Abu Taymiyyah – Control your tongue before you’re bankrupt

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The speakers discuss the views of Islam and how it is impossible for individuals to be oppressed. They stress the importance of being cautious and avoiding negative consequences, especially in cases where actions can benefit one. The speakers also emphasize the importance of remembering things and not just forgetting what is written down. They advise listeners to ponder before speaking and to think before speaking, and offer advice on being a good friend. They stress the importance of forgiveness and avoiding promises.

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			Of Abu Zar Radi Allahu Anhu.
		
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			And then Nabi Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam
		
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			In Hadid al Qudsi
		
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			where Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala said,
		
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			I have made dul,
		
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			oppression
		
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			with myself haram.
		
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			He has made it impermissible.
		
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			From Haram and amongst yourselves,
		
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			I have made oppression Haram.
		
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			Something that it is impermissible for a person
		
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			to do.
		
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			If you look on
		
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			on the verses that I mentioned in the
		
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			Quran, you find that Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala
		
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			is very very just with the Ibad.
		
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			With his slaves, he's very very just.
		
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			And he's not from those that will be
		
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			oppressing the Ibadan yawmal qiyama.
		
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			As it has been mentioned many many times
		
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			by Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala in His book.
		
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			Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala has said in the
		
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			Quran.
		
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			So indeed Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala doesn't oppress
		
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			the people,
		
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			but the people are those that oppress themselves.
		
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			And he says in another mode there, in
		
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			another
		
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			position in the Quran in Surat An Nisa,
		
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			Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala tells us that on
		
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			your Maqiyama,
		
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			even if it is
		
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			the size of an atom, he will be
		
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			not oppressing the people.
		
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			And if anything, he will be multiplying the
		
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			deeds of a person.
		
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			Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala not only is he
		
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			just robbed, but he gives more to the
		
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			Ibal.
		
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			If a person comes with 1
		
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			then Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala multiplies it by
		
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			10. This is the affair of Allah
		
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			with his slaves.
		
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			Look how just Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala is
		
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			when it comes to his slaves.
		
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			And you find that there's many many hadith,
		
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			many many ayaats that inform us how we
		
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			should be in regards to the Ibad. Our
		
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			interactions with the people. How a person needs
		
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			to be just and not be oppressive when
		
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			it comes to speaking with them, when it
		
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			comes to dealing with them, and when it
		
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			comes to interacting with them.
		
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			As this is from the affairs that the
		
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			prophet salallahu alaihi wa sallam prohibited and he
		
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			warned the people about. And he told them
		
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			to be very very cautious about oppressing 1
		
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			on Shaba.
		
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			The prophet sallallahu alaihi wasallam he said in
		
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			Hadith,
		
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			Fear oppressing each other. For indeed the oppression
		
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			on the day of resurrection is darkness.
		
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			The prophet sallallahu alaihi wasallam told Mu'adib najibal
		
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			Be aware and be fearful
		
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			of the dua, the invocation of the one
		
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			that is oppressed. For indeed there's no barrier
		
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			between him and his between Allah subhanahu wa
		
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			ta'ala and his dua. So a person that
		
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			you oppressed, or that we oppressed, or we
		
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			speak bad about, or we take his will,
		
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			or when we deal with him, we don't
		
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			deal with him in the correct manner.
		
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			Maybe one dua' that he does against us,
		
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			it could be the reason why Allah subhanahu
		
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			wa ta'ala disrupts us.
		
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			One dua that this oppressive person,
		
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			or this oppressed person makes against you for
		
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			maybe speaking about his honor, or maybe taking
		
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			his will, or maybe being bad about in
		
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			regards to him. One dua could be the
		
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			reason why
		
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			why all our lives
		
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			goes into turmoil because we've been oppressive to
		
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			this person. The prophet sallallahu alaihi wa sallam,
		
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			he gave us many examples of dul, many
		
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			examples of oppression
		
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			when it comes to the man taking the
		
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			wealth of a person. He came in a
		
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			hadith where the prophet sallallahu alaihi wa sallam
		
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			said.
		
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			It was narrated by Imam Al Bukari Rahmatullah.
		
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			Whoever takes the hands span
		
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			the hand span of a person's land, then
		
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			this person will come on your and
		
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			he will have 7 times
		
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			the size of that which he took, it
		
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			will be around his neck.
		
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			And the people will see this. It will
		
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			be a day of regret for this individual.
		
