Abdur Rahman ibn Yusuf Mangera – Shamail al Tirmidhi Story Telling at Night of the Prophet () Part 44
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hamdu Lillahi Rabbil Alameen wa salatu salam ala Sayyidina
Muhammad Ali he was Safi or Baraka was seldom at the Sleeman.
The fear on Eli Yomi. Dean Mr Barrett, this is Hadith number
261, which is brought under the chapter on speaking at night
Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam practice of speaking at
night or after Aisha. This hadith is a separate Hadith, which is
under this chapter 38 Hadith number 261, titled as Hadith or
Mizar, the Hadith of the mother of Zara This is a very famous Hadith
that is quoted that is transmitted here by Imam Tirmidhi. It's also
transmitted by by others, Imam Bukhari transmits the Imam Muslim
imam Nisei, and many others. So it's a very famous Hadith, there's
slight variations between them.
There's numerous authors who have written books just in the
commentary of this one Hadith alone. So in that sense, it's a
kind of a hadith that can be discussed in many different ways
and many benefits can be derived from it. What I'd like to mention,
for those who are listening elsewhere, is that there will be
parts in there that are only for a mature audience, right? He this is
essentially 11 Women who are getting together and speaking
about their husbands. So there's criticism, there's praise, and
there's some other revelations that they make. So he may not be
appropriate for you know, anybody that's 910 11 or less, right? So
those, it's up to the discretion of the parents. Right? So I'm just
mentioning that from before, and there's no way we can miss this
hadith out. I remember, I went to one area, and they were
complaining about the Imam. He says stuff on the speaker that you
know, we were shy to how have our, you know, six year old daughter
there right. Now, the thing is that we are covering this entire
book, it's adults at the end of the day, it's we're covering the
entire ketover here, we can't just miss out on Heidi's not that bad.
I mean, it's not that graphic, but I'm just mentioning that we can't
just miss it out. But I just want to mention to those people who
like to make comments like this, so we're just making a warning
from the beginning that you know, this is for serious study. And
we're all adults here so we need to benefit from this hadith insha
Allah Bismillahi Rahmani Raheem let's read the Hadith first Wahby
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going to Lucky, Kirby's are in Lyon, Missouri. And as you can
hear from the sound of the Hadith, for those who don't understand
Arabic, is definitely a very eloquent narration. And the most
fascinating thing is the fact that a young woman like I showed her,
the Allahu anha, who is the narrator, in this particular
transmission has memorized the whole thing. So it seems like this
was a famous story that some of the women seem to have memorized
at that time. Kind of a classical story, as such, Imam Tirmidhi
brings it here. Because this is obviously a discussion that
actually the Allahu anha is having Rasulullah sallallahu wasallam is
having with her, maybe at nighttime, and then it has some
discussion in there about what the husband and wife are saying to
each other. And it gives us ideas of what can be said, and what's
permissible to say, then the majority of it, these are 11 Women
who are getting together, they've all agreed, the whole story is
essentially that they all agreed, they didn't know what to speak
about. They must have gotten together 11 A woman's night out
their husbands were all out somewhere else. Right? So they
thought What should we speak about? Now, I don't know if all
women speak about these things when they get together. But these
ones certainly did. They thought What should we speak about? What
should we speak about. And then eventually, they all decided, and
they made an oath mean in the sense that they made a covenant
between them, that we're all going to describe our husbands and we're
going to tell the Absolute Truth. So we're not going to make up any
lies. We're not going to make up any fascinating stories about
them. We're going to tell the absolute truth about our husbands,
each one of us is going to tell, tell each other tell each other
about our husbands. So this was something that had happened in
Yemen, these women were from Yemen. So this is this had
happened long time ago. But apparently this story with in its
entirety with every woman's description of her husband had
come to Arabia in the sense of MATCOM karma Madina, Munawwara.
And Asia the Allahu anha had memorized it because in this
hadith, she relates it in another version, the prophets Allah some
relates it to her. So the prophets of Allah who it was and knew about
it, or was told about it by why he or whatever, or however, he found
out about it, but it doesn't matter because actually, the Allah
Juana either memorized it from Rasulullah sallallahu Sallam or
learned it from him, or from someone else. These words are, as
you can see, Sahelian LTE Tinder is in Moroccan, they're not simple
words to memorize. It's very highly eloquent. And then you'll
understand from the meaning that in many of them, they can actually
go two ways. So you don't know whether they're praising their
husbands, or whether they're criticizing their husbands. And
that's the fascinating thing about this. I'm not sure how much we can
cover today. Let's see how much we can cover today. But that's what
the story is all about. So the reason why I'm Timothy brings this
hadith in this chapter is because it's one of those things that
we're probably told at nighttime, so it's under the context of
Rasulullah sallallahu. And speaking to his wives at
nighttime, called the EOD who's what who has one of the best
commentaries on this narration, he has one of the best commentaries
on this narration, and most other people who most other scholars
who've written commentaries on here, have primarily taken it from
him. The commentary that I'm using, he has summarized it from
call the El this commentary called the Al says that one of the one of
the points of fic, and jurisprudence you can understand
from here is that it's permissible to, to speak to each other and to
relate to each other interesting stories of past nations or what
you hear about from other places, as long as it's not involving
haram. So it's permissible to speak about interesting,
fascinating stories just to strike up a conversation, or just to pass
some time between you as long as it's not the whole day that you do
this. This is just so that you can break the ice between you've got
something to discuss, especially if it's got a point of interest, a
point of softness, a point of softening the heart, a point of
creating more love and a bond between the husband and wife. If
it's for all of these benefits and you learn that this is what you
do. This hadith is doing exactly that. So almost
The reason why it's called hadith of OMO Zahra is because she was
the last of the women to speak. And as you will see from the
proceedings, the way she speaks, eventually, she seems to be the
one who gives the greatest description. Maybe she was
preparing it as the other one as the other ones were was was
speaking because all of those are quite short. But the reason why
it's called amo, Zahra, is because maybe she has the longest
description. And she may have had the best description in a sense as
well. Every one of these descriptions can be argued as to
what exactly they're referring to. But the whole purpose of this is
the statement sola sola makes at the end, where he says that to
eyeshadow the Allahu anha I am to you like Abu Zahra was to OMO Zara
because almost really really praises her husband. So in such a
way that he makes him seem like the most fascinating person that
you could ever have as a husband, so probably spent a lot of time
extending actually the Allahu anha we were very fascinated I'm like a
Busara is I am likeable Zara was I am like him to you. So I should at
the Allahu anha she's not. She's definitely a very intelligent
woman as well. She says. In fact, you're better than him. So this is
just the loving discussions that can take place between a husband
