Abu Taymiyyah – Ep 10 Having Good Thoughts of Others How To Soften Your Heart Series

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The concept of evil thoughts on others is discussed, with a focus on the negative impact of acknowledging and apologizing for actions that lead to evil thoughts and negative behavior. The speaker warns against promises and emphasizes the importance of finding a teacher and being a student to regain faith and regain peace. There is also a disturbing incident involving a man named Buqud Dr. Alleyed a woman named Connahin and given her a saleb, causing the speaker to become upset. The importance of acknowledging and apologizing for actions is emphasized, along with the potential danger of negative behavior resulting in "claiming to be."

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			My dear respected brothers and sisters,
		
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			number 9 from that which
		
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			softens an individual's heart.
		
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			Scholars, they mention Husnuuddinni
		
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			binas,
		
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			having good thoughts of others.
		
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			Prophet
		
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			he told us an authentic Hadith, it was
		
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			narrated by Abu Hurairah,
		
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			and reported by Bukhari
		
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			beware of having evil thoughts about others, for
		
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			indeed the evil thoughts that one may
		
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			have of others
		
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			is from the worst of fabrications.
		
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			This is what the Prophet
		
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			SAW told us warning us from this evil
		
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			trait which is the opposite of Hiznudhan,
		
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			bad thoughts of others, Su'adhan.
		
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			Imran Alkaim Rahmatullahi
		
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			mentions,
		
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			which shows of course,
		
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			how this is a mechanism now to soften
		
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			up your heart. He says:
		
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			Whoever makes it a habit to give the
		
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			people the benefit of the doubt?
		
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			And He has good thoughts of them.
		
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			He says that this individual's intentions will become
		
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			pure.
		
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			He will also feel at peace,
		
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			Wa'ufyaqalbo,
		
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			and his heart will become cured.
		
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			Allah.
		
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			And Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala will protect him
		
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			from all types of evils.
		
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			So when we ask now, what does Su'adan
		
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			actually mean? Having evil thoughts on the people,
		
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			what does it actually mean?
		
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			Ibrahim Armatullahi
		
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			says:
		
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			Your heart now becoming filled
		
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			with bad thoughts of others.
		
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			So much so that it ends up now
		
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			becoming apparent on one's tongue
		
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			and also his limbs.
		
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			If you're having bad thoughts of others without
		
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			it now becoming apparent on your tongue and
		
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			also your limbs, then my beloved brothers and
		
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			sisters, you are not held to account for
		
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			that.
		
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			As the Messenger
		
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			told
		
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			us:
		
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			Allah
		
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			Azzawajal has pardoned
		
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			his Ummah
		
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			for that which they speak to themselves about,
		
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			as long as he doesn't utter it or
		
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			act upon it.
		
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			You are excused as long as you're having
		
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			these thoughts and it doesn't
		
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			exit
		
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			from your mouth or you don't
		
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			act upon it, then, InshaAllah Ta'ala, you are
		
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			excused for that.
		
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			And one should try to fight it as
		
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			much as he can.
		
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			One should try to fight it as much
		
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			as he can. Another profound statement I would
		
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			like to share
		
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			is the statement of
		
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			Abu Waqrib Nadilahi Al Muzani When
		
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			he said:
		
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			Beware of uttering that which, if you were
		
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			to be correct in
		
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			it, then you would not get a reward
		
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			for it.
		
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			And if you were to be wrong in
		
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			it,
		
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			you would,
		
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			attain a sin.
		
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			And that is what Su'adhan.
		
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			How often do we hear people,
		
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			making a judgement
		
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			about others,
		
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			when in reality they have no evidence to
		
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			make this claim?
		
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			Right? And then when it turns out to
		
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			be
		
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			what he mentioned,
		
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			he says to you, then I tell you,
		
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			I was right.
		
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			As if this is something praiseworthy, you are
		
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			not being rewarded for that at all.
		
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			You are not being rewarded for that at
		
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			all.
		
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			Being correct in the bad assumptions you had
		
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			about others
		
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			is not something
		
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			that gets you a reward,
		
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			but rather it leads to that which can
		
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			be extremely detrimental to your religion, when you
		
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			make that a norm.
		
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			When you make that a norm.
		
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			The
		
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			scholars from the early generations,
		
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			they would
		
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			give the people the benefit of doubt. Like
		
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			Umar Khattab
		
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			He would say:
		
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			If you are able to give your Prophet
		
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			a benefit of doubt,
		
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			then do not
		
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			carry that which he says with his tongue
		
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			with an evil meaning, as long as you're
		
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			able to give him the benefit of doubt.
		
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			Hassan al Basir Rahmatullahi
		
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			would say:
		
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			Give your brother 70 excuses.
		
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			Give your brother 70 excuses.
		
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			And from the
		
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			very profound statements that I came across with
		
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			regards to this issue, is the statement of
		
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			Al Imam Shafi'i Armatullahi when he said:
		
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			If he wants Allah Subhana Wa Ta'la
		
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			to treat him well,
		
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			okay, then let this individual be
		
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			someone who has good thoughts about others.
		
