Abdur Rahman ibn Yusuf Mangera – What Goes Around Comes Around

Abdur Rahman ibn Yusuf Mangera
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The negative impact of miscalculations on people, including distraction, dread, and evil behavior, is discussed. The importance of expressing joy and avoiding evil behavior is emphasized, along with the need for a "refuge" to deal with negative emotions. The speakers also touch on topics related to Islam, including loss of love, divorce, and divorces, and the importance of shaming one's behavior for something that is not your fault. The speakers emphasize the importance of leaving negative emotions behind for others to avoid damaging personal relationships and the difficulty of being a god and mother.
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Bismillah al Rahman al Rahim Al hamdu Lillahi wa salatu salam ala

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UD Mursaleen. Early he was Sufi raka was seldom at the Sleeman

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girthier on Elomi deen and buried

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gone in the bo sallallahu alayhi wa sallam Kamara, who told me the

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Hadith in Hassanein, hurry been under Rasul Allah He sallallahu

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alayhi wa sallam a call, lotto Harish Shama totally Creek, fire

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humble Hula, hula xojo Allah way of Tillich.

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One of the things that people generally get up to when they have

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some enemies or they don't like some people are they distressed

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some people is that whenever a misfortune

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comes upon them, then they get satisfied by that they rejoice at

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that.

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Now, while that may seem like some kind of revenge or some kind of

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contentment for the huts, that when somebody has something wrong,

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and you feel good about it, it's like you're getting your own back

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without actually doing anything. It's like a free kind of revenge.

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What we have to understand that it's actually quite detrimental.

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And the reason is detrimental is that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi

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wa sallam has specifically spoken about this, he's actually asked

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for refuge from this, that all Allah don't make anybody rejoice

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at my calamity or my misfortune. So this is a dua that Rasulullah

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sallallahu isn't taught us. Now, unfortunately, some people become

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habituated to this. They don't find anything wrong in doing this.

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They don't feel bad about this, because some people might think

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that Oh, I didn't do anything. I didn't do anything wrong to them.

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This is deserving. Now the deceptive aspect of this is that

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when a misfortune happens, when a misfortune takes place, and

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afflict somebody, then generally because

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misfortune is generally seen as a punishment by people that Oh, I

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must have done something wrong, or he must have done something wrong.

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That's why this kind of thing is happening. And that's why that

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becomes problematic, because we think that misfortune can happen

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to somebody only because they've done something wrong. Now, even if

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they have done something wrong, it doesn't justify that we can

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rejoice at that. That's why, why filler relates that Rasulullah

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sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, as this in this hadith of

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telemovie, that don't express joy law to the shamatha, don't express

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joy, Lea Creek, at your brother, your sister, don't express joy at

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somebody else, meaning don't express joy at somebody else's

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misfortune. That's the word Shemitah. In Arabic, the word

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Shemitah in Arabic literally means alpha biblioteca, I do alpha

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biblioteka Do we, which means to be satisfied, to rejoice to get

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happy, and exhilarated that some enemy of yours has been hit by a

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misfortune, but has been tested in some way has had an accident, for

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example, somebody had an accident, somebody was going and then they

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throw their dress, somebody's handbag got stolen, for example,

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somebody's car got scratched, somebody lost their job, somebody

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had a problem in their family, somebody got a divorce. All of

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these things are reasons why somebody may may rejoice if they

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have that evil in their heart. So learn to Hiroshima totally agree,

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do not express any kind of joy at your brother's misfortune. Another

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person's misfortune. Why fair humble hula, then Allah subhanho

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wa taala. May, because Allah subhanaw taala may end up having

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mercy on him, and compassion on him and, and relieving him of that

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by His mercy. And then Allah subhanho wa Taala will, yep,

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Tellico, which will, that he will engage you in this, he will test

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you with this. So that's quite dangerous in the sense that, what

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we have to understand is that the basis of all of this is that

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this world is a world in which we all are equal.