and wife as well. So it's related. Imam Timothy relates this from RDU
Banerjee, which is one of his teachers who relates from Isa Ibnu
Jonas from a sham ignore Ottawa. Ottawa is the grandson of Zubayr
for the hola Juan Zubaydah in our Ottawa Ignacio Valle always the
brother of arm to liveness obey so he Sham is his son. They were all
big Hadith narrators. So he shall relates from he shall ignore
Ottawa relates from his brother, Abdullah Abner Ottawa, who relates
from Ottawa who relates from Aisha Radi Allahu Ana. She says that she
so she relates that once 11 women sat together 11 women sat
together. And as in this narration and the narration of Bukhari and
Muslim, it's actually the Allahu Ana who is relating this entire
thing. There are some other narrations in which it's not
actually the hola Hana relating is Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa
sallam relating it. So in that narration, the way it starts off
is a bit differently, where the prophets of Allah some starts off
by saying that she says that Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa
sallam said to me that I am to you like abou Zara was to masala so I
showed her the Allahu Anhu said to him, my mother and father be
sacrificed for you ya rasool Allah, who was a Busara. She
didn't know the story before, who was a Busara. And then he
explained, so in that narration, he's doing the explanation. In
this one, she's explaining it, so maybe she then heard it, and then
she related it afterwards. Either way, whether he said it or she
said it, he listened to it, and he didn't say it's wrong, or he
didn't say, don't say it or whatever. So it's permissible to
relate. So these women, they got together 11 women that I had no
other coordinate. They made a covenant and a pledge act. They
made a promise between them a pledge between them that allow you
to name and bury as well as in a che and that they will not hide
anything from the about their husbands. They will not hide
anything about their husbands. They will mention everything,
whether it's a good thing, bad thing, criticism, whatever it is
Allama Kimani says that they were all from Yemen. These were all
Yemeni women, the first one said, now it's a very short description,
each one except the last one gives a very just like a one line or two
lines, if even that, but that's where the beauty is. In the few
words that they use. They seem to be very eloquent women. I don't
know who these these women were, but they seem to be very eloquent
women. So they only say one line or two lines, but they've got that
they really give you a whole picture of their husbands. None of
them say it's straightforward. Oh, he's a nice guy. None of them say
straightforward. Oh, he's such a bad guy just like that. They will
they all speak in many of them are speaking in metaphor. So look at
the first one. The first one said call it in hula Zoji la mu Germany
nothing. My husband is like the meat of a bony useless camel. My
husband is like the meat of the bony useless camel. Gemma Lin
lithium. Jamal means a camel. Lamb means meat. Now meat of a camel.
Number one meat. Our camel is tough, greasy. So it's not the
best of meats. Right? It's not the best of meats to start with. Then
it's nothing, which means it's a bony meatless one, an old, worn
out emaciated one, right. So there's very less benefit in the
sushi. You can see what she's saying. And you can see what areas
she's speaking about. Generally, behavior, action, performance,
everything. That's why I say it's so eloquent. She's saying just
those words, but she means so much by them, and the other ones must
have been
clever enough to understand it. Not to ask what do you mean? What
do you mean by that? explain more. You know, it wasn't you don't you
don't find that here. And then not only is he liked that kind of
meat, the meat is Allah ROTC jobaline wiring. This meat is like
meat of a bony useless camel that is placed on top of a difficult
mountain. So it's bad meat to start with and then you can't even
get to it. Why? Either because he's talking about he is too
arrogant. He's too backheel. He's too miserly stingy, wala Salah for
your Allah Salah for your taka then she carries on right says
last Salah for your Tata. Now she's on about the mountain
because she's already drawing this imagery, right? La Salah for your
taka. And this mountain is not an it's not easy to climb, but that
it could be climbed up. It's a very tough terrain that you have
to go over. What does that mean for you in tackle? And neither is
then the meat enough and fat enough for well endowed or
sufficient enough that you can even take it somewhere? It's not
even worth it? Like even if you did get to it, it's not even worth
picking it up. You think what's the point? Right? So he's saying
what are some means, I mean, means fat, you know, substantial for you
in tackle so that it could be taken somewhere that you that
you'd even worry about picking it up. What she's saying from that.
She's saying that, apparently, what she's saying is there's just
no benefit in him, but highly eloquent, that she managed to say
this without being graphically bad about him. Well, it's, it's worse,
in fact, because the eloquence makes it even makes it makes it
more striking. And then the other thing I mean from the Arabic
proverb which unfortunately many of us don't understand here, but
she says Jamal Jamal, so she's talking about Jamal Jamal, it's
Orion, right? The meat of a camel on a mountain. See how she gets.
She depicts this imagery using words that even rhyme, but that
match together as well. Then she says anyway, that's that's her
description that's done. So she obviously doesn't like her
husband, but she still has him. She's still married to call it the
fernea Zoji. What does she say about her husband? She says love a
boo harborough in a half or Allah Allah who in Earth Cora who have
called her Ozora, who were Bucha Rahu. This is the way she starts
off. She's wondering how she's going to explain hers. This one
absolutely seems negative, negative as well. She says that
LeBeau through hubiera, who I can't reveal his I can't reveal
his story. I can't give you his description. Not that I want to
withhold it from you, it's too long to tell you, there's too much
to tell you. Because they've all agreed that they won't hide
anything. So he said, I don't mind telling you, but it's too long. I
can't express everything.
In another version, it says a look through, which means I can't do an
amoeba. Right, I'll be spreading bad vibes about him. Anyway, I
can't tell you his information because of its length and its
extent, and in a half hour Allah Allahu, that if I do tell you, I
fear that I won't be able to stop, where do I start, I feel like I
won't be able to stop. Or if I start telling you, then it will
like I will ask for a separation, because you will all bring back
all of these memories or whatever. And then I will want to just be
away from him. So you could take this in many different meanings.
Whichever one you want, it doesn't matter. It's free game here.
Nobody knows who they are anyway, right? So you can say whatever you
want, you know, to a certain degree.
And then she says, of course in of course, of course. Jura who Bucha,
who, if I do mention something, and if I do state something, then
I would mention his original ambition. Which means this is like
a metaphorical statement to mean, all of his apparent defects and
his internal internal defects, both his exterior defects and
internal defects, he's got so many of them. So if I am to start, I
don't know where I'm going to start, I'm gonna have to mention
everything about him outside and everything about him inside. If
it's the second meaning that I'll have to separate, then it would
mean that I fear them that I would be divorced. If I was to go into
his information and start speaking about him, I would be divorced,
because I would really, really humiliate him, and he would find
out about it. And that would be, that would be the case, that would
be the cause for my separation. And then my children will suffer
because of that. So the only reason she's staying together is
for her children, apparently based on the second interpretation.
