Abu Bakr Zoud – A Royal Decree, Excellence Towards Parents

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The transcript describes the importance of showing excellence towards one's parents and building relationships with them. The social and political moments of the decree include ten commandments, privacy in Islam, and the need for privacy in Islam. The importance of humility and showing gratitude towards parents is emphasized, as well as the need for parents to be patient and show gratitude towards their parents. The segment ends with a brief advertisement for a book and a photo of a woman carrying her child.

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			In Alhamdulillah
		
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			la hora Sula, who faqad affairs a frozen of Lima. So Mama bodifying nos da Cunha de kita, la, la la
la, la la la dia de Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, in a short while moving on to her akula
modesetting beta, or coolabah, dottin Allah Allah, Allah, Allah Allah Tim phenol adjani, La Jolla,
Camilla Mary from above all praise and thanks belongs to Allah subhanho wa Taala. And may the peace
and blessing of Allah be upon his servant and final messenger Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam
as follows my dear respected brothers in Islam, today we want to speak about a royal decree, a
decree and an order and an a commandment that came from above. It came from Allah subhanho wa Taala,
		
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			from the monster from the kings of all kings, and this royal decree. This commandment was mentioned
many times in the Quran, and the Sunnah of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and this is the
commandment of Allah said Ellen Whaley. They in the commandment of showing excellence and being
beautiful and showing goodness towards one's parents. And neglecting this commandment, neglecting
this decree, neglecting this order of Allah subhanho wa Taala is a major sin. It is a sin that can
feel the skills of a person sins upon sins, the size of mountains, until it dooms him and destroys
him in this life before the next as Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam mentioned, my brothers in
		
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			Islam. from among the most famous passages in the Quran, is the passage that is known as a messiah
LaShawn, the 10 commandments. And these 10 Commandments were originally given to Musa alayhis salam,
as they were revealed in October.
		
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			And these 10 Commandments were so huge and big of a deal that Allah subhanho wa Taala also revealed
them total solar loss on the lawn while he was in them. And they became a part of the Quran in which
we read until the last day. They were mentioned in brief in Surah 10 and I am and then Allah
subhanho wa Taala he mentioned them in extra detail in Surah Surah and this is the passage in Roma
suparna what Allah begins at by saying wakaba buka Allah tabuteau illa Yeah, well, Bill Wiley, the
Sunnah. This passage is known as
		
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			the 10 commandments. And this is the passage that mentions many different types of relationships
that a person is involved in a lot of soil in this passage, he speaks about relationship, regarding
himself, our relationship with Allah, our relationship with our parents is mentioned in this
passage, our relationship with relatives with people, our relationship with the poor, and the orphan
and the needy, our relationship with people in business, and so on. This entire passage mentions
different relationships were supposed to have. And why am I saying this? Because it is important to
observe. And the very first lesson we're going to learn is that we observe the ordered arrangement
		
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			in how Allah subhanho wa Taala arrange these relationships for life. So he began by mentioning our
relationship with him first, and then our relationship with our parents. In other words, the second
strongest relationship a person is supposed to have is with his parents, Allah azzawajal begins the
passage, and he says, we'll cover a book Allah taboo. Yeah, well below le Dini center, and your Lord
he decreed, he commanded and he ordered that none shall be worshipped but him that is the first
relationship that you're supposed to observe and look after your relationship with Allah subhanho wa
Taala and that no one is watching.
		
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			But him. And then he said, and we also commanded him build Wally dating center. Excellence towards
his parents, that you shall be the very best towards your parents. The era began with the word war
Cabo wakaba. It comes from the word Cabo to decrease something Jani and Cabo is a royal decree, a
huge metal that a lot of soldiers didn't even say what a Booker last year. He said what it is a
cabal is a kind of decree that is handed down and laid down by a judge. And there is no argument
after the case is sealed in the cases closed. The word wakaba is huge. Already before we enter the
passage, a lot of socialists saying Don't you dare, don't you dare argue, after these rules are
		
