Abdur Rahman ibn Yusuf Mangera – Shamail AlTirmidhi Modesty of the Prophet () Part 59
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Bismillah al Rahman al Rahim
Al hamdu Lillahi Rabbil Alameen wa Salatu was Salam ala so you didn't
mousseline who are the early he was me. He were Baraka was seldom
at the Sleeman Kathira Illa Yomi de amar.
Alhamdulillah Allah subhanaw taala has given us the Tofik to cover
4445 46 chapters of this guitar. So the next chapter that we're
covering today inshallah is chapter 49 baboon merger of the
higher your Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam and the chapter
after that is bourbon magic if you hijama to Rasulullah sallallahu
alayhi wa sallam.
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if you hire your Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam will
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sallallahu alayhi wa sallam oh god it Marathi to 4g Rasulullah
sallallahu alayhi wa sallam to this chapter then is the chapter
on the modesty of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam the
shyness and the modesty of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa
sallam, chapter 49. He only has to Hadith in in Arabic the word for
modesty, which is a bad it's not a perfect translation for the Arabic
word and the Islamic concept of higher because when you say
modest, modest could also mean somebody who doesn't show off
somebody who's modest, which means I'm not going to show off. And
hire is more than just modesty. So if somebody is trying to praise
me, and I say none, and I'm not like that, I'm like this, I'm like
this, and I tried to put myself down, that's generally in English,
you call that being modest. If you give somebody a meal, and you only
serve a bit of food, he served them very modestly, a modest
amount of food, right? Instead of a lot of amount of food. So that's
the kind of usage from others. There's another term that's used,
which is called shyness, but shyness is so vast, and some
aspects of shyness is definitely not higher. For example, somebody
who's so shy, that they can't say the hack, and the and the right
thing, they can't do the right thing, because they shy that
somebody might make fun of them. They're not willing to pray in
front of others, because somebody might call them religious.
Somebody might say, Hey, you're very Sufi, because you know you're
worried about salad is with a group of friends and they're out
somewhere in salad time. And he's che to tell them it's salad time,
even though they're all Muslims. So that shyness is not that
shyness, but it's not higher is it? Because that is shyness from
someone else. It's not shyness from ALLAH SubhanA wa Tada. So
shyness is another word you can use. Another one is called
bashfulness, which may be the most close the closest, but not the
most perfect still.
So there's modesty bashfulness.
Embarrassment is a negative, to be embarrassed, that's negative. So
that's not really a good translation at all. So we'll just
use the word higher, because that's the word in Arabic, so it's
higher or higher. That's the word in Arabic. If you just say higher
in Arabic, it's higher Elif Hamza higher with Elif mam Duda, as you
call it the long enough, if you do it with a short, one higher,
higher, higher just means rain. So higher and higher. There's a
difference in the in Arabic, such a rich language that something
small like that makes the change in meaning rain, and higher means
the shyness or modesty we're speaking about.
Now, literally speaking, the concept of higher means
a change that takes place in you or a feeling of smallness, that
comes upon a person when you are about to do something that is
considered to be blameworthy, right. So the feeling that you get
when you're about to do something like that the change in the heart
shouldn't really be doing that, that that notion that comes in the
hearts or when you're about to miss something that you're
supposed to be doing. Namazi is going
You're you're solid, you don't want to stop anywhere because
you're too embarrassed to pray in front of somebody or to stop or
something like that. So you know, the feeling that you can get into
huts that you have to fight with. That is literally speaking, that's
what higher up means. But according to the Sharia, we have
to understand what higher means in the shittier. Why? Because that is
what's recommended. That is what we want, because there is such a
great virtue for hire. In fact, the Prophet salallahu Alaihe Salam
said of higher, Amina Iman, higher is from Iman, lots of things are
from Iman. But what the point is trying to make here is that it's
one of the major aspects of iman, that cuts into everything. And the
prophets, Allah has also said, higher, high, you don't Kulu every
aspect of hire is good, you can't have bad hire. Hire is good, as
long as you do it the right way. So you don't want to take the word
higher and understand that it's shyness and negative shyness or
extreme shyness, that's not higher, the good higher that that
is recommended in the Sharia. That is all good. They can't be any bad
aspect to it. Because that is the guide of life. That's why either
Olympus de Fasnacht mash it. The prophets, Allah some also said
that this is something that we've been hearing from the other
prophets. This was a motto for all the prophets that they came with,
they said, if you are not, if you don't have any higher than you
will do whatever you want, then go and do whatever you want, because
the only way you can do whatever you want is lose your hire. And I
think one of the biggest challenges of this time and age
that we're living in, is the erosion of hire among people in