Again, we're reading into this Okay, so none of this is 100% but
you can definitely understand from the words that what she's saying
seems to be very negative, is quite clearly very negative. This
word originally you were Bucha Lee. Is has originally were Bucha.
He has also been used by Annie Radi Allahu Anhu dua to Allah
subhanho wa Taala in ESCO Oh God, well, butchery. I'm complaining of
my original and Bucha which means who me? What are the
In my depressed state, my sorrows, my griefs, my worries, so it could
also mean that I'll mention all of my worries if I was to do this,
but I guess in saying that she's already described what she means
about a husband anyway. And they're fine with that. Now the
third one that's why the the commentator says that you feel
that she may be hiding things but she's not because the others
understood exactly what she was talking about. Call it 33 There's
a statement in Arabic which says allow pinata Tree Hill ishara that
the intelligent one the gesture the suggestion the indication is
sufficient for them. Well believe somebody made it up the Tree Hill
done the and the foolish one. Only a sticks advises him that's just
some Indian guy made it up. Some Indian Pakistani guy media done
dies, or the word is not Arabic. But you guys are understand Arabic
so you're not understanding what I'm saying. Which is really sad.
Anyway, the third one, she says Zoji l Asha knock. These women are
eloquent. We're coming out with these really strange strange
words. I shall look I shall look means very lanky and tall. Right.
unseemingly lanky, not well proportioned, tall. But just
unseemingly, lanky and tall. Which, in another sense, they
generally say that people who are very tall, they're stupid. They're
not very intelligent.
And that's why some people say about Mr. Muhammad Rahim Allah
that He is some orlimar said that he's the one tall person that was
so intelligent. So generally, this is a statement or shannock refers
to somebody who's either very tall, or just very stupid, or
somebody who's got really bad character. So it could be all of
those things.
In UNdeC, autolock, she said, If I speak, I'm going to be divorced,
right? He's just ready to do it. So if I speak, I'm going to be
divorced. We're in a squat or a lock. And if I stay silent, I'm
going to stay suspended. So if I speak, I get knocked out. If I
don't speak, I don't get any benefit anyway. But I'm between a
rock and a hard place. Is that right? I'm, I just I've got no way
out. Because if I mentioned some of the bad things about him, and
she's already saying that in that's exactly what she's saying,
in the best way possible, he will divorce me. And if I, if I stay
silent about his defects, or whatever, either out of respect
for him, or either because I'll get really angry, then he's going
to just leave me alone anyway, he so he doesn't perform a husband's
duty. I'm just going to remain just suspended as Allah subhanaw
taala says in the Quran, that do not when he speaks about phunki
Houma, tabela community so you must know with Ola or Uber.
And then what it says for wahiduddin Omar molucca de Monaco,
in the other places that do not leave any of them suspended your
de lubaina Nisa, you have to be if you have more than one wife,
especially you have to be, you know, she may have had another co
wife in this case. So whether she did or not, it doesn't make a
difference. But he definitely wasn't very interested in her. So
she was just kind of on site. Put on the side, but the rule her
kalamalka As Allah subhanaw taala so that you leave her suspended
now that you treat her like a proper wife and neither do divorce
so she can go marry somebody else. But in this case, she obviously
didn't want to get divorced because maybe for children or
whatever purpose, right, the fourth one, it starts getting a
bit more positive here. Strangely that the negatives came before the
positives. All three negative ones now the positive ones, so it's not
all bad. Okay, it's not all bad. The fourth one, she says Zoji
gullibility Herma my husband he's like the the Knights of the
hammer. The Knights of the hammer. The hammer is Makkah and the
surrounding areas. The the knights in those in those areas are known
to be very moderate in their weather in in staying there,
they're very nice to spend nights there.
It also is an indication towards good character
and perfect attitude in terms of moderation in his o'clock. And
then. So she doesn't stop there. She says la hora wala Cora.
So these nights, right these nights, he's like the Knights of
the hammer. These nights are neither too long. Or too hot. And
Willa, Cora, and neither are they too cold.
So they're very moderate. Where we used to stay before in Santa
Barbara, California. That was one area where the weather throughout
the year used to be between 60 to 80 degrees Fahrenheit, which is
the perfect weather that you can get so neither did you hardly ever
have to put the heater on and neither did you hardly ever need
the AC on. Right It was ocean on one side and when you go
mountains on the other side, just a perfect weather like Janna in in
that sense.
So apparently this is perfect weather here that she's talking
about. But obviously she's speaking about the weather to
describe her Husband Husband. Then she says wala Maha Fatah wala
ometer. It also almost seems like she's responding. Kind of
responding to what the others have said. So perfect. He's not
excessive in his message in his attitude. And also, he doesn't
leave me suspended. So she says, Hola, Maha fatawa? Um, I don't
have anything to fear from him. While Osama and neither is he
boring.
So there's always interest. Right? So this husband is a good one. He
is good in his behavior. He doesn't always get angry. And
neither does he not just leave her alone, because you're gonna get
some of them who just don't do anything. They've got a lacks
attitude, she can do whatever she wants. She doesn't like it. Women
don't like that, generally, they might enjoy it to a certain
degree, but deep down, they don't like it when husbands don't take
care of them and are not concerned.
So in this case, she's saying no, he's not boring at all. There's
never a boring moment with him.
And this is also the Knights of the hammer like that as well. So
she's saying that he's very protective and very caring, of
whoever is his responsibility. So anybody that he takes under his
wing, then they will be safeguarded and protected. And
people will not feel bored with him because his locker Very good.
He knows how to treat people and deal with them. He doesn't just
leave them like that. And he's got a lot of mercy. He's got a lot of
compassion. He's not deceptive. So in, in just these few words, all
of these things she's explaining the fifth one. She says, Now, we
don't know what she's talking about. See the first, the first
three were definitely negative. The fourth one is definitely
positive. The fifth one, you could take it equally both ways. I'll
just say what she says first. She says Zoji in the huddle for
Haider. Right. In the huddle for Heather. We're in Harada or cedar?
Willa. Yes, wala, yes, alarm are here.
When he enters, then he's like a leopard or cheetah. When he
leaves, he's like a lion. And he never asks about what he has taken
responsibility. So what does that mean? Right? When he comes in, he
acts like a cheetah in the house, outside, he acts like a lion. So
there must be a distinction between those two. Right? You'd
have to know the traits of animals to understand this. And then she
says, And he does not take care of he, you know, he he doesn't even
ask about what he his responsibility is or what his
covenant is. So that could also be taken in both ways in the sense
that he lets her do whatever she wants, He doesn't ask or that he's
so lazy, he doesn't do what he's supposed to do. So it could be
both ways. Now let's, this is where you have to use some caution
with the, with the warning that I mentioned in the beginning,
because what what are these two possibilities here? Firstly,
a cheetah or a leopard. They're known to mashallah sleep a lot,
right? Until they wake up. Then they jump. Right. So cheetahs,
leopards, they, they're known to have a very good jump. Cheetah is
one of the fastest animals, they can do good jumps as well. Right?