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Anything that can happen to somebody else can happen to us as

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well, because we're all the same and equal when it comes to being

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human beings. There is no difference between us. So nobody

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can say that I'm absolutely protected from this until death

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until our fate is not sealed without death, essentially, there

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is no way that any of us can actually think that that said, I'm

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not getting involved in this, I will never be involved in

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something like this. There have been so many people who've said,

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look how bad that person is. Look at what you know, he's done in his

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life. Look how misfortune you know, look how much

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how much misfortune he has, or whatever the case is. And then a

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few years later, this person is engaged in the same kind of

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problem. Don't laugh at anybody else. Because what goes around

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comes around. That's a general rule of the world because

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everybody's the same in this world, and all calamities that can

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hit anybody, because that's just generic, right? It can hit

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anybody. That's why the Prophet sallallahu Sallam is teaching us a

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massive lesson here is that do not express joy at your brother's

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misfortune, because it's very likely that Allah Allah

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subhanaw taala can have mercy on him, which means that you relieve

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him. Now he's in a much better state, she's in a much better

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state. And Allah subhanaw taala has then engaged you or tested you

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with that thing. For example, somebody got divorced, and you

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started laughing at them, you started rejoicing at them, you may

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have even gone and said something to them. And this is not saying

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that go and taunt them in their face. This is just rejoicing even

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secretly, because people know and people fear that others will

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rejoice at their misfortune. So just the fact and you know, to

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kind of give a hint about these things. So then somebody got

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divorced, for example, you read, you know, somebody and another

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person rejoiced that is later on mashallah, this person who got

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divorced earlier, right, she got married to somebody way better,

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she's now very happy. You know, she's got everything that she

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needs. And then this individual, the first individual gets

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divorced, right? So it's, it's happened so often it happens so

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often. That's why there's another Hadith that's related by Imam

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Bukhari. Anima Muslim from Abu Huraira, or the Allahu Anhu. And

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that's where the prophets Allah has made a dua now, if you

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concentrate on everything that relates to the lives and we're

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seeking refuge from in this dua, it's the prophets of Allah Islam

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said that I will do bIllahi min Jadwal Bala, what * Shaka

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darkish Shaka was so ill cada was Shama turtle irida. He's the

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Prophet salallahu. Salam is asking us to seek refuge from four

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different things. And all four of those things are very tough. All

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four those things are very tough. So I'll tell you what he says. The

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prophets of Allah some said seek refuge in Allah from Jadwal Bella

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Jadwal. Bella is Bella Bella means a test, a challenge, something

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that comes about a misfortune, a difficulty, something that we find

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it very difficult, then doodle Bella, the burden and the

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difficulty and the pain of dealing with that. So one is that you have

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a calamity come upon you, but you're able to deal with it. But

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this one is when the pain of it, the burden of it, the difficulty

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of it, the hardship of it is so great, that it really just it puts

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you into great kind of misery and effort and turmoil. That's why

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somebody was asked that, what is worse than the calamity itself? He

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says that the worst the worst thing about a calamity is how to

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deal with it is the difficulty of that brings you psychologically

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the effect that creates around you. So the prophets Allah said

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ask Allah for the protection from Jadwal Bella Bella is going to

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come to us because Allah is going to test people in the world but

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just duel Bella you could ask for it as well in general, but at

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least Jadwal Bella which means to the pain of it, the hardship of it

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is removed. What darkish chakra, which means that we attain

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misfortune chakra is misfortune in the hereafter actually worse than

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the misfortune of the world. Can you imagine how big all of these

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are, how mighty pains all of these things are? How much of a

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misfortune all of these things are, so to attain a Chaka Chaka,

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as I said, is misfortune being lost in the hereafter not being

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satisfied the Chaka Chaka is the opposite of sera sera is further

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Huda rain, which means the success of the two boats Shaka is the

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opposite of that, where a person is not fortunate in this world or

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in the Hereafter. And so will cover an evil fate, an evil

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destiny, that just bad things keep happening to me and it's all

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written, it's all seems to be going wrong. So the prophets I was

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asked for protection from that. Now, if it wasn't possible to

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change these things, then the profits or loss I wouldn't have

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asked for refuge from them. But because the prophets Allah sent me

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saying, Ask refuge and seek refuge from these things, then obviously,

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it proves that there is a possibility of these things

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changing and they will change if Allah subhanaw taala accepts your

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DUA. So those are the three things. One is the great troubles

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that come with challenges that face us and fitness that face us.