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			going to come down and what I tell you to do, and what kind of relationships you're supposed to
maintain and keep connected and keep together. That's the word walk over. So panela as though
		
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			as though the parents have complained to Allah subhanho wa Taala they standing outside the doors and
the courts of Allah subhanho wa Taala and a lot of social has responded to the complaint and he sent
down these laws and he sent down the verdict normal argument after it and let Abu Illa Yeah, that he
shall not enslave yourself to none but him well below early dainius. And, and, and being the very
best to your parents. Now my brothers in Islam. These two matters are always mentioned in the Quran
right after each other. You find in solothurn bacara Allah subhanho wa Taala he says, what his
		
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			name is Elijah Buddha in llama Valley the near Santa, these two that is always mentioned to worship
Allah and then to be the very best to your parents. A lot of socialization Surah Nisa wibu de la la
to Shinjuku be Shan, le de near Santa once again. In Surah Al Anam a lot of social he says, Allah.
		
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			Allah, Allah to Shinjuku. And what Bill Wally the center, a lot of socialism sort of in the levina
bounnam Ah, full master como una de Mola. Houma saloon. This is an area where a lot of socialist
teaching us to worship Him. And then the after it was sinal insanity Valley, the center, we
commanded the person to be the very best to use parents. Even in the stories of profits, you find in
the story of Musa alayhis salam. As soon as he speaks the first words he says, He says in me,
Abdullah, Attorney Al Kitab, which Allah Nina BIA, then he says, He says after this, what oh, Sonny
just saw that he was seconded, madam to hire, that a lot of soldiers commanded me to establish the
		
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			prayer and give this account. What's that? That is the worship of Allah, then straight after? What
about Liberty, and he commanded and enjoined upon me that I shall be the very best to my mother
because he had no father. Look, man alehissalaam when he gave advice to his son, he said to me, I
bought a lead to ship biller, do not associate partners with a law. In other words, worship Allah
alone. The street after that is Allah subhanho wa Taala saying, what was sinal insanity well today,
how Allah to Allah one that we can ended enjoy upon the person, that he shall be the very best to us
parents. And then a lot of social explains who the mother is in your life. Now my brothers in Islam,
		
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			with all of these examples I gave you, it begs the question, why are these two things always
mentioned right after each other, worshiping Allah and being the very best to your parents, and
Allah, they mentioned certain things. Number one, they say that Allah is the Creator. He brought you
into existence, and your parents are the direct reason for your existence. Without your parents
after the permission of Allah, you wouldn't have existed. Therefore, they mentioned right next to
each other. Number two, Allah he's the one who initially bestows his blessings upon you, even though
you didn't do any good before to deserve any blessings, and the parents, they are the ones who show
		
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			you blessings and show excellence towards you, even though you haven't done any goodness to them
before to deserve a large number three, Allah subhanho wa Taala is merciful towards you, and you are
in desperate need of him. subhanho wa Taala and the same case goes with the parents. They are
merciful towards you from the very beginning and you are in desperate need of them, otherwise you
will perish. Number four, Allah subhanho wa Taala continues his goodness towards you. As you grow
up, he continues his goodness towards you. And he doesn't expect any payment from you in return. And
the parents the same matter. They continue their goodness towards you as you
		
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			You grew up, and they do not expect any repayment from you for support Allah. This is one of the
reasons for why Allah subhanho wa Taala mentions these two things right next to each other. When a
hammer Home Alarm nation one more, and this is an important one so that we can figure out what kind
of relationship we're supposed to have. And why do our relationship with our parents suffer and the
lack of love, he said that a lot of social mentioned that we worship Him alone. And then he
mentioned that we be the very best our parents right next to each other, because one leads to
another
		
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			that if your relationship with a love is good, then automatically and naturally, your relationship
with your parents is going to be the very best. So this is how you measure that if your relationship
with your parents is faulty, it's bad, it's neglectful, it's ruined. That definitely means there's
something between you and Allah subhanho wa Taala. Rush and rectify your relationship with Allah,
and natural consequence of that, that you will find yourself humble towards your parents, and being
the very best towards your parents. My brothers in Islam will be lonely, they need certain goodness
to the parents, while learning. The second strongest relationship you're supposed to have in this
		
