Abdur Rahman ibn Yusuf Mangera – Sha’rani’s Etiquette of the People of Allah On the Adab of Visiting Others
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that you could do is give your children ice cream or something
like that in front of other children don't give it to them.
That is one of the worst things that you could do. That's probably
torture. With adults it's probably okay but with kids with children
you give your Here you go this is a nice big feast for you, you
know, big connect or whatever it is and the other kids are just
watching.
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depend on.
Again, as I've mentioned before, he takes the deepened number of
occasions. Some of these things
need a bit of an explanation. But in this one, he says that
the people of Allah, they do not respect.
They do not give preference.
Or rather, let's say that they actually give preference. They
give preference to a straightforward jurist over the
one who's a jurist and who's also trying to act like a Sufi.
So they have more respect for somebody who just plays the part
of the jurist, not the one who is a jurist, but tries to act like a
Sufi.
He says, because the one who is the fucky only, he is going to be
devoid generally of NIFA can hypocrisy
that comes about in a person who's a wannabe suit, not a true Sufi,
but he's talking about the one who's trying to act like a super
user wannabes, trying to make himself look accomplished.
Despite the fact that one may have more knowledge than the other one.
In fact, he says that the normal person who's not even an alum who
just worships Allah will. And when he when he is in need of something
complicated, something complicated, create some kind of
Delta questions, and then he goes and asks an island. So a normal
person who goes and consults with the automa wherever there's a
need. On some Dini issue, he is in a better state than the one who's
a wannabe.
Because the One A B is a person with hypocrisy and the FARC, who
is outwardly trying to show something that he's not incite.
So, now, this is obviously, the people of Allah who have a good
insight about these things. We can obviously, we have to be careful
about just being suspicious about some people about people and
trying to misjudge this whole affair. So may Allah subhanaw
taala protect us from all of the calamities involved in this
aspect.
The next one, again, as as I've said before, some of us may think
that some of these things are quite extreme. But the reason why
they probably sound extreme is because most of us are probably so
far off in terms of being concerned about any etiquette at
all. When a person gets very particular and refined in their
etiquette, then they will actually the main things that seem
like things we would like to do, they are already doing them. But
then because they are already doing them, Allah subhanaw taala
opens up the path even more for them to get even deeper in
etiquette, and in realizing and recognizing the rights that people
have, and how the etiquette of any kind of deed must be. Because when
you're so far off, we're just going to look at big things, or
those are the big etiquettes. But when you get more specific, then
you will be concerned even about minor issues. So he deals with a
lot of minor issues in here, which seems very far fetched for many of
us. That's why he makes this a bit more complicated. So that's why he
says, you know, when you're going to visit somebody, what should
your intention be and what should the etiquette be when visiting
somebody? Now look at this, he says that they do not go out to
visit anybody until they are
doing themselves with the etiquette of visitation.
So they are very clear about the etiquette of visitation. And they
make sure that they are concerned about all of these things. What is
it a show it'll
to have a zeal and a desire
to go and visit a person. Don't just go because it's a rite, don't
just go because they'll think bad if you don't go, don't just go
because
you know, people will frown, if you don't go, but go because
you've got a desire to go, also have this conviction in your heart
that I'm going to get something out of this from Allah subhanaw
taala. Consider that person to be pure, and have some virtue. Also
have this intention that you will get the baraka of the person's DUA
and his attention, the person will be happy, and he will actually
give you to us.
The main thing he says is that your intention should be very
clear, that the reason why you are going to do Zerah and visit is to
fulfill the hokum of Allah, not for any other reason. You're going
to visit to fulfill the hook of Allah subhanho wa taala, that you
know, you should visit one another, and your brother, etc.
Then, of course, when you're there, you have to be protect your
tongue from
violating anybody's rights, and anybody's honor because generally
when people get together, labor can ensue. So be very careful
about that.
He says that if your visitation does not have these etiquette, in
the follow enough, Ibiza, you don't get any benefit and neither
do you get any reward.
So it's about correction of intention, even in a thing like
visitation, which requires so much effort to do anyway. It says bell
here the colorful one, the Falcon, it's just all pretense, show and
ostentation. The next point he makes his editorial hubs, the
hacker whom in an economy without emu, Adobe, the author who are
aligning seems a bit quite extreme in this regard. But he says it is
also the rights of it is also the etiquette of the people of Allah
that they give
even bread they give bread to do. Now, what you have to understand
about bread is that there are two types of foods in the world.
