Abdur Rahman ibn Yusuf Mangera – Treatise For The Seekers Of Guidance Part 39 Truth in a Post Truth World

Abdur Rahman ibn Yusuf Mangera
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The speakers discuss the importance of balance and truth in life, as it helps to avoid false accusations and instability in the world. They stress the need for everyone to show themselves to be true to oneself and achieve "arreacy" in achieving success. The importance of trusting others, avoiding loss and shortcoming, and fulfilling family responsibilities is also emphasized. The need for people to be aware of negative emotions and avoid double-standing is also emphasized.
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There is no path closer to getting to Allah subhanaw taala closer to

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being a believer closer to being success successful in the

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hereafter closer to being a good human being than than

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truthfulness. Now, let's look at it from another perspective. When

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you have truth, then there's a balance in the world, when there's

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truthfulness, there's a balance in the world relationships become

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stronger. I generally always tell couples, husbands and wives, that

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any of you make a mistake, just be upfront with the partner. Just be

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upfront with your spouse that I've made a mistake. Because they will

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always find out if you managed to hide it for a while with anybody,

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actually anybody close to you, whether that be your spouse,

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whether that be your family, or anybody else, if you manage to

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hide it for a long enough time. And then it's found out it's

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actually even worse, because how did you deceive us for so long?

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People take it as a major affront. Recently, I had a case like that

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where they say we lied to me for this long instead, it was

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apparently a guy was husband was having an affair and then he lied

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afterwards. So the wife is getting really really upset by the fact

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that he lied. I was trying to understand I said, Why are you

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getting so upset by that? I know it's something to be upset about.

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But you're not complaining about the affair as much as you're

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complaining about his deception afterwards. Like what else do you

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expect him to do? He's done something wrong he wants to hide

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it now nothing is justified to do that but you're getting more angry

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about the line but that's the weird thing here that's what I

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want to try to highlight here that you know people can make mistakes

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but then to lie on top of that is seen as a much bigger affront was

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really strange. I've had two cases like that recently where they're

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more upset about the you know, the follow up than they are about the

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solos like they've said, Okay, you made a mistake, but should should

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have come should have been upfront about

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millerhill Rahman Rahim Al hamdu Lillahi Rabbil Alameen wa salatu

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salam ala Sayidina Muhammad are the early he will be he albaraka

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was seldom at the Sleeman Kathira on Isla yami. Dean

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a mother in his reselecting structure the

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Imam how little or has he be? He says

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while I'm on the hula toddy

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acabo Mina civic

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wala the leader

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and Jaya who? Me mineral.

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Wala as well as the Abdullah who Mina Taqwa

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these are a few short short advices that Imam hydrothermal

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HiCP is providing each one of them is actually quite rich. And it

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needs to be pondered over and benefited from to see how we can

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relate it to our lives. Each one of these will have benefits in our

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life in sha Allah. So the first thing he says is that know that

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there is no path closer than the path of truth. No plot path closer

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to the path of truth.

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Now, this basically is a number of things. Truthfulness is an

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extremely important aspect in good humanity, good ethics being an

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insane camel. Because everything is related to the truth. We are

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here because of the true one which is ALLAH SubhanA wa Tala al helg.

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Dara, Allah,

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He created us, he this he had the truth come to us. The Prophet

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sallallahu alayhi wa sallam is the truth and nothing but the truth.

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He gave us his words, which is the Quran have to mean that's the

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clear truth as well. Thereafter our life is supposed to be full of

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truth. Truth is what helps to keep a balance in this world. When you

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have untruth, there's an imbalance that gets created. For example,

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there are a number of establishments in the world today,

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number of institutions, which have now lost their reputation lost any

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kind of reliance upon them or trust or whatever, for example, a

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political system, because we're living in a really weird time

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where it's almost accepted to have some untruths, and it's tolerated.

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And people get away with so much on untruth, just because you can

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be a bit more savvy about it. You can be a bit more clever and

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intelligent and slay about it. So we live in a really, really

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strange situation. So many things we read about.

