Abu Taymiyyah – I’m 18 & I’m too young to get married [Funny] Khutba @ Ayyub’s Nikkah
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Very very quickly inshaAllah we just want to
stand over a few hadith of the prophet
sallallahu alaihi wasallam. Hopefully inshaAllah
our perspective and our mindset, the way we
look at some things in our religion, especially
things like marriage, we will have a better
understanding and we'll look at it in a
better way as well. Firstly, the prophet sallallahu
alaihi wa sallam said in a hadith,
a woman, she's married due to four reasons.
Or this is what the people actually do,
they get married to women due to four
reasons. And he mentioned,
The first thing that he mentioned was
her wealth. This what people do.
The people, when they get married, they normally
get married maybe due to her wealth.
And the second thing was the reputation, the
lineage of the family. And the third thing
was what? Her beauty. So very very quickly
insha Allahu Ta'ala, I just want to point
out a few things.
So people look at it in a better
way.
Sometimes you find when couples get married it
is based upon what's the money,
or maybe the car that he has, or
maybe the house that she or he has.
Allah, these marriages you find that
because it is started in a incorrect
manner,
it might break down very very quickly and
I'll tell you why. If the marriage now
is based upon money, what happens when the
money goes?
A lot of us we saw this recession
that took place, paid After recession goes, the
BMW that he had, or the money that
she had, or the house that he had,
he ended up going. What happens then? Are
we gonna split up? Because that money is
not there anymore.
Second thing,
the lineage. Some people think that because of
the reputation of the family, the guys always
like that. It could be completely different.
Thirdly is the
Jaman,
the beauty.
If it is solely built around the beauty,
what happens when that beauty goes,
woman's gonna get pregnant,
you know, she might not be as, you
used to see her before.
Now, he might end up getting a scar
in his face, she might become fat or
he might become fat. What happens then when
you lose attraction? But that which remains beautiful
is what? The akhlaq,
the deen of a person. Hence, why the
prophet said,
Go for the one
that has religion
before you end up hitting your hand on
the floor out of regret.
Is like figurative speech that the Arabs use.
Do this, otherwise you're gonna get regretful.
Even the prophet salallahu alaihi was entertaining the
rajjud, the man he said,
whoever comes to you now
and you are satisfied with his religion and
also his akhlaq,
then get him married off.
Either that you do this, there's gonna be
a fitna and a facade upon the earth.
You know. And you tend to find brothers
and sisters oh, there's no sisters here. Brothers,
naam.
If it is solely built upon the religion
of Allah
and they are always trying to seek the
pleasure of Allah azza wa Jal, everything they
do is based upon, you know, Allah azza
wa Jal's book, the messenger sallallahu alaihi wa
sallam. This is the most happiest of marriages.
Problems are gonna happen. We're duludid if we
think problems are not gonna happen.
Scuffles between the husband and wife is going
to happen.
Always tell the Prophet, you know, the relationship
should be like a triangle.
Like this triangle,
not the masonic sign with the eyes in
the middle, but the,
triangle where you have Allah
and you have at the top, and the
husband and wife, they are working towards Allah
Whatever they try to do,
the problems that they have, they always try
to work with the correct intention. No, I
need to get him back. I need to
make him understand. I need to get one
of him. I need to do this. Tikfatah.
And you read the israhan,
he wants to killallahu bayna ummaha. If they
want rectification,
and they have the intention, they want they
have the intention Allah Azawajal will solve the
problems between them. And the last thing inshaAllah
ta'ala that I want to mention is, that
that which is pertaining us,
us, as a community,
when we tend to make things very very
difficult
for the people or for our children.
The as, Sheikh Aid was mentioning the things
are very very easy. Our religion has been
made very very easy in Nadim al Yosuram,
the Prophet said. Our religion is very very
easy. But
we have turned marriage into such a big
thing as if a mountain is dropping on
our heads. When the issue of marriage comes
up, no. You need to have this. You
need to have a degree. You need to
have a car. You need and and it
goes on. The list goes on. Our brother,
you is me, I think, 18 years old,
19 years old. 20.
20 years old. He hasn't finished his degree
like, you know, yani is something very very
simple, very very simple. And also you find
that getting married is the reason why Allah
subhanahu wa ta'ala increases the provision for a
person. Allah says,
Get married off to the female slaves amongst
you, the righteous amongst you. If they are
poor, Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala will enrich in
them. As for saying, you need to have
this car, the chaklefante needs to be there.
The whole needs to be 5, 6 grand.
Making the Mahad 5, 6 grand, which becomes
very very hard for a person. We close
off this door of halal, make it very
very difficult. What do the kids do? Wallahi
rabbis complain to me all the time.
They wanna get married, they wanna do things
in halal way, then he goes behind the
parents back. They're doing zina, they're doing all
sorts of wahiswakls,
the girl gets pregnant. Then they think to
themselves, oh, now we need to get them
married off.
Before the aid comes to our family.
Or we're more concerned about trying to please
the people, now what the people have to
say.
The prophet
he said,
Whoever now tries to
please the people
and he enrages Allah
Allah will make the people angry with him
and Allah will become angry with him as
well. When it comes to like wasting money,
wanting to do it in such a, you
know,
I like in human way, I believe it
is. Now I'm making it so difficult for
the people,
so much tardir and everything else. Allah says,
Those who waste are like the problems of
the shaitan.
So starting it off in a way where
you're wasting money and haramah take your place
and, you know, making it difficult for the
people. You find that the barakah gets taken
out. The prophet sallallahu alaihi wa sallam said,
and I conclude with this insha Allah.
Make your even if it is with 1
sheep.
Even if it is with 1 sheep. That's
how simple the issue is. That's what the
Prophet commanded
and we shouldn't be making it difficult for
one another.