But they're known to mashallah be very lazy and sleeping a lot of
the time.
So she's probably saying, when she says that he when he enters the
house, he's just like a leopard or cheetah, that he sleeps a lot, or
that he's just very heedless, he doesn't care about what's going,
he just does his own relax, to sit stay in like today, people come in
from their work or whatever, they just keep smoking and watching TV,
they don't care what's going on around the house, cigarette
smoking, drinking the non Muslims drinking as well, you know, right,
they just sit and just be a beer after beer and let the family go
to waste.
So he doesn't care what's happening to his wealth, he just
brings a wealth in they do whatever they want, he doesn't
care. He is he's so generous with his, with his wealth that he
doesn't, you know, he just spends and he doesn't care how it's being
used, or whatever the case is. Or he's doesn't look at his wife
wasting all his money and doing too much shopping online and other
places. Not in those days, obviously, right? Or another way
of looking at this. So you don't know which way so it's the other
way is that he's so noble, that he doesn't want to fit nine to house.
So he doesn't keep bothering the family about these things. He lets
them get along. He lets them get you know, he's not that bad in the
sense that he just let them do that the family is not bad in that
sense. But he doesn't keep like asking too many questions why, how
when, what to and so on. Now, that's one aspect of the cheetah
or leopard, lots of sleep and relaxed attitude. The other aspect
of the cheetah is jumping. Its ability to jump and pounce. Right
I think that gives it away
so that he says a new cathedral GMR that he's very good in
copulation, right? I'm sure people can understand what copulation
means, right? He's very good at husband wife intimacy
relationship. So that's what she may be describing it as Allah
knows best. What in Hurghada a siddha. However, when he goes out,
he's like a lion. This is when he's among people
in battle and in other places. So outside, he's dignified, inside,
you know, outside is very dignified. He's like brave, very
courageous. Inside with his family, he doesn't act bold. He's
relaxed, positively or negatively, as we said earlier, but outside he
is very scary is very frightening, like a lion. He marches around
like that. So he's like a leader among the people. Wallah. Yes,
alarms are Hida. He doesn't ask about his covenant about his
response about his promises or about what he has taken on. Either
because, as we mentioned earlier, which I've already described,
either he's a very noble man, so he doesn't keep bothering about
small, small things. But she considers this to be a point to
repeat and to emphasize, right, which is already kind of indicated
towards but she said it more clearly. In this case, it's also
possible that she means she's criticizing him that he doesn't
care if his responsibilities in the house outside Marshall is very
good, but inside his, he doesn't take care of his responsibilities.
And I think we can learn from all of these that we don't want to be
like them, although they mashallah they're saying whatever they're
saying, but we can learn. If we have any of these shortcomings, we
can definitely learn from this. The jumping on her could also mean
that hitting her that's another possibility and extreme
possibility, which is not very viable, though, right? That's not
very viable, because she seems to be saying that he's more lazy
than, you know, more relaxed, lazy or laid back. Not a six one is
most likely critical. She talks about something else. She says
Zoji in Accola Lofa, we're in Sharifa, ish, tougher. We're in it
Paja ilta. What are you little kufan? Yeah, Bertha. If only you
can, you could have just understood it from the like these
other women could understand it, and I didn't have to describe it,
then we would have been finished very quickly. Anyway, so in
Akella, luffa. When he eats, he wipes everything clean, very, very
greedy. curvatures. He just wipes everything clean. When he drinks,
as if eating wasn't enough. When he drinks. He, he drinks
everything. You add huge modules. So he's talking about Seraphin
eating, he just he just cleans everything up. It's also showing
selfishness. He doesn't worry about anybody else, he just gets
at the plate and finishes everything off. It doesn't get it
doesn't matter what we're leaving, he doesn't leave anything for
anyone else. It could also mean that well, maybe he's got his own
plate. And he finished the day in that sense. He won't be selfish,
but she's still definitely talking about his greed. We're in it
Podger. Now up to there, it could have been a personal problem of
his but now it's an issue with her. So she's saying the next one
is when he lies down on obviously she's saying when he lies with me,
Ill tougher, he covers himself up. So when he lies down, he gets all
covered up himself separately. Well up, he doesn't even extend a
POM so that he can see how I am faring. So he's totally aloof in
doesn't he just hungry, eats and whatever and just then goes to
sleep and doesn't even care about her. Well, it's not kind of which
Correct, right? You know, if you're going to eat that much,
then do something but he won't even put his handouts. So he
doesn't do that to find out if she's unhappy. She sort of she's
grieving, she's got a problem. She's, you know, she's sick,
nothing of that nature. He just comes, eats and sleeps on the sofa
or not under sofa, but actually next to her but wrapped up he
doesn't even know how much she loves him that that could be
another meaning that Allah mentioned. So he's like the
inebriate in his bed he's selfish in the food is selfish and in the
drink is selfish, he doesn't care about others. Now there is a
possibility of saying this in a positive way from the Arabic when
he eats luffa right love for could mean, but this is just the
possibility that he brings many different types of food. So he's
very generous to his family, that when he eats, he produces many
different types of food. You know, he has many types of fruit
produced for his family. And
you can also take the drinking that when he drinks a stuffer,
which means he doesn't leave anything, which means he doesn't
leave any types of drinks, but he brings all of them and he has them
made available for his family as well. It's a bit of a stretch, but
that's a possibility as well and about sleeping ilta for it could
mean that he showers her with different types of dress, but it's
doesn't seem like it's very, very strong possibility and to continue
with that it would mean then about the stretching the hands because
that would spoil that meaning and she says well
It's, he won't stretch his hands out, if I want to hide my illness,
if I've got a fever or something, and I don't want him to know, then
he won't try to find out. But again, I think that one's a bit of
a stretch. So let's just keep it negative, because we keep it
negative, we can maybe learn more from it. At the end of the day,
we're not doing this just to, you know, just to have a good time
where we're seeing this, because so we can learn from it and avoid
these problems. I mean, you we must wonder how those who are
married, how our wives will describe us, it'd be very
interesting to know. This doesn't. By the way, I want to clarify one
thing, this happened before, most likely before Islam or whatever.