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It's almost like the news media, in its various different forms,

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most of them, the relationship we have with them is that it's almost

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like people think is necessary to read them. But at the same time,

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the people who are reading them who think it's necessary to read

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them know that not everything in there is the truth. If it's not

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completely inaccurate

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Read, then there's definitely a spin. And if there's no spin, then

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there's selective reporting, where you ignore certain aspects based

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on the narrative, and the policy and the outlook of the particular

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news organization. But yet, we still take news from them, we

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still read it, for whatever reason, what a life we're living,

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what a time we're living in, that if something is not true,

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something is not always true and is open to doubt, reporting about

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certain countries or reporting about certain organizations and

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certain people or certain religions, we've seen over and

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over again,

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not even mistakes, not even blunders just complete

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misreporting. And yet we still have to read them. We still have

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to go to such outlets, this is probably no single outlet that's

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100% Among the me among the mainstream.

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So we're living in very, very strange times of the year, he says

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that there is no path closer to getting to Allah subhanaw taala

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closer

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to being a believer, closer to being success, successful in the

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Hereafter, closer to being a good human being than than

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truthfulness. Now, let's look at it from another perspective, when

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you have truth than there's a balance in the world, when there's

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truthfulness, there's a balance in the world relationships become

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stronger. I generally always tell couples, husbands and wives, that

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any of you make a mistake, just be upfront with the partner. Just be

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upfront with your spouse that I've made a mistake. Because they will

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always find out.

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And if you managed to hide it for a while with anybody, actually

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anybody close to you, whether that be your spouse, whether that be

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your family, or anybody else, if you managed to hide it for a long

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enough time. And then it's found out it's actually even worse.

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Because how did you deceive us for so long, people take it as a major

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affront.

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Recently, I had a case like that, where they say they lied to me for

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this long I said,

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it was apparently a guy was a husband was having an affair, and

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then he lied afterwards. So the wife is getting really, really

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upset by the fact that he lied. Like why I was trying to

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understand I said, Why are you getting so upset by that? I know

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it's something to be upset about. But you're not complaining about

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the affair as much as you're complaining about his deception

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afterwards. Like, what else do you expect him to do? He's done

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something wrong, he wants to hide it. Now, nothing is justified to

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do that. But you're getting more angry about the line. But that's

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the weird thing here. That's what I want to try to highlight here.

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That, you know, people can make mistakes. But then to lie on top

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of that is seen as a much bigger affront was really strange. I've

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had two cases like that recently, where they're more upset about

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the, you know, the follow up than they are about the solos, like

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they've said, Okay, you made a mistake, but should should have

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come should have been upfront about it. Now with Allah, You

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can't lie anyway. You know, there is no lying with Allah subhanaw

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taala, he knows there's no way to lie. But yes, people like some

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kind of system, some kind of transparency and clarity, even if

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people make a mistake, and people are willing to forgive that. But

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when you lie on top of that, that's seen as a greater problem,

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that's seen as a much bigger problem, because that creates

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instability in the world. And when you have instability in the world,

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you can't live a * of a harmonious, predictable,

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consistent life.

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It's really troubling, because you're doubting all the time. Can

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you see how bad lying is, is a doubt all the time.

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There's a doubt all the time one person was telling me, they are

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part of the him and his group of people, they are part of inherited

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businesses, or ongoing family business in another country. So

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their parents have started businesses or grandparents or

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whoever it was, and they are now in the business. And in that

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particular country, there's a lot of what they call the

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I forget what it's called them.

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In order to avoid import tariffs, import taxes, and so on, they

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under invoice. So they show less on the invoice and they find other

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means to pay and so on, just so that they don't have to pay so

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much tax. He's telling me that I want to avoid it. But I can't

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because it's my father's business. And he won't, you know, because

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they won't be as valuable. And

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so I was just wondering, you know, I just I was just curious. Why,

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you know, because he was very, very very

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aggrieved about it.

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So he said, what happens is that I've noticed that because it

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happens in there, it kind of then follows up on too many other

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things.

