Abdur Rahman ibn Yusuf Mangera – Sha’rani’s Etiquette of the People of Allah On the Adab of Visiting Others

Abdur Rahman ibn Yusuf Mangera
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The speaker discusses the importance of being a "stappy hoe," being aware of the etiquette of being a "stappy hoe," and respecting the importance of the book of deeds. They stress the importance of understanding the etiquette of being a "stappy hoe," being mindful of one's parents' behavior, and not giving out too many things. The speaker also discusses the natural love of Islam and how it is rewarded for love, and provides information on how to transfer reward from Islam's book and the importance of learning and reading books to gain confidence.

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			Let me know that'd be him to
Athenahealth go kill validate the
		
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			whole familial whoa if he is in
either be Mahoma the worst thing
		
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			that you could do is give your
children ice cream or something
		
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			like that in front of other
children don't give it to them.
		
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			That is one of the worst things
that you could do. That's probably
		
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			torture. With adults it's probably
okay but with kids with children
		
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			you give your Here you go this is
a nice big feast for you, you
		
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			know, big connect or whatever it
is and the other kids are just
		
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			watching.
		
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			Bismillah R Rahman r Rahim Al
hamdu Lillahi wa Salatu was Salam
		
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			ala so you didn't want saline
wider, the or Safi or Baraka was
		
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			seldom at the Sleeman gefion
Ilario Medina Amma buried in
		
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			today's lesson of
		
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			the adverb
		
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			of Allah, masha Allah and he says
what can only come in Adobe him
		
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			Likewise it is from the etiquette
of the pious people and the people
		
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			of Allah. Duc de Mille fucky a
Seraph Al Faqih Al Mustafa
		
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			alphatauri.
		
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			The under fucky has served surly
men and NIFA Olivia Kofi Hinomoto
		
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			Theron Marzia de la Beloeil
Michelle Maria, bye but Allah may
		
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			Allah Yeah, but Allah Allah,
Allah, Allah, Allah Allah, Allah
		
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			Allah He feeding us and Hala min
and with authority for you to
		
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			depend on.
		
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			Again, as I've mentioned before,
he takes the deepened number of
		
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			occasions. Some of these things
		
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			need a bit of an explanation. But
in this one, he says that
		
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			the people of Allah, they do not
respect.
		
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			They do not give preference.
		
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			Or rather, let's say that they
actually give preference. They
		
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			give preference to a
straightforward jurist over the
		
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			one who's a jurist and who's also
trying to act like a Sufi.
		
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			So they have more respect for
somebody who just plays the part
		
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			of the jurist, not the one who is
a jurist, but tries to act like a
		
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			Sufi.
		
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			He says, because the one who is
the fucky only, he is going to be
		
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			devoid generally of NIFA can
hypocrisy
		
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			that comes about in a person who's
a wannabe suit, not a true Sufi,
		
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			but he's talking about the one
who's trying to act like a super
		
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			user wannabes, trying to make
himself look accomplished.
		
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			Despite the fact that one may have
more knowledge than the other one.
		
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			In fact, he says that the normal
person who's not even an alum who
		
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			just worships Allah will. And when
he when he is in need of something
		
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			complicated, something
complicated, create some kind of
		
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			Delta questions, and then he goes
and asks an island. So a normal
		
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			person who goes and consults with
the automa wherever there's a
		
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			need. On some Dini issue, he is in
a better state than the one who's
		
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			a wannabe.
		
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			Because the One A B is a person
with hypocrisy and the FARC, who
		
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			is outwardly trying to show
something that he's not incite.
		
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			So, now, this is obviously, the
people of Allah who have a good
		
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			insight about these things. We can
obviously, we have to be careful
		
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			about just being suspicious about
some people about people and
		
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			trying to misjudge this whole
affair. So may Allah subhanaw
		
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			taala protect us from all of the
calamities involved in this
		
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			aspect.
		
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			The next one, again, as as I've
said before, some of us may think
		
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			that some of these things are
quite extreme. But the reason why
		
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			they probably sound extreme is
because most of us are probably so
		
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			far off in terms of being
concerned about any etiquette at
		
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			all. When a person gets very
particular and refined in their
		
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			etiquette, then they will actually
the main things that seem
		
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			like things we would like to do,
they are already doing them. But
		
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			then because they are already
doing them, Allah subhanaw taala
		
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			opens up the path even more for
them to get even deeper in
		
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			etiquette, and in realizing and
recognizing the rights that people
		
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			have, and how the etiquette of any
kind of deed must be. Because when
		
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			you're so far off, we're just
going to look at big things, or
		
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			those are the big etiquettes. But
when you get more specific, then
		
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			you will be concerned even about
minor issues. So he deals with a
		
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			lot of minor issues in here, which
seems very far fetched for many of
		
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			us. That's why he makes this a bit
more complicated. So that's why he
		
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			says, you know, when you're going
to visit somebody, what should
		
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			your intention be and what should
the etiquette be when visiting
		
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			somebody? Now look at this, he
says that they do not go out to
		
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			visit anybody until they are
		
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			doing themselves with the
etiquette of visitation.
		
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			So they are very clear about the
etiquette of visitation. And they
		
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			make sure that they are concerned
about all of these things. What is
		
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			it a show it'll
		
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			to have a zeal and a desire
		
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			to go and visit a person. Don't
just go because it's a rite, don't
		
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			just go because they'll think bad
if you don't go, don't just go
		
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			because
		
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			you know, people will frown, if
you don't go, but go because
		
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			you've got a desire to go, also
have this conviction in your heart
		
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			that I'm going to get something
out of this from Allah subhanaw
		
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			taala. Consider that person to be
pure, and have some virtue. Also
		
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			have this intention that you will
get the baraka of the person's DUA
		
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			and his attention, the person will
be happy, and he will actually
		
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			give you to us.
		