various different ways, in various different ways. By mocking people
of that nature, by essentially showing the opposite, all around
you highly opposed to higher. So people with higher feel very
strange. So I had this poor new Muslim who's finding it so
difficult. In fact, his he was he that the teacher complaint is
adult, he's probably 20 years old, 22 years old, his teachers
complained that she doesn't look at her when he when she's teaching
him, because he was taking some classes at college. So this is a
very difficult thing, that this is something that we're all dealing
with. And it has an erosion of our iman, because of the bombardment
of, and I think the best word for that is has to come from Persian
in order to be happy, you just can't beat that term. Because in
order because Adam will hire which isn't just doesn't sound as
powerful as BIA is just such a perfect word that is, the higher a
means without higher. It's something we all dealing with. And
the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa salam, of course, he lived in
different times, and may Allah subhanho wa taala, forgive us, for
you know, for our shortcoming and disregard. And may Allah subhanho
wa taala, give us some higher of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi
salam. But yes, he said that this is what we have understood from
the prophets, is to all say, if you don't have higher than do as
you please, because the only way you can really go and just leave
everything and just do as you please and not care is when you
don't have a higher. So according to the shittier hire is that
characteristic, it's that attribute that quality within you
in internal quality, which gives this other effect outside. So our
tongue, our eyes, our ears, our face, our hands, our feet will all
work according to that, how strong this quality is inside us. So it's
that quality. It's among the good qualities that we should have all
the good qualities that we should have. This is a very specific one.
And it's that quality, which inspires a person to avoid things
which are ugly, which are wrong, which are blameworthy, which are
criticize critic critical, something that you can criticize
something defective. And it's that which inspires you to do the good
things. And it inspires you to not have any shortcomings in front of
Allah subhanaw taala. So you're looking after the good and bad
that's in community. And you're also concerned about the hack of
ALLAH SubhanA wa Tada. And you have good interaction with the
people. So you're not doing anything, or you're not abstaining
from anything, which is considered defective, you're not doing
anything defective. And we're not abstaining from things which we
should do as a decent community obligation. You go to somebody's
house and or somebody comes to your house and you don't offer
them anything and you can see they're hungry, they've come from
a journey. That's what kind of that what kind of bad luck is
that? Should we hire to not give them something? That's why the
Prophet salallahu Alaihe Salam said higher Is it because it's to
do with so many different parts of our life? The Prophet said awesome
said that higher is just good is just 100% Good. There is no bad
aspect
it, there are different types of hire. And this will give us an
understanding of the broad understanding of hire. Now before
I mentioned this, there's a hadith of Abdullah Masuda, the Allahu
anhu, which has been considered to be the most comprehensive Hadith
about hire, that really tells us what it is because when we say
hire, we think it means not to do anything openly that people might
say, Hey, you're doing haram, you're doing wrong, you're doing
something bad. That's what we generally think higher is, however
higher, as based on this hadith is the prophets Allah some set higher
is that you take your head, and you protect it and everything
that's on your head, on your face in your head, and you protect it
from anything that Allah subhanaw taala would not like, which means
from looking at something from hearing something from eating
something from thinking something is just and your stomach. And you
protect that from everything that so you protect your head, you
protect your stomach, and your private thoughts. So when you have
this feeling that I want all of these things to continue to be
protected, that means we have higher and if we're doing anything
with our eyes, with our tongue with our hearts with whatever it
is purposely and we know it's wrong, then that means we've got
that much lacking in hire. So the different types of hire, the first
one is higher old Karim, the higher of nobleness noble it's,
you're so noble, that the best example for this is the Prophet
sallallahu alayhi salam just got married to zebra the Allahu Allah
and he's doing the walima
he's invited some people to his house and they eating after they
finish eating, they stick around. He's just married, just brought
her home. And they they've eaten and they're sitting there just
talking. They didn't think they weren't sensitive by thinking he's
just got married now. Let them be together. We've eaten we fulfill
the Sunnah. Let's go now. And the prophets Allah wanted them to go
but he had his so he has so much higher of nobleness he's so noble
that he doesn't want to tell somebody please leave. That's what
you call nobleness in higher noble higher right? So you so noble you
can't tell somebody please leave. I'm tired now I need to you just
sit and entertain them. Allah subhanho wa Taala didn't like
that. So the prophets Allah Allah Allah subhanaw taala reveals in
the Quran, either to him to fantasy row once you've eaten
fantasy Ruth and disperse. Go, Willa Musa and essentially Hadith
Don't just sit there speaking to each other.
