Abdur Rahman ibn Yusuf Mangera – Take Your Husband to Paradise

There are numerous, numerous stories that women are the ones

who are helping their husbands. They are the ones who are who are

causing them to think in the correct way. And it's happened

many times, sometimes the man has got so many things to think about,

right? That he comes home and he's just totally restless, totally

indecisive,

about something totally concerned and worried. The best partner and

wife is the one who will calm them down, make them see some sense.

And subhanAllah women have done it over and over again to the best of

men. The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam

on it was the other day of Arafah. Right? It was it was just before

it was it was the province and last night gone to perform a

pilgrimage, but they were not allowed to go inside Mecca. This

was during the first several years in Madina Munawwara they were they

were prevented from going into Madina Munawwara. So he was told

that he decided to tell us how about the look, we can't go in,

let's break out Iran nullify our Arab, they had actually already

entered the State of Iran. Let's break it, sacrifice our animals,

and let's go back. So he still has his Iran. He's telling everybody

to do this. Nobody's apparently listening to him. Because they're

thinking that maybe he's going to do it, maybe something's gonna

happen, maybe we're still going to be able to because they really

wanted to go to the Kaaba, they really wanted to go and perform

the pilgrimage. So the probably the last one started getting

worried, because he's thinking that if this harbor don't listen

to me, that's gonna be their destruction. He goes back into his

tent, and his wife,

almost sell them out of the Allahu anha is there and he tells her

about like, These people aren't listening to me what's going on?

She said, Look, you go, and you go and end your haram in front of the

when they see you do it, they'll be more than happy to do it. He

did exactly that. And they and they ended their love. So now you

can see from this, that it's the best of man. But sometimes, that's

the that is the relationship between the husband and wife, the

pious related relationship, that they can encourage each other.

That's why the Hadith mentions about one partner waking up the

other for tahajjud. right encouragement, because the thing

about a husband and wife is that they're supposed to be the couple

together in Jannah. So you want to encourage each other so you we can

both be in Jannah. And that's what it's May Allah give us all the

trophies? Again, another story. I just read this yesterday. And we

discussed it, which is that Amara, the Allahu Anhu center, 1000

dinars to one of the Sahaba right 1000 dinars to this to the Sahaba

to this, the hubby who was a very poor Sahabi when this hobby got

it, he started crying. His wife didn't know what had happened. But

he's just crying. He doesn't normally cry. Right? He doesn't

normally cry. So his wife is really now concerned. What's

making my my husband, adult man who doesn't normally cry, brave,

brave person, what's making him cry? So she said, what's happened?

Have you heard of one of the borders of Islam being violated in

the sense that no, you know, someone has attacked the border,

because she's thinking of the worst of the things that could

have happened? Because what would make her husband cry the ways? So

he said, No, no, that's not what happened. He's carrying on Christ.

And well, have you heard that that Ameerul Momineen has died? Is that

Is that what it is? As a matter the alarm date? Is that what's

making you Christ? No, that's not what it is. says what's making

honey Craig even more. And then he said, and then this is what he

said. He said, Omar YBNL hottub, the Amirul mumineen. He wants to

efface My name he wants to remove my name from the from the from the

record of Moroccan of the folklore of the poor people. My name, you

know, I'm recorded in the among the Fukuhara of the people, right?