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			The main thing he says is that
your intention should be very
		
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			clear, that the reason why you are
going to do Zerah and visit is to
		
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			fulfill the hokum of Allah, not
for any other reason. You're going
		
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			to visit to fulfill the hook of
Allah subhanho wa taala, that you
		
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			know, you should visit one
another, and your brother, etc.
		
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			Then, of course, when you're
there, you have to be protect your
		
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			tongue from
		
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			violating anybody's rights, and
anybody's honor because generally
		
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			when people get together, labor
can ensue. So be very careful
		
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			about that.
		
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			He says that if your visitation
does not have these etiquette, in
		
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			the follow enough, Ibiza, you
don't get any benefit and neither
		
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			do you get any reward.
		
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			So it's about correction of
intention, even in a thing like
		
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			visitation, which requires so much
effort to do anyway. It says bell
		
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			here the colorful one, the Falcon,
it's just all pretense, show and
		
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			ostentation. The next point he
makes his editorial hubs, the
		
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			hacker whom in an economy without
emu, Adobe, the author who are
		
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			aligning seems a bit quite extreme
in this regard. But he says it is
		
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			also the rights of it is also the
etiquette of the people of Allah
		
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			that they give
		
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			even bread they give bread to do.
Now, what you have to understand
		
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			about bread is that there are two
types of foods in the world.
		
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			For the most part that we
generally understand, although
		
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			there are others as well, which
are considered like the absolute
		
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			staple one is bread. When is rice.
However, if you go to parts of
		
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			Africa, it's kind of this more
like
		
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			a wheat, or barley or made of
something like that it's corn
		
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			actually, it's some kind of mash
that they make with that that is
		
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			the basic then they add everything
to that. Like, you know, for many
		
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			of us, it's roti, it's bread, and
they eat everything with bread.
		
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			That's why in some countries, they
actually call bread, Irish. Irish
		
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			means life.
		
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			And in some places, rice is what
dominates, they don't even know
		
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			bread.
		
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			Right. And in some places, all
bread, they don't even know much
		
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			about rice.
		
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			So for example, if you go to
Hyderabad, which has a wonderful
		
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			cuisine, but rice is actually
called Connor
		
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			rice is called food. So if you go
there and eat everything else and
		
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			you don't eat rice, then you are
offensive. Once I was at a
		
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			friend's grandfather's house, and
he had a number of variety of
		
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			foods there and for some reason we
feel like eating the rice and I
		
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			wasn't eating rice, I had
everything else. And he keeps
		
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			telling me kinda cow eat food, eat
food, and I've been eating there's
		
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			how much more you're going to eat.
I'm taking it literally how much
		
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			food are you going to eat? Then
after that they points to the
		
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			rice. That's when I figured out
that that is Connor, that is food.
		
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			The rest of it is not food. And is
number of stories like this. Were
		
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			in the oven with Dean there was a
Hyderabadi group that came there.
		
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			And the shake they told some of
the the people who are who serve
		
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			the guests that feed these people
so he fed them He fed them done
		
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			duty Nana, whatever, and some
curry and things like this, but
		
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			not rice when they came back. And
the sheikh asked the guest, kinda
		
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			kya Abner, which means Have you
eaten food? And they said, No, we
		
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			haven't eaten.
		
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			So he was very upset that they
haven't fed them. So you can tell
		
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			now this is just the way things
ought to be. It's such a staple.
		
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			It's such the absolute basic
essential that that's what it is.
		
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			So in countries like South Africa
and other places, they have this
		
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			kind of a mash that they make with
some kind of corn. And that's the
		
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			main thing and with that they have
their career, whatever it is that
		
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			they have with that. So that's
basically what it is. He's saying
		
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			that it looks like in Egypt bread
		
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			Something very important Oh
theories from EGP, says Aristotle
		
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			Hubzu haka who you must give your
you must honor the bread. That is
		
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			basically you get the benefit
from, you have to respect it, you
		
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			have to honor it. And he's saying
you have to kiss and put it on
		
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			your eyes as well.
		
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			Now, of course, that's an
exaggeration to show how much
		
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			respect you should give it doesn't
mean that every time the bread
		
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			comes, you must put it on your
eyes and, and kiss the bread. But
		
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			he's just saying saying that this
is just show respect to this that
		
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			don't just throw it around. And
then he mentioned he says that,
		
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			from the quotations of his chef,
say the ideal house, he says, er
		
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			calm and tada will observe a lot
of them in radio ha in the current
		
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			linearity layer as well. But be
careful, totally avoid placing
		
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			bread on the ground without having
anything in between like
		
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			completely just directly on the
ground, throw bread on the ground.
		
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			Now when it comes to these dainty
thin chimpanzees that we're used
		
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			to people don't do that with that,
but when it comes to this big
		
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			nons, and that you suddenly
suddenly think that they are more
		
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			durable or whatever, so people
actually do throw them on the
		
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			ground for some reason. It just
depends on where you are.
		
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			different cuisines have different
ways of doing these things. In
		
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			Saudi and other places, they just
lay out a plastic and throw a
		
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			whole load of rice on it right on
the plastic itself and people just
		
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			take their fifths and eat from it.
		
