Abdur Rahman ibn Yusuf Mangera – Shamail al Tirmidhi Eating of the Prophet () Part 21
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Bismillah al Rahman al Rahim Al hamdu Lillahi Rabbil Alameen wa
salatu salam ala so you will more serene while he was so happy or
barbacoa seldom at the Sleeman girthier on Elomi been a mother
and
the next chapter after the chapter on leaning
on the way that also Rasulullah sallallahu leaned on, on something
or
the things on which Rasulullah sallallahu some leaned on. The
next chapter is actually, according to most editions, the
next chapter is on the Ayesha Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa
sallam, the life of Rasulullah Salaam in general. That's a very
long chapter. And because Ramadan is coming up, and this is probably
our last week, for this until after Ramadan, I didn't think it
was waste to start the chapter and leave it in complete. So we're
going to miss that chapter out. And we'll do that after Ramadan.
The next chapter is actually related to what we've been reading
anyway, which is about the eating, how the Prophet said a lot of
Psalm eight, and it's specifically about the method of how he had not
really what he ate, but the method of how he ate and what he did with
his fingers and, and so on. So that's what this next chapter is
about. So we'll be covering inshallah this one chapter today.
Let's read the Hadith first.
There are six Hadith in this chapter
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Musa Allahu alayhi wa salam and kuruma Turkey and
whatever he called a hadith and Mr. Medina Masha Allah had done
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even Kumar now who are we called ahead this is how cold Hamadani
yukata had this knob the tableau Sulayman and he shoved in your
order water and evening they can be numbered you can be color coded
Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam he couldn't be outside but
he said earthy well alcohol
whatever you call it, I had this in our home I don't know many in
Colorado little fog Look, no Duquesne color had nothing almost
no Sulaiman color similar to Anna sub nomadic in Yakutia, Rasulullah
sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, embitterment, Farah Ito, who could
Walker in mineral jewelry. This chapter, which is number 24 of the
entire book is on the general etiquette, but there's not much
information that is provided in there because not everything was
necessarily recorded. But these are the few things the Prophet
sallallahu Sallam didn't make eating such a big deal. So eating
was essentially I mean, what you learn from this is that, actually,
there's going to be more detail of this in the chapter that we've
missed out the last chapter chapter on Aishe, which means his
living style, just the absolute basic necessities that he used to
go with. So the prophets have a lot of some didn't used to sit
down for hours and hours eating, you know, these necessary, you
know, 510 course meals, and so on. So that's why it's probably very
different because food was a necessity, a meal was a necessity,
it was very, there was very few meals, essentially. And the meal
was just sometimes the date and some water maybe. So you know,
what, what adage do you need for that? It's just very simple, isn't
it? You know, eat with three fingers. And anything left on your
fingers, you lick your fingers, so that you make sure that everything
is there, the broccoli salad some sometimes used to sit with
children, eat with them, and then used to make sure that he claimed
he cleaned the plate, which was an aspect of great humility, because
sitting with young children, you don't know where their hands have
been and you don't know what they do during eating and so on. That's
a tough one for many people. But that's just shows humility. And
believe me, Mark me if you if you see somebody who's supposed to be
wealthy and so on, he can do that. You will have respect for that
person. Because he means inside he's he's got some humility. A lot
of the time that's the case.
The Bronx or Lausanne was one sitting with children and
One of the hobbies was actually relating I said I was eating with
the province of Lawrence. And at that time when I was a young
child, my hand was going all over the place I was picking from here
picking from there picking. So the province the lesson taught me some
other he said, eat from in front of you,
you know, call me Myleik say Bismillah and eat from in front of
you. Because that's, that's appropriate. If you keep eating
from other people's places, it's not nice. They were obviously
eating together. So that shows another son that that he used to
sit together and eat from eat with people.
It's a general adage of Islam to do that. So this one is going to
be about some of the etiquettes of eating that the Prophet sallallahu
Sallam essentially, it's gonna say probably the last one was eating
with his hands. Never with any instrument. Never, never, never
with any, anything like a spoon for that matter or a fork, for
that matter. It was always with his hands. And the process of
awesome after eating would lick his fingers clean.
And the province of Alaska ministers eating in a very
melodic, very humble way out of kind of showing and expressing
gratitude that I'm even eating. Because food is a is an atma from
Allah subhanaw taala we may not think so. We may not appreciate it
because mashallah we have so much and our supermarkets are filled.