He wants to efface my name from the with 4000 dinars. You know,

1000 dinars was a huge amount of money. Because right now, if you

calculate it 20 dinars is the nisab of zakat, which means it's

about two and a half. 3000 pounds is what 20 dinars are worth today,

right? Give some fluctuation or give some fluctuation. But let's

just say two and a half 3000 for 20 dinars. Can you imagine what

1000 dinars would be worth? That's a huge amount of money. That's

like winning the lottery. You know, meaning that's where people

get such a huge amount, you know, you read in the news, such as 20

million, 2 million 100 million. I mean, that is that's what you hear

about that's where you get this crazy sums of money. This was a

huge amount of money. 1000 not their humps, but dinar. Right. So

he's crying, he's crying. He says he wants to buy my name and take

my name off the register for 1000 dinars. Obviously. amadablam had

no such intention. He wanted to probably help him on seeing

He's in a poor state, so many must have come he thought he's the most

entitled to it. That's why he was doing that. And this person no, he

his, his his content. That's why they say that the fuck whose

content is whose content with the way Allah subhanaw taala has kept

them. This is an example of that, if you don't have much today,

right, because maybe you don't work, your husband doesn't earn

that much, you're still struggling, you should still be

content with Allah subhanho wa taala. Because you know that

that's how Allah has kept you. That is what Allah subhanaw taala

wants off you that's your mercy, but but Allah wants to see and

test you. And that's why the prophets of Allah some said, I'd

rather stay hungry one day, so that I can thank Allah subhanho wa

Taala and be patient, I can be patient. And then the other day I

can fill my stomach or I can eat something and thank Allah subhanaw

taala for what He has given me. Otherwise, if we just always have

good, good good and prosperity, then we will never have sovereign

patients, we will never feed in the need of Allah subhanho wa

taala. And you will create tyranny in our minds and boldness towards

sim. So this hobbies like that. Now, look, he's kind of losing his

mind. He's crying, he's worried he's everything, say how can I

deal with this situation? Now? What would you do if your husband

came home and said, I've just got this huge amount of money? Right?

Imagine if he'd won the lottery somehow. Maybe it's because

somebody else bought a ticket for him. You didn't buy that he didn't

buy the ticket. He doesn't commit haram. But let's just say somebody

else bought a colleague bought a ticket on his name. And that

ticket won in you and 5 million pounds. Right? Or 2 million or

whatever it is. What would you say? And he's getting all worried

La hawla wala Quwata illa biLlah haram this than the other what

would you say? Right? Number one, I doubt if the husband comes to

say haram or whatever, but let's just say he does like you know, we

have to have a good perspective about people. Right? What would

you say? Would you say no, no, God ask a Mufti. You know, God has

such and such a che God ask a Mufti that? Can you take this on?

Because you didn't really buy it? Did you? Right, somebody else gave

it to us, it should be highlighted, maybe it's a huge

amount of money, we can buy a house, we can go on a holiday, we

can do this, we can perform our hedge, right? There's so many

things that you might think that you can do. Subhanallah and look

at this, this wives that this hobbies wife, right, this man's

wife, she's, she's looking at him and she's thinking, man, just

give sadaqa give her out what you worried about. She just diffused

the station right there. You know, she just diffused the situation

right there. He's all worried and everything because he's kind of

his sole focus even and sometimes just become occupied with your

thoughts and your grief. And you can't think straight. And she's

thinking just give sadaqa Absolutely. No, you know, no

concern about it. Subhanallah that is what you call helping each

other. So then what happens is

in the he still cry, but then he said, Okay, give me the old, the

old garment of yours that worn out garment that she just replaced,

said give me that they took he took it. And then what they did

was they made it into pieces. And then they divided the money up all

these dinners, they divided up into little sacks, right little

sacks of of dinars. And

and he was crying all night as well, because he still had the

money, right? And he's just pretend that if I die like this,

I'm going to be written as being from on the rich. And when you are

written among the rich, there's just more questioning to do.

Right? Can you imagine if you get an May Allah protect us. But if

you get an inquiry from the tax people, right, people are worried

about this, the bigger your business, right, the more

concerned you are up to a certain level, then when you get too big,

then you can hire people to actually, you know, pay no taxes,

essentially right. That's another scam on the on another level. But

you know, if you're in the bigger you are of a medium sized

business, the more concerned you're going to be because there's

just too many things you have to worry about. Right? And make sure

everything is perfect. Even if you've never done anything wrong.

It just has to be you have to make sure everything's perfect and

imagined in the hereafter. If we're so concerned about having an

inquiry on audit, in can you imagine the hereafter Subhanallah

where we can't even remember, at least when it comes to business

and stuff, you've got your books, you've got your records, you can

get somebody to help you to make it work out and make some amends.