So the fact that these women got together and started speaking
about their husbands like that, and this was related virus with
Allah salAllahu, alayhi, wasallam, relating something like this would
be fine as a story about others who are unknown. But whether women
get together and want to speak like that about their husband,
whether that's a good thing or a bad thing. That is you can't use
this hadith as evidence for that. Do you understand? Because that's
not what the point is. The point is that we're talking about
unknown people for benefit so that we can learn from it. That is
fine. But for women to actually tomorrow, get together all these
women who are listening and saying, Okay, we're going to, this
is what I'm going to speak about next time. But having said that,
for the men, they should really be worried about what their wives
would really think because I think we're some of the best judges for
a person is their wife, because they will know them more than
anybody else. That's why when you hear about Khadija the Allahu
Allah and her praise for a sudo allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam
that was serious praise and she comforted him directly to his face
when he came back from the first ye Revelation, he was trembling,
she comforted him and she he was a bit worried that this could be,
you know, some kind of strange occurrence says you don't have to
worry. You help the people to earn a living. You carry the burden of
the poor, you help the disabled and others. You are very generous
and noble to your guests. There's no way that you could have an evil
influence. I mean, look at her confidence in her husband. Right
number one number will be on which wife are we on?
Number seven. So number seven, she says Zoji is Ohio. Taka colada in
the Huda shed Jackie, have a lucky Oh, Java coolant, lucky, each one
of these very eloquent women. So she says that my husband is Aya
from iron. He's important. So you can tell where this one is going?
He's weak, he's important. He can't do anything. He can't get
himself up. Right?
It could mean who are in Nene. He can't perform. Sexually speaking
he can't. That's one possibility as the orlimar mentioned.
Then she says, Now the narrator is not sure whether she said Aya or
Aya means foolish
or unmanly? Either way, it's all bad. So he's not somebody who can
fulfill his responsibilities. She's saying is a loser. That's
what she's saying. Haber. She is he's a loser. In that sense.
Tabaka he just sitting around, he can't go and do anything. He can't
go out and fight. He can't do anything just sitting around
sloth. Foolish another meaning she could also say she could also mean
that he can't perform. I mean that's another possibility here.
Could luda in the Huda instead of saying he's got this disease and
that disease high blood pressure and low blood pressure and
cholesterol and diabetes and every disease there is he has it. That's
what she said colada in LA Houda. Every disease there is out there.
He's got it. Shut Jackie have fun lucky. Oh, Gemma Aculon lucky. And
then she's saying she's addressing herself maybe. Right? She's saying
either he will break your head.
Or break a buddy of yours. He's very clumsy. Right? Either he will
wound you in your head or your body. Or Gemma Hakuna Luckey will
do both. So she instead of just the description, she started
saying something to herself as well. You better be careful. You
know, maybe he could do this to you. Right, let's get to the
number eight. We don't know what she's saying. Number eight. We
don't know what she's saying. She says Zoji al masu masu Arnab were
Riri Hooser knob. Most likely it's positive. She's saying when you
touch him. He is so soft. His body that it's like the body of a
rabbit. It's very soft to touch. I don't know why she used rabbit.
Right, but that's what she's saying. And his smell is like the
smell of this sweet smelling smelling flower, maybe something
like saffron. So she seems to be most likely praising him. But then
there are some possibilities have taken it in a negative sense that
again, he's not one who can perform rice too soft. His body's
too soft. Right? But she's saying he smells well. So most likely
it's positive. That's what
She said, quality tarsier number nine, she has she's mashallah
praising, so it's not all bad. It's not all better said there's
been some good praises here and there's going to be even some more
praising. So women should not feel very depressed or men should not
feel very depressed at what's going on here. I think it just
shows the cross section of any community, some good ones and bad
ones, the bad needs to we need to improve ourselves and the good we
need to thank Allah subhanaw taala and do better. That's essentially
what this is about. So number nine, she says Zoji Rafi Ahmed
Zoji Rafi will Ahmed Toby you don't know Jad are the Mohammed
Karim curry will beat him in a nerd. So each one of them
seemingly making four phrases and all rhyming together. So my
husband is Rafi or armored. He has a house which is on a high
Foundation,
meaning he's got a very tall house, a house that's built high.
Now in those days, the high people didn't build houses high to show
off. Nowadays, it's a different thing, right? Each city is
competing with the other to try to build a better a taller building.
The in those days, it was for a different reason the tall house
was to attract strangers, so that you you could give them
hospitality. So that's what she's saying.
So the more noble you are, the more generous you are, your house
would be on a higher place so that any musafir that was coming
through the tea house first, let's see the light on. And that come.
That was that's the idea. So he's saying amen. This is the the stick
the wood pillars on which the houses were built. Or it could
mean that he's of a very high nobility, his family is of a very
high standing.
And it could mean both, because such people who were of nobility
was very generous, generally speaking. So he had a very high
house like that as well. But we don't have a job or any job, you
can say both. He has, he carries a sword around with him. So his
sword, and the string on which his sword is suspended is very long,
which shows that he's a very tall man, as well, are the more Ramat
abundant ashes. He has abundant ashes, meaning very hospitable.
Because when you cook in those days, you're gonna have a lot of
ashes. So the reason why you're gonna get a lot of ashes from is
not Hindus, we're speaking about were burning bodies here, right?
We're speaking about food making food here. So are the Mohammed,
lots of food. So he is very noble. He's very generous, feeds a lot.
karibal Batum in a nut, his house is very close to the meeting
areas. So generally, people will come to the squares, the meeting
areas, his house is very close to that, showing his extreme
generosity. So that's pretty positive. Number Number 10. Again,
positive, I think it's mostly been positive, isn't it? 5050 at least.
So well, they just start to have negative, so you just think
they're all negative. But it's been pretty positive. She says
Zoji Malik, my husband, she's the first one I mentioned his name.
Right. My husband, he's Malik, again, is still not here, but
because we don't know who this molecule is. Right? My husband,
his, his name is Malik wama Malik, you know, I'll help will help.
It's this way they say, to create even greater curiosity, like do
you know who Malik is? You know, my husband's name is Malik. And
you know, Malik is that kind of a statement is also to show that
greatness of something were murdered, you know, like Allah
Subhana. Allah says in the cardia mill Acharya and her Kamal haka,
so it's to show greatness of something law who what she says,
I'll just read it out to you murli con hydromagnetic la Hui balloon
Kathira told my Baddeck kalila told masari It has submitted a
SOTL Ms. Hurry a con and Hoonah how Alec so they probably are
sitting there composing when my um, next up next, what should I
compose? But then, you know, maybe they were just impromptu poet,
poet Tessa's. So she's saying my husband, he's Malik. Do you know
who Malik is? Malik. is better than that. So she's the first one
to compare. Malik is better than that, or better than all of them.