Right? Well, I was trying to invent the shoe while I was there
anything in the Hadith in a vertical Can you even be here for
yester he mean income? That was inconveniencing the Rasulullah
sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, but he had too much higher Numurkah
that you didn't know VFIS the heme in combat he had too much higher
from you to tell you. But wala hula is the human will hug. Allah
subhanho wa Taala doesn't shy away from the hug and from the truth.
That's what it is. Allah subhanho wa Taala does not shy away from
the hug and the truth. So Allah subhanho wa Taala gave the command
in the Quran. Now. Once you've eaten and go, you've been invited
to eat now go. However, just to just put this hadith in context,
if somebody comes to your house and you go to somebody's house,
you don't have to rush away. The Quran doesn't say you hyg For you
to for you to leave. This is obviously if the person has
invited you just to eat and he's going to he's going to be busy. So
you should look is he going to be busy? Does he want me to speak
because sometimes if you just eat at somebody is asking you
disappeared actually finally find that bad in the culture. They just
come to eat and they've disappeared didn't even sit and
talk to us. Because sometimes you don't inviting somebody just for
eating you inviting them to socialize, to talk to bond
together. So you have to look at the culture, you have to look at
the person's circumstance. So you have to be sensitive, essentially,
that's what it's saying. That is called Higher, higher of nobility
to be noble, higher of nobleness. The second one is higher or more
high beam in my movie, which means the higher of somebody who from
the one they love.
So this one, I think you have to have experience to understand it
because it sounds sounds odd. Otherwise, the way they describe
it is, is that when that person's when that person, their
remembrance comes into your heart when you remember that person. You
feel the sense of shyness from thinking about that person. And
you don't know why you feel shy. You don't see any reason for
feeling shy but you start feeling shy you start feeling bashful
about it. This is higher that creeps into house when you think
of the one you love so much does something to you. But obviously
there's something that has to be experienced, for you to understand
what this is talking about. And I'm sure some of you some of us
will understand that
The next one is higher Obadiah the higher of servitude, which is
where we recognize our shortcomings in front of our
Creator, who we are know and we are obliged to worship. But we
know we have had shortcomings in worshipping Allah subhanaw taala.
So we feel so shy about that, we seem so bad, you know that feeling
of badness or anything, man, I'm not, you know, when you're
listening to something about how other people have been such great
worshipers of Allah subhanho wa taala. And what they've done in
the place, they've got an agenda and we just feel really bad in
ourselves that oh, I'm not of that level, and I haven't fulfilled the
rights of Allah subhanaw taala that is how our booty so it
increases a person's fear of Allah subhanaw taala and his
embarrassment in front of Allah subhanaw taala that I'm such a bad
person. And the one of the highest levels of higher is a person who's
shy from themselves, a person is shy of themselves. Essentially,
there's two people speaking there are two faculties within the
person, one side wants to do better. Another says no, you can't
do it. So higher or more enough Sihi for a person to be shy of
themselves. You are, for example, you're doing a work for someone,
you're doing some there's one example that comes to mind, you're
doing some work for someone. Now, the person you're doing work for,
let's just say that you are doing. You're a mechanic, simple example.
You're a mechanic, you fixed the pot, you replace the pot.
But your work is so clean that you'd like to wipe everything and
you'd like to make sure everything is clean. And every the bolts and
everything tight into a particular one, not just haphazardly, you
just do things that it could fall off again, or something like that.
Sometimes you go to a tire change, and they don't do it properly. I
had one friend who went to get his tire changed, and the guy didn't
tighten it, tighten it properly, or something. And then he was
driving and something happened. Right. But you like to do your job
properly.
I remember I went to one tire guy on lower Clapton road. And you
know, they normally have this trough in which they have water.