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			There's these different things. I
mean, they order tea in bags. Soup
		
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			is I remember in Morocco, we
ordered soup they gave it to us in
		
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			bags. So in Canada, they they sell
milk in bags. It just looks
		
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			strange for people who aren't used
to that. That's what it is. He
		
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			says don't just throw it on the
ground without anything in between
		
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			yes, if you have a duster handy,
if you have something there to put
		
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			underneath it then that's fine.
But he says the reason is that you
		
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			are degrading the name of Allah
subhanaw taala by just throwing it
		
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			on the ground like this. Alright,
shall we the Allah one who relates
		
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			he relates a hadith of eyeshot of
the Allah who I know
		
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			here, in which it says that once
		
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			somebody came to the Prophet
sallallahu alayhi wa sallam know
		
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			the prophets of Allah some came to
came into her room once and he saw
		
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			kiss Ratan yarby, certain Fiji dar
in wakad. Allah Allahu Akbar, he
		
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			saw this dry piece of bread that
was left on the on the side on one
		
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			of the shelves it seems
		
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			in the wall, and there was a lot
of dust on it. So seems like he'd
		
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			been there for a while. He took
it, the professor took it, he
		
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			kissed it, and he put it on his
eyes and he says yeah, Aisha
		
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			Arseny moja wallet near me Allah.
		
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			He says, treat food with
excellent.
		
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			That's not the literal translation
but the bounties of Allah subhanho
		
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			wa Taala you must have an
excellent relationship with it.
		
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			For internet amateur Calama Anna
ferrata Mina honey bait in fucka,
		
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			the third year la him very seldom
that the bounty of Allah would
		
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			escape from a person's home and
then come back. If you don't
		
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			respect it, it will depart from
the home then it will not come
		
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			back. Because it's been
disregarded.
		
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			even imagine be hockey related
this hadith. There's some
		
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			discussion about it. But yeah, I
mean Konami, say the AMA that
		
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			you've been referring another
quotation he has from armodafinil
		
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			Refer a
		
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			call can lead to a caramel hoodie,
go from being methylammonium
		
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			having shortcoming in honoring not
not sufficiently honoring the
		
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			breath is actually a
		
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			gopher means ungratefulness. With
the bounty of the giver of the
		
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			bounty, which is Allah subhanaw
taala Vegeta he Doofy Karami Mr.
		
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			Torre, I don't. So try as much as
you can to honor it as much as you
		
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			can. And pick up whatever drops,
don't just leave it on the ground,
		
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			until the end of the food, because
it is part of honoring the bounty
		
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			of Allah because honoring the
bounty of Allah is honoring Allah
		
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			Himself, because of where it's
coming from. You know, for
		
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			example, somebody gives you
something and you just kind of
		
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			throw it to the side somebody came
and gave you an idea, a gift, and
		
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			he had like, Okay, thank you very
much. There's like a lot here and
		
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			you just put it on the side. No
respect. No, you know what they're
		
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			gonna think I'm just giving him
this thing. Allah subhanaw taala
		
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			gives us all of these things. So
we need to show respect. Now, of
		
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			course, he's talking about bread
here, which is the most basic
		
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			essential element here. But of
course, he means all types of food
		
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			must go with that. It says that
Allah subhanho wa Taala does not
		
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			test people with expense, with
food becoming expensive and time
		
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			Till until they have degraded
		
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			a seed for its cheapness.
		
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			When things are cheap and you
consider them to be degraded
		
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			because they're so cheap, then
Allah subhanaw taala will
		
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			put you in a fitna put people in a
fitna that things will become
		
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			expensive. Prices overnight will
double sometimes as they did in
		
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			2007, and eight, literally, things
went double the double the price.
		
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			Just recently, the flour and a few
other things have come back down.
		
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			But it just went up all night
because it's all it's all produced
		
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			by through the nature. And Allah
subhanaw taala is in control of
		
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			all of that.
		
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			That's why he says that there is a
traditional way in which he
		
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			mentions that you know, a bowl of
ball of dough. This is not going
		
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			to be eaten until I mean, he says
360 Different creatures have had
		
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			something to do with it.
		
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			Starting from Mikhail Ali's
		
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			because the reason I probably
mentioned to be kinda Islam is
		
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			because he's the one in charge of
the rain and provisions, how much
		
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			to give where so it starts off
from there and then everything in
		
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			between. We're talking about not
just the flour and adding the
		
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			water, but everything the way it's
produced from the water, and the
		
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			flour and everything else in
between. And how many of Allah's
		
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			creations it goes through until
eventually ends up as this dough
		
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			in front of the person in the
house. He states this as a
		
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			narration but
		
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			Which Imam because it is also
mentioned here, but Allama Iraqi
		
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			says that he couldn't find any
basis to this narration. If it is
		
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			a narration he doesn't mention
that it's from the Prophet
		
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			sallallahu. So anyway,
		
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			and then he says that by the way,
if enough he tells him in general
		
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			so Allah Jalla who ideally wrote
Utila, if you had either saw me
		
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			for Hatha and for her tonight the
Iftari you have for her tonight
		
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			the Laker rugby. It is sufficient
for us to prove that the honoring
		
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			bread is important is that the
Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa
		
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			sallam has made it similar to
seeing Allah subhanaw taala. And
		
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			what does he mean by that? You
know, the famous Hadith says that
		
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			the person who fasts he has two
sources of joy. The person who is
		
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			fasting is going to have two
sources of joy two times that he's
		
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			going to be very joyful and he's
going to get this extreme level of
		
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			happiness one is when you have a
star How would you how good do you
		
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			feel? And the other one is when
you meet your Lord so he's saying
		
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			that you know when you break your
fast I guess in Egypt where he was
		
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			his breaking fast was bread so
that's why bread features so
		
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			prominently there but some of you
may say that well we do some
		
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			muscles instead. You know, we
don't touch bread at that time or
		
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			we don't touch roti at that time.
You know, we have soup instead of
		
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			something like that. Or we have
rice or Bangladeshi brothers
		
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			saying we have rice we don't touch
bread anyway. So what's what's
		
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			going on here? So of course this
is just his explanation for it.
		