For the most part that we generally understand, although
there are others as well, which are considered like the absolute
staple one is bread. When is rice. However, if you go to parts of
Africa, it's kind of this more like
a wheat, or barley or made of something like that it's corn
actually, it's some kind of mash that they make with that that is
the basic then they add everything to that. Like, you know, for many
of us, it's roti, it's bread, and they eat everything with bread.
That's why in some countries, they actually call bread, Irish. Irish
means life.
And in some places, rice is what dominates, they don't even know
bread.
Right. And in some places, all bread, they don't even know much
about rice.
So for example, if you go to Hyderabad, which has a wonderful
cuisine, but rice is actually called Connor
rice is called food. So if you go there and eat everything else and
you don't eat rice, then you are offensive. Once I was at a
friend's grandfather's house, and he had a number of variety of
foods there and for some reason we feel like eating the rice and I
wasn't eating rice, I had everything else. And he keeps
telling me kinda cow eat food, eat food, and I've been eating there's
how much more you're going to eat. I'm taking it literally how much
food are you going to eat? Then after that they points to the
rice. That's when I figured out that that is Connor, that is food.
The rest of it is not food. And is number of stories like this. Were
in the oven with Dean there was a Hyderabadi group that came there.
And the shake they told some of the the people who are who serve
the guests that feed these people so he fed them He fed them done
duty Nana, whatever, and some curry and things like this, but
not rice when they came back. And the sheikh asked the guest, kinda
kya Abner, which means Have you eaten food? And they said, No, we
haven't eaten.
So he was very upset that they haven't fed them. So you can tell
now this is just the way things ought to be. It's such a staple.
It's such the absolute basic essential that that's what it is.
So in countries like South Africa and other places, they have this
kind of a mash that they make with some kind of corn. And that's the
main thing and with that they have their career, whatever it is that
they have with that. So that's basically what it is. He's saying
that it looks like in Egypt bread
Something very important Oh theories from EGP, says Aristotle
Hubzu haka who you must give your you must honor the bread. That is
basically you get the benefit from, you have to respect it, you
have to honor it. And he's saying you have to kiss and put it on
your eyes as well.
Now, of course, that's an exaggeration to show how much
respect you should give it doesn't mean that every time the bread
comes, you must put it on your eyes and, and kiss the bread. But
he's just saying saying that this is just show respect to this that
don't just throw it around. And then he mentioned he says that,
from the quotations of his chef, say the ideal house, he says, er
calm and tada will observe a lot of them in radio ha in the current
linearity layer as well. But be careful, totally avoid placing
bread on the ground without having anything in between like
completely just directly on the ground, throw bread on the ground.
Now when it comes to these dainty thin chimpanzees that we're used
to people don't do that with that, but when it comes to this big
nons, and that you suddenly suddenly think that they are more
durable or whatever, so people actually do throw them on the
ground for some reason. It just depends on where you are.
different cuisines have different ways of doing these things. In
Saudi and other places, they just lay out a plastic and throw a
whole load of rice on it right on the plastic itself and people just
take their fifths and eat from it.
There's these different things. I mean, they order tea in bags. Soup
is I remember in Morocco, we ordered soup they gave it to us in
bags. So in Canada, they they sell milk in bags. It just looks
strange for people who aren't used to that. That's what it is. He
says don't just throw it on the ground without anything in between
yes, if you have a duster handy, if you have something there to put
underneath it then that's fine. But he says the reason is that you
are degrading the name of Allah subhanaw taala by just throwing it
on the ground like this. Alright, shall we the Allah one who relates
he relates a hadith of eyeshot of the Allah who I know
here, in which it says that once
somebody came to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam know
the prophets of Allah some came to came into her room once and he saw
kiss Ratan yarby, certain Fiji dar in wakad. Allah Allahu Akbar, he
saw this dry piece of bread that was left on the on the side on one
of the shelves it seems
in the wall, and there was a lot of dust on it. So seems like he'd
been there for a while. He took it, the professor took it, he
kissed it, and he put it on his eyes and he says yeah, Aisha
Arseny moja wallet near me Allah.
He says, treat food with excellent.
That's not the literal translation but the bounties of Allah subhanho
wa Taala you must have an excellent relationship with it.
