Abu Taymiyyah – Ep 3 Treat People With Kindness How To Soften Your Heart Series

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The speakers discuss the importance of treating people kindly and not harshly, as well as helping others in a spirit of helping everyone. They emphasize the importance of helping people in difficult situations and offer advice on how to handle it, including helping most people take advantage of opportunities to benefit them. The speakers emphasize the importance of not letting things become difficult and keeping things going, and encourage those who have accumulated debt to take advantage of the opportunity to help others.

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			The second point, my beloved brothers and sisters
		
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			that I'm going to be mentioning
		
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			in working towards softening up our hearts
		
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			is treating the people
		
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			kindly.
		
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			It says being kind
		
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			towards the creation and that is
		
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			treating them
		
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			the way you love to be treated with
		
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			kindness.
		
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			And He doesn't treat them with harshness and
		
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			sternness
		
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			And being rough with them.
		
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			Fa'ina Dalika Yunafiroaman,
		
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			that will cause the people to run away
		
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			from you.
		
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			He then goes on to say: Falaysal Al
		
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			Qalbi
		
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			anfaaminmaamatinasinulotf.
		
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			And there is nothing more beneficial
		
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			for the heart than treating the people kindly.
		
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			Allahu Akbar.
		
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			See how you feel, my brothers and my
		
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			sisters, when you see an old lady
		
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			walking with very heavy shopping bags
		
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			and you help her
		
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			all the way up until her home.
		
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			You might see an old lady needing to
		
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			cross the road and she's really, really struggling.
		
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			It might well be
		
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			that you help her out in that.
		
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			See how you feel after that. It might
		
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			be your parents that are asking you to
		
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			do the errands of the house. See how
		
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			you feel after that
		
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			satisfaction of having helped somebody,
		
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			my beloved brothers and sisters, it goes a
		
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			very,
		
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			very long way.
		
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			And this is exactly how the Messenger
		
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			used to be:
		
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			he was never too busy.
		
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			There was even a time when a woman
		
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			came to him and she had
		
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			some sort of deficiency in her intellect, fiyaqaliha.
		
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			And the Messenger
		
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			SAW said to her, O mother of so
		
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			and so,
		
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			Take me wherever you need.
		
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			So the Messenger
		
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			helped her out, fulfilled her needs,
		
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			and then when she finished,
		
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			he left her.
		
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			Even though the Messenger
		
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			was a general,
		
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			he was the leader.
		
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			He was a family man who had 9
		
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			wives at the same time.
		
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			Messenger Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam, my beloved brothers and
		
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			sisters,
		
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			He was the,
		
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			you could even maybe call it the King
		
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			of his people.
		
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			He was all of that.
		
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			And at the same time, he still finds
		
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			time
		
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			to help others.
		
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			And this is the statement of the Prophet
		
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			when he told us:
		
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			Allah
		
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			is in the Aid of a 7 as
		
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			long as He is helping others.
		
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			Sometimes you may think that
		
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			things are becoming extremely difficult,
		
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			you're struggling with time
		
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			in whatever you're trying to fulfil and do.
		
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			Take a couple of moments out to help
		
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			somebody.
		
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			You may see it as losing 20 or
		
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			30 minutes.
		
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			The way you should really look at it
		
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			is
		
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			Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala
		
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			blessing you in whatever you're trying to do.
		
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			That's the kind of mindset we should have.
		
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			Perhaps Allah will open a door that seemed
		
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			extremely, extremely difficult to open.
		
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			Say
		
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			Bin Kuntatasibuho and Shirdatiriyaseelam Yuhlakbi Miftahi, as the
		
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			poet says: Allah would open that door,
		
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			that you thought
		
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			was impossible to open because it was created
		
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			without keys.
		
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			The impossible becomes possible
		
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			maybe because you helped another.
		
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			Ibrahim Rahmatullahi
		
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			Alaihi, he
		
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			tells us about his teacher in Utemia.
		
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			He said
		
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			He really used to go out his way
		
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			in a very earnest manner
		
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			to help others.
		
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			Why?
		
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			Because the Messenger sallallahu alaihi wasallam said:
		
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			Allah is in the aid of his servant
		
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			as long as he's helping others.
		
