Abdur Rahman ibn Yusuf Mangera – Reflections on Juz’ 2 and the Fiqh of Divorce
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hamdu Lillahi Rabbil Alameen wa salatu salam ala Nabi Ruthie
Rahmatullah Alameen WA. He or Safi or Baraka was seldom at the
Sleeman kathira. In Iommi, Dean and my birth
My dear brothers and sisters,
Allah subhanho wa Taala except this month of fasting.
So
today is the day for the second use of the, of the Quran the
second supper as they call it. And in the second Subhadra there's a
there's a
lot of very, very important things that have been mentioned for our
guidance, the surah the Surah Surah Al Baqarah. This is
the the largest surah in the Quran. So, certainly Bukhara spans
the whole of the second juice of the Quran as well.
So there's quite a few very prominent and pertinent verses in
here.
One of the first discussions that are taking place is the historical
discussion where the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam had
moved to Madina Munawwara
and they used to face in the direction of Mr. Luxor, Jerusalem.
But the prophet Sal also wanted to face towards GABA. While he was in
Makkah, he was able to do both because he was able to stand
behind the carbon face in the direction of Jerusalem, so he's
facing both. But now when you're in luck, when you're in Madina,
Munawwara they're on different sides, when itself Mackay south,
and Jerusalem is north. So you do one you can't do the other one. So
under laughter 1314 months, Allah subhanaw taala changed that. And
that's what's mentioned in here, now called NeuroTracker, Luba
wedge, he covers summer evil annually and Nikka, label it and
tada, so that you will see that in verse 144, and so on. So that
discussion is there. And thereafter that there's
Allah subhanaw taala reminds us that when they call the witch her
turn, who are more li her faster, be a cool Hyatts doesn't matter
which way you're facing. So the Yahoo, they were unhappy about
this step, the Prophet sallallahu Sallam the Muslims were no longer
facing towards the Jerusalem now. But the main thing is Allah
subhanho wa Taala is reminding us is that you should try to attain
good deeds, faster, be equal Hyatts you should be pushing
forward, to try to gain as many good deeds as possible. That's
really what's most important. And ultimately, ALLAH SubhanA wa Tada,
you're facing for the prayer because Allah subhanho wa Taala is
not in a particular location Anyway, whatever direction you're
facing, ultimately, not that we can face any direction, we have to
face the garba as much as possible, obviously. But it's that
kind of a discussion. Then Allah subhanho wa taala, again, tells us
in verse 152/5, Caroni, of Korakuen, wash Karauli while at
the Quran,
you remember me and I will remember you, and you thank me,
and don't be ungrateful. Now, that's quite amazing that
if somebody tells you, especially somebody who is way above us,
somebody who's really high above us, just for them to tell us like
let's just say that you've got somebody who you respect a lot, a
big scholar, a prominent individual, you respect a lot
you're there in these that you're either their student or their fan
or you really love their work or whatever, right? An influencer and
immediately say, You know what, I met you two years ago, I always
remember you, you're going to feel really chuffed. You're going to
really feel that why is he remembering me? He's got hundreds
1000s of people to remember. Now, Allah subhanho wa taala, who has
billions of people, and not just people but billions of mahalo
cards of creation. He's saying, I will remember you remember me now
remember you. So when you become an influencer, you receive a lot
of messages and so on. You can't really deal with everything. Most
of them they say they have somebody to, to read everybody's
messages and they might forward just a very relevant one or
important one, Allah subhanaw taala says, No, I will remember
you. First Caroni as critical.
In fact, in a hadith the prophet the Prophet saw some explained
about Allah subhanaw taala that Allah says that if you remember
me, I'm going to remember you. And if you remember me in any
gathering, I'll remember you in a gathering much better than your
gathering with the angels.
So all our job is to remember Allah subhanaw taala that's our
job is to remember Allah subhanaw taala and he's willing to give us
everything. He's willing us. He's willing to give us he just wants
us to make the first move.
So we do
That little bit Allah subhanho wa taala, saying, Remember me and
I'll remember you, and thank me be grateful to me just recognize
because thanking Allah, it relates to the core of our being the
reason we were created, why were human beings created so that Allah
subhanaw taala could be known. Allah is whatever he is from
before. He doesn't improve by us worshiping Him. He doesn't
enhance, he doesn't get any better. He doesn't grow and
develop. He is perfect. From before. from eternity, he's
perfect. But he wanted to be known, might say, Why does he want
to be known? Well, he wants to do what's up to you. You wanted to be
known, I want to be known. I'm going to create human beings to
know me.