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the third year la him very seldom that the bounty of Allah would
escape from a person's home and then come back. If you don't
respect it, it will depart from the home then it will not come
back. Because it's been disregarded.
even imagine be hockey related this hadith. There's some
discussion about it. But yeah, I mean Konami, say the AMA that
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having shortcoming in honoring not not sufficiently honoring the
breath is actually a
gopher means ungratefulness. With the bounty of the giver of the
bounty, which is Allah subhanaw taala Vegeta he Doofy Karami Mr.
Torre, I don't. So try as much as you can to honor it as much as you
can. And pick up whatever drops, don't just leave it on the ground,
until the end of the food, because it is part of honoring the bounty
of Allah because honoring the bounty of Allah is honoring Allah
Himself, because of where it's coming from. You know, for
example, somebody gives you something and you just kind of
throw it to the side somebody came and gave you an idea, a gift, and
he had like, Okay, thank you very much. There's like a lot here and
you just put it on the side. No respect. No, you know what they're
gonna think I'm just giving him this thing. Allah subhanaw taala
gives us all of these things. So we need to show respect. Now, of
course, he's talking about bread here, which is the most basic
essential element here. But of course, he means all types of food
must go with that. It says that Allah subhanho wa Taala does not
test people with expense, with food becoming expensive and time
Till until they have degraded
a seed for its cheapness.
When things are cheap and you consider them to be degraded
because they're so cheap, then Allah subhanaw taala will
put you in a fitna put people in a fitna that things will become
expensive. Prices overnight will double sometimes as they did in
2007, and eight, literally, things went double the double the price.
Just recently, the flour and a few other things have come back down.
But it just went up all night because it's all it's all produced
by through the nature. And Allah subhanaw taala is in control of
all of that.
That's why he says that there is a traditional way in which he
mentions that you know, a bowl of ball of dough. This is not going
to be eaten until I mean, he says 360 Different creatures have had
something to do with it.
Starting from Mikhail Ali's
because the reason I probably mentioned to be kinda Islam is
because he's the one in charge of the rain and provisions, how much
to give where so it starts off from there and then everything in
between. We're talking about not just the flour and adding the
water, but everything the way it's produced from the water, and the
flour and everything else in between. And how many of Allah's
creations it goes through until eventually ends up as this dough
in front of the person in the house. He states this as a
narration but
Which Imam because it is also mentioned here, but Allama Iraqi
says that he couldn't find any basis to this narration. If it is
a narration he doesn't mention that it's from the Prophet
sallallahu. So anyway,
and then he says that by the way, if enough he tells him in general
so Allah Jalla who ideally wrote Utila, if you had either saw me
for Hatha and for her tonight the Iftari you have for her tonight
the Laker rugby. It is sufficient for us to prove that the honoring
bread is important is that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa
sallam has made it similar to seeing Allah subhanaw taala. And
what does he mean by that? You know, the famous Hadith says that
the person who fasts he has two sources of joy. The person who is
fasting is going to have two sources of joy two times that he's
going to be very joyful and he's going to get this extreme level of
happiness one is when you have a star How would you how good do you
feel? And the other one is when you meet your Lord so he's saying
that you know when you break your fast I guess in Egypt where he was
his breaking fast was bread so that's why bread features so
prominently there but some of you may say that well we do some
muscles instead. You know, we don't touch bread at that time or
we don't touch roti at that time. You know, we have soup instead of
something like that. Or we have rice or Bangladeshi brothers
saying we have rice we don't touch bread anyway. So what's what's
going on here? So of course this is just his explanation for it.
Yeah, I've been to a number of Bangladeshi weddings and there's
only one mashallah I went to one doubt and they actually had bread
there because so Bangladeshis, you should you should have bread in
your weddings if you're calling none Bangladeshis. Just just that
advice. Because when you call guests so in Gujarati is having
when they you know, that's why I really get irritated when you go
to a wedding and they made it so hot the food, they think
everybody's fine with it just because you like it that way.
And that's not being and that's why, you know, when you invite
people and then there's a lot of children there and they can't eat
that whole food, they go hungry. So a person needs to be
considerate of what kind of guests he's getting and, and try to cater
for that because you want to bring them happiness. Not just do it
your way type of thing.