Everything was so clean. Even his machines were so clean, everything
looks at the water isn't even that was clean. You put tires in that
water? He said, Yeah, I do about three times and I change the
water. He doesn't have to, do you understand, but that is who's
going to who's going to who's going to tell him anything. But
this is just his own shyness from himself that, oh, I can't leave it
clean. Now you're going to think well, the customer is not going to
find out if I don't do this, if I don't do that. I fixed it for him,
it works. But no, you got shyness from your ownself that no, this is
below my standard, I need to give him the best. So this is below my
standard. Now apply this to everything you want to all your
job and everything. Whether you're working for an employer or whoever
it is that you're shy from yourself that you know when is
they'll see okay, he's doing his job is fine. But when as you do a
good job and you try to make sure that you're particular about
everything may Allah give us that Dolphy to have that level of exon
and beautification.
So that is a person is shy from himself. And it's almost like
there's an internal conflict that doesn't allow him to do wrong,
because he's got something inside him that's telling him off, and
that keeps him straight and right. This is the most complete form of
a higher, because anybody who is going to be who have higher from
his own self, then obviously he's going to have higher from someone
else. Whether somebody is watching or not, somebody is going to check
or not whether Allah is watching or not, it doesn't matter for him
because he is just so concerned about himself that he has to do
the best. So if somebody is thinking that Allah has given me
all of these bounties and then he thinks to himself that I've got
shortcomings I don't fulfill even thinks I'm not even grateful
enough for what Allah has given me then obviously, that is whatever,
you know the feeling that comes after that. That is what you call
higher from Allah subhanaw taala. So we might have higher from
everybody else but I think where we have shortcoming is higher from
Allah subhanaw taala. And according to one Hadith it
mentions that have you made Allah subhana wa taala, the most
degraded of those people who you are shy to do things in front of,
in a sense that if there was somebody watching from a
respectable person from our family watching us, would we do that act?
No, we won't. But Allah is watching us and we still do the
act. So have you made Allah worse off less someone to care than even
the person, your mother, for example, or somebody else in the
family or something like that, or even a child sometimes we won't do
things in front of children sometimes, but we'll do them when
they're not there. But Allah subhanaw taala is there. So that's
what you call higher and if we have that level of higher than
this, then it doesn't matter where you are who you're with.
Then things will be perfect.
Imam Hassan Al Basri Rahmatullah he I'm sure you've heard of hustle
and bustle. Alhamdulillah, the great Derby who met many of the
Sahaba he was told about this man. Somebody complained to him or said
to him, remarked to him that there's a man. He you will never
see him sitting with anybody.
You will never see him sitting with anybody. He's always alone.
Now, that's not always a nice thing.
It's good to sit with Muslim brothers good to sit with good
people. Jalisa Salah
is better than what are the sort of Rossella some said pros along
said a good companion. A good sitting companion is better than
being alone.
But being alone is better than a bad companion. So the best is
having a good companion. Second Level is being alone better than
the bad companion, the bad companions the worst part. So this
person would never be sitting with anybody else. So Mr. Hasan Basri
went up to him. Hassan bossy Rahmatullah, he was very famous
already by that time. So when he was told about him, he went up to
him. He approached him, and he said to him, he said, Yeah,
Abdullah, oh, oh servant of Allah Miam. Now come in Mugello
assertiveness. Why don't you sit with people? He said. I'm Ron
Chevelle. And Yanina says something which prevents me from
sitting with anybody. There's something which prevents me from
speaking sitting with anybody.
So then he said, Okay, fine. Everybody here would love to come
and sit with hustle and bustle, this hustle bustle himself
speaking. So the person didn't know who hasn't busted he was but
he said for my yamna oka and de hervorragend Allah the Yukon hula
hula Huson photojournalist, la Okay, fine. Then we're about this
man who they call Huson Why can't you even go and sit with him learn
something. So he says I'm going on Shalini and it hasn't won in us is
a matter which prevents me from sitting with Hassan or anybody
else for that matter. So then he mom has an old boss he said to
him, Well, my daddy could sugar mama daddy could surely your
hammock Allah. May Allah have mercy on you what is keeping you
away from all of that? That you can't sit with anybody? So then he
said
in the Osby who were OMC buying them Ben when it met him for a two
and a shovel NFC bill is still far really them be a be Shoukry Allah
near me, Robbie.