Allah tells us ways to know Him. Remember me? And thank me because
everything you've got your existence and everything that
you've got is from me, so why do I don't you thank me? Why you being
so ungrateful. Gratitude is a law of this world. Everybody requires
gratitude.
Humans love it. Yeah, some people may be beyond that. And they're
like, they're completely selfless. They don't care. They do things.
But it's something that we need to do. Whether the person recognizes
it or doesn't want it or not, we need to do it but Allah wants it.
He says I want your sugar. Now because I need it because I want
you to be grateful. That's why saying wish cruelly well attack
for rune.
Be thankful to me and don't do cover. Now this is important to
understand the word Cofer means to cover something,
because he just got your banner. Right. But that can. That's a
cover. It means to deny something. When you deny something, it's like
you're covering over it, you're not interested in it.
So the worst cover is to deny Allah.
The Prophet sallallahu Sallam mentioned COFRA last year, he said
a lot of women, they are very ungrateful to their husbands. So
it's COFRA. And the word he uses the cuff wrong, because Quran
means that you will say to them, and this is an old women, but
there are women who do this, right, is that you've never done
anything for me.
When they get angry, that's what they say. Right? So again, that's
not every woman, but that's what they say. So the word is the
Schofer. I was once in New York. And there was a you know, one of
the messages I had a program there. So the other thing was this
baton guy from Pakistan. I think he's from Pakistan. So he made a
* really bought the Chi Chi bunny. He gave us a really,
you know, really nice tea. And then after I said up nev here and
why aren't you drinking? He said made which I need Beto Mehta
Czajka coffee room.
He had studied a bit so he understood Arabic so it's like
meadow Czajka coffee enema. Czajka in Garcha, Nivola map I need
people. I don't drink tea. Don't Don't you guys start saying that.
Right? Because people won't understand. Right? So basically is
trying to say that I reject tea. I don't I'm not a tea drinker. I'll
make it for you. But I don't drink teams itself. So I don't
appreciate tea. Right? I don't care for tea. as such. That's the
concept of Quran Allah subhanaw. Taala wants us to acknowledge him
and care for him. Care for him in the sense that we are considerate
of everything he's given us and what he does give us so he says,
wash Kuru, the water tech fortune. Then Allah subhanho wa Taala
follows that up immediately. How do you do this? Life is going to
be tough life is life is tough dive is not supposed to be easy.
If I ask you, is there anybody here who has never had a
difficulty in their life?
You know, besides the point of whether you can deal with it or
not, that's besides the point but who is it here that has never had
even a prick of a thorn? Never had anything go wrong?
It's a it's part of life. We just don't want it to happen all the
time. And every time you know, we want our life to be more stable.
Right? That's important but difficulties will happen and Allah
subhanaw taala has told us how to deal with difficulty so Allah
subhanaw taala says in the next verse he is which is 153 Yeah you
have Latina Stein you know this somebody was sada in Allah her
mouth sobbing in these are two things. Firstly, you have to have
patients are people who believe you need to seek assistance, seek
help from Allah. So first, Allah is telling us you need to seek
help.
We say this every single day multiple times a day then a Sirata
Longstocking, we say before the ear canal Buddha where iya kind of
staring. You we worship you we seek help from. So we say that we
say we seek help from Allah, but do we really seek help from Allah
we're constantly saying mult 70 Plenty. How many times a day we're
saying, you will see we You we worship and it's you that we seek
assistance from, but do we seek assistance from Allah?
I have seen it so many times. I have seen it so many times.
There's something difficult that's happening. Some work is not
getting done. And then you just remember man, why don't I ask
Allah? You did?