Another thing he says here, another of the other above the
people of Allah is either follow him in academia, academia homea,
Quran Alhamdulillah Robben Island I mean either colohan is to praise
Allah after you finished your food. Once you've eaten, anything
that's been placed in front of you and you've eaten it used to say
all praises to Allah, Lord of the Worlds on every state
Alhamdulillah Hilah de Beynac Muttahida tea masala huts or
praises to Allah, through whose bounties all good righteous things
are completed and accomplished with our own will Bearcats and
blessing becomes universally applied. Were Corona, Surah
Dekoration Surah floss, and he mentioned that they also read sort
of Qureshi, Illa Quraysh and suitably floss.
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Very traditional kind of points for something in Egypt. He's
saying that when these people eat by anybody when they've come to
your house to eat, they will then not just leave without drinking
something
without drinking something because they've said that mean Bulkeley
Sophia and yeah, cool. Well, Ayesha,
it is part of the miserliness of a Sufi that he eats, but he doesn't
drink somewhere.
Now, you might be thinking, we don't generally offer to drink
afterwards anyway. You know, it's just food. Because in some
traditions, tea is very, very important.
So they have to have these numbers of these cups of the small tea.
So if you're just eating and then you refuse the tea, it's
considered bad.
Whereas for us, I don't think it's a big deal. You want to you guys?
No, no, I don't see, okay, no problem. You don't have to have
the tea. It's a bit more easygoing. But that's offensive.
That's why even in Mauritania, they would bring you literally
like a sip of tea in, you know, everybody gets one sip, they go
out and make another sip for everybody and bring it back in. So
you have to have three sips, which means three times they come in.
And if you say NAFTA, the second one is considered offensive. So
it's just all of these traditions. I remember when I was in Syria,
you go to somebody's somebody's house, and they give you Arabic
coffee, not the Saudi stuff. But this is Arabic oil is really
strong, dark black coffee, not the Saudi cover, right?
The only tastes good with dates.
This black coffee, they always serve a small cup of black coffee
is like an espresso espresso with a big glass of water. And the
whole point is that you shouldn't be drinking the water. If you
drink the water after the coffee means you didn't like the coffee.
Now, I had no idea about this, I used to go to my neighbor's house,
he used to make me this coffee. So I used to drink the coffee. And
then I used to feel like I need the water to wash it down with and
I liked the coffee wasn't I didn't like the coffee. And then only
later towards the end of the year that I discovered that I shouldn't
have been drinking, but hopefully he just thought this guy's
imaginably strange or foreign. It's okay. You know,
people have different cultures. And sometimes people become
extremely offended when you don't do it and you don't know.
So cheap.
Another of the other of the people have a life either.
When they eat, than they are also taking good care of the people
around them. They're not selfish in the way they're eating.
So they are making sure that others also get their right from
it.
So just because they, you know, are the main guests or something
like that they're not going to take the best pieces, the best
parts, but they're considerate about others. That's why say the
ADL Havas Rahim Allah used to say that when you eat food, then also
feed the one who is present. Especially if you want the benefit
at the boundaries of Allah to remain permanently above you, over
you, if you want Allah's bounties to to reach you constantly, then
make sure you also look about look, look after others, whoever
eats
and he has eyes looking at him eating and he doesn't feed them
that Allah subhanho wa Taala will afflict him with a particular type
of disease.
Now this is his statement this is probably his experience that's why
he's saying
the most difficult place to eat like this is in a poor country in
a restaurant when people are watching you. Especially if it's
outside
it just really weird to eat like that when there's people who you
know are dying for food and you have to go and eat. It feels just
so uncomfortable.
Let me know that'd be him to Athenahealth go kill validate the
whole funnel whoa if he is in either be Mahoma the worst thing
that you could do is give your children ice cream or something
like that in front of other children don't give it to them.
That is one of the worst things that you could do. That's probably
torture. With adults it's probably okay but with kids with children,
you give your hair you go this is a nice big feast for you, you know
big Kinect or whatever it is and the other kids are just watching.
Ice cream is an expensive proposition when you've got a lot
of children
that are the Mohawk invalidates the whole familiar will go if it
is artilleryman. Now he goes on to parents and he says that another
of the etiquette is that they have full on full honor for the rights
of their parents. They they honor their parents so fully so wholly
so completely just out of fear, just out of fear that they don't
fall into some kind of bad etiquette with their parents, or
that they actually become even disobedience. They're just careful
of that that they don't even want to say about what
he says because what is the boundary of when you are
disobedient to your parents.
That is a very, very
that boundary is very unclear.
Because you don't know what's going to hurt their heart.
It's a very, very difficult boundary.