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You because that becomes a kind of a mindset. You start doing that in

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other things as well. It becomes easier to do because once you've

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broken a taboo, it becomes easier to do it and other things.

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So cheating with benefits, welfare

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and so on, then it becomes easier to do that elsewhere.

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It's very difficult to be like very selective. Now I can't lie

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here, but I'm okay to lie here. Some people do actually, they just

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think it's okay to lie in this case, but not in this case. So he

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said, it just carries over to many other things. And I don't want to

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do that because it upsets the whole balance of your life, toward

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balance of your function, the whole balance of you as a human

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being when you want to be a straight human being, with no

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doubts in your life

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with no inconsistencies as clear as possible.

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So there is that and the benefit of truthfulness is directly

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related to spirituality. Absolutely, and directory

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spirituality. Because if a person can be

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untruthful in other things, then why you can't really be untruthful

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with Allah, but they will do they'll be so deceived that it

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actually try to be untruthful with Allah subhanaw taala.

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So really strange conundrum even though the belief tells us that

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you can't be in truth with Allah because he knows everything.

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Yeah, and the more math is so do you knows everything acquirable in

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a common Hublin worried Acaba, Raman Hubble worried, but it just

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becomes chronic, it becomes a chronic problem.

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Now what's really interesting is if you remember that the soul of

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lectures

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it shows that when you start ascending the McCombs ascending

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the makan of

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the various Maxim's of spirituality, the highest one, the

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highest one, which is just below that of prophecy.

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prophethood can only be gained through Allah subhanaw taala and

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that's ended anyway. So is no more members in the Prophet McCollum

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anyway, meaning the station of prophethood. The one below that,

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that humans can reach that everybody else can reach aside

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from prophets, is the MACOM of Siddiqui year

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of absolute veracity, being the absolute champions of truth

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that can only be reached, that is called MACOM of Sidiki. Like it's

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a MACOM, of being truthful, like there is no that its name is that

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those people who have shown absolute truthfulness and

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sincerity to Allah because when a person is very, very truthful,

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they become sincere.

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That's what a class is excellence is absolute veracity with Allah

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subhanaw taala.

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So that's how a person becomes truthful with Allah subhanaw

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taala. And that's how they can ascend that. And what's

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interesting, the Anima says that that MACOM that specific

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designation, there's no end to that. You can keep ascending in

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the It's an endless ascent into that MACOM of CDT so you don't

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reach there and you're all the same, then there's people at

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different levels within that, but it's tough, and it's quite, quite

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an intense MACOM to reach anyway, because you have to show yourself

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to be absolutely truthful, as Allah says in the Quran about the

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Sahaba and others I mean, human cover Ananda who I mean who may

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interview or not but diluted de la

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so that is why I'm an unloved and the hula tariqa acquirable Muna

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sick, there is no path closer and more facilitated except by civic

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and truthfulness. Then he says

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wala Delila.

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Angelholm ina level,

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there is no delille there is no sign, there is no evidence.

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More

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providing of success than knowledge.

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More success providing gives you success if you want success is

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knowledge. And that's in a worldly sense. That's in a spiritual

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sense. That's in a Imani sense, the more you know, today

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Subhanallah we believe in Allah. As we talked about last week, we

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lost in the last session we actually believe in Allah and if

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you're a believer, you believe in Allah. But I think there's a

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massive unawareness of Allah subhanaw taala of who He really

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is. We know what we must believe hopefully we know that much to be

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qualified as believers but

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in order to love him, you need knowledge of Him because you can't

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love somebody unless you know their characteristics. The way to

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love something through there, why do you love something is because

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of their characteristic you like a characteristic of this? And Allah

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has all the beautiful characteristics but Allah Hill

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Asmaa Hill HERSA,

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Warilla Hill, methadone Erda.

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So if you don't know it, you don't you can't love something you don't

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know that the more you know, and they have characteristics and you

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can't even help but love them. And that's the beauty of this. So it's

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the names of Allah subhanaw taala that will really, really help. So

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knowledge there is no way

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have success except through knowledge. You become more aware

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of anything and you become more skilled at it, you become better

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at it.