Now this was his answer. He said that, from morning to evening,
from morning to evening, I am between my sins and the bounties
of Allah subhanho wa taala. So on the one hand, Allah is giving me
all of these bounties that I'm breathing, I'm walking, I'm alive,
I'm eating, I've got all of these things that Allah has given us.
And on the other hand, is all of the sins that I could be
committing. So I'm in between these sometimes I'm looking at my
sins, when I'm looking at these bounties, I'm trying to negotiate
between them. I'm trying to compromise between them, how do I
deal with this? And so then I've decided that if I go and sit with
anybody else, then I'm going to have some shortcomings in this
regard.
So I thought for I have thought for myself, that I should engage
myself is still far to deal with my sins, and I should engage in
the thanks of Allah subhanaw taala The Grateful gratitude of Allah
subhanaw taala for all the good things that he's given me, so I
have no, I have no time for anybody else, because this is what
I'm involved in. So here's an old Aussie Rahmatullah. He said, Yeah,
Abdullah and the F bar in the middle Hassan.
Oh servant of Allah, you are even more knowledgeable. You have more
insight to the depth of the deen than even Hasson falls him
entirely stay in your path. So he recognized that this person had
really understood it well, he had understood his state, and he
couldn't complain to him because his state was better than sitting
with somebody because he had that finger all the way. Most people
don't have that. So the hadith is general. Let's look at the first
Hadith in this chapter then, which is Hadith number 365. This is
related from Abu Seidel 100 of the Allahu Anhu.
He says that Ghana rasool Allah He sallallahu alayhi wa sallam
assured the higher Aminul Abdullah fee Federico, I'm just going to
translate the Hadith for you and then explain afterwards the
prophets Allah Allah He said that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa
sallam was more shy, more shy, than I'm using the word shy here
because the example he gives is about shyness. So he said he was
more shy than a virgin girl in her special chamber. This is so
difficult to understand today. Right? This is so difficult to
understand today. Because what this is talking about is talking
about a virgin girl who has never had
much interaction with men. Right? She has had a very secluded, kind
of life. So it's not just a virgin girl who you'd expect that from in
those days, especially because even in this society, there was a
lot more decency and bashfulness and shyness just 60 years ago.
So can you imagine several 100 years ago in a culture like that,
it'd be even more than that. So put yourself in context here.
The number two they used to make, they used to make a special
chamber where sometimes these women used to stay even away from
just generally everybody else, even other women, just for
whatever reason, they used to have that tradition. So can you imagine
somebody who's been
always been a site like that? Not had much interaction? When
somebody comes to visit them, how shy would they be so unfamiliar,
so shy? So bashful? And what abou sorry, the liquidity Radi Allahu
Anhu is saying, this is the best example he could find, to give a
parable of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi salam that that he was more
shy than even that woman, even than that girl, but despite that,
he's meeting with everybody. But he could see that that is what his
state was, even though he's just such a public figure, despite
being a public figure, public stardom had not gotten to him.
It's simple as that. Because when you become a public figure, you
actually start enjoying it. And then you start doing more and
more, until that becomes your life, that becomes your food, that
becomes your nourishment. And then you get depression, when it
doesn't work. That's what happens to all of these stars, as well as
some of the greatest of the stars have committed suicide, because
they just can't deal with it anymore. Because what their whole
life becomes for everything they do, the book that they do, right,
the baby that they have, if they have one, you know, who they where
they eat, what they wear, everything is about showing
someone and getting some praise for it. And when it doesn't go the
right way. And you get a mishap. How do you do that? How do you run
that kind of lifestyle, it is so difficult, then you need drugs,
and you need false, you know, artificial means of being able to
deal with this thing, because there's just so much of a
struggle, so much of a pressure on you to get by and make sure
everything happens. And eventually, that's not what human
beings are, you're going against what a human being is supposed to
be. And that's that's what you that's what that's what happens.
So for the Prophet salallahu, alayhi, wasallam, to be in such a
public position, praised to such a degree that they won't allow the
water to drop from his limbs so loved like that, from the heart,
not for weird things that he does as people nowadays, but for who he
is, and still then be described as more bashful than a virgin in her
private chamber. What kind of Egyptians sia was that what kind
of a, an amazing individual was that? So the one who generally
doesn't visit people doesn't speak to many people, she's going to
have more shyness than the person who generally is because you get
used to talking to people, you know, the first time you have to
give a speech in Jamaat or whatever, you feel very shy, and I
can't do it, I can't do and then after you become an old timer,
then you can speak about whatever you want, anywhere you want, you
can give a speech, right? Doesn't matter. So I don't understand how
to. I don't understand how to even understand how the professor
Lawson because we never saw him in action. We just have descriptions.