But the places where it has to be rationed. That's where you that's
where you get an understanding of what what a meal is all about,
where all that may be available, maybe a piece of bread, or a large
kind of
some kind of bread, which you have to share with the whole family and
maybe some tomatoes. Imagine that as a meal.
Right? And essentially, that is what's happening in many places.
Also, we must be thankful to Allah subhanaw taala
the meaning of Uncle because the chapter is called bourbon ma
Jaffe, CIFA tea, ugly Rasulullah sallallahu Sallam CIFA means
description, the description of the actual actual means to eat.
But the definition of the real definition for actual, right, the
technical definition is to insert or ingest something that is non
liquid.
So to ingest any solid essentially, ingesting a solid is
considered eating, whereas ingesting a liquid is considered
drinking. That's that's as simple as that.
The first Hadith which is Hadith number 146, is related from a son
of gab, Abdul Malik Khabib nomadic, or the hola Juan is that
famous sahabi, who was who stayed behind who kind of procrastinated
in a sense, delayed leaving for the book. The book was one of the
expeditions that took part in the later part of the muddiman
Medina and life of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam in the
province also made it very clear that it's going to be a very long
journey, because they were going all the way up north, the book is
very way up north. And this was going to be an expedition against
the Romans. So this was going to be a really tough journey, because
it was really hot. And it was a really long journey. And the
forces were going to be mighty. So cabin nomadic, or the Allah one,
along with two other Sahaba, and many others, and many others who
call themselves Muslims. They stayed behind his intention was
not to miss it. He just said that, right? This was a time when my
crops had just had just come to ripen. And I'd never had better
crops than this. And I had to deal with them. So I thought, No
problem, I'll let them go and then I'll join. So I'll catch them up
because I've got a fast horse or whatever, sort of catch them up.
So slowly, slowly, I procrastinated like this until
when you get so immersed in it, I'll do it. I'll do it. I'll do it
until it became impossible that I could catch them up. In fact, we
heard we got news that Robert Lawson was actually not on his way
back.
And the strangest thing here is that such a huge amount of people
had gone out of Muslims, that unless you took a register, you
would never be able to know who's actually missing. Because there's
just so many people. But the most tragic thing is that the Prophet
sallallahu alayhi wa sallam actually asked with garb, right,
where scab, he actually singled him I just remembered in the West
garb. So he was mentioned. And somebody made some statement,
another one said something else. Finally, when the Prophet Salam
came back, I said, Now I'm dead. You know, this is this is the end
of it. So then he said, What should I do? And then he he's, if
you read his story, it's it's very, it's very well written
because he explains everything that was going through his mind,
and he's a very good writer, very explains very well. So then he
says that, I started thinking, what kind of excuses I could make
up and he says that, you know, I've got power of speech, so I
could convince anybody, right? I could convince anybody I've been
given that's a gift of mine. I could, I could tell a story and
you know, I could convince them. So he says, I was thinking of
different stories. And And finally, when I saw some came
back, I thought I had to go and then I decided, you know,
nothing's going to help me today except the truth, nothing but the
truth is going to help me. So if there's anybody
I wish I could have gotten through this by not this time, even if I'm
able to convince her sort of loss or loss. I'm on the face of it,
Allah subhanaw taala will reveal this afterwards. So he says, I
went there, and I told her I was the last time I told the absolute
truth. But he said that before me so many people were going the
other men that hadn't had not left because this was everybody had to
leave. It says the other men, they had to leave those who hadn't
gone.
And actually, before that, he says, I looked around the market
and the only people that I saw around me when When have you seen
the people who had we had suspicion of being an African. So
all the true believers as such a gone there was only me and the
other two, as such, which he found out about later. So then he says,
I finally went and the people are going to Rossella Simon saying
making an excuse, and he was accepting the excuse and praying
for them.
Right? He was accepting them. He was he was accepting whatever they
said and praying for them. And they were going they were going to
this world. I'm gonna 15 Then I went there and I told the Absolute
Truth. Survivors. Hello, Sam said a mother forgot Sadhak this man,
he's told the truth. He says, Okay, you go back. And we'll wait
until Allah subhana wa, tada. Allah deals with your matter,
Allah decrease something about you. So I went back, the prophets,
Allah, I'm told all the believers not to speak to me, for 50 days.