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And number two is attaining misfortune. Number three is a bad

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fate and destiny. And the fourth one is Shama to Florida. Now, all

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of those things are big things. And with that, the Prophet

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salallahu Salam is also saying in the same line, Shama Teulada,

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which means that my enemies rejoice at my misfortune, because

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one is you have a misfortune, you have a way of dealing with that

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maybe so if something happens, you got an accident, whatever, you're

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able to overcome that. But when other people are laughing, there's

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not much you can do about that, especially when you don't even

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know they're doing it, but you think they're doing it is just how

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do you deal with that kind of thing? So Shama to Florida is

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very, very, very bad. May Allah subhanaw taala protect us from it

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that's why the prophets Allah Lord Islam, In another Hadith narrated

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by Imam Hakeem from Abdullah he didn't even know he burned from

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Abner Amara, the ALLAH and he says that the province that a lot of

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summons do ours can or a school Allah He SallAllahu Are you some

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year Drew? This is his dua, Allah Humala to Schmidt b i do want her

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Seaton

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Oh Allah don't

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let an envious, jealous enemy of Mine rejoice at a misfortune.

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Rejoice at anything that happens to me. So this tells us something

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else, generally speaking,

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although not always, but it's generally going to be people who

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are jealous and envious, or have something against us. And it

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doesn't have to be jealousy that there may be somebody who's not

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jealous of us at all. But they just hate us for some reason,

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right? Most of the time, I think it's going to be that they're

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jealous of us though. Because if they're jealous or something,

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something bad happens, then it's like something free misfortune

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has, it's like a free misfortune has overtaken your enemy and

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somebody you're envious of is like an enemy in a sense, but it

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doesn't have to be somebody who is like that only. It can be. It can.

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It can be just an enemy in general. You're not You're not

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jealous of them, but you just don't want to see them in a high

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position. You want the you want their failure. So that's why when

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something wrong happens, so the Prophet salallahu Salam is summing

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it up here by saying that don't let any of my enemies who are also

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envious of me rejoice at my calamity.

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Very similar dua that Harun Alehissalaam makes. What happens

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is when Musa Ali salaam went for that special meeting with Allah

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subhanho wa taala, and that special in intimate discourse with

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him, when he came, he was told on his way back that your people

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behind you have started worshiping that calf, that golden calf, he

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had left Haruna Allison on behind to look after them for the

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Maharajah Musa Illa comi hot burner Asifa. Right, he came came

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back extremely perturbed, he'd gone for a great thing, he just

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taken them and extracted them out of the clutches of Pharaoh out of

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all of that misery and slavery for that whole generation that were

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there. Now they they're free, and Subhanallah they turned to this

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because of you know somebody and because of their own foolishness.

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So he'd left how to run Islam behind. So now what happens is

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that whenever generally, you've left somebody in charge, and

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something wrong happens in their charge, you're going to get really

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angry at that person because you can't really do anything to other

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people because they're foolish anyway. So he comes back grabs

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his, the head of his his brother, and this was just one way of

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showing their kind of concern or anger or some of us didn't

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actually say that maybe he was trying to tell him something. But

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either way, it seemed to look like he was you know, he was doing

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something to his brother so immediately moves out a hold on it

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Sam says to his brother, learn to Schmidt BL the Walter journey mile

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calm his body mean, don't let our enemies don't let the enemy

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rejoice at our, at my misfortune. You know, he gave his reasons why

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he couldn't do anything, because he's, uh, he explained that if he

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tried to stop them, the group would have split into two and that

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disunity in that particular case would have been worse, because

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then there would have been no control whatsoever. And he

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probably hoped that, you know, things would have come right once

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Musa alayhis salam came back as they did when he took care of

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SAMity. So when 100 Isom was was dealt with this way by his

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brother, this is what he said. He says, Look, don't make it such

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that our enemies will rejoice that is that now there's infighting

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between the two brothers is even worse. Don't express that outside

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and do not now make me as part of these oppressive people don't

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don't join me with them as well don't include me with them as well

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and you know, in the way you're punishing me because this is not

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very wise something to do. So he makes the same kind of dua because

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it's just much worse. That it's much worse than dealing with your

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own problems yourself that somebody else has to laugh at you.