So she likes her husband, la Hui Milan, Kathy rattle medallic. He's
got lots of camels. He's got camels, with with lots of stables
for the country showing that we've got lots of camels. Camels are
very expensive. He's got lots of cars, lots of garages, that kind
of a story. kalila Thomas Cadila al masari. They very seldom go out
to the pastures What's he trying to say here? He's trying to say
she's trying to say here that because they go so infrequently to
the pastures it means that generally here and they get
slaughtered here. Why? Because then she carries on
What you understand from the apparent wording of this hadith is
that they get lots of guests and these camels, they just all sorted
in that. And he must be a wealthy man for that to happen. So they
had to get a chance to go out, buy his new ones, and they get, they
get
slaughtered, either submissiveness SOTL misery, a corner and Hoonah
holodeck and this proves that this is the point. Whenever they hear
the sound of a lute or a tambourine whenever they hear an
instrument playing, they used to play you know, when you had guests
come over, they used to play an instrument is to bank something or
play something just to show their express their happiness. So,
whenever these camels hear the loot being played, then they know
for certain that they are dead, that they will be slaughtered. How
are they Halleck which means to be destroyed, that they're going to
it's going to be the end of them. So this is very positive as well.
We see none of them have complained about cooking of the
right none of them have complained about cooking Atla MANOVA right
all of these madman's what are these guests are here. She is
like, there seems to be quite proud of it. Because at the end of
the day, who's cooking? I mean, she must be part of it. I mean,
she can't be sitting around like a queen, right? She must be doing
some of the cooking. He's not complaining about it. But she
couldn't have some servants. I mean, some of the women out there
saying she could have some servants. Okay, fine. She could
have some sound but she mentioned it. So either way anyway, number
11. Now this one's the This one's this one takes it over the top.
She exaggerates and I feel sorry for her because you'll feel sorry
for her as well. When you hear about. She's almost the whole
hadith is named after her name, Clara tell her the utter Ashura
the 11th one. Now she must have been thinking what am I going to
say? What am I going to say? Now? Finally, she's number 11. She says
Zoji abou Zara. So she kind of takes on from what the previous
one you know, the previous one number 10. She introduced her
husband's name. So she is brave enough to do that as well. My
husband is a bizarre one a boozer. Do you know who Zara is now? Now
why is he called Zara Zara means to,
to work in the fields and to grow things.
Right? It means to farm. So maybe he was he used to do a lot of
farming. And that's why it's called that. It's also possible
that Zara means lots of children. Right? Very productive in that
sense. So he's got lots of children, or she wants lots of
children or he wanted, he had lots of children or whatever. That's
why he's called that anassa. Now, she really goes out and depicts
everything. She's very graphic. And because none of that none of
the others have mentioned it in so much detail. They've all spoken in
a vague kind of way using metaphors that were very
effective, though. But she says she she goes very specific. She
says Anna, I mean, holy Yin, although in a year, he he has
burdened my ears with ornaments, positively speaking. Like he's got
some. He's given me so many ornaments that they're all over my
ears. Right? If you got it on the ears and imagined everywhere else,
essentially, that's what she's saying. Well, Mala I mean, shacman
I'll do the year. So ornaments. If I've got so much on my ears, you
can imagine everywhere else. Then she says he has filled my sides
with meat, fatten me up lots of food. So she's going all out?
Well, but Johnny for big had Elon FC, and he has made me feel so
good and so satisfied, and so great, that I actually feel so
great. And so satisfied that I feel arrogant that I feel I'm
better than anybody else. So she's trying to say that he makes me
feel really good. You can you can laugh at her. But you know, who
whose wife will say that about him? That's important. Then she
says she hasn't finished yet. Watch at any fee early honey.
Mateen be shocked when she found me
among a family of
goats. A family that deals with goats essentially found me among a
poor family that was just grazing goats shepherds be shocking in
difficulty in adversity. He found me among them. So this is rags to
riches story. Right Fajr Allah NiFi early Sahil in what Athenian
WADA is in, and then from there, all of that difficulty and
adversity, he made me come into say she talks about coming from
goats, he put me into a family of horses, right richness, camels?
Because Sahil is the sound of horses, the name of the horses,
right? What a teat. It does the sound of camels. So camels what
that is in, which means the powers that are tilling the fields, so
there's lots of production taking place there. So very wealthy
family has put me in
to one will napkin pure food. This is after the ground has been
tilled and you take the wheat and everything else and you separate
it that's called Let's refer to here as manakin. Where the the
wheat is separated from the chef and so lots of food we're speaking
about for in the who are Kulu by him I can say whatever I want, you
know one of the others. She said if I say anything I'll be
divorced. Right? This one is saying I can say whatever I want
in front of him for Allah Akbar. I will never be criticized. I will
never be censored I will never be put down. I will never be stopped.
I will never be prohibited or told off. What are good for other sub.
Now look at this one. The women are going to love this one. I go
to sleep. And I sleep late into the morning. AC bleeds into the
morning. There's no Fajr they have to worry about right if this was
before Islam, I sleep into the morning. Why? Because he's got me
shouldn't say that here. But the only way you could sleep in the
morning like that is if you've got people serving you. I remember
when I visited South Africa they would the servants would come and
make your bed in a particular evening and they will make your
bed they'll do every no all the women have to do their by their
choices cook that's why they cook very well. They even make bake
biscuits at home. They don't they don't buy in from the store as
much not only that's all they have to do food mashallah, you know,
when you sit at the desk turn on in South Africa, they didn't know
how to cook. They know how to do a barbecue the food wise, they they
know how to eat as well. So yes, I sleep. And I sleep into the
morning, he doesn't wake me up to do his kedma Because he's got
enough people and servants around him to help him anyway. What a
shrub for a coma.
I drink I drink to my fill, or I have many types of drink to drink.
Now why why do you mention water? Because water is a scarcity maybe.
So he's saying he has enough water supplied from you as well. So I
can drink as much as I want. I don't have to just suffice on a
little or it could be talking about milk, lots of milk available
as well.
Now, that's all she could say about her husband. So then she
starts on his mother. And look, I'm not saying this. But what the
commentator here says, right? May Allah bless him. Not because he
said this, but may Allah bless him for his commentary because he's
done a beautiful commentary throughout the book, which we've
been using and may Allah reward him say I mean, because we've
benefited a lot from him. Right? Allama just sauces amis. But here
he says. So this is not just in our culture in some cultures, but
he's saying this from before. He's saying that for her to speak
positively about her mother in law is really surprising. Because
generally, he says in Takala Illa Madho Mahima Amma Juby La La hin
Nisa, Omen Cara here to mizukage Air alarm and BMT la ecobee Herman
Mahabharata me Maha, but he had the habit coolamon, la hooter and
Lacombe. So she's saying that the commentator is saying that he has
not he now moved to praising his mother, despite what's known about
women, generally by their nature hating their mother in laws,
right, that doesn't give license to two wives to hate their mother
in laws. Okay. I just want to clarify that says, generally, it's
a problem. What I've noticed is that you take the mother in law,
you take the wife, you separate them, and they're perfect
individuals. They got no problem. You put them together, and there's
just some electricity goes wrong. Not in all cases. In some cases.
