Abdur Rahman ibn Yusuf Mangera – The Chaos of Culture
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The speakers discuss the cultural differences between their own generation and their children, including their "med strict" and "med strict" culture. They stress the importance of learning principles and values, setting boundaries, and giving children principles. They also emphasize the need for strong religion practices and affordable access to affordable food. The speakers emphasize the importance of regular socks, praying, and creating a culture of Islam. They also discuss the importance of making small plans, reading books, and taking on a Islam course for sustained study.
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There's no, there's no pleasure without money. That's what they
say. You got money, you can do what you want. Then you forget
about Allah subhanho wa taala. That's what we have to worry about
hamdulillah Allah has given us so much that people live in this
country. And they've got 20 Rome mentions in other countries, which
they never, it's just because so the next point I want to make is
be functional in this world. Don't copy people and do things just
because other people are doing and this is our biggest problem. be
functional.
What is functional? I mean, if you need something Bismillah go get
it. You have the money, you need something, go ahead and get it.
You're justified if you don't need something, but somebody else got
it. Don't do it because they're doing it. You have to become your
own person.
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So a dear uncles, oh, dear brothers,
dear young children,
what I want to do is I want to speak for a short amount of time
this topic
is a very vast topic. And when you saw it, I don't know what was in
your mind what you expect me to speak about. So, because it's so
many different things that could be included in there, so I'm going
to say a few things Inshallah, then after that, I want to open it
up, if you have any questions about something, then inshallah
related to this, then we can inshallah discuss it. Now, what I
want to speak about first is that, who are we,
if you were born in another country, a Muslim country, then
you came here, you sometimes have a better idea of who you are, or
you think you know who you are. Whereas in this country,
it is, for people who are born here, especially nowadays, it's a
bit more confusing.
And the reason for the confusion is
we don't have one culture.
Not everybody is doing the same thing.
There's so many different things our children see.
And
we may be from a particular background, a particular country.
So let's just say that if I think I'm Indian, I am Bangladeshi, or I
am Pakistani, or Somali or anything else. The question is
that once you're in this country, are you still fully Bangladeshi
the way people are in Bangladesh, or Pakistan, either way people are
in Pakistan, for example,
when many of us from here, most people are from Bangladesh, if you
go back to Bangladesh, on the things that you see there, and you
don't agree with, because you do it differently in England now. And
you think this is different, even though your own relatives in your
own villages, where you originally came from, are doing that. But
there's a difference now, right? This is because humans wherever
they go, they take on different things.
So we have to understand what our culture is, then when our children
grow up, we want them to marry somebody from who we want to
marry, meaning we want them to marry. But sometimes they don't
want to do that.
So what exactly is the culture of our children? And what is our
culture? It's not what he used to be. It's not what we think it is.
We might still call it Bangladeshi culture or Indian culture. It's
actually a mixed culture.
It's actually a mixed culture.
So
we lived 100 years ago, if we would never have sat together like
this 100 years ago, I would have been maybe somewhere in a village
in Gujarat, you would have been in OB GYN or in juggernaut food, or
in orafol or in Ireland or Malawi Bazaar, or I don't know where I
was, you know, you would have been there I would have been somewhere
else we may have never met I may have never met a monster
right because people didn't travel as much. Allah has brought us
here. This gives us mashallah good opportunities, but there's also
challenges.
So what is our culture? So we live here, we eat our own traditional
foods, but we also have fish and chips,
pasta pizza
In my house we cook some Moroccan dishes, some Syrian Lebanese
dishes, right?
So, you still have your philosophy, your mistake, right?
But we there's a whole mixture now. So what exactly is our
culture and how should we look at this and what is the identity of
our children? Especially and us what is our identity? We don't
know what our identity to be confusion that creates a big fitna
prints big difficulty. So there's a few things that we need to do.
Firstly,
what is Muslim culture? Muslim culture is Masha Allah, all Muslim
countries have a Muslim culture, even though they're so different.
Because Islamic culture
there's no one way.