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			life is to your parents after Allah subhanahu wa Tada. Who would disagree to that, who would
disagree to this, when you are only a sperm cell in your mother's womb, that's how you began a sperm
cell in your mother's womb, you were eating from her flesh and sucking from her blood. And as she
ate everything, you're the one that was being nourished by everything that she ate. And Jani when
your bones began to develop the mother, as she is taking anything that contains calcium in it, as
your bones were developing, calcium stops going to the mother, and it redirects straight to you so
that your bones can form and grow strong. How dare someone say that, but there is 123 with my
		
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			parents that don't agree with and as a result, these are the issues that are occurring. So Pamela,
after you set in your mother's lap, and after you set in your father's lap for ease and ease, where
are you going to leave? What are you going to go? What are these problems that you come up with? And
my parents are this and but they don't understand. Somehow the law in these AR theories guidance in
how we're supposed to deal with our parents. Let's listen. A man from Yemen, and then from Yemen
came to Mecca to perform for wife and he was carrying his mother on his back. You can imagine in the
heat in the desert, going seven times around the Kaaba, having his mother on his back. He saw an
		
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			aroma of the Allahu anhu and he said to him, yep, no need to do a fatal haka. He said, Oh, please.
Do you think that I have paid her back for the goodness that she's done with this kind of loot I'm
carrying on my back further than normal of the Allahu anhu. He said to him walaupun cotton Minh
Takata this entire carrying of her from Yemen, overweight to Makkah, and then power of seven times
around the governor did not even retain one contract. You had one kind of contraction she had when
she was carrying you how to love what Bill Wiley they need Cerner
		
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			what Bill Wiley Dini, Cernan means especially when it comes to the parents, you better be the very
best than the law of soil said what Bill Wiley, they said and, and originally in Arabic, we were
expecting what son and Bill were leading us expecting that in Arabic, but Allah azza wa jal converts
them. And he says what Bill Wiley they in first and then he said, and second. what that implies in
Arabic is exclusivity, or its specialized is something in other words, when we want to translate
what Bill Wiley dainius and it will mean, and especially when it comes to the parents, you better be
the very best, you know what that means. In other words, you can be the very best to your boss, you
		
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			can be the very best to your friends, you can be the very best to your worker, you can be the very
best to your children, and the very best to your life. But a lot of social he says that's good, but
especially when it comes to the parents. That's where the very best of manners is supposed to be
seen. Bill Wiley Dini. esenin Subhanallah my brothers in Islam.
		
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			This is why the hammer home Allah they said, anything. Listen to this carefully. anything short of
the very best to the parents is a sin. Allah repeated. anything short of the very best towards the
parents is a crime is a sin that a person earns a sin for and you'll be accountable for it on the
Day of Judgment. Listen to the story that Allahu alayhi wa sallam mentions he says
		
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			That embedding is in. There were three men that were trapped in a cave. The story is long that I'm
just going to focus on the first person so we can learn.
		
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			He said three people were trapped in a cave. They entered a cave, and he closed up. So that means
there's no communication. They don't have any mobile phones. No one knows where they are. They are
stuck in certain depth. They will die soon. If no one comes and sees them. There's no WhatsApp.
There's no video course they can make done cut out of this lovely life. No one knows about their
existence and their whereabouts. So they asked each other What are we supposed to do? So one of them
said, Let's make dua to Allah through our righteous good deeds, that perhaps Allah open it as a
result. Good ID. So the first person makes it and he says Allahumma
		
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			in who can Ali shamkhani caviar Bian? Welcome to La La Houma, la mela. He said Allah, he when he
took a corner, listen to this. it'll teach you what it means to be good to the parents. He said all
along.
		
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			I had to old age parents. His parents were really old in age his mother and father. Yani, they're
very close to their grave.
		