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It just feels like you know the walls are watching you that's how

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bad it gets. That's why a you ballet salon is famous story. It's

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known about him that he was afflicted with all of this great

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diseases and loss of family. Everything that he lost you know

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the famous story of a you Valley salon, somebody asked him

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afterwards, a U shaped him in Bella ik Girnar a shed or like a U

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shaped him in Billerica and shed the lake, which part of your test

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from Allah subhanaw taala, which part of this test of yours was the

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worst for you was the most difficult for you?

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So he said Shemitah Teulada he said the rejoicing of my enemies,

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people who didn't you know, like me for whatever reason people

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would oppose me for whatever reason, when they saw this coming

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to me Subhanallah it's like your enemy has been vanquished without

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you doing anything. It's like a free kind of, there's just so much

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potential there for people to rejoice and take it wrongly. So

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that's why our Dean tells us about personal ethics, because it's

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really between us and Allah subhanaw taala if something

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misfortune is happening, happening to somebody else, then clearly

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there's a lot of room from our human nature and human weakness to

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just rejoice at that because we've not had to do anything and they've

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been afflicted. But what we have to remember is that if we do

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rejoice

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And that person, especially if that person is not wrong, and this

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is just a test or he's made Toba afterwards, they've they've

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repented afterwards for whatever they're wrong was even if you're,

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you didn't like them for a good reason in the sense that they are

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doing wrong. If they've made Toba especially if they've made Toba

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then,

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more so, the effect the bad influence of that will come upon

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us as as I will mention. There's a poem a poet says from a Shoe Man

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Kadesha DB Nafi. What are Motoman called Murta cobbly? Be Mohan

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Liddy. So for my Schumann, Kodaira Shabak, the benefi, wala Motoman,

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CADCA, Mankad, Murta cobbly, wala moto Mankad, Murta, cobbly B

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mohale. Lady, basically, this is just a Rule of Life, what the

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point is saying is that

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the continuous living, or the, the remaining life of the one who

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lives off to me is not going to benefit me,

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the one who lives after I die, and who continues to live, that's not

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going to be to my benefit. And neither is the death of the one

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who dies before me is that going to make me live forever. So if

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somebody dies before me, it's not going to make me live forever, I'm

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going to die within the next so on, you know, the next few months

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or years, or whatever the case is. And if somebody does carry on

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living more than me, well, that's not going to benefit me either. So

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it should be a non issue, it should not be something that I

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need to be concerned about, that somebody carries on living, or

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somebody dies before me, it doesn't make a difference. It's

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all up to Allah subhanaw taala. Because that's what happens

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sometimes, if your jealousy if you're jealous of somebody, you

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wish that he would just just date disappear of this earth. So that

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that's it, you know, you don't have to look at the you don't have

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to look at their achievements anymore, or their successes

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anymore, because they're gone. Right? There's just no option.

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There's no possibility, but there's just no point, you'd

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rather rather ask Allah subhanaw taala to relieve us of this kind

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of thoughts. That's a better thing to do. Because at the end of the

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day, both concepts are just, I just expectations, I just hopes, I

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just desires that I desire that somebody

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I desire that somebody die, I desire that somebody's not there

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anymore. Well, why desire that? Why can't we be desired that I

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don't have this problem anymore? You know, and that's a possibility

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as well within the realm of possibilities just about positive

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thinking. That's why I remember once I was with a, with another

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Sheikh, in, it was a program we attended together in America and

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his son comes crying to him, he's about 12 years old, his son comes

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crying to him. And he's saying, you know, so and so a local boy, a

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local friend of his, you know, somebody that he hangs around with

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at school and other things. He's been doing this and the other

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team, you know, and he started saying bad things about him. So

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the Sheikh said to him, why are you praying like that against your

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friend, or against this local local lead? Instead of that, why

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don't you pray to Allah subhanaw taala that Allah make him a good

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person and Allah allow us to come together that will be better

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otherwise, you'd have to deal with this enmity all your life. But if

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your friends if your friends or you can get along amicably, then

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there's nothing wrong with that. So we should is positive thinking.

