Abdur Rahman ibn Yusuf Mangera – Treatise For The Seekers Of Guidance Part 27 How Satisfied Can You be in this World

Abdur Rahman ibn Yusuf Mangera
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The speakers discuss the importance of comfort and perspective in life, highlighting the development of the brain and the need for mentorship and advice for growth. They stress the importance of finding a wholesome lifestyle and avoiding certain activities to build stronger relationships and communities. The speakers also emphasize the need to overcome addiction and find a way to achieve success, while also encouraging people to give their hearts to Jesus and turn them into blessings and light for the future.
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Bismillah R Rahman r Rahim Al hamdu Lillahi wa Salatu was Salam

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ala so you did mousseline while early he was happy or Baraka was

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seldom at the Sleeman curfew on Isla Yomi Deen unburied. Namaha CV

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he says what God has an order the Allah one. This is Al Hassan Al

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bacillary by the hola Juan de great W E

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and he is considered to be the CEO of Zoho they will Erbert. In his

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time, one of the leaders of the ascetics, the worshipers, the

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devotees in his time, in Allah Darla la mujer and little mini

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Rohit and Donal Jana.

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Indeed, Allah subhanho wa Taala has not placed for a believer

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any form of rest or comfort before Jana.

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So any kind of true comfort will never come about where you have

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absolute comfort, except when you get to Jannah. And anybody who

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understands that it makes everything in this dunya easier.

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The reason is that, when you think when anybody thinks that this is

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my objective, this is the everything of my life. This is the

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entire ambition. This is all I do, this is all I'm going to do.

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There's no life beyond this world, then you will want to make this

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life as best as possible. Because why would you want to spoil that

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one chance that you have to enjoy yourself. This is just

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psychological humans are in terms of human action in terms of how

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humans behave in terms of how humans respond, in terms of how

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humans tolerate in terms of how humans see other things. More than

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half of it is based on perspective.

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More than half of it is based on perspective. And the reason is

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that there will be different things that will come as maybe

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physical obstacles, circumstantial obstacles in front of us, a

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circumstance would demand something, various different

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people will relate to it in different ways react to it in

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different ways, those who have a lot of humor. So we can take this

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on those who are very sensitive. They'll say, oh, no, I can't do

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this anymore. Same thing, but you will have experienced this

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yourself. Maybe you have less him or maybe you have a lot of him and

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somebody you're dealing with had it the other way around. And you'd

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be able to see this, oh, no, let's do it. Some people would think

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it's taking a risk. Others say that's not taking a risk, I can

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deal with this. I've done it before. So these are just levels

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of perspective of the psychology and this is, once a person has

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understood this, it really makes life very easy. Because then when

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you know that psychology is can change when you can abstract it to

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that level that psychologists can change. It's not about that thing.

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It's also about how I look at it, then we're able to then the next

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step then is to just solidify oneself to be less sensitive to be

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more daring, obviously, within reason. And humans as they grow

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up, they

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they become more moderate, in the sense that they eventually figure

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it out. The human brain, the youth brain, the it's the brain studies

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show something very interesting that you know, when you become a

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teenager, some aspects of the brains are developing, while other

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parts are not yet developed. So while the risk taking aspect in

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during the youth develops, but in terms of the danger, and so on and

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that aspect, a person is still childish in another aspect. That's

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why teenagers take a few more risks than others, even though

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later they realize that it was completely wrong reason is that

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the brain hasn't caught up in in terms of the development of it.

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And that this is this is known. And I think that's what the

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professor Lawson must have said that the Shabaab is a is that

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stage of Junoon in your life, where one has to be very careful,

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Junoon insanity. And thus, a person does do a few insane things

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that they themselves will consider. Why do they do those

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things. That's why during the time of youthfulness, during the time

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of youth, it's good to have mentors that can guide people like

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this that can that can mentor them in terms of their risk taking in

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terms of their ambitions and goals, set them on the right path.

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So that's how humans are. And generally when a person becomes

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around the age of 40, we now turns around the age of 3839. Because

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Islamically 40 is earlier than in the Gregorian sense. We consider

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ourselves to be 4041 in the Gregorian since generally because

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that's what we relate to more. But it actually happens before that.