Nobody was allowed to speak to us for 50 days. Nobody. I, as I was
going back, my family, people, they saw me a bit before the
voicemail also made an announcement. And they said, you
can still go back, you can still go and you tell the story, you
know, look at all these other people they've gotten out of it,
and so on. And he said, halfway through, I even felt like doing
that. But then I thought, No, I've done I've told the truth, and I'm
gonna stick to it, and inshallah we'll be much better. So then he
went. And then he asked if anybody else was like this, like him, who
hadn't made an excuse, who told the truth is, yeah, there were two
others more or even Robbie and one of them a healer, ignore me, I
think just two other people. And these were two other decent
people. Right? All the other munaf. Again, they just gone told
that they just gone made an excuse and Prosser was mad, let them off
with these three people, the profits or loss of announced that
nobody should visit them, or talk to them at all, except, sorry at
all. In fact, for 50 days.
He says I went to I used to go around because the other two, they
used to they used to stay at home. They were they used to stay at
home. But I was young and I used to go out the market but nobody
would speak to me. Nobody would speak to me. Finally I went to one
of my friends.
A friend of mine, he wouldn't speak to me as well. I
jumped over his wall and went into his house and I said what's wrong?
Why don't you speak to me? Don't you understand? I'm you know,
this.
He just wouldn't speak to him as well. So finally, I left in the
midst of that, I got a letter from one of the rulers of another
nation. He said, we found out that your your leader has forsaken you.
So come and join with us because such a person like you should not
be forsaken. It says so many fitness were coming in Ba I
quickly took that letter and I went and threw it in the in the
nor in the in the oven in the fire. Right? And then he explains
and then eventually he said after a certain number of days, he told
that our wife should also separate from us. So
somebody came in told me I said, Does it mean I have to divorce her
or just separate from her. This is not just separate, one of the
others sought permission. Their wives went and asked the prophets
Allah can I stay with him? Because he's very old, he needs help. So
he was allowed. And
somebody gave me the idea or, you know, I was given the idea that
maybe my wife should I said, No, no, no.
So then he said, and Allah subhanaw taala actually reveals in
the Quran their feeling, he said, Well, Dr. Ali, human or dooby,
Morocco, but that the whole earth became constrained and tight upon
them despite its vastness. Because Can you imagine living among
people that nobody speaks to you? Nobody speaks to your friend,
family, nobody speaks to you.
So then finally, he said, I used to go. And
to other prophets, Allah, some used to pray in the masjid. And I
used to see if he aced his mix alarm as well. Nice to see if he's
going to respond. And he wouldn't respond. But then sometimes I
would notice from the corner of my eye that when I wasn't looking at
him, he would look at me, right? So he would never, you know, look
at me directly. It was just such a tough and he was really trying,
really trying to go and do that. Finally, he says one day I was in
my house and I heard an announcement that your doorbell
has been accepted. By took 50 days, the Toba had been accepted.
And he says the first person that came to me to give that cloud
tithing I took I only had one pair of clothes on. On that day. I
borrowed another pair and I gave him these as a gift
for bringing me this good news. And then and then I went and he
said that if I look back at it, although it was so tough, but I
wouldn't give anything for that.
Right? I wouldn't give anything for this experience. And
afterwards the benefit that it gave me all of that reflection,
anything I wouldn't give anything up for that. But Allah subhanaw
taala Allah who I'll Island Obi Wan Mahajan, all Ansari, Lilina,
Tibetan cumbia son, Allah subhanaw taala speaks about
them in the Quran and the truthfulness. And he said that the
other people, the Mauna Kea, and clearly they were destroyed
afterwards, in the sense that Allah subhanaw taala knew their
their reality. So I'm glad that I told the truth. And what happened.
It's a long story, but that's it's his son, who is a narrator of this
hadith, who narrates actually from his father. So the hadith is from
caribou nomadic are the hola Juan
he was unsightly, a salami.
He relates that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam can a
yellow Aqua Asami or who he used to lick his fingers, meaning after
eating, he used to lick his fingers. So this doesn't refer to
in the middle. But this was after eating, I think the way we eat in
terms of the amount of food mashallah we have at our disposal,
we probably may need to do it more than once. But with the prophets
of Allah isn't one of the reasons why he only used to do it at the
end is probably because it was just very simple food, Allahu
Allah. But he's saying the commentators are explaining that
this is referring to looking at once at the end, lick them clean,
there's a reason for that the profit or loss of explained
afterwards, why that should happen.
So firstly, the third theme, the order of things and the etiquette
is that once a person eats, then it's actually a good idea to, to
wipe them first, to remove the oil and everything. That is something
that we don't do.