Basically, he says that generally it's taken us everything that will
go against
the intentions and purposes of the parents in anything that is even
permissible.
And what you have to understand, he says is that after the help of
Allah subhanaw taala, and the help of his messenger SallAllahu Taala
says, There is no hug greater than that of the parents.
So, you know, a lot of the time we think we don't consider our
parents respect to be that important because it seems like
Gilkey juice, just something at home something not a big deal.
But, you know, if somebody told you that this is disrespect of
your prophet, can you imagine how bad that would sound? You know, we
are very careful and cautious that we don't disrespect Allah or His
messenger.
But then we quite easily disrespect our parents without any
kind of guilt. So then a person should think that just as I
consider it's so so much of a violation
that I disrespect Allah or his messenger likewise, I should not
disrespect my parent I should be very careful about that.
It requires a lot of patience that's what it does.
See, the ideal house used to say that it is the from among the
rights of your parents upon you is that you listen to their words.
You listen to their speech, you listen to them speaking with the
Coonley pa Mahima. You stand when they stand. The Hill, Amara Huma,
you follow the orders as far as possible, while attempt she amama
Huma you don't walk in front of them, unless you're going to open
door you're helping them out doing something but generally walk
behind them out of respect. Whether TopHat Sota kafele kasoti
Hema Don't raise your voice over their voice how many of us
are careful about this? How many of us are guilty about it until
it's actually become a norm and the parents don't even seem to
mind anymore? They may do deep down but they can't even bother
saying anything now because there are so many other things that
we're doing that this is probably the least of them.
Just to keep the peace in the house they probably don't saying
anything.
That coma we can't do you know we wish better love we're going to
fight to
what the Father Jana Hakka, Lahoma be humble in front of them. Don't
be arrogant. Wala terminado Hema bilberry Rila Houma, Wallah Bill
Kia, maybe I'm Rahima Do not ever remind them of what you've done
for them. Like, Oh, I did that for you, I did that we did that all
the time.
I have done that for you. I'm always doing stuff for you.
Do not remind them of your favors of any good deed that you've done
for them. Or when you've done something for them, whether tanto
la Hema schezwan don't look at them askew, don't look at them,
you know, with your sides of your eyes, or in this weird way that
just makes them upset and do not get angry in their face. And
another one is, if you're eating with them, don't take all the
better food and from before them.
But give them preference over yourself.
And try your best be avidly trying to attain their pleasure.
It's not easy, in many cases, not easy. You've got parents that are
very easygoing, it doesn't take much to get them happy, then it's
easier for you. That doesn't mean that in that case, a lot of the
challenge would be that people become very lacks in that regard.
Because the parents don't say anything. They don't seem to show
anything, though deep down, they probably hurt.
And sometimes the parents are just so strict and you can never please
them. They are unbelievable. Then you've got another challenge, but
it just requires effort as far as possible. If you make a mistake,
you do Toba and you seek forgiveness.
What happened? Where did he the hackle? While the dealer fee?
Well, how could a leader the right of a mother is multiplied or is
double that of the right of a biological father? As we know from
the Hadith,
what a man Why did the Dean How about your Dini father, which
means your teacher?
He says that then that's possible that that teacher of yours be even
of a higher state
and do more right than even your mother.
Which the reason he's saying that is because
that teacher is the one who's creating the spirit of the deen in
you. He's the one who's helping to develop your deen and your iman.
But this can only happen I
After you fulfill the rights of your parents, first,
anybody who puts his shake in front of his parents, then that
means he is not respectful to any one of them.
Because a true faith would never be satisfied that his students
will be disrespecting of their parents, in respect for him,
just doesn't work. So it means in the equation, all of them are
wrong.
He then says, another right of your parents is that you don't
call them by name. You don't address them by name.
Unfortunately, in some, in some families from a young age that,
you know, if a child has older brothers, sorry, if the child has,
if a child is living, especially with the grandparents and so on,
the grandparents are calling their son, the mother or the father by
their name.
Ha, Ahmed, the child has what they hear, instead of saying amoeba, or
whatever it is, they say, Ahmed, Aisha, you know, they say that,
and sometimes people don't think it's sounds cute, or whatever the
case is, they just leave it and then they grow up speaking like
that.
By calling their parents by their own names.
So don't call them by name, their names. He says that if anybody
does call them by their names, then he is disrespectful to them.
They might say, well, they don't consider disrespectful.