The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa salam when he became the Prophet
in mucca, mucca Rama he did not say, we are going to now change
everything.
He carried on many things, the clothing and so on because he was
modest clothing anyway, he wore Roman garments Roman, from Rome,
because they were modest in those days. So somebody says today oh, I
will, I'll wear
some designer clothing was a because it's suddenly because of
Rosendo and Roman garments. The reason that probably Salalah isn't
a war Roman garments is because they will also modest. You can
wear anything modest because in Islam, you can wear anything which
is modest.
Because Islamic culture is got boundaries. guidances certain
principles he didn't tell you do it one way. Isn't doesn't tell us
you better eat this and not this. Y'all need rice, no bread or eat
bread and rice. Whatever salad you eat,
right? If I go to Bangladeshi house, I'm not going to get race
sorry. I'm going to get an oral race, but I'm not going to get in
your routine. And this I'm very lucky. And you make rice roti,
which I really like. Right? So every place has a different
culture and that's fine. Nothing wrong with that as long as we
don't go against the boundaries.
And every one of our cultures has also some bad aspects.
Every one of our cultures has some bad aspects.
Right? Because their Muslim culture they have mostly good
points but they have also some bad Islamic culture is take the good
and get rid of the bad that's what the problem is a lot of them did
in Medina and mocha Mikado he kept the grip it took away the belt.
He said where he mama on dopey because the machine used to wear
turban as well but not on dopey not under hat.
So there were some things that he changed slightly but otherwise, he
didn't change it for me.
So as long as our food our governments our way of living and
everything is Islamic with the boundaries that is what Islamic is
in this country where we have to tell our families we have to tell
our children that this is our culture now. What's your name
ideal brother
Mr. Glasses,
Riyadh, mashallah and ethos ethos. He has a really cool name.
I shall never heard it before. So rehab an ephah has Mashallah.
What's your surnames?
ID and What's your surname? It's Brockman, Allahu Akbar.
You see, when you're when our young children I said, there's so
many fitna out there? Should they do it or not? They usually think
of themselves. I can do this, I can't do this, nobody will find
out. What we need to start doing is giving them principles. What
does that mean? Giving them principles? So we're gonna say
that, Joe, that is, don't do this? Why shouldn't you do it? Because
children don't do this?
Because
what, Dean's don't do this.
Someone was saying, because
Hans, don't do this. Because say kids don't do this.
This is our principals of our home. We don't do this, rather
than you don't do it. Next time, if they're confronted with a div
with a challenge or a temptation,
things say it's not just about me. It's about my whole family. We
don't do this. We are Muslims. We don't do this. Muslims don't do
this. Very important for us to make it a bigger idea. Also, how
many of you want your children to be doctor?
Doctors?
How many of you want your children to be doctors? Nobody? 100.
What do you want them to be?
What do you want your children to be?
Yeah,
Do you want your children to become when they go older?
Pauline?
Yeah. Would you want to meet Islamic scholar and get Armenian
beats coming up Tallulah? Dr. Ray? What else? Lawyer?
Not just doctor this nothing else. Okay.
Yeah, they
are the MAS.
Doctor, right? So yeah, you guys wonder
if your doctor is our lizard and nothing else in the world dr. D,
it has nothing else in the world.
In case chemist, okay?
Okay, that's fine. But don't tell them from a young age, you have to
become a doctor, you know, you tell them, I want you to become a
person that is going to help human beings and make a change in this
world make a difference in this world. And the way you're gonna do
it is by becoming a good doctor. Do you see the difference, because
if they now become a doctor, just for becoming a doctor, that's
just, they just gonna make a bit of money. Maybe people will say
Massa doctors or, you know, doctors, and they might just show
off a bit, and so on. But if you tell them, you're doing it for a
big purpose, and being a doctor is part of this big idea and big
purpose, they'll get more reward for that as well. Because their
ultimate goal is to help people.
The ultimate goal is for that you're going to change make a
change to this world by becoming an island by becoming a scholar by
becoming a Mufti.
