Abdur Rahman ibn Yusuf Mangera – Sha’rani’s Etiquette of the People of Allah On Constant Gratitude and Avoiding Fame

Abdur Rahman ibn Yusuf Mangera
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The importance of planning in a Halal business is discussed, including the need for people to have a good intention and avoiding the danger of getting into trouble. The speakers emphasize the importance of being present in one's mind and avoiding distractions, while also discussing cultural and personal topics such as eating healthy foods and not leaving them out of the body. They also mention rules and etiquette in Islam, including leaving hot water, drinking hot coffee, touching private parts, and not using their right hands when washing garments. The course on learning to improve one's life is also mentioned.
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As far as he says that beards do nearly as far as planning in this

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world for the euro, that's a good thing.

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So for example, somebody who does a lot of planning in his trade and

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hence business so that he can eat from it Khaled Khaled, he doesn't

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have to then get haram. He doesn't have to get involved in a haram

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business. He wants to do a good Halal business

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so that he can eat halal for himself and his family. He can

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give to others and help people who are sick who are in need.

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And he can prevent himself from having to ask others.

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What is the sign of this? The sign of this is that he's not going to

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do it just to get more.

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He's not going to do it just to get more he's going to have a good

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intention of why he wants more.

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Smilla Rahmanir Rahim Al hamdu Lillahi Rabbil Alameen wa Salatu

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was Salam o Allah say you didn't want saline one early. He was he

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was so limited Sleeman Kathira on Allah Yomi deen and

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so to continue with the other job

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of Allah, Masha, Allah Annie, it says the next one is roaming Derby

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him either either machico home, Ill healthy my you'll see boom in

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Bella in Manhattan, Ohio.

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They don't complain to creatures, they don't complain to other

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people

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for the calamities and the different trials and tests that

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they confront, so if they are afflicted in some kind of trial or

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something, you don't go and complain. When you ask somebody

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for help in something that's different, but to complain or look

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at the tests that I've had to go through, look what keeps happening

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to me. It's like a complaint because when you complain about a

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test, you're complaining about Allah subhana wa Tada. So

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inadvertently, that's the complaint of Allah about Allah.

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That's why he says that Abdulkadir Gilani Rahim Allah used to say, or

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underscore Rebecca anthem wife and FIBA Denecke I will look at

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Kudarat and Allah to hamari, vertical Bella, Bella

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contractility of work Allahu taala.

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For the cool laser in the Google, what a quadra.

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It says, Be very careful, totally avoid complaining about your Lord.

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While you have well being your body is fine, your physique is

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fine. Or you have the ability to deal with that test with the

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ability that Allah has given you. So if you've got that ability, so

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if Allah has given you an affliction, he's given the ability

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to deal with it, then what's the problem with that? Stop

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complaining. So don't say for example, I don't have any ability

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to deal with this. I'm totally lost in this I'm totally

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without power or something of that nature. Or

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oh, dish Coahuila. hulky we're in the canal amateur MMA. And I'm

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gonna be Hardik we're toxic be Tilka Shaco zero ZR Ataman hulky.

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Or that you complain to people? Why do you still have bounty from

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Allah subhanaw taala that Allah has given you. And by complaining

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you just want more from people you want people feel sorry for you. So

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you've complained to them. I've got this issue and that issue.

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There's people who will complain all their life they have, but

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they're just always complaining. It's just the way they are. They

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never think they're never thankful. They're never grateful.

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They are always diminishing what they have. What is your diminish

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it to not let people know because you don't want to show off or

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whatever. But they say this in a complaining way. In a diminishing

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way. Almost like they don't have to that is absolutely opposite to

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sugar. And that is very detrimental. That's why saying you

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have a NEMA from Allah

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and then you're complaining because you want to attract

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attention from people so that they may give you something they may

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feel sorry for you.

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So

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Father, Mina chakra Nima, hello, Qin Jia, haddock, so don't

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complain to people. Have your troubles that you have to go

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through that effort that you have to put behind something? Well, Dr.

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Ella hummocky saying even if your flesh is all cut up, you still

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don't complain for in atheroma Yun xebia bibliodrama Bella in jihadi

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shikcha he says because really Subhanallah most of the time that

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you have a calamity is because of your complaints. Complaints will

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only bring on more calamity, whereas sugar will only bring on

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an increase in benefit and bounty. So if you think that you're being

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helpful, are you helping yourself by complaining to others, you may

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invoke some kind of sympathy from them, but you will have more

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calamity and constantly going that's why now it makes sense

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because

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People who are always complaining they're always complaining.

