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The speakers emphasize the importance of steadfastness and offer practical ways to avoid negative consequences. They stress the challenges of marriage and parenting and offer advice on finding time and finding one's own success. They also emphasize the importance of learning the deen and not busying oneself. Speaker 1 encourages people to not be part of the "we" group and thanks attendees for attending the conference.

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			My dear brothers
		
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			and sisters in Islam,
		
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			I would like to welcome you to
		
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			our winter conference
		
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			2022,
		
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			which is called, shirkmas.
		
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			And so far, we have had
		
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			3 lectures,
		
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			and this is going to be the 4th
		
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			session that we're going to have today.
		
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			What we're going to have now
		
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			will be the q and a part of,
		
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			of our,
		
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			set of lectures today or the panel discussion.
		
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			So,
		
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			I will be asking,
		
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			our sheikh,
		
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			some questions.
		
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			I will also participate,
		
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			and if it is necessary for me to
		
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			say anything,
		
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			or if I have something to say,
		
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			with regards to some of the questions,
		
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			and we will be benefiting majority of the
		
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			time. We will be benefiting from
		
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			Abu, Tamia. I want to also
		
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			thank all the brothers and the sisters who
		
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			have attended the conference.
		
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			And,
		
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			we have brothers who came from outside the
		
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			city of Manchester.
		
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			We have brothers who came from Birmingham. Even
		
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			we have brothers who came from as far
		
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			as Southampton.
		
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			We have brothers who came from Sheffield. We
		
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			have brothers who came from other cities as
		
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			well.
		
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			And so we would like to welcome all
		
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			of you.
		
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			Please welcome to your Masjid Masjid Al Furqan.
		
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			We are honored to host you and to
		
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			have you here.
		
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			We are also greatly honored to host our.
		
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			Sheikh Abdul Al Ojedi has arrived safely here
		
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			in the city, and in the Masjid.
		
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			We will be benefiting from the Sheikh
		
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			tomorrow. And so what we have left tonight
		
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			is going to be the,
		
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			the panel discussion right now or the q
		
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			and a.
		
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			And and then after that,
		
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			we'll take a short break or we're gonna
		
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			have a proper break.
		
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			And then after that, we will be coming
		
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			back for
		
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			and after
		
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			is going to complete the book that he
		
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			has started going through, which has already been
		
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			advertised,
		
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			which is.
		
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			Okay? The 6 principles. So that is going
		
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			to happen as well. So just to begin,
		
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			this,
		
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			discussion,
		
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			with the Sheikh,
		
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			and I want to give him couple of
		
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			minutes
		
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			to touch upon
		
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			the theme of our panel discussion
		
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			which is,
		
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			steadfastness
		
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			and the importance of this
		
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			topic or this particular theme. So I would
		
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			like to give the floor to the sheikh
		
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			and give him the opportunity to say something
		
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			regarding
		
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			the importance of a steadfastness
		
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			upon the religion, and then hopefully the q
		
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			and a will be starting after that.
		
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			Extremely humble.
		
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			Right?
		
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			I don't know why he keeps doing this
		
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			every time I come here, but as you
		
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			guys are aware, the sheikh is a lot
		
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			more older.
		
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			He's a lot more senior. He's a lot
		
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			more knowledgeable. We only came about not so
		
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			long ago.
		
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			He graduated, I think,
		
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			as I always mentioned, right, while we were
		
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			still being chased by the helicopter in London.
		
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			Even you have the hadith of the prophet
		
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			when he said, attorney Jibril,
		
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			Jibril came to me and instructed me to
		
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			give precedence to the elders.
		
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			Should be the elders that normally start,
		
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			not those who are younger,
		
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			or Surah Messenger SallAllahu Alaihi Wasallam, another hadith
		
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			when it came to the siwak.
		
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			Right? Siwak,
		
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			you know, that which you do or which
		
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			you use to clean
		
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			your mouth, companions, they were sitting around and
		
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			they all wanted
		
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			to use it after the Messenger and
		
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			he said,
		
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			older, the older one should go first.
		
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			My brothers and my sisters, that which pertains
		
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			to being steadfast,
		
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			it's not hidden from you all, my brothers
		
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			and my sisters, that we are living in
		
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			a time and age where holding on to
		
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			your religion. It's like holding on to hot
		
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			calls.
		
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			As the messenger
		
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			said
		
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			and as time goes on,
		
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			you will find it will only get more
		
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			and more difficult.
		
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			There there's not a time except that the
		
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			time that comes after is far far worse,
		
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			so what are some of the things that
		
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			we could do that are practical,
		
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			Right? That will inshallah keep
		
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			us all steadfast.
		
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			Very very quickly, number 1, brothers and sisters,
		
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			the salah.
		
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			You probably heard me say it multiple
		
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			times,
		
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			brothers
		
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			and sisters.
		
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			I honestly don't care what's happening
		
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			in your lives, and what I mean by
		
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			that is
		
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			whatever sin that you may be involved in,
		
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			don't let that make you feel that
		
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			you are not worthy
		
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			of standing in front of Allah Subhanahu Wa
		
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			Ta'ala.
		
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			No matter what is happening,
		
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			no matter what filthy act that you may
		
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			have fallen into,
		
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			no matter what you may have watched
		
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			before you went to sleep under your blanket,
		
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			The shaytan gets the better of us.
		
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			Messenger sallallahu alaihi wasallam, he said, kullubani adam,
		
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			kata, every son of Adam, he constantly makes
		
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			mistakes,
		
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			but the best of those are those who
		
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			repent to Allah and they come back to
		
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			him, and
		
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			so whatever happens, brothers and sisters, don't leave
		
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			off the salah.
		
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			As Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala
		
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			teaches us that this is a mechanism that
		
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			will help you
		
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			overcome and overpower
		
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			some of these filthy acts that we are
		
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			involved in.
		
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			The
		
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			removes the filth and the evil from your
		
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			life.
		
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			Right.
		
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			I'll tell you guys story very quickly.
		
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			A couple of years ago
		
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			sorry, Sheikh, going on a little bit. Yeah.
		
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			Couple of years ago, and I think sometimes
		
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			these
		
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			not
		
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			there's difference between the 2.
		
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			Is like a mythical story, and
		
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			I was driving in Leicester, and I saw
		
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			some of our brothers
		
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			who were standing around. Some of them were
		
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			smoking weed.
		
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			They were just vibing. I decided to get
		
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			out the car and give them
		
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			why are you guys laughing?
		
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			It's that it's that isn't that what you
		
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			guys say is vibing?
		
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			Like, they were, like, chilling about
		
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			standing around.
		
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			So I decided, you know what? Let me
		
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			just get out of the car and quickly
		
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			give them a reminder.
		
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			And, of course, in Leicester,
		
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			what many are used to is being
		
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			stopped on the road
		
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			and given an hour's reminder
		
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			by a group of brothers who tend to
		
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			go around and give the hour.
		
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			And so I told them straight away, listen.
		
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			I'm not part of the group. I just
		
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			want to give you a 2 minute reminder.
		
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			They were respectful enough to stop smoking weed
		
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			in my face because they were smoking, some
		
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			of them.
		
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			All I said to them, brothers, is it
		
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			fair? Is it fair
		
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			that we have 24 hours in the day
		
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			and we can't give 25 minutes to Allah
		
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			Subhanahu wa Ta'ala, 25 minutes.
		
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			We are busy and so occupied
		
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			with all sorts of things,
		
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			whether it may be dunya, whether it may
		
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			be work, whether it may be uni, whatever
		
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			it might be. We can't give 25 minutes
		
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			to Allah
		
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			Right. I told him brothers, pray,
		
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			because I know
		
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			it's only a matter of time that the
		
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			salah
		
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			overpowers a lot of the evil that we
		
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			might be involved in.
		
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			Couple of years when Baye happened to be
		
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			in Zamzam Pulman in Medina, some of you
		
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			guys may have visited
		
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			a hotel.
		
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			My dad normally has brings hajj and umrah
		
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			groups, so a group came. My brother came
		
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			to me. He's wearing a big thobe,
		
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			had a big beard.
		
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			He said, do you remember me? What I
		
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			just thought was one of the brothers that
		
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			came to the programs, came to the
		
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			I said, no, you know, you don't look
		
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			familiar.
		
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			He said, you came up to us on
		
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			that night,
		
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			some of us were smoking weed in your
		
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			face, thank you for reminding me,
		
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			because I left, and I just prayed.
		
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			Even though I didn't fully detach myself from
		
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			all of that which I was involved in,
		
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			but I just used to go and pray,
		
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			taking the advice that you gave me.
		
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			And eventually, I began to feel extremely, extremely
		
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			uncomfortable
		
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			around the environment that I was in.
		
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			Right.
		
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			This, my brothers and my sisters, is from
		
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			the effects of the salah.
		
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			It really, really is.
		
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			Right.
		
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			You know a wall that's coming down, a
		
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			wall that's coming down, the salah is holding
		
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			it. And you're pushing it like that right,
		
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			that's a salah.
		
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			The moment you stop praying, accept everything else
		
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			to go downhill.
		
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			Expect to lose
		
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			your identity.
		
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			Expect
		
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			to completely lose direction, brothers,
		
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			the moment you boycott salah.
		
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			So this is what I really wanted to
		
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			start with. We've spoken a lot about the
		
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			importance of knowledge. Normally, when I go around
		
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			to the universities after I've given
		
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			maybe an hour and a half lecture, I
		
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			give them 5 things. The first thing that
		
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			I always start with is the issue of
		
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			the salah,
		
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			Right?
		
