Abu Taymiyyah – I Dont Have Time To Study Sh Okasha Kamenis Advice aadh
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The speaker discusses the advice of revenues and finding time to progress during marriage. They also give advice on finding time and finding success during a busy time. The advice is to prioritize studying and doing what one can do, even if it means bluffing.
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Also I want to share the advice. You
guys know Sheikh Rokashat Kamini?
What's he known for?
Khalaf and Hamza,
and Kisai.
As Sheikh Habidullah Ta'ala, you Google him or
you YouTube him, he's become a very well
known famous recital.
People just think that he's a recital.
From the most knowledgeable, if not the most
knowledgeable,
Westerner that I've personally come in contact with.
May Allah bless the brother John Fontaine, he
set up a meeting
in Mecca.
And I thought let me take some advice
and I think maybe
students can benefit from this because a lot
of students always ask,
how can I now combine between
being serious when it comes to
and
also
marriage life?
Common question, right?
Is this woman now going to aid me
or is she going to be hindrance?
It's a continuous battle.
I said, Sheikh,
you're probably married to 4, Allahu Adam. I'm
not asking whether this is the case or
not, but
I'm assuming
you have, masha'Allah.
Your dua, Allahumabhairiq,
is very well known.
You're busy.
Right?
You're very famous.
The more famous you get, the more easy
it becomes to get married.
And I'm not trying to find out about
the ins and outs, I just want to
know one thing. Shaykh,
how do you find time
progressing in
Sikha Knowledge?
Because normally when you become a dua or
the imam of the masjid, you get busy.
Right? After fajr, you got people asking you
questions. Sometimes as an imam you just wanna
run away. This is my private time, my
Quran time.
Utuqmi.
Leave me.
However, you can't operate like that.
So you're so busy, how do you find
time? Because this sheikh,
he continued seeking knowledge.
And they say, but I heard, and he
reached me, that he would continue doing alfiyat,
1,000 line poems,
even when he's given dawah.
Allahu Barik.
So he's like a computer.
So I said, Sheikh, when do you find
time?
He said, you have to find a time
when no one occupies you. When is that?
3 PM in the afternoon,
when you need to be doing school runs
as a parent.
And when after Maghrib,
before you go to sleep, when you become
mentally exhausted,
and then the wife says go and take
her to sleep.
It's literally now one brother, Mawlana,
expose him, saying
it's a challenge
At night,
wife's looking at him and he's looking at
the wife,
who's going to go out to sleep.
It's a challenge.
When will you find time?
I said, Sheikh, are you referring to 'Aafat
Fatiha?
Said, You have to find that time when
everyone's asleep.
Not your wife, not the
Mamoom, Fil Masjid,
not this person who comes and ask you
questions, everyone's asleep.
And if they are awake, they are praying
in their homes. No one's al Khooi at
that time, right?
This is the time that you should maybe
what? Progressing, memorizing, reading,
doing what you can.
Normally when a woman becomes pregnant and she
has a child, she tends to go to
sleep after Fajr.
Right? Again, you have to make a sacrifice.
You are going to have eye bags.
You'll be tired.
She put Vaseline on and show you look
better
Or some
cream. But your face is going to suffer
at times.
Right?
It's
a sacrifice you have to make. You
want
in anything.
Right?
In everything that you're trying to become successful
in, you have to put in the efforts
in order to
Reach success.
And of course it's much more than that,
like you need the tawfiq of Allah
So this is the advice that he gave
me.
I mentioned it here because it's a very
common question, we can just now refer the
people to the video.
Right? It's common question, right?
She's always in my face, and she's telling
me do this, do that.
There has to be a time that she
respects,
right?
Like I tell my family, I don't want
you to speak to me till 3 PM.
From Ba'al Fajr
until 3, I don't know you.
Otherwise I'm gonna go and get a corporate
job, I'll come back at 5 PM. At
least I'm in the house now.
I'm reading, this is my work.
My studies is my work.
I don't know you, don't talk to me.
After that, we'll have breakfast, we'll have a
3 pm.
That's what we call brunch, sah.
There has to be a time that's mukaddas.
Because if you think about it brothers, right,
and sisters,
when you go to work, everyone respects your
time, right? Because the money
is on the line.
No one calls you, no, your father, not
your mother, not your wife.
Everyone respects that. But when you pick up
a book, oh this guy is just, you
know,
she's reading.
Yeah. There has to be time that you
respect, this is my study time.
And of course, you have to give time
to them, that's why you have to be
fair. Times when you just spend quality time
with them, not just time, quality time.
So you have to put your phone away,
maybe put in the basket at the door,
and just talk to her.
Say nice things. When they hear nice things,
trust me, you'll be able to get time.
I just wanna seek knowledge.
Sometimes you have to bluff,
Right?