After your Namaaz you just asked Allah subhanaw taala yeah Allah
there is this issue please just help me. And suddenly the job just
opens up. It just suddenly opens up. Just two days ago it happened
with me. It was just something for two weeks just because I was sick
I wasn't feeling well so it just kept delayed. It just came getting
delayed. I just couldn't understand which way to go with it
could be that's what happens can be brushed on you, they can make
history ecomcrew If you know then it's easy, right? Sometimes you
just don't know what to do and how best to do it. So that day I got a
bit frustrated and then I thought frustration will take care of it
though. What's the benefit of frustration? So after Namaaz I
just frustration to Allah subhanho wa Taala he's the one to listen to
these things. He wants us to go to him. So we get frustrated. Yeah,
Allah this is something's happening with Ramadan is coming
around the corner. I need to get this done. Yeah, Allah opened it
up for me. Yeah, Allah show me the way and I'm not joking within an
hour Alhamdulillah I knew which way I had to go. Allah is there to
help. It's just that Allah says, you see exactly is do stubborn. So
there will be difficulty it doesn't come according to your
demands. Allah has the whole world to look after and what you might
be demanding today might encroach on somebody else's welfare. I want
this I want that I want that. I get a very simple example give you
right let's just say that on a you want a particularly as a certain
person setting a car
or a house, you want the house mashallah is really good. You want
it as well. And you want to not actually monitor you want it you
want it and you want to
and you're all making dua for it. You're all making dua for it,
telling me who should Allah give it to?
Where do you actually we have a vote
who do you think Allah should give it to him he mounts up or
committee member Are you still committee member? Okay. Who said
Allah give it to somebody is gonna say the one who makes the 100 and
makes most are they all doing that? They're all doing exactly
equal. Who should Allah give it to? What do you think we should
give it
somebody else why what's the what did they do wrong
Yeah, no, no, there's no option here.
The one who that but they all do exactly the same sugar as well.
But if you moms are getting might not be good for him.
He might get he wants it but it might not be good for him
in the future, in for other reasons, it might not be good for
him. He doesn't know that nobody knows that only Allah subhanaw
taala knows he juggles everything there is no juggling but he
coordinates everything. Because if he buys it let's just say that I
buy a new car.
Look at the reactions they will be one neighbor will say why did you
get a red one
right. Another one will say why did you get that model
third one will say
and why can I get one he gets it fourth one will say mashallah, I'm
so glad he needed a car for different reactions and there can
be so many more Allah Jagger's all of this and he decided was the
best we try our best we have to show Allah we want it but
ultimately then
Sobor Allah will Allah knows what's best because if I force
myself to get it but it's bad for me then it's not good for me Allah
wants good for us that if you move into this house there's some
issues here why Jannat Beto
there isn't but you know what I'm you know, there could be anything
the neighbors are bad or maybe something or maybe Allah wants to
give you a better house afterwards but you think this is the best
house so yeah you Halloween I'm gonna start you know with somebody
was salah, do suburb be patient asked to the best of your ability
as though Allah will give it to you. But then after I don't
complain and don't cry,
and be solid, so solid health solid has adds to the
spirituality, which gives insha Allah much better suburb and
patients for us to do this. In Allahu Masabi. Allah subhanaw
taala is with the patient ones. So ultimately you'll be patient, your
night will end and your day will come. Your nightmare will finish
and mashallah there will be a bright day afterwards.
Then Allah subhana wa Tada speaks about whether the coolamon yoke
the Louisa Billa, and words, those who pass away who die who are
being killed in the path of Allah subhanho wa Taala do not consider
them to be dead, meaning don't consider them to be your like your
normal dead. These are special dead people, meaning they've left
this world so that's how they've died. They've been killed. They've
been massacred. Genocide, but a year on end here on Enderby him,
but here what a killer Sharon. They absolutely alive according to
Allah subhanaw taala. You don't know. This gives so much comfort.
Otherwise, if we didn't have this, how would we deal with
major problems like this? How would we deal with major massacres
like that? If we didn't know that at least Okay.