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They'll complain for the rest of their lives. Because they complain

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and they get something. They get more calamities and they complain

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they get more calamities.

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What KVH collabed men who are Hamby him invalidity, he Shafi

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How can somebody complain about that Lord, who is more

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compassionate

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than a mother than a compassionate mother to her child. Allah is more

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compassionate than a compassionate mother to a child. So not just any

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mother.

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That's why there's a hadith related by Imam Bukhari Muslim

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Ramadan Hatha * Allah one he says that once, there were a

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number of prisoners that came to the Prophet sallallahu, it was now

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brought to him. And among them, there was a woman who

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was just going around any child that she could see, she would try

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to feed it, you know, just out of compassion for the child, that

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they've all been caught or whatever the case is. So the

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professor Lawson said juicy this woman. Could you ever expect her

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to be throwing her child in the fire? If she's so compassionate to

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a child right now?

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So that's the state of mothers.

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Then the prophets are the people said, No, of course not. We can't

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see that happen. She's far from doing something like this. So then

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the Prophet sallallahu sallam said, Allah is more merciful to

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His servants than even this mother to her own child. If this is how

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she's doing to other children, can you imagine how compassionate and

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merciful she will be to our own child that Allah is more merciful

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than that? So don't complain.

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You can try to seek help, but you can't keep complaining and going

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on moaning essentially this is what people are moaning and

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whining that's essentially what it is about Allah.

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Of all these got these issues you know

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what I mean other be him so the adverb of the people of Allah is

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cut throat chakra Hemara nativity empty third and Lil Emery la Tala

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been Louisiana. This is something new.

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So you know, Allah says in the Quran, where intero do not know,

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in

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what is in Chicago formula z, then if you do Shaka will give you

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more. So then you think from a business perspective, you know,

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from that commercial mind perspective, that or selfish

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perspective that I'm going to do more sugar so that I get more

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wrong intention.

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And only the people of Allah understand this kind of thing. So

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we're always looking for our benefit. That's why it says they

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are the is that they will do abundant sugar on any benefit that

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they get purely because Allah wants them to do sugar. So to

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fulfill the command law tolerable lithium not so they can get more

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out of it, they're going to get more out of it, that's something

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that will happen automatically. But that's not why we're supposed

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to be doing it, we're supposed to be doing it for the sake of Allah.

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Now in the Quran, it does say if you do sugar will give you more.

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From a human psyche perspective, it's understood that humans will

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do it for that reason. But you can't do it for that reason, all

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your life is that child, you give them 10 pounds each time they

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finish the juice of the Quran. The idea is that you get them used to

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learning and when they start running, then after that, they'll

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do it for themselves. So it's like this as well here maybe in the

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beginning, people may do sugar and be grateful to Allah thinking, Oh,

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I'll get more out of this. But that is not the way of the people

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of Allah, they have to then move on to the real reason.

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So Allah subhanaw taala has commands are really based on human

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psyche, you know, to start them off with a bit of incentive, but

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then the maxim is to actually get to Allah subhanaw taala.

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That's why they say alayka be Shoukry Nerima. You should always

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be thankful, you should always adhere to gratitude for the

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bounties that you have, because anybody who doesn't, who is not

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grateful for His bounties, then he is he is facing. It's the

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elimination, he is putting himself up to the elimination, whether I

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can shoot correctly as Eric, but also be careful that when you do

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do sugar, don't do it for yourself. But Ajahn Shakalaka in

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the third and the only Arabica be sugar, do your sugar because Allah

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has told you to do sugar.

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That's why Allah subhanaw taala says initially,

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that you thank me.

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So understand, he says,

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essentially, if we're doing sugar to get more out of it, then it's

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like we're doing sugar to get more of the dunya if we're doing sugar

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to thank Allah, then we're doing it out of his love. And if Allah

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is on our side, we're gonna get more benefit anyway. So it's just

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the wrong way to think about this. Should I just focus on getting the

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the benefit the things that get sprinkled, or should I get really

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close to the one who's giving them out in the first place?

