Abdur Rahman ibn Yusuf Mangera – The Screaming Child

They've done a lot of tests in this, they show an adult and a

child, for whatever reason the child is screaming, one thing you

can do is just ignore them completely. And what they

discovered is that this is very, very, very harmful, their

insecurity will increase, and when they grow up, they will be always

looking for attachment. There will always be looking for attention.

Sometimes you do have to ignore. But if you just have a policy of

ignoring, that doesn't work. The other response that we do,

generally, you start screaming back that aggravates the child

even further and they start screaming back, you're not going

to get anywhere with that. The third response, you absorb what

they're saying, you process it and you find another way to defuse it.

According to research. It shows that if you're in an argument with

somebody, somebody's frustrated with you and you show frustration

back, nobody's gonna win. The only way you can win this is to subvert

it. Go around the site to deal with it. That's what you call

wisdom. This is what character requires