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			We mentioned the rest of the stuff, Insha'Allah.
		
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			And the Sheikh is going to answer the
		
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			next question.
		
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			Making me feel extremely uncomfortable.
		
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			That's why I'm here to make you feel
		
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			uncomfortable.
		
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			Okay? But
		
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			you'll be very comfortable with me.
		
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			Don't worry.
		
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			I am going to hopefully contribute to some
		
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			of the answers.
		
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			As the opening statement given by the sheikh,
		
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			I would also like to take this opportunity
		
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			and to give a short statement
		
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			regarding the concept of steadfastness.
		
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			And,
		
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			this is something that we all have to
		
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			remind ourselves about.
		
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			Allah
		
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			has said in the Quran.
		
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			Indeed those who have said that Allah is
		
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			their lord
		
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			and after that they were steadfast upon that
		
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			path.
		
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			Allah said they will have no fear and
		
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			also nor grieve as well. In another eye,
		
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			Allah has
		
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			said in the Allah Subhanallah. In this other
		
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			Allah
		
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			reminded us what is going to
		
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			happen after when he's about to die, when
		
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			you're about to die, when you're about to
		
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			check out from this world and transition to
		
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			the next life,
		
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			angels will descend upon that person,
		
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			and you will be the only one who's
		
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			able to see the angels, but those who
		
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			are sitting around you won't be able to
		
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			see the angels. And what will the angels
		
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			say to you?
		
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			So remember, if you are steadfast upon the
		
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			religion, what will happen is the angels will
		
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			give you the glad tidings that you should
		
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			have no fear, neither should you have any
		
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			grief at all. And not only that, they
		
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			will give you the glad tidings of what?
		
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			Go into paradise.
		
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			So this is something that Allah
		
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			has promised us. And if Allah makes a
		
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			promise in the If
		
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			Allah makes a promise, that's exactly what is
		
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			going to happen. And I'm going to conclude
		
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			with this quick
		
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			opening statement with with this
		
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			topic, the topic of of steadfastness
		
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			and the hadith of the prophet
		
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			and the companion
		
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			came to the the prophet
		
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			and and he said to him
		
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			give me advice that I will not ask
		
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			Something that
		
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			I will never need to ask somebody else
		
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			after after you. And then what did the
		
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			father say to that companion?
		
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			He said to him what did he say
		
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			to him? Who's gonna remind us the hadith?
		
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			What do you think the prophet said to
		
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			him?
		
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			Say
		
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			I believe in Allah and then be steadfast
		
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			upon that path.
		
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			So, this
		
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			as an opening statement,
		
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			with regards to the concept of a steadfastness.
		
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			This is what I would like to say.
		
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			So I'm going to move on to the
		
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			q and a right now.
		
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			And, one of the questions that was sent
		
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			by the my by our brothers and sisters
		
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			and is the following question.
		
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			And the question is related to probably some
		
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			of the things that, Sheikh Abutaimia
		
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			has spoken about,
		
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			today. So the first one is about,
		
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			what as as the divorce rates
		
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			increase in the Muslim community to avoid
		
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			this? What is the best way for a
		
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			sister to take time in getting to know
		
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			a brother whilst doing
		
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			in a halal and permissible manner?
		
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			For the Sheikh. Yes. That's for you. I
		
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			appreciate it.
		
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			What advice do you have for a sister
		
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			Sheikh? Sheikh is
		
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			constantly marriage counseling.
		
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			He deals with these issues on a day
		
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			to day basis.
		
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			I'm just a freelance. I come, and I
		
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			give the lecture and leave.
		
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			Okay.
		
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			First of all, and,
		
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			the question should have been answered by the
		
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			Sheikh, but, I'm going to just start it
		
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			and and hopefully, he will complete it.
		
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			And,
		
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			what advice
		
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			would I give to a sister,
		
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			okay, to a sister who wants to get
		
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			married
		
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			and she wants to take her time
		
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			before she gets married
		
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			to this particular brother.
		
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			And
		
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			what is the halal way and permissible way
		
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			that she can actually be in touch with
		
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			him, but at the same time,
		
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			not rush into the marriage.
		
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			My dear brothers and sisters in Islam, let
		
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			me tell you this.
		
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			Let me tell you this.
		
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			Yes. The times the times and the world
		
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			that we live in right now
		
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			is quite challenging. Things are very difficult.
		
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			Things are not as they used to be.
		
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			And I have mentioned this many, many times
		
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			from this message from this platform.
		
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			I have reminded the brothers and the sisters,
		
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			things are not the same as they used
		
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			to be in the past.
		
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			Definitely, we don't have
		
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			the extended family that we used to have
		
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			in the past. As a youngster,
		
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			for example, my time
		
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			and the times that were before that time,
		
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			I remember naturally young people, they would have
		
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			learned
		
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			just from the extended family what marriage is
		
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			all about, and they used to have the
		
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			support system necessary for them. And it was
		
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			easy for somebody just to want to get
		
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			married to a particular sister. All he needed
		
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			to do was just to speak to her
		
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			father, for example, and then the father would
		
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			speak to the family or to speak to
		
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			his own father, and then the father would
		
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			approach the other family. And then they would
		
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			say, my son wants to get married to
		
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			your daughter. What do you think? And then
		
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			the father would say to his daughter, such
		
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			and such family came for came to us
		
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			and they're asking your hand in marriage, what
		
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			do you think? And her sister would say,
		
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			if you're happy with them, I'm happy with
		
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			them. And marriage used to happen that way,
		
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			and there was so much in that marriage.
		
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			And there was so much in that marriage.
		
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			It was nice and simple. There wasn't like
		
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			back and forth texting day and night, or
		
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			for example, getting to know to each other
		
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			with getting to know one another these days.
		
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			This is what happens. We are becoming like
		
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			what? Like the prophet
		
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			We are following the footsteps of those people
		
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			who came before us. Okay? Meaning the people
		
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			of the book.
		
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			Now we are seeing Muslims,
		
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			Muslim sisters and brothers are saying, we don't
		
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			wanna get married very quickly because we need
		
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			to get to know one another. We wanna
		
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			go out with with one another, for example.
		
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			We wanna go out and actually
		
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			go for holiday together. Just imagine a brother
		
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			and a sister who are not even married,
		
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			and they are okay to go
		
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			with one another for a holiday
		
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			to travel and and and actually enjoy themselves
		
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			in Dubai,
		
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			or for example, Turkey. So they want to
		
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			know one another, get to know one another.
		
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			And this is this is the reality. This
		
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			is what we are dealing with. Is this
		
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			Islamically allowed? Is it permissible? No. It is
		
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			not allowed. It's not permissible.
		
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			So my dear brothers and sisters in Islam,
		
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			and the more you fear Allah subhanahu wa
		
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			ta'ala as a brother, as a sister, when
		
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			you are getting married, when you are in
		
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			the process of getting married, when you are
		
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			doing the courting,
		
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			okay, the more you are close to Allah
		
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			Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala, the more you feel Allah
		
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			Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala, the more baraka that Allah
		
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			is gonna place in your marriage. One of
		
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			the advices that I give to the brothers
		
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			and the sisters is do not prolong the
		
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			courting.
		
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			What do I mean? Do not prolong the
		
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			go do you know the the back and
		
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			forth part of the of getting to know
		
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			one another or getting to know, for example,
		
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			the family of the person that you're getting
		
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			married to and so forth. Don't prolong it
		
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			too much. Okay?
		
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			Be do your due diligence, which is very
		
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			important, but at the same time, don't take
		
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			too much time. Because what happens is sometimes
		
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			and this is exactly what I say to
		
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			the people. Imagine if you have known
		
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			your wife to be for a year or
		
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			your wife to be, she has known you,
		
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			like, for a year, and you've been going
		
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			back and forth.
		
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			Okay. And just imagine
		
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			after knowing one another for a few months,
		
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			if you don't drop her a text every
		
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			morning, she's gonna get upset with you.
		
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			You're not even married to her. Why didn't
		
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			you send me a message last week?
		
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			What? You're not even my wife yet. Okay?
		
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			You didn't send me, like, a a nice
		
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			poem or this or that. We're not married
		
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			yet,
		
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			Remember this stuff.
		
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			So if you prolong this, what will you
		
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			have left for the 1st night of the
		
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			wedding?
		
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			Okay. You've you've you've already used all your
		
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			credit before you even got married. This what
		
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			happens. Why why is it that young people
		
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			today,
		
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			their marriage their marriage doesn't last more than
		
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			what? It doesn't last more than a month.
		
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			Some of them, their marriage doesn't even last
		
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			for a week. This is the reality. Why?
		
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			Because they
		
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			have taken their time in terms of what
		
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			getting to know one another. They've known each
		
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			other, like, for 2 years back and forth.
		
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			They've gone through every emotion in the book
		
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			together, like, for 2 years. And now after
		
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			they come and meet physically and spend time
		
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			together
		
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			1 to 1 for a week,
		
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			they had enough of each other.
		
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			This is the problem. So
		
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			my advice to the sister or to the
		
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			brother is both of them, they don't need
		
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			to prolong this this period where where you
		
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			need to know where you need to get
		
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			to know the other person. Don't prolong it.
		
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			Make it simple and easy
		
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			Put your trust in
		
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			Allah. Seek advice.
		
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			What was the second part?
		