It's difficult from a worldly perspective. But Allah subhanho wa
Taala is giving them something and they're getting out of the misery,
and they're going to a better place if we didn't have that
thought if they didn't otherwise, how come they have such resilience
to deal with it is because of our Islamic faith. Then Allah subhanho
wa Taala says, what a noble wonder kombucha immunol hope you will do
very well not because a minute and worry will unfussy with Thammarat
especially soybean, again, same theme that we're certainly going
to test you with some amount of fear, some amount of hunger, some
decrease in your wealth, decrease in your knifes decrease in your
plants in your fruit, in in your vegetation. And as all of that is
happening,
all of that is happening. There's a fear, constant fear, there's
hunger, there's a decrease in their wealth, their properties are
being absolutely blown up right there knifes the people that are
losing whole whole entire families and, and tribes and Thammarat and
all of your crops and vegetation. But what I share is Siberia, this
still something to come out at the end of that what else is there if
you lose all of this you lose your children, you lose your your
wealth, you lose your income, you lose your crops, you lose
everything was kebaya what is left over she does so very
well, but she does so otherwise what can keep somebody going like
this give glad tidings to the patient ones.
A Latina Eva Asaba Tomas Evo and we'll see what comes to them. They
just say in law, he were in LA heraion We've lost all of this.
Where we also belong to Allah just like that was property of Allah
we're also property of Allah, that's gone we could be go and
we're gonna go we have to go to Allah subhanho wa Taala as well.
What difference is well is going to come to an end. It's just
partial and right now we're going to come to an end. But then Allah
promises them Allah, Allah him Salah to me, Robbie him Rama.
These are the people upon whom there is blessing from Allah.
Say, where's the blessing I want I want goods.
I want wealth. That's not the blessing. That's just the means to
get us through this world in a comfortable way. Allah says we're
gonna give you blessings
and mercy. These are the people who are guided, because they know
what to do. The reason they guided is because they know what to do,
right. So, thereafter that this lot of other verses Allah subhanaw
taala then discusses regarding
regarding the heavens and the earth and Allah subhanaw taala has
major signs. Now another thing that I want to focus on today is
towards the end of the juice, which there's just too many
confusions about it is the concept of Talaq in Islam. Just today, I
got a question of a person, he says that I fantasize a lot. So
today, I was just fantasizing that my wife was doing X, Y, and Zed.
So then I said, I divorced you.
I said, I divorced you and get out of here. Is that a divorce or no?
I said, Well, the first one is definitely a divorce. Right? It's
definitely the way it goes. But doesn't divorce have to be three
times.
I said,
Is Allah Allah's words are not efficient enough? That if you say
once, say Kushner, Yoda, and you have to say three times, where do
you get this fallacy from? This is a major problem with a lot of
people. They think that divorce has to be done three times for it
to occur once, which is a big lie. It's a big misunderstanding. One
divorce is effective, your wife will be divorced by one with two
she'll be twice divorce. With three she'll be thrice divorce and
then after that, she can't even come back to you anymore. At least
after one you can reconcile of the two you can reconcile but after
the third one she has to marry somebody else then she might
become halal for you if she gets divorced from but everybody they
think But anyway, this is coming from which shaytan is telling them
this. It's a major problem they just give three divorces when they
get angry and then it causes a problem. So let us look at what
Allah subhanaw taala is saying, which is very, very important. So
Allah subhanaw taala first
discusses
that divorced women they need to have three menstrual periods with
the usually three months, three bleeding periods for the Edit to
finish before she's can marry somebody else. And then Allah
subhanaw taala says Tala Kumar return, you can give divorce up to
two times in the sense that you can give us you can provide a
divorce up to two times one, two, I divorce you.
I divorce you. There's no need to give to at once. It's just silly
one does the job by giving to the only thing you want to do is
you're disappointing your chances. Understand divorce as understand
divorce as you have
Three shots from a gun.
Now, if one bullet is going to knock the person off, then why use
two?
Why would you use two because you're angry, or you're crazy.
But it's called teeny legato you know, I'm going to knock him out.
What happens if there's another enemy then comes, that's not going
to happen in divorce but in the sense that at least if you give
one they can reconcile.
You can get back together again.
After two, you can get back together again, a taller kumara
tun Talak can be given up to twice, but after each one, so
usually you give one and then see how it goes. If you can't
reconcile, let her go, it'll be done finished, you can marry
somebody else she can marry somebody else. You don't have to
give three for her to become free from you, or for you to become
free. One is enough, it does the job. Three is just a number. It's
just the third option. That's all it is otherwise exactly the same.
So Allah says the luck is given twice, up to the up to the second
time for him Sercombe ma roofing OTA, three home BSN.