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You become less prone to be deceived regarding it shaitan

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can't deceive us if you have a knowledge of Allah subhanaw taala

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shaitan can't deceive us in sha Allah, if we have knowledge of the

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deen, at least we'll know that we're doing wrong. It's worse to

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do something wrong and not knowing you're doing wrong or is it worse

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to not do something wrong? And you know, you're wrong. What is worse?

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I don't know. It depends. If you know you're doing wrong, at least

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you have a possibility of making Toba and repentance because you

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have a guilty feeling. But if you don't know that you're doing

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wrong, and you actually think you're doing right. And it's

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misconceived misconstrued because shaytaan creates a deception. And

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that's even worse. Well as the above Amina taco.

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There's there's no provision provision that is more effective

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than taco effect, what is effective provision mean? I think

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effective provision just means the most suitable provision that you

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can have that helps you get to your destination. So for every,

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you can say that for every active sport, there are provisions that

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they provide for that, you get into biking, you have these

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various different

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replacement, minerals, and so on that you're supposed to take on

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your way so that you can have enough energy. They provide you

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different packets that you know, you can purchase at different

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levels. For each thing, there's something different for runners,

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there's something for bikers, there's something for hedge,

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there's provisions, you take on the way for a journey, you take

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provisions. And the idea of provision is the most appropriate

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provision is that which helps you reach your,

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your destination. So the provision of this world is taqwa.

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God fearing us, it helps in many, many different aspects. So in the

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world, as we're going through this world, we have to deal with

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some major issues. The biggest factors that confront us the

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biggest challenges that confront us is what one is how do we make

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ourselves truthful to Allah subhanaw taala and fulfill his

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obligations? And number two, how do we deal with people?

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How do we deal with Allah subhanho wa taala? Number one, fulfill the

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obligation stay away from the prohibitions? That's two things.

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But there's other levels that we which we deal with Allah subhanaw

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taala, which is, how do we thank him for anything good that he

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provides us? And how do we deal with any loss and shortcoming?

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Because those two are important? They all come from Allah subhanaw

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taala. Right. So there's no way to escape that either. So to worship,

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to avoid to show your devotion to avoid

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prohibitions, and then to deal with the calamities or successes,

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adversities, prosperity, good and bad, that happens to us. How do we

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deal with that. And for that Taqwa is the best that God fearing this

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because that is what tempers it, along with knowledge, and so on.

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Then the second thing that we deal with is others. And sometimes the

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most aggravating factors could come from your closest ones,

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because you deal with them on a more frequent basis. The closest

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ones, whether that be physically close, or close through kinship,

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so that means you're dealing with your father,

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you're dealing with your brother, you're dealing with children,

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you're dealing with your spouse, And subhanAllah while you could

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change a spouse, but how would you change a father? How do you change

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a mother? The stories that come up, mother's father's being

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unfair, being oppressive, unreasonable,

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too demanding?

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And so on and so forth? Extremely crazy stories. What do you do?

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Recently, I've had two or three stories like that. My advice is,

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especially with your close ones, who you can avoid, in the sense

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that they are yours Allah has given them to you so firstly,

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understand that that father of yours or Mother of yours, is who

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God gave you.

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Is no changing that you can change your spouse. Right, you can change

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a lot of other things, but you cannot change your parents or your

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brothers and sisters, for that matter. So number one, you're

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stuck with that. Okay. Now what people, a lot of people

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what a lot of people the conundrum a lot of people go through here is

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that especially if they're religious, and especially if they

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want, everyone wants to be with their family.

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Everybody wants a stable stability.

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In the family, that's a nice thing to have. They are closest ones.

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That's where you would like your stability. If you have stability

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everywhere else at work, and so on when you go back home, interacted

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family and you have trouble.