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			It's important that you seek advice from the
		
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			elders, those people that you trust. Okay? And
		
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			then also do the and what will happen
		
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			you will not regret it. And then after
		
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			that do your of Allah
		
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			If the sheikh is gonna add,
		
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			a bit more to this. Can you see
		
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			why I gave it to him?
		
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			I would not have given you the answer.
		
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			What what, what I can add,
		
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			and, of course what the sheikh mentioned is
		
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			more than sufficient.
		
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			Brothers and sisters,
		
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			we need to learn
		
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			how to be husbands and wives.
		
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			The reason why I say this because
		
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			what we are exposed to
		
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			isn't how to be a husband and wife.
		
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			What are we constantly gazing at?
		
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			These Instagram couples
		
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			and YouTubers
		
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			who are setting a precedent for every single
		
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			one of us who's constantly attached to them
		
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			and their videos,
		
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			we've become glued to it, oh, that's how
		
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			it should be.
		
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			I'm sure a lot of you guys,
		
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			I call it the biggest
		
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			Instagram quote in quote out Muslim scandal.
		
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			How many times did I hear a sister,
		
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			right, saying, you know when you go for
		
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			marriage counseling, whatever have you, I want my
		
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			husband to be
		
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			like him, who's him?
		
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			That bearded guy
		
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			who is jumping up and down with his
		
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			niqabi wife on the bouncy castle.
		
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			You guys know what I'm speaking about.
		
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			Constantly comparing their lives to what they see
		
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			on Instagram, what they see on YouTube, and
		
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			brothers and sisters,
		
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			please take this from me, a lot of
		
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			that which we see on the world wide
		
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			web is fake.
		
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			It is fake.
		
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			I don't think, I don't know whether I
		
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			said this to you guys before, you know,
		
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			I would spend hours in the Prophet sallallahu
		
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			alaihi wa sallam's masjid, I would sit there
		
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			from after I said all the way,
		
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			I would see a lot of people walking
		
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			past
		
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			how many times have I seen someone
		
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			walking past and the guy looks miserable,
		
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			he looks
		
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			absolutely miserable
		
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			he takes out his phone
		
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			Snapchat, he takes the picture, and then he
		
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			uploads it. Who's the victim? The guy who's
		
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			what? Watching.
		
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			Sitting at home, thinking to himself, look, I'm
		
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			missing out.
		
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			A lot of that which we see, wallahi,
		
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			brothers and sisters, is fake.
		
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			Okay. There are some books that I could
		
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			recommend.
		
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			There is a book called 20 pieces of
		
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			advice to my sister
		
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			before her marriage,
		
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			by Sheikh Hudbaylutibi.
		
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			It's been translated into English. One time,
		
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			I bought a whole cartoon,
		
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			a whole box, and I started giving out
		
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			to the sisters in the Masjid, yeah,
		
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			I gave it to the masjid, and they
		
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			started giving out. Now I wasn't personally giving
		
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			out to him, no.
		
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			And And I was like, yeah, Masjid, give
		
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			it to him. At least, you know, we
		
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			can start with our own Masjid.
		
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			They can learn about it, and they can
		
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			have a good idea
		
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			of what marriage is all about.
		
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			Many people when they get into a marriage
		
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			now, he still thinks that he's living his
		
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			single life,
		
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			he goes out, he comes back when he
		
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			wants,
		
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			right, just like he used to conduct himself
		
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			before marriage. There's another kitab called
		
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			secrets to successful marriage.
		
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			I think the author is called
		
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			Afshan Khan or something like that,
		
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			talks about how the woman should be, the
		
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			expectations, and so on and so forth
		
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			that many women have, which is completely misconstrued,
		
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			you know. I think these 2 books might
		
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			be might be helpful to learn about. I
		
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			have
		
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			a video on my YouTube channel. It's called
		
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			7,
		
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			7
		
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			steps to a successful marriage.
		
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			It's very, very important. And as the Sheikh
		
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			mentioned, the most important thing is what?
		
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			Your relationship with Allah, Azza wa Jal. I
		
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			have the triangle theory.
		
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			You guys know that not the Freemason.
		
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			The
		
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			triangle theory, I think, is very beneficial. Who
		
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			do you have at the top? Allah. Who
		
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			do you have them over the corners? Husband
		
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			and the wife.
		
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			What happens now when they do that which
		
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			is pleasing to Allah?
		
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			Can you see they are getting closer as
		
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			well and they are getting closer to Allah
		
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			when they now do that which is displeasing
		
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			to Allah they are getting further away from
		
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			Allah and
		
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			and there is a big distance between them.
		
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			Please watch that video. It's an hour, I
		
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			think, 20 minutes. Masha'Allah. Seven important things now.
		
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			Masha'Allah. This is the only love triangle which
		
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			is allowed.
		
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			Okay? No other love triangles. This is the
		
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			only one which is allowed. Yeah?
		
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			Okay. If we move on from that question,
		
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			And the next question is gonna be a
		
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			bit different,
		
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			so we can you can actually feel the
		
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			flavor
		
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			of the type of questions that have been
		
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			sent. The questions that have been sent.
		
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			And,
		
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			how and this actually this particular question is
		
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			actually addressed to you, sheikh. I cannot even
		
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			ask it myself.
		
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			I'm out of it.
		
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			To the person that said question for Sheikh
		
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			Abou Tamia. So this is specific.
		
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			Okay.
		
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			Okay. So the question goes like this.
		
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			How to practice steadfastness
		
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			when one son has now left college
		
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			and follows the crowd on the street
		
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			selling haram things.
		
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			Continuously advising him but not but he's not
		
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			listening.
		
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			And used to be someone who obeyed and
		
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			now is not connected to the religion
		
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			or the family.
		
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			Please advise as a parent,
		
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			what should I do?
		
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			I also ask that you make dua for
		
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			him to guide him.
		
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			Amen.
		
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			Okay.
		
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			You know, the Sheikh, like I told you
		
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			guys earlier, he's a lot older.
		
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			He has, I think, daughters
		
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			that are pretty old.
		
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			Allahu Alam, whether you have sons as well,
		
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			so shakashallahu ta'ala.
		
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			The other person experienced in this,
		
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			please give the auntie some
		
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			much needed advice with regards to this.
		
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			As a father
		
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			you know, I've just have a little Taimia,
		
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			and Sabeel that just came along a couple
		
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			of weeks ago.
		
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			We're still doing trial and error, Sheikh. So,
		
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			Exactly.
		
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			Okay. I think I am gonna
		
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			I'm gonna answer the question, but not the
		
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			way that the sheikh was expecting me to
		
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			answer the question. I just wanna tell him
		
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			that Sheikh Islam in Betania was not even
		
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			he never got even he never even got
		
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			married, let alone even had a child. So
		
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			and he was able to answer every question
		
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			and used to advise the parents. So you
		
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			not having
		
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			older kids is not gonna exempt you from
		
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			answering these kind of questions because you have
		
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			the knowledge for them.
		
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			There's a number of things that
		
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			that I can maybe put forward, and I'm
		
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			sure the sheikh will
		
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			add on to it, Bein alayhta'ala.
		
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			And as parents, I'm sure
		
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			we will appreciate this.
		
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			You know, the prophet, sallallahu alaihi wa sallam,
		
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			he told us, salat udawatin,
		
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			misterjabat,
		
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			3 duas
		
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			will always be accepted. 1 of them is
		
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			the dua that the parent makes
		
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			for the child.
		
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			I
		
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			know parents that went to the Kaaba,
		
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			and their children were not living the best
		
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			of lives.
		
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			And now, walahee, alhamdulillminna,
		
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			they're in a very, very good place.
		
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			You don't have to go all the way
		
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			to the Kaaba.
		
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			Yes. When you give or when you make
		
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			dua in and around the Kaaba, especially at
		
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			the Mu'tazim,
		
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			it has a huge, you know,
		
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			effect and but generally speaking, the dua of
		
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			the waleed is accepted.
		
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			And likewise, if the the waleed, the parent
		
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			makes dua against the child,
		
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			there's different narrations for it
		
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			so this is something that should be what
		
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			Mustamir
		
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			in in one of the riwaya
		
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			it's a constant dua that we should always
		
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			be making for
		
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			our children, asking Allah
		
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			Number 2, my brothers and my sisters,
		
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			and I think also as parents we can
		
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			maybe relate,
		
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			How much of our time do we give
		
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			to our children?
		
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			How much of our time do we actually
		
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			give to our children?
		
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			One of the benefits that we can tell
		
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			from Surah Yusuf,
		
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			we know that Yusuf
		
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			the moment he saw the dream,
		
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			right?
		
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			Who did
		
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			he go running to as soon as he
		
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			saw his dream?
		
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			He went running to his father.
		
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			Benefit that we can take from now my
		
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			brothers and my sisters, he felt extremely comfortable
		
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			around him.
		
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			Some
		
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			some parents,
		
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			the only type of relationship they have with
		
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			their kids is showing them the back of
		
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			the hunt.
		
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			When they've done something wrong, when they've done
		
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			something wrong, they get pulled into the war
		
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			room
		
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			and they have a serious discussion.
		
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			For the rest of the time, there is
		
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			absolutely no relationship,
		
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			right. If we don't spend time with our
		
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			kids, there will be enough people that
		
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			are ready to embrace them.
		
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			When is the last time that we took
		
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			our kids out, just taking them out,
		
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			alright, maybe we'll go for a meal.
		
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			This really goes a long way in strengthening
		
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			that bond with the kids.
		