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Okay, the next point he makes the ship ship the to Saturday him Lima

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clammy,

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they are very, very careful about revealing their status. They don't

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go around showing off that I do this much danger I'm this close to

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Allah or whatever the case is. They just always stay avoid avoid

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that kind of idea.

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For cut cord will come in My yeah hold them NASA will have a user

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key here, Rob,

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that the person who is accomplished in this regard is the

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one who will digest him his own self, you want to reveal his own

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self, he'll just keep it within because he doesn't show off at all

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right? Until Allah will purify. So if Allah purifies somebody and

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praises them and has them praised, that's different from somebody

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wanting fame and praise. When trying somebody's trying to show

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I'm like this and like this. For example, there are people who are

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known certain individuals, they will go into a masjid, they will

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insist on leading the prayer.

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They will insist on leaving the prayer because they say they, for

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whatever Why would you insist on leaving the prayer? Why would

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somebody come in just because he thinks is the best of them or

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something. Otherwise, why else would it be? Unless he reckons

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that everybody else is maybe that's a reality in some cases

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that the normally mom or the people who are there don't know

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how to pray their mess up the pray. That's a different story.

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But you've got a proper imam in the masjid. But this guest comes

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in he is insisting on leaving the prayer.

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When is requesting another one is insisting that I must do it. Or

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his people insist the people that come with him. I'm saying this

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because it's actually happened

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that's why the way they explain this they say that so nobody real

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Hora Hema Baba who from my Cetara, who better than my brother who had

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another toughie, botany earth? What AKBA Houma, Nevada folk Aha

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nolloth about Allah Who a beautiful example, he says, The

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Best of

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any seed that is sown, the best of any plant that is planted is the

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one

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that the farmer plants then conceals, after he's planted it

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until it begins to grow in the depths of the earth, then it comes

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out into the open. In that case, it's going to have a strong roots,

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because it's grown and it's

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has spread, it's its roots into the ground, whatever is showing

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upstairs is not

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just what you see, there's more to it beneath.

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Whereas he says the worst of it is that we just you scatter around

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and then it grows on the top, then it's just like weed

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because it has no permanence.

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The next one, he says, The another adab is that they don't plan.

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It's very general the way to the target the bat, that bill means to

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plan for something, they abandoned planning. That's not what he means

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you have to plan in this world. Then he goes on to explain. So I

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would introduce this by saying that they don't plan to just get

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more of this dunya just for the sake of showing off with it or

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just for abundance purposes. That's what eventually is going to

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come down to. That's why he says that there are actually two types

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of planning. One is a good planning a praiseworthy planning.

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And the other one is a bad planning, a despicable planning.

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That's what he's saying. He says the good one is to plan for

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anything that will take you close to Allah, that's always very good

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to plan for anything. For example, I'm going to plan my day such that

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I can pray Salah in the masjid, I can at least get this many

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Salatin, that's why I want to plan it like this, I want to plan to

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get that job because it allows me flexibility. So I can go for

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hijra, I can do this, or I can do that. Or I can spend spend time

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with my family or I can spend time in the masjid or to help people.

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So that kind of planning, I want to do this job because it gives me

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more money. So I'll have more money to help people with that

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kind of good planning is completely fine. So for example,

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you're planning that I all the money that I owe to people, I want

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to get rid of that. I want to free myself of all of that.

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While I'm planning so that I can start avoiding the sins that I

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generally commit, something like that. The bad one the bad planning

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is to plan the dunya for the dunya which is that I'm going to try to

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get this job or that job or do this business or whatever. So I

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can just have lots and lots.

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Not for any good reason. Just I just want lots and lots I want to

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be called wealthy, I want to be able to drive around like this,

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that and other or whatever the case is. Because he says that, in

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that case, if that's the kind of planning you're doing, then every

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time you get more, you're just going to you're going to get more

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of the world but you're also going to get more

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flow and deception from Allah, you're also going to be more

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heedless from Allah subhanaw taala. And he says that the sign

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of this is simple, that anything you plan for, which takes you away

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and occupies you from fulfilling the obligations of Allah subhanaw

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taala. And that takes you to opposing him in any deeds that

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he's told you to do, then understand that that is the wrong

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kind of planning, you're doing. Very simple test to do this.

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As far as he says that Bureau do nearly as far as planning in this

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world for the era, that's a good thing.