Well, if you are in a culture is not considered disrespectful at
all, then maybe it'd be of a lighter, lighter sin, but
otherwise, it is it is still to be avoided.
I mean, I don't know of any culture, they call them by names,
you know, any culture.
I mean, you do get people to do it, but I don't think it's the
norm even in this even in the culture outside here to do that.
Okay, then he comes on to the wives. He says another of the
other bits that they love their family.
Maha Bashara? Yeah.
The love that they have is based on the Sharia.
Not just the natural love that you'd feel anyway.
The natural, the natural love you'd feel anyway is you don't get
rewarded for them.
But you get reward for loving them because the shittier wants you to
love them.
He says because if you just got a natural inclination, then that's
just shower. That's just your desire anyway.
And Shaq would definitely generally is a veil between you
and Allah subhanaw taala so you're losing out.
He says that know that Allah subhanaw taala hubub Elena Nisa
Bihac. Me, Toby.
He said that he's talking to the men obviously he's saying that
know that Allah subhanaw taala has made women Beloved to us,
naturally speaking,
just by nature, women are very Beloved to us.
And then Allah subhanaw taala has told us to exert ourselves to
release ourselves from the that natural love and love them for the
sake of the Sharia. Which means that just because you feel
inclined to a woman that is haram, for you, that is wrong, then.
Because if you have to come out of that, and only take it when it's
surely Sharia, then you will only do it when it's halal, then a
person will be careful about where they express their love.
That's what he's trying to say.
And he says, there's very few people who can get this right, who
can exert themselves to not love them by nature only, but for the
sake of the Sharia, very few people can have that refined kind
of understanding.
When we see these things, when you hear these things, it just tells
us how far we are, how much more work we've got to do.
In fact, say the after routine, he mentioned that a person who just
always sitting around women
he lose his intellect, he lose his virtues.
And
Allah subhanaw taala will not enter His heart because generally
it's gonna lead to haram these kinds of things, which is loves to
just sit around with women and speak to them.
shaytaan will lay an egg
in him and that will germinate just his gross way of saying it I
guess. It says another thing which is very interesting. He says that
another of the etiquette. He says that they honor every righteous
pious person who is not so well known, but he is known to be just
very regular on his worship. Dan
The one who is well known for his Corolla math,
but may have some other issues.
He says the reason is that the duniya is not the place to look at
conclusions and consequences that this is a place for Daraa, Cleef.
And this is a place of accountability and, and
responsibility. So he says that anybody that you see who's trying
their best to adhere to the faith is going to be superior to the one
who is expressing all of these extraordinary things,
extraordinary things that happened in the Hereafter, if somebody is
just doing that, and showing off that in this world, but they don't
have as much steadfastness on the path, then they're not as good as
the one who's come subdued, not so well known, but most of the key.
This just opens up our eyes in the right way of looking at these
things.
Then he says, another of the etiquette is that they will never
persist on a sin. If they ever do fall in a sin, they'll come out of
it, they won't persist and keep doing it. Because to persist on
any sin is of one of the most detrimental, dangerous,
destructive factors. What does 002 be could be rotten, and even a
minus in them becomes a major sin by persistence on it.
Now, how do you determine when you've been persistent on
something? Then it once, twice, thrice? How does How is
persistence determined? It says some of the mushy, they have
defined persistence that a person
procrastinates in his dua, a person delays his Tober his Tober
until
the next of the five daily prayers come about.
So a person did a sin and then he didn't make Toba straightaway. Or
if he didn't do it straightaway, he waited until the next prayer
time, and then that prayer time came he still didn't make. So
basically saying that before the next prayer time comes you should
we should be making Toba from all of our sins.
The next part is something very, very useful. Lots of people ask
this question. And it probably applies to the majority of us, if
not to all of us. This is the question of you know when you've
done it, but about somebody.
When you've had a when you've made some allegations about somebody or
you've thought some bad points about somebody, and they don't
know about it, one is they don't know about it. One is they know
about it. Now, if they don't know about it, you're gonna tell them I
spoke about you, this is what I thought about you is going to
actually aggravate the matter in most cases.
Abraham, I just make Toba and I just want to ask you a
forgiveness. Well, what did you do?
Or just about something there's no What did you do? I said, Oh, I
missed seeing the other day and started saying who was with you?
What did they say? It just gets too complicated. So this is a very
important, very useful point that he makes here. He says,
number one, he says it is of the etiquette also.