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			Maybe a theme park, I don't know.
		
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			Just coming out together,
		
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			having that lovely relationship with them, and we
		
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			just talk. I know some parents, my brothers
		
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			and my sisters, and I really really rate
		
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			them, and it's not easy.
		
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			Okay.
		
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			Every single night they sit with their kids
		
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			from a very young age. It becomes a
		
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			norm.
		
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			It becomes a norm
		
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			that we just sit at night together, maybe
		
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			over dinner, not because they've done something wrong,
		
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			not because they've done something wrong, but let's
		
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			just talk, how was your day today?
		
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			Right, she asked me when's the last time
		
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			I said, oh, just how are you? Like
		
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			let's just talk, you only.
		
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			You know. So just having that bond with
		
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			them.
		
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			Like I said, otherwise there'll be enough people
		
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			that are ready to embrace them.
		
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			Right?
		
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			Sheikh, I think you got some stuff to
		
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			add. Yeah. JazakAllah Khair,
		
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			for those
		
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			words of wisdom,
		
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			I just want to add as a as
		
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			as as as an elder, as a parent
		
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			myself,
		
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			and also as a as a as a
		
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			brother who gives,
		
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			reminders sometimes,
		
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			in different places.
		
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			Recently, I was in Canada about a week
		
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			ago. I just came back a couple of
		
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			days ago. I remember delivering the,
		
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			and one of the things that I mentioned
		
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			in the was,
		
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			and
		
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			as children, we have to have so much
		
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			respect for our parents.
		
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			And one of the things I told them
		
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			was a story
		
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			that has happened to be myself, which I
		
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			have shared with the brothers
		
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			who are from this masjid, and they have
		
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			seen me do it actually in front of
		
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			them.
		
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			When my father came and visited here visited
		
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			us here in Masjid Al Farhan,
		
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			a few months ago,
		
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			I asked my father to come to the
		
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			front of the masjid,
		
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			and then I kissed the forehead of my
		
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			father.
		
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			And I did that to show everybody who
		
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			was present that day. It was the day
		
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			of Eid.
		
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			And I showed them this
		
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			to say to them regardless of how old
		
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			you are,
		
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			still you are a child to your parents,
		
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			and you have to have respect for them.
		
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			And I told them a story that happened
		
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			to me
		
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			way back.
		
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			I'm talking about maybe a quarter of a
		
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			century ago. This was like long long time
		
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			ago for sheikh Abutemi. It's gonna be a
		
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			long time, for him. So
		
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			over 25 years ago, I believe when this
		
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			incident happened, I was in Sheffield.
		
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			Brother Daniel Islam, who's from Sheffield, is over
		
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			there with his kids as well. I'm happy
		
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			to see him tonight with his kids,
		
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			That's that's the kind of fatherhood that we
		
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			want to to have the kids with their
		
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			father coming to the Masjid, and I know
		
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			there are other fathers who are sitting here
		
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			as well with their children as well. Based
		
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			upon the advice that
		
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			was giving us, spending time with the kids,
		
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			which is very important. So let me just
		
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			tell you
		
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			the story. So the story was like this.
		
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			So let me just tell you the story.
		
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			So the story was like this.
		
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			And back in Sheffield, Masjid Abu Horeira,
		
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			the Islamic Center, we were there. And what
		
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			happened was
		
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			my father,
		
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			like, every single day or every other night,
		
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			when the salah finished, he was talking to
		
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			some of the brothers
		
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			at the back of the masjid. And then
		
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			I went over to them and I gave
		
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			salaam to them.
		
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			My father was among the 3 or 4
		
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			people who were standing together at the back
		
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			of the masjid.
		
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			I shook hand. I shook their hands. That's
		
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			it. And then I walked away, and then
		
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			I walked off. What are the brothers?
		
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			I'm going to share with you where he
		
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			came from as well today. The brother was
		
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			from Saudi Arabia.
		
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			The uncle who's gonna deal with me, this
		
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			uncle is gonna deal with me properly.
		
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			Okay? After I walked off, he came
		
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			after me and he pulled me to the
		
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			side and he said to me,
		
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			I'm upset with you. I said to him,
		
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			uncle, what what's wrong, uncle?
		
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			He said to me, did you just not
		
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			know what you've just do you not know
		
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			what you've just done right now? I said,
		
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			what have I done?
		
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			He said to me, you came over to
		
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			us. Me,
		
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			your father, and another brother,
		
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			and all you did was you shook hands
		
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			with us,
		
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			and your father was among us.
		
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			How would anybody ever tell
		
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			if one of us was your father?
		
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			If you just shook hands with us.
		
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			Where is the respect for your father?
		
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			I was like,
		
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			wow. I said,
		
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			what do you want me to do, Sheikh?
		
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			He said to me, you should have kissed
		
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			the forehead of your father.
		
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			You should have kissed the forehead of your
		
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			father
		
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			to show him respect
		
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			and to show everyone else around the masjid
		
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			that he's your father. He's not like any
		
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			other man.
		
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			I said to him, lesson learned, Sheikh.
		
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			I will try and do it from today.
		
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			I started doing it from that time.
		
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			I never told my brothers my younger brothers
		
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			I've got 9 brothers. Alhamdulillah.
		
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			I never told them to do the same
		
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			as I do, but I just showed them
		
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			with my actions.
		
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			After they saw me do that, they started
		
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			kissing the forehead of their father.
		
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			When I told this story
		
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			to our brothers
		
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			or sometimes when I remind young brothers to
		
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			be respectful to their parents,
		
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			I see sometimes resistance
		
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			from young people.
		
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			One brother came to me the other day.
		
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			He's a father himself,
		
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			and he had his little kid with him.
		
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			And he said to me, yeah, imam, I
		
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			agree with you. What you said was nice,
		
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			that we should kiss the forehead of our
		
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			fathers. But imagine if our fathers don't show
		
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			us any respect.
		
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			Our fathers don't respect us.
		
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			How can I give him respect? How can
		
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			I kiss kiss his forehead?
		
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			This was the point that she was making
		
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			As a father, you need to give time
		
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			to your kids.
		
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			You have to show them respect and love
		
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			and care.
		
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			And remember the
		
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			For what reason?
		
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			Imagine if you've never given them any
		
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			as a father. How do you expect them
		
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			to show you respect,
		
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			love, and care?
		
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			So it's important, those of you who are
		
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			fathers, to take lesson from this and those
		
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			of you who are potential fathers
		
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			to take a lesson from this as well.
		
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			Because one day, you will become a father
		
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			yourself. So you need to show with the
		
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			respect that Chekhov Tani was talking about. Give
		
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			your kids time.
		
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			I'm sorry that I'm giving you a whole
		
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			lecture right now, but that this was not
		
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			what I was trying to do. Elijah. But
		
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			I have to share this stuff with you
		
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			guys. Okay? To wake up.
		
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			As parents, we need to wake up. As
		
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			kids also, we need to wake up. Remember,
		
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			your father though, let me tell you, your
		
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			father and your mother,
		
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			make sure that you have to have respect
		
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			for them. Even if they cause you harm,
		
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			it's not an excuse. It's not good excuse
		
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			for you to say to me, oh, my
		
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			father doesn't respect me. Why should I kiss
		
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			his forehead? My father doesn't respect me. Why
		
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			should I give him a hug? My father
		
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			doesn't respect me. Why should I why should
		
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			I be kind to him? No. No. No.
		
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			That's not good. That's that's not,
		
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			an answer, which is a satisfactory answer.
		
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			And it's not an excuse. You have to
		
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			be kind to your father Allah
		
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			what did he say to us
		
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			until the end of the eye.
		
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			I can't go into this topic right now
		
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			because I'm I'm gonna become a bit emotional,
		
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			and you might see the other side of
		
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			me. And I don't want you to see
		
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			the other side of me. I want you
		
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			just to see the good side of me.
		
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			Alright?
		
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			That's what I'm gonna check out. Don't put
		
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			me in this position, Shayk.
		
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			I told you.
		
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			Shall we go on to the next question?
		
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			Are you ready for another question? Sheikh, can
		
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			I just quickly ask you? Okay, man. This
		
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			is very common that people tend to ask.
		
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			It's a very common question. The Sheikh the
		
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			thing that Sheikh was speaking about,
		
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			my parents are treating me a certain way,
		
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			why can't I treat them the same way
		
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			they're treating me? That is a shaytanic
		
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			excuse.
		
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			That doesn't, you know, two wrongs don't make
		
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			a right. You're going to be asked about
		
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			your actions, they're going to be asked about
		
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			their actions.
		
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			Even if they are kuffar,
		
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			they're disbelievers, there's a whole eye in the
		
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			Quran,
		
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			So you have to be good to them
		
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			in the matters of the dunya and show
		
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			kindness towards them,
		
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			right?
		
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			Prophet sallallahu alaihi wa sallam told us if
		
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			someone has got ties with you, you go
		
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			and
		
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			keep a relationship.
		
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			Even if they're not picking up your calls,
		
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			try somewhat way, drop a text or go
		
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			through someone. You still have to make the
		
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			effort.
		
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			Right. Someone deprived you, go and give to
		
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			them. It's not easy brothers. I'm not gonna
		
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			sit here and talk like it's easy. Why
		
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			if I'm on Dharamakh,
		
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			and forgive those who have maybe oppressed you.
		
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			It's not easy. Walaik, guys. Don't think I'm
		
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			just, you know, giving you guys lip service,
		
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			not understanding
		
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			the the dynamics. It can be very very
		
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			difficult, very difficult.
		