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			And then look what he says, and this
		
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			is extremely, extremely profound.
		
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			And you will normally find those are bad
		
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			thoughts of others is because they are individuals
		
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			who engage in these bad things. SubhanAllah.
		
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			And then he mentioned a
		
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			line of poetry:
		
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			If an individual is someone who engages in
		
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			that which is haram and evil,
		
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			This is the type of individual that will
		
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			have bad thoughts of others.
		
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			SubhanAllah.
		
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			May Allah Azzawajal protect us from this disease,
		
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			Having evil thoughts
		
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			and acting upon speculation
		
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			has destroyed so many relationships
		
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			and so many marriages.
		
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			A sister may continuously think that her husband
		
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			is cheating on her or maybe looking at
		
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			other women when in reality he is not.
		
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			Right?
		
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			But rather
		
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			leave the issue to Allah Subhana Wa Ta'la,
		
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			because if somebody now
		
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			is being deceitful
		
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			and it's only a matter of time that
		
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			Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala exposes
		
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			him, turn to Allah Azzawajal and make Du'a
		
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			to him, asking him
		
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			to show you That Which is the truth,
		
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			instead of just constantly
		
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			suffering from this sickness
		
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			of having evil thoughts about others. The scholars,
		
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			they also mention,
		
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			If we didn't take
		
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			any other benefit
		
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			and the fact that
		
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			one individual now has good thoughts about others,
		
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			he is able to go to sleep peacefully,
		
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			then that would have been sufficient.
		
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			And also, if the only harm from having
		
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			evil thoughts about others
		
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			was the fact that his mind remains occupied
		
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			and he constantly
		
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			is struck with worry
		
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			and not being able to sleep properly,
		
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			then this, my beloved brothers and sisters,
		
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			would have been sufficient to show
		
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			how bad of an evil trait that this
		
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			is.
		
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			May Allah
		
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			protect us from that Ami.
		
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			And last but not least,
		
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			I would like to share an incident that
		
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			happened
		
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			between
		
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			Uthman ibn Affan
		
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			and also Umar ibn Khattab
		
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			Usman ibn
		
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			Affan narrates that:
		
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			Once upon a time, Umar ibn Khattab
		
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			walked past him
		
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			and he gave
		
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			him salaams.
		
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			He said: I didn't even realize that he
		
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			walked past me
		
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			nor that he gave me salams.
		
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			So Umar Khattab
		
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			went to Abu Bakr
		
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			to complain about that which happened.
		
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			And then he told him,
		
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			What do you think about what I'm about
		
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			to tell you, O Abu Bakr?
		
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			I walked past Uthman, I gave him my
		
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			salaams and he didn't return it.
		
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			Right?
		
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			So they both then entered into
		
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			where Abu Bakr radiAllahu ta'ala was,
		
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			and they both gave him salabs.
		
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			Right?
		
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			Abu Bakr
		
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			then
		
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			turned to Usman and he told him,
		
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			Say that your brother, Umar, came to me
		
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			and he told me that he walked past
		
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			you, gave you salams and you didn't return
		
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			salams.
		
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			What caused you to do that? Look how
		
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			Abu Bakr
		
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			verified,
		
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			double checked,
		
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			okay, and he didn't just quickly
		
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			take the side of Umar ibn Khattab
		
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			He took his time in dealing with the
		
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			situation
		
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			to see really what's up, right? Does he
		
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			have an excuse as to why he didn't
		
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			do so? What was the reason why he
		
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			didn't respond to salaam? Even though it's something
		
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			that is mandatory to return the Salaam, my
		
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			beloved brothers and sisters and Messrs of Salaam
		
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			said, Haqqul Muslimi Al Muslimi Sit.
		
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			The right that your Muslim brother has over
		
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			you are 6 things and one of them
		
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			is Radu Salam, to return to Salam.
		
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			So Uthman ibn Affan radiAllahu ta'ala and he
		
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			said, I didn't do that.
		
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			Said, yes, you did. That's exactly what you
		
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			done.
		
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			And then he says, By Allah,
		
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			I didn't even realize that you walked past
		
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			me and that you gave me salams.
		
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			So Abu Bakr
		
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			said, Uthman of Truthful.
		
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			And
		
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			there is something that occupied him from that,
		
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			or that busied his mind from that. How
		
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			often does that happen, my brothers and my
		
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			sisters, someone may walk past that is beloved
		
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			to us, that we love
		
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			and they don't even realise that they're walking
		
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			past us,
		
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			and then we go home and we are
		
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			in deep thought
		
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			of that which may have happened,
		
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			the best thing to do, my beloved brothers
		
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			and sisters, to maybe confront that individual and
		
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			to maybe just ask and verify, did you
		
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			do this? Did you not do this?
		
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			And that will really put you at peace
		
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			and make you feel extremely better.
		
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			Because one thought will lead to another, so
		
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			much so that you will end up treating
		
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			that individual
		
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			badly and he wasn't deserving of that.
		
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			May Allah
		
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			protect us all, I mean, from that.
		
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