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And anybody who's reached that age would have probably had this

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experience that they just see things in a better light now they

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just can figure things out. They seem to be more wise, they know

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themselves that they're a bit more wise than they were 10 years ago.

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So we're still developing even to the age of 40 we develop in fact

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we will develop will develop forever. So it's just about

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saying, Look, my final abode is Jana, that's where I really want

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to go. And I want the happiness of Allah Subhan

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Know what Allah that doesn't mean I don't enjoy this world that

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doesn't mean I don't do the right things in this world that doesn't

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mean I don't try in this world Jana

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relates in fact it depends on on this world for us. So if this

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world is the be all and end all of our entire life then it's a

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miserable world to be in to be honest because there's all success

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in this world that you can feel forever

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that's why there's the word false. There is the word ninja. And there

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is the word for law. And a very different Fosun Naja has to do

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with this world when you when something falls Do you know Bureau

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Bill cabas the sahabi said or the Allah one. Foes just means to win

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something to become a champion. Naja means again to to succeed.

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The job means to succeed Now Jack to fill empty hand I succeeded in

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the hand, right? So foes has more of a winning Naja has more of

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passing an exam or succeeding a fella has different philosophies

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explained is Corbin, laser Berry, the Hubbard?

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Right.

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It's a closest after which there is no, there is no distance. It's

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a achievement, after which there's no failure. It's a strength after

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which there is no weakness.

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Because that is the enduring aspects of the hereafter. In this

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world, when you have a success, whether you just got married to

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the person you wanted to get married to, and you feel that's a

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success, that's gonna get older. You can't keep reveling in that

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success for the rest of your life.

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If you can do Hamdulillah, but you know what I mean? If you get a new

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car and you really enjoy it, you're smelling the leather,

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you're smelling you know, you're driving it and everything. It

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feels very nice for a while. A new phone feels very nice for a while.

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But then after that, that gets old. So each success even if you

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win an award, an honor, whatever, it gets old, because the nature of

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the world is to get old, we get old, the awards we get become old,

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everything becomes old. So that's why Paradise has to be the place

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there's there's just no other way about it.

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That's why

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look at the perspective of some of our some of our predecessors, in

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their perspective of the Hereafter says

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for the hello to a dunya assassin bossy Rahmatullah they, he says,

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For the hello to dunya

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death, embarrassed his life and death embarrassed is the dunya

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you're enjoying the dunya think of it you enjoy engineer, suddenly

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death comes upon you, that's an embarrassment. You weren't able to

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enjoy it.

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And that's why even artha Allah mentions that Allah subhanho wa

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Taala knew this world to be too limited. For him to give

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the quality of reword he wanted to give this world is too limited to

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be able to handle that quality. And also the quantity terms of how

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long he wants to give you something this world is too

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limited for that because death will eventually take over. So

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that's why He created us totally separate about made up of totally

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a different material and perspective. And there

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quantitatively qualitatively, it will be what he wants to give us.

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That will be according to the chagrin of Allah subhanho wa

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taala, according to the level that he wants to give us. So has the

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loss. He says for the Hello moto dunya from your trophy. Lately,

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the Lubin Farahan it doesn't leave in it. For anybody with intellect

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anybody with insights? Anybody with the right perspective,

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anybody with prudence of thinking about the hereafter, it doesn't

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leave any source of happiness. When you say happiness, you could

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get happy. Don't think that people with intellect don't get happy in

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the world, they do get happy. These are things that you go over.

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You know, these are things that you experience. But it just means

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that you know that this is not something I need to be trying to

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get my perpetual happiness from.

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is no way it's about paradise. It makes it so much easier than not

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to be greedy.

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You know, when you've tried your best at something, and you've got

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a job or you've attained something, maybe a house or

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whatever it is, and you see other friends, other people in your

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area, other people in the masjid other people in the community and

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they have more, this one is going to be somebody who has more,

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right? There's always going to be somebody who has more weather a

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nicer car, nice house, nicer clothing, nicer, whatever, right?

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Their children may go to a nicer school, a private school that he

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can pay, right, a nicer mother's or whatever it is. The end of the

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day when you look at all of that. It shouldn't affect you. If you

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have enough the initial effect you if it's still affecting you then

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it's a problem.