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			But nothing in life is easy, right?
		
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			And the more
		
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			something is difficult, my brothers and sisters, the
		
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			more rewarding it is.
		
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			One is rewarded in accordance with how many
		
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			difficulties he goes through
		
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			every time you try, every time you find
		
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			it difficult,
		
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			Shaa Allah getting rewarded for it. It's a
		
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			jihad
		
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			On the channel 4 jihad,
		
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			like I mentioned earlier, yeah.
		
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			The next question is gonna be quite different
		
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			as well,
		
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			and and hopefully, everyone will benefit from the
		
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			answer.
		
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			How does one begin acquiring beneficial Islamic knowledge,
		
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			especially whilst working a full time job as
		
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			well? How can they juggle?
		
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			You're the imam.
		
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			Yes. Has a full time job. Like I
		
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			said, I'm just a freelancer. I sit at
		
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			home.
		
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			Yeah. Brothers and sisters, I am a disbeliever
		
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			in someone who says I don't have time.
		
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			I am a disbeliever in it.
		
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			Nam.
		
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			No matter how busy you get, I still
		
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			believe you have time.
		
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			For those who have iPhones, I don't know
		
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			anything about Samsung.
		
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			I'm a loyal Apple fan,
		
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			long term,
		
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			right.
		
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			Go to your settings
		
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			and check your screen time
		
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			and see how much you are spending on
		
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			social media.
		
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			Normally, it is mothers with children that message
		
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			and say, oh, I don't have time and
		
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			I've got kids and this and that.
		
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			Whenever I say this to them,
		
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			they never respond back again.
		
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			Go and check your screen time,
		
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			the amount of time that you spend on
		
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			there. You know, like brothers,
		
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			when we look at you have Ikhlas being
		
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			sincere, and you also have being truthful,
		
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			right, you
		
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			whenever you get time,
		
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			you fill it with beneficial knowledge or you
		
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			fill it with
		
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			acquiring and pursuing knowledge.
		
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			Some have this type of ajju, when I
		
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			get a time that I'm go like what
		
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			makes you think that Allah will just allow
		
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			that to take place? Show Allah Azzaweed that
		
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			you really, really want it.
		
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			Right.
		
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			If you're wasting your time
		
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			and then you say when I get a
		
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			time I'm going to open that Kitab, that
		
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			time may never come, brothers and sisters.
		
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			Nothing in life comes easy, there has to
		
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			be a sacrifice.
		
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			It may well mean that you cut down
		
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			a little on your sleep,
		
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			Are you cut down on your sleep, brothers
		
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			and sisters?
		
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			Does that make sense?
		
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			We are ready to wake up early when
		
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			it comes to this and when it comes
		
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			to that. When it comes to get togethers,
		
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			we're ready to maybe
		
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			sleep late, sahih.
		
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			If something is very, very important to you,
		
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			you're going to give it time, brothers and
		
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			sisters.
		
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			And that's I think a principle in everyone's
		
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			life. You will give time to that which
		
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			is very very important to you.
		
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			Right.
		
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			I remember I asked one of them shayikh
		
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			in America.
		
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			I said, Sheikh, I'm probably assuming that you've
		
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			got 4 wives, Allahu Alam, you're a popular
		
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			guy, you got Quran and everything, you probably
		
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			got the money as well.
		
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			When do you find time?
		
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			He goes, when do you think? I said,
		
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			what, aft fajr?
		
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			And then it registered, no, no, not even
		
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			aft fajr. If you're an imam,
		
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			and people, you know, have a good relationship
		
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			with you, even after Fajr they're gonna come
		
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			to you and ask you questions.
		
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			And then I remembered one time when I
		
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			was an imam.
		
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			So I said when Sheikh Qabir al Fajr?
		
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			He said he may well be.
		
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			Before Fajr, when everyone's asleep,
		
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			right, you're not gonna find anyone may normally
		
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			in the Masjid.
		
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			No one's gonna be knocking on your door
		
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			saying, brother, I have this question, and can
		
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			you help me in this no. Everyone's asleep.
		
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			Even the wife's asleep, your children are asleep
		
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			finding a time when no one's going to
		
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			occupy you it may well be that you
		
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			have to stay up after the fajr while
		
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			the family is asleep, you're going to have
		
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			eye bags
		
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			nothing in life comes easy
		
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			all the scholars have unanimously agreed that you
		
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			cannot expect
		
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			to attain
		
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			bliss,
		
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			right,
		
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			or to attain or to accomplish anything, brothers
		
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			and sisters, by ease, and you have to
		
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			go in through the difficulty, you know,
		
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			So you have to point the effort.
		
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			I said this before, I'll say again, you
		
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			guys know Ronaldo. Right?
		
00:43:11 --> 00:43:14
			Ronaldo again is in Omaha. Yeah. Everyone knows
		
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			Ronaldo. Right? Yeah. Brothers,
		
00:43:16 --> 00:43:18
			I'm not mentioning him because we want to
		
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			glorify him or
		
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			I don't want to dignify this guy's name,
		
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			but people can relate to it, what kind
		
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			of life does he live?
		
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			How much money has he invested
		
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			into his health?
		
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			Even his sleeping pattern and his diet is
		
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			very different to everyone here.
		
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			He eats, I heard, 7 times a day,
		
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			and each time is small little portions of
		
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			foods that he stays away from.
		
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			And apparently, he sleeps, I think, 6 times,
		
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			and each time is, like, 1 hour and
		
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			25 or 1 an hour 1 hour and
		
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			a half naps. Look at the sacrifice
		
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			that he's making.
		
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			You guys seen what happened with Coca Cola?
		
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			It was on the table.
		
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			He took it off.
		
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			How did this impact Coca Cola, guys?
		
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			Because he goes, I don't want to promote,
		
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			unhealthy foods.
		
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			You think it's easy to stay away from
		
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			Coca Cola and this and that which we
		
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			desire and we love and there has to
		
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			be some sort of sacrifice that is made,
		
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			and it has to be disciplined.
		
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			They even asked him, do you think your
		
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			son will become like you, your son?
		
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			He said, no. They said, why? Because he
		
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			likes sweet drinks.
		
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			Sacrifice,
		
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			discipline, all that is needed.
		
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			You know? Absolutely. So cut down, insha Allah,
		
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			on maybe the time that you spend on
		
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			your phone, wake up a little bit more
		
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			early, you have to put that extra
		
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			mile in, you know.
		
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			InshaAllah ta'ala, you'll be able to find time
		
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			for seeking knowledge.
		
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			Just like the Sheikh.
		
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			Even though, subhanAllah, is busy with your questions
		
00:44:43 --> 00:44:44
			and your problems, and
		
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			he still finds time to, you know, organize
		
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			programs and delivers classes, and, mashaAllah, I listen
		
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			to the classes sometimes and
		
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			and after Fajr, he's here, right? After Fajr
		
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			al Sheikh is delivering classes as an imam
		
00:45:00 --> 00:45:02
			who's got family, he's here all the time,
		
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			Allahu Akbar.
		
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			Not missing the fajr.
		
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			Just as a follow-up question to that, and,
		
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			young brothers are asking this question as well,
		
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			and as youngsters,
		
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			the time we live in right now
		
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			is not an easy time, there's so much
		
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			confusion happening.
		
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			But at the same time,
		
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			when we came back to Allah,
		
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			we made Tawba from where what we were
		
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			upon in the past, and now we are
		
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			trying to hold on to the religion of
		
00:45:34 --> 00:45:35
			Allah,
		
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			to be steadfast upon the path of Allah
		
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			We come back to the Masajid. We want
		
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			to seek knowledge,
		
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			but every now and then we are hearing
		
00:45:44 --> 00:45:45
			people who are discouraging
		
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			us from going to certain masajids
		
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			or benefiting from certain and
		
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			and there's so much confusion happening.
		
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			What
		
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			advice can you give me as a youngster,
		
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			as a youth who wants to seek knowledge
		
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			and put his head down and and and
		
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			but I am hearing this stuff all the
		
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			time. And what kind of advice would you
		
00:46:06 --> 00:46:08
			give me in order to kind of like
		
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			and,
		
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			to block that away?
		
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			Well, hi, brothers.
		
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			There was a similar discussion that happened yesterday
		
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			in Greenlane Masjid. Honestly, it was one of
		
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			the nicest
		
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			programs that I participated in in the last
		
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			year, to see so many
		
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			Muslims come out, and
		
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			and because, of course, this kind of
		
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			problem is extremely prevalent in places like Birmingham
		
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			as well.
		
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			Brothers, will I take this from you? If
		
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			you don't take anything from me, and you
		
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			haven't taken anything from me, please just take
		
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			this one thing from me.
		
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			Don't waste your youth with kheel and qal,
		
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			he said and she said.
		
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			I have seen enough brothers go to Medina.
		
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			You guys know in Medina?
		
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			Right?
		
00:46:57 --> 00:47:00
			Who wasted their time, she said, he said,
		
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			many of them, they didn't go past
		
00:47:05 --> 00:47:06
			the Arabic Institute,
		
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			they weren't able to graduate from it,
		
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			or they may have joined one of the
		
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			faculties and then they dropped out.
		
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			And you know what's even more worse?
		
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			Some when they dropped out they came back
		
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			to the west, they came back to the
		
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			UK and they became drug dealers
		
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			SubhanAllah. Wallahi, they became drug dealers. I know
		
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			them by names.
		