It's like, fighting over this man is his natural instinct of
fighting over this man. You want to make him yours? No, he's mine.
Now. No, he's always been mine, is that kind of thing. But really, if
you put them separately, they're perfect. There's no no no problem
about them. They perfect with everybody else, just when it comes
to this. And people don't know how to deal with this. So then they
slander each other, and they meet each other to be the worst woman
in the world.
I have dealt with a number of cases like this, where I've dealt
with them in this problem, and then you've heard about them
separately. And then it's, it's like, you just can't believe
they're about the talk. You're talking about the same people. But
it's the husbands and the family. If women sometimes just can't see
it, is the is the the husbands need to take charge and deal with
it. Even if it means to do something better for the moment
because eventually it will work out. Well. Generally speaking, the
problem is when the husband doesn't deal with it at all. He's
important, he doesn't know how to deal with it. But if you're in
that situation into GitHub, if you can't handle it, so then she says,
So Omar B is the mother of abuser, former Ibiza you know, what can I
tell you about OMO abuse of the mother?
Roku her. She says she's got praises for her. Roku her either
one will be to her facade one. Her saddlebag her buttons her her
vessels, her pots and pans, her containers her supply, whatever
you know
She said many times the mother is the one
who holds the reins. So,
Radha Han, which means very big, large and extensive, lots of
supplies. She's there. And then she says will be to have Hassan.
Her house is very, very, very broad, very wide, very spacious.
Then she says, if no abuser had a son, probably from the previous
marriage, if not a bizarre format, if not a bizarre, she makes all of
these out to be great. Would you know if if no abuse of the son
Mogera who can thoroughly shocked but in his place of sleeping his
bed, wherever he sleeps, is just like a thin branch of a palm tree.
I mean, he's very thin. He's very thin, he only takes us more but
okezie Love is safe. We're just like the sheath of a sword. So
it's very thin, very slender. We're to be true, there are
Jafra and the
virar means the shoulder of a four month old kid would suffice him a
very small amount, like a small piece of meat would suffice him.
So that's what he eats.
So she's she's trying to say that Marshall is very lean, and he's
very fit right? Been to Ibiza goes on to his daughter now. thumbor
been to Ibiza. What do you know about his daughter, though? Bihar
Watteau, Mia, extremely obedient to a mother and to her father,
very obedient. Woman. Okay, sorry, her. And she's well in doubt,
she's fat. She's well in doubt. So I guess in those days, fat women
were praiseworthy, and thin gays were praiseworthy wish this they
should still be anyway. Right. But now it's the other way around in
the women, which is probably better anyway, unless it gets to
an extreme level. There's still some communities that stuffed
their daughters with food and milk and, and so on, like force, feed
them to get them fat, because that's how the men like him in
those countries. The commentators have described this in more
graphic detail. I'm not going to go there. What are you do gyro T
Ha, but by this statement, you can understand what she's saying. And
she is the cause for the anger of her neighbor, meaning her co wife,
because she's so beautiful, and she's so well endowed. And she's
just so perfect, that she's the cause for the arousal of jealousy
in her neighbor, meaning her her co wife, and not just the fact of
her bodily beauty, but because she's so obedient. She says good
luck and everything else that they're speaking about you.
She still doesn't stop. She still doesn't stop. Now. She goes on to
the slave girl. What she got to do with a boozer but he's got such a
Slagle journey to Ibiza, his slave girl from Algeria to Ibiza. Do you
know about the journey of a wizard? Let the booth Hadith Anna,
she doesn't spread our home information, you know, because
servants are known to do that sometimes and tell everybody else
what they do in South Africa. Most of the time the robberies that
take place is it's an inside job. They have the inside person they
know where things are put and so on.
So she does not express and reveal information about us to anybody
Wallah than 30 to me Ratana 20,000 which means she doesn't take our
food and spoil our food. She looks after it. Well, she doesn't give
it out. She doesn't kind of like just put it around here and there.
Then she says well, a tumbler or beta taxation and she doesn't mess
our house up. She she's very tidy in what she does. And then the
sets the sad part of the story, because look at look at the
praises. Sad part call it then this almost carried on and she
said ha Raja Abu Zahra. One day, Abu Zahra went out while our Tabu
to Mahalo and the others of the animals they were full. This is
probably morning time or whatever. People will milking their animals
for lucky him rotten. He came across a woman Maha wala Danny
Kalfa dini.
She had two children, like two cheetahs or two leopards very
active lively jumping around here and there are two really good
children she had yell at Bernie mean daddy hostelry her that we're
playing around by her middle under her chest. That mean daddy hacia
could suddenly her it could be that the Saudi another version it
says under her chest be Romana ties attained. They were playing
with two pomegranates. I guess I don't need to explain that you've
already understood that. That's one possibility. So some have said
the weaker opinion is that these are real
pomegranates that they were playing around with, right? But
the other stronger opinion here seems to be. That's why I call the
EOD says we're the hyperboom ila and then Morata be Ramana teeny
Hoonah, a third year and we're in the other horrible ashba. He said,
some have said that Romans 13 refers to *. And he says
that according to my understanding that is the more apparent meaning
here, and there is the more likely meaning, especially when it's
mentioned in another version, he says we're called Ruby I mean,
that is Adria that they were playing under her chest. Right. So
maybe they were drinking milk to young children. They were drinking
milk, right? Or whatever they were doing.
And Fatah Lakhani, he divorced me when NACA haha, so she must have
been a widow. And he married her. He divorced me and have married
her. After all of that, you know, if anybody's praised them praise
their husband. It's her exaggerated
talks about everything under the sun until she could speak no
longer and then she talked about her sob story. Right? And then he
divorced me and he married her. Now, why would he do that? Why
didn't he maybe make a second wife? Maybe because the love of
the other one came so strong that she made sure that he he would not
be she would not be a second wife. Right? That no you can only marry
me if the first one if you divorce. The first one. Whatever
the case was, he divorced her. Now. She's then says that we're
not going to bury the hurrah Jhulan sorry and rocky Bashara Yun
Hua, hottie and then after that I married another man. Right? Now
she doesn't do the same as much as this one. But she says then I
married after him another man who was sorry in a very generous very
noble man another noble man and Lucky girl she is I mean she gets
to get marry all these noblemen rocky machete Ian, who used to
ride a very, very
excellent horse. So it tells you what kind of a person he was. Or
he could also mean that he was just a person who did things
properly. What other 14 He would always be carrying around a spear.
So you know he in those days you carried around a weapon anyway.