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			Yeah, I've been to a number of
Bangladeshi weddings and there's
		
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			only one mashallah I went to one
doubt and they actually had bread
		
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			there because so Bangladeshis, you
should you should have bread in
		
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			your weddings if you're calling
none Bangladeshis. Just just that
		
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			advice. Because when you call
guests so in Gujarati is having
		
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			when they you know, that's why I
really get irritated when you go
		
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			to a wedding and they made it so
hot the food, they think
		
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			everybody's fine with it just
because you like it that way.
		
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			And that's not being and that's
why, you know, when you invite
		
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			people and then there's a lot of
children there and they can't eat
		
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			that whole food, they go hungry.
So a person needs to be
		
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			considerate of what kind of guests
he's getting and, and try to cater
		
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			for that because you want to bring
them happiness. Not just do it
		
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			your way type of thing.
		
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			Another thing he says here,
another of the other above the
		
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			people of Allah is either follow
him in academia, academia homea,
		
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			Quran Alhamdulillah Robben Island
I mean either colohan is to praise
		
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			Allah after you finished your
food. Once you've eaten, anything
		
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			that's been placed in front of you
and you've eaten it used to say
		
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			all praises to Allah, Lord of the
Worlds on every state
		
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			Alhamdulillah Hilah de Beynac
Muttahida tea masala huts or
		
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			praises to Allah, through whose
bounties all good righteous things
		
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			are completed and accomplished
with our own will Bearcats and
		
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			blessing becomes universally
applied. Were Corona, Surah
		
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			Dekoration Surah floss, and he
mentioned that they also read sort
		
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			of Qureshi, Illa Quraysh and
suitably floss.
		
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			Another of the Adobe's either in
the ad in Lemieux Yahoo German and
		
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			he had trouble again this season.
		
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			Very traditional kind of points
for something in Egypt. He's
		
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			saying that when these people eat
by anybody when they've come to
		
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			your house to eat, they will then
not just leave without drinking
		
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			something
		
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			without drinking something because
they've said that mean Bulkeley
		
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			Sophia and yeah, cool. Well,
Ayesha,
		
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			it is part of the miserliness of a
Sufi that he eats, but he doesn't
		
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			drink somewhere.
		
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			Now, you might be thinking, we
don't generally offer to drink
		
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			afterwards anyway. You know, it's
just food. Because in some
		
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			traditions, tea is very, very
important.
		
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			So they have to have these numbers
of these cups of the small tea.
		
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			So if you're just eating and then
you refuse the tea, it's
		
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			considered bad.
		
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			Whereas for us, I don't think it's
a big deal. You want to you guys?
		
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			No, no, I don't see, okay, no
problem. You don't have to have
		
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			the tea. It's a bit more
easygoing. But that's offensive.
		
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			That's why even in Mauritania,
they would bring you literally
		
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			like a sip of tea in, you know,
everybody gets one sip, they go
		
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			out and make another sip for
everybody and bring it back in. So
		
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			you have to have three sips, which
means three times they come in.
		
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			And if you say NAFTA, the second
one is considered offensive. So
		
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			it's just all of these traditions.
I remember when I was in Syria,
		
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			you go to somebody's somebody's
house, and they give you Arabic
		
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			coffee, not the Saudi stuff. But
this is Arabic oil is really
		
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			strong, dark black coffee, not the
Saudi cover, right?
		
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			The only tastes good with dates.
		
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			This black coffee, they always
serve a small cup of black coffee
		
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			is like an espresso espresso with
a big glass of water. And the
		
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			whole point is that you shouldn't
be drinking the water. If you
		
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			drink the water after the coffee
means you didn't like the coffee.
		
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			Now, I had no idea about this, I
used to go to my neighbor's house,
		
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			he used to make me this coffee. So
I used to drink the coffee. And
		
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			then I used to feel like I need
the water to wash it down with and
		
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			I liked the coffee wasn't I didn't
like the coffee. And then only
		
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			later towards the end of the year
that I discovered that I shouldn't
		
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			have been drinking, but hopefully
he just thought this guy's
		
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			imaginably strange or foreign.
It's okay. You know,
		
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			people have different cultures.
And sometimes people become
		
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			extremely offended when you don't
do it and you don't know.
		
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			So cheap.
		
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			Another of the other of the people
have a life either.
		
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			When they eat, than they are also
taking good care of the people
		
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			around them. They're not selfish
in the way they're eating.
		
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			So they are making sure that
others also get their right from
		
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			it.
		
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			So just because they, you know,
are the main guests or something
		
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			like that they're not going to
take the best pieces, the best
		
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			parts, but they're considerate
about others. That's why say the
		
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			ADL Havas Rahim Allah used to say
that when you eat food, then also
		
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			feed the one who is present.
Especially if you want the benefit
		
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			at the boundaries of Allah to
remain permanently above you, over
		
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			you, if you want Allah's bounties
to to reach you constantly, then
		
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			make sure you also look about
look, look after others, whoever
		
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			eats
		
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			and he has eyes looking at him
eating and he doesn't feed them
		
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			that Allah subhanho wa Taala will
afflict him with a particular type
		
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			of disease.
		
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			Now this is his statement this is
probably his experience that's why
		
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			he's saying
		
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			the most difficult place to eat
like this is in a poor country in
		
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			a restaurant when people are
watching you. Especially if it's
		
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			outside
		
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			it just really weird to eat like
that when there's people who you
		
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			know are dying for food and you
have to go and eat. It feels just
		
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			so uncomfortable.
		
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			Let me know that'd be him to
Athenahealth go kill validate the
		
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			whole funnel whoa if he is in
either be Mahoma the worst thing
		
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			that you could do is give your
children ice cream or something
		
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			like that in front of other
children don't give it to them.
		
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			That is one of the worst things
that you could do. That's probably
		
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			torture. With adults it's probably
okay but with kids with children,
		
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			you give your hair you go this is
a nice big feast for you, you know
		
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			big Kinect or whatever it is and
the other kids are just watching.
		