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			And they were the ones who used to
		
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			what speak ill of others.
		
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			Right. You guys now see people showing me
		
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			a lot of love and whatever have you.
		
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			When I went there, brothers, I went through
		
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			a very, very difficult time,
		
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			very difficult time.
		
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			Imagine I would walk into the university, no
		
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			one would give me salams,
		
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			no one.
		
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			Because of certain things, they had,
		
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			he studied in Yemen and the Sheikh Kedah
		
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			or Madriesh, or when he was in the
		
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			UK, he sat with this guy, and
		
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			yesterday after the Green Lane conference, a brother
		
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			came up to me,
		
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			and I saw tears in his eyes.
		
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			He hugged me, and he said thank you,
		
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			jazakalakher,
		
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			and please forgive me, and he kept on
		
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			saying to me, please please forgive me
		
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			of all these things that he said about
		
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			me and this and that,
		
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			and right.
		
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			If I open some of my messages, I'm
		
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			sure I will find in my email someone
		
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			saying, Akh, please forgive me, I said this
		
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			about you, I said that about you.
		
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			The more people start seeking knowledge, the more
		
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			tolerant they will become, the more intelligent they
		
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			will become.
		
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			And the sad thing with all these brothers
		
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			is
		
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			that left the jamma and they wasted their
		
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			time to be allowed
		
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			to come to the prophet sallallahu alaihi wa
		
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			sallam's
		
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			city. Do you know how many people apply
		
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			every year brothers? 500,000.
		
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			You know how many get accepted?
		
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			3000.
		
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			Allah chose you from all these people you
		
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			come and then you waste it.
		
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			Right? I've seen some masha'ikh make du'a against
		
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			some of these kids Subhanallah. Who are giving
		
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			them so much trouble. Subhanallah. They got tired.
		
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			Right? And at the end of the day,
		
00:49:04 --> 00:49:05
			who was our lost, these brothers?
		
00:49:07 --> 00:49:08
			Ibn Josi
		
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			in his kitab,
		
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			he says from the deception of Iblis on
		
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			the people of Hadith, not just some random
		
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			Joe
		
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			that you see walking around on the streets
		
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			of Manchester
		
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			people of Hadith
		
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			them taking swipes at one another, taking shots
		
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			at one another,
		
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			insulting and jabbing one another
		
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			And they do this under the guise of
		
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			the science that is studied in hadith
		
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			you will keep on hearing
		
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			I got tired of hearing this term
		
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			taped
		
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			if I sit down with them and I
		
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			discuss with them the issues
		
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			they won't be able to say anything.
		
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			Completely misunderstood of what the Minhaj actually is.
		
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			The Minhaj is clear, Quran, Sunnah, what the
		
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			sahab are upon. Then there are issues that
		
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			are what?
		
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			Right? It's not clear cut. You weigh the
		
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			pros and the cons.
		
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			The whole religion is built on weighing pros
		
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			and cons, and they are not issued that
		
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			you should declare another to be an innovative
		
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			form, whatever have you. And this has become
		
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			extremely widespread. People think this is how the
		
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			shaytan deceived,
		
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			that you are defending the religion, wallahi or
		
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			not.
		
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			Wallahi lillahi lillahi lillahi you're not, you're just
		
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			backbiting and slandering.
		
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			Alright. So I was telling the brothers and
		
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			sisters in Greenlane, I just have one request.
		
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			When you guys walk out of the Masjid
		
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			today, there will be enough people.
		
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			So and so is this, this message is
		
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			this, this message is that,
		
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			right, I make dua for people who message
		
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			me and say
		
00:51:09 --> 00:51:10
			you said
		
00:51:10 --> 00:51:12
			what does it mean or what did you
		
00:51:12 --> 00:51:12
			intend?
		
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			Verify information.
		
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			Read it brothers and sisters, I think the
		
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			Sheikh has gone through
		
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			it. Even yesterday, I went through it in
		
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			Birmingham.
		
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			Went through some of the verses.
		
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			Just verifying information, having good assumptions of others.
		
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			Now Messenger sallallahu alaihi wa sallam would treat
		
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			the Munafiqun
		
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			and Alawahir, what was apparent,
		
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			right that's how we would treat them he
		
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			wouldn't go into their intentions even though he
		
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			had every reason to do so
		
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			this is how we treat the
		
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			or if someone's giving dawah, ask why did
		
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			you do this?
		
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			If you really really want to know.
		
00:51:51 --> 00:51:52
			But brothers and sisters,
		
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			stop wasting your time. Study
		
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			your deen
		
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			and utilize your youth
		
00:51:59 --> 00:52:01
			before you become like a lot of these
		
00:52:01 --> 00:52:03
			elders who picked up bibs and bobs here,
		
00:52:03 --> 00:52:04
			and they don't understand Arabic, and they're just
		
00:52:04 --> 00:52:07
			regurgitating the same information that they heard 20
		
00:52:07 --> 00:52:08
			years ago.
		
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			Just constantly what repeating menhij menhij menhij.
		
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			Right.
		
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			That's my advice to you guys for life.
		
00:52:18 --> 00:52:19
			I have gone
		
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			I've just become so tired.
		
00:52:22 --> 00:52:25
			We're trying to call to Allah. Wallahi, the
		
00:52:25 --> 00:52:27
			feminists are coming after us. The Liberals are
		
00:52:27 --> 00:52:29
			coming after us. The rainbow team is trying
		
00:52:29 --> 00:52:30
			to get me banned,
		
00:52:30 --> 00:52:30
			right,
		
00:52:31 --> 00:52:34
			from different institutions and whatever have you. Alhamdulillah,
		
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			no one was able to do anything.
		
00:52:36 --> 00:52:39
			Right? And then you got your brothers
		
00:52:39 --> 00:52:42
			from the same skin of yours who are
		
00:52:42 --> 00:52:43
			constantly trying to drag you down.
		
00:52:45 --> 00:52:46
			There's khair taking place, okay, if there is
		
00:52:46 --> 00:52:48
			a mistake there's a way to go about
		
00:52:48 --> 00:52:48
			dealing with it
		
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			There is a way dealing with the mistake
		
00:52:53 --> 00:52:53
			Right?
		
00:52:54 --> 00:52:55
			SubhanAllah.
		
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			Well, guys, I'm
		
00:52:58 --> 00:53:00
			really tired of this. Allah, I got very,
		
00:53:00 --> 00:53:01
			very
		
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			for them, insha
		
00:53:09 --> 00:53:11
			Allah, to be a source of benefit for
		
00:53:11 --> 00:53:12
			the community.
		
00:53:13 --> 00:53:14
			Right? But then you have all of these
		
00:53:14 --> 00:53:15
			challenges, what
		
00:53:16 --> 00:53:17
			can we do?
		
00:53:18 --> 00:53:18
			Right.
		
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			No one came with that which you came
		
00:53:26 --> 00:53:28
			with except that he was harmed
		
00:53:28 --> 00:53:30
			even the Sheikh of Amashayikh, Mukbib Bin Hadil
		
00:53:30 --> 00:53:33
			Waidah used to say, right, when you read
		
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			You know the
		
00:53:43 --> 00:53:44
			blanket? Hide under it.
		
00:53:45 --> 00:53:45
			Alright.
		
00:53:48 --> 00:53:50
			Prophet, just benefit and
		
00:54:00 --> 00:54:01
			but you don't know the Quran.
		
00:54:01 --> 00:54:03
			One of the things that brothers are criticized
		
00:54:03 --> 00:54:04
			for that graduate,
		
00:54:05 --> 00:54:07
			akhir spent 6 years wa'an tahfirullah Quran, you
		
00:54:07 --> 00:54:08
			have a member of the Quran.
		
00:54:10 --> 00:54:12
			Right? And then they get upset when someone
		
00:54:12 --> 00:54:14
			else is invited to lead the Salat in
		
00:54:14 --> 00:54:17
			Taraweeh in Ramadan, oh, his Manhaj is this,
		
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			You
		
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			know?
		
00:54:25 --> 00:54:27
			Sorry, Sheikha. Just my emotions came out to
		
00:54:27 --> 00:54:27
			the
		
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			even yesterday and
		
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			Yes. I just want to, elaborate what the
		
00:54:33 --> 00:54:36
			Sheikh said, and it doesn't really need any,
		
00:54:36 --> 00:54:39
			elaboration or anything, But, I just want to
		
00:54:39 --> 00:54:40
			add something because some some of the things
		
00:54:40 --> 00:54:42
			that he said really caught my
		
00:54:43 --> 00:54:44
			my my eyes.
		
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			And one of the things that the sheikh
		
00:54:46 --> 00:54:49
			has mentioned is, he has seen young people
		
00:54:50 --> 00:54:51
			who went to the and
		
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			but they visit themselves with
		
00:54:54 --> 00:54:56
			such and such and said this and such
		
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			and said that, said that, and and then
		
00:54:58 --> 00:55:00
			at the end, they have not even been
		
00:55:00 --> 00:55:01
			able they were not even able to complete
		
00:55:01 --> 00:55:02
			the jammer.
		