In our community, we don't really do as much, you've got some
communities that only wipe them. So they will offer serviettes in
tissues, and they'll only wipe them they don't believe in washing
them, we are exclusively washing them, which is fine. But there is
a word that Allah ma have written is that they used to wipe them
normally, because they didn't have one of these nice soaps and things
like that, that the grease, so it was always a good idea to wipe
them on sand or so on, which would then remove the oil, the oil and
the grease, and then after you wash them for anything that's
remaining. So this gives us an understanding that it's completely
fine to also have serviettes as such to. And I think it's kind of
useful, because what happens in many cases is that the basin for
washing is normally in another place, one person may have
finished early, and then he wants to maybe eat the sweet or eat
something else. And hands dirty. If you've eaten with your hand
that I think it's a good idea to have some tissues there as well.
It's not a Western thing, essentially, to combine both is a
good thing. Right? So we mustn't think it's a non Muslim thing to
do. Right? And no, no, you can't have any tissues, we're going to
make insist you wash your hands, because it's not convenient to
keep sending everybody. And then what they normally do is they'll
bring these, this pot of water or something to wash your hands in,
right, which is which is fine, you know, which is fine. But a lot of
the time the issue with that is they get them to wash it over the
food. And sometimes, you know, it becomes a bit and hygienic and so
on because the splashes of it unless you have to have some third
theme. So tissues there just just so that somebody wants to if it's
become very dirty, then they clean it up and then they can wash them
afterwards as well. So you should have a habit of washing your hands
afterwards. But there's nothing wrong with doing wiping in between
that's why even a hydra last Kalani he says that this licking
then when is the licking taking place is it after you wipe them
says No, you eat you lick your fingers first, then you wipe them
for any excess. And then you wash them.
Because all purpose of it is that every last bit of food is also
taken into your mouth. Because the Hadith mentions that you don't
know on which of the which part of your entire food there is baraka
and that's actually a very famous Hadith that there's Allah. Allah
subhanaw taala has nufarm and that is maybe so that you value every
bit of your food that Allah has placed Baraka, the blessing and
we'll explain that a bit more later, in one part of the food.
So, if the part that has dropped, which is not dirty, it's just
dropped, or that still on your finger, that may have the baraka
you've just lost the baraka if we didn't eat that, or you didn't
lick that essentially. So in Muslim in the hadith of Muslim he
mentioned that prophets Allah Allah some use to lick his finger
before wiping it. So wiping is a sunnah as well. Right? According
to a hadith of Muslim
Why would you lick it first? To number one for extra cleanliness,
because if you start wiping it, you're going to there's probably
going to be a bit more food on there, then had you not licked
then had you licked it? And then
and also to protect the baraka in it.
Another Hadith mentions if that had to come to an affiliate of
Serbia who for no lie that if he he handled Baraka
that when one of you eats, then he should lick his fingers because he
doesn't know in which of the food particles or whatever is the
baraka. In the Hadith or Muslim in the narration in Muslim, it says
Leia did he a year Tommy al Baraka, he doesn't know in which
part of that food or which food, the baraka is, so you should look
it so that it's there. It's you've can, you've taken it in your mum,
no, he says that the bark, it's not known whether the bark is in
the food that you've eaten, the pot that's fallen down, or the pot
that's remaining on your finger. So that's the that's why we insist
on this adverb, aside from the side from the fact that it's, it's
also not It's not wasting, isn't it? It's not about wasting. What
does he mean by the baraka, what's baraka and blessing, what is
blessing in the food, blessing in the food in this case would mean
a zero, which means
an increase, an increase in the benefit that it will provide you
an increase in the satiation that it will give you, which means
feeling of satisfaction.
A lot of the time, you can eat a lot more when
you're not concentrating on the food, or reading books and reading
Bismillah.
When reading Bismillah, and so when you're concentrating on the
food, then you could be filled up much with less because it goes
further. And more than that,
one of the reasons we eat is to remain healthy, so that we can
worship. That's why eating is actually necessary. It the fuqaha
Allah, Allah, Allah, he has mentioned that if somebody refused
to eat, and because of that he died,
he would be sinful.
If somebody refused to take medicine, he would not be sinful,
and he died. But if somebody refused to eat, and he died
because of that, he would be sinful. Likewise, how'd you get
food in the first place, you have to earn it, you have to earn a
living. So he said that if a person refused to earn a living,
though he could enable person
I didn't earn a living. And because then he didn't ask anybody
either. Because he's saying, essentially, that if you can't
earn a living yourself, then you have to ask someone, if he didn't
do either of them, neither did he earn his own living, despite the
fact that he could, he didn't ask anybody. And then he died because
of that he would be sinful.