What Allah Allah nierman He showered upon me many, many
bounties many gifts he showered upon me many many gifts he was
very free with that. Wow Tony min Cooley Rai hatin zoo xojo He gave
me from every type of livestock he gave me a pair, right you know,
camel, male and female camel, every type of livestock he gave me
a pair wakad And he would also say very clearly, Cooley Missoura
so apparently that abuser was her was her because she's almost that
means Zara must have been their child that it must have been the
children together with the first husband that the child the son and
daughter they were speaking about anyway so then she says he said
eat as much as you want almost were media lucky right go and even
give to your own family from this so he wasn't tight at all I was I
gonna give to you My in laws gonna give to them as well. But then she
says this is where I feel sorry for her because she says follow
Gemma at Kula che in our tiny he
if for no Jamar to if I was to gather everything that he had
given me the second husband, Marbella mascara and iati abuser,
it could not reach the value of the smallest vessel or pot that
that abuser gave me. I don't know if she's been ungrateful or what's
right. I hope her Husband Husband in here that the second one, but
you could tell that she still was in love with that first one. Now,
the thing here is Allama caster learning. He mentioned here that
obviously she's only saying this out of mobila Excessive I mean,
everything she gave everything he gave her was only as much as one
small vessel of his I mean, that's just an exaggeration. He's saying,
because no small vessel can be so great unless made of diamonds or
something like that. But that that obviously doesn't mean that here.
Now the thing is that she definitely describes the Secretary
in a positive way that he's also leadership qualities and he's
generous and everything else. But he just couldn't, he just couldn't
compare with that was that was the First Flame just couldn't
complain, compare with him. And that is generally the problem in
many marriages that end that don't end up in a fight or something
like that, leaving a hot taste, generally the first husband if he
was to die, for example, or divorce for some bad reason or
whatever, the wife will generally have this love for the first one
more than because generally when women give their love to someone,
then it's it should be forever. Generally speaking, it's very
difficult to destroy that. I've dealt with cases where the husband
is abusive and everything but the woman still loves her husband. He
doesn't
want her? He hates her guts, she still wants him.
So it's been some crazy stories that I've dealt with like that as
well. But Allah has made women to be very obedient in that respect,
very faithful rather, in that respect, generally speaking,
unless they become corrupt in some other way.
And
that's why it says there's a poet that says Malibu ill hubby Bill
Awali, that the love is only for the first love. That is why some
of the scholars have mentioned some some people of opinion would
dislike marrying women who had been married before, because you
you would never be the same as the first husband for them. That first
Flame would still be there. And some have even said that Athena is
Miss filmora that a widowed woman is a half a woman because half her
mind is with the first husband. And that's why when Allah subhanho
wa Taala depicts the characteristics of the virgins in
general. What did he say? Lamb Yat myth Hoon innocent cobbler Humala,
John, no human or Jin has ever touched them before so they are
totally fresh to divergent and not even seen before. In fact, as the
other Hadith mentions for Jalna Hoonah upcard our urban a Taraba
Lagos Hubballi Amin for the people who will be the people of the
right May Allah subhanho wa Taala makers of them. I shot at the
Allahu and hadn't said. So after she related all of this, then she
relates she's relating this to Ottawa. Right? According to this
narration. Then actually the Allahu Allah has said that for
Cara Lee rasool Allah He sallallahu alayhi wa sallam
Rasulullah sallallahu sallam said to me going to Lucky Kirby surah
in the Amissah rain. I am to you like a Busara was to masala and
just to clarify, right because there's a divorce aspect isn't
there? So she says in another narration not in this one. But in
another narration he mentions Leia and Neelam oughta lick, okay,
except that I'm not going to divorce you. So we'll take all of
the good from there, but I'm not going to divorce you. Right. And
Allah as Kalani. He says that in another narration of Haytham
ignore it, it says Phil old fatigue, he said an old fatty wall
Wafaa he laughing for Kathy Walhalla.
So I'm like Busara was to almost surah in the love and affection
that they had between them and the faithfulness not in the separation
that was created among them. So he's taken the positives of that.
In a narration of in the version of Toblerone eyeshadow, the Allah
one has said yours will Allah. So now she responds, I should have
the Allah one who was very fast. Right? So Rasulillah Salam said
this no, she knew how to give love back. So she says, Belinda, hi,
Roman Ibiza. And it's to her benefit anyway, you're better than
and of course, of course he is. You're better than a Busara.
You're better than a bizarre. And that's why she could say that if
the women of use of Elisenda saw him were to see the promise of the
law, they said and they would have cut their throats instead of their
hands. Right? That's what she would say. Obviously, the prophets
of Allah Some said that just to make her feel good, and so on. But
he was clearly better than that. There was no doubt about that. Now
the question is, then, if it's better to marry a virgin
generally, then why did the promise a lot of money marry one
version, all the rest were because we're the prophesizing is
different story. In fact, one of the ways almost Solimar, the
Allahu Ana, she said, I'm very jealous, and I loved my husband a
lot. Right? He said, Don't worry about it, you will be taken care
of the Prophet sallallahu sallam, he was superior to any person. And
he knew that Allah subhanaw taala will put the love of Him. And she
wouldn't have the lingering doubts or lingering feelings, all of the
waves, none of them had that problem with the Prophet
sallallahu alayhi wasallam.
Some of the benefits derived from this hadith that the owner might
have mentioned, is about original soldier who Allah will be Surah T.
Hurley, he were hosting sovereignty, he was a son, he led
him with that key to him without IQ. You know, what we understand
from this that is permissible for a man to tell his family to speak
to his wives and his family about how good behavior he has towards
them, or what good he does for them, and so on.
And to remind them of that, because I promise I was clearly
single, I'm like that to you as well. So it's one of those things.
And it's beneficial for women to listen to this hadith as well. So
they can understand from these women their different challenges
and how they were trying to deal with them. Except that you know,
you shouldn't go out and start complaining like that to everybody
because just going to make a big fuss, big mess for nothing.
Because you do understand that all of these were making software. And
this is not labor, because we don't know who they were speaking
about. They didn't know who they were speaking about. It was just a
story that was told to them and they knew about that so it would
be fine in that regard.
called the ELT. His work on this is called Bahia Torah it V Murphy
Hadith to masala mineral fava it if there's anything else, I mean,
we will end this here, but if there's anything else that I find
that we could benefit from, then inshallah we'll mention it next
week. Otherwise, inshallah we'll we'll carry on. But again, the
whole perspective the whole reason for this hadith is very clear. And
it's mentioned here as this hadith. So may Allah subhanho wa
Taala make the men among us, good towards the wives if they have
wives now, and if they don't have wives now in the future, make them
to be the best of husbands and may Allah subhanaw taala make the
wives to be the best of wives and grant each a loving and good,
beautiful blessed relationship. Welcome to that one and Al hamdu
Lillahi Rabbil Alameen Allah home and the salam Inca salaam to
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