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			Allah, He began his way out like this, as though he's saying I acknowledge that there are two doors
of the paradise open right before me. The door of the Paradise is only 1.5 meters away from you. It
is under the feet of the mother and the father. This is where it is. Allah subhana wa sallam
mentioned, he realizes the greatness of having old parents can it's a disaster and a calamity. If
you don't have old parents, this is how a mama would see all parents as an opportunity to be granted
the paradise and granted mountains and mountains of good deeds. He said all along, I had two old
parents. And I did not feed anyone in my family, nor my wife or my children, nor my sleeves before
		
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			them. I didn't feed anyone. He's making a very clear message this person. He's making a very clear
message. He's saying I did not feed anyone from my family before them. In other words, his message
is to say that no one comes before my father and mother. No one at all. Look, my brothers in Islam.
You might love your children and your wife more than your parents. But you need to make that clear
message to your parents that no one comes before them. This is what he's doing. When he said no one
will drink milk before my parents.
		
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			And he said was superior to
		
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			the hormone. He went into his parents. They were sleeping and he's holding the bowl of milk and his
children are crying at his foot. Now, you know Subhan, Allah, Allah, Allah azza wa jal placed in the
parents, that as soon as their children are crying, or they're hungry, the emergency alarm rings in
your mind, and you will go out of your way to do anything to look after him. Look at this man. He's
saying that his children are crying at his feet. And he's still carrying the ball of milk. And he's
not going to give them anything, because no one will drink before his parents to pass the law. Yeah,
he gives them half the milk, nothing. Make it a clean message that no one comes before the parents.
		
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			He could have given him half the milk. But he's not doing that. Then he said fella beef to one lady
and
		
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			he said, so I stood at their head, carrying the bowl of milk. Wake him up. I don't want to wake them
up. Because if I wake them up, maybe I disturb them. And as a result, they won't be able to sleep
after that. You sit down. You've been working all day. I don't want to sit. I'm going to remain
standing right here. To give a clear message. This is the kind of goodness he had told his parents.
		
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			You have slaves. Make one of your slave standard the head and go sleep. No. None of my sleeves will
stand. I will do it. It's an honor for me. It's an opportunity for me. I will stand at their head
and he stood there waiting them to wake up until until Virgil. Once and Fisher came in. They woke up
for soccer tullahoma and I gave them their hubback their milk and they began to drink from it. My
brothers in Islam Yanis hanamaki is not only spent in solid, this is a form of clear Malaysia.
		
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			Even above some of the Allahu Allahu he said that his mother asked for water once he went to her and
she found her sleeping. So he stood there until selected for sure the amount of sunlight and fresh
it and then he gave her the water
		
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			To drink. And some of the righteous of the past, they would say, I spent the entire night at the
foot of my mother and a PR service. And my brother spent the entire night in Salatu Lail praying.
And he said, and I wouldn't for a second prefer his night over my night. So Pamela dishpan in the
cave, he made this slide. And he said all along, if I did that, for your sake, if that righteous
deed was done for your sake, my love and my obedience or my goodness towards my parents, if it was
done for your sake, then move this boulder and open it up. And Allah subhanho wa Taala opened up the
cave a little bit. And they saw the sky. They saw relief. My brothers in Islam. Yeah. And so Pamela,
		
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			when, when Thailand when when boys in the Thailand cave got trapped, the entire world came to the
rescue. 7 billion people on the face of this earth came to the rescue. And they didn't know how to
do it until after a few days went by. Here we're learning that power build rule rarely they in
goodness to the parents has such a power that it would move a boulder. It would move difficulties in
your life. To the point where you'll see light, you'll see the sky, you'll see relief. So Pamela,
how many boulders exists in our life, that would be opened up if you were to kiss the forehead of
your parents, and how many boulders exist in your life that would open up if you were to serve them,
		
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			clean their clothes, and shine their shoes. In other words, when a person has difficulties in life,
		
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			perhaps most of the times, it's because of your relationship with your parents. This is the first
one that this person made. And relief came to Panama. When I recall on this moment. And in this
Limbo, a friend of mine, Sharif Subhanallah, so you can understand. A friend of mine once he told me
a story. He said
		