See the difference, you're not going to just become an item, just
because everybody else does, you're going to do it, because
you're going to help people.
You're going to please Allah, you're going to do things for
people. And the best way to do that is by doing this. So the
bigger idea we need to teach our children. So we make them proud of
who they are as Muslims. Now one of the biggest challenges our
children are facing, through confusion about culture, and
everything is all of the
different temptations outside.
So what happens is that if we're a practicing family, and you want to
be a practicing Islamic family, there's a lot of competition
outside lot of challenge outside to do haram and to do wrong and so
on. And a lot of our children, if we don't make Islam enjoyable for
them, then they feel it's dry. They don't want to practice they
don't want to cover they don't want to do anything, that it makes
it very, very confusing for them. Because their friends at school,
maybe they even their cousins are not doing something. So it makes
it very difficult for them. That's why it's very important for us to
make Islam enjoyable.
Islam enjoyable. That means once a person called me a mum, she called
me she said that my daughter and my son, they're gonna finish his
school. So my daughter came home and said that we're going to have
a party. So I said, No, no, we don't do parties. This is not our
way to do parties said Oh, but my cousin and her mum, Is it mine her
father's Ireland, they're doing a party. Right? How are you going to
argue against that? Right. So
I said to her, I said, Look, do you have the money to feed people?
Say yes. So then what's wrong with having a party?
Not she is being very dry, and saying we can't have a party
because parties like none was simply a very bad idea. The Pro
Sahaba never had a party when somebody became half is of the
Quran. True? Maybe? Maybe? Yes, maybe so their hands used to take
years and years and years. Because the Quran was still being revealed
until the Prophet salallahu Salam 's last last month right. So they
will never fully Hafiz anyway. They became half as an apostle and
passed away because now that all the revelation because he came
over 23 years now, in this country, there's so many parties
for everything they party, Christmas party, this party, that
party. Now, if we don't celebrate our own tradition, and make it a
big deal, to encourage our children, then it's gonna be very
gentle. I finished the Quran, no big deal. I didn't even get a
gift. We know we're doing it for ALLAH SubhanA wa Tada. But
sometimes human beings, even Allah subhanho wa Taala that's the way
he deals with us. He promises us paradise and rewards for the good
deeds we do, and punishment if we do bad deeds, but ultimately,
that's not the only I never think of good deeds and bad deeds.
Sorry. They never think of punishment and Paradise. They just
think of loving Allah to be a slave of his. I don't care about
paradise or *. I'm just doing this because I'm your slave
paradise. The only reason only I want to go to Paradise is because
that's where they gonna see Allah once a week.
Otherwise, their focus is just
salah. However for most people, we start off with thinking of reward,
I'm going to get reward for this, I'm going to be punished for this,
I better not do this. But once you get beyond that, that should not
be the focus. It's just the beginning focus, the laser focus,
just Allah, that's it. I don't care about anybody else. Likewise
with children, we encourage them, encourage them first, by giving
them gifts by giving them awards, and so on. And inshallah then
there the sincerity will come afterwards, the sincerity will
come afterwards. So I think if our children they finish Quran, they
finish the reading, learn 20 sutras, whatever it is, we need to
really really promote it. And the benefit is you invite others so if
my son finishes and I invite others all the ASIC mashallah he
gets a party because he's completed Quran I want to do Quran
as well.
So these are thing, they're not better. They're not wrong, because
we're not doing it. We're doing it for encouragement, we're not doing
it because it's rewarding to do it. I can feed anybody when I'm
happy. And this is a happy occasion. So why can't I do that?
Right? So I explained to the sister I said, Look, there's
nothing wrong with this, you want your fear, we don't do Christmas
we don't even eat maybe you're making a boring from them. For
them. Some people don't even let their children miss eat the miss
school on end. Because they want them to become good doctors. You
have to get good GCSEs and a levels so you can't miss. So
Arella
extreme people
eat daily needs to be special.