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If you can't walk by those cars that you

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See that a better than your car and not feel bad about what you

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have? Right?

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Then you're not, we're not there yet. We need more work if you pass

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by and see houses like well think I've got my house and hamdulillah

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Allah has given now of course, if you don't have something you can

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ask for more if you need, there's a need. But when you have enough,

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unfortunately, that's a very subjective thing. When do you

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think you have enough? When do you think you have enough? Again,

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that's another level that you have to think or you see how

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complicated this is?

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You once you think I'm saying you once you think you have enough,

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then you should never worry about what ever else anybody has beyond

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you. The problem comes is that we never think we have enough. But

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that's what we need to that's to develop the corner and the

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contentment that is to develop the tower Coolen reliance on Allah.

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That is to think about Hadith which I quote often that the

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Prophet sallallahu sallam said that whoever finds himself safe in

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the morning,

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with his safe in the morning, with enough health and safety, safety,

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health, and enough provisions for his day to pass his day in a food,

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then he should think that the whole world has been brought to

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his feet. If you think about it that way, it makes life so much

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easier because the benchmark comes down.

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Then taxi drivers, for example, taxi driving is such a job like

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not every job that you do allows you over time and to obsess with

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your work. And if you have to work eight hours, the that's all they

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want you to work, the factory closes the business closes the

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office close. Some people will give you overtime. Right. But in

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taxis, it's such a job that the more you work, the more you make,

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the longer you're on the road. And a lot of taxi drivers have this

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they work 15 hours a day. They have families, they have 14 hours

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a day, 15 hours a day. I remember once in the madrasa there was a

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student who was having trouble, we'd call his father and

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and while his father had the concern, he was a religious man,

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he had the concern, he was a taxi driver.

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And he hardly saw his children.

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He hardly saw his children, because probably in the morning,

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he is asleep when they wake up to go to school. And in the evening

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until they go to sleep. He's out in the road, because that's when

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you make a lot of money in the evening is the time for taxi

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drivers. So they are what are you? You know, what are you doing? Now

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I know that some people have to do this because their expenses, but

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then it's a wholesome approach. And it's a wholesome approach, cut

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down your expenses, try to suffice with less. I mean, if you are

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genuinely struggling, then May Allah make it easy for you. But if

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it's not a genuine struggle for your basics, it's actually just to

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get a a copycat lifestyle of somebody else. You've fallen prey

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to all of the advertisements and

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all the consumption or the capitalism, then it's just really

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sad, isn't it, there's no end to that. There's just no end to that

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hamdulillah if you can walk by nice cars, nice suits, nice this

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nice that and thing hamdulillah I've got mine, I'm happy with

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mine, then you become liberated, you are not a slave of these

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things anymore. They won't occupy your time, they won't occupy your

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mind. You don't have to do window shopping anymore. You don't have

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to keep browsing on your phone on themselves. And it's just it's

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just hamdulillah when you need something go and get it

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hamdulillah and you see Allah give you more Baraka. So that's what

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he's saying that the Dunya doesn't really leave this thing of gaining

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great satisfaction with the dunya for the people who have intellect

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because they know the ultimate * satisfaction is there but that

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doesn't mean that they must be satisfied with this dunya either.

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They shouldn't be boring people.

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Maracaibo dinar Marikina dinar was a student of Hassan Basilea from

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the library.

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He's well known for this because he always took it from his

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teacher. Mitochondrial DNA is very famous for him Oh Allah, is also

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Latina yarmulke Yama.

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The the marriage of the righteous ones is on the Day of Judgment.

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What about their marriage of this world? Anybody who looks at this?

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Anybody who reads this from the perspective of

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criticism, they're gonna say, Man, these guys are crazy. What about

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their

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spouses in this world? What's that marriage all about? That's a

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marriage, you'll be with the same person in the hereafter. So

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there's no, we're not talking about anybody else. The whole of

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men are there but your wife will be with you in general anyway. And

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she will be the main person for you. So we're not excluding

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anything here. It's just that that is when you you know, when you get

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married, it's a day of probably one of the greatest sources of

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Happiness is when a person gets married, hopefully. Right? When a

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person gets married, it's probably one of the greatest sources of

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happiness. The only person it's

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Not for those people who've been added for so many years already,