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It's about trying to change your posture. It takes a while to do

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this, though. It takes a lot of people because we're, especially

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if we've been grown up with a lot of negative feeling towards people

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and we feel that people deserve certain responses or certain types

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of attitude, then that's where it gets much more difficult.

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There's a another Hadith related from more arthro The Allahu Anhu

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that Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, Men i era Ha hoo

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be the men lamium Would Hatoyama who had they are Mela, who? Man ha

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ha who be them. Ben lamb Yamato had diametre. Who this is that

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really, really frightening Hadith that anybody who turns another,

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another person with a sin, then the person who's taunting will not

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die until he also falls into that same sin. That is where it gets

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there. That's why I'm a double nominee explains this, that this

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is referring to a sin that the person has made doba from. So

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anybody who taunts reminds brings up in a negative way, a sin that

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somebody had committed and kind of taunts him with it, and that

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person has made over from it and responder repented from it, then

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the person who's doing this is not going to die until he's also

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involved in that which means that he will get involved in this and

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that's

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it's happened so many times.

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That that is that is really this hadith is related by Imam Timothy.

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It's a weak Hadith but it's really a it's related by Martina meany.

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And it's been

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observed that this generally happens. And number two, you know

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somebody might say well, he hasn't made Toba. How do you know like

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He keeps doing it. That's why he keeps doing it.

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Yes, he keeps doing it. But how do you know that he hasn't made Toba

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and then done it again,

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this is a fresh sim, because we're told to make doba every day, you

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know, we're told to make a stick for every day and to repent to

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Allah subhanaw taala. And as we also probably make Toba from

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something, maybe do it again, not everybody is able to just make

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Toba once an end of story, a seeding kind of dough, but it's

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just not always the case. So the safest approach is you just don't

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do this. It's prohibited just just don't do it just consider it to be

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completely prohibited.

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Now, what about the case where somebody is really a bad person,

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and then in doing that bad, they were just really, you know, for

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example, a lot of these tyrant rulers or tyrants,

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gangster people, mafia people, just people who go and kill, left,

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right and center indiscriminately, just violent people of that

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nature. What about them, and something bad happens to them?

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Again, you have to be careful, though, you can be definitely

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satisfied that the world has been relieved of such a person. So you

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can be you know, there's a way to deal with this where, yes,

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Alhamdulillah It's a relief that that person's gone.

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Right, that that person is going to handle, it's a relief that, you

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know, like, for example, some of these against the Muslims in

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different countries who have been aggressively intrusives You can be

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relieved about that. Absolutely. And you can be joyful in that

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sense that hamdulillah in that sense, but when it's to another

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brother or sister, and it's not something like that, it's just

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that you're jealous of them. See, there's a difference. One is as a

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violent person. Now, Al Hamdulillah people have been given

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respite, they've been given delivery from this person's

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violence, that's something to be rejoiced, but not when it's

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something that is just somebody something bad happening to just

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somebody who you have an enmity for or jealousy for, for no reason

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whatsoever. That's why one of the other scholars who said to Shuksan

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got the Hubba, Badu us nanny for the habit, US nanny. Basically,

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this is just somebody record recollecting some of his own

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little tragedies in this regard. He says that, once I

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once I criticize somebody, and taunted somebody for some teeth

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that they had missing, people do that all the time, right? They say

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these different words that they have for people whose teeth are

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missing in different languages. So he said once, I just wanted him

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for that. And that was just, you know, some of his teeth were

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missing and probably had a glaring gap. And then mighty thought went.

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So it's, essentially we're all going to be afflicted by similar

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things. It's just a matter of time.