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That's a bit troublesome. You know, you can change your group of

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friends, you can change a company, you can change a lot of other

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things. But you have trouble with your friends, is it with your

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family is very, very difficult. So

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there's this inherent desire to have stability with your family,

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to be on good terms. But what do you do? So I'm being asked the

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question by the son or daughter,

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I'm not speaking to the parents. So I can't say your parents are

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bad. And they must do this, because they're not going to do

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that. They're not even listening to me, I'm speaking to the child.

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So my advice to anybody who's in that situation is

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the same advice that the Prophet sallallahu Sallam has given for

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the end of times. Right? And what is that the time will come when

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there's going to be a thaw, there's going to be preferences

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given to unsuitable people, over the suitable people. We already

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see parts of that happening in different intensities around the

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world. All right, but it's just gonna get worse apparently. So if

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that's the case, in your family, as well.

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Sometimes there's a favorite in the family.

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And that favorite then abuses their position, I can throw in

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terms of demanding inheritance or other favoritism or whatever the

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case is. said look, your responsibility is that you fulfill

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your rights towards your family, to your towards your parents,

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which means you are there when they need you. You call them up

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once in a while you may visit them or whatever the case is, don't

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expect anything in return.

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Just don't expect anything in return. In fact, expect that

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there's going to be a problem. And then you'll be fine. Because when

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you know and expect that there could be some potential

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aggravation or harm coming from a place you're prepared for it, you

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don't like it, obviously, it's not nice to have that. But rather than

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be sudden, or rather than, you know, when you know it's going to

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come, then you can just deal with it. Now, obviously, with anybody

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else, you can ignore them. But your parents you cannot ignore,

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you have a responsibility. So you fulfill your responsibility. And

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if they don't give you anything, nope, or if they give you thank

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Allah don't even think anybody just think Allah.

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I know it's not ideal. But there's no magic to change it in any other

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way. This is the reality, and this is the best way to deal with it.

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If I was speaking to your parents, I tell them something else. But

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I'm not speaking to your parents, I'm speaking to you. And then you

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will tell me that no, my parents won't listen to anybody this how

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they've been for the last 50 years or 60 years. So would you expect

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to change, if maybe a miracle, you can only ask Allah, that don't

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expect anything.

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That makes it easy when you don't expect anything but from Allah

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subhanaw taala. But you are fulfilling your responsibility to

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everybody else, that you will be rewarded by Allah for fulfilling

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our responsibilities to others, and will be rewarded. And Allah

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will provide us a replacement for what we're not getting from our

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loved ones that we should have received in an ideal situation.

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And the third thing is don't perpetrate the same thing when

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you're in that position.

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What's happening in a lot of these cases, is that things have been

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happening for generations, between mother in law's and daughter in

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law, for example.

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And literally you you will hear that the mother in law has now

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given him a saying, This is how we were treated by our mother in law,

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so you must do the same thing.

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It has to stop somewhere.

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It has to stop somewhere you do something different and start a

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new trend and better trend. So that's where it is just don't ask

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for anything from somebody else. And if they do give it to you if

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you do get it hamdulillah hamdulillah but otherwise, don't

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expect it and you will be much better off when you do it for

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yourself. So well as the unblock minute Taqwa there is no provision

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that is more effective in allowing you to reach your destination than

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Taqwa.

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And maybe that is the reason why the Sunnah hotbar, recited before

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Nica before two couples come together. Right is the three

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verses include this includes the three verses of Taqwa from the

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Quran, because if each of the spouses is trying to uphold God

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fearing nurses trying to uphold the laws of Allah what they want,

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it just makes it easy because it provides invoking a an authority

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above ourselves says

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is not me, it's not you. It's Allah that I'm doing something

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for. May Allah make that useful. And then one hour a day to earn a

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little worse worse see him in Turkey for Dooley. I've not seen

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anything that is more removing

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and a greater defense from whisperings

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OCD, I guess,

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whisperings, uncertainties and doubts, than just abandoning

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what's unnecessary, abandoning anything in excess, abandoning

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anything, which is not needed.

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That's what he's saying. So he's from the way he's saying it, he's

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saying that look, people can be can fall prey to what's worse,

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right.