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So for example, somebody who does a lot of planning in his trade and

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his business, so that he can eat from it Khaled Khaled, he doesn't

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have to then get haram. He doesn't have to get involved in a haram

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business. He wants to do a good Halal business.

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So that he can eat halal for himself and his family, he can

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give to others and help people who are sick who are in need.

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And he can prevent himself from having to ask others.

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What is the sine of this, the sign of this is that he's not going to

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do it just to get more,

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he is not going to do it just to get more, he is going to have a

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good intention of why he wants more.

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Oh Allah give me lots of I can help others with it. The next one,

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he says is that they used to also another of the other was that they

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would be pleased and satisfied with a very lowly amount of

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anything.

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Especially those things which the knifes would like,

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which the nurse desires, they would be just satisfied with a bit

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of it.

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And the other thing is that they would always stand firm. If Allah

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subhanaw taala ever constricted

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his

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sustenance, if Allah ever constructed his sustenance on

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them, made it less, give them some difficult times, they would still

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stand firm. He says, Look, what you have to understand is that

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this is a very clear ish issue, that anybody who is satisfied with

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a small amount

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of the things that people generally like to get, then what

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you have to remember is that the benefit of that is that that

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person will never enter into competition with anybody, he'll

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never have a quarrel with anybody. Right? Because

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as the Hadith mentions that if you avoid going for those things, the

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dunya basically, or what people have possessions of people, then

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people will love you, because you're not a competition.

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A lot of it is based on competition of something of the

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other, whether that be position or goods or something.

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And then he says what and his heart will be at rest.

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He won't be tired, in trying to get more than he needs, as long as

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you're always content and satisfied.

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So if he is given just the

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barley bread piece of barley bread to eat, he'll be he's satisfied

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with it. And he thanks Allah for it. If Allah gives him just the

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seed, he's also satisfied with that. And he thanks Allah for it.

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After that, if something more comes to him, then he just gives a

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lot of sugar to Allah subhanaw taala by his tongue and by

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spending in the path of Allah subhanaw taala. Now here, some of

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the commentators of this have taken a bit of an issue with this

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the saying that, although you need to be satisfied with whatever

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Allah gives you, but that shouldn't stop you from trying to

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get what is sufficient for you. There's difference between having

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a small amount and what is sufficient. Sufficient means that

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you're

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it's enough to for you to survive decently. But not that you have to

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struggle to go forth. Remember all the Hadith we read in Muscat and

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Masabi? About Kapha that glad tidings for the one who's given

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just enough, right? Enough means it fills you up. It's enough. It

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fills you up according to the Sunnah. Right? Not according to

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the Buddha, it fills you up according to the Sunnah. And

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hear what he's saying, though? What the author was saying is that

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you should be just satisfied with even a smaller amount than that.

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Yes, you should be satisfied, but that shouldn't have to stop you.

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You shouldn't just sit back and say fellas, that's what I want.

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Because the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam himself said that

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Oh Allah, Allahu Allah risk early Muhammad in fifth dunya Kuta Our

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Allah make the

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sustenance of the family of Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa

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sallam sufficient enough to keep the back straight. That doesn't

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mean

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a seed. That doesn't mean just a piece of bread. It means enough.

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That's the difference.

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So some reckon that he's exaggerating.

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The bid in this regard

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another of the other BS la yo de la yo li funa la him che and in la

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ma al Hadi unathletic Amin Naira May Allah Allah him Do not you

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will leave with adequate a man who floods you with their ill milk.

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Another of the adab is that they don't associate anything to

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themselves except with this presence of mind that this is a

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network of Allah.

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So they will never say this is mine by considering it a real

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possession of this, because they know that at the end of the day as

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a human being, their possession of that is only temporary. It's

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really superficial, because if you die, then it's gone anyway, if

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that thing gets destroyed, then it's finished. So you don't really

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have control over these things. So they're always the it's all about

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having a law in your mind. So the idea is that this is I'm thanking

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Allah because he's given us so this is Allah has, yes, it's

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associated to me, but it's not associated to me in terms of my

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control as such, the control that I have is a very weak control. So

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it's just about recognizing Allah subhanaw taala in everything.

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That's what he's saying here.