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			that he had a soccer game to go to, you know as youth as young men house once you have a soccer game
or a sport you want to go they care about the world. So he wanted to go to the soccer game. And his
father stopped him. And he said to him, wait, you cannot leave until you rake the leaves beside the
fence. Go to the fence, rake the leaves. Once you're done, you can go to your soccer game. He got
frustrated and upset that he and I got a game please don't do it later. He said now. Anyway, I have
a small argument Fine, fine, my dad, I'm going to go rake the leaves. So he went and he began to
rake the leaves. And as he's raking the leaves, he said I saw something shining. Besides the fence.
		
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			He approached it. And it happened to be his key. Also power law. He said without that key, I
wouldn't have been able to turn on this car and go to the soccer game. So panela something as small
as that. We need to understand excellence towards the parents. Obedience towards the parents is
going to give you relief difficulties in your life. A lot of stories. He says what Bill Wally Dini
said and the word sannan. It came with it. And when
		
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			they said this, then when it implies in every aspect of life they're supposed to be in your words.
They're supposed to be excellence in your behavior. They're supposed to be excellence in your
actions. They're supposed to be excellence in your patience. They're supposed to be excellence
towards your parents. anything short of the very best in any aspect of life is going to be a sin. In
the kebab. Kibera, Houma, Oklahoma Fela taco Allahumma of Allah azza wa jal, he says, If either one
of them or both of them were to read old age at your place, then do not say to them, Jani. Why?
Because when parents grow at old age, their demands and requests become more and more. So as a
		
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			result, the possibility of coming out of you is going to increase more and more philosophy shall he
says, Do not say to them off at that moment. My brothers in Islam the word off is a word. Your
parents could have said towards you a million times when you were growing up, when they were feeding
you, when they were changing your clothes, when they were changing your nappies. When you were in
your mother's womb, when they spent time and effort and money upon you, every moment they could have
set off against you. But they decided not to say it. So Allah subhanho wa Taala teaches you don't
you dare say it towards them. When not once they said it towards you, phonetic Allahumma often when
		
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			they said if there was a word less than off Allah who would have funded us from saying it, but it's
nothing less than off spamela that imagine the one that swears at his parents. Imagine the one that
swears at his parents
		
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			Imagine the one that hits his parents. Imagine the one that raises his voice and his parents, a law
he's telling you don't say off, and you're acting in this manner. What kind of punishment Oh, it's
such a person fanatical lahoma off
		
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			and do not disappoint them, do not upset them.
		
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			Do not annoy them
		
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			Do not be a river of insult in their faces, you know, that comes from the word of mouth is a flowing
river. There are some people that would stand before their parents and keep on talking back talking
back talking back until their parents before them will just decide to walk away. A lot of social
says do not be a river of insult before them. You know a river, when it flows strong after a flood.
What happens? It doesn't leave anything in its path except it destroys it. A lot of socially saying
Don't be that person before your parents. When I talk to him, I often wonder
		
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			why? Why can I say off to my parents? And why can I upset them? Why? Why? Because this is considered
a validation. It's considered rebellion against the parents, and for such is a bad and a major sin
in the vehcile Allahu alayhi wa sallam he says
		
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			they have been Allah who mean himself and what are the three types of people, a lot of soldiers will
not accept the single beat from them. Nothing of the obliga tracks, nothing of the voluntary acts.
And he mentioned the first one and
		
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			the one who is disciplined, disrespectful towards his parents. When the vehcile Allahu alayhi wa
sallam he says in a hadith
		
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			don't lay on buruma who lay him Yeoman Kava, three types of people, Allah will not look at them on
the Day of Judgment, meaning they do not own a loss mercy on the Day of Judgment. And he mentioned
number one, Allah kulu led to one who's disrespectful and rebellious towards his parents, when he
sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said in the same Hadith, certain layer kulula agenda, they do not enter
the paradise three types of people. And he said,
		
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			once again, and this repetition implies severity and danger towards this major sin, when
		