But if that's what we'll say they'll do the Allah one eloquent
individual is describing him as more shy than a virgin. Can you
imagine what that would be? Like? I just can't, you can't even
imagine it. I mean, think of Maria Maria has Salam in the chamber of
hers. And when the angel came, and she, and then she just had to run
away because she discovered she was pregnant. That kind of shyness
was speaking about what can either carry her she and out of nowhere
for you. He then I will say, the Allahu Anhu says that his face was
so much like a mirror that it would, it would describe his
thoughts, you could see everything in his face. Whenever he would
dislike something you could recognize it in his face. He
wasn't hypocritical, you could see in his face when he disliked
something, because he says his face was like the sun and the
moon. And
if he did dislike something, he wouldn't always condemn something,
especially if it's personal, like the food that everybody stayed,
but you could tell it in his face, right? So his face would be
revealing but because of his nobility and hire, he wouldn't say
anything sometimes. That's why they've said that, you know, if of
when you go to ask permission from a virgin girl, do you want to get
married to so and so would you agree? She you know, she'll say
yes or no. But they've said that if she stays silent, then that
means a yes. And as she starts crying in this way of showing
dislike. So the reason why they've allowed silence in such an
important issue is because if she's so innocent, it's going to
be revealed, whether she agrees or not, and anybody who can interpret
a face will be able to tell, then they've made a decision that
sometimes they might be crying out of happiness, and sometimes they
could be crying hot tears of anger. No, I don't want to get
married to this guy. Some cultures are really bad. You won't believe
and I'm not exaggerating.
I get a call nearly every day on the masjid line that I have a
marriage issue. Nearly every day. It's like I can pick up the phone
and I can just imagine what they're gonna say now. And you
know, the worst part is you can even tell what community they're
from now. It's mostly Pakistani. Once somebody called me from Tower
Hamlets, and I thought they were Bangladeshi. I thought I had to
tell the homeless generally you think Bangladeshi, even that was
Pakistani. And I'm only saying this because this has to be dealt
with the forced marriages is what's just really, really
destroying the community in general.
I'm not exaggerating, nearly everyday, there'll be one or two
calls. I don't even want to speak to them anymore. It's just it's
just painful that all of these
situations, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, I'll hire a
Sherpa to mentally Manhyia is a branch of faith, one of the main
branches of faith. I'll hire laity Ellerbee Hayden hire will always
bring about good and I'll hire hiring Kulu hire is all good. Now
the question is that sometimes there is a shyness that you have,
which will prevent you from praying solid in front of others,
which will prevent you from doing the right thing in front of
others, which will prevent you from staying away from the Haram
your friends are all wanting to go and do something wrong or
something a bit off the right track. And you and you don't have
enough guts and strength of iman to say no, no, I can't come even
if you have to make a bad excuse and get out of there. You feel
like you have to go along because otherwise they're going to look
down upon you so you're scared of them. So that is a kind of a
shyness as well. But that is not the kind of shyness that is
described here. In fact, the person who's so scared of
everything that is despicable That's wrong. That's not what
higher is higher doesn't mean that you're frightened of everything. I
can't do that I can't do this frightened of everything. That's
not That's not correct. Right. Let's look at the next Hadith now.
The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa salam this hadith number 366 this
is this one is related from a servant slave a version of the
Allahu anha she says that he says that I shall read the Allahu Anhu
said man Allah to Illa 4g Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa
Salam o Kyla Tamara e to 4g Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi
salam, I never saw the private parts of Rasulullah sallallahu
alayhi wa sallam this husband, wife speaking about her husband
said I've never I never saw now obviously this has been mentioned
here in this chapter of the higher of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa
sallam. So now that that's all the Hadith, that is all the Hadith
says he she said that I never, I never saw, I never saw that. Now,
this hadith is shows the bashfulness of Rasulullah
sallallahu alayhi salam, there's another one which mentioned that
neither him some me or I didn't see him. And there's some other
Hadith as well. There's a number of other Hadith as well, which say
if you look here, this is what happens you get this bad disease
and so on. But all of those are Hadith are considered to be weak.