But once we're in the Hereafter, we can't even remember what we've

done. And all of these things are going to be brought up unless

Allah subhanaw taala forgives us. And then you can't invite you

know, chartered accountants to come and you know, sort your

matter on pay them a huge amount of money. No, it's not. You can't

do that.

Really, sometimes I think about that we're so concerned about

certain things happening in the world to us. We're really

concerned that if this happens to us what's going to happen? It's

going to be really tough. Right? And subhanAllah you know, when you

hear about somebody in some weird court case, do you think if that

happened to me, How bad would it be but what about the hereafter?

Are we concerned about that time as well? Right away, it's going to

be even worse and atonement is going to be greater. So he's

concerned all night. Next morning, soon as his morning time. He goes

outside and he's handing the * to people, right. So every person

that's coming soon

Allah, right he's getting he's getting this. That is what you

call contentment with Allah subhanho wa Taala the ability to

be happy with the way Allah subhanaw taala has kept you.

Somebody told me they just went for Umrah in the month of Ramadan

after they heard what I said yesterday on this subject about

desert of the sahaba. He said this, there's something I saw in

Madina Munawwara that I've been thinking about for the last three

or four weeks since I've come back is that what happens is that when

you go for Umrah or Hajj, Makkah and Madina Munawwara, there's

people who come there who want to give out things to get reward. So

this person who comes with, you know, this bag of drinks, or they

come with some sandwiches, or they come with some yogurt, and they

come with some dates or whatever, and they just give them out. And

as soon as somebody starts giving something out, there's a huge

amount of poor people down there, the rush to take from that. So he

said that, as soon as people saw this commotion, right, they

literally got jumped as such, he literally got surrounded, and he

just had to drop the bag. And he went, right, and they just took.

So now when they've all taken and they will going away this other

from afar who's seen this commotion and they realize what it

is they also come in because they're in need as well. Right? So

there's one man who's coming, and there's one who, and it's all gone

now it's all been taken, it's in people's hands. Now. There's no

nothing left in the bag in the case. So this person is coming

from afar, one of these people who had already got his his gun in his

hand, and you can tell he's not very wealthy, right? You know,

he's probably need, he sees the other person coming. And what this

what is the person who is relating the story to me, he's telling me

that I can't describe to you in words, the interaction there, the

interchange that took place, he saw that person coming when he got

here, he noticed there's nothing and he looked on his face. And he

gave him despite the fact that he also looked in need, he gave this

thing to the other person. And he said, I just cannot describe to

you it wasn't his wealthy guy who just seemed to help be there. And

he also got to pick one up and if I don't need it, I'll give it to

him. No, this person seemed to be in need or as much as he needed

more in need than the other person. But he gave preference

over himself. He reminds you of the Sahaba it still happens today.

Just the level of the heart. I mean, this happened, it happened

Subhanallah he said I can't describe to you the words will not

do justice to my description. It was just the expression you could

tell what's going through their minds and that Eman that's coming

out there. May Allah subhanaw taala give us the Tofik because

that is what we can learn from the benefit of knowing these stories

is what we can learn from May Allah subhanaw taala give us that

Sophia? May Allah subhanaw taala prolong our worships and our good

deeds of the month of Ramadan and the lights of the month of Ramadan

for the next 11 months so that we're good until the next Ramadan

as well. May Allah subhanho wa Taala grant us the Karim Allah

Allah Allah Allah, may Allah subhanaw taala grant is a toughy

to give sadaqa even with a small amount each month, a monthly date

if you're if you're earning money, you're getting money from

somewhere, you can give money, right? Just Just give a direct

debit if you keep forgetting to one of the organizations, you

know, there's all my welfare trust, there's lots of UW T. There

are lots of places give to your masjid, right, give to other do

something. This is some of the basic minimums and I want

everybody think about this today. Go home and actually start

thinking about it from now and then go home and put it into

action. Straight away. May Allah subhanaw taala grant myself and

everybody, all of us that Sophia to do good and to strengthen our

iman and strengthen our reliance in Allah subhanaw taala whereas if

Darwin and it happen to rely on Bedard, Amin