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			Ice cream is an expensive
proposition when you've got a lot
		
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			of children
		
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			that are the Mohawk invalidates
the whole familiar will go if it
		
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			is artilleryman. Now he goes on to
parents and he says that another
		
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			of the etiquette is that they have
full on full honor for the rights
		
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			of their parents. They they honor
their parents so fully so wholly
		
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			so completely just out of fear,
just out of fear that they don't
		
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			fall into some kind of bad
etiquette with their parents, or
		
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			that they actually become even
disobedience. They're just careful
		
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			of that that they don't even want
to say about what
		
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			he says because what is the
boundary of when you are
		
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			disobedient to your parents.
		
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			That is a very, very
		
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			that boundary is very unclear.
		
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			Because you don't know what's
going to hurt their heart.
		
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			It's a very, very difficult
boundary.
		
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			Basically, he says that generally
it's taken us everything that will
		
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			go against
		
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			the intentions and purposes of the
parents in anything that is even
		
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			permissible.
		
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			And what you have to understand,
he says is that after the help of
		
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			Allah subhanaw taala, and the help
of his messenger SallAllahu Taala
		
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			says, There is no hug greater than
that of the parents.
		
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			So, you know, a lot of the time we
think we don't consider our
		
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			parents respect to be that
important because it seems like
		
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			Gilkey juice, just something at
home something not a big deal.
		
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			But, you know, if somebody told
you that this is disrespect of
		
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			your prophet, can you imagine how
bad that would sound? You know, we
		
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			are very careful and cautious that
we don't disrespect Allah or His
		
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			messenger.
		
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			But then we quite easily
disrespect our parents without any
		
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			kind of guilt. So then a person
should think that just as I
		
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			consider it's so so much of a
violation
		
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			that I disrespect Allah or his
messenger likewise, I should not
		
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			disrespect my parent I should be
very careful about that.
		
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			It requires a lot of patience
that's what it does.
		
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			See, the ideal house used to say
that it is the from among the
		
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			rights of your parents upon you is
that you listen to their words.
		
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			You listen to their speech, you
listen to them speaking with the
		
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			Coonley pa Mahima. You stand when
they stand. The Hill, Amara Huma,
		
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			you follow the orders as far as
possible, while attempt she amama
		
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			Huma you don't walk in front of
them, unless you're going to open
		
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			door you're helping them out doing
something but generally walk
		
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			behind them out of respect.
Whether TopHat Sota kafele kasoti
		
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			Hema Don't raise your voice over
their voice how many of us
		
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			are careful about this? How many
of us are guilty about it until
		
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			it's actually become a norm and
the parents don't even seem to
		
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			mind anymore? They may do deep
down but they can't even bother
		
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			saying anything now because there
are so many other things that
		
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			we're doing that this is probably
the least of them.
		
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			Just to keep the peace in the
house they probably don't saying
		
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			anything.
		
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			That coma we can't do you know we
wish better love we're going to
		
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			fight to
		
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			what the Father Jana Hakka, Lahoma
be humble in front of them. Don't
		
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			be arrogant. Wala terminado Hema
bilberry Rila Houma, Wallah Bill
		
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			Kia, maybe I'm Rahima Do not ever
remind them of what you've done
		
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			for them. Like, Oh, I did that for
you, I did that we did that all
		
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			the time.
		
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			I have done that for you. I'm
always doing stuff for you.
		
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			Do not remind them of your favors
of any good deed that you've done
		
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			for them. Or when you've done
something for them, whether tanto
		
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			la Hema schezwan don't look at
them askew, don't look at them,
		
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			you know, with your sides of your
eyes, or in this weird way that
		
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			just makes them upset and do not
get angry in their face. And
		
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			another one is, if you're eating
with them, don't take all the
		
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			better food and from before them.
		
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			But give them preference over
yourself.
		
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			And try your best be avidly trying
to attain their pleasure.
		
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			It's not easy, in many cases, not
easy. You've got parents that are
		
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			very easygoing, it doesn't take
much to get them happy, then it's
		
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			easier for you. That doesn't mean
that in that case, a lot of the
		
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			challenge would be that people
become very lacks in that regard.
		
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			Because the parents don't say
anything. They don't seem to show
		
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			anything, though deep down, they
probably hurt.
		
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			And sometimes the parents are just
so strict and you can never please
		
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			them. They are unbelievable. Then
you've got another challenge, but
		
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			it just requires effort as far as
possible. If you make a mistake,
		
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			you do Toba and you seek
forgiveness.
		
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			What happened? Where did he the
hackle? While the dealer fee?
		
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			Well, how could a leader the right
of a mother is multiplied or is
		
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			double that of the right of a
biological father? As we know from
		
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			the Hadith,
		
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			what a man Why did the Dean How
about your Dini father, which
		
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			means your teacher?
		
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			He says that then that's possible
that that teacher of yours be even
		
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			of a higher state
		
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			and do more right than even your
mother.
		
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			Which the reason he's saying that
is because
		
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			that teacher is the one who's
creating the spirit of the deen in
		
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			you. He's the one who's helping to
develop your deen and your iman.
		
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			But this can only happen I
		
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			After you fulfill the rights of
your parents, first,
		
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			anybody who puts his shake in
front of his parents, then that
		
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			means he is not respectful to any
one of them.
		
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			Because a true faith would never
be satisfied that his students
		
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			will be disrespecting of their
parents, in respect for him,
		
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			just doesn't work. So it means in
the equation, all of them are
		
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			wrong.
		
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			He then says, another right of
your parents is that you don't
		
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			call them by name. You don't
address them by name.
		
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			Unfortunately, in some, in some
families from a young age that,
		
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			you know, if a child has older
brothers, sorry, if the child has,
		
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			if a child is living, especially
with the grandparents and so on,
		
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			the grandparents are calling their
son, the mother or the father by
		
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			their name.
		