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over so many months. In fact, for them, it becomes sometimes a

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problem in a way. Because until now, the whole reason why they

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were excited about their relationship is because of the

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risk associated with it. The risk associated with it, the

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flirtation, also the idea, or the belief that you can walk away

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anytime I don't have a commitment, when you make a commitment through

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marriage, after that, for a lot of people, it actually gets worse

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doesn't have to, but for a number of people who've shared the

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experiences actually gets worse, because now they feel bounds, they

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feel obligated, they feel that they must play a certain role now

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before they were both semi independent, but still having

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certain benefits. And that's why the broker just is not there in

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that the broker is not there at all. But regardless, just in

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general, when a person gets married, that's a day of

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excitement. Everybody. I mean, people go overboard in the

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excitement in terms of expression of the excitement. So can you

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imagine then, on the Day of Judgment, if he's saying that

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that's when your true marriage will take place? He's saying

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that's when you truly get excited. So it's more of a metaphor, as

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opposed to you will get married on the Day of Judgment. You're not

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going to get married on Day of Judgment is just going to about

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survive. They're trying to get into gender.

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The whole point there is I want to get into Jana, I have hamdulillah

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if we're going to be VIPs they're under the shade in the lounge

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under the Throne of Allah subhanho wa Taala May Allah make us of

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those, then hamdulillah but that's what the idea is that that's your

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entry into a new life. As a new entry in this world to a new life

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with a new spouse, it's going to be in the hereafter. So Allah

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subhanho wa Taala has not placed for the believer. Any rest,

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comfort, full rest and comfort in the before paradise. That's what

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hasn't been seen. The lady says, Well, what the Martina Lafleur

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whatever Martina Lafleur which means avoid, avoid

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venues of heedlessness. Avoid venues of heedlessness. Now tell

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me can we avoid places of heedlessness that make you

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negligent of Allah? How much more difficult has it become before you

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could probably do that just didn't have to go out of your house. If

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you're in your house, the Hadith said while Yasaka Bay took your

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house should be big enough for you.

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Yes, sack, your house should be expensive enough for you. Whatever

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you need, you should be able to do in your house shouldn't have to go

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outside and thus have to deal with others and maybe fall into some

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kind of problem or argument or dispute or jealousy or

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competitiveness or whatever the case is, should be fine in your

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house worship Allah subhanho, wa Taala and so on. Now that's become

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very difficult.

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You can't even do in your house anymore. You can communicate with

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the whole world from your house, from your room, from your bed. You

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just need to have your phone in your hand. It's become very

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difficult is saying avoid places. This has to be changed to say

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avoid times. circumstances. Avoid the phone like the plague use it

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but avoid it. That's that's the difficulty here because it's a

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huge source of heedlessness isn't it a huge source of heedlessness

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massive source of heedlessness, you can entertain yourself to

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death on your phone.

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Everything's available. So these are the few things he's saying.

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He's saying avoid places of heedlessness. Generally you go

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there and you're just wasting your time.

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Now you could say that sometimes I go to a wedding. It's my brother's

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wedding. It's my cousin's wedding, and I waste my time there. See,

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there's places where you have to go.

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We have to clarify this right? Because this place is I feel I'm

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wasting my time, if I'm not doing what I think I'm going to get

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something out of. So for example, if I think I can sit on my

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computer to do some work and make some money, or produce something,

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write a book or something like that. Clearly that is going to be

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more beloved to me than going and attending a wedding where I'm

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going to just be talking with lots of people. Right? And for me,

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that's not good enough. But that's my perspective. But that's a wrong

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perspective. Do you understand having tying the knots of kinship

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with your relatives is as important as doing work for the

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sake of Allah. Because that is how you build stronger families and

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communities. Otherwise, that's how people break up. That doesn't mean

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that you stay you have to spend the whole day.

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So you must feel that I must do this for the right reason.

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Otherwise you won't be rewarded for going if you're gonna go just

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to show your face. These are like places where it's obligatory to go

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like walima for example, and other certain downward invitations where

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it just, you know, as long as it's not happening everyday, you know,

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these weddings where they have that

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You must go there five days prior every night, you must be there.