Because Allah has put you in us into the world. And he's told us
that these are some of the basic things you must do. That's why he
says Tada, Bucharest Bill Hillary for either to embark the failure
to earn a lawful living is funneled after some of the other
for the other individual fried like salad and some fasting and so
on. So that's just to put things in perspective, because some
people sometimes have a twisted idea of what our call is, that we
should just sit back and it will come to us now, we've been told
and that's why Allah has given us capability to do it. So one of the
biggest baraka of one of the one of the greatest benefits that this
book will bring, and the meaning of Baraka in food is that it will
give you strength to do worship. So that food has gone in the
stomach, and it will bring with it delphic because it had Baraka in
it. It won't make us lazy, right? It will make us lazy, and the
Allah will provide blessing, as opposed to no blessing and
laziness. So that's that, that's the benefit of eating food. So
even if it's, if you have to go to an invitation, where they've made
a lot of read Bismillah before it and ask for the burqa, and
whatever you take, right? Because the whole question then arises
that if you've got a big pot of food, and everybody's taking from
it, then there's only one person get that but no, I think what the
aspect here is that whatever portion is written for us, then
within there somewhere is the baraka. That's what we understand
from this. Right? So within one pot and shared between 10 people,
then there's going to be 10 aspects of Baraka in there given
to different people. That's up to Allah subhanaw taala he can do
this, he doesn't need manpower to make sure that it's all done
properly just happens for him. Imam called the EOD one great
Maliki scholars he explains that one of the wisdoms in making sure
that you should lick your fingers in the Hadith, as you mentioned,
is so that a person doesn't consider that small amounts of
food or insignificant keeps a value of even a small amount of
food that okay, it's on your finger a big deal. You know, let's
just wash it off. No, you should treat every piece of food with
thanks to Allah subhanaw taala. Some have said that actually the
reason is not for the baraka aspects. Well, they didn't say
It's not for though it says that one of the other reasons for it is
that if you don't like it, then when you're washing it or when
you're wiping it, it's just going to make that more dirty. So
there's a cleanliness aspect as well. That's why I mentioned that
you could have all of these wisdoms because that whatever the
profit or loss on recommended doesn't just include one wisdom in
it. It has many, many benefits to it. Right? The Prophet sallallahu
summize says that he used to lick he whenever when he ate, as
mentioned in this hadith, then mentions that
Kenny el Aqua sabia who sell earthen he used to lick his
finger, it says three times does that mean each finger three times
so does that mean three fingers, both are possibilities.
Both possibilities, progress alasa mostly eight with three fingers.
So it means it works out that he licked three fingers. But then if
one time licking is not sufficient, then you do it three
times that it's not necessary to lick your finger three times each
as such. So there's a hadith which mentions that the Prophet SAW
Allah means to eat with three fingers and then after that he
used to lick those three fingers. And
Imam Timothy then has a comment after this hadith after this
narration he says that
other than Mohammed number Sharm. There's other people who've who've
also related this hadith other than Mohammed Abu Bashar one of
the latest narrators. And in there, they say that can al Assad
be earth that the Prophet salallahu Salam he made it clear,
he says that restaurant used to lick his three fingers as opposed
to lick his finger three times, because that one was a bit vague.
So then he clarified he says that what it should mean is I used to
lick his three fingers, meaning that's how many fingers he ate
with to be able to lick them. And what are those two fingers? It's
essentially the thumb, the index finger and the middle finger.
Those are the three fingers that that are to be eternal most
practical fingers to eat with Imam even 100 Last Kidani he says that
in ignorant Rudra his version of this narration in Bharani.
In his margin will also not
there's a description of how the profit and loss Mr. Lick the
fingers. Caribou Nataraja Radi Allahu Anhu reports that I sought
a soul Allah salAllahu Alaihe Salam yet couldn't be a sub a
third Earth. I saw the promise of awesome eating with three fingers.
And Abraham will let Italy How will Wooster the thumb, the one
next to it and the middle finger through Mara a to who yell Aqua
sabe. I will sell off. Then I saw him licking these three fingers
Cobla and Giemsa kablam yum sobre el Gustavo, before he before he
wiped them, I saw him licking them. And he explained exactly
which one he liked as well. So there's a sunnah of the way to
lick them as well. So he licked the Gustaf has the middle one
first, then the index finger, and then the then the, the thumb. And
the reason that's given for why the white Why do you think the
middle finger is licked first, it's the longest finger, it's
probably going to be the most soiled as such or most covered.