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			Ha, Ahmed, the child has what they
hear, instead of saying amoeba, or
		
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			whatever it is, they say, Ahmed,
Aisha, you know, they say that,
		
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			and sometimes people don't think
it's sounds cute, or whatever the
		
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			case is, they just leave it and
then they grow up speaking like
		
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			that.
		
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			By calling their parents by their
own names.
		
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			So don't call them by name, their
names. He says that if anybody
		
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			does call them by their names,
then he is disrespectful to them.
		
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			They might say, well, they don't
consider disrespectful.
		
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			Well, if you are in a culture is
not considered disrespectful at
		
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			all, then maybe it'd be of a
lighter, lighter sin, but
		
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			otherwise, it is it is still to be
avoided.
		
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			I mean, I don't know of any
culture, they call them by names,
		
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			you know, any culture.
		
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			I mean, you do get people to do
it, but I don't think it's the
		
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			norm even in this even in the
culture outside here to do that.
		
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			Okay, then he comes on to the
wives. He says another of the
		
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			other bits that they love their
family.
		
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			Maha Bashara? Yeah.
		
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			The love that they have is based
on the Sharia.
		
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			Not just the natural love that
you'd feel anyway.
		
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			The natural, the natural love
you'd feel anyway is you don't get
		
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			rewarded for them.
		
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			But you get reward for loving them
because the shittier wants you to
		
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			love them.
		
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			He says because if you just got a
natural inclination, then that's
		
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			just shower. That's just your
desire anyway.
		
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			And Shaq would definitely
generally is a veil between you
		
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			and Allah subhanaw taala so you're
losing out.
		
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			He says that know that Allah
subhanaw taala hubub Elena Nisa
		
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			Bihac. Me, Toby.
		
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			He said that he's talking to the
men obviously he's saying that
		
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			know that Allah subhanaw taala has
made women Beloved to us,
		
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			naturally speaking,
		
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			just by nature, women are very
Beloved to us.
		
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			And then Allah subhanaw taala has
told us to exert ourselves to
		
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			release ourselves from the that
natural love and love them for the
		
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			sake of the Sharia. Which means
that just because you feel
		
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			inclined to a woman that is haram,
for you, that is wrong, then.
		
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			Because if you have to come out of
that, and only take it when it's
		
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			surely Sharia, then you will only
do it when it's halal, then a
		
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			person will be careful about where
they express their love.
		
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			That's what he's trying to say.
		
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			And he says, there's very few
people who can get this right, who
		
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			can exert themselves to not love
them by nature only, but for the
		
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			sake of the Sharia, very few
people can have that refined kind
		
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			of understanding.
		
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			When we see these things, when you
hear these things, it just tells
		
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			us how far we are, how much more
work we've got to do.
		
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			In fact, say the after routine, he
mentioned that a person who just
		
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			always sitting around women
		
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			he lose his intellect, he lose his
virtues.
		
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			And
		
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			Allah subhanaw taala will not
enter His heart because generally
		
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			it's gonna lead to haram these
kinds of things, which is loves to
		
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			just sit around with women and
speak to them.
		
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			shaytaan will lay an egg
		
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			in him and that will germinate
just his gross way of saying it I
		
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			guess. It says another thing which
is very interesting. He says that
		
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			another of the etiquette. He says
that they honor every righteous
		
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			pious person who is not so well
known, but he is known to be just
		
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			very regular on his worship. Dan
		
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			The one who is well known for his
Corolla math,
		
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			but may have some other issues.
		
00:35:09 --> 00:35:13
			He says the reason is that the
duniya is not the place to look at
		
00:35:14 --> 00:35:20
			conclusions and consequences that
this is a place for Daraa, Cleef.
		
00:35:20 --> 00:35:23
			And this is a place of
accountability and, and
		
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			responsibility. So he says that
anybody that you see who's trying
		
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			their best to adhere to the faith
is going to be superior to the one
		
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			who is expressing all of these
extraordinary things,
		
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			extraordinary things that happened
in the Hereafter, if somebody is
		
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			just doing that, and showing off
that in this world, but they don't
		
00:35:40 --> 00:35:44
			have as much steadfastness on the
path, then they're not as good as
		
00:35:44 --> 00:35:50
			the one who's come subdued, not so
well known, but most of the key.
		
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			This just opens up our eyes in the
right way of looking at these
		
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			things.
		
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			Then he says, another of the
etiquette is that they will never
		
00:36:01 --> 00:36:05
			persist on a sin. If they ever do
fall in a sin, they'll come out of
		
00:36:05 --> 00:36:09
			it, they won't persist and keep
doing it. Because to persist on
		
00:36:09 --> 00:36:13
			any sin is of one of the most
detrimental, dangerous,
		
00:36:13 --> 00:36:17
			destructive factors. What does 002
be could be rotten, and even a
		
00:36:17 --> 00:36:20
			minus in them becomes a major sin
by persistence on it.
		
00:36:23 --> 00:36:27
			Now, how do you determine when
you've been persistent on
		
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			something? Then it once, twice,
thrice? How does How is
		
00:36:31 --> 00:36:36
			persistence determined? It says
some of the mushy, they have
		
00:36:36 --> 00:36:39
			defined persistence that a person
		
00:36:40 --> 00:36:46
			procrastinates in his dua, a
person delays his Tober his Tober
		
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			until
		
00:36:48 --> 00:36:50
			the next of the five daily prayers
come about.
		
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			So a person did a sin and then he
didn't make Toba straightaway. Or
		
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			if he didn't do it straightaway,
he waited until the next prayer
		
00:36:58 --> 00:37:01
			time, and then that prayer time
came he still didn't make. So
		
00:37:01 --> 00:37:03
			basically saying that before the
next prayer time comes you should
		
00:37:03 --> 00:37:05
			we should be making Toba from all
of our sins.
		