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Another one is, this is a difficult this is one that is I

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mean, they're all important or important, but this is quite

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significant. He says Wamena WM ally aku Luna lemon, Casa de Haan

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V Hajin. Era J, what tirely Lena worked on her what I am known as

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inlandia, Hekmati and learning sure when we're walking in,

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you know, when somebody comes to you for a need, and you don't want

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to give it to them, and you can't say no, for whatever reason, what

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do people do? Come later, I don't have time right now. They give him

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some weird time to come. Or they tell him to come and then I'll

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call you back and then you never call them. So don't do that.

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They will never say to somebody who comes to them for a need, go

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back and come back to me another time.

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They will never say no to a person who asks, unless it's for a very

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particular wisdom, they will never do it out of miserliness of the

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heart, they will never do it because of because of the

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stimulus. Another one which is a very important one actually is

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called LUMO. They're in of them a homeowner, Sophie, well, half

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woman who fitna lately for now.

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I mean, our state is the opposite. In this one. He says that every

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place in which they get a lot of respect. People glorify them.

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And they feel that this is a fitna for me, then they will not go to

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that place as much. They want like going to that place.

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Our situation today with all of the theme that goes around, is

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that that's the place we'd like to go because we like to enjoy the

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attention.

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So they don't do this.

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Because it's purely for Allah subhanaw taala.

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And things that, you know, the more they tried to conceal

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themselves, and have humility, Allah subhanaw taala just shoots

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them to start them.

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Because he knows he's prepared for that. They're prepared for that.

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They haven't grown outside the ground. They have roots. There's a

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lot more there than what shows.

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There's some people who just become very famous, but they're

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very fickle. They have no roots, they don't have any steadfastness.

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The one who's created steadfastness first, then he

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starts to appear. That's what's really beneficial. So yeah, so

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they avoid any place

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that

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people respect them a lot in there, and they feel now if we

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will respect them a lot, but they have no fitna in that case, and

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that's fine. You're going you're helping people, it's fine. Right,

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the next one.

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He says, they speak a little during eating, they don't speak

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talk, they don't talk too much when eating.

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Because this they have an understanding that they are

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sitting at the table of Allah. They're sitting on the desk, that

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hunt of Allah on the food of Allah. And Allah is watching them,

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and they adapt and how they are giving preference to others over

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themselves. So Allah is watching them. This is constant attention.

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And they are thankful to Allah subhana wa Tada.

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Now, it's not it's my crew, actually, it's bad to not say to

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think it's best not to say anything when eating and eat in

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silence, because that is actually from certain other religions. So

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that wouldn't be right. But at the same time you talk so much. When

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you talk so much, you probably end up eating more because you don't

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focus on your foods. You focus on your food and you do it ceremony

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you actually enjoy the food you can thank Allah. If you don't

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enjoy your food you're not going to think about but if you if a

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good person, a righteous person has good food, they're going to

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think Allah because then the sugar is going to come from them.

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But if they're distracted they want think Allah subhana wa Tada

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I don't know if you've ever eaten while speaking to somebody on the

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phone, you get no Baraka, you just the food just goes.

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And you don't even feel full sometimes afterwards. That's why

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the prophets Allah Some said that some people they eat with seven

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intestines, because it's like they have seven they have so much they

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just keep filling it up and don't get full.

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That's based on cooper or Fisk.

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Another of the adab is that they do not eat from the middle of the

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plates.

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They don't start from the middle of the plate, because there's a

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hadith Hadith which mentions that Baraka

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arises from the middle

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comes from the middle, and it spreads. So eat from the sides and

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don't eat from the middle. Let the source continue.

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This hadith is related by Muhammad Khomeini tell me the ETC Hadith

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and Hassan and sahih Buddha wilderness, I also relate this

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another of the other is ejabberd. To him at ducky is at their home

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Illa to me, they will always they will always accept an invitation

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of a righteous Brother, if they if that righteous brother invites

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them. So if a righteous person invites you for food, they will

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they will always answer that they will always respond to an

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acceptance.

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That's why see the ideal house, he mentioned that if your brother

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invites you, if you're believing righteous brother invites you to

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food, then

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accept it and make him happy.

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Don't accept the foot of an oppressor or a transgressor or

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anybody who deals with riba and interest, or those who only call

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wealthy people and don't call poor people.

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They specifically just want prominent individuals, they don't

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want to invite anybody else.