And in, in the food.
It's the longest, and it probably falls in the food first as well.
Also, the way you normally lick your finger would be that you take
the inside palm of your hands towards your face first. And in
that case, if you lick the middle finger first, then you'd live lick
the index finger which would come on the right of it. And then the
thumb which would come on the right of that. So within this
action of licking the middle finger first, which would normally
be the palm facing the face as such. There's also it also
incorporates doing it from the right side as going towards the
right side. So the Prophet sallallahu sallam, I'm sure he
didn't kind of work it out and say, This is how I'm gonna do it.
And then do this so that it's in the right side.
It's Tofik, from Allah subhanaw taala, that he's doing something
Allah knows best, Allah knows best. But it seems to indicate
that everything he did was just so perfect. Something as simple as
that you've got many virtues in it as such of going towards the
right, although others have mentioned that it's better to the
other way for other practical reasons and so on. But this is
what's mentioned in that one narration. The other thing is that
what we understand from this hadith is that the prophets, Allah
some definitely ate with his fingers. Otherwise, why would they
become soiled? Why would he have to lick them if he was eating with
a fork or spoon or any other, any other instrument for that matter,
and his son to eat with three fingers.
This is what the aroma have mentioned. So this is not just a
subcontinent thing. Unfortunately, in many countries, including many
Arab countries, most people or many people are eating with
spoons, and not with their fingers anymore. So this is not supposed
to be a cultural subcontinent thing that it came from the Hindus
and the Muslims of the subcontinent, which means India,
Pakistan, Bangladesh started doing that. And now they've just carried
on doing that. Now this
is an Islamic thing. It may have been a cultural thing as well, but
it's an Islamic thing the process a lot. I mean this, you know, I'm
thinking maybe he a and these are the comment commentators were
mentioning this. In fact, Imam Shafi mentions that eating with
just one finger is being tight, is being miserly. And what are you
doing with one finger? I mean, how are you going to eat with one
finger? Right? So that's just ridiculous, essentially saying
that it's just ridiculous. Nobody does that. If somebody does that.
It's just really tight. Right?
We too, it's, it's a display of arrogance. Eating with two
fingers. I mean, what do you think you are, it's just this kind of
flair or something or loved one. And it says the three is sunnah.
Three is sunnah. And the more you use the worst it becomes but it's
it's permissible to use more if you have to, if something is very
watery, or something or something, you can't just have two fingers,
then it's fine.
You should learn to eat with two fingers, I guess. But it's fine to
eat with three or four or four or five if you have to. It actually
says what the water about the solid Salafi and agreeable Malak
likoni worded in the manual, a global Bill asabi
that many of the salaries to a number of the stuff used to
actually just completely abstain, like, consciously abstain from
eating with spoons. Because nowhere in the Sunnah, has it been
revealed that spoon was used and it spoon is not a new spoon is not
a new invention. Believe me, it's not a new Western innovation the
last 20 years or last 100 years, you'll probably find it even in
the Egyptian Museum, the Pharaonic Egyptian Museum of 4000 years old.
Right spoon is a I think it's a very simple contraption that I'm
sure you know, people have thought of for a very long time.
On one occasion, Harun Al Rashid was brought some food yourself
some food and he asked for he asked for the spoons in fact, he
had a very special spoon he used to eat with so your mom will use
of who was his chief vizier there as such, he is his coffee. He was
there he says.
My use of her neck you know of talking with him he says geography
deaf CD Chadic ignore Abbas ibn Abbas it's come in the Tafseer of
your grandfather ignore our bus because he was one of the buses
was in the Cody heater Allah Allah Khurana bunny, Adam, the ayah in
the Quran, we have honored the Children of Adam, right? Your
grandfather's tafsir about that verse, it says, what you're
another home ASABE it yet coluna beha that ignore bacilli alone
explained that one of the meanings is that we gave them fingers which
they could eat with. So he'd already called for the spoon. So
when the servants had brought the spoons in, he he refused to eat
with the spoons, he sent them back and he ate with his fingers.