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			The prophet sallallahu alaihi wa sallam told us
		
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			about speaking about the Irr
		
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			The
		
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			honor of the people and speaking badly about
		
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			them, and also disparaging their honor.
		
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			The prophet sallallahu alaihi wa sallam said,
		
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			Whoever
		
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			has oppressed his brother,
		
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			said something about his honor, or anything related
		
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			to this individual,
		
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			then let him seek his forgiveness
		
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			today.
		
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			Let him seek this person's forgiveness today.
		
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			If you've slander this person, or you've backbited
		
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			this person, or you've said this about this,
		
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			and this about her, then the prophet sallallahu
		
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			alaihi wa sallam is saying, the person needs
		
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			to take his forgiveness today.
		
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			Before there comes a day when the dinar
		
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			and the dirham doesn't doesn't benefit a person.
		
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			These were currencies at the time of the
		
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			prophet sallallahu alaihi wa sallam.
		
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			If this person has good actions,
		
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			then it will be taken from him on
		
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			the day of resurrection.
		
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			Imagine you're praying day and night, Qiyamulayl.
		
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			You're fasting day and night, siyamidawud
		
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			alayhis salatu wa salam. The best fasting that
		
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			you can do. And then on your markiama,
		
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			your actions, your good deeds that you used
		
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			to do, it gets taken away from you.
		
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			You become so tired in this dunya doing
		
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			all sorts of Ibadat, and then on your
		
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			you have nothing. The prophet sallallahu alaihi wa
		
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			sallam then went on to
		
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			If this person has no good deeds,
		
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			he has no good deeds whatsoever,
		
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			then the bad sins of that person you
		
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			backbited, or we spoke about, or we insulted,
		
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			his bad deeds are taken for umila alaydeed.
		
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			And then you will be given his deeds.
		
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			You will be given his deeds.
		
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			Just because all the oppression is taking place,
		
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			somebody might be oppressing us, speaking about us,
		
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			taking our wealth,
		
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			not being good to us,
		
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			do not think that Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala
		
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			is going to leave this individual.
		
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			Do not think that Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala
		
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			has forgotten, or he doesn't see that which
		
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			is taking place.
		
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			The prophet sallallahu alaihi wa sallam
		
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			Allah
		
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			subhanahu wa ta'ala gives gives respite to the
		
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			zalim, the oppressor.
		
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			He lets him do whatever he wants. He
		
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			gives him time.
		
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			He oppresses. He might take your wealth, and
		
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			he might doing so.
		
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			But Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala knows what's going
		
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			on.
		
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			He gives him respite.
		
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			Until when He grabs him, He seizes him
		
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			like no other. He gives him the punishment
		
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			that he deserves.
		
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			Then the prophet sallallahu alaihi wasallam recited,
		
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			So indeed, he sees them.
		
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			And the punishment he gives to this person
		
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			is very very painful.
		
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			From the things I wanna talk about and
		
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			give more emphasis to,
		
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			is the type of dulm.
		
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			The type of oppression that is very very
		
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			common in our communities today.
		
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			That which is done by the tongue. And
		
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			it's very very easy for a person to
		
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			pose oppression with. Many of us think that
		
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			only taking the wealth of a person, or
		
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			maybe attacking him, or punching him, or fighting
		
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			him, or slapping this individual is the only
		
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			type of gun.
		
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			But one of the worst
		
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			forms of oppression that a person could do
		
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			is with his tongue. As the prophet sallallahu
		
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			alaihi wasallam talked to us about this.
		
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			He told us about this tongue.
		
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			Especially when we accuse the people
		
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			and we say things about them, that it
		
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			will come on your Matliyama
		
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			as a witness for every single thing that
		
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			we used to say.
		
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			Every single thing that we used to say
		
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			is being noted down by Allah subhanahu wa
		
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			ta'ala. Allah azza wa jalil says in the
		
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			Quran,
		
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			The day
		
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			when their tongues
		
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			and also their hands.
		
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			And also their feet are a witness against
		
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			them. Are a witness against every single thing
		
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			that we used to do.
		
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			And Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala will give the
		
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			reckoning on yawmaqiama.
		
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			Every single small thing that we say, it
		
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			is being written down by the 2 angels.
		
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			As Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala mentioned,
		
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			Never does a person utter
		
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			a word except that you have raqeb al
		
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			aqeed writing this down.
		