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Those are just ridiculous. And anybody who does not in London is

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actually stupid anyway, because there's no time. They did, though,

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that that came from the villages. And that was fine. You know,

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people were free. And they found seasons where, you know, you

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didn't have to go and work in, in the farms, you know, because of

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seasonal things, right? They would, they would keep it at the

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right time. But if you're going to bother somebody, while they have

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to go to work in the morning, and children have to go to school in

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the morning. And that's when you're keeping and you must you

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expect them to come and you take on all the burden yourself of

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having to prepare everything and cook everything and manage

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everything and you get expect somebody? What is that?

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You know, what is that? Okay, maybe do it one day in the week,

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you know, in the Wednesday or a Tuesday or something and then

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after that, they let them come to the wedding, just do a big deal on

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the wedding. You know, if you got the money to do and you want to

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satisfy everybody send food to people's houses, but then eat that

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if you really want to feed them. But eventually it gets a burden.

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And especially in London, nobody's got time anyway. Maybe up north

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somewhere you can do is right. But people don't have time in London,

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everybody says that. Everybody says that you go up north and it's

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different.

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You go up north, and there'll be somebody to help you or take you

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around the whole day and whatever in London, nobody's got the time.

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You have to just survive here. Subhan Allah.

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So avoid places of hafla. Right? Avoid places of Hoffler. But don't

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as I said, Don't read into that so much that you actually avoid even

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family ties and relationships, they must be done to a certain

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degree, you know, these are all obligations, while Maha tilal I do

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Mahathir all I do is basically I mean this, this one is a no

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brainer in the sense that this is avoiding places where your enemy

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is going to could swindle you. Your enemy could basically deceive

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you. Right? That's obvious you should you should avoid those

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things. person should not be so simplistic and foolish, that they

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get involved in these things.

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What Tara Bertil how're

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Tara Bertil Hawa means attacks by the ego,

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attacks of our ego, our lust, our lowly desire to such a degree that

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it lightens the commitment of haram. That it degrades the status

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of that which is inviolable by Allah subhanaw taala that a person

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should not commit make it seem like it's okay you can do it.

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What's the big deal everybody does it. These are different excuses

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like everybody does it so why shouldn't you do it? Until it

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pushes you into it? That's what he called Power battle How're

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the deceptions the attacks?

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And then

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yeah, Allah, what are our the shower

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by our daraga This word is interesting addiction.

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Intensity, but our mean shinda

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and intensity. So likewise, when it comes that it's the desire is

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so intense and so strong, that there is nothing else that will do

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it for you. Nothing else that will give you peace, nothing else that

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will give you comfort, nothing else that will give you relief.

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That's what it's about the way to overcome it, you need to combine a

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few things. Now this is something that many of us actually

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struggling with the desire to do something, which then causes us to

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perpetrate sins. So the antidote to that, which, which I'm sure we

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would buy for gold, and more valuable than gold because this is

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our struggle. This is our struggle.

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What you need for this is a number of things. Number one we need

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summer.

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What kind of sub not the summer that you

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withstand calamities. This is the summer that if I don't do this

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haram, I can restrain myself. The restraint against Haram is a

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solid? No. Why do you do it? Because you want that pleasure at

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the end of it? No, I'm going to withhold myself from that

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pleasure.

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That's a summary.

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So a bit of that suborn against the shower. That's not going to be

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enough though. That's just one ingredient. You need to do

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something. So you need to actively think that this is a server if I

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don't do it, I get if I if I don't do this thing, that means I'm

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doing server and if I do server, then I'm getting a huge reward

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from Allah subhanaw taala. Number one, I'm getting a huge reward

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from Allah subhanaw taala. Number two, I'm actually building up

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resistance.

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Why do people take

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akinesia? Why do they take a flu jab, right, a flu shot, whatever

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you want to call it. Why do they take vitamin C? Why do they drink

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orange juice? They drink they do all of this stuff because they

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want to develop the immunity that hopefully they're not going to

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then be debilitated by a cold or flu. The same kind of thing

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You need server,

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you need another server to think that this is what I'm doing. The

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more server I do, the better I'm going to get against this. A more

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reward I'm getting along with that that helps is dhikr of Allah

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subhanaw taala you must have a remembrance of Allah regimen.