That's why many of them are what they've said is that it is
permissible to look but this was the shyness of Rasulullah
Salallahu Salam between him and Aisha the Allah one had that they
did not do that. Right. So this is very specific to Rasulullah
sallallahu alayhi wasallam. And according to some orlimar, they're
actually encouraged. Because Allah subhanho wa Taala says in the
Quran, to Hadith accom and Nash, it'll go to your crops from where,
wherever you want the Allah subhanaw taala revealed a verse in
the Quran, to have the commander ship to him, What cut the moody
and forsaken that you can go in to your field from whichever
direction you want. And look at the parable, because it's a field
because the whole one of the purpose of it is to have children.
So go into your field to grow your crops go from the right side, left
side right side, but go into the right place into your field into
what is considered the field. So Allah subhanaw taala revealed that
to to reject what the hood used to say. So based on that
this is what the Allama mentioned that this was very specific
something to Rasul Allah salAllahu Salam, if somebody wants to do it,
and hamdulillah that's fine. But it's not a people, a person
shouldn't feel bad about it. If they if they're unable to observe
this,
then there's a no, so that's the Hadith, then the Prophet
sallallahu alayhi wa sallam used to be very particular, even when
speaking about things, and that is the way of the Quran. He never
said vulgar things. He never said things so explicitly unless there
was a reason to say them so explicitly, if he could get away
with saying something, right, if he could get away with saying
something that was not so explicit, that saying it
explicitly sounded a bit indecent than he would do that. I'll give
you an example. In some cultures, to take your wife's name, right in
front of somebody else is considered to be really bad,
whereas in others is not. So it would depend on the culture.
Likewise, another thing another example is if you go to South
Africa, they will never say
A is your wife coming or my wife is coming and say my family is
coming, your family's coming, even if they don't have a kids, even if
they don't have children that say, your family and my family. Now
sometimes that could be confusing if, especially when you're not of
that culture because my whole family's coming oh, no, I'm gonna
have to prepare for, you know, all of you. You bring along your mum
and dad and everybody, you know. So there's nothing wrong with
saying wife, Ellie.
Really, in Arabic, they use the word URL, which is, which could
mean family. So it's in the Arabs, they use it as well, they refer to
the wife as URL. But they also use xojo as well, which means wife as
well. So it depends on where you are. But wherever that it was
possible that the Prophet salallahu Alaihe Salam could have
used something else he would do that. However, there was a place
where
in the case of Xena, where this man came to the SUTA Lhasa Lhasa
and said that I have committed Zina
and the broilers and tried to shun him. Like, you don't have to tell
him you just make Tobin. Leave it, you know? And he says, No, I've
committed Zina, and I want you to establish the penalty, the
punishment, both of us kind of rejected Him, then He comes again,
again, four times when he came four times that, once you've gone
and confess four times, then it's then the judicial service has to
take it over. So then the province and a lot of them asked him very
clearly, he the word he used in Arabic as a nickname, like did you
really like and I don't want to use the English term here. But did
you like really do the act. So he has a very particular work that is
very specific for doing the act. So when it was necessary, he had
to do it for a judicial reason. Otherwise, he was very careful in
what he said, for example, even when it came to individuals,
somebody's doing something bad. You want to warn everybody that
they that you want to warn everybody that they should not
start doing that same act. But you don't want to focus their
attention on the individual, you want to focus the attention on the
ACT. So instead of saying, So and so has been seen doing such and
such an act, you know, we should avoid it. It's a bad act or
something. No, he would say Mirbeau aquarium in your snare
owner, oh, you're cool. We're gonna cover what's wrong with
people that they are doing this. So people do you understand, as
opposed to trying to refer to one person individually to try to
pinpoint, because the point is not to put somebody down. The point is
to reform people a bit from the act. So that's all parts of it,
just have to be careful in the way we say things.
And some people they find, but some people like me, if you've got
a problem of being very particular, in what you say, you
have to be more careful because sometimes particularity is not is
not appropriate everywhere. Because sometimes you could do
more harm than good in what you say, because of you being too
specific. So you have to be careful about this thing.
May Allah subhanaw taala give us the Tofik. The next chapter is on
the hijama of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi salam This is
the cupping. So inshallah we'll look at that in more detail next
week in sha Allah.
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