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			The next part is something very,
very useful. Lots of people ask
		
00:37:13 --> 00:37:17
			this question. And it probably
applies to the majority of us, if
		
00:37:17 --> 00:37:20
			not to all of us. This is the
question of you know when you've
		
00:37:20 --> 00:37:21
			done it, but about somebody.
		
00:37:23 --> 00:37:26
			When you've had a when you've made
some allegations about somebody or
		
00:37:26 --> 00:37:30
			you've thought some bad points
about somebody, and they don't
		
00:37:30 --> 00:37:33
			know about it, one is they don't
know about it. One is they know
		
00:37:33 --> 00:37:36
			about it. Now, if they don't know
about it, you're gonna tell them I
		
00:37:36 --> 00:37:39
			spoke about you, this is what I
thought about you is going to
		
00:37:39 --> 00:37:41
			actually aggravate the matter in
most cases.
		
00:37:42 --> 00:37:44
			Abraham, I just make Toba and I
just want to ask you a
		
00:37:44 --> 00:37:45
			forgiveness. Well, what did you
do?
		
00:37:47 --> 00:37:49
			Or just about something there's no
What did you do? I said, Oh, I
		
00:37:49 --> 00:37:53
			missed seeing the other day and
started saying who was with you?
		
00:37:54 --> 00:37:58
			What did they say? It just gets
too complicated. So this is a very
		
00:37:58 --> 00:38:01
			important, very useful point that
he makes here. He says,
		
00:38:02 --> 00:38:05
			number one, he says it is of the
etiquette also.
		
00:38:07 --> 00:38:11
			That if they ever had bad thoughts
about somebody or did rebut about
		
00:38:11 --> 00:38:15
			backbiting somebody and that
person doesn't know about that.
		
00:38:16 --> 00:38:19
			Meaning the other person didn't
know that they've done it, then
		
00:38:19 --> 00:38:22
			what they will do this is their
way of expiation compensation,
		
00:38:22 --> 00:38:24
			they will recite Surah Fatiha
		
00:38:26 --> 00:38:31
			solo to the class. So little
follow up uncertainness And then
		
00:38:31 --> 00:38:36
			they will reward take the reward
of this and ask Allah to send it
		
00:38:36 --> 00:38:42
			into the deeds of the one that
they targeted in that regard. So
		
00:38:42 --> 00:38:44
			they're basically recertified They
assaulted a class called cloth
		
00:38:44 --> 00:38:47
			barrel for colada Mira bananas,
and say to Allah to give the
		
00:38:47 --> 00:38:50
			reward of this to that person's
book. So book of deeds.
		
00:38:53 --> 00:38:57
			How do you do this? How do you ask
Allah subhanaw taala to transfer
		
00:38:57 --> 00:39:01
			the reward Allahumma salli wa
salam ala and Abiko habibi. So you
		
00:39:01 --> 00:39:05
			didn't know Mohammed was the he
was a 70 Allama Karatu Who was
		
00:39:05 --> 00:39:09
			your annual fee Sahaja if you have
the Calphalon. So hi. If you
		
00:39:09 --> 00:39:13
			Abacha for learning of Allah, send
your blessings and peace upon your
		
00:39:13 --> 00:39:18
			Prophet and your beloved Savior,
Mohammed and his family, reward me
		
00:39:18 --> 00:39:24
			for I've recited and put this
reward or have this reward entered
		
00:39:24 --> 00:39:27
			into the book of deeds of that
certain servant of yours you take
		
00:39:27 --> 00:39:27
			his name.
		
00:39:29 --> 00:39:31
			So you send blessings on the solar
system and then you ask Allah to
		
00:39:31 --> 00:39:32
			send the reward there.
		
00:39:33 --> 00:39:35
			He has a little note here he says
that
		
00:39:36 --> 00:39:40
			anybody who it is appropriate for
the one who knows
		
00:39:43 --> 00:39:48
			that he has rights to be fulfilled
for others, he owes people rights
		
00:39:48 --> 00:39:52
			of either wealth, or have saying
bad things about them. One is
		
00:39:52 --> 00:39:54
			tangible, one is intangible.
		
00:39:55 --> 00:39:58
			And then, you see one is that you
owe somebody something but they're
		
00:39:58 --> 00:40:00
			not willing to forgive you. They
		
00:40:00 --> 00:40:02
			You know, for example, but they
said, No, I'm not gonna forgive
		
00:40:02 --> 00:40:02
			you.
		
00:40:03 --> 00:40:06
			Or, for example, you owe somebody
something and you can't find them.
		
00:40:07 --> 00:40:13
			Or they're not willing to forgive
you, or you can't pay them back
		
00:40:13 --> 00:40:17
			because you just don't have the
money. Then what do you do at the
		
00:40:17 --> 00:40:20
			end of the day, and you're about
to die, you think, even though I
		
00:40:20 --> 00:40:24
			mean, we should be, we should be,
we should be prepared to die at
		
00:40:24 --> 00:40:27
			any moment, basically. But, you
know, you know what I mean? How if
		
00:40:27 --> 00:40:30
			somebody knows, the first one was
about if somebody didn't know,
		
00:40:32 --> 00:40:36
			in this one, they know, and you
can't satisfy them, because you
		
00:40:36 --> 00:40:39
			don't have the ability to satisfy
them and they're not willing to
		
00:40:39 --> 00:40:41
			satisfy you. So
		
00:40:42 --> 00:40:47
			you should read it with with great
concentration. So literally plus
		
00:40:47 --> 00:40:52
			12 times. Now again, I don't think
this is from a hadith. This is
		
00:40:52 --> 00:40:56
			some personal experience that has
probably been passed down that
		
00:40:56 --> 00:41:00
			they found that it's useful, so
you can do any of this you want.
		