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			rebellion against the parents is from the minus signs of the hour. In the vehcile Allahu alayhi wa
sallam, he says in the hadith of Allah, Allahu anhu, that if 15 things were to happen in this Allah,
Allah punishment will come down. And he mentioned and for among these 15, he said, Well, rasuluh, so
shadow, when the man begins to obey his wife, and as a result,
		
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			he begins to become rebellious towards his mother. Because of his obedience to His wife, he
preferred his wife over his mother, as a result, here are adults against his mother. The fourth one,
he said, while down, Ruby saw the T, and the one who shows excellence towards his friend was for who
		
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			he says was alpha. And he was dried to his father, he neglected and turned away from his father, he
can show goodness to everyone, but his mother and father, that is manana to sell from the minus
signs. If these were to happen, a lot of social promised that his punishment would come down very
soon, my brothers in Islam, how many Muslims around the world today are standing outside the courts,
with their case prepared against their mother and father, because of a home because of a house
because of somebody because of some stupid worldly thing? is standing outside the courts, taking the
parents to it? So hon Allah, for my brothers in Islam, let's understand
		
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			what the sanan rebellion against the parents is a crime. And let me just mention on this point, that
what about if a person actually complains from very tough parents, how do you deal with tough
parents? There is there are parents that are tough, that you can't you cannot even live with them?
How do you deal with him? Or him at home alone, they said,
		
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			a sabudana they're human in our family, for people that have very bad parents, and wish to do good
to their parents, and said that the greatest goodness they could do is being patient,
		
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			before they difficulties and their insults, and their hardness and their toughness, exercise
patience, before their toughness, and this is the greatest of Bill. So if they scream at you, or
they swear at you, or whatever it is, you remain patient, and your patience will be counted as your
excellence towards them. The whatever in the case where and we have this a lot our youth would say
unfortunately my parents did not accept
		
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			That I made a tober and I begin to pray at the masjid and hamdulillah now I have a bead, this is
this is a problem as well, this is a problem, they go back and they say Alhamdulillah they go to
their parents, and they say Finally, I found the righteous man and Allahu Akbar, my mother, you
should have seen this person. We read together any fasts, these any praise the knights and, and they
are expecting from your mother to clap for you. Instead, she says it's a masiva. This is a disaster.
When you go back home, and you say I heard a lesson today on my heart. But while I was a killer,
what do you expect from your parents that so some parents would be annoyed by this? isn't how, as a
		
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			young youth, trying to establish his team correctly in the home? How do you behave with your
parents, when they are an accepting of this kind of attitude and behavior? You need to understand my
brothers in Islam, that you're supposed to be smart. Number one, be smart.
		
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			Don't tell them about the things that I went to the machine. And I heard this and I heard that and I
made friends with it. But don't say this stuff. They don't want to hear it. Don't say it. Be smart
and wise. Number two, don't be confronting. Can you walk into the house, my sister you need to
		
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			enter my Dad, you're supposed to stop shaving your beard. When my mother watch this kind of closing.
		
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			Don't be like that. That's unacceptable. Don't accept that. Of course your parents are going to
rebel against you. Be smart, be wise. And the first thing you change of yourself in the house is
your manners. That's the first thing you're supposed to change. You come back to the home
		
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			and you clean the clothes, do something extraordinary you've never done before.
		
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			Because people generally love good manners from anyone, whether it was from a cancer, whether it was
from someone else, generally people have good manners. Imagine it came from you as a child. You go
on date to your parents, and you say father, today I want to call my Auntie's and my uncles from
overseas.
		
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			watch this Deen that you follow where you hang out with these things that you've learned from. It'll
give a good impression. And realize and understand that perhaps you are the one who has established
the dean in his life and perhaps you're the only member in the family that's a such, remember that
you're the shining beam in the house, you're going to be the source of guidance to everyone
misguided in the family. And just like a shining bulb is very sensitive. Be very careful. A light
bulb just with a flick, it'll crack. Don't break yourself. Be that shining source of light. Change
your manners first, do things that you've never done in the house, clean your clothes, shine your
		
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			parents shoes, pay the bills, do something change your character. As a result, you're accepted. And
then your change is accepted. When the recent Allahu alayhi wa sallam he said is stuck. You stuck on
become very famous, powerful Hadith authentic is the chemo you first change you bring the goodness
upon yourself. You stuck on become people around you change people around you with adopt the good
character and the obedience of Allah subhanho wa Taala if you were to do it first these are the
eight and the guidance that a lot of social teaches us What about a book Allah tabula? Yeah.
		