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			The amount of things that we say. You
		
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			just imagine to yourself and think about.
		
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			From the early
		
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			moments of your day, the amount of things
		
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			that we speak about whether it is permissible,
		
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			whether it is not, we tend to forget
		
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			this.
		
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			We tend to forget what we talk about
		
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			on a daily basis. If you was to
		
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			ask me, you know what I spoke about
		
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			in the morning, I won't be able to
		
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			tell you. Why? Because we speak about so
		
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			much things that it is very very hard
		
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			for a person to remember.
		
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			And every single thing it is being written
		
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			down.
		
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			Every single thing that we say, whether it
		
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			is about this person, we slander him, or
		
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			we backbite him, or we abuse this individual,
		
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			it is being written down by the 2
		
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			angels.
		
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			And then a person will come on yawmul
		
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			qiyama.
		
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			A person will come on yawmul qiyama as
		
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			Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala He quoted the Mujulemeen.
		
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			When they will find every single thing they
		
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			used to do in front of them.
		
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			Look what Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala
		
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			calls to us about the Mujilimin. They will
		
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			say
		
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			What is wrong with this book?
		
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			It doesn't leave a small thing,
		
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			and it doesn't leave a big thing.
		
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			And
		
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			every single thing they used to do will
		
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			be put in front of them, held it.
		
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			They'll be present in front of them.
		
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			And Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala will not oppress
		
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			his people.
		
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			If only with the Bani Adam they're brought
		
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			on themselves.
		
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			And one of the most important hadith in
		
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			this bag,
		
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			which is a very very
		
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			threatening hadith
		
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			that a person needs to ponder especially
		
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			every time he speaks or he utters a
		
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			word, and it's a warning to all of
		
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			us.
		
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			The prophet sallallahu alaihi wa sallam mentioned
		
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			A person, he speaks with one word. The
		
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			Prophet sallallahu alaihi wa sallam said
		
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			One
		
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			And he doesn't give any care to this
		
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			one word that he says.
		
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			And because of this one word,
		
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			And because of this one word,
		
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			he is chucked into the hellfire.
		
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			He is chucked into the hellfire
		
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			70 years.
		
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			And some of them they said 70 years.
		
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			Because of this one word that we say,
		
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			and we don't give any care to it.
		
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			We might swear, and we might take it
		
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			lightly.
		
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			We see it to be very very small,
		
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			but with Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala,
		
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			it's nothing major.
		
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			Just one word that we say.
		
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			So
		
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			my advice to myself firstly, and also to
		
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			my brother secondly,
		
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			when we speak, it's upon us to ponder
		
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			and to think before we speak as they
		
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			say.
		
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			Before that day comes, when a person
		
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			will be begging Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala to
		
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			take him back.
		
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			Will be begging Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala to
		
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			take him back in his dunya.
		
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			As the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi wa
		
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			Alaihi told us that that day is a
		
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			day of regret. Warn
		
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			them of the day of regret,
		
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			when the people will be begging Allah
		
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			to take them back to do better deeds.
		
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			Allah
		
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			says to us in the Quran,
		
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			And when death has come to them, they
		
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			say, oh Allah, give take us back, take
		
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			us back.
		
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			Perhaps and maybe I can do more good
		
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			actions,
		
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			but it will be too late. And everything
		
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			has been said, everything has been done. And
		
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			it's only the person's actions that
		
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			would be a benefit to him.
		
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			Dear respected brothers and sisters,
		
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			another important matter is that a person needs
		
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			to think about,
		
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			especially these oppressed.
		
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			And I wanna talk about the virtue of
		
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			pardoning
		
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			each other.
		
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			As you have many, many ayaats and many
		
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			many ahadis,
		
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			where it shows us and shows indication
		
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			the virtue of pardoning
		
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			each other.
		
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			Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala says in the Quran,
		
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			When a person does something good and when
		
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			he does something bad, they're not equal.
		
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			React
		
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			with someone doing something bad to you in
		
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			a good way.
		
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			That fa which is filed for jaiyah as
		
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			imam Ibn Uthaimini mentions in his book Maqarim
		
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			Alakhlaq, and he says
		
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			the unexpectedly
		
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			that person
		
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			who has shown enmity and has been oppressive
		
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			to you will become
		
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			a very close friend to you a very
		
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			close friend to you. Simply because you reacted
		
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			in a better manner.
		