Ed needs to be special. So these are some of the challenges that
we're having out there that we have to have an answer for. Now,
the other thing is
Alhamdulillah in this country, Allah subhanaw taala has given us
facilities.
Medicine, health care, security, we feel comfortable sitting here.
No bomb is going to drop on us sha Allah
our brothers and sisters Subhanallah they're going to Allah
subhanho wa Taala relieve them give them the dignity and freedom
but we have in this country right? We most people live a life of the
top 10% of the world
the access you have to clothing and food products in our culture
bizarre and this bizarre and that bizarre and mangoes from whichever
country you want it whatever you want isn't available in this
country
everything is so perfect so refined mashallah you know when
you go back to other countries is not the same. So we need to thank
Allah subhanho wa Taala for this, we just take it for granted. The
problem with this though, is what happens it makes you feel secure.
There's nothing wrong with feeling secure, that makes you feel
overconfidence.
And then you feel you don't need Allah five got my
food, in a food in the freezer, you know, mass for two months sold
there. You know?
I can get amazon.com I can, you know, I can order things
overnight. I have Netflix I don't but I have Netflix I can watch
1000s of things.
Right? All night all day, all holidays 1000s of shows. You feel
that mashallah, everything is sorted in this.
So then you start forgetting about Allah subhanho wa Taala there are
some Muslim countries were the elite, the very secular.
They think religion is for the low class. They need Allah not us. We
have money, we can get what we want. They have a false sense of
security.
They literally feel that religion is for the low class, not for the
high class. They might say we're Muslims, but we don't really need
to practice this is for the lowly people. Some of these people,
their children after working very hard paying a lot of money, they
come to the top universities of London
and England
and they don't pray they don't do it because they think that
religion was so the low class then they come and in their class there
are British born Muslims will have beards and the covering and they
pray and shocked. We thought you guys are where we want to be. And
your religious Subhanallah you know, what is this? This is just
like in the past, it's always been like this that when you have too
much and you have a position you feel like confident that you don't
need anything then you get what you call apathy. This is called
apathy care airfree attitudes. As long as I'm getting my food, I got
my clothing, my phone, my car, my watch. I can do shopping, I've got
credit cards. US I don't need anything.
This is one of our biggest fitness in this country is
This
right we thank Allah for the good but we ask Allah for protection
from wealth that becomes burden for us. Besakih musty mischief of
money. How do you say that in Bangla for cesarean it there you
go in pain? Boy, you show up? Winchester ammo, Jana. So without
patient there's no mother. Right? You say patient pay Xiao aphasia,
not Fisher.
dako. Okay, there you go. Hamdulillah you guys understand
that?
There's no, there's no pleasure without money. That's what they
say. You got money, you can do what you want. Then you forget
about Allah subhanho wa taala. That's what we have to worry
about. hamdulillah Allah has given us so much that people live in
this country. And they've got 20 Rome mentions in other countries,
which they never, it's just because so the next point I want
to make is be functional in this world. Don't copy people and do
things just because other people are doing it. This is our biggest
problem. be functional.
What is functional mean? If you need something Bismillah go get
it. You have the money, you need something, go ahead and get it.
You're justified if you don't need something, but somebody else got
it. Don't do it because they're doing it. You have to become your
own person.
Very important. This is a big issue that we just copy one
another, he becomes the tradition or the trend, and then we just
waste our time and money. And it's very, very wrong.
Do it because you want it. I've got a friend who's very wealthy
guy. Very wealthy guy. And for three years he's been trying to
give me an iPhone. I will buy you the iPhone. He wants me to have an
iPhone. I don't want an iPhone. I'll get you the latest iPhone.
Whichever one you want. He's either I don't want it. He gets a
new iPhone every year the newest one even though you don't need it.