Then either keep your wife properly, with good conventional
kindness, look after her and do don't mess around with her because
what some people used to do, they used to give one divorce. Now she
goes in her in that three months, right? And just before the three
months are up just before her third menstruation, he takes it
back. Because it was a revocable divorce. He said, I divorced you.
So within with revocable divorces, you can take your wife back by
just saying I take you back. So he makes us suffer for three months.
And then he takes her back. And then he gives her another divorce.
And he puts her into it that again for three months.
It's just persecution. A lot of men do this. By the way. They do
this when they do other crazy things. The Nikka is completely
broken. They've been separate for two years or three years and he's
still not willing to give a divorce out of stubbornness and
arrogance. So why not? I don't want to say the wrong word.
The lock is haram is bad it's not haram it's actually halal. But the
luck is very very bad. So I don't want to say it. So how she would
your your relationship is finished. Oh, she can go and get
hola makes her pay to go to one of these sharia councils who take
another 3456 months and it's just useless. You're being volume now.
When the masala gets finished, there's just a hadith here the
other day, which is that a person beat his wife up. So the Prophet
salallahu Alaihe Salam gave him suggestion that look, just take
back whatever, whatever, Maha etc you're given. And just divorce he
says, okay, okay, fine. Finish. So the Prophet saw some have
suggested that people separate people separate. And these people
they say, No, I can never do that. They just persecuting the women.
They're just punishing them. They're not letting them go. Which
is very, very, very wrong. And they being sinful every day that
they do this. Right. So
that's why Allah subhanaw taala says either taken aback properly
and look after them properly, treat them well. Oh, the city home
BSN, or release them a son with excellence. Do it nicely so that
there's no hard feeling Why do you want hard feelings for?
Why do you want to create another heart feeling for that's why my
suggestion also is that you know, those the younger people who are
looking for who are looking for a spouse, and the older people who
are looking for their children don't go around looking at don't
go around meeting many, like if it's the brothers don't go around
and meeting many, many sisters.
So you meet them, then you find out something that you could have
found out from before and then you say no, you're just breaking your
heart.
And then you go and see the next one, you break her heart and then
you break out and she's breaking your heart maybe
the way to do it is that this works by the way, I've tested this
and many times Alhamdulillah it works is if you find somebody that
you're interested in marry
then find out everything about them that you can through other
sources, about their family, about their behavior, about whatever you
need to know from the relatives from close people, right? Try to
find out
and if everything checks out and you mashallah, it seems good then
go to meet her.
Then go to meet the person. And and hamdulillah that's the if it
all goes well Bismillah
what people do they do it the other way around. Oh, there's a
girl down there. Gone. Let's go and see her. You saw her she looks
decent. Everything you got her hopes high. Right? And she got
your hopes high maybe and then you find out something afterwards. You
could have found out from before and you say no how do they feel?
How would you feel? How many rejections Are you gonna get?
That's why the way I'm telling you you won't you won't get a
rejection. Inshallah.
Why do you have to have C seven, seven spouse or seven potentials
before you get one?
This is
is the way to do it, find out everything you can then go to see
Al Hamdulillah. It works very well. Well. So out the city,
homebaked, Hassan, because you're going to see seven, you said no to
all of them, there's going to be something in the heart. And that's
the way the community messes up. He rejected us. She rejected us.
That family rejected us. In some places, the culture is so weird.
There's one village that somebody told me that if somebody wants to
come to see your daughter, you can't say no, that's very bad.
Right? Your village? You can't say no. Right? And I don't know if
that's across the board. But that's not one of them told me,
right? So he said, you can't say no. So what they do is they let
them come. And then their response is going to be dictated by what
you serve them.
I forgot what it was exactly. But if you serve them just like a
normal RESNA drink, you know, like the dilute drink, then that means
we're not interested. Why didn't you just say no? You have to Gula
you know, so they can't say no. So they give them that and if it's
proper, then it gives freedom good falooda or tea or something like
that, then that means we're interested as well which is a
weird thing.
Just say yes or no, just be clear about it.
So Talaq is up to two times then you need to be very clear. Do you
want to keep her or do you want to release her? Release her
excellently or keep her well? Whatever it is, well I hate Lulu
come into Halloween Madam Chair. Allah Ya Allah up Muhammad Allah
for in crypto Allah yo Kima hoodoo de la Vela Jana Halima female.