That's what I have to say, I have to give this guy I have to give
this Khalifa some, some some credit for that. I mean, at that
position again, Central Asia, you know, whatever, right? You know,
no, he didn't refuse. He ate with his with his hands. Means despite
whatever else they used to do, I mean, they had some sense it
seems. Now there is a Hadith, which is related by Sir I don't
know monsoon in his collection. From ignorance you have that a
Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa salam can either color be Hamsun that
have always allowed some It's reported that he ate with five
fingers. So clearly, that has been mentioned as well. But that's not
a famous narration. It's probably something that obviously some did
wants to show that it's permissible not haram to do. The
products are awesome did that and at times, he did things like he
wore an expensive garment, or he bought an expensive garment, just
to show that it's permissible when the need arises. But then his
normal habit was different. There's also narrations which
indicate licking the plate,
not just the fingers, because how clean Are you going to get the
plate. So there's also about licking the plates, whether that
means licking the plate directly, or cleaning it up and then licking
the fingers. Now that would depend on where you are. So technically,
according to this narration of Imam Ahmed ignore humble and the
Masana and ignore merger and a number of others doubt me and
others it says Monica fee costs it. So Melissa is stuck for at
local Casa that whoever eats in a plate and then licks it, that
plate will seek forgiveness for it. Now this is definitely a weak
Hadith.
Then there's a number of others. Other generations there's lots of
narrations that are mentioned about eating it looks like a lot
of narrations were fabricated about that. So there are a number
have mentioned them and said that these are all fabricated
narrations. But this one is the one about licking is mentioned
through an Diouf narration so it's not fabricated. There's one which
is related in Bharani
that Malachi kossoff cipher, we're lucky got a Siberia who actually
bought a hula hoop for dunya Willa
era wherever licks the plates and his fingers, Allah subhanaw taala
will keep you keep him satiated in the world and in the hereafter.
It's a weak Hadith for sure. What I would suggest here is that you
don't do that in front of others or those that think you're greedy.
Right because the tradition is not the best to clean it with your
hands with your fingers and then lick your fingers. That's the way
to do it because
the next hadith is Hadith number 148. At least 148 is related from
Anasazi Allah one that a Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam.
Whenever either occurred to Ireland like a sobre el Silloth,
when he ate, then he would lick his three fingers. The next Hadith
that's we've already discussed that anyway, the next hadith is
from Abu Hanifa or the Allah one that Nabi sallallahu alayhi wa
sallam said, I'm gonna follow Coloma Tolkien, we've covered this
hadith before in the previous chapters. As far as I'm concerned,
I do not eat leaning, I do not lean and eat, I do not eat while
I'm leaning. So we've already mentioned that in detail. But the
main thing here is that for leaning, you'd probably have to
lean to one side or the other. And that doesn't put you in a natural
position. It kind of from a medical perspective as well, it
doesn't put the it doesn't allow the food to go in a natural way
because it's in one direction or the other, especially if you're to
the right or to the left. The next hadith is related from is is very
similar to the to the previous one that brought us a lot some did not
used to eat leaning, that is related from Ali YBNL Acoma.
The next hadith is related from garabed nomadic
that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa salam could will be asabi Third
Earth will occur when I used to eat with three fingers, and he
used to lick his three fingers. Some have taken this hadith to
mean were you a Kahuna, which means that he used to have
somebody else lick them. So what imagine Ashkelon he has mentioned
that the first one is taken as he used to lick them himself. But on
some occasions, he used to have somebody else which means his
wife, lick them, but he says that this was obviously for Baraka
reasons in that case. So it's an established practice that you can
have somebody else lick it, but you can't just get anybody to lick
it is going to have to be somebody that you're very close to, right,
which means the wife, the
maybe a child, right, your son, maybe your son or daughter. And so
that's not something you can do everywhere, but that is also
related.
That the next hadith is related from an iterated from Abu Salim
Musab Abdul Salam. He says I heard AnnaSophia Malik Radi Allahu Anhu
saying that once oto Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi salam be
tomorrow. Once the prophets Allah was brought some dates for a two
who yet could and I saw the robots I was eating these dates.
Okay, the main thing is to show the position the province of the
Lord son was in Wahoo mocha in mineral Jew, the province of
Allah, some are sitting in this car position due to hunger.
So he had no food very hungry. So he had been sitting in this way to
minimize the hunger and that way is essentially that kind of fetal
position with the legs upright, sitting on the bottom, the knees
upright and putting in the thighs close to the stomach. So it kind
of gives a kind of a weight on the stomach as such. So you're very
close together like that's a kind of maybe contracts the stomach as
well. So you don't feel as hungry but it says well we're making
mineral jus there was a lot more sitting like that due to hunger.