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That is what helps the inside heart. The sober aspect is from

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the mind that no this mind over matter I want to do Southern, of

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course, he got a part of the heart in there as well. But the vicar

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strengthens the heart to allow the mind to be in conformance with the

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hearts. So you need those two things. Number three, again,

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that's not enough. And I'm sure we all know from experience is not

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enough. Sometimes you do thicker you still sometimes end up you do

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thicker you do suburb and number three will never fear it but you

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thought it shower or activity or CNN

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that you're only going to get from reading or listening, which is to

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think about to ponder over the consequences of obeying the

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shower. What is the consequence of obeying the shower? What is the

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consequence of disobeying the shower?

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Which one is better? For example, if you just think about one Hadith

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that anytime a person doesn't do something that is demanded by

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shower, and at that time he withholds he withstands it he

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makes a dua to Allah that door will be accepted. These are just

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excuses we can use so Sobor against the shadow against the

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desire, remembrance of Allah and focus on the harms of continuing

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in this path. I'm sure everybody after they've done the act, they

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feel bad about it. After you get the huge chocolate cake or cheese

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cake, you feel bad about it. Right It was wonderful while it lasted

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may feel miserable afterwards.

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Okay. If a person does all of this equal melodic unfolds with the

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hollow body, then you will win, then you will succeed in gaining

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the upper hand over it. And then we have Morrocco Ridwan will have

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the mean Allah He to Allah the satisfaction you satisfaction of

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Allah will be upon you, you'll feel it that Allah is satisfied

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with you. So you start getting these bonuses, these benefits

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these incentives after you've tried if you could get them from

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before you would have made life easier.

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But once you've actually committed fully then you start seeing the

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benefits and that's helps too. But the initial push must be from

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ourselves. Where study Rocha will book your heart will become

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illuminated. What this more raw milk, your soul will just be

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elevated.

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You'll just feel much better where your boo Eman look and your Eman

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will increase. Your Iman will be nurtured and it will be increased

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you will feel much closer to Allah subhanaw taala and that feeling of

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closeness to Allah once you feel it, then you don't want to be far

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away again. It's a feeling that is impossible to explain to describe.

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It carries on the closer you get what the homophobia the homophobic

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and melodica The angels will surround you the angels will

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always be at your assistance, you won't see them but there'll be

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helping you and what threshold

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be enough for hurting Rowhani yet in some way yet in LA to Sophie

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her la barotz You will start experiencing

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these heavenly spiritual

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these heavenly spiritual vibes and benefits which no words can

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describe. You will feel close to Allah subhanaw taala you will

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start feeling more content more happy more satisfied.

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Then you can walk by and people could be an indulgence and you say

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no that's not what I want to do. It won't

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you you won't have to fall prey to that warmer edge Melaka Mandossian

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Alicia Watty duffer will become Mala Iike

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Subhanallah that will become a great defense of yours against the

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shower. That now the angels

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are

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even satisfied. And thus they assisting you. Now instead of that

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if it's the shower that does that caught us that drives us that

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drags us where however you want to say it it's it's what it is if the

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shadow is what leads our life. Then tougher who because shaytaan

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and shaytan will be very happy with you. The Shayateen will be

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extremely pleased with you. While you're here will be Cassatt Allah,

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but then the anger and the Wrath of Allah subhana wa Tada will be

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upon you. So Allah Allah Allah welcome with our efia We ask Allah

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subhana wa Tada for Salam, Salam and Afia We ask Allah subhanaw

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taala for safety and for wellbeing

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But the Prophet sallallahu alayhi salam said is that the the Eiken

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of sukawati Boehner jam bake your greatest enemy is your knifes that

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is between your two sides you've got your own enemy from within you

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forget having to have others the other enemies outside enemies they

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just they essentially just

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use the Chateau within us against us but that's essentially what

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they do and a huge amounts of research has gone into the

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capitalist world of how just look at advertisements see what it's

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affecting in you like just just look at it for a review like you

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know, what is it affecting within you? What is it trying to say to

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you?

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When it says words like it's pure decadence, let your let your devil

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out. What is it saying to you? What is it trying to tell you?