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And he says, when you if you do go to eat somewhere, then don't move

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away until it's going to all be lifted up. Which means that don't

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kind of eat a bit and just kind of walk off as though, you know,

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you're showing some kind of arrogance or something. Of course,

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it doesn't mean you have to sit there and eat until then. But if

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you're invited, then it's not just invitation for food, but it's

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invitation to have a correspondence, communication as

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well. So be part of it.

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Because this is he said is the Sunnah of the self to do this. And

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then when you wash your hand, when you wash your hand, then make dua

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for Baraka. And then if you need to leave us permission to leave,

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so one of the adverb of eating but if you're especially if you're

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eating with others, then you shouldn't just stop, you say, Can

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I leave, please, because then you might leave everything for the

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other person to finish off. And that's not nice. You've left him

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three quarters of the plates. Another of the other, which is

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also the Sunnah of Ibrahim alayhi salam is that they will never eat

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alone. Because it's related that the worst of people is the one who

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eats alone.

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And sometimes in students, dormitories, they will go and hide

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and eat so that they don't have to share the food. There was one guy

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who used to eat a packet of crisps inside his covers, his bed covers.

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How can you eat crisps? Or, you know what I mean? Chris Gray

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American chips, as they call them the inside of the pack. It's

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always one that Russell's. They I don't know why those packets that

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they come in all is Russell a lot. It's the plastic that they use.

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You're trying to eat that and then the crunch. How can you do that?

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It's like everybody knows.

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It's proper miserliness.

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Allahu Akbar.

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And then you find the rapper in the bin the next day.

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So he says, yeah, the worst of the people is the one who eats alone,

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say the ideal Hawa says do not eat alone. Don't eat in the darkness.

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Another way to conceal yourself.

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And, and on the other hand, don't waste any food, eat a bit. And

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then there's so many people who do this. They eat a bit of food, they

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do not keep it. They have this idea that it's just gonna go bad

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or whatever, and they just throw it away.

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Because he said that whatever food has come to you, it's for you to

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eat. Not so that you can throw it away.

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Anything that does fall down, pick it up, because it's mentioned in a

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hadith that

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I mean, the Hadith he mentions here is weak. Because he says here

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that anybody who eats that which has dropped Allah subhanaw taala

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will remove from him insanity, leprosy, and these diseases from

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him, his children, his father

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and so on. But the narration the author, sorry, not the author. But

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the editor mentioned that this is a weak narration. However, there

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is another Hadith that says that if you do drop something, you

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should still pick it up, remove anything that's wrong on there,

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and, and eat it. Don't leave it for the shaytaan.

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Another one, he says that the other is not. So he says, This is

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not of the other, that they will turn their faces away from people

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when they're drinking. Because apparently, this is some custom in

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some places, that when they're drinking, they turn their face

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away. Now I know that, for example, when I have to drink this

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water, it does feel a bit weird that everybody's watching you're

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drinking, do you understand, but they do this as some kind of

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custom. Everybody's eating them? What's the problem with that?

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There are some people who

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will feed people, but they won't ever eat in front of you. They

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find they're very shy to eat in front of people. That's a

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different, it's not cultural reason, it's Seamus, that might be

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different.

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But anyway, he says that here that she can live with Dino Cobra used

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to say that when one of your drinks he should drink while

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facing the people, he shouldn't turn his face away from them, like

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some people do. Thinking that this is the honorable thing to do. And

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when one of you finishes washing his hands, you know, in generally

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they pour water for you. Right? So he says that when one of you

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finishes washing the hands in that kind of situation, he should make

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dua for the one that is pouring the water for him. You know, what

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do I should make the hot Allah who the no buck? May Allah just the

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way you're purifying my hands for me, may Allah purify your sins. So

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that's a very appropriate dua to make at that time.

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That's why there's another tradition that if you give

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somebody a cup of tea or coffee or something, they don't drink at

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all. They leave a bit at the bottom, because that's supposed to

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show that you're not greedy. It's wasting.

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You know, for that same amount you leave at the bottom people in poor

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countries would love to have that.

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So what kind of adverb is that? What kind of culture is that?