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But if you want to avoid it, I've not seen anything better in

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defense and to negate it,

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than just to abandon anything in excess.

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Because there's less things to bother about, you've just got a

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few things to bother about. So that should be beneficial. Well,

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because while Anwar al Calbee, means Salah mat is suddenly

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not seeing anything more illuminating of the heart, than a

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sound, chest.

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Meaning don't fill the chest area, internally, with different

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thoughts, keep it safe sound, don't have negative thoughts, try

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to be positive all the time.

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Try not to be negative, try not to think bad of people. Try not to

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interpret situations that you see in the most negative way possible.

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There's always various ways of interpreting something, and you

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will see different people, many people are moderate in the way

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they, you know, they quite

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adept understanding when genuinely there is something negative and

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positive. But they generally keep it positive. There's others who

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are overly positive, right, there's nothing ever negative,

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then they get caught up sometimes, right? But their positivity just

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goes through the roof. Sometimes it's a bit over the top, but I

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don't know Hamdulillah, then there's others who are just mostly

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negative, they just look at everything to critically.

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You have to be aware, can't be silly and naive. But you have to

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give the best interpretation that's possible. And in many

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affairs of the world is various different narratives that you can

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follow.

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Islam, Muslims have split because of negative narrative narratives

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are one of our biggest splits between the sheer you know the

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sheer who split is because of negative narratives towards

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probably the more than half majority of the sahaba.

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So some of the closest to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa

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sallam,

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a worker or Omar Earthman or the Allahu Anhu.

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He shouted the Allahu Anhu have started the Allah Juana. The most,

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some of in fact, the most closest to the prophets, Allah lowson.

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They've got a negative narrative about it.

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It's caused the high cause the Muslim ummah to split.

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And a number of other things happens on a normal basis, the way

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we interpret events.

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Somebody didn't call you for, for two weeks, generally speak to you,

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you know, they see you once in a while they speak to you once every

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now and two weeks. But rather than think, though, they may have just

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become occupied with some kind of really engaging issue. Right, they

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may have been going through some trouble or whatever you something,

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you know, they don't like me anymore, it's because of this or

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it's because of that. It's just some simple examples for that. So

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try not to do that. So these were just three advices. I think that's

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enough for that's enough for us to

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make good with insha Allah if Allah can help us with that. So

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the three things you mentioned are the four things or other is that

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there is no path that is going to be more effective in getting you

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closer to Allah subhanho wa Taala closer to being human being in

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this in many ways, and truthfulness, and there is no

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sign. There is no path Blaser there is nothing to illuminate the

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path for you that is more successful in doing so the

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knowledge and there is no provision that is more effective

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in getting you to this destination than Taqwa. And I've seen the most

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effective removal of doubts from people's hearts is when they is to

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for them to abandon excessive things or superfluous things or

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things that are beyond their need. And I've not seen anything more

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illuminating of the heart than just having

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a safe sound and a good thinking

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heart essentially, to the best of their ability. You

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Allah subhanaw taala give us the feet and enablement to become good

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human beings and to benefit ourselves and then benefit others

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we're here to Darwin and Al Hamdulillah

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Allah Herman this morning because they haven't already Quran Allah

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Mia how you out but your own particular study a lot of Atlanta

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Allah filled an hour half an hour if you know you know I was talking

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to Allah homophily ematic so you didn't know him live in Salah la

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vida he was loving the feeling Muslim you know and mostly

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marathon what meaning you know, and let me know that you're here

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even human Ahmad

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Allahumma. Karim, Allah.

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Out the unfortunate taqwa and the hero Monza

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Allahumma al him knirsch Then our our even I mean surely unforeseen.

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Allahu La fere

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Nemo Tournon Muslimeen are Lavina shahidul Anika will build attorney

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Omar to earn a dyadic Aloha madacorp Amina Allah accept from

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us. Yeah Allah protect us.

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Grant Sophie can enablement

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to do that which is best for you to fulfill our obligations to you.