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So your greatest enemies within you, your enemy outside has just

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to do something with that to go against you. And the most

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important part of this is why in the Masada either equally thorough

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article or the only reason that your RO your your knifes has

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become your enemy is because of your obedience students. You give

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obedience to it will become your enemy. It takes you in the wrong

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direction. You start hating it and you start going against it and it

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becomes your friend. It will take you into the right direction the

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same knifes that's what you call your natural motivation and if so,

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Amara be sue me May Allah subhanaw taala allow us to get some control

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of ourselves. And may Allah subhanho wa Taala grant us the

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Sabra annual Marcia that has been mentioned here may Allah grant us

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an ability to include vicar within our lives. And may Allah subhanho

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wa Taala allow his Ridwan Ridwan to come upon us without Werner

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Hamdu lillahi rabbil aalameen A lot of men to sit down with me

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because

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they'll generally what the Quran yeah then generally will crumb

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yeah that agenda and he will crawl.

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Yeah, and we and you know, he learned Subhanak in Mirkwood Anam

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in avoiding just Allah one Muhammad and Muhammad Allah

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Subhana Allah who are legion Arlen or herb

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Allahumma fildena or Hamner Orofino you know what Allahumma

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fildena when he when he you know when you Masha if you know when he

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asserted that you know we need to learn

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what is learning what do you how do you know when he has words you

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know when he hola you know when he called lemon law who Hakuna Harley

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you know, what do you call him and also on bedarra Allahu Marham.

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humara Femara foreign, Allah homophily maternal Muslim ina

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livina che doing that can be done yet you want to honor that IC. O

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Allah we ask you for your complete forgiveness of Allah we ask You

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for Your Mercy of Allah, we ask you for your benevolence, O Allah,

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we ask You for Your clemency of Allah we ask you for your

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blessings, O Allah, O Allah, we ask that you make our hearts a

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recipient of these blessings and these bounties from you. Oh Allah

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open up our hearts to your mercy of Allah open up our hearts, to

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your love of Allah fulfill. Fill our hearts with your love of Allah

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remove the disobedience that is ingrained within them and that it

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gets excited with Oh Allah make obedience beloved to our hearts.

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Oh Allah, we ask You for assistance in this regard. We ask

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you forgiveness from all of those sins that has brought misery in

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our life that has brought disquietude in our life that has

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turned people against each other that has taken away the baraka and

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blessing from our homes. Oh Allah, we are constantly struggling. Oh

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Allah, we ask You for the ultimate success the ultimate fella in this

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world and in the hereafter. Oh Allah, we ask that you make us

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happy and satisfied with those things that are to your pleasure.

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And Allah we ask that you turn us away from those things that are to

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your displeasure. Oh Allah, this is what proves difficult for many

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of us, Oh Allah, but we are all your servants. And we all

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are here this morning. For this sake to receive from your mercy to

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remember you. Oh Allah, we ask you, we thank you first for

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allowing us to come together like this, oh Allah to convene this

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Mejlis but Oh Allah, we also ask you that you now accept it from

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us. And you make this a source of blessing and baraka and light for

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us for the coming days and months of Allah for our life. And oh

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Allah that you when you take us away from this life, then you take

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us away with the Kinema on our lips, Oh ALLAH and you make the

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stages of all of the Hereafter easy for us. Oh Allah, whatever

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permissible needs that we have. We asked you to assist us and help us

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and bless us in those things. Oh Allah, if we have difficulties in

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front of us remove those difficulties of Allah if we have

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started new projects, Oh Allah, we ask that you grant success and you

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make them highly certainly watching for your sake only. And

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bless us in whatever work that we do. of Allah O Allah, we ask that

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You grant us the right intention in what we do.

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But you grant us sincerity in what we do. And Allah you make it

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beneficial and useful. Oh Allah, you help our Muslim brothers and

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sisters around the world remove the oppression from them. Oh

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Allah, Muslim world is crying, oh Allah we don't have these problems

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as much as as bad as they have it. But Allah we have other problems,

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but we ask you for your assistance for all of us delivery from our

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problems for all of us make us true Muhammad is true

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representatives, true representatives protect us, our

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children and our progeny until the Day of Judgment, make them a

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source of gladness of our eyes of Allah. We ask that you give us the

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company of our messenger Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa salam in the

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hereafter make us true followers of him that he did not turn us

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gender and for those of Allah We ask that you send your abundant

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