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So there's some etiquette in some places that you don't finish it

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off, you have to leave a bit, you can understand that if they if

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you've got tea bags at the bottom or something like that, or tea

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leaves at the bottom is understand it's difficult to drink that. But

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when it's clean, then well, what's the problem about

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the next one here, the final one I'm going to read today

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is that when they clean themselves after, after relieving themselves

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when they stay abroad, when they cure a stranger is they brought

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when they clean themselves, they

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careful of not using their right hands, their right hand should not

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touch their private parts. Why? Because generally with the right

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hand in Islam as how will you mean that people will go to the right

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in the Hereafter, it's that symbolism from there as well. It's

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generally used to hold the Quran with the right knowledge, where to

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use it, the speed, etc. So you don't want to touch your private

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parts with the right hand. That's why she often dealt with the news

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to say that I am so shy and embarrassed that I even enter the

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toilet

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with clothing that I pray Salah team

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so that they wouldn't they wouldn't go into the toilet with a

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garment that they were going to pray with. So they had a different

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garment for that. And there's a lot of people do this. They have a

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special garment and lunghi and something that they take into the

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toilet. And that's all they use that they don't go with their

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normal clothes.

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He says that if I read the Quran, if I'm going to read the Quran,

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and I said a bad word, you know, like not a very nice word or

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something, then sometimes I will wait to read

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until

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I've managed to forget that word.

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Give some period of time. Likewise, he says that I am

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completely embarrassed and ashamed to touch my private parts with my

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right hand. That's why he says that. It's reached us from that

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there was a Sahabi who never touched his private parts with his

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right hand since the time that he gave the pledge to rasool Allah

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SallAllahu sallam, that these are the hands that have touched the

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hands of Rasulullah sallallahu sallam, I cannot touch my private

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parts even in the bath. Even when taking a bath. He wouldn't do

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that. Okay, the final one actually was one more. There are other ways

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to keep their clothing washed and clean.

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Schakel

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hustle bustle we used to say

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well Thea, Becca Fatah here.

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Your clothes keep clean. So keep them clean.

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And if they ever wear new clothes, they adapt so if they ever wear

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new clothes, they will never

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they will never forget to read the DUA, which is all Alhamdulillah

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The Cassini Harada was a colony human Huria lady holy mini What

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are Kuwa which means all praises to Allah, who gave me this to

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wear, and who gave me this without any effort on my part or without

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any power from myself, which is related Imam Abu Tao from wild if

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not understood the Allahu Anhu that Rasulullah sallallahu sallam

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said, Man, Aquila, to Adam and for Clodagh Alhamdulillah Hilary Otto

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Imani Harada was a colony humanoid lady holy Mineola, Kuba, who fear

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Allah hula massacred the momentum.

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The prophets Allah some said in this hadith that all praises to

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Allah Who gave me this to eat, and who's sustained me with this

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without any effort or power on my part, anybody who makes this dua

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all of his previous sins are forgiven woman, Levy's job and

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Jedi them for call Al Hamdulillah in Attica. Cerney Heather was a

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colony humanoid lady holy Mineola. Oh fair, Allahumma Takata melindam

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be one monitor her. Anybody who wears a new garment says all

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praises to Allah Who gave me this to wear and who

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provided this to be without any effort on my part or without any

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power, then for them all their past and future sins are forgiven.

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That gives a big, very big reward.

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Just to remember Allah subhanaw taala in that time, so may Allah

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subhanaw taala give us these others may Allah allow us to

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remember these things and to change our life accordingly,

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become better human beings and become better servants of Allah

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subhanho wa Taala Dawa Anna Anil hamdu Lillahi Rabbil Alameen.

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The point of a lecture is to encourage people to act to get

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further an inspiration and encouragement, persuasion. The

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next step is to actually start learning seriously to read books

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to take on a subject of Islam and to understand all the subjects of

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Islam at least at the basic level, so that we can become more aware

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of what our deen wants from us. And that's why we started Rayyan

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courses so that you can actually take organize lectures on demand

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whenever you have free time, especially for example, the

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Islamic essentials course that we have on there, the Islamic

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essentials certificate which you take 20 Short modules, and at the

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end of that inshallah you will have gotten the basics of most of

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the most important topics in Islam and you'll feel a lot more

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confident. You don't have to leave lectures behind you can continue

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to live, you know to listen to lectures, but you need to have

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this more sustained study as well just like Allah harem salaam

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aleikum wa rahmatullah wa barakato.

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