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For Allah gave us the strength to deal with whatever you grant us

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You have granted us more than so many others in this world. Allow

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us to thank you. For Allah allow us to have sugar for you. Allow us

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to be connected for you or Allah grant us your love of Allah grant

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us your mercy of Allah grant us your forgiveness of Allah free us.

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From all the shackles we have placed ourselves into. How Allah

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free ourselves from all of our obsessions, all of our

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distractions, all of our Oh ALLAH removed from us our negligence is

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of Allah allow us to be adherent to you allow us to love you allow

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us to do things out of your love. Grant us the sweetness of faith of

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Allah grant us the sweetness of faith.

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Yeah Allah assist us in our homes in our families of Allah in this

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world. We will all die soon. Yeah Allah we will all die soon allow

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us to prepare. Allah allow us to send sufficient provisions for the

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next journey. This world is a plantation for the hereafter. Yeah

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Allah allow us to sow and to

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to put enough seeds in to benefit us in this next world. Oh Allah

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allow us to make the right kind of investments are Allah blesses in

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all that you have given us, make it a source of RFP and sukoon for

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us make it a source of blessing for us make it a source of

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contentment for us make it a source, whatever you have given us

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make it a source of being closer to you to assist others to help

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those of Allah accept us for the service of your deen of Allah this

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Sunday as we sit here, our Allah bless all of us, bless the weeks

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ahead the months ahead, until we pass away, bless our life and make

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the remainder remaining part of our life better than the past part

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of our life particulars from the various calamities that are out

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there and the sicknesses that

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people that people

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falling into right now who Allah especially grant us Alfia and

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grant a Shiva and grant us therapy. Yeah Shafee grant a shift

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from all evil diseases, and especially spiritual ailments of

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the heart, allow us to reach the hereafter in a pristine position

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of Allah stand before you on the Day of Judgment. You want to meet

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us and we want to meet you. Make that the best moment of our life

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protect us from the punishments of the grave the punishments of the

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Hereafter punishment of the hellfire and from the eternal doom

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that awaits people there. Oh Allah safeguard us from that you have

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granted us Iman yeah Allah we ask you for good deeds of Allah, you

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allow us to sit today in the masjid and to raise hands to you

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and no one else. Oh Allah we see this as

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a trophy kind of good sign from you that you want to give us so

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yeah, Allah give us there is nobody else that can give us so

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Allah grabbed us by the four locks and interest into genital feed

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those improve our relationships with the close, especially with

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our close friends. And oh Allah allow us to have enough wisdom to

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understand how to go through this world in a way that is safe and

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beneficial for us. And Allah make a slur for our relationships so

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Allah bless all of those who are in trouble the various different

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types of types of trouble they are in. Oh Allah protect us, our

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children. Our project is until the day of judgment of Allah assist us

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and help us from all forms of calamities that could come upon us

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that would be debilitating. Allow us to fulfill repay our debts and

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our Allah protect us from being overwhelmed by these things in

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this world. Oh Allah, Oh Allah except from Subhan Allah because

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Allah is sitting is a foreigner salaam anonymous on Belinda Hill.

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In Ireland golf metaphor to mean, the point of a lecture is to

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encourage people to act to get further an inspiration and

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encouragement, persuasion. The next step is to actually start

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learning seriously, to read books to take on a subject of Islam and

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to understand all the subjects of Islam at least at the basic level,

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so that we can become more aware of what our deen wants from us.

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And that's why we started Rayyan courses so that you can actually

00:35:29 --> 00:35:34

take organize lectures on demand whenever you have free time,

00:35:34 --> 00:35:38

especially for example, the Islamic essentials course that we

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have on there, the Islamic essentials certificate which you

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take 20 Short modules and at the end of that inshallah you will

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have gotten the basics of most of the most important topics in Islam

00:35:51 --> 00:35:53

and you'll feel a lot more confident. You don't have to leave

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lectures behind you can continue to live, you know, to listen to

00:35:56 --> 00:35:59

lectures, but you need to have this more sustained study as well.

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JazakAllah Heron salaam aleikum wa rahmatullah wa barakato.

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