see her before.
		
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			Now, he might end up getting a scar
		
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			in his face, she might become fat or
		
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			he might become fat. What happens then when
		
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			you lose attraction? But that which remains beautiful
		
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			is what? The akhlaq,
		
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			the deen of a person. Hence, why the
		
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			prophet said,
		
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			Go for the one
		
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			that has religion
		
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			before you end up hitting your hand on
		
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			the floor out of regret.
		
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			Is like figurative speech that the Arabs use.
		
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			Do this, otherwise you're gonna get regretful.
		
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			Even the prophet salallahu alaihi was entertaining the
		
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			rajjud, the man he said,
		
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			whoever comes to you now
		
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			and you are satisfied with his religion and
		
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			also his akhlaq,
		
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			then get him married off.
		
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			Either that you do this, there's gonna be
		
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			a fitna and a facade upon the earth.
		
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			You know. And you tend to find brothers
		
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			and sisters oh, there's no sisters here. Brothers,
		
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			naam.
		
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			If it is solely built upon the religion
		
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			of Allah
		
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			and they are always trying to seek the
		
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			pleasure of Allah azza wa Jal, everything they
		
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			do is based upon, you know, Allah azza
		
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			wa Jal's book, the messenger sallallahu alaihi wa
		
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			sallam. This is the most happiest of marriages.
		
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			Problems are gonna happen. We're duludid if we
		
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			think problems are not gonna happen.
		
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			Scuffles between the husband and wife is going
		
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			to happen.
		
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			Always tell the Prophet, you know, the relationship
		
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			should be like a triangle.
		
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			Like this triangle,
		
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			not the masonic sign with the eyes in
		
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			the middle, but the,
		
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			triangle where you have Allah
		
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			and you have at the top, and the
		
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			husband and wife, they are working towards Allah
		
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			Whatever they try to do,
		
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			the problems that they have, they always try
		
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			to work with the correct intention. No, I
		
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			need to get him back. I need to
		
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			make him understand. I need to get one
		
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			of him. I need to do this. Tikfatah.
		
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			And you read the israhan,
		
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			he wants to killallahu bayna ummaha. If they
		
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			want rectification,
		
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			and they have the intention, they want they
		
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			have the intention Allah Azawajal will solve the
		
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			problems between them. And the last thing inshaAllah
		
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			ta'ala that I want to mention is, that
		
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			that which is pertaining us,
		
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			us, as a community,
		
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			when we tend to make things very very
		
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			difficult
		
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			for the people or for our children.
		
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			The as, Sheikh Aid was mentioning the things
		
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			are very very easy. Our religion has been
		
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			made very very easy in Nadim al Yosuram,
		
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			the Prophet said. Our religion is very very
		
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			easy. But
		
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			we have turned marriage into such a big
		
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			thing as if a mountain is dropping on
		
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			our heads. When the issue of marriage comes
		
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			up, no. You need to have this. You
		
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			need to have a degree. You need to
		
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			have a car. You need and and it
		
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			goes on. The list goes on. Our brother,
		
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			you is me, I think, 18 years old,
		
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			19 years old. 20.
		
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			20 years old. He hasn't finished his degree
		
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			like, you know, yani is something very very
		
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			simple, very very simple. And also you find
		
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			that getting married is the reason why Allah
		
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			subhanahu wa ta'ala increases the provision for a
		
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			person. Allah says,
		
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			Get married off to the female slaves amongst
		
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			you, the righteous amongst you. If they are
		
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			poor, Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala will enrich in
		
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			them. As for saying, you need to have
		
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			this car, the chaklefante needs to be there.
		
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			The whole needs to be 5, 6 grand.
		
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			Making the Mahad 5, 6 grand, which becomes
		
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			very very hard for a person. We close
		
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			off this door of halal, make it very
		
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			very difficult. What do the kids do? Wallahi
		
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			rabbis complain to me all the time.
		
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			They wanna get married, they wanna do things
		
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			in halal way, then he goes behind the
		
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			parents back. They're doing zina, they're doing all
		
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			sorts of wahiswakls,
		
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			the girl gets pregnant. Then they think to
		
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			themselves, oh, now we need to get them
		
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			married off.
		
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			Before the aid comes to our family.
		
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			Or we're more concerned about trying to please
		
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			the people, now what the people have to
		
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			say.
		
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			The prophet
		
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			he said,
		
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			Whoever now tries to
		
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			please the people
		
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			and he enrages Allah
		
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			Allah will make the people angry with him
		
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			and Allah will become angry with him as
		
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			well. When it comes to like wasting money,
		
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			wanting to do it in such a, you
		
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			know,
		
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			I like in human way, I believe it
		
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			is. Now I'm making it so difficult for
		
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			the people,
		
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			so much tardir and everything else. Allah says,
		
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			Those who waste are like the problems of
		
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			the shaitan.
		
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			So starting it off in a way where
		
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			you're wasting money and haramah take your place
		
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			and, you know, making it difficult for the
		
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			people. You find that the barakah gets taken
		
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			out. The prophet sallallahu alaihi wa sallam said,
		
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			and I conclude with this insha Allah.
		
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			Make your even if it is with 1
		
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			sheep.
		
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			Even if it is with 1 sheep. That's
		
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			how simple the issue is. That's what the
		
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			Prophet commanded
		
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			and we shouldn't be making it difficult for
		
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			one another.