00:41:00 --> 00:41:04
			But since he's not quoted it from
a hadith I doubt it's from a
		
00:41:04 --> 00:41:07
			hadith he says number one, you
recite Surah to the class 12 times
		
00:41:08 --> 00:41:11
			so the the class 12 times and then
		
00:41:13 --> 00:41:17
			the cloud grumpy fella could also
be robbing us. Every night you do
		
00:41:17 --> 00:41:24
			this. And you reward you send the
reward of all of this into the
		
00:41:24 --> 00:41:26
			record books of these people.
		
00:41:27 --> 00:41:30
			The way to send it is Allahumma
salli wa salam ala and the vehicle
		
00:41:30 --> 00:41:33
			a hobby because you didn't know
Mohammed, you were early. What a
		
00:41:33 --> 00:41:37
			70 Alhama caught up to who was
your own houfy Saha if human
		
00:41:37 --> 00:41:42
			Allahu Allah, the vitamin A
Burdick, Merlin, were Eldon of
		
00:41:42 --> 00:41:45
			Allah send your blessings and
peace upon your Prophet and
		
00:41:45 --> 00:41:49
			beloved, our leader, Muhammad, and
it's a lot, it's him and his
		
00:41:49 --> 00:41:55
			family, and reward me for what
I've read what I've recited, and
		
00:41:55 --> 00:42:00
			place it into the book of deeds of
the one who, among Your servants,
		
00:42:00 --> 00:42:01
			I have these rights.
		
00:42:03 --> 00:42:04
			And
		
00:42:05 --> 00:42:08
			whether that be wealth, or whether
that be their honor.
		
00:42:10 --> 00:42:14
			Now, of course, if the person
knows, and you then leave, then
		
00:42:14 --> 00:42:15
			you have to go and ask them.
		
00:42:16 --> 00:42:19
			But when it's a condition where
they say, No, I'm not gonna help
		
00:42:19 --> 00:42:19
			you.
		
00:42:20 --> 00:42:24
			I'm never going to forgive you for
the rest of my life. And the
		
00:42:24 --> 00:42:26
			person is crying, it's just
torture, basically, that then
		
00:42:26 --> 00:42:29
			becomes torture. Generally
speaking, unless the person has a
		
00:42:29 --> 00:42:32
			good reason he thinks you're
lying, or whatever the case cases,
		
00:42:32 --> 00:42:34
			but at the end of the day, if
we're sincere, and they're not
		
00:42:34 --> 00:42:38
			willing to forgive us, then we do
this, we pray for them, we do
		
00:42:38 --> 00:42:38
			something for them.
		
00:42:39 --> 00:42:44
			Another of the other is that when
a person wants to take a loan from
		
00:42:44 --> 00:42:47
			someone, he needs money, or he
needs something, to borrow from
		
00:42:47 --> 00:42:50
			someone, they turn with their
heart to Allah subhanho wa taala.
		
00:42:50 --> 00:42:54
			And they say, Oh Allah, you're the
one who gives the loan.
		
00:42:55 --> 00:42:58
			You're the one who is responsible
for loan giving, and for loan
		
00:42:58 --> 00:43:00
			transferring. So
		
00:43:02 --> 00:43:06
			take with my hands sadaqa, from
among your sadaqa upon me.
		
00:43:07 --> 00:43:10
			So this is a way to take the
blessing of Allah subhanho wa
		
00:43:10 --> 00:43:12
			Taala in that regard, because as
the Prophet sallallahu sallam said
		
00:43:12 --> 00:43:16
			that anybody who takes a loan with
an intention to repay it, Allah
		
00:43:16 --> 00:43:18
			will help them repay it, and
anybody who takes it with no
		
00:43:18 --> 00:43:21
			intention to repay it, then that
money will be destroyed.
		
00:43:22 --> 00:43:26
			So if you are in need of a loan,
you make sure you have the clear
		
00:43:26 --> 00:43:28
			intention of paying back Allah
will help you with that.
		
00:43:29 --> 00:43:32
			Okay, we'll stop here. The next
point he makes actually, which
		
00:43:32 --> 00:43:35
			we'll deal with Next time is about
the family of the Prophet
		
00:43:35 --> 00:43:39
			salallahu Alaihe Salam, and then
he discusses exactly where in
		
00:43:39 --> 00:43:42
			Cairo, any of the descendants of
the prophets, Allah, some are
		
00:43:42 --> 00:43:46
			buried and there's quite a few of
the grandchildren of Allah, the
		
00:43:46 --> 00:43:47
			Allah are buried there.
		
00:43:51 --> 00:43:55
			The point of a lecture is to
encourage people to act to get
		
00:43:55 --> 00:44:00
			further an inspiration, and
encouragement, persuasion. The
		
00:44:00 --> 00:44:04
			next step is to actually start
learning seriously, to read books
		
00:44:04 --> 00:44:07
			to take on a subject of Islam and
to understand all the subjects of
		
00:44:07 --> 00:44:11
			Islam at least at the basic level,
so that we can become more aware
		
00:44:11 --> 00:44:15
			of what our deen wants from us.
And that's why we started Rayyan
		
00:44:15 --> 00:44:20
			courses, so that you can actually
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00:44:21 --> 00:44:23
			whenever you have free time,
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00:44:23 --> 00:44:27
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00:44:27 --> 00:44:32
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00:44:32 --> 00:44:37
			end of that inshallah you will
have gotten the basics of most of
		
00:44:37 --> 00:44:40
			the most important topics in Islam
and you will feel a lot more
		
00:44:40 --> 00:44:42
			confident. You don't have to leave
lectures behind you can continue
		
00:44:42 --> 00:44:45
			to live, you know, to listen to
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00:44:45 --> 00:44:49
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