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			If a person's been oppressing you, he's been
		
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			slandering you, he's been accusing you, just because
		
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			you act towards him and you react
		
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			in a better manner,
		
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			it could be the reason why Allah subhanahu
		
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			wa ta'ala makes this person a very
		
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			Abu Bakr radiAllahu Anhu.
		
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			The famous story, Fisatil If.
		
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			When his daughter Aisha radiawa wa'anha was accused
		
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			and abused,
		
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			and she was accused of making zinaab.
		
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			And then many many ayaats came down in
		
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			Surat al Nur.
		
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			Abu Bakr radiAllahu anhu had a cousin called
		
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			mister Ibn Ruzadha.
		
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			And mister Ibn Uthazda was a very poor
		
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			man when he made hijrah. And the only
		
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			wolf that he had was that which Abu
		
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			Bakr radiAllahu anhu gave to him.
		
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			And he was from those
		
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			that accused Aisha radiyaallahu anha, and they spread
		
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			stuff about her.
		
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			His cousin is a cousin of Abu Bakr
		
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			radiAllahu anhu.
		
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			And Abu Bakr radiAllahu anhu after his daughter
		
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			was accused,
		
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			he swore by Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala that
		
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			he will not help this person.
		
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			He will not help his cousin anymore.
		
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			After he used to spend on him, he
		
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			used to give him wealth, he used to
		
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			look after him. And then an ayah came
		
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			down.
		
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			And ayah came down
		
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			saying, do not let those who Allah
		
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			has given father, has given virtue, has given
		
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			grace, and made them virtuous upon the people.
		
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			People like Abu Bakr, who are from the
		
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			best of the people. Do not let them
		
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			swear
		
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			and make an oath
		
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			that they won't be helping the poor people.
		
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			Even though Aisha radhiallahu anha was accused and
		
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			Abu Bakr radhiallahu anhu was her father.
		
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			Abu Bakr radhiallahu anhu,
		
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			after the limit was carried out against him,
		
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			he forgave him. Many of us, if somebody
		
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			was to speak about our wives,
		
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			or maybe even our children,
		
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			or maybe our mothers, and spread a lie
		
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			about them,
		
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			most of us will always have something against
		
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			them. Always, I might not even forgive them.
		
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			And some of us, we might forgive them,
		
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			and even though we forgive them, we will
		
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			always have something in our hearts.
		
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			Let alone do what Abu Bakr radhiallahu anha
		
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			did Anhu
		
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			did. He carried on giving giving them
		
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			He carried on paying.
		
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			He carried on being good to him,
		
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			and he forgave and forgave.
		
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			It.
		
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			Turn the page and forget about it, as
		
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			Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala mentioned.
		
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			So Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala
		
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			forgave
		
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			them. This is the sha'an of the salaf.
		
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			And also Hassan al Basri Radi Hassan al
		
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			Basri may Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala be pleased
		
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			with him, who was from the tremendous of
		
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			the Tabi'in.
		
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			He would make dua, Allah
		
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			Oh Allah forgive the one that oppressed me.
		
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			A man came up to him and he
		
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			said to him,
		
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			oh Hassan,
		
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			I wish I was from those that oppressed
		
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			you.
		
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			Why? Because you're making so much duas in
		
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			it.
		
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			Hassan al Basir will make du'a like this.
		
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			He would make duas to Allah subhanahu wa
		
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			ta'ala to forgive those who oppressed you.
		
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			This is the way of the salif.
		
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			This is the way of those that came
		
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			before us of how pardoning they were.
		
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			And this is the statement of the prophet
		
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			sallallahu alaihi wa sallam when he said,
		
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			Silman Qapa'at,
		
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			the one that has cut your relations.
		
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			If your father has said to you, I'm
		
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			not gonna speak to you again. It is
		
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			not permissible for a person to cut him,
		
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			or anybody to cut more than each other.
		
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			Then the prophet sallallahu alaihi wa sallam said,
		
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			what human haramat? And the one that has
		
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			stopped you from getting something, they give it
		
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			to him. And the prophet sallallahu alaihi wasallam
		
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			said, why for aman balayma?
		
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			And the one that has oppressed you, then
		
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			forgive him.
		
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			This is the way a person should be
		
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			when it comes
		
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			to
		
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			being oppressed, and we ask Allah Subhanahu wa
		
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			ta'ala to give us
		
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			aid.