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			And and they came back and they became
		
00:55:04 --> 00:55:07
			really subhanallah into the dunya and they started
		
00:55:07 --> 00:55:09
			doing bad stuff
		
00:55:09 --> 00:55:12
			sometimes even those people who have knowledge
		
00:55:12 --> 00:55:14
			so called knowledge sometimes
		
00:55:14 --> 00:55:17
			who go and talk about other people
		
00:55:18 --> 00:55:19
			and kind of, like,
		
00:55:20 --> 00:55:21
			criticize other Muslims
		
00:55:21 --> 00:55:22
			and other masajids
		
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			and and and and and say bad things
		
00:55:25 --> 00:55:27
			about them or warn against them,
		
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			we have seen I saw this with my
		
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			own eyes, and I'm gonna tell you a
		
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			story tonight, which I haven't told anybody. I've
		
00:55:34 --> 00:55:35
			I don't think I've ever mentioned this story
		
00:55:35 --> 00:55:38
			in public, and I'm gonna tell you tonight
		
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			for the first time. Do you wanna hear
		
00:55:39 --> 00:55:40
			it?
		
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			Are you serious about it?
		
00:55:43 --> 00:55:44
			Shall I tell you about it?
		
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			All of you, are you ready for it?
		
00:55:50 --> 00:55:51
			I'll tell you.
		
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			And the sheikh was talking about Birmingham, yep,
		
00:55:54 --> 00:55:55
			and
		
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			this is like a while back
		
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			And I'm just gonna give you an example.
		
00:56:00 --> 00:56:00
			So
		
00:56:01 --> 00:56:02
			in
		
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			the
		
00:56:04 --> 00:56:06
			okay. We have to benefit from this stuff.
		
00:56:07 --> 00:56:09
			I will tell you tonight what has caused
		
00:56:09 --> 00:56:12
			me to go to the Jamia Jamia. Shall
		
00:56:12 --> 00:56:13
			I tell you the reason
		
00:56:13 --> 00:56:15
			why I went to the Jamia?
		
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			You'll find out tonight.
		
00:56:18 --> 00:56:20
			I was a youngster once upon a time.
		
00:56:21 --> 00:56:22
			This is how the story goes.
		
00:56:23 --> 00:56:25
			Okay? I went to one of the conferences
		
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			in Birmingham,
		
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			And as we were coming back,
		
00:56:31 --> 00:56:32
			before we left the masjid,
		
00:56:33 --> 00:56:34
			there was a particular individual
		
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			who was considered to be a strong student
		
00:56:37 --> 00:56:38
			of knowledge,
		
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			and he used to teach the youth in
		
00:56:40 --> 00:56:41
			that masjid.
		
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			I was from Sheffield that time
		
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			from our masjid, from masjid the taqwa.
		
00:56:48 --> 00:56:50
			I was a youngster, a volunteer who used
		
00:56:50 --> 00:56:50
			to volunteer
		
00:56:51 --> 00:56:52
			in the masjid, and
		
00:56:53 --> 00:56:55
			I think I was part of the Dawah
		
00:56:55 --> 00:56:56
			team that time,
		
00:56:56 --> 00:56:59
			and we spoke to this sheikh or student
		
00:56:59 --> 00:57:01
			of knowledge who used to teach in this
		
00:57:01 --> 00:57:01
			masjid.
		
00:57:02 --> 00:57:04
			We said to the sheikh, sheikh, we have
		
00:57:04 --> 00:57:06
			heard a lot of good things about you,
		
00:57:07 --> 00:57:08
			and we want to invite you to come
		
00:57:08 --> 00:57:10
			to our masjid masjid the taqwa.
		
00:57:10 --> 00:57:12
			And he said, where is masjid the taqwa?
		
00:57:12 --> 00:57:14
			And we told him masjid the taqwa is
		
00:57:14 --> 00:57:14
			in Sheffield.
		
00:57:16 --> 00:57:18
			He said to us, okay. Who's the sheikh
		
00:57:18 --> 00:57:18
			of the masjid?
		
00:57:19 --> 00:57:20
			Can you tell me the sheikh of the
		
00:57:20 --> 00:57:21
			masjid?
		
00:57:21 --> 00:57:23
			We said, the sheikh of the masjid is
		
00:57:23 --> 00:57:24
			called the Sheikh Alimawlid.
		
00:57:25 --> 00:57:27
			Do you know who Sheikh Alimawlit is?
		
00:57:29 --> 00:57:29
			My father.
		
00:57:31 --> 00:57:32
			Who's the Sheikh of the masjid? We said
		
00:57:32 --> 00:57:33
			Sheikh Alimawlit.
		
00:57:34 --> 00:57:35
			And he said,
		
00:57:36 --> 00:57:38
			yeah. We've heard,
		
00:57:38 --> 00:57:39
			things about him.
		
00:57:40 --> 00:57:42
			He doesn't know who I am. Okay?
		
00:57:43 --> 00:57:44
			He said,
		
00:57:44 --> 00:57:47
			yeah. We've heard, a bit about that masjid,
		
00:57:48 --> 00:57:50
			and the sheikh who's who's who's the sheikh
		
00:57:50 --> 00:57:51
			of the masjid, and
		
00:57:52 --> 00:57:52
			and,
		
00:57:54 --> 00:57:55
			we'll think about it.
		
00:57:57 --> 00:57:58
			He said, we might come we might come
		
00:57:58 --> 00:58:01
			to the masjid, but with one condition.
		
00:58:03 --> 00:58:03
			And
		
00:58:03 --> 00:58:05
			I wasn't alone. I had other brothers with
		
00:58:05 --> 00:58:08
			me from Sheffield. Yeah. He said we will
		
00:58:08 --> 00:58:10
			come to the masjid with one condition. Said,
		
00:58:10 --> 00:58:12
			okay. What's the condition, Sheikh? He said, the
		
00:58:12 --> 00:58:14
			first thing that we're going to do before
		
00:58:14 --> 00:58:15
			we even say anything,
		
00:58:16 --> 00:58:17
			any reminder,
		
00:58:17 --> 00:58:19
			the first thing we are going to do
		
00:58:19 --> 00:58:20
			is we're going to refute the sheikh of
		
00:58:20 --> 00:58:21
			the masjid.
		
00:58:25 --> 00:58:27
			He said that is the first thing we're
		
00:58:27 --> 00:58:29
			going to do. I've never told anybody.
		
00:58:29 --> 00:58:31
			I'm going I'm telling you tonight.
		
00:58:33 --> 00:58:35
			I want you to benefit from this.
		
00:58:36 --> 00:58:36
			And,
		
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			he went he started mentioning things. He said,
		
00:58:39 --> 00:58:42
			they have to be refuted. This is what
		
00:58:42 --> 00:58:44
			Sheikh Fulan has said. Sheikh Fulan has said
		
00:58:44 --> 00:58:46
			this. I didn't know any of that.
		
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			I was there powerless. I wasn't able to
		
00:58:49 --> 00:58:50
			defend my father.
		
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			I felt powerless.
		
00:58:53 --> 00:58:55
			He did he didn't know who I was,
		
00:58:55 --> 00:58:56
			but he was talking about my father.
		
00:58:57 --> 00:58:59
			And there was nothing I could say to
		
00:58:59 --> 00:59:01
			defend my father because I didn't have knowledge.
		
00:59:01 --> 00:59:03
			I only memorized the Quran, but I didn't
		
00:59:03 --> 00:59:04
			know anything else.
		
00:59:04 --> 00:59:06
			I had to just go
		
00:59:06 --> 00:59:07
			silent, quiet,
		
00:59:08 --> 00:59:08
			like a little
		
00:59:09 --> 00:59:12
			chick here. It's like, alright. Alright. I can't
		
00:59:12 --> 00:59:13
			say anything.
		
00:59:14 --> 00:59:14
			Okay?
		
00:59:16 --> 00:59:18
			And he insisted. He said, like, that's the
		
00:59:18 --> 00:59:18
			only condition.
		
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			We will come to that Masjid, but with
		
00:59:21 --> 00:59:21
			this condition,
		
00:59:22 --> 00:59:24
			we will refute the sheikh of the Masjid.
		
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			We will clarify to the community
		
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			that he is from the people of Bida.
		
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			He never met him. He never sat down
		
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			with him. He just heard there's a sheikh
		
00:59:37 --> 00:59:39
			called and he's the imam of he's the
		
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			sheikh of that community or that masjid.
		
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			Okay?
		
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			The question now is, where is that student
		
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			of knowledge? You need to ask me.
		
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			Where is he today?
		
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			He has disappeared from the.
		
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			He's nobody right now.
		
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			Look. The fitna, he used to talk about
		
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			other people and the dawah of other mashaikh.
		
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			Now he has nothing.
		
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			He had so many family problems,
		
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			a lot of issues,
		
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			and right now he's not even a. He's
		
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			he's off the radar.
		
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			But the that was in it was
		
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			to ignite
		
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			my love for wanting to learn the deed.
		
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			That was the height from it.
		
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			I was gonna be busy with other things,
		
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			But because of him, because of his actions,
		
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			I decided to go and study the deen
		
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			for myself.
		
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			So if somebody opens his mouth like that,
		
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			I know how to shut him up.
		
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			That was it.
		
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			But since I came back,
		
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			I did not use my knowledge
		
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			as
		
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			a as a weapon of mass destruction. I'm
		
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			not using it for that. The purpose of
		
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			knowledge is not to destroy people.
		
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			The purpose of knowledge is to give life
		
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			and light it to the people.
		
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			I want every one of you to go
		
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			to Jannah Ekwani.
		
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			That's what I want. I want every Muslim
		
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			to go to Jannah.
		
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			I want every Muslim to be a good
		
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			Muslim.
		
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			That's what I want. I love I love
		
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			for you guys.
		