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And if Allah doesn't like it at all, what we did then hardass then

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it's going to happen even further. And that's why Another person said

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also, one of our two Illa imra tinleigh hillbilly for another XO

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Jetty manleigh Redo. He said, I looked at a woman that was not

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halal for me to look at, you know, with a lustful gaze probably. And

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what happened then is that my wife started to look at people I didn't

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want her to look at. So it's being effected in a like manner. May

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Allah subhanaw taala protect us from the calamities of our deeds,

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because YBNL Josie, the great scholar of Baghdad, one of my most

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favorite, he says, that this is happened so much to such a degree

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and he was a very perceptive, perceptive person, very intuitive,

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very had great amount of basura. He had a great amount of basura

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and insight, and he is somebody who had really, really assessed

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himself. If there was a man of Maha Sabha, then you know, these

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are the people. He said that whenever a man has to be alpha

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tone, Wallah hormone, wala Lee who soldering in B cell in RFO. That's

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what he says. He says, that never has any kind of calamity come upon

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me, any kind of grief struck me, or a constriction in the heart

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where I felt bad about something, except that it was because of a

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slip that I made, and I recognize that slip. So essentially, he was

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keeping track of all of his actions. That is because of this

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that I did that this has happened, he's immediately tracing the

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connections, had the young quinone and akule has been che il Fulani.

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You know, I had assessed it to such a degree and I recognize that

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that I would be able to say that this is because of such a deed.

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What are Obama to oh, well to wheel and fee he better do for our

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Kuba is that sometimes I would try to interpret it differently and

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try to not connect the two and not say it's because of this and then

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I would see the punishment of it afterwards. So he says that

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generally it's whatever wrong I mean, just taking this further.

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It's not just about

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what we say and talk to others about their see

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or rejoice at somebody else's misfortune. It's not just about

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that it's any wrong that we do. Right and Iran that we do, it will

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come back in some form of shape, unless we make Toba to Allah

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subhanaw taala. But when you've done it to somebody else, when

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when it's rejoicing at somebody else's calamity, it's got nothing

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to do with us. That in that case, it's even worse. That's what these

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Hadith are saying. That's why

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he's, that's why the suggestion is that for him to heal in Sunni and

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Yatta rock club Jessa Thembi

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facula Islam is an amino, that you should always look out for the

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effect of a sin that we commit. Because very seldom does a person

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remain safe from that. And well, eh, the head filbur person should

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avidly try to repent to Allah subhanho wa Taala because it's the

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only thing that can relieve us of the misfortunes that come from

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such such a thing. That's why Moodle Rock has this poem, he

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says, are a to Salah, Helmer II Bisola li or a to Salah *,

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Marie. Yes, Lu Lu, y de him the old facade the the facade the way

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I should have it duniya before Billy Salahi where you follow

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Burdell motif, Lee? Well, well, Eddie, what that means is, he says

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right to Salah al Maliki yesterday who Allahu what I have seen of the

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piety of an individual is that his family will be pious and righteous

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were a de him that will facade the either officer and if he becomes

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corrupt, then they will also be struck by the illness, they will

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also be struck by the illness of corruption as well. They will also

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be corrupt because of that. And he then says, We assure forfeit dunya

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before the salah he it's only from the grace of your righteousness

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and piety that a person will gain honor. And when you follow back,

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they'll motivate anyone who already and not only will a person

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become honored, and because of his the grace of his own piety and

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goodness, not only will he benefit from it, but he will also be

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protected after his death in terms of his wealth, in terms of his

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family and children. They will also be protected after his death

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because of the piety that a person had in their own life.

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That's why there's another dua

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mentioned in that hadith Allahu Mafalda Newbill Islamic law Eman

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wherefore the new bill Islamic law Eden wala to Schmidt b i do

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Ramallah has hidden, which means Oh Allah, protect me in my Islam

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and I'm standing protecting me in my Islam, even when I'm sitting so

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in all my states, protect me and protect my faith, faith. And then

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along with that, you know, loss of faith is massive. So protection of

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faith is asking for a great thing, a very significant factor. So if

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the prophets Allah, Islam is also adding to that, or if in this diet

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that's also added, which is, and do not let my don't do not let an

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enemy rejoice at my calamity, not a hassad not a jealous person.

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Now, that's all related to this world, which we're all affected by

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we see the effects of this. And we've seen it with other people

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how what has come around has gone around. But the the worst thing

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which we haven't seen yet is going to be on the Day of Judgment.