He gets one he doesn't use covers on it. Because if it gets messed
up, just buy a new one. He's got no money.
hamdulillah when I met him about a month ago,
he showed me his phone he said look, I said what what's so good
about it? He said this is last year's iPhone I haven't bought to
this year's iPhone. Mashallah, after working with him for two,
three years, he's finally realized you don't need the next iPhone
because this one is working. There's no new innovation, no new
no new
system on there or whatever it is, you understand, is I'll get one
next year. I said okay, fine, at least one year you don't. Because
you just feel you need to do this and you just indulgent and the
knifes becomes broken. The pneus becomes corrupts.
So these are some of the fitness that we are dealing with too much
access to things so become practical become functional. You
wanted something for the purpose of it, don't get something because
somebody so let me ask you a question. Can you tell me why? You
go to weddings, and they have a sheets plank? You know, when you
go for wedding and everybody's talking in the hall? The plane the
sheets in the background? Why did they do that for I'm trying to
find out I see it in places Why did they do it? God, Earth
environment.
Crane environment, but it rings in your ears. So when you try and
talk you can't because there's been Remo you know. So what
environment is great like to to make you to make you angry? Sorry.
No angry APR is wide. And so in weddings you've seen people are
quiet. I've never seen that. I've never been to a quiet wedding.
Nobody they talk Why do they do it?
Casey Wait, what's the real reason?
copying music.
Okay, background music. But the question is why do you need the
background music for
now and the reason I want to go to it, what's the vibes you get?
Yeah, what what played you go. See you guys are telling me things.
But I'm really asking like, I want to understand because my son's
getting married next week. So I want to decide whether to put a
sheet on or not.
What's the atmosphere? What is it, Craig? But I'm still trying to
understand why they play the sheets. Just can't understand
nobody listen. Yeah, it's a good sheet. Maybe a nobody listens to
it. No, we're like, all stop. Please don't talk. I want to
listen to that machine.
Is there just copying, I think is just copying.
Exactly. But why do you need to even play music on the sheets for
that matter? I went to a wedding, right? And I'm trying to talk
and I can't because it's a bit too loud. So I went to my student he
was his wedding us and said I'm really sorry, but my mom insisted
on it. I don't know why, but I just can't say anything. It's just
copying. Really, if you've got a purpose Bismillah that's fine.
Right? Not saying is haram. But what I'm trying to understand is
don't do things because people are doing it once I was in America
when I lived it. So in one particular area all the women
started buying Mercedes SUVs.
Why? Because one person bought his way they will you know wealthy
doctors or whatever so they bought his work now
every other way, he's like, I need that car as well.
When you do that, then you're not your own self, you just follow the
trend. And that's wrong. Be yourself, you need something
Bismillah you get it if you've got the ability, but don't do it for
others, otherwise you just indulgent in the world. Okay, so
I'm going to stop here. And I'm going to say, if you have any
questions, let's discuss any topic that you think is relevant to
this.
So what I found, one of the best ways to encourage our children is
to get them connected to Allah.
I found that to be the easiest.
If we connect our children to Allah and give them the love of
Allah from a young age, then we will have to supervise them less
because there'll be more focused on Allah subhana wa Tada. And
they'll do it for him. How do we test this? So if our children will
pray, they have concern for the prayer, even if we're not there.
They're alone, for example, they still prayed. That means they're
praying for Allah. They pray for us, if they didn't pray, or if
they're late, sometimes children are late, they wake up late.
That's understandable. us as human beings, even adults are late.
Sometimes. That's fine. For example, if there was a child who
just started, he was about 1112, he just started secondary school.
So you know, though, is in the school time, by the time you come
home, then no mas time is finished. So his mama told you,
you have to pray in school. So he came back second or third day from
school? And he said, his mum asked him Did you pray? And he said, No.
Now I want you to tell me, would you be happy with the answer? Or
sad with the answer? Put your hand up if you said
you'd be sad with the answer. Who would be happy with the answer?