That if they ever had bad thoughts about somebody or did rebut about
backbiting somebody and that person doesn't know about that.
Meaning the other person didn't know that they've done it, then
what they will do this is their way of expiation compensation,
they will recite Surah Fatiha
solo to the class. So little follow up uncertainness And then
they will reward take the reward of this and ask Allah to send it
into the deeds of the one that they targeted in that regard. So
they're basically recertified They assaulted a class called cloth
barrel for colada Mira bananas, and say to Allah to give the
reward of this to that person's book. So book of deeds.
How do you do this? How do you ask Allah subhanaw taala to transfer
the reward Allahumma salli wa salam ala and Abiko habibi. So you
didn't know Mohammed was the he was a 70 Allama Karatu Who was
your annual fee Sahaja if you have the Calphalon. So hi. If you
Abacha for learning of Allah, send your blessings and peace upon your
Prophet and your beloved Savior, Mohammed and his family, reward me
for I've recited and put this reward or have this reward entered
into the book of deeds of that certain servant of yours you take
his name.
So you send blessings on the solar system and then you ask Allah to
send the reward there.
He has a little note here he says that
anybody who it is appropriate for the one who knows
that he has rights to be fulfilled for others, he owes people rights
of either wealth, or have saying bad things about them. One is
tangible, one is intangible.
And then, you see one is that you owe somebody something but they're
not willing to forgive you. They
You know, for example, but they said, No, I'm not gonna forgive
you.
Or, for example, you owe somebody something and you can't find them.
Or they're not willing to forgive you, or you can't pay them back
because you just don't have the money. Then what do you do at the
end of the day, and you're about to die, you think, even though I
mean, we should be, we should be, we should be prepared to die at
any moment, basically. But, you know, you know what I mean? How if
somebody knows, the first one was about if somebody didn't know,
in this one, they know, and you can't satisfy them, because you
don't have the ability to satisfy them and they're not willing to
satisfy you. So
you should read it with with great concentration. So literally plus
12 times. Now again, I don't think this is from a hadith. This is
some personal experience that has probably been passed down that
they found that it's useful, so you can do any of this you want.
But since he's not quoted it from a hadith I doubt it's from a
hadith he says number one, you recite Surah to the class 12 times
so the the class 12 times and then
the cloud grumpy fella could also be robbing us. Every night you do
this. And you reward you send the reward of all of this into the
record books of these people.
The way to send it is Allahumma salli wa salam ala and the vehicle
a hobby because you didn't know Mohammed, you were early. What a
70 Alhama caught up to who was your own houfy Saha if human
Allahu Allah, the vitamin A Burdick, Merlin, were Eldon of
Allah send your blessings and peace upon your Prophet and
beloved, our leader, Muhammad, and it's a lot, it's him and his
family, and reward me for what I've read what I've recited, and
place it into the book of deeds of the one who, among Your servants,
I have these rights.
And
whether that be wealth, or whether that be their honor.
Now, of course, if the person knows, and you then leave, then
you have to go and ask them.
But when it's a condition where they say, No, I'm not gonna help
you.
I'm never going to forgive you for the rest of my life. And the
person is crying, it's just torture, basically, that then
becomes torture. Generally speaking, unless the person has a
good reason he thinks you're lying, or whatever the case cases,
but at the end of the day, if we're sincere, and they're not
willing to forgive us, then we do this, we pray for them, we do
something for them.
Another of the other is that when a person wants to take a loan from
someone, he needs money, or he needs something, to borrow from
someone, they turn with their heart to Allah subhanho wa taala.
And they say, Oh Allah, you're the one who gives the loan.
You're the one who is responsible for loan giving, and for loan
transferring. So
take with my hands sadaqa, from among your sadaqa upon me.
So this is a way to take the blessing of Allah subhanho wa
Taala in that regard, because as the Prophet sallallahu sallam said
that anybody who takes a loan with an intention to repay it, Allah
will help them repay it, and anybody who takes it with no
intention to repay it, then that money will be destroyed.
So if you are in need of a loan, you make sure you have the clear
intention of paying back Allah will help you with that.
Okay, we'll stop here. The next point he makes actually, which
we'll deal with Next time is about the family of the Prophet
salallahu Alaihe Salam, and then he discusses exactly where in
Cairo, any of the descendants of the prophets, Allah, some are
buried and there's quite a few of the grandchildren of Allah, the
Allah are buried there.
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