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			Ibn Nadeem Rahmatullahi
		
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			he also tells us about his teacher:
		
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			I never saw anyone,
		
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			I never saw anyone
		
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			who had
		
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			a more complete
		
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			way of fulfilling
		
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			these characteristics
		
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			than Sheikh Ullisameateemir
		
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			Ahmadallahi
		
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			Alai Waqan Abad Ashabi Laqabri Yaqul
		
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			Some
		
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			of his companions, the companions of Mutaymi they
		
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			would say:
		
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			Waditu Anneeli Ashabi, I wish I could treat
		
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			my friends
		
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			The same way
		
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			Ibn Taymiy Rahmatullahi
		
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			Alaihi,
		
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			he treats his enemies Li Adaihi,
		
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			Wa Khosomei and also his opponents.
		
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			And an example of that is
		
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			when Ibn Utaim
		
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			came rushing
		
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			towards Imutaimia,
		
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			to give him the good news about
		
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			one of his enemies
		
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			departing from this world.
		
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			He says,
		
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			And this individual that passed away, my brothers
		
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			and my sisters, he wasn't just any ordinary
		
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			enemy.
		
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			He was
		
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			from those who used to harm him the
		
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			most.
		
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			Fa Naharani Watanak Karali, he told me off
		
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			And he showed his displeasure.
		
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			And then he began to say,
		
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			And then he rushed
		
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			to the home of this enemy who just
		
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			passed away.
		
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			And he paid his condolences.
		
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			Today,
		
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			I will take his place.
		
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			Whenever there's a time that you all need
		
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			something,
		
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			I will be there to help you all
		
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			out.
		
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			I will take the place of
		
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			your departing father.
		
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			Your father who has just passed away.
		
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			So they became very, very
		
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			happy with what he said,
		
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			and they even made dua for him.
		
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			They even made dua for him.
		
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			And this meant a huge
		
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			thing to them.
		
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			The fact that Ibn Taymiyyah, who was harmed
		
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			so much
		
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			by the father of the house,
		
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			and now he is coming to them and
		
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			saying this,
		
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			this was very, very touching.
		
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			Allahi, my brothers and my sisters,
		
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			the leather and the sweetness
		
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			of helping another out and then him
		
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			making a Dua for you from his heart
		
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			is something that is unmatched.
		
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			It could be that dua that he makes
		
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			from his heart.
		
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			That could cause your life to turn for
		
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			the better.
		
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			And that's something that money can't buy.
		
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			At times we ask people to make Dua
		
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			for us, make Dua for us, even sometimes
		
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			it might become a burden for them.
		
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			That Dua from the bottom of their hearts
		
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			could perhaps be the reason
		
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			why
		
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			so many doors that you thought
		
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			were created without keys begin to open.
		
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			He told us in
		
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			Hadith. Most beloved
		
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			Servants to Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala are those
		
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			who are most beneficial to the people.
		
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			And from the most beloved acts to Allah
		
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			Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala
		
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			is happiness that you enter into your brother's
		
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			heart.
		
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			'Our Taqshifa Anhu Korba.'
		
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			He might be going through some sort of
		
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			distress.
		
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			Life's become so difficult for him.
		
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			You remove this difficulty.
		
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			Aw Taqdia Anhudaynan,
		
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			He has accumulated a lot of debt and
		
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			you help him pay it back.
		
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			He might be
		
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			suffering from an extreme type of hunger,
		
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			and you
		
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			fill his stomach for
		
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			him, you feed him.
		
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			And then he said,
		
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			Waliyanamshiima
		
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			akhil muslim
		
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			and that I
		
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			now assist my brother, I walk with him.
		
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			Is more beloved to me than me spending
		
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			a whole month
		
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			doing Atikaf
		
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			in this Masjid, and he was referring to
		
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			the Prophet sallallahu alaihi wa sallam's Masjid
		
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			that we have today in Al Madina.
		
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			And then as Marykn radiAllahu ta'ala Anhu, he
		
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			says,
		
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			Never was the Messenger
		
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			asked anything,
		
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			that he ever said no.
		
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			He tried his utmost best to fulfil the
		
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			needs of the people.
		
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			So don't look at it as a burden.
		
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			Don't say,
		
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			'Some and so only asks me when he
		
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			needs me. Where is he for the rest
		
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			of the year?'
		
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			Perhaps my brothers and my sisters, you should
		
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			be thankful that Allah Azzawajal
		
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			is sending people to you
		
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			because you have
		
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			the capability
		
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			to provide them with a service
		
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			or the ability
		
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			to help them in something that they
		
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			foreshorten.
		
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			And it's Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'ala choosing you
		
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			to engage in such a noble act,
		
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			giving you the opportunity
		
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			to help you, yes.
		
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			Allah is throwing you a lifeline.
		
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			You do this and I will help you.
		
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			But do we look at it like that?
		
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			Or do we switch our phones
		
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			off when these individuals call us or we
		
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			behave prestigiously?
		
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