You too would be happy. You'd be happy to hold our call to let you
know he's still me. There is a law he didn't lock rod play is another
layer. My shoulder. When I heard it, I was so happy. He didn't say
no, I don't want to pray. He didn't say said no, I couldn't
pray. It was very happy. He said, Why didn't you pray? He said, I
couldn't find a room to pray. So no mother said, Look, find go
through at lunchtime or whatever, and see if there's a teacher alone
in her room and just say, can I just please? Five minutes? I need
to pray here. Can I just and then just pray there. So it hamdulillah
since that day, it's been fine. Now. So what we did with our
family? Is that how much does regular socks cost? One pair of
socks? How much does it cost?
Like a pound or two right? For one pair of socks? If you buy five for
you know, whatever?
How much do we do socks cost? In Vegas, the cheapest socks I've
seen are like 15 to 20 pounds yet, the will do socks, especially
we'll do such right. We have all of our children, when they went to
secondary school we got they will do socks, just to make it easier
because it's difficult for them to put their feet in. Now how can we
make that then close to Allah is if we're close.
And the way to do that is to speak to Allah. Speak about Allah
frequently. For example, we just had a meal. And it was a nice
meal. We just say Alhamdulillah look what Allah gives us.
A new product came. Mangoes came whatever it came. Allah gives us
so much and the people don't they're suffering we need to thank
Allah, all praises to Allah. They will pick this up.
They will pick this up. When our children have any pain from a
young age, whenever they have any paid weeks, they come on, my arm
is hurting. We read a few things, you know, softer, fatty or
something and we blow on it and most of the time and 100 I guess
better. When they get old enough they learn to read these words
themselves.
So they know I give you an example.
There's a girl who was
seven or eight years old.
And her older brother two years older, had to go to opticians. He
needed glasses. How old are you?
You're 10 right. So he was 10 as well. He needed glasses. So his
younger sister to age you have a younger sister.
So he had a younger sister, his younger sister started making fun
of him. You got glasses, you got glasses. So the mom said to the
sister, right?
Don't make fun of him because your dad has glasses. Your mom has
glasses. Your older brother has glasses. You're probably going to
have glasses as well. So don't make fun of him. Right.
Now after that finish discussion 10 years later, how old is she
now? 10 years later? 1718. Right. She has younger brothers sisters.
They have glasses. Mum, Dad, older brother younger brothers have
glasses or means glasses. She does share glasses.
She doesn't have glasses. Why doesn't share with us? Because
she's a girl this way
because
she, she said afterwards 10 years later she said, you know, Mom,
when you told me 10 years ago, and I was eight that you're gonna get
glasses? Well, I started praying to Allah that I don't want
glasses.
And the question is that who taught her to pray to Allah? Why
did she know she can pray to Allah? That's good. tarbiyah
right, that's good teaching that she knew the monk should have
said, pray to Allah, you don't get glasses she didn't. But from
before they were taught to pray to Allah. So that when this dilemma
came, I don't want gases kromagg And ask Allah
that's what I mean from a young age, we need to be discussing this
so they will do it for themselves and that becomes life becomes
easy.
Here's brothers.
Islam doesn't have a culture, it's most Islamic culture are just some
guidances don't do this. Don't do that.
Boundaries, principles. So
let's just say somebody comes to your house, what is Islamic
culture? Right. So we look at the Quran, sunnah Ibrahim alayhi
salam, and he had guessed, he offered them food.
Now, how do people offer people food? You? You go to many non
Muslim houses, they'll offer you tea. And if you say, No, I'm not
interested. They won't ask you again.
Were used to people asking us five time. So we say no first some
people. Right? Some most people say no first. No, no, please have
some you know, okay, okay. I have some, some cultures. You are they
asked you once. You say No, sir. Okay, fine. No problem. And then
you're sitting there, man, I wish I said yes. You know, that's one
culture. Now that culture is
they will make a lot of stuff and they will put it in your plate and
force you to eat. That's another culture. Right? My friend was he
was in Egypt. He was half Egyptian Palestinian. He went to a friend's
house, he went to another friend's house and the food was ready. He's
already eaten. And he's careful about how he eats. So his friend
said you have to eat he said, I've already eat. No, no, you have to
eat you have to eat. If you don't eat. My wife is divorced. It
didn't start with read it up.