And then he was brought the dates and then he had some of the dates.
This hadith obviously shows and there's going to be more about
this in the in the chapter that we will be covering later. But this
obviously shows that the Prophet sallallahu Sallam had to obviously
undergo times when there was no food and take these kinds of
measures to to
tolerate the pangs of hunger as such to sit like that. May Allah
subhanahu wa taala give us the trophy to thank him for all that
He has given us and all the supplies that we abundantly have
in our house and the foods and the rations that we have in our house
and may Allah give us the Tofik to thank him constantly for that and
not to be wasteful and extravagant in those things. Kulu shabu wala
234 As Allah subhanho wa Taala says, Eat, drink, and do not
waste, eat, drink and do not waste. So part of that not wasting
is to make sure that everything is picked up and I think it's a
parent's responsibility that they teach their children, the manners
of eating to make sure that they don't take too much what happened
As with many parents, and other people as well, is that you put
too much food in somebody else's plate, kind of forcing them to eat
it. That's not a good thing. It's against the adverb of eating to
force people to eat too much. So even if somebody comes to your
house, unless you know that they are just exceptionally shy for
some reason, and they will not eat until you put them into pay, don't
put things in their pet, encourage them to eat. But it should not be
persistence. It should just be encouragement. You ask them once
or twice if they don't know Hamdulillah. If they're doing too
much, they can live and pretence will let them stay hungry then.
Right? Because why do you have to be forced to eat if you go to
somebody's house, sit and eat? Don't be greedy, don't like sit
and eat everything up. But at the same time, don't be Wait, don't
wait to be told to eat a bit more. That's why I'm no Hello. He says
he says something very beautiful. He says when you go to somebody's
house, if you eat as much as you normally eat well, then that's
fine. If you eat a bit more than you know, then it's good because
then your hosts will be happy about it. And if you eat even more
than that, then is greedy. So it's okay to eat a bit more than normal
just so that your horse feels that mashallah you've respected his
food and you like the food? Right? For one thing? It says that there
though, that don't eat less than you normally eat at home.
Right? Because he says that's the color, that's pretenses. Why would
you do that for your hungry, eat. That's what they've made the food
for. Unless there's very small amount of food, right? That's a
different story, then you can be considerate of others. But the
main thing he says when he talking about the other way of eating, he
says that, get yourself at home used to eating in a particular way
that's respectful, so that when you do go somewhere else, you can
sit and relax and eat and you won't be weird. You won't have to,
oh, I shouldn't touch my nose. I shouldn't shake my hands in the
bowl. I shouldn't do this. I shouldn't do that. Right? Because
if you're used to doing that at home, and you think it's okay, at
home, it's only your family. When you go somewhere else, then you're
gonna have to, you're not going to enjoy your food because you're
used to eating in this wild way. Right? In this undisciplined way.
So he says discipline yourself at home, so that when you go
somewhere, you can just eat normally, and enjoy it. Right? So
that's very important that we do these things that we think about
it. If we come from a culture where sometimes there's cultures
that don't have very disciplined way of eating because you know,
they either use whole fistfuls or they waste a lot of food I've seen
this myself in one one place I went to I was eating with the
Father and the Son and by the end mashallah we were eating from a
large bowl so that was a good thing we eating together with some
nice cobbly Polo but at the end of it, they probably had a heap of on
the Mr. Han on the cloth in front of them both of them, they they
probably had as much food that would fit in a plate right that
they dropped on the way
literally, right? Because they were just mashallah eating with
these big handfuls and they were dropping on the way but that's
fine that was big you know loads of basmati rice mashallah, you
know, and it's fine. We can just throw that away. So if I'm there,
I told him that I was invited to the house again, right? The next
year or something and I saw that Mashallah. They don't waste food
anymore. So it's something he just requires that's why one of the
adverb of admirable macrofauna here in La Mancha and this is
something we really need to understand one of the adverb of
telling somebody when they're doing something wrong first we
must educate them they might not know
we mustn't think well Jehan, you don't know you should know. Right?
Because we don't know many things as well. So instead of first
before going and telling them off that this is wrong haram say like
Brother Do you know that you know there's another been you know, we
shouldn't waste food and so on. Oh, I didn't know that. Okay,
fine.
should only get angry afterwards if you really have to if they just
don't listen or something but that's part of the job is to is to
tell them that this is not a good idea. But the main thing is don't
do it the color of it don't force people have food in your in your
plate. Right? That's not That's not nice. Just just go there and
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