Now there will be cases where the husband for some reason wants to
keep her he wants to make it work but she doesn't
write in his way whether it's a twisted way or proper way he
thinks chill though. You know in whatever the situation sometimes
that's what happens. Right? But she can't she's not compatible. Or
there's some other issue she can't. So Allah has given away
that okay, do feeder which basically may give give an
explanation, which is what we call Hola. Like say, I'll give you your
Mahara back or I'll give you this much money or whatever, and just
release me. So there's nothing wrong if they do that. These are
the boundaries of Allah. Remember, these are the rules of Allah.
Don't go beyond them. Because anybody who does that is
oppressive. For example, via the moon, when he attacked the hood
Allah for Allah eco from authority, the moon. Then Allah
says, let's just say that after two divorces, you reconciled
again.
There's no discussion in the whole Quran about you knocking out three
divorces at once.
That in the Hadith has been condemned. It's sinful to do that.
It's a divorce. It is three divorces. But it is sinful to do
that. Right? So I don't know where this culture comes from. It's just
completely wrong. Now Allah says for in Toluca after the second
time if he divorces her one small fella Hey, Lulu, who imbibed who
had that and he has originally and then she is no longer halal for
him until she marries somebody else. She marries another husband.
She marries another husband, she doesn't become halal for him.
She's married to somebody else. Right. Then Allah says for in
Tahlequah, now if that second husband divorces her for whatever
reason, right? divorces her father, Gina It Hema and Yatta.
Raja in one an up man who do the law, then there's nothing wrong
with the first husband re proposing to her and marrying her
again, as long as they think that they're not going to go against
the
the limits of Allah again. If he's got a problem a beating up, if
he's got a problem of being stingy, if he's got a problem of
just bad behavior, well sorted out,
sorted out if she's got a problem sorted out, get help.
There's a lot of consultation you can do to get help to get anger
problems sorted out sensitivity issues sorted out. Otherwise,
you're not going to be able to maintain the boundaries of Allah
again. So what's the point of that? The Quran is very clear
about this.
What tilaka who do doula Ubu Ha, they call me alone. These are the
boundaries of Allah that Allah makes very clear for those people
who know. So
that's the Quranic method of divorce, you either divorce once,
or then you take it back another time. Third time, you have to
think what's going to happen now, somebody is divorcing three times
at once. There is no time to think
there is a point of no return. Also, another thing I want to make
very, very clear, is that recently, there's a I've had two
or three questions like this when a woman does get a holler right
from either a Sharia
a Sharia Council, or between husband and wife
there is a
there is a Hadith which only one opinion of Imam Muhammad even
humble supports only one opinion the other opinion doesn't support
it is that in a hula in a hula situation where the woman pays for
her divorce, pays to get a divorce, right?
When he pays for a divorce, that is that is only one month and not
three months. That's one opinion.
This is a very, very weak opinion. It is not accepted by the majority
the older mother him and the Sahaba etc. They said as Allah
mentions the edit of a woman is three ministrations three months
three ministrations
literally a woman called the other day,
actually her friend called first and she had found out this
massage. She wanted to confirm I said, Yes, you're right.
She got finally a whole lot from her husband, just less than a
month ago.
And it's going to be a month this weekend. And she's got a new Nikka
plan for this week, this Saturday. So, as I look,
you can tell me whatever you want, but whoever's told you is wrong.
This is not the Hanafy view is not the Shafi view is not the Maliki
view. And it is not the stronger humbly view. It is ignore him and
ignore me as view. Unfortunately, there are good scholars, but they
have these views that go against everybody else. And today, there's
people who pick that up and against the whole majority. Right.
So some Mufti some Sheikh, somewhere has given her that
fatwa. I'm saying, Look, you're Nikka is going to be Zina.
According to the majority. How do you feel about that? Oh, but it's
already fixed. I said, Look, just wait suburban law two months.
So I just want to make it very clear that it that all it that is
minimum three months, for any free woman, and that is three months.
And for a woman who has been has died, then hers is four months and
10 days, there is no one month it that, according to the format has
the dominant view and a strongest view, that is a very, very minor
view, and you're going to be in Zina, according to everybody else.