Now is that good culture is that is semi culture. But it's Muslims
doing it. You understand? It his wisdom doing it? So third option,
you go to somebody's house, they just bring you stuff. You eat it
greater hamdulillah if you don't, no problem, but they just don't
keep asking you. Third, or the fourth one is would you like some
tea? Would you like some tea? This for conscious here? Which one is
Islamic? You understand? So the the one who is going to give us
why that's definitely not Islamic. Right? And so Islam is very broad,
allows you that it doesn't fix it as to what you must do. It's now
allows me to dress like this. It allows me to dress with a baggy
suit. You know, for example, it gives you boundaries and
conscious. For example, in Islam, there's no one political system.
Right? There's not one political way, for example.
It's again, his boundaries and principles as long as you play
within this fine, for example, and the province of Lowe's and passed
away before he passed away. He never said who's going to be the
next leaf.
He never named us at least he strongly encouraged him to say he
showed that it was going to be all Bucha he insisted he becomes the
Imam and you know he told a woman who came and said if I don't find
you who should I go to go to Abu Bakr the Allah one. But he never
said he was going to be the Hadith. When Abu when a Robocop
thing was about to pass away he said Oman is the holy he named the
next hurry. He did differently from the Rosa Rosa. When Amara de
la want us on his deathbed he said
that one of the six people
who would have brought us our son was happy with the six of the ASHA
Rama Bashara them is going on you have to choose one of the six
three different ways not one way of doing it.
So you can have any way as long as it meets the criteria and doesn't
go against the boundaries.
That's a semi grain many things only salad and certain things do
it this way. Inheritance do it this way food
or hate la COVID per year but heard emoticons are equal in Hebei
ugly things are prohibited but pure things gooloo was trouble
what to see for Eat, drink?
Don't waste
right. So Allah has made it so what is Islamic food now? Tell me
what is Islamic food?
So all halal food is Islamic food. Yes, there's certain things which
the process and put
foot
for a certain things he preferred like agile updates and he said
this benefit in that is certain things like that. But you can't
just always survive on that. I mean you can you can if you want
to is some gives us a big scope
of the garments you wear. Just don't be tight Don't be naked
don't show yourself and so on. Otherwise you can wear whatever
you want so that's how it works in is that say something for example
I give you what is the Islamic culture on the DOB
How do you spend the day of Eid Islamic so what is your wake up in
the morning and you have a shower you eat something sweet on Ramadan
eat
and you go one way reading the text we use to the masjid to the
masala the place of prayer. Then after that you do the prayer you
do the number the Dubai etc and then you come back another way and
so on. Right you don't do Knuffle prayer that time you just go and
do that into the tech field. Then what what do you do after that in
Islam?
It's up to you.
So I want to do only what Islam tells me to do. It won't tell you
is told you what you've done that are now you do whatever else is
halal.
Visit your relatives because food the person did say that the deal
eat is for food drink and to be with your family. So you can
gather together or you can visit nowhere does it mention you must
visit your graveyard but Muslims do and there's nothing wrong with
that as long as you don't think you get special reward for for
visiting the graveyard. Usually the reason they say why people
visit graveyards on DVD is because you know the Musala the Eid God,
the place you do eat you usually in other countries is outside it's
not in the masjid, right. That was close to the
cover of Stan. So that's why they were just going there's a good
opportunity that's gone to it. But there's no specialist so now
visiting the graveyards on the day of eat, that you can do it if you
want to. So custom. We have to develop our customers what we do
what's Islamic, and then after that we do everything else that's
allowed in Islam to make our life useful and beneficial and
enjoyable for our children. So that they enjoy themselves and
live a life of Islam and they fear Allah subhanho wa Taala
that Islamic culture
good idea, New Year's resolutions this is a very silly time to make
resolutions. What's the difference between tomorrow and today the
only difference is tonight is going to be fireworks
nothing else nothing different today and tomorrow. You ate
similar food today tomorrow just they had a lot of parties and now
we're gonna get back to serious work that's the best time for
Muslims to make resolution is anytime but I find a very useful
time is the ending of Ramadan because there you physically go
through a change you've been fasting your whole system is
different your sleeping pattern your food pattern is all different
and then suddenly end comes so I think that's a really good time
where you can make quick habits and do lots of stuff but we need
to be doing it anytime.