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			Just imagine someone
		
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			who is criticizing
		
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			and critiquing
		
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			and boycotting and asking other people to boycott
		
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			someone that they've never met. They don't even
		
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			know.
		
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			Based upon such and such a said, such
		
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			and such about such and such person.
		
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			This is the reality.
		
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			Okay? But as a as the sheikh has
		
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			said,
		
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			my advice to you guys, all of you,
		
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			brothers and sisters who are here right now,
		
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			please
		
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			do not waste your time in.
		
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			Benefit from your time. Learn the of Allah.
		
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			Learn the of Allah. Understand what can be
		
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			used as a. Somebody's gonna tell you, don't
		
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			listen to that sheikh, don't listen to that
		
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			person, don't don't go to that masjid.
		
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			And when you say to them, like, what's
		
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			the evidence for this? You'll say, do you
		
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			know Sheikh such and such has said that?
		
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			Is that an evidence in the eyes of
		
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			Allah?
		
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			If you don't know the deen,
		
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			you would think that's evidence,
		
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			But that's not an evidence.
		
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			Even if a Sahabi says such something, is
		
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			it gonna be an evidence? Is that is
		
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			that gonna be used as an evidence or
		
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			not?
		
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			If you don't know this knowledge, if you
		
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			don't know, Usul al Fakk,
		
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			people will just
		
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			manipulate
		
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			your mind,
		
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			and you will be confused.
		
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			Look
		
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			Look what you made me see today.
		
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			Okay? Well, I think this and honestly because
		
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			it's it's become so I've seen brothers. Even
		
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			the people who said bad things about me,
		
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			I wouldn't wish for them to become drug
		
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			dealers. SubhanAllah.
		
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			Wallahi, I don't. I'm not gonna say, ah,
		
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			you've done this to me. You're probably going
		
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			through this now because of what you said
		
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			to me 5 years ago. La Wallahi, that's
		
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			not something that I want to see. It
		
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			still hurts to see that or to even
		
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			know that.
		
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			It is a huge prevention. A lot of
		
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			people think SubhanAllah
		
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			that when you watch * or when you
		
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			watch Haram or you commit other types of
		
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			sins, this is what is going to prevent
		
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			you from knowledge. Even in Mu'taymul is Kitab
		
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			Dua, there's a whole section where he lists
		
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			some of the effects of sins. The first
		
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			thing he said was to
		
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			be deprived of knowledge.
		
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			Thai people say, yeah, yeah, I'm not watching
		
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			this. I'm not,
		
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			going after women as if that's the only
		
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			sin.
		
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			Backbiting,
		
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			speaking about others will hold you back from
		
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			knowledge. You know a statement that I came
		
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			across of Ibn Hajjar,
		
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			when he's speaking about,
		
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			he was doing the Tarjum
		
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			of Hafid ibn Senate
		
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			and you only get called Hafid when you
		
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			have what? A 100,000 Hadith.
		
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			You know what he said about him?
		
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			He
		
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			forgot the majority of what he memorized Quran
		
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			even he forgot the Quran
		
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			You know why?
		
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			Because you always speak about others, it was
		
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			the reason why he ended up forgetting everything.
		
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			So maybe you were protected from this kind
		
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			of sin but then you're sitting around this
		
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			guy's this guy's this guy's this guy's this
		
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			guy's this.
		
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			Even the mashaikh in Al Medina they got
		
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			tired
		
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			they got tired
		
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			up until they turned against one another
		
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			there was a group of Mashayikh
		
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			who would be the flag bearers for this
		
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			kind of thing
		
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			Even amongst them, they started fighting.
		
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			And people are just look spectating. We're just
		
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			looking. SubhanAllah.
		
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			We took a huge lesson from this. The
		
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			real winners in all of this was those
		
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			who didn't get involved and they just studied.
		
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			Absolutely. And now they're benefiting their people back
		
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			home.
		
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			Well I've seen a lot guys I've seen
		
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			a lot in Yemen
		
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			seen a lot in 60s in Medina
		
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			and it shook me to the core
		
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			If you can go through
		
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			your youth, just busying yourself of that,
		
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			busying yourself with Quran and, then allah Insha'Allah
		
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			you'll be naje.
		
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			And
		
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			as you have just heard,
		
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			my brothers and sisters, do not busy yourself
		
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			with.
		
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			This is very important message that I want
		
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			to share with all of you like the
		
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			sheikh has shared that message with you,
		
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			and concentrate on learning the deen yourself
		
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			without busying yourself with sheikh sheikh such and
		
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			such as said this and and that and
		
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			so forth from this sheikh and from this
		
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			masjid. Don't busy yourself with this stuff. And
		
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			if you see someone who's busy with this
		
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			stuff, stay away from them. If you see
		
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			someone who busies himself, even if he calls
		
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			himself a student of knowledge, and he is
		
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			busying himself refuting
		
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			and just saying, don't listen to that. Don't
		
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			listen to that. Don't go to that Masjid.
		
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			Don't be part of this, committee. Don't be
		
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			be part of that. If you see someone
		
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			who talks like that, you know what kind
		
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			of person this person is and how he's
		
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			going to end up with it, how his
		
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			life is going to end up.
		
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			The sheikh has given you some examples.
		
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			Those who have forgotten the all the knowledge
		
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			that they've learned, including the Quran because they
		
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			used to talk about other people.
		
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			Remember that.
		
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			And I told you, I just gave you
		
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			an example of someone who spoke, who talked
		
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			about my father, someone who said I am
		
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			going to refute he didn't even talk he
		
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			said I'm gonna refute your father if I
		
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			ever come to Sheffield.
		
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			That's that was the condition.
		
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			I will come to your masjid, to the
		
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			masjid of your city, but with one condition,
		
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			I'm going to refute the sheikh to begin
		
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			with.
		
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			That where is that person today? I ask
		
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			about him every now and then. I said,
		
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			where is he? He's he's nobody right now.
		
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			And he kept having family problem after family
		
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			problem after family problem. And if you look
		
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			deeply into the lives of these individuals, you
		
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			will see they have a lot of family
		
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			problems.
		
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			They cannot even remain married.
		
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			Those people who talk like that.
		
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			You know I remember the statement I thought
		
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			I'd share what Imam Shafi'i
		
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			mentioned he said
		
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			whoever wishes that Allah
		
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			opens his heart up for him
		
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			and he grants him Al Hikma he grants
		
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			him wisdom
		
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			upon him is to do the following
		
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			upon him is to spend a lot of
		
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			time privately with Allah
		
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			and to not eat a lot
		
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			and to stop hanging around with those who
		
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			are foolish, and look what he said
		
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			and even some people of knowledge
		
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			who are not fair and just and they
		
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			lack mannerism,
		
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			they lack Atticus
		
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			Subhanallah
		
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			well I came across this many years ago
		
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			and it really
		
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			made me reflect
		
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			he here is advising people not to go
		
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			to rakat who has knowledge but maybe you
		
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			will walk away with better tickets
		
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			or you will walk away with being extremely
		
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			unjust
		
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			now it made a lot of sense to
		
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			me because some
		
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			of the people that I personally have studied
		
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			with
		
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			they're not a lot,
		
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			but later on I came to see that
		
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			when he speaks about others it's done very
		
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			unfairly,
		
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			even though I still appreciate the knowledge that
		
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			he put forward,
		
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			the books that he taught, however I realized
		
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			okay
		
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			this kind of attitude is going to affect
		
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			students
		
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			that are ready to accept whatever he says
		
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			unrestrictedly,
		
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			unconditionally. There are people like that that ask
		
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			you a question, Sheikh, okay, what so and
		
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			so? Sheikh will say it. They'll translate and
		
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			they'll spread it
		
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			around all right and even though he's a
		
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			person of knowledge but that doesn't mean that
		
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			he's going to be Masoom, he is what
		
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			Infallible. He has no mistakes.
		
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			Sorry, guys. We just went off a little
		
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			bit here at the end. Yep. Is that
		
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			it? We'll
		
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			just
		
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			what do you think if we close it
		
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			with just one question? Is that okay? And
		
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			then we're gonna take a break and
		
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			you'll come back for
		
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			and that's when the kitab is going to
		
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			continue.
		
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			The final question is actually no question.
		
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			That's the final question.
		
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			There will be no question.
		
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			We just want to say,
		
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			our sheikh, and
		
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			we wanna say to
		
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			all of you guys, brothers and sisters who
		
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			attended and came to this conference.
		
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			This is the first night. We still have
		
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			some some some lessons to go or some
		
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			lectures to go or some sessions to go.
		
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			We still have after
		
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			the sheikh is gonna go through
		
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			He
		
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			started after today and he will finish it
		
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			tonight.
		
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			And how long do you think Sheikh is
		
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			gonna take us?
		
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			I'm very sick, guys. I'm honestly really trying
		
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			best to
		
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			to sit here. And not We're we're gonna
		
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			try and, shorten it.
		
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			Excellent. And just take the
		
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			the crooks of the matter as they say
		
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			in each of these 6 fundamentals,
		
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			and then we'll call it.
		
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			And so we want to say to all
		
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			of you who have attended the Masjid
		
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			is full of youngsters, my young brothers and
		
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			sisters. Also, I want to thank our media
		
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			team for what they have done so far.
		
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			Until we see you after
		
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			enjoy your evening. Have something to eat
		
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			Stay away from
		
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			You know where you're gonna end up. Okay?
		
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			You will be in the wrong side of
		
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			history.