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That's going to be the worst situation. Because

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our enemy if we're worried about our enemies in this world

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rejoicing and you might think well in the Hereafter, you know who's

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going to rejoice everybody's going to be concerned? Well, shaytaan is

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going to rejoice, because shaytaan will say in the hereafter as Allah

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subhanaw taala relates in the Quran, Wakata shaytaan, la Malko

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the el amor in Allah where are the Kumar idol Huck were to come for

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stuck for left to America and Leon e commensal, Don Illa and Darrow

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to come first step to step two li fala Tulu Mooney, we're Lumo and

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Fusa calm Burnaby Masahiko warmer and tomasetti in Nika. Fatuma,

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shocked to moon him in Kabul, in the volume in and home Idebenone.

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He becomes his major preacher in the hereafter he'll shaytaan will

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say when all the decree has been, all the decree has taken place,

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and when the matter has been decided, he will then say that

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look, Allah promised you something. Right? It's clear Allah

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promised you something. And that was the true promise. Allah

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promised you the true promise. I also promised you some things but

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he doesn't mention what His promises were like. We know what

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his promises. Allah promised you the true promise. I also promised

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you something. And

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for all of to come. I obviously went against my promise. Warmer

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kerneli Alikum insult on I had no power Illa under Autocom I just

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invited you. I couldn't force you. I invited you. And you answered

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me. You responded to me first Egypt totally fell out. Hello

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Mooney. So now

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Don't send some me. Don't tell me off. Don't blame me. Lumo and full

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circle, blame yourself,

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man, a babysitter, Heiko mama and Tomasi Lee, I can't help you, you

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can't help me in this situation. Because in Nikka, for to be a

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shock to Mooney Munich club. Now, I am a golfer of the fact that you

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used to consider me to be a partner in the past, the fact that

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you impacted me before and basically worshipped me before, I

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deny all of that right now. Because under 30 mean, they have a

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severe punishment. Now, that's what shaytan is going to do. And

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he's our enemy. So if we're worried about in this world, where

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a misfortune hits us, and people are rejoicing at that, that could

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be short lived tomorrow, it could all be we'd get success again. But

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in the Hereafter, if there is misfortune, then it's misfortune.

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For a very long time, if not forever, right, depending if it's

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a believer or non believer, but at the end of the day, shaytaan will

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rejoice. So we need to turn to Allah subhanho wa Taala and change

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our ways. One is we make Toba. But the problem in our lives today is

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that many of us who are concerned about the hereafter make doba they

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do so far, they feel bad. But unfortunately, we're the most

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difficult thing for most of us is that we have certain sins, which

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are so rife in our community, that we don't even think of them as

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wrong. And you will see people who pray and do all the good things,

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who are concerned as well. But a lot of these, you can say

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ingrained, culturally acceptable, or prevalent.

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deeds and behavior is still prevalent within us. And that's

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very difficult, for example, just thinking, justifying the fact that

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you can rejoice at somebody else's calamity libre, and things of that

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nature, they're just so just so normal that people do them. So

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although on one side, we're concerned about these things, but

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until somebody doesn't highlight it a few times, for us, it's not

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going to come. I don't know if this topic is, you know, being

00:32:08 --> 00:32:11

discussed enough to be honest, this rejoicing at somebody else's

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calamity. That's why, if you do mention it enough, then there will

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be people who will slowly slowly slowly

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start leaving this attitude and start recognizing that we also

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have this problem. Because as you know, as you see, you can

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sometimes only recognize a bad habit of yours, when you're among

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people who don't have that same bad habit, because we are the

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mirror of people. And if we are among a community who does the

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same thing all the time, then we don't really see that we're doing

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anything wrong. And when you suddenly see others in that same

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situation from another community, right, and they don't do the same

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thing. Then you start realizing, hey, look, they act differently

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because they're acting different to expectation. So a lot of the

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time, it's not easy. That's the challenge. It's not easy to get

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rid of.

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Calamity, get rid of these ingrained, subtle sometimes

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generally accepted or prevalent attitudes in our community. May

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Allah subhanaw taala give us basura May Allah subhanaw taala

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give us this self introspection and understanding and then

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overall, allow us to actually relieve them, where does it

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concern inshallah they will be away and Allah subhanaw taala will

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help while he did that run and he'll hamdulillahi rabbil aalameen

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