So I just wanted to clarify that. So that is, there's a lot more,
there's a lot more discussions about this. There's a lot more
guidance around these around these verses. Mashallah. There's so many
verses regarding the Holter lag issue. You should you should look
at this from verse 229, before and after it 229 So that we can get a
better understanding. So people stop giving the wrong kind of
divorces. I've actually covered this fully in detail in my
marriage book, I cover divorce. In a marriage book, I cover divorce,
because I think it's important, right? When you learn how to
drive, there are penalties that if you do this wrong, this will
happen. A lot of people don't cover divorce myself. That's why
there's so much ignorance about it. Right. So get yourself abreast
of the divorce. But I've mentioned the basics today. May Allah
subhanaw taala prevent the divorces protect us from the
divorces, especially those? Yes, those where the divorce has to
happen. No problem. The way it doesn't have to happen. It's just
the problem. Allah subhanaw taala protect us. We're here with that
Werner annual hamdu Lillahi Rabbil Alameen. Is there any questions on
any of this? Yes. Right. So let's just say somebody did an ICA in
the masjid. So alhamdulillah Islamically, they're married, then
in order to be secure, and for other certain benefits, right,
they get a civil marriage done as well in the courts. So that's a
separate system. So these are two separate systems completely said
that's a very secular, it's not even Christian is it's a secular
system. Now, in that one, if somebody did not do an ICA, and in
that one, the wording is different. But if that word, if
the wording in there would fulfill the criteria of Annika with two
witnesses, then that could become an ICA depending on the wording
even without a football, right. However, the main point about this
now is that if then they get a divorce, a civil divorce and not a
surety divorce.
Now, there are two views among the orlimar about this. One group of
orlimar they say that if the man is the one who asked for the civil
divorce, who petitioned for the civil divorce
in the courts, after he got married, he's the one who did it
for whatever reason.
Then according to them, this will be an Islamic divorce as well.
Because they they probably just divide by maybe the words he says
or whatever the case.
I don't follow that view, my view and many other ordermark their
view is that they both separate things. You could be single
divorced, but not shut a divorce because the shutdown divorce, you
have to give yourself in a civil divorce who, who's giving you a
divorce. Nobody can give you a shot at divorce, even though it
can't give you a shot at Bacardi
Nobody breaks the marriage.
Right. And here you're asking the judge, to dis dissolve your
marriage and give you a decree, you know, the final decree, that's
a separate system. And if the wife is the one whose Petition for
Divorce, then most scholars agree that that is not going to be an
Islamic divorce because the husband's not even saying
anything. And the court will give it after certain procedures, they
will just give it to her. They're both separate separate systems.
And that's what it is. However, if you do divorce your wife, meaning
civil, or Nikka wise, then you should do the other one so that
it's all finished. Right? It's all finished. These divorce. These
divorce the very these divorce rules, the civil divorce was a
very archaic, even a marriage rules are very archaic. Right.
It's like they've got a bit from Christianity. It's a bit
secularized and just so confusing and so complicated that it just
makes life more difficult, right for people. But according to me
anyway, they're two separate things.
Okay, so the question is that when he said that I, I don't I? I will
lie. I don't want Wallahi I don't want a wife like you is not a
divorce by default.
Right? That's just the
desire. If his intention was divorced with that, it will be a
divorce. It could be a divorce, because I had no intention and
that is not a divorce. And her running away and marrying somebody
else is incorrect. He's still married, she's still married to
him.
It will make a difference. Witnesses are now necessary
anyway, even if she had witnesses because it's not a divorce, even
if you had 10 witnesses is not a divorce anyway, because he had no
intention for divorce. Without witness, of course you can. You
can divorce without your wife being there. If somebody in an
empty room just says I divorced you to his wife, and she's not
there even to hear nobody's there but you say it verbally so
divorce. Don't mess around with this word. Decree. Mirza Kichi is
near. It's not something to mess around with.
Right? He's not something to mess around with. Literally if you're
alone in a room and you just said
the lock
into his wife like he decided to lock to his wife or I divorced my
wife. It will be a divorce. Nobody here to hear only Yes, he said in
his mind. Then that's that's not a divorce. But when you say in your
mind, in your mind, it'll eventually come out. Okay Brothers
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You don't have to leave lectures behind you can continue to live,
you know to listen to lectures, but you need to have this more
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