But if you want to use New Year's to make good resolutions Bismillah
no problem.
You can do that as well.
Notice that he's not Islamic but it's Islamic to make good
resolutions whenever change ourselves.
In fact they say that you know the highest rate of the divorces which
day is the third of January
highest number of divorces get put into court because it's Christmas
time is a very facade and fifth law time. The parties and
everything people lose their marriages during this time so they
go on divorce on the third of January and everything
we have a blessed time at Christmas people come to the
masjid mashallah the bucket of Christmas
the bulk of the new year is sitting here today otherwise you
don't have programs on Sunday
mashallah brothers
that's it
alone and to Salam on consider all the work the adventure loaded with
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now whereas you know what? I was looking at yellow five years ago?
Yeah, a few years ago. Yeah. They'll tell you if you have an
agenda with a crime. They are Allah have mercy on us, are they
except from us. We ask you for your special forgiveness, for your
kindness, for your generosity, for your blessing. They Allah We thank
you and we are grateful to you for all that you have given us. You
have given us more than so many others in this world. Oh Allah do
not allow us to use this in the wrong way. Do not allow us to turn
away from you. Oh Allah focus ourselves on you. Oh Allah grant
doe heed and
In the oneness, your oneness and the love of your messenger
Muhammad Sallallahu sallam, to us and our families and all of our
descendants, all of our descendants until the Day of
Judgment. Oh Allah make this Masjid a blessed place. Remove any
obstacles of Allah remove any harm from here, oh Allah develop this
and just like the other Masjid programs we have, and projects
that we have, oh Allah allow it to be completed and make it make them
places of great blessing, and Hidayat and guidance and
everything. Allah protect us and our children are Allah bless these
years that come and go and Allah Allah, we ask You for relief for
our brothers and sisters who are suffering. Oh Allah, grant them
relief grant them their freedom. Oh, Allah shahada, oh Allah grant
them acceptance, those who are, who have been, Oh Allah, those who
have been, who have been
deceived disabled, and who have been impacted by this. And Oh
ALLAH who have been crippled, and oh Allah who have been harmed by
this world like robbing them steadfastness. Grant them a
greater reward, oh Allah grant them a greater reward. And Allah
assist them and help them and know Allah allow us to do that which is
right and that which is practical and that which is functional. And
Oh Allah, Allah Allah we ask that you make us of those who Thank you
abundantly and who are grateful to you abundantly you have given us
You have given us so much yeah Allah you have given us so much.
Oh Allah give us a lot in the hereafter. Make our deeds worth it
for us. Make our deeds worthy of your mercy of Allah Allah Allah
accept us for the service of your deen bless everybody who is
sitting here and those who are listening, so hang around because
hilarious in here I'm Niall seafood, a sinner when and watch
Sabina What did the whole and prolong the point of a lecture is
to encourage people to act to get further an inspiration and
encouragement, persuasion. The next step is to actually start
learning seriously to read books to take on a subject of Islam and
to understand all the subjects of Islam at least at the basic level,
so that we can become more aware of what our Dean wants from us.
And that's why we started Rayyan courses so that you can actually
take organize lectures on demand whenever you have free time,
especially for example, the Islamic essentials course that we
have on the Islamic essentials certificate which you take 20
Short modules and at the end of that inshallah you will have
gotten the basics of most of the most important topics in Islam and
you'll feel a lot more confident. You don't have to leave lectures
behind you can continue to be, you know, to listen to lectures, but
you need to have this more sustained study as well as aka la
harem Salam aleikum wa rahmatullah wa barakato.