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			My blue Honda calchamber huduma Oklahoma fella taco Allahumma of Latin Haruna wakulla Houma colon
Karima speak noble words, soft words, compassionate kind words, Wofford, lahoma Zhanna has really
made a law and law of the wings of humility to them out of mercy, lower the wings, you know, wings
for birds and the birds they fly with their wings. In other words, a lot of socially saying, that is
acknowledging it that you might have power over your parents. You can fly above them, you can slam
the door in their face, you can hang up in their face, you can do it. But Allah is saying the
		
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			law of the wings of humility, out of mercy just like they showed you mercy, lower than
		
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			Managua, what does that mean mean serve them. When you go when as married people, when you go back
to your parents, don't wait for them to bring the food up and to serve you. You go and serve them.
When you get to the house after your marriage. You go in there with your kids and you wait expect to
her mother to put the food and to bring the tea and to bring you to that walk field you lower the
wings out of humility. Humble yourself, humiliate yourself before your parents. You bring them this
kind of stuff you serve them.
		
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			And on top of all this, once you've served them, don't think that was too much. At the end the law
says we're cool.
		
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			With all of this kind of goodness, add on top of it for them as well. doesn't stop. Goodness to the
parents doesn't have a limit. It doesn't have a limit. It's open the door is open just like the
doors of the paradise.
		
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			Open. There is no limit for it anything that's good, do it. Rob Bell hi mama Say hello. bestow Your
mercy upon them, just like they showed me mercy when I was young Walker Robert McNamara, Bernie
sahira. Finally my brothers in Islam and a mahoma love, they said that Allah subhanho wa Taala
mentions in the Quran, and it's called Lee Valley Valley, they show gratitude to me and to your
parents show gratitude to Allah and to your parents. How do you achieve that, especially for those
who their parents have died? People whose parents have died, they assume that the door of goodness
to their parents has closed, it's come to an end wrong. Actually, the most sincere kind of goodness
		
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			to the parents happens after their death, because now it's since he maybe you should goodness
towards your parents during their life. You wanted to hear good vibe from them, some kind words,
some appreciation, but after the death, no one is you've got a law. And no one sees you about a law.
And your parents after their death are in most need of your goodness towards them, that you remember
them in advance that you remember him in a photo that you remember him in a prayer. Don't forget the
mother, that so long as she carried you, and looked after you and prepared your meal, and put it
before you every day, that later on when you grow and she's dead. Every time meal and a food is
		
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			placed before you is supposed to motivate you to get up and go feed and often go feed the needy to
feed someone, Paul, and don't forget the father, who looked after you, and perhaps left your fortune
in his life. And if not, he left your good reputation. Don't forget this stuff. So you remember him
as he's in the darkness of the grief. And the grief is tight. As he's in it, you remember him he
knows what you make. And this is counted towards them. Goodness towards them. How many do I a person
did towards his parents? Allah subhanahu wa taala opened up the grief and illuminated for them just
because of the joy of a righteous son. Allahu alayhi wa sallam as
		
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			they mentioned, that a lot of supervision wants us to show gratitude to him and to her parents. How
do we do this? And Ola hammer home in LA they said, Man sala de la Vallee De
		
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			La Hoya Shaka Zulu LED. Anyone who prays has shown gratitude to Allah. And anyone who makes it to
his parents has shown gratitude towards his parents. For after every solid you make for your parents
are Bill fieldly while you validate what Bill has come out of bed in Salina. With that, he is the
late Allah you have achieved gratitude to Allah and showing